In my 2nd year of high school i also started feeling as if i didnt want to be my femi girly self. i found i felt safer, better, and stronger if i dressed much more masculine and acted that way. i also changed my name to a less femi one (from my middle name) and started being just... more me. it was hard at first to be accepted, but i feel so much better now. just being myself.
I'm a mix of how I am. I don't identify as either gender, but I am female. I'm sorta masculine, and I'm normally more feminine. I am often called MANY odd things.
I had to watch this twice cos you were so distracting the first time, so beautiful it's unreal! But yeah, you offered really great advice on an issue that must be majorly confusing to go through. You've just got to express whatever you're feeling, otherwise you'll end up living for other people rather than yourself. Good luck and have courage, whoever is going through this or something similar :)
Back in highschool i had this urge and my mom cut my hair semishort and bought guy clothes with me.she thought it was a short phase but i wanted to find out and it felt good,except for the confusion and tough time in school.i'm 20now but still unsure of what i want.tdy short hair-tmr long.tdy blonde-tmr black...thats the case.i'm not through
it took me too long to realize that while at university, it's the best time to "do it like a dude." i'm an extremely femme lesbian in general. however, cutting all my hair off and forgoing the makeup was extremely liberating years back. i've since gone back to my femme ways (long hair, makeup, dress), but i'm looking now into attaining a more androgynous look again. SHORT HAIR IS SO CONVENIENT!
I wake up so days and want to wear basketball shorts and a guy shirt and other days i want to wear a skirt... just be true to yourself no matter the clothing.
without a fuss, i dress more decent now then before :P ...matching for me before was rediculous :P , but now that im 20, i have somewhat of a cool style that i enjoy and that oher ppl do as well. ill never chnage. i like how i am and who i am.
ive never been girly in my life. when i was younger i always wanted to wear baggier clothes but when i was younger then 10 years old, i was more into the soccer type of clothing, you know like, t-shirts and shorts with numbers on it, when i got older, i loved the way guys dressed, so i wanted to be like them,. i got away with it but it was a little struggle because my family wanted me to wear girlier clothing when we would go out. but it would always be a fuss. but now i wear whatever i want.
@moebetta04 That is a good point. I suggest waiting till you're a bit older before exploring that kind of thing; at the moment there are probably a lot of kids at school who'd give you a hard time for that! :)
I didnt come out until i was 18, before that i was scared of looking like a lesbian. When i came out i started being more true to what i ACTUALLY wanted, and now i barely buy anything in the girls departments.
I think one of the thing i found scariest, both about coming out and dressing like i wanted.. Was labeling myself like that. But i realized i was just half assing what i really wanted, and never really was happy about my style. I am now :)
I'm currently going through this "phase" to be honest. Actually, I worded that wrong - it's more like an intense wave of emotion and curiosity. I want to explore who I am, and learn what type of a person I want to grow and mature as but I'm afraid to make a stupid decision!
I have always dresses like a dude but seens i am going in to high school mom wants me to be more girly , and does wanting dress like a boy mean something ?! Plus when people mistake me fpr a dude i think its funny,but when boys my age do it kinda hurts my feels.
I have always dressed like a guy never been a very girly girl I'm almost 16 and people still say "hey are you a guy or a girl?" and I just ignore them cause I wont let it get to me and I think that anyone else like me should just not listen to pathetic people like that :)
When I first came out I felt like I COULD go all-guyish, so I did. Not only because I wanted to (and I did), but prior to that I had been really girly for a long time (the long blonde hair, heels, makeup, whatever) and I almost felt like people wouldn't take me seriously if I came out and didn't change. It sounds pathetic now but that's how it was. A few years on now and I'm not back to girly, but I'm feminine. I just wear what I want, not what straight - or gay - people determine.
Hey, I am the girl who sent this email :) My jaw dropped to the floor when I found out that all beavers were answering my question. (I was a bit excited!)
Thank you so much for the advice. It was really interesting and helpful to hear about your experience. It was obviously very different from mine...I definitely wasn't a tomboy-ish child, but I guess I will get to explore that side of myself now, and I am excited to.
I gave my girl days and my guy days. Sometimes I feel like dressing up more girly. But than I have the days that I like to dress more guyish. It happens. And Jess I have gone through that you like the way they are not really like them. I want to cut my hair short but my mom doesn't like it and she always messes with me and calls me a little boy. Mt gf rlly wants me to do it. In stuck in the middle advice?
I love guy clothes sooo much!!! I always always wear guy sweatshirts and shirts :D want some guy jeans and boxers, but idk if thats going too far... I also always wear converse which is kinda guyish.
