Also if your a TRUE christian you know not to be unequally yoked. Dont marry ANYONE who isnt a christian, they could lead you right back into sin. And God said dont do it....So.......DONT
if you are following the lord i know he will put the right person in your life our goal is to give him glory and do his will not our own ask for his will and the lord will lead you if thats his will for your life
I really don't believe that God "tells us" who we are going to marry.. That would mean He isn't giving us free will. In truth, He lets us choose.. He can bring someone into our life for us, but He would never force us to choose a certain person.
I find in my experience that Christian women are the hardest to date. They are just so picky about everything are aren't willing to give a guy a chance at least in the Midwest. Most people in the Midwest are married by 25. If not, your chances are very low and the competition increases.
I don't believe "dating" is a biblical concept. Therefore Christians shouldn't "DATE". I didn't hear much Biblical wisdom in your questions, I just heard a lot of worldly advice and issues. Are you sure you are a Christian?
dating didnt exist in "ancient" times lol not even the word "DATING" existed, no such word in the bible. Its a new era different generation & it all depends what you mean by dating........ because theres nothing wrong with getting to know a person? if thats a sin then please point that out for me in the bible
page#31 as a singled christian man, ( although i don't practice my faith, like i should ).
i am not ashame to say, i have my battle with sin as a whole. but, it doesn't mean i am alone. there are many others like myself.
i went to the church i grew up in ( MAN, IT'S BEEN SOME YEARS ) last night. i had to settle some things in my life. it was the second week, of the program for addictions. i was there years ago, right before they started it.
page#30 there will be a sad day in heaven. when the eyes of the lord shall, look down upon you. when you look him in the eyes, and confess of your doings upon the earth.
you can't hide, you can't lie, you can't have no legitimate reason, on why you can't
give god an explanation. this will expose all the christians in the world. especially, those who profess in the name of jesus. this is an area that, alot of christians need to be aware of. THE WORLD IS WATCHING YOU. ALL THAT YOU DO.
page#29 there are fake christians. they say they love the lord and pray for others. but, your actions stand out.
immature christians, are those who, who really haven't settle peace with god. they tend to backstab others. for whatever reason, they have to settle score with someone. out of spitefulness.
god is a jealous god, and a loving god too. he doesn't want no one else, coming before him. NEVER.
page#28 imagine. all the bad/wrong things you did. things you would never tell anyone. not even a close friend or relative. or things that can put you in JAIL. all that expose TO THE ENTIRE WORLD TO SEE. you would be very embarrass wouldn't you.
from the time you were small, to the time you were to die. ALL WILL SEE THAT.
god knows every hair on your head. long before you were born. god knows, EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING, LONG BEFORE YOU EVEN KNOW OF DOING IT YOURSELF.
page#27 no matter what you say or did, all will be revealed before god and the world. people will be embarassed at their sins. there is a company called
CHICK PUBLICATIONS. they put out these animated tracks of various types. ( look on their website to get a better idea ). anyway, it deals with certain topics that mankind may deal or have to deal with in life.
these tracks, give you an insight of how wrong it is against god. ther'e one even on THE PLAN OF SALVATION.
page#26 jesus said, " HE WHO HAS NOT SIN, SHALL CAST THE FIRST STONE ".
you have christians, who walk around with the lable christian on them. ( not physically )
but mentally. WHY ?. your faith and works shall speak for you. sharing the gospel with all gods creatures great and small.
another thing alot of christians don't do. WHY ?. you see, we all will be judged according to our works. this will be on judgement day. anything you have ever done, whether it be in the light, or darkness.
not sure of what your saying. but, there a lot of fake christians out here. on one hand, they can " WALK the WALK. so few can, TALK the TALK. this was preaced last night in my church. i went there to take care, of a little problem i have.
as i said, anyone can carry a bible. how many actually read it. another thing, CHRISTIANS are suppose to pray FOR EVERYBODY. EVEN THEMSELVES OF COURSE. LOVE YOUR ENEMIES, AS GOD LOVES YOU.
page#24 CHRISTIANS !!. WHERE ARE YOU WITH GOD ?. WHERE DO YOU STAND WITH GOD ?. WHERE DOES YOUR MATE, STAND WITH GOD ?. THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER WHEN DATING ?.
YOU MUST SHOW, SHARE, & LEAD THAT PERSON TO THE LIGHT. OR, YOU WILL BE BROUGHT DOWN. ONE WILL HAVE HEAVEN, THE OTHER
COMPLETE TOTAL DAMNATION. NO SECOND CHANCES. NO TURNING BACK
THE HANDS OF TIME.
I MAY HAVE " BACK SLIDDEN " BUT, I STILL KNOW SOME OF GODS WORDS TO THIS VERY DAY.
page#23 the world is filled with false prophets, false predictions, & false hope's in going to heaven. but the bible is CLEAR, CUT, AND DRY. IT'S THE TRUE WORD OF GOD AND SALVATION.
no man/woman/child, is guaranteed the kingdom of heaven, unless there are saved by the blood of jesus christ. his almighty word says so.
there is no other way. i may be off subject. i don't w3ant to sound like a hyprocrite. but, what i say is true.
page#22 the bible is clear, cut, & dry. it's laid out how, we are suppose to live on a daily basis. regardless who you are and where you come from. NO MAN, IS EXEMPT FROM THE BILBE. NOT AT ALL. jesus gave you the choice. TO ACCPET HIM OR NOT TO ACCEPT HIM.
MANY PEOPLE, BELIEVE THAT, IF THEY BELIEVE IN GOD, THEN THERE OK AND GOING TO HEAVEN. !! WRONG !!. there will be many christians who will PERISH IN THE LAKE OF FIRE. FOREVER. THEY DON'T HAVE
page#21 as i said, anyone can cause themself a christian. a true christian, canshare their faith and their level of knowledge of the bible. you can't serve god with out reading the bok, and wothout worshipping in the house of the lord, with other fellow chrisians.
it's not going to happen. too many doorways to DECEPTION & LIES.
YOU CAN'T SAY, I WORSHIP/BELIEVE INGOD, BUT DON'T BELIEVE IN RELIGION. IN WON'T WORK.
that's like saying : i believe in water, but it's not wet.
page#20 this hard, for any woman to do. whether your of faith or not. women, want to be the PURSUER. NOT PURSUEE. christian women, get mad and blame god, why they don't have the husband of their choice. simple. YOU DISOBEYED GODS COMMAND.
HE COMES TO YOU. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. ANOTHER ONE IS, " GOD SEND ME A MAN ". this gets women into trouble. NOT FINDING OUT, WHERE THE GUY IS " FAITHFULLY ". anyone can quote scriptures. but, how many can abide by them and follow them too. MAKES SENSE.
page#19 no offense. but, women have their own general idea, of what they want their man to be like or a christian man to be as a whole. this is how, women ( and men ), get themselves in trouble. remember, satan can imitate ANYTHING that can do, and say it was fom god. A BOLD FACE LIE. DON'T GET SUCKED INTO THIS.
man, comes to the woman. the woman as well as a man, must pray for a god fearing woman. a woman, who is submissive ( obeys ) gods every word and command. ( in the bible ).
page#18 always safeguard your heart. meaning, the devil will tempt you. he will put things in your face. something sexual and explicit. to cause you to be in awe over it. a man/woman who looks very sexy/sexual in nature. whether it be in clothe's, billboards, advertisements, store displays, movies, t.v.'s, magazines, commercials, and more.
to be tempted of the flesh. god brings the man to the woman. NOT, WOMAN TO MAN. this is a very big lie. it's been created by SATAN.
page#17 carrying and not reading ( the good book ) the bible, is not a good thing. you may be called upon to answer a question unexpectedly. if you can't answer or show them, you will look like a fool. you don't have to know the bible from end to end.
but, just knowing a little goes a long way, in dating and responding to a question being thrown at you, about the bible. this a must, for those who thinks, they can know
page#16 buy tapes, for yourself to help you improve in to being a godly man.
go to a local christian bookstore, and buy one on christian dating, and to be a servant of god. this will show her, that you could be the one she's looking for. but, in some cases, that's not always the case. i have seen, my friends get into dating, courtship, and kaboom !!.
fall out of that courtship for personal unknown easons. it is good to be scripturally fed too. not just to be carrying the good book.
page#15 open all doors, regardless what kind of door they are for her. help her, ( if she wants you to ) with her coat on/off. pull the chair out for her, and push it up uder at the table. always stand, if she pardons herself to/from the ladies room. have a clean ride.
