Avery, I was very moved by your film. As an adult adoptee who spent years searching for her birthparents, I so identified with your struggles, particularly the ups and down that accompany such a search for one's roots. "Why haven't I heard from her? What does this mean? Is there anyone else in the world I look like?" It's like trying to fill in the holes of our swiss-cheese like identity. I hope that, when you're ready, you will continue your pursuit. You are an amazing & brave young woman.
@fight2Bfree Are you adopted yourself? If you're not, I can see how you may not quite understand her intentions with wanting to meet her birth mother. Not all biological parents are "worthless scum." For many adoptees, just "forgetting about" our birth parents is like trying to deny a part of ourselves. We're constantly reminded of our biological parents whenever we look into a mirror. It's not just something you can just dismiss. I hope you understand.
@asian897 maybe you missed the part in the full episode where Avery found her biological mother, exchanged some letters, and was making plans to meet in person when her birth mother stopped communicating with her. Did you miss that part? I dont know of anything more cruel that a birth parent could do to a child than refuse to meet them just to say hello. Yes, not all birth parents are "worthless scum' but some ARE!!!
Of course I know that there are many birth parents that really suck and are failures as parents. I'm not that unaware. I'm just responding to your view that adoptees should just forget about their original parents completely. I guess some adoptees are able to do that, but many just can't. It's like trying to deny a part of their identity. It's not just something one can just dismiss.
@asian897 Ofcourse i understand the need to seek your cultural identity. But you cant take my comments out of context and apply them to everyone. I would never tell all adopted children to never seek their birth parents or try to connect with the original culture. My comments were directed at Avery and her reaction to being rejected by her birth parent. She has more love and support from her adoptive parents than most kids get from their birth parents. Thats all i was saying...
@fight2Bfree Oh my bad. Maybe I misunderstood. The thing that's hard with comments on youtube is that when you can't see the person your replying to, often times there's a lot of misunderstanding. Sometimes I misread comments.
@fight2Bfree I'm a transracial(Asian) adoptee and my adoptive parents are white. By just forgetting my original parents, I would be not acknowledging this huge part of my identity. Being Asian. My original parents are the reason that I'm Asian. When I look into a mirror, I don't see a Caucasian face, I see an Asian one. And I always become aware of being adopted and that I have a set of parents out there who are Asian as well.
Great documentary. And she is so hot!
eschiff 9 months ago
Puerto Rican is NOT a race
chsn09 1 year ago
Deep.
TheChocolateOlive 1 year ago
Avery, I was very moved by your film. As an adult adoptee who spent years searching for her birthparents, I so identified with your struggles, particularly the ups and down that accompany such a search for one's roots. "Why haven't I heard from her? What does this mean? Is there anyone else in the world I look like?" It's like trying to fill in the holes of our swiss-cheese like identity. I hope that, when you're ready, you will continue your pursuit. You are an amazing & brave young woman.
shybladder 1 year ago
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fight2Bfree 1 year ago
@fight2Bfree You are a disgusting person.
victoriabeckfinat228 1 year ago
@fight2Bfree Are you adopted yourself? If you're not, I can see how you may not quite understand her intentions with wanting to meet her birth mother. Not all biological parents are "worthless scum." For many adoptees, just "forgetting about" our birth parents is like trying to deny a part of ourselves. We're constantly reminded of our biological parents whenever we look into a mirror. It's not just something you can just dismiss. I hope you understand.
asian897 9 months ago
@asian897 maybe you missed the part in the full episode where Avery found her biological mother, exchanged some letters, and was making plans to meet in person when her birth mother stopped communicating with her. Did you miss that part? I dont know of anything more cruel that a birth parent could do to a child than refuse to meet them just to say hello. Yes, not all birth parents are "worthless scum' but some ARE!!!
fight2Bfree 9 months ago
@fight2Bfree I didn't miss that part.
Of course I know that there are many birth parents that really suck and are failures as parents. I'm not that unaware. I'm just responding to your view that adoptees should just forget about their original parents completely. I guess some adoptees are able to do that, but many just can't. It's like trying to deny a part of their identity. It's not just something one can just dismiss.
asian897 9 months ago
@asian897 Ofcourse i understand the need to seek your cultural identity. But you cant take my comments out of context and apply them to everyone. I would never tell all adopted children to never seek their birth parents or try to connect with the original culture. My comments were directed at Avery and her reaction to being rejected by her birth parent. She has more love and support from her adoptive parents than most kids get from their birth parents. Thats all i was saying...
fight2Bfree 9 months ago
@fight2Bfree Oh my bad. Maybe I misunderstood. The thing that's hard with comments on youtube is that when you can't see the person your replying to, often times there's a lot of misunderstanding. Sometimes I misread comments.
asian897 9 months ago
@fight2Bfree I'm a transracial(Asian) adoptee and my adoptive parents are white. By just forgetting my original parents, I would be not acknowledging this huge part of my identity. Being Asian. My original parents are the reason that I'm Asian. When I look into a mirror, I don't see a Caucasian face, I see an Asian one. And I always become aware of being adopted and that I have a set of parents out there who are Asian as well.
Hope I'm making sense...
asian897 9 months ago
Hope you are doing good at school. You have got a great family.
4vermont 1 year ago
holy crap
dumbnetworks 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
what a fucked up life
ColdGripHandle 1 year ago
@ColdGripHandle How is it fucked up. Yeah her life has many complications, but I don't think it's fucked up.
asian897 9 months ago
@asian897 With her life wrong is as good as right so thats fucked up
ColdGripHandle 9 months ago
this looks WONDERFUL!
ho2cultcha 1 year ago
wow amazing lol
lucirz 1 year ago
can't wait to see this.
beccahday 1 year ago