When I was in elementary school, up until 8th grade I dressed in guys clothes, exclusively. Then, I don't know, something just changed. I moved to a new state and felt that it was time to re-invent myself I suppose and started wearing women's clothing. It's still a little bit tomboy; it has a sort of indie feel, but it's not as masculine as it use to be. I sneak in boxer shorts every now and then. ^_^ Currently, I'm in 11th grade and I am way to tired to give a shit about the way I dress, lol.
i've been dressing in dude clothes for a while, cuz it's my style. Sweet pants, vest/sweater, and a gay pride shirt, short hair. And i get called a dude all the time. I'm just butch and like it. omg u will never catch me in a dress.
I think that having the choice to express yourself the way you want is good. I've always worn what was comfortable which was usually guys clothes. & it use to be alright with people until I cut off all my long hair to short boyish hair right after high school. I found it fit me perfectly, but everyone judged me and hated on me. What's the big deal, I was already wearing boys clothes. I think I look f**kin sexy haha. Love Beaverbunch! xo
I have also been going through slome changes with looks haha! at the begining of this university year my hair was to my boobs, then I cut it to above the shoulders, then i cut it shorter, now I am rocking a mohawk. I still love to wear skirts and knee socks, but a tthe same time I want to wear plaid and binders.
Ive always been a tomboy, and when i was younger i would always have short hair because my hair was so thick. But when i was younger kids would ALWAYS make fun of me. It isnt till now that i went back to short hair i mean its about two inches up front and and in in the bak. I can honestly say i have never felt better in my skin then i do now, and im pretty sure i will keep my hair short all the time now.
I'm not quite out yet to my parents and I dress more boyish but i have my girly days. My mother has been on my case about being more girly ever since I cut my hair really short and started being more open about how I dress. She tends to compare me with other women, including herself about femininity. She's also the type of person who really cares about what people think. I believe she knows I'm gay and she's just in denial but she's being a little more open with me now
For me, I am kind of doing the opposite. I was always kind of the tomboy. There was one day in high school that I wore a skirt and leggings and everyone was like WOAH! Lol. Now I've been becoming more girly and I think I am really finding myself. I think whoever wrote in should take Jess's advice and just kind of go with it/be open. It's pretty normal well to me anyway.
I remember how freeing it was chopping my hair off.... I felt like my long hair weighed me down and tied me to down to societies acceptance of beauty. I often have the itch to go short and let out the inner suppressed "granola lesbian" that is hiding. I envy the more masculine type, they can just do whatever and it looks great. Being fem is rough....
i like baggy clothes but my mom knows im gay and wont buy me guys clothes and still trys to get me to wear these stupid girly clothes it sucks! but great video!
I was a tomboy, but as puberty hit there was definitely pressure to be more feminine. I forced myself into thinking that i was supposed to dress more girly, after all i never saw an example of an alternative. I felt terribly self-conscious and awkward. I put on a lot of weight due to being depressed, i felt like i wasn't expressing my true self. I did some soul searching and realized that i needed to be me. Now i've lost 40lbs and i look kinda hot as the boi i am. Be you, that's my advice.
as a lesbian i just went through a phase where i felt the need to explore feelings i was having, so went from "girly" to "butch", cut my hair short, started wearing baggy clothes and just foundation for make-up. it felt great to just be this persona for awhile. my hair has grown since then and im back to wearing more make-up and tighter jeans. i feel just as comfortable now as i did then. i needed that time to explore who i wanted to be and i want to be me and the clothes dont matter =)
i absolutely agree with everything you say... i live in a city which is very famous for its fashion, but i don't really fit in its parameters regarding what the style is right now! i also dress more like a guy and i feel very comfortable with it. i want to get a boyish hair cut.
i don't like going out here because mostly girls have to wear dresses and boys suits. my friends don't understand why i can't just wear a dress for one evening. so i don't go out here.
What happens to me is that I love ties, But whenever I wear ties I feel like everyone is looking at me (which I believe is not true, it might just be the way I feel) so even thou I love ties I can't bring myself to wear them without feeling uneasy.
The way you dress can have very strong effects. When I go out I pretty much pull out the CLOWN style. It is my style now Bitches! Of course I have reasons to do so [ah those who know me] But.. yeah for that night I deviate from my usual standard attire. And instead wear extra colourful and crazy!
This is a great topic. I shaved my head too! One of the most liberating things I've ever done. I went through a similar phase. I was pretty fem in highschool but when I got to college I wanted to change my image to explore other ways of expressing who I wanted to be. Now I'm kinda androge with hints of fem and I've felt more confident than ever. It's a fun process. Don't feel anxious be adventuresome and enjoy it!
Its nice to know I can wear jeans and a t when I feel like it (witch is most of the time!) and a dress when I have to, I love being a girl (and girls but that's another story.)
When I was in middle school, i went thru this phase where i only wanted to wear my brothers clothes. he was a couple years older than me, but around my size. It lasted for about 3 years. then when i hit highschool, i started dressing really girly & decided to cheer again like in primary. & now, im stilll pretty girly. lol.
I'm pretty much a tomboy when it comes to what I wear. I don't wear dresses or skirts a lot, but people say I look fantastic when I do. I think it's great that we can pretty much wear whatever we want (sorry guys!).