inside/out. it will let her know, the type of person you are behind clothe's doors.
play some christian music. not to mellow/hard. STEVE GREEN, SANDIE PATTY, BRYAN DUNCAN, MICHAEL W. SMITH, AMY GRANT, TWILA PARIS & MORE.
pager#14 avoid kissing too. you don't want to push things, then later on regretting it. look for something you both enjoy. something neutural. ( NO VIDEO GAMES GUYS ).
take her to a play, a descent movie ( no shoot them up or slasher movies )
something like a drama/mystery movie. or, a carnival in town. you can try the museums, car shows too. anything to make it exciting/fun for the both.
say a prayer for a safe to/return from your outing. always show a gentlemen's attitude.
page#13 to say this, you really need to know yourself, as well as the other person. what are their intensions from the beginning. look at your conversations with them, and what do they be centered around on. if you can handle in being alone, ( not alone alone ) but,
hanging out in public with others around, then go for it. if your worried about being tempted,then ask some friends to go with you. to lighten things up. avoid holding hands. don't make the other uncomfortable.
page#12 going out in a group will help ease things a whole lot. it won't cause the other to be uncomfortable and do something against god's will. not to sound like a hyprocrite, i have gone out with a woman ( very very rare ) in a one-on-one situation. it's all about maintaining self control.
the young lady i use to hang out with, is a co-worker and long time friend. i knew her for about 11 years. we will go to the batting cage, go bowling, and do something fun with her teen daughter.
page#11 this will keep both of you in check. men/women, have those ' FLESHLY ' desires. it's the flesh of the body, that does this to us. but, with poer and prayer, you can overcome this. never try to put yourself alone with that person. you have no idea where their true feelings lay.
you don't want to cause temptation in the other. you don't want to dress too sexy or revealing either. modest is good enough. don't wear seductive perfume either.
page#10 the biggest, or one of the biggest cause in failed marriage. FINANCES. your finances ABSOLUTELY MUST BE IN ORDER, TO TRY TO LIVE COMFORTABLY. how well do you manage your money. the difference between a want & a need. you should know the diffrence. i may be off the subject here. but, here me out.
when dating, always try to put yourself, ( women mostly ) in an environement that,
you feel safe. meaning, a place of public. where's there are alot of people around. like a restaurant.
page#9 there is no perfect marriage. never will. in a relationship, your going to make mistakes, your going to argue, your going to have disagreements, your going to yell. all usual for the making of a life together. marriage counseling, is a MUST IN THIS. this will bring out everything you thought you know already and more.
they will see how you do in COMMUNICATING, LISTENING, AND FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER. if you don't learn these principles, you will fail. another part is
page#8 the bible clearly says, to correct your child to obey mother/father. so his days, may be longer upon the earth. if two christians, who are of same faith, and have the same values', they can make a long and happy life together. but, if you are of two different faith's, that can spell disaster.
there will be conflicts on beliefs it self. all this ties into dating. it's also where do you stand within your faith. you can't be a fence rider. your all the way in, or all the way out.
page#7 the woman, is there to support her man. not take control of the throttle. if she does this, she's out of place. god, will look down on her for doing do. ( in the bible ).
the family is based around scriptures. these laws are to be abide by what god has in place.
when a child is wrong or disrespectful, it's up to the parents to REAR THE CHILD.
meaning, to spank the child into discipline. failure to do so, is going against god's command. ( spare the rod, spoil the child ). the book.
page#6 here is how it works. GOD, COMES FIRST IN EVERYTHING YOU DO. EVEN BEFORE YOUR MATE ITSELF. ( YES, THAT'S HOW IT WORKS ). NEXT, COMES YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND, THIRD, YOUR FAMILY.
the man is head of the household. ( look in the bible ) this is a strugle for all women.
the man is in a leadership position. he's the provider/structure of the family. he provides the foundation. the wife, is his ( helpmate ) in the bible. she is submissive to him. ( in the bible ). NOT LIKE A SLAVE YOU THINK.
page#5 christians need to pray not only for themselves, but, for all others too. christians need to pray for others looking for the same. A MATE. people put themselves in hot water on this subject. if you want god to send you a man, and just leave it at that.
you might get the unexpected. i seen this al to well. women will ask god, to send them a man. but, then later on complain about the man to god. you can't blame god on your mate/future mate. YOUR THE ONE TO BLAME.
i believe in the bible whole-heartedly. but, i don't practice it. WHY ?. i am a back slidden christian. not ashame to admit to it. i had my personal dealings with the church. also, my personal struggles with some things too.
i use to serve with all my heart. been in several churches too. same teachings and beliefs. i guess you can say, PRIDE got in the way. i am not perfect. i am a sinner.
page#3 the thing about dating as a so called " CHRISTIAN ", people have it soo wrong.
people want to have there cake and eat it too. a true chriatian, will take a stance for god and what he stands for. i have seen soo many " so called " christians go to church on SUNDAY, then the nextday taking a drink.
or, sleep with somebody their not married to. lol. we all sin. we all have the nature of the flesh. not passing judgement. just making a true statement.
There is only just as much pain in Christian dating as non Christians if they are not actually applying the advice in the bible. I am having a hard time finding a "Christian dating" video that actually has proper advice and opinions that truly go along with the scriptures in the bible. I think today's typical "Christian" does not read the bible at all, except for a few scriptures here and there.
This is a definitely a topic that need to be addressed more often in churches where people are manipulated into doing things that are contrary to GOD's will
Well, if a women is a christian and goes to church, but does not want to wait for marriage for sex, than that's good. but if she's a hard liner than it's not going to work out. I can't have a woman dragging me to church. I have to be free to do what I want. and sleep in on sundays. theres no reason to wait for marriage.
tht aint even false sum dude came up to me and is like god ahs put sumthin in u tht is onli meant for me and noone else i was like wat bible are u readin!!!!!!!! God aint ever said tht BS........he said choose whom u will marry aint got nothin to do with God said....Oh please!!!! guys stop it!!!!!! it aint ryt thts blasphemy
@tonimudiwa hhaha i was just telling my christian sister this. imma dude, shes a female, and a few of us were talking about our singles ministry. the topic came up n i said ive seen way more brothers say that "God told them that they were their mate". haha she thought it was the other gender more. but i think its b/c brothers are so uneducated and unprepared in the realm of courtship. haha ive seen like 10 dudes do this, no lie. crazy!?!
Sorry for causing problems christians but why can't you just date whoever you want without thinking about purity. Being an Athiest is alot easier. there no rules. just do what you want. Why do us guys have to be married. just have sex. don't worry about a kid being born out of wedlock. a kids a kid.
@brandon98188 "Being an Athiest is alot easier. there no rules. just do what you want." you've yet to see the problem with this??? suppose what two ppl want are opposing eachother?!?
Thats why a lot of Christians, like myself, use courtship as an alternative to dating. One should search God with all their heart, and when the time comes, God will show them who they are supposed to be with. He doesn't show them, especially just one of them in a dream. You will just know, and the two will fall in love naturally like any other person, but not until you're ready.
I am Catholic but that doesn’t mean I have to find a woman who is Catholic. I am not an overly self-righteous person and expect the woman I marry to have the same exact relationship I have with God. It’s a waste of time. Go with personality, not religious beliefs. Because conflicts in the future that have to do with that are just going to be silly. No guy who believes in God is going to turn down a girl just because she’s not religious. But I guess women are different about that.
Its all about your personal walk, you have to make sure that you are whole as a single before you get into a relationship. You must learn to be alone first there has to be a time for just you and GOD. Then when you feel like you dont need anyone and you have all your past issues worked out pray and GOD will bring you somebody. Dont allow people to take you awayh by somthing they say Jesus told them but be reassured in your own relationship with Jesus
Women that state that are out of order, PERIOD! there is nothing in scripture that states that a woman is supposed to approach a man, so we need to stop asking questions which clearly do not relate to scripture and acting as if we don't understand, rebuke those women that are approaching you and keep it moving, period.
@VickyVue With this "woman should'nt approach a man thinking" thats why lots of women are single now. Sometimes the man may like the woman but he's just shy. There's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man without making herself too availiable.
@VickyVue. With this "woman should'nt approach a man thinking" thats why lots of women are single now. Sometimes the man may like the woman but he's just shy. There's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man without making herself too availiable.