P.S. Jess- Do It Like a Dude? Fantastic song. Thanks for turning me on to it!
I never felt like myself in makeup or dresses and the sort. I really wanted to wear a nice tux to prom, but i felt pressured by everyone to do what was 'normal'. Looking back on it i really wish i had just said fuck it, and did what made me comfortable. Live and learn.
THANK YOU for bringing up this topic! I think my style confuses a lot of people... My physical features (ie. hair, makeup etc) would lead one to believe I'm feminine, but my clothing ranges from girly work clothes to baggy band t-shirts and Vans. I like the best of both worlds. I am a tomboy, but I like nail polish and pink earrings too. The bottom line is that you have to make yourself happy, bc there will always be negativity. Love YOU & do what makes YOU comfortable.
omg! this is totally normal for me! sometimes I dress up as a total butch chick and sometimes as a girly girl. it's part of finding yourself and being comfortable. maybe one day I can damn pick what I want to perceive myself as but I don't mind just being undecisive! I don't believe it is about sexual orientation btw.
ive always been boyish and dressed more like a guy, then it came to high school and i dont know why but i felt pressured to dress more girly which i didnt feel comfatable with, so latly ive become more comfatable in being myself and dresing how i want to dress.
Guy clothing is incredibly comfortable >.< Most women sacrifice comfort for beauty. I do not do this. I also "Do it like a dude", Mens clothing is much more practical as well.
I went through the same thing but with me I was very young and all I would wear was camo. But later my mom stopped letting me dress like that and forced me to dress girly. She would make me wear dresses and pink and things like that. I never felt comfortable. I would literally cry when she made me wear things like that. Now I'm in high school and dress how I want. I wear mens clothing and hardly own or wear any womens clothing. I completely understand what you guys are going through.
I have felt the same desire to dress up in mens clothing. Every few days I tend to wear mens shirts or more masculine clothing but it's always with a feminine touch I guess you could say.
I mix it up, short hairstyle, but i still wear makeup. "Guys" shirts with "girls" pants and vice versa...whatever the hell i feel like wearing at the time, I put on. Some days I bind my chest, other days I don't. They're just clothes, they're inanimate objects that have no gender.
I'm pretty inbetween with my style. I'm most comfortable when I'm in guy jeans and a tight shirt, but seeing as my mom has a tendency to throw out my guy jeans, I'm usually in skinny jeans and still a tight shirt. Once I go off to school I'm going to buy guy jeans again tho, they're just more comfortable!
Iv allways had long hair untill last summer i told my mom i wanted to cut it and used the xcuss i wanted to donate it... in the end i did donate it and my hair is really short.. i dressed like a dude all my life and my hair just wasnt working out...
@weirdalyancovic1234 I'm not a fan of answering questions on our videos because there are typically so many... check out our facebook and I promise you'll find the answer to this.
I'm 17 and in a year I went from 100% femme to 100% butch. I am sooooo much more happy with myself now:) just wear whatever makes you happy! If other people have negative comments just tell them to keep it to themselves.
Jess- are you a fan of the University of Hawaii? Haha nice shirt!
I was totally the other way. My family couldn't get me out of dresses until I was about 11. Some things are just awkward to do in a skirt!
Now I switch depending on how I feel in the morning. Sometimes I'll wear a pretty dress or a skirt and heels, sometimes I'll raid my brother's wardrobe for the day (or stuff I buy in the men's section) Whatever feels right at the time.
I'm a straight female. By appearance, I look like what many would stereotype as a lesbian. Extremely short hair, gender neutral clothes, no makeup, etc. It wasn't until I was 21/22 that I really started to embrace what I felt comfortable wearing and doing in terms of my appearance. Thankfully, my husband of 3 1/2 years loves this about me and loves my "image". Living in a more conservative area in the Midwest (an affluent area north of Indy), I get a lot of looks. :)
@MissDjDePo I'm so glad that you responded to my video this week. I'm always very interested to hear stories from the straight community. thanks for sharing :)
ok well first off i would like to say hi to everyone...but i want to know if anyone could give me advice for the way my hair looks...i have hair that is down to my shoulders and im getting tired of it...and i want to cut it but my parents wont let me get it cut the way i want to...should i just do it anyway or should i just deal with it...and i also dont like dresses and skirts i just wear some bball shorts and skinny jeans with band tshirts and sometimes a tie...and i love it <3.thx for reading
@4444bird4444 Compromise with them on a shorter hairstyle. Once you move out you can do whatever you want. Just don't get on their bad side while you're still financially dependent and what not.
@rockinthepride ok thx...i will try and talk them into it but i will see wat happens...cause my parents are not strict but they dont like when i go and "do something stupid" like going and cutting my hair with out them knowing until the next day haha...i will toughen it out...but thanks again
@4444bird4444 Hey! I used to have pretty long hair as well. My mom would never let me cut it, but as I got older she began to let me do what I want within reason. It was down to my lower back and then she let me cut it below my shoulders. From there I got it shoulder length then just above my shoulders. Now she lets me do what I ever I want and part comes to mid-ear while the other side comes just below my jawline. Compromise! <3 Eventually they'll probably let you do what you want. ^^
@xShiizam thanks for the advice i will try and do that...its just like they dont understand me...like they dont want me to grow up...any way thanks again
@4444bird4444 You're welcome! And I know what you mean, my mom was the same way. But yeah. I hope they begin to understand you over time and I hope everything works out! <3
My parents loved dressing me up in dresses when I was a little kid. As I grew up I hated wearing dresses, so I beged my parents to get me skirts. But by high school, I had convinced my parents to let me wear dress pants and decent shirts to church and weddings. Amazingly enough they understood that I was more comfortable in pants than skirts or dresses, so they were happy to give me dress pants for christmas eearly in high school
I have most definitely felt this way. For me, its sporadic. It happens every so often. Usually I try to dress more androgynous, but there are days I feel like dressing really masculine. I have my girly days too, but those are more rare.
I remember in third grade wearing baggy pants and a sports t shirt and thinking I was hot stuff. I would fake grab my crotch like a rapper. But I have this memory, obviously, because something clicked. I dressed really not feminine in middle school, but when high school came, I dressed girly like all the other girls. Now i'm a senior and I've finally found what i'm most comfortable in. A nice mix of mens fashion one day and very feminine the next. I make sure i'm fully comfortable each day.
I'm in a weird situation. About four years ago, I started getting more and more masculine, until I finally ended up convincing myself I was a transsexual. I later stopped feeling that way, and then near the end of last year, I started getting occasional but strong urges to appear like, and sometimes even actually be, a guy. It's strange, because sometimes I feel fine being female, sometimes even feminine, but then I need to be masculine again.
@pigeon309 I absolutely understand what you're talking about. I'm finally at a point with myself where I'm comfortable just being me... definitely not a lady but also not super masculine. Somewhere in the middle fits me perfectly.
@cautiousplay Thankyou, it's good to know you understand. All the people I know personally seem fairly comfortable in their assigned sexes, but I'm still a teenager, and I guess I've got a lot to learn about the world. I'm glad you found what makes you comfortable. I hope one day I can do the same.
@Thischannelhasnoname Meh, you don't need to feel stupid. Pansexual means that you are attracted to people based on their personality and the person as a whole; and their gender, sexuality or gender identity plays no part on why you like them. In a nutshell.. I guess.
I think nowadays I found my thing and it's something near to a tomboy. It wasn't forced, it just happened. But it's funny, 'cause I make videoblogs too here in Brazil and some people ask on the comment section if I'm a girl or a guy. It happens a lot and I used to get offended, but now I just think it's funny. People who know me in person don't have this doubt, but maybe video is something confusing...
@marinaxisto I think it's great that you've gotten to a point where you just laugh off the comments. When making videos, you really have to take most with a grain of salt and keep recording :)
this vid is really like perfect for this moment in my life :D I love the idea of the five natural forces,I have a tattoo with that same message.I'm pansexual and also have strong interest in these clothes,world-percieve-me issues.I'd been dressing as a guy for at least 6 years,maybe more.now I kind of combine my feminine and my mascular and it feels great.just do whatever makes u feel good.peace
@Queerdification Haha I'm glad someone does! Someone once made a video parody of the 5 Beavers and in my video they said my videos are too long... so I cut them in half! :)
when i was a child i didn't care about clothes. i wore "androgyne" clothes as well as dresses. when i got older i started to dress more girly, especially from about 13-16. now i'm 18 and i basically wear "androgyne" clothes again and i feel totally comfortable with it.
btw, my sister is kinda the opposite. as a child she was quite a tomboy and now she dresses very girly.
so, i think it's ok for everyone to dress the way they want to. especially guys, if you feel like dressing feminine, do it.
I always wore guys clothes when I was in primary school. But when I went to high school I tried to fit in and dressed more girly, also because of a sort of bullying. I was tired of everyone shouting when I was cycling home; 'hey are you a guy or a girl?' In the end it didn't work for me, to be all that girly. This year I went to college and I met a LOT of other gay people. They (and all other straight college friends) are far more open minded. So I'm 'guyish' again. And I feel more like myself.
when i was in 3rd and 4th grade nobody really cared because they didnt know the difference. i always wore my hair back, collared shirts from the guys section jeans and timberlands. over all i looked like a hard core prison gaurd. i went through one year of middle school and came out with my hair straightened everyday, the cute skinni jeans and converse with frilly tops. middle school just chews you up and spits you out. i still cant wait to get home and throw on basketball shorts and a t-shirt
I have a similar feling in phases, there are times that I wear a lot of skirts and bodycon clothing and there are phases that I live in baggy jeans with a tanktop/t-shirt. Dress the way you want to, wear something you feel confident in.