Royalty1able - All have sinned and (continually) fall short of the glory of God. - Romans 3. Paul wrote "who will save me from this body of sin and death" Romans 7. As long as we are in this body we will continually sin, even as spirit filled Christians like Paul. Our trust needs to be in the cross, and Jesus' blood, as we run the race as one who wins a crown. We will never be perfect as we are in this body, only at the resurrection with our glorified bodies. So lets just run forward.
The divorce rate is still about 50%, and Christian couples make up a lot of these. The easy excuse is that these couples werent grounded in Jesus enough, but I believe theres another reason: If youre ignoring reality enough to maintain a relationship with a being youve never seen, youre probably not paying enough attention to the spouse you see everyday.
Hiya, Its wisdom to know the Word of God and foolishness not to study it for our walk with Him, because we want to please our Father in heaven and mature to sons of God. "We are all human, and therefore we sin" is an excuse. We were made able not to sin and able to have a perfect relationship with God through Jesus Christ, to say because we are human is an excuse. Why would God say not to sin if He hadn't given us the ability not to?
When we became born again John 3 then we were made the righteousness of God, new creations 2 Corinth 5v17 given a new spirit, and so if we have received the Holy Spirit then we are completely empowered by God to walk right with Him and not sin. Romans 6. If we live life doing whatever we want and expect God to forgive us for everything and do it again and expect forgiveness its not going to happen the Bible clearly warns us so many times about not insulting the grace of God.
@ Royalty1able, Take it easy mate. When you went to school, you did one year level at a time, you didn't learn everything in one day. You can also scare people with too much information too soon if they are new or non christian. This is called bible bashing i'm afraid. slow and steady wins the race. Please don't take this the wrong way.
We are told to flee sin and resist the devil, flee the very appearance of evil. Thessalonians 5:22. Its not about trying in our own strength not to sin we do it because we have the nature of Christ and love the Lord. Its about always being conscious of the Holy Spirit and His voice, He'll never lead us into sin, we choose not to, for young Christians they have to renew their minds with the Word. We must be clean vessels fit for the Masters use. 1 John chapters 1,2 and 3. And John 1v12.
We have the power to become the sons of God, sons of God do not sin. If your born again Christian know who Gods made you! :)! Jesus is so wonderful! Your a dynamo called to do greater works than Christ Jesus on this earth John 14:12, He is coming for a Church (we are the Church) without spot wrinkle or blemish. Ephesians 5:27. If you've got Christ in you your His hands and feet to this world Eph 5v30. If you've received the Holy Spirit your a temple, don't share it with sin, lust etc.
Love the Lord and you won't sin and the desire to sin will leave you, Prov 4v23. Live the higher life your above sin if you are in Christ! Grab a hold of that truth and your life wow you'll be an amazing person of God. xXx
i tried to write something clever a few times but wasn't smart enough to post it right :) sorry about all the deleted comments - hope things have made more sense of late - it's tough eh ....
You're all insane. Stop believing in dumb fairy tales already. There was no such thing as "Jesus". And if you black people are so christian then stop being so materialistic, arrogant and violent.
In a multitude of COUNSEL there is safety. we dont always have the answers... but the counsellor (God, or your pastor) does. we dont want to lean to our own understanding, but seek counsel from the Lord... if HE is guiding us (not our opinions, ideas, our flesh, etc) we will not go wrong and make mistakes we later regret. God is not the author of confusion, either lol. And lastly, like my pastor tells us (esp. for the ladies), set ur affection on things above & all these things will be added!
I understand this very well. The whole thing about people telling you God told them something is a mind game. I'm a very young christian woman and a 53 yrs old man told me God said I was going to be his wife. I look at him and walked away. People will say anything to try to get next to you.
The problems of Christian dating are the same as non-Christian dating, the key is finding someone who is honestly on the same page as you rather than someone pretending to be. If God tells anyone a certain person is their husband/wife I do not believe it can be so unless he also tells the other party. God is a God of order. He doesn't do drama, He is clear and plain. If in doubt just keep praying rather than rush down the isle. If it's meant to be God will bring that person back around :)
It's only by really getting to know someone that you can glean as to whether they are striving to live their lives in a Christian fashion. There is so much pressure on young Christians to live perfect dating lives and many struggle with sexual sin etc but there is no open forum to talk about it. Those struggling are also in church with those who are stronger/longer in the faith and often try to 'live up' to the super spiritual. It's a case of people not being themelves just like in the World.
There are two parts to being a Christian - 1. Accepting Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour/. 2. Loving your neighbour (doing as to others...). It is at 2 that people fall short. Some 'Christians' do not know how to treat people period, let alone dating. Just because someone is a Christian it does not make them good. All I can say is that the person says they are a believer. So Christians are often disappointed by other Christians behaviour (male and female) as they expect more.
Its all the same. The only difference is one is spiritual and the other is not. These leaders use "God" to lure women in their little world, especially if they dont know Christ. Thats why i treat them all the same.
The problem is that people that say they are Christians really are not because if they were they would be serving God and letting God guild them to the right mate instead of trying to help God out. Also, with the women that say God told them that a certain man was theirs that is a lie because a man chooses the wife and the wife chooses the husband, the bible says he that find a wife find a good thing, not a woman find a husband, woman are suppose to be patience waiting on God. Take care
@SaintJohn86 And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the plae you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the plae you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the place you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
@SaintJohn86 While I agree with this, I also believe that making yourself prepared for finding your partner is awesome too, and you can do this through self improvement.
I agree with Kowhai86 - "it's harder for christians that r dating because they have high expectaions put on them. you do something wrong like sexually with your partner and you feel guilt and are disgusted by your actions" <--happened to me recently :(
Ok to be honest marriage is only designed for those who are truly saved in Jesus Christ. Why do I say that? We are suppose to be a reflection of Christ and the Church which is the ideal marriage. But because we have allowed the world to shape what a relationship is. Women are suppose to wait! He who finds ladies not she who finds..and then at that He who finds a wife! A woman that is single should cleave to wise women of the church for direction and exercise marriage responsibilities singlely.
I have recently met my mate.But I had to get over looking at the outwards appearance for my mate.I am a black woman who is going to marry a white man.I wanted to be with a black man but it didn't turn out that way.
God has a way of bringing the right individual into your life.Wait on the Lord,believe me you will know when the right person has come along.God will let you both know without a doubt that this is the one.CHILL!
Well one thing that i have learned is that as ppl of God the only voice that we need to be hearing is that from God. When God tells you something this person is the one I have for u unless God says tell them this then u don't say anything. You keep it between u and God and hold on to the promise that he has given you. In a relationship u both need to set some ground rules as far as what u will and willl not do in the relationship(ex. hugging, kissing) hear from God!
what is the reason why couples should not do the hugging, kissing, holding hands? to me, that sounds ridiculous? i know there are plenty of other ways to prove your love, but i see that all the time at my church and they are well respected couples. Im not ranting btw :), i just want to hear a reasonable answer. thank you
I'm not saying it's wrong to do these things i'm just saying that kissing may not be something that one person can't handle. Say for ex. maybe kissing someone causes that person to want to have sex then maybe kissing may not be a good idea b4 u 2 get married. Purity i believe is a heart issue..the heart is powerful and it shows in your actions and your words. So i believe that as a couple u should communicate to your partner what u can and cannot do so that u can help each other not fall.
Hi - this is so true. Along with being celibate, I am seriously considering not kissing until marriage - kisses may seem harmless, but it can affect women more so than men, imo. Thanks for sharing.
GOD TOLD ME YOUR MY HUSBAND is totally MANIPULATIVE and CONTROLLING. god does NOT work like that. women and men who do that need to repent. manipulation is as the sin of witchcraft its not godly. if you like a woman-Man you approach them in humility and let the relationship grow in honestly and respect...women donlt manupulate and men donlt manipulate.. wait on jesus and get to know the mans character.. god bless you brother
@laura686979 God told one lady that she was going to have "his" baby. You saying God doesn't do that anymore? The UNCHANGING God doesn't do that anymore?
Christian dating can be difficult and easy at the same time. If both of you have your eyes set on Christ and his perfect will, then your path is set, but at the same time it can be more difficult because when your relationship with Christ is at its strongest, Satan tends to strike with abounding temptations. There's also the pressure of your church. Everybody is going to have something to say about your relationship. But if you are in the center of God's will, then you can't go wrong!