i went through a similar phase and had to ditch it for work as i felt uncomfortable in my guy clothes in my new job. i must say it was nothing that anyway said, it was just me. i wear girl clothes now but would never wer skirts as i really don't feel they fit my body.
my gf wears guy clothes and over the years she owns nothing for girls. some of its too loose and not masculine just bad fitting. i have really started to get her into girl brands in masculine fit which looks really good
i stopped wearing feminine clothes when i was about 11 i think. my mum just stopped trying and let me know it was okay to not want to look like a girl
now i confuse people so much with my dress sense, i dress like a complete guy but still have big boobs. i get called sir alot :D
jess i dont now why pretty much the whole beaver bunch apologises about having long videos? the longer the better the way i see it!
I'm going through this right now...im gradually coming out and im trying to figure out how i feel the most comfortable; the point is that it kind of changes all the time so on one side im happy that being a girl i am free to pick whatever i feel like wearing even if its less feminine, but on the other hand i feel like the friends im out to question my being a lesbian whenever i wear heels or i put on a little more make up. i just wish people understood that it isnt all black or white
Great video this week, Jess. I went through a similar faze in high school, only it was the opposite. Everyone thought I was gay so I dressed very feminine, but I wore a lot of dark clothes. Of course, then, everything changed and I wasn't gay anymore, I was 'the goth', which was worse. Anyway, I'm straight and since college I've really been able to come to terms with myself. People now accept me and accept that just because I don't always dress girly, doesn't automatically make me gay.
Once, a girl, after hooking up with me, realised that I would wear skirts. She left so fast telling me she couldn't be seen with a girl who wore dresses and skirts. That's some douchebag right there. I am very femme for the most part but I did at a point feel like I should wear more masculine clothes to fit in but then I realised I didn't feel right like that. I had to dress it all up with high heels and make up and spend longer getting ready because it just wasn't me. Each to their own I say!
For a short period in high school I dressed more like a boy to fit i with the other gay girls my age. It was very uncomfortable for me but when I wore the dresses and skirts I felt at home in my orientation was always questioned. I finally stopped caring what they thought because honestly there isn't enough sparkle and lace in the world to keep me happy.
dressing less fem for some women os also a way to take off a hug piece of male attention from them. they will still get some attention put mostly less then if they were dressed fem.
I do that most of the time, and thats why i feel comftble and left alone to do my own buisness. :)
Im going through this right now! just came out a few months ago but ive been going through the whole change of style & looks thing for some time now. kinda like u jess, not to mas. or fem. & im comfortable wit it =]
I look great wearing everything that I put on and nothing on me!! ;0) If you have confidence in yourself you can feel good in anything you do or wear!!!! Question: What is the most pride you take in yourself?
I mostly feel very feminine, but I have days when I feel more masculine as well. Not a phase, just days. No big deal. I'm still me. ;) (And I'm past my 20's).
for me this seems to come in "phases". i have always been more on the girly side, but about two or three times in my life i felt like i wanted to look a little less femine and cut off my hair, changed the way i dress a bit. i think some of that might have also been due to the fact that you become a little more visible as a lesbian, whereas when you are feminine, people tend to automatically assume that you are straight, other gay girls included. hope that makes sense. xo
Thanks for the video Jess...I'm going through this at the moment..I feel stuck in between..I'm more comfortable when I dress casual yet lately I find myself wanting to be a little more "girly"..I'm almost 22 (birthday is this month) and have only recently come out..So this is all still new to me.
I totally feel the same way, not butch or femme, just somewhere inbetween. I've always been known as the jeans and t-shirt gal. A year ago I went through my phase that I wanted to dress like a "girl" because I was tired of all the comments. After accepting myself I just don't care. I love wearing guy skate clothes and as of just a couple months ago I'm completely accepted by myself! :) thank you jess! This video was a nice breather to procrastinating my homework! haha :D
I do kinda dress like a guy.. Sporty kind of girls jeans, nike or adida shoes and just a t-shirt.. I do dress up if I am going out with my friends at night i will wear heels, nice blouse, cute jeans.. I dont wear dresses cuz i feel awkward wearing them.. Just not for me. I would like to dress more femi but I just cant I dont have that really femi side of me of what kind of cute clothes go with what and makeup I dont know how to really put that on.
I never have the urge to dress like a guy and I came out two years ago. I had a boyfriend for 3 years, and fell in love with a girl who I am still with now.. she is my first girlfriend and hopefully my last & I am such a girly girl & don't mind it at all :) She on the other hand, is more butch, but she's sometimes girly at the same time
I am a pansexual female and I also went through a phase where I wanted to be perceived as really masculine. I know this sounds stupid, but I was actually convinced that I was a transman for a few weeks. I realized that I'm not and that it was just a transient thing, but I'll never forget that experience. In my case, such a strong desire to appear male was a phase. However, I go through cycles and sometimes wish to appear more masculine, sometimes more feminine.
I'm 20 and going through something like this now; I am kind of in the middle of being feminine and masculine. I mostly shop in the guy's section for casual clothes. I've been really thinking about cutting my hair short into some super awesome fauxhawk, but I think my family would freak out; I'm not out yet. So as far as style, I'm comfortable, but I'm on the fence about my hair. I'm over having long hair.
I'm a guy. I hope you females out there know how fortunate you are to be able to "dress like a dude", and it still be pretty accepted by society. I myself haven't had the urge, but, what if I DID have the desire to wear a dress? That wouldn't fly at all in our society. So, I do hope you guys realize that you are fortunate to be able to wear "our" clothes and it not be that big of a deal to our society.
@theFriendlyHughes This is one of the issues that I really want to change. The way society views males and how they should act and dress is sad. When ever the opportunity arises, I always try to lend another perspective to those I'm with when they carelessly perpetuate these standards of the way males should act.
@theFriendlyHughes Great point. I really don't understand what's wrong with guys wearing dresses and skirts, and so many people don't even realise this is a double standard.
This is really good advice. One thing I would add is that you do not have to change all in one go. if you are worried about what friends and family may say, try perhaps just adding in a few male clothing articles this way you can ease people into possibly the new you.
Im 22 years old and I went through the "look" stage last summer.. I've always been a "casual" looking girl.. weekends at the club: dress and higheels. did I feel like myself: NOT AT ALL! now ive found myself and everyday I wear button shirts, converse, hats.. I feel so comfortable and attractive
Wow I love your shirt!abd you:)
umbrellacoporation14 22 hours ago
Dear God I love them all...!! I finally found the answer to be and act like myself! :D
angy8yury 1 week ago
i like your glasses.
huffpuffandawaywego 2 weeks ago
I jus dress comfortable. I know care what they say. I am me and I like it!!
mikii211995OGbaby 3 weeks ago
In my 2nd year of high school i also started feeling as if i didnt want to be my femi girly self. i found i felt safer, better, and stronger if i dressed much more masculine and acted that way. i also changed my name to a less femi one (from my middle name) and started being just... more me. it was hard at first to be accepted, but i feel so much better now. just being myself.
kennART666 3 weeks ago
I'm a mix of how I am. I don't identify as either gender, but I am female. I'm sorta masculine, and I'm normally more feminine. I am often called MANY odd things.
TheDeadAsylum 3 weeks ago
I had to watch this twice cos you were so distracting the first time, so beautiful it's unreal! But yeah, you offered really great advice on an issue that must be majorly confusing to go through. You've just got to express whatever you're feeling, otherwise you'll end up living for other people rather than yourself. Good luck and have courage, whoever is going through this or something similar :)
owlstigersbearsohmy 1 month ago
Back in highschool i had this urge and my mom cut my hair semishort and bought guy clothes with me.she thought it was a short phase but i wanted to find out and it felt good,except for the confusion and tough time in school.i'm 20now but still unsure of what i want.tdy short hair-tmr long.tdy blonde-tmr black...thats the case.i'm not through
crenmao 3 months ago
it took me too long to realize that while at university, it's the best time to "do it like a dude." i'm an extremely femme lesbian in general. however, cutting all my hair off and forgoing the makeup was extremely liberating years back. i've since gone back to my femme ways (long hair, makeup, dress), but i'm looking now into attaining a more androgynous look again. SHORT HAIR IS SO CONVENIENT!
sidereally 3 months ago
I feel the same way... not to feminine not to masculine. Just in the middle.
twizzlersandcameras 4 months ago
...wear dresses but i did not feel comfortable in them. Do you.
petluv214 5 months ago
Finding yourself is a very important part of maturing. I too had the experience with not wanting to e
petluv214 5 months ago
I wake up so days and want to wear basketball shorts and a guy shirt and other days i want to wear a skirt... just be true to yourself no matter the clothing.
MsSitiva 6 months ago
wow. I never even thought about it that way, I just always felt more comfortable in guy clothes.
okchick93 6 months ago
How do I email youu??? I have a question and it NEEDS! To get a solution!
Tmbroadway06 6 months ago
without a fuss, i dress more decent now then before :P ...matching for me before was rediculous :P , but now that im 20, i have somewhat of a cool style that i enjoy and that oher ppl do as well. ill never chnage. i like how i am and who i am.
and btw...i loveeeeeeeeeee your tattooo!
itsnotforyou26 6 months ago
ive never been girly in my life. when i was younger i always wanted to wear baggier clothes but when i was younger then 10 years old, i was more into the soccer type of clothing, you know like, t-shirts and shorts with numbers on it, when i got older, i loved the way guys dressed, so i wanted to be like them,. i got away with it but it was a little struggle because my family wanted me to wear girlier clothing when we would go out. but it would always be a fuss. but now i wear whatever i want.
itsnotforyou26 6 months ago
your beautiful! :)
itsnotforyou26 6 months ago
Wat if ur 13?
moebetta04 7 months ago
@moebetta04 That is a good point. I suggest waiting till you're a bit older before exploring that kind of thing; at the moment there are probably a lot of kids at school who'd give you a hard time for that! :)
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amandarox808 7 months ago
I always secretly wanted to dress like a man...