In 80+% of all relationships I have known, Christian or non Christian, there is one person who feels more attached than the other. That's why you see the "drama"..as that person wants the other person to reciprocate the closeness and then becomes frustrated when the other does not. It's a mystery, especially if the other stands out such as clergy or musician. If that person is you, the relationship is poison. In real relationships you are loved for being your true self, are best friends...
So true - I just got dmped by a Christian musician and it was poison in many ways because it felt like Satan was doing alot of things to get in the way of us centering our relationship around God. :( Thanks for sharing.
I have seen what you mentioned in the video. What I found is that people don't date for marriage they date to TRY to fill a void that should first be filled by having a TRUE relationship with CHRIST. Through a relationship with Christ and obedience to his WORD and WILL for our lives, we will be delivered of all of the world's concept of dating(and thinking) as he shape and mold us to be like him. We have to work on getting ourself together 1st. Godliness with contentment is a great gain. Thanks
Yes, that where I am right now. I don't know if I really want to be married, as much as date to be dating. The true loneliness I feel is the truly, what you said, the void of not putting Christ first. And that's it. Thank you for that.
Amen to that! After many years of dating, and having my heart broken recently by another Christian, it made me realize that I really need to stabilize my relationship w God before I can date. :( :)
Completely false. I don't even have to NOT be saved to know that. Generations of marriages have succeeded among non-Christians. I've seen non-Christian couples flourish more than Christian couples. As Christians, conflicting standards still exist.
Keep it real. As a single female minister I have dated guys in the church who only wanted me because they knew I was celibate and I would make a good wife. Both of them told me God told them I was their wife. Try the spirit by the spirit. Waiting on God is a hard thing for people to do because they have not allowed Christ to be their wife or husband. Human emotions are just as evident in the church. After all I love Jesus but I am not Jesus. It is harder than it looks.
Thanks Reid for the heartfelt question. A good friend of mine had a "God told me.." scenario and the relationship disintegrated, badly I believe. There are, sadly, some people IN the church who use their gifts to manipulate the hearts of others. But we should realize that Satan goes to church too: he was the head worship leader in the presence of God in heaven according to Ezekiel and in Job he was among the angels who assembled in the presence of God, to mention a few scriptures.
I really don't think it's fair for someone to come up to you and immediately say "God told me that you're my husband (or wife)." You're immediately put at a disadvantage cuz you haven't had time to test their spirit. Besides, I sincerely believe God would tell BOTH parties involved. He's not the author of confusion but of peace. Finally, communication is key to having a successful relationship of any kind, especially a romantic one. Dr. Myles Munroe has a great bk Waiting and Dating
I believe that it is harder to approach the dating arena as a christian, because of the worldly influences. Especially, if you were once practicing worldly way's. I believe speaking from a woman's point of view, the worldly temptations are so strong. At times these worldly temptations may be hard to resist. To me worldly temptations are like drugs. As a christian you don't want to relapse back into those worldly ways. So as a christian women, I approach dating with caution.
I was married for 21 yrs and my ex walked away from God and is not living for Christ. So, divorce was thrust upon me so I am coming at it from a different point of view. But, I have to be honest I am surprised at the lack of holiness with "Christian" men. It is like you said it doesn't matter who they are..worship leaders etc. I think the reality is people think God forgives all and can live like an unbeliever.. I don't want anyone like that and I think we need to live what we believe.
took me and my husband a while to get to where we are today, when we were dating we had our share of ups and downs for sure. my husband also loves your music, we r in New Zealand and theres not much christian hiphop out here just the mainstream.
i think sometimes its harder for christians that r dating because they have high expectaions put on them. you do something wrong like si sexually with your partner and you feel guilt and are disgusted by your actions which can lead to arguing ect, but you really wanna make the relationship work. whereas if your non christian dating you can pretty much do wot you want sex is fine, you can go get wasted together etc etc. im a christian happpily married but it....
Ok I know what song that is number, so all you to holy holy people need to quit it. I don't listen to that kind of music, but it got your attetion didn't it?
Ok check it...Boundaries I believe is awesome!
If you both can sit down and make boundaries not to cross, then not only are you making God happy, but you are keep it clean before God. Second of all, "BE YOURSELF". When you are alone together be "Yourself". When you are with your homeboys, Church brothers...BE YOURSELF.
*sigh* I really wanted to listen to this message, but I was blinded and turned OFF by the music... forcing listeners to hear Rap, Hip Hop and R&B while you convey your message is kjnr8in59! ...annoying. Cut the music. Romans 10:9-11, Mark 1:14-15.
typically, christians have better dating relationships. mostly b/c of boundaries they have in place and they aren't as tempted to do things that could cause drama and hurt their relationships. and, with God as a part of the relationship, it seems like things would go a lot better.
hey great vid, im a bornagain christian and if a woman comes up to you and tells you god told her she is gonna marry you. that is manipulation and is totally not from god. secondly you seem like a sincere sweet guy. Jesus will bring the best to you in time and she wonlt try to force herself on you
I know it's been last year since you had posted this up, but if you have to, pray about this to God. I know I am. 8 months ago, I went through a bad one with this one girl that claimed to be Christian, but she is really Catholic and part of the New Age. God doesn't approve of this. Trust me on that, just pray about it.
I was much easier dating after I stopped being Christian. I could be myself and not worry about what others thought. I was more myself and so I found someone else that was more myself. I've been happily married now for 5 years.
The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. Not all Christians are filled with the Holy Spirit. If there is more then one women, I would go with whoever is the better Christian. Most of the time you know who suits your personality better. I had alot of my own ideas of what I liked, but I followed God's advice and married a born-again Christian who is now my wife. If we are on fire like the Gospel like we should be, then we will need a Christian mate who understands our mission. God Bless.
2 cor 6:14 - Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
Also if your a TRUE christian you know not to be unequally yoked. Dont marry ANYONE who isnt a christian, they could lead you right back into sin. And God said dont do it....So.......DONT
Britney24able 1 month ago
The answer to all your questions my brother is in Genesis 3:14-16. All because of the fall. Read what God says he will cause.
Britney24able 1 month ago
good work, dont make choices of a partner on the basis of religion, dont discriminate just date, as job says, blow it if it moves. Peace.
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MrUrimthummim 1 year ago
I really don't believe that God "tells us" who we are going to marry.. That would mean He isn't giving us free will. In truth, He lets us choose.. He can bring someone into our life for us, but He would never force us to choose a certain person.
ChristianDatingTalk 1 year ago
I find in my experience that Christian women are the hardest to date. They are just so picky about everything are aren't willing to give a guy a chance at least in the Midwest. Most people in the Midwest are married by 25. If not, your chances are very low and the competition increases.
jlcarter1970 1 year ago
I don't believe "dating" is a biblical concept. Therefore Christians shouldn't "DATE". I didn't hear much Biblical wisdom in your questions, I just heard a lot of worldly advice and issues. Are you sure you are a Christian?
tongsau 1 year ago
@tongsau
dating didnt exist in "ancient" times lol not even the word "DATING" existed, no such word in the bible. Its a new era different generation & it all depends what you mean by dating........ because theres nothing wrong with getting to know a person? if thats a sin then please point that out for me in the bible
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I don't believe "dating" is a biblical concept. Therefore Christians shouldn't "DATE".
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page#31 as a singled christian man, ( although i don't practice my faith, like i should ).
i am not ashame to say, i have my battle with sin as a whole. but, it doesn't mean i am alone. there are many others like myself.
i went to the church i grew up in ( MAN, IT'S BEEN SOME YEARS ) last night. i had to settle some things in my life. it was the second week, of the program for addictions. i was there years ago, right before they started it.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#30 there will be a sad day in heaven. when the eyes of the lord shall, look down upon you. when you look him in the eyes, and confess of your doings upon the earth.
you can't hide, you can't lie, you can't have no legitimate reason, on why you can't
give god an explanation. this will expose all the christians in the world. especially, those who profess in the name of jesus. this is an area that, alot of christians need to be aware of. THE WORLD IS WATCHING YOU. ALL THAT YOU DO.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#29 there are fake christians. they say they love the lord and pray for others. but, your actions stand out.
immature christians, are those who, who really haven't settle peace with god. they tend to backstab others. for whatever reason, they have to settle score with someone. out of spitefulness.
god is a jealous god, and a loving god too. he doesn't want no one else, coming before him. NEVER.
god loves all. even those that refuses him.
MANY CHRISTIANS CAN'T DO THAT.
WHY
fervent66 1 year ago
page#28 imagine. all the bad/wrong things you did. things you would never tell anyone. not even a close friend or relative. or things that can put you in JAIL. all that expose TO THE ENTIRE WORLD TO SEE. you would be very embarrass wouldn't you.
from the time you were small, to the time you were to die. ALL WILL SEE THAT.
god knows every hair on your head. long before you were born. god knows, EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING, LONG BEFORE YOU EVEN KNOW OF DOING IT YOURSELF.
LIKE A PSYCHIC.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#27 no matter what you say or did, all will be revealed before god and the world. people will be embarassed at their sins. there is a company called
CHICK PUBLICATIONS. they put out these animated tracks of various types. ( look on their website to get a better idea ). anyway, it deals with certain topics that mankind may deal or have to deal with in life.
these tracks, give you an insight of how wrong it is against god. ther'e one even on THE PLAN OF SALVATION.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#26 jesus said, " HE WHO HAS NOT SIN, SHALL CAST THE FIRST STONE ".
you have christians, who walk around with the lable christian on them. ( not physically )
but mentally. WHY ?. your faith and works shall speak for you. sharing the gospel with all gods creatures great and small.
another thing alot of christians don't do. WHY ?. you see, we all will be judged according to our works. this will be on judgement day. anything you have ever done, whether it be in the light, or darkness.
fervent66 1 year ago
not sure of what your saying. but, there a lot of fake christians out here. on one hand, they can " WALK the WALK. so few can, TALK the TALK. this was preaced last night in my church. i went there to take care, of a little problem i have.
as i said, anyone can carry a bible. how many actually read it. another thing, CHRISTIANS are suppose to pray FOR EVERYBODY. EVEN THEMSELVES OF COURSE. LOVE YOUR ENEMIES, AS GOD LOVES YOU.
ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS FOR A CHRISTIAN TO DO.
fervent66 1 year ago
Either immature Christians or fake Christians.
sequyas 1 year ago
page#24 CHRISTIANS !!. WHERE ARE YOU WITH GOD ?. WHERE DO YOU STAND WITH GOD ?. WHERE DOES YOUR MATE, STAND WITH GOD ?. THIS IS A SERIOUS MATTER WHEN DATING ?.
YOU MUST SHOW, SHARE, & LEAD THAT PERSON TO THE LIGHT. OR, YOU WILL BE BROUGHT DOWN. ONE WILL HAVE HEAVEN, THE OTHER
COMPLETE TOTAL DAMNATION. NO SECOND CHANCES. NO TURNING BACK
THE HANDS OF TIME.
I MAY HAVE " BACK SLIDDEN " BUT, I STILL KNOW SOME OF GODS WORDS TO THIS VERY DAY.
I HAVE FALLEN. A SINNER SAVE BY GRACE.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#23 the world is filled with false prophets, false predictions, & false hope's in going to heaven. but the bible is CLEAR, CUT, AND DRY. IT'S THE TRUE WORD OF GOD AND SALVATION.
no man/woman/child, is guaranteed the kingdom of heaven, unless there are saved by the blood of jesus christ. his almighty word says so.
there is no other way. i may be off subject. i don't w3ant to sound like a hyprocrite. but, what i say is true.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#22 the bible is clear, cut, & dry. it's laid out how, we are suppose to live on a daily basis. regardless who you are and where you come from. NO MAN, IS EXEMPT FROM THE BILBE. NOT AT ALL. jesus gave you the choice. TO ACCPET HIM OR NOT TO ACCEPT HIM.
MANY PEOPLE, BELIEVE THAT, IF THEY BELIEVE IN GOD, THEN THERE OK AND GOING TO HEAVEN. !! WRONG !!. there will be many christians who will PERISH IN THE LAKE OF FIRE. FOREVER. THEY DON'T HAVE
HIS PLAN OF SALVATION. ( IN THE BIBLE ).
fervent66 1 year ago
page#21 as i said, anyone can cause themself a christian. a true christian, canshare their faith and their level of knowledge of the bible. you can't serve god with out reading the bok, and wothout worshipping in the house of the lord, with other fellow chrisians.
it's not going to happen. too many doorways to DECEPTION & LIES.
YOU CAN'T SAY, I WORSHIP/BELIEVE INGOD, BUT DON'T BELIEVE IN RELIGION. IN WON'T WORK.
that's like saying : i believe in water, but it's not wet.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#20 this hard, for any woman to do. whether your of faith or not. women, want to be the PURSUER. NOT PURSUEE. christian women, get mad and blame god, why they don't have the husband of their choice. simple. YOU DISOBEYED GODS COMMAND.
HE COMES TO YOU. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. ANOTHER ONE IS, " GOD SEND ME A MAN ". this gets women into trouble. NOT FINDING OUT, WHERE THE GUY IS " FAITHFULLY ". anyone can quote scriptures. but, how many can abide by them and follow them too. MAKES SENSE.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#19 no offense. but, women have their own general idea, of what they want their man to be like or a christian man to be as a whole. this is how, women ( and men ), get themselves in trouble. remember, satan can imitate ANYTHING that can do, and say it was fom god. A BOLD FACE LIE. DON'T GET SUCKED INTO THIS.
man, comes to the woman. the woman as well as a man, must pray for a god fearing woman. a woman, who is submissive ( obeys ) gods every word and command. ( in the bible ).
fervent66 1 year ago
page#18 always safeguard your heart. meaning, the devil will tempt you. he will put things in your face. something sexual and explicit. to cause you to be in awe over it. a man/woman who looks very sexy/sexual in nature. whether it be in clothe's, billboards, advertisements, store displays, movies, t.v.'s, magazines, commercials, and more.
to be tempted of the flesh. god brings the man to the woman. NOT, WOMAN TO MAN. this is a very big lie. it's been created by SATAN.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#17 carrying and not reading ( the good book ) the bible, is not a good thing. you may be called upon to answer a question unexpectedly. if you can't answer or show them, you will look like a fool. you don't have to know the bible from end to end.
but, just knowing a little goes a long way, in dating and responding to a question being thrown at you, about the bible. this a must, for those who thinks, they can know
god and not attend church. THAT'S A LIE BY SATAN.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#16 buy tapes, for yourself to help you improve in to being a godly man.
go to a local christian bookstore, and buy one on christian dating, and to be a servant of god. this will show her, that you could be the one she's looking for. but, in some cases, that's not always the case. i have seen, my friends get into dating, courtship, and kaboom !!.
fall out of that courtship for personal unknown easons. it is good to be scripturally fed too. not just to be carrying the good book.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#15 open all doors, regardless what kind of door they are for her. help her, ( if she wants you to ) with her coat on/off. pull the chair out for her, and push it up uder at the table. always stand, if she pardons herself to/from the ladies room. have a clean ride.
inside/out. it will let her know, the type of person you are behind clothe's doors.
play some christian music. not to mellow/hard. STEVE GREEN, SANDIE PATTY, BRYAN DUNCAN, MICHAEL W. SMITH, AMY GRANT, TWILA PARIS & MORE.
fervent66 1 year ago
pager#14 avoid kissing too. you don't want to push things, then later on regretting it. look for something you both enjoy. something neutural. ( NO VIDEO GAMES GUYS ).
take her to a play, a descent movie ( no shoot them up or slasher movies )
something like a drama/mystery movie. or, a carnival in town. you can try the museums, car shows too. anything to make it exciting/fun for the both.
say a prayer for a safe to/return from your outing. always show a gentlemen's attitude.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#13 to say this, you really need to know yourself, as well as the other person. what are their intensions from the beginning. look at your conversations with them, and what do they be centered around on. if you can handle in being alone, ( not alone alone ) but,
hanging out in public with others around, then go for it. if your worried about being tempted,then ask some friends to go with you. to lighten things up. avoid holding hands. don't make the other uncomfortable.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#12 going out in a group will help ease things a whole lot. it won't cause the other to be uncomfortable and do something against god's will. not to sound like a hyprocrite, i have gone out with a woman ( very very rare ) in a one-on-one situation. it's all about maintaining self control.
the young lady i use to hang out with, is a co-worker and long time friend. i knew her for about 11 years. we will go to the batting cage, go bowling, and do something fun with her teen daughter.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#11 this will keep both of you in check. men/women, have those ' FLESHLY ' desires. it's the flesh of the body, that does this to us. but, with poer and prayer, you can overcome this. never try to put yourself alone with that person. you have no idea where their true feelings lay.
you don't want to cause temptation in the other. you don't want to dress too sexy or revealing either. modest is good enough. don't wear seductive perfume either.