I didnt come out until i was 18, before that i was scared of looking like a lesbian. When i came out i started being more true to what i ACTUALLY wanted, and now i barely buy anything in the girls departments.
I think one of the thing i found scariest, both about coming out and dressing like i wanted.. Was labeling myself like that. But i realized i was just half assing what i really wanted, and never really was happy about my style. I am now :)
Dirtydirtyfag 9 months ago
I'm currently going through this "phase" to be honest. Actually, I worded that wrong - it's more like an intense wave of emotion and curiosity. I want to explore who I am, and learn what type of a person I want to grow and mature as but I'm afraid to make a stupid decision!
BrittanieeAmanda 10 months ago
I'm confused, is she jessie j? she reminds me a lot of her.
littlegirljuststoned 10 months ago
I have always dresses like a dude but seens i am going in to high school mom wants me to be more girly , and does wanting dress like a boy mean something ?! Plus when people mistake me fpr a dude i think its funny,but when boys my age do it kinda hurts my feels.
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animerocks2341 11 months ago
I have always dressed like a guy never been a very girly girl I'm almost 16 and people still say "hey are you a guy or a girl?" and I just ignore them cause I wont let it get to me and I think that anyone else like me should just not listen to pathetic people like that :)
tatchell95 11 months ago
WOW ur eyes are like 2 lil bright blue crystal balls!! :oo i want them :oo x
TheTania1234 11 months ago
i clicked on this thinking you were singing jessie j.
rebbylondon 11 months ago
DO IT LIKE A BROTHER DO IT LIKE A DUDE
sarahcopter 11 months ago 2
When I first came out I felt like I COULD go all-guyish, so I did. Not only because I wanted to (and I did), but prior to that I had been really girly for a long time (the long blonde hair, heels, makeup, whatever) and I almost felt like people wouldn't take me seriously if I came out and didn't change. It sounds pathetic now but that's how it was. A few years on now and I'm not back to girly, but I'm feminine. I just wear what I want, not what straight - or gay - people determine.
mrblueysky 1 year ago
the real l word is casting you should totally do it!!! i would watch it!
TheLaksjdhfg123 1 year ago
U remind me of some1 Off glee ! Btw I'm not gay not that there is nothing wrong with it.
elliejadecozens 1 year ago
Hey, I am the girl who sent this email :) My jaw dropped to the floor when I found out that all beavers were answering my question. (I was a bit excited!)
Thank you so much for the advice. It was really interesting and helpful to hear about your experience. It was obviously very different from mine...I definitely wasn't a tomboy-ish child, but I guess I will get to explore that side of myself now, and I am excited to.
prccgeek 1 year ago
I gave my girl days and my guy days. Sometimes I feel like dressing up more girly. But than I have the days that I like to dress more guyish. It happens. And Jess I have gone through that you like the way they are not really like them. I want to cut my hair short but my mom doesn't like it and she always messes with me and calls me a little boy. Mt gf rlly wants me to do it. In stuck in the middle advice?
SARANATOR7 1 year ago
I love guy clothes sooo much!!! I always always wear guy sweatshirts and shirts :D want some guy jeans and boxers, but idk if thats going too far... I also always wear converse which is kinda guyish.
Jadegoth27 1 year ago
When I was in elementary school, up until 8th grade I dressed in guys clothes, exclusively. Then, I don't know, something just changed. I moved to a new state and felt that it was time to re-invent myself I suppose and started wearing women's clothing. It's still a little bit tomboy; it has a sort of indie feel, but it's not as masculine as it use to be. I sneak in boxer shorts every now and then. ^_^ Currently, I'm in 11th grade and I am way to tired to give a shit about the way I dress, lol.
hurleysk8r777 1 year ago
i've been dressing in dude clothes for a while, cuz it's my style. Sweet pants, vest/sweater, and a gay pride shirt, short hair. And i get called a dude all the time. I'm just butch and like it. omg u will never catch me in a dress.
dashigara12 1 year ago
I think that having the choice to express yourself the way you want is good. I've always worn what was comfortable which was usually guys clothes. & it use to be alright with people until I cut off all my long hair to short boyish hair right after high school. I found it fit me perfectly, but everyone judged me and hated on me. What's the big deal, I was already wearing boys clothes. I think I look f**kin sexy haha. Love Beaverbunch! xo
skippydidado 1 year ago
I have also been going through slome changes with looks haha! at the begining of this university year my hair was to my boobs, then I cut it to above the shoulders, then i cut it shorter, now I am rocking a mohawk. I still love to wear skirts and knee socks, but a tthe same time I want to wear plaid and binders.