if you want to play it safe, in a group.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#10 the biggest, or one of the biggest cause in failed marriage. FINANCES. your finances ABSOLUTELY MUST BE IN ORDER, TO TRY TO LIVE COMFORTABLY. how well do you manage your money. the difference between a want & a need. you should know the diffrence. i may be off the subject here. but, here me out.
when dating, always try to put yourself, ( women mostly ) in an environement that,
you feel safe. meaning, a place of public. where's there are alot of people around. like a restaurant.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#9 there is no perfect marriage. never will. in a relationship, your going to make mistakes, your going to argue, your going to have disagreements, your going to yell. all usual for the making of a life together. marriage counseling, is a MUST IN THIS. this will bring out everything you thought you know already and more.
they will see how you do in COMMUNICATING, LISTENING, AND FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER. if you don't learn these principles, you will fail. another part is
FINANCES.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#8 the bible clearly says, to correct your child to obey mother/father. so his days, may be longer upon the earth. if two christians, who are of same faith, and have the same values', they can make a long and happy life together. but, if you are of two different faith's, that can spell disaster.
there will be conflicts on beliefs it self. all this ties into dating. it's also where do you stand within your faith. you can't be a fence rider. your all the way in, or all the way out.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#7 the woman, is there to support her man. not take control of the throttle. if she does this, she's out of place. god, will look down on her for doing do. ( in the bible ).
the family is based around scriptures. these laws are to be abide by what god has in place.
when a child is wrong or disrespectful, it's up to the parents to REAR THE CHILD.
meaning, to spank the child into discipline. failure to do so, is going against god's command. ( spare the rod, spoil the child ). the book.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#6 here is how it works. GOD, COMES FIRST IN EVERYTHING YOU DO. EVEN BEFORE YOUR MATE ITSELF. ( YES, THAT'S HOW IT WORKS ). NEXT, COMES YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND, THIRD, YOUR FAMILY.
the man is head of the household. ( look in the bible ) this is a strugle for all women.
the man is in a leadership position. he's the provider/structure of the family. he provides the foundation. the wife, is his ( helpmate ) in the bible. she is submissive to him. ( in the bible ). NOT LIKE A SLAVE YOU THINK.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#5 christians need to pray not only for themselves, but, for all others too. christians need to pray for others looking for the same. A MATE. people put themselves in hot water on this subject. if you want god to send you a man, and just leave it at that.
you might get the unexpected. i seen this al to well. women will ask god, to send them a man. but, then later on complain about the man to god. you can't blame god on your mate/future mate. YOUR THE ONE TO BLAME.
fervent66 1 year ago
i believe in the bible whole-heartedly. but, i don't practice it. WHY ?. i am a back slidden christian. not ashame to admit to it. i had my personal dealings with the church. also, my personal struggles with some things too.
i use to serve with all my heart. been in several churches too. same teachings and beliefs. i guess you can say, PRIDE got in the way. i am not perfect. i am a sinner.
everyone has faults, flaws, and more.
fervent66 1 year ago
page#3 the thing about dating as a so called " CHRISTIAN ", people have it soo wrong.
people want to have there cake and eat it too. a true chriatian, will take a stance for god and what he stands for. i have seen soo many " so called " christians go to church on SUNDAY, then the nextday taking a drink.
or, sleep with somebody their not married to. lol. we all sin. we all have the nature of the flesh. not passing judgement. just making a true statement.
fervent66 1 year ago
There is only just as much pain in Christian dating as non Christians if they are not actually applying the advice in the bible. I am having a hard time finding a "Christian dating" video that actually has proper advice and opinions that truly go along with the scriptures in the bible. I think today's typical "Christian" does not read the bible at all, except for a few scriptures here and there.
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Well, if a women is a christian and goes to church, but does not want to wait for marriage for sex, than that's good. but if she's a hard liner than it's not going to work out. I can't have a woman dragging me to church. I have to be free to do what I want. and sleep in on sundays. theres no reason to wait for marriage.
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tht aint even false sum dude came up to me and is like god ahs put sumthin in u tht is onli meant for me and noone else i was like wat bible are u readin!!!!!!!! God aint ever said tht BS........he said choose whom u will marry aint got nothin to do with God said....Oh please!!!! guys stop it!!!!!! it aint ryt thts blasphemy
tonimudiwa 1 year ago
@tonimudiwa hhaha i was just telling my christian sister this. imma dude, shes a female, and a few of us were talking about our singles ministry. the topic came up n i said ive seen way more brothers say that "God told them that they were their mate". haha she thought it was the other gender more. but i think its b/c brothers are so uneducated and unprepared in the realm of courtship. haha ive seen like 10 dudes do this, no lie. crazy!?!
iamundergrace 1 year ago
Sorry for causing problems christians but why can't you just date whoever you want without thinking about purity. Being an Athiest is alot easier. there no rules. just do what you want. Why do us guys have to be married. just have sex. don't worry about a kid being born out of wedlock. a kids a kid.
brandon98188 1 year ago
@brandon98188 "Being an Athiest is alot easier. there no rules. just do what you want." you've yet to see the problem with this??? suppose what two ppl want are opposing eachother?!?
iamundergrace 1 year ago
Thats why a lot of Christians, like myself, use courtship as an alternative to dating. One should search God with all their heart, and when the time comes, God will show them who they are supposed to be with. He doesn't show them, especially just one of them in a dream. You will just know, and the two will fall in love naturally like any other person, but not until you're ready.
NejiijeN 1 year ago
I am Catholic but that doesn’t mean I have to find a woman who is Catholic. I am not an overly self-righteous person and expect the woman I marry to have the same exact relationship I have with God. It’s a waste of time. Go with personality, not religious beliefs. Because conflicts in the future that have to do with that are just going to be silly. No guy who believes in God is going to turn down a girl just because she’s not religious. But I guess women are different about that.
Grapes428 1 year ago
@Grapes428
Catholic priests won't marry just any two people. I doubt it would be easy to marry a non Catholic in a Catholic church.
"exact relationship..with God"
No one has the exact same relationship with God, so that's nonsense.
"Go with personality, not religious beliefs."
No offense here, but that's the type of attitude of a worldly person.
"No guy who believes in God is going to turn down a girl just because she’s not religious."
This guy will. But I do more than just "believe in God"...
MasonIsaJar 1 year ago
I believe it depends on if the person/people are REALLY CHRISTIANS~~~You have to walk the walk AND talk the talk:)
lafemmenaturelle 1 year ago
Its all about your personal walk, you have to make sure that you are whole as a single before you get into a relationship. You must learn to be alone first there has to be a time for just you and GOD. Then when you feel like you dont need anyone and you have all your past issues worked out pray and GOD will bring you somebody. Dont allow people to take you awayh by somthing they say Jesus told them but be reassured in your own relationship with Jesus
ikeashiasanders29 1 year ago
@ikeashiasanders29
That makes a lot of sense.
God Bless.
MasonIsaJar 1 year ago
Women that state that are out of order, PERIOD! there is nothing in scripture that states that a woman is supposed to approach a man, so we need to stop asking questions which clearly do not relate to scripture and acting as if we don't understand, rebuke those women that are approaching you and keep it moving, period.
VickyVue 1 year ago
@VickyVue With this "woman should'nt approach a man thinking" thats why lots of women are single now. Sometimes the man may like the woman but he's just shy. There's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man without making herself too availiable.
DERBENJ 1 year ago
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@VickyVue. With this "woman should'nt approach a man thinking" thats why lots of women are single now. Sometimes the man may like the woman but he's just shy. There's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man without making herself too availiable.
DERBENJ 1 year ago
i like your style
babylana70 2 years ago
Royalty1able - All have sinned and (continually) fall short of the glory of God. - Romans 3. Paul wrote "who will save me from this body of sin and death" Romans 7. As long as we are in this body we will continually sin, even as spirit filled Christians like Paul. Our trust needs to be in the cross, and Jesus' blood, as we run the race as one who wins a crown. We will never be perfect as we are in this body, only at the resurrection with our glorified bodies. So lets just run forward.
ZION412 2 years ago
The divorce rate is still about 50%, and Christian couples make up a lot of these. The easy excuse is that these couples werent grounded in Jesus enough, but I believe theres another reason: If youre ignoring reality enough to maintain a relationship with a being youve never seen, youre probably not paying enough attention to the spouse you see everyday.
keeblergraham21 2 years ago
We are all human, and therefor we sin, we will never be able to have a perfectly holy relationship till we are with God.
ReattaLovesYou 2 years ago
Hiya, Its wisdom to know the Word of God and foolishness not to study it for our walk with Him, because we want to please our Father in heaven and mature to sons of God. "We are all human, and therefore we sin" is an excuse. We were made able not to sin and able to have a perfect relationship with God through Jesus Christ, to say because we are human is an excuse. Why would God say not to sin if He hadn't given us the ability not to?
Royalty1able 2 years ago
When we became born again John 3 then we were made the righteousness of God, new creations 2 Corinth 5v17 given a new spirit, and so if we have received the Holy Spirit then we are completely empowered by God to walk right with Him and not sin. Romans 6. If we live life doing whatever we want and expect God to forgive us for everything and do it again and expect forgiveness its not going to happen the Bible clearly warns us so many times about not insulting the grace of God.
Royalty1able 2 years ago
@ Royalty1able, Take it easy mate. When you went to school, you did one year level at a time, you didn't learn everything in one day. You can also scare people with too much information too soon if they are new or non christian. This is called bible bashing i'm afraid. slow and steady wins the race. Please don't take this the wrong way.
NameSupplied 2 years ago
We are told to flee sin and resist the devil, flee the very appearance of evil. Thessalonians 5:22. Its not about trying in our own strength not to sin we do it because we have the nature of Christ and love the Lord. Its about always being conscious of the Holy Spirit and His voice, He'll never lead us into sin, we choose not to, for young Christians they have to renew their minds with the Word. We must be clean vessels fit for the Masters use. 1 John chapters 1,2 and 3. And John 1v12.
Royalty1able 2 years ago
We have the power to become the sons of God, sons of God do not sin. If your born again Christian know who Gods made you! :)! Jesus is so wonderful! Your a dynamo called to do greater works than Christ Jesus on this earth John 14:12, He is coming for a Church (we are the Church) without spot wrinkle or blemish. Ephesians 5:27. If you've got Christ in you your His hands and feet to this world Eph 5v30. If you've received the Holy Spirit your a temple, don't share it with sin, lust etc.
Royalty1able 2 years ago
Love the Lord and you won't sin and the desire to sin will leave you, Prov 4v23. Live the higher life your above sin if you are in Christ! Grab a hold of that truth and your life wow you'll be an amazing person of God. xXx
Royalty1able 2 years ago
i tried to write something clever a few times but wasn't smart enough to post it right :) sorry about all the deleted comments - hope things have made more sense of late - it's tough eh ....
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kninkDotCom 2 years ago
You're all insane. Stop believing in dumb fairy tales already. There was no such thing as "Jesus". And if you black people are so christian then stop being so materialistic, arrogant and violent.
farawayreach 2 years ago
In a multitude of COUNSEL there is safety. we dont always have the answers... but the counsellor (God, or your pastor) does. we dont want to lean to our own understanding, but seek counsel from the Lord... if HE is guiding us (not our opinions, ideas, our flesh, etc) we will not go wrong and make mistakes we later regret. God is not the author of confusion, either lol. And lastly, like my pastor tells us (esp. for the ladies), set ur affection on things above & all these things will be added!
JesusRokks 2 years ago
I understand this very well. The whole thing about people telling you God told them something is a mind game. I'm a very young christian woman and a 53 yrs old man told me God said I was going to be his wife. I look at him and walked away. People will say anything to try to get next to you.
theninacrew 2 years ago
The problems of Christian dating are the same as non-Christian dating, the key is finding someone who is honestly on the same page as you rather than someone pretending to be. If God tells anyone a certain person is their husband/wife I do not believe it can be so unless he also tells the other party. God is a God of order. He doesn't do drama, He is clear and plain. If in doubt just keep praying rather than rush down the isle. If it's meant to be God will bring that person back around :)
cocochic1 2 years ago 4
It's only by really getting to know someone that you can glean as to whether they are striving to live their lives in a Christian fashion. There is so much pressure on young Christians to live perfect dating lives and many struggle with sexual sin etc but there is no open forum to talk about it. Those struggling are also in church with those who are stronger/longer in the faith and often try to 'live up' to the super spiritual. It's a case of people not being themelves just like in the World.
cocochic1 2 years ago
There are two parts to being a Christian - 1. Accepting Christ as your personal Lord and Saviour/. 2. Loving your neighbour (doing as to others...). It is at 2 that people fall short. Some 'Christians' do not know how to treat people period, let alone dating. Just because someone is a Christian it does not make them good. All I can say is that the person says they are a believer. So Christians are often disappointed by other Christians behaviour (male and female) as they expect more.
cocochic1 2 years ago
Its all the same. The only difference is one is spiritual and the other is not. These leaders use "God" to lure women in their little world, especially if they dont know Christ. Thats why i treat them all the same.
LeleeLyons 2 years ago
The problem is that people that say they are Christians really are not because if they were they would be serving God and letting God guild them to the right mate instead of trying to help God out. Also, with the women that say God told them that a certain man was theirs that is a lie because a man chooses the wife and the wife chooses the husband, the bible says he that find a wife find a good thing, not a woman find a husband, woman are suppose to be patience waiting on God. Take care
SaintJohn86 2 years ago 13
@SaintJohn86 "God helps those who help themselve"...Not a christian and I know that.
heartlessangel7 1 year ago
@SaintJohn86 And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the plae you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
tongsau 1 year ago
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And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the plae you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
tongsau 1 year ago
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And it also says "wife" not Girlfriend. I don't think many people pay attention to it. Paul says remain in the place you were when you were called unless you are going to burn with passion, for marraige will bring "MANY TROUBLES" I think that is why most Christians don't think to marry but date. If you dont' intend to Marry, then leave dat crack alone@@@!!!!
tongsau 1 year ago
@SaintJohn86 While I agree with this, I also believe that making yourself prepared for finding your partner is awesome too, and you can do this through self improvement.
ChristianDatingTalk 1 year ago
I agree with Kowhai86 - "it's harder for christians that r dating because they have high expectaions put on them. you do something wrong like sexually with your partner and you feel guilt and are disgusted by your actions" <--happened to me recently :(
blrgrl 2 years ago
Ok to be honest marriage is only designed for those who are truly saved in Jesus Christ. Why do I say that? We are suppose to be a reflection of Christ and the Church which is the ideal marriage. But because we have allowed the world to shape what a relationship is. Women are suppose to wait! He who finds ladies not she who finds..and then at that He who finds a wife! A woman that is single should cleave to wise women of the church for direction and exercise marriage responsibilities singlely.
cocochynel 2 years ago
I have recently met my mate.But I had to get over looking at the outwards appearance for my mate.I am a black woman who is going to marry a white man.I wanted to be with a black man but it didn't turn out that way.
ucanteach2 2 years ago
hey, its all good
JinXuanJun 2 years ago
God has a way of bringing the right individual into your life.Wait on the Lord,believe me you will know when the right person has come along.God will let you both know without a doubt that this is the one.CHILL!
ucanteach2 2 years ago 3
Amen to that
xaveelala 2 years ago 2
Well one thing that i have learned is that as ppl of God the only voice that we need to be hearing is that from God. When God tells you something this person is the one I have for u unless God says tell them this then u don't say anything. You keep it between u and God and hold on to the promise that he has given you. In a relationship u both need to set some ground rules as far as what u will and willl not do in the relationship(ex. hugging, kissing) hear from God!
datruefashiondiva 2 years ago
what is the reason why couples should not do the hugging, kissing, holding hands? to me, that sounds ridiculous? i know there are plenty of other ways to prove your love, but i see that all the time at my church and they are well respected couples. Im not ranting btw :), i just want to hear a reasonable answer. thank you
JinXuanJun 2 years ago
I'm not saying it's wrong to do these things i'm just saying that kissing may not be something that one person can't handle. Say for ex. maybe kissing someone causes that person to want to have sex then maybe kissing may not be a good idea b4 u 2 get married. Purity i believe is a heart issue..the heart is powerful and it shows in your actions and your words. So i believe that as a couple u should communicate to your partner what u can and cannot do so that u can help each other not fall.
datruefashiondiva 2 years ago
Hi - this is so true. Along with being celibate, I am seriously considering not kissing until marriage - kisses may seem harmless, but it can affect women more so than men, imo. Thanks for sharing.
blrgrl 2 years ago
GOD TOLD ME YOUR MY HUSBAND is totally MANIPULATIVE and CONTROLLING. god does NOT work like that. women and men who do that need to repent. manipulation is as the sin of witchcraft its not godly. if you like a woman-Man you approach them in humility and let the relationship grow in honestly and respect...women donlt manupulate and men donlt manipulate.. wait on jesus and get to know the mans character.. god bless you brother
laura686979 2 years ago 11
@laura686979 God told one lady that she was going to have "his" baby. You saying God doesn't do that anymore? The UNCHANGING God doesn't do that anymore?
vssia 1 year ago
Christian dating can be difficult and easy at the same time. If both of you have your eyes set on Christ and his perfect will, then your path is set, but at the same time it can be more difficult because when your relationship with Christ is at its strongest, Satan tends to strike with abounding temptations. There's also the pressure of your church. Everybody is going to have something to say about your relationship. But if you are in the center of God's will, then you can't go wrong!
briannadavis07 3 years ago
dude your awesome!!!
your message comes through really well!
xaveelala 3 years ago
In 80+% of all relationships I have known, Christian or non Christian, there is one person who feels more attached than the other. That's why you see the "drama"..as that person wants the other person to reciprocate the closeness and then becomes frustrated when the other does not. It's a mystery, especially if the other stands out such as clergy or musician. If that person is you, the relationship is poison. In real relationships you are loved for being your true self, are best friends...
luxaurum 3 years ago
So true - I just got dmped by a Christian musician and it was poison in many ways because it felt like Satan was doing alot of things to get in the way of us centering our relationship around God. :( Thanks for sharing.
blrgrl 2 years ago
I have seen what you mentioned in the video. What I found is that people don't date for marriage they date to TRY to fill a void that should first be filled by having a TRUE relationship with CHRIST. Through a relationship with Christ and obedience to his WORD and WILL for our lives, we will be delivered of all of the world's concept of dating(and thinking) as he shape and mold us to be like him. We have to work on getting ourself together 1st. Godliness with contentment is a great gain. Thanks
HolyLivin 3 years ago 3
Yes, that where I am right now. I don't know if I really want to be married, as much as date to be dating. The true loneliness I feel is the truly, what you said, the void of not putting Christ first. And that's it. Thank you for that.
faithful4 3 years ago
This is absolutely true, wonderfully said.
SpiritedxAway 2 years ago
Yes well said, good to see and hear..Amen..
ThickMadame41 2 years ago
Amen to that! After many years of dating, and having my heart broken recently by another Christian, it made me realize that I really need to stabilize my relationship w God before I can date. :( :)
blrgrl 2 years ago
I agree.
purplekitty627 3 years ago
For this reason will a man leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)
kevangel99 3 years ago
why a lot of women like the bad,ugly and non disciplined guys,seem to not care about qualitties
what do you think guys about that??????
agydo 3 years ago
dating as a Christian is easier because both people have a common standard, Christ's.
as non-Christians, there are 2 conflicting standards.
reynandvalenzuela 3 years ago
Completely false. I don't even have to NOT be saved to know that. Generations of marriages have succeeded among non-Christians. I've seen non-Christian couples flourish more than Christian couples. As Christians, conflicting standards still exist.
MarkPatriots 3 years ago
Keep it real. As a single female minister I have dated guys in the church who only wanted me because they knew I was celibate and I would make a good wife. Both of them told me God told them I was their wife. Try the spirit by the spirit. Waiting on God is a hard thing for people to do because they have not allowed Christ to be their wife or husband. Human emotions are just as evident in the church. After all I love Jesus but I am not Jesus. It is harder than it looks.
deborahdaughter7 3 years ago 4
Seriously...are you a minister? and if so what kind of church is it? I find this fascinating and I would like to know more about you.
IlSoffione 3 years ago
Thanks Reid for the heartfelt question. A good friend of mine had a "God told me.." scenario and the relationship disintegrated, badly I believe. There are, sadly, some people IN the church who use their gifts to manipulate the hearts of others. But we should realize that Satan goes to church too: he was the head worship leader in the presence of God in heaven according to Ezekiel and in Job he was among the angels who assembled in the presence of God, to mention a few scriptures.
freenunfetteredmatt6 3 years ago
I really don't think it's fair for someone to come up to you and immediately say "God told me that you're my husband (or wife)." You're immediately put at a disadvantage cuz you haven't had time to test their spirit. Besides, I sincerely believe God would tell BOTH parties involved. He's not the author of confusion but of peace. Finally, communication is key to having a successful relationship of any kind, especially a romantic one. Dr. Myles Munroe has a great bk Waiting and Dating
freenunfetteredmatt6 3 years ago 3
I believe that it is harder to approach the dating arena as a christian, because of the worldly influences. Especially, if you were once practicing worldly way's. I believe speaking from a woman's point of view, the worldly temptations are so strong. At times these worldly temptations may be hard to resist. To me worldly temptations are like drugs. As a christian you don't want to relapse back into those worldly ways. So as a christian women, I approach dating with caution.
reeelsexy01 3 years ago
I was married for 21 yrs and my ex walked away from God and is not living for Christ. So, divorce was thrust upon me so I am coming at it from a different point of view. But, I have to be honest I am surprised at the lack of holiness with "Christian" men. It is like you said it doesn't matter who they are..worship leaders etc. I think the reality is people think God forgives all and can live like an unbeliever.. I don't want anyone like that and I think we need to live what we believe.
davieschristiangirl 3 years ago 2
took me and my husband a while to get to where we are today, when we were dating we had our share of ups and downs for sure. my husband also loves your music, we r in New Zealand and theres not much christian hiphop out here just the mainstream.
kowhai86 3 years ago
i think sometimes its harder for christians that r dating because they have high expectaions put on them. you do something wrong like si sexually with your partner and you feel guilt and are disgusted by your actions which can lead to arguing ect, but you really wanna make the relationship work. whereas if your non christian dating you can pretty much do wot you want sex is fine, you can go get wasted together etc etc. im a christian happpily married but it....
kowhai86 3 years ago
Ok I know what song that is number, so all you to holy holy people need to quit it. I don't listen to that kind of music, but it got your attetion didn't it?
Ok check it...Boundaries I believe is awesome!
If you both can sit down and make boundaries not to cross, then not only are you making God happy, but you are keep it clean before God. Second of all, "BE YOURSELF". When you are alone together be "Yourself". When you are with your homeboys, Church brothers...BE YOURSELF.
HolmesJr79 3 years ago
*sigh* I really wanted to listen to this message, but I was blinded and turned OFF by the music... forcing listeners to hear Rap, Hip Hop and R&B while you convey your message is kjnr8in59! ...annoying. Cut the music. Romans 10:9-11, Mark 1:14-15.
iThankYouLord 4 years ago
i'm sorry. that must suck.
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HotGirlkcu98 4 years ago
typically, christians have better dating relationships. mostly b/c of boundaries they have in place and they aren't as tempted to do things that could cause drama and hurt their relationships. and, with God as a part of the relationship, it seems like things would go a lot better.
purpturt 4 years ago 2
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JinXuanJun 3 years ago
hey great vid, im a bornagain christian and if a woman comes up to you and tells you god told her she is gonna marry you. that is manipulation and is totally not from god. secondly you seem like a sincere sweet guy. Jesus will bring the best to you in time and she wonlt try to force herself on you
laura686979 4 years ago 2
I know it's been last year since you had posted this up, but if you have to, pray about this to God. I know I am. 8 months ago, I went through a bad one with this one girl that claimed to be Christian, but she is really Catholic and part of the New Age. God doesn't approve of this. Trust me on that, just pray about it.
McCaler 5 years ago
I was much easier dating after I stopped being Christian. I could be myself and not worry about what others thought. I was more myself and so I found someone else that was more myself. I've been happily married now for 5 years.
BlueFireWitch 5 years ago
The Bible says do not be unequally yoked. Not all Christians are filled with the Holy Spirit. If there is more then one women, I would go with whoever is the better Christian. Most of the time you know who suits your personality better. I had alot of my own ideas of what I liked, but I followed God's advice and married a born-again Christian who is now my wife. If we are on fire like the Gospel like we should be, then we will need a Christian mate who understands our mission. God Bless.
phillyfunnyguy 5 years ago
actually it says dont be equaly yoked
lightoftheearth 4 years ago
2 cor 6:14 - Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
phillyfunnyguy 4 years ago 2
my bad wat i ment was we are not equal to no belivers ergo equaly yoked is just grouped equaly
iGamer92 4 years ago