TheDecoraHippie1992 1 year ago
Ive always been a tomboy, and when i was younger i would always have short hair because my hair was so thick. But when i was younger kids would ALWAYS make fun of me. It isnt till now that i went back to short hair i mean its about two inches up front and and in in the bak. I can honestly say i have never felt better in my skin then i do now, and im pretty sure i will keep my hair short all the time now.
goodoljoey 1 year ago
I have always been kinda tomboyish but now i have a weird urge to look like a girl and wear makeup and nice clothes but nvr a dress
rawrblahso 1 year ago 12
@rawrblahso omg me too!!!
stacyandclinton 3 weeks ago
I'm not quite out yet to my parents and I dress more boyish but i have my girly days. My mother has been on my case about being more girly ever since I cut my hair really short and started being more open about how I dress. She tends to compare me with other women, including herself about femininity. She's also the type of person who really cares about what people think. I believe she knows I'm gay and she's just in denial but she's being a little more open with me now
michiluvsreptar 1 year ago
nothing is dumber to me than clothes and material having sexes. It's material. How do you place gender on material? ya kno
dancesonpoles 1 year ago
For me, I am kind of doing the opposite. I was always kind of the tomboy. There was one day in high school that I wore a skirt and leggings and everyone was like WOAH! Lol. Now I've been becoming more girly and I think I am really finding myself. I think whoever wrote in should take Jess's advice and just kind of go with it/be open. It's pretty normal well to me anyway.
thinksmiles 1 year ago
No more Jess and Mary B?? That sucks :( You guys were my favorite couple on the Youtube :(
s8ntmark 1 year ago 13
@s8ntmark theyre still together. when did she say they werent?
dancesonpoles 1 year ago
@dancesonpoles In MaryBs new video she says they aren't. :(
s8ntmark 1 year ago
@s8ntmark oh...well thats sad..i wonder why
dancesonpoles 1 year ago
I remember how freeing it was chopping my hair off.... I felt like my long hair weighed me down and tied me to down to societies acceptance of beauty. I often have the itch to go short and let out the inner suppressed "granola lesbian" that is hiding. I envy the more masculine type, they can just do whatever and it looks great. Being fem is rough....
merriberri007 1 year ago
i like baggy clothes but my mom knows im gay and wont buy me guys clothes and still trys to get me to wear these stupid girly clothes it sucks! but great video!
softballluver90 1 year ago
I was a tomboy, but as puberty hit there was definitely pressure to be more feminine. I forced myself into thinking that i was supposed to dress more girly, after all i never saw an example of an alternative. I felt terribly self-conscious and awkward. I put on a lot of weight due to being depressed, i felt like i wasn't expressing my true self. I did some soul searching and realized that i needed to be me. Now i've lost 40lbs and i look kinda hot as the boi i am. Be you, that's my advice.
Mattly2 1 year ago
as a lesbian i just went through a phase where i felt the need to explore feelings i was having, so went from "girly" to "butch", cut my hair short, started wearing baggy clothes and just foundation for make-up. it felt great to just be this persona for awhile. my hair has grown since then and im back to wearing more make-up and tighter jeans. i feel just as comfortable now as i did then. i needed that time to explore who i wanted to be and i want to be me and the clothes dont matter =)
ajaeflower 1 year ago
awesome video jess! :)
i absolutely agree with everything you say... i live in a city which is very famous for its fashion, but i don't really fit in its parameters regarding what the style is right now! i also dress more like a guy and i feel very comfortable with it. i want to get a boyish hair cut.
i don't like going out here because mostly girls have to wear dresses and boys suits. my friends don't understand why i can't just wear a dress for one evening. so i don't go out here.
becausepinkisthebest 1 year ago
What happens to me is that I love ties, But whenever I wear ties I feel like everyone is looking at me (which I believe is not true, it might just be the way I feel) so even thou I love ties I can't bring myself to wear them without feeling uneasy.
skaterdarkis 1 year ago
Funny :)
The way you dress can have very strong effects. When I go out I pretty much pull out the CLOWN style. It is my style now Bitches! Of course I have reasons to do so [ah those who know me] But.. yeah for that night I deviate from my usual standard attire. And instead wear extra colourful and crazy!
masticina 1 year ago
i love how you're saying it's cold in california.
(although i know relativity speaks louder
than Kanye at the MTV music awards...)
also, 5th grade is when our true style is developed...
i went through a 6 year "suit phase"....my mom loved it.
the end. love, clyde
clydevalentine2240 1 year ago
I've always dressed pretty neutrally, not overly masculine and not overly feminine, although at Halloween I always like to be a boy character.
jenrefen 1 year ago
Did you go to the University of Hawaii at Manoa?
asktheofw 1 year ago
This is a great topic. I shaved my head too! One of the most liberating things I've ever done. I went through a similar phase. I was pretty fem in highschool but when I got to college I wanted to change my image to explore other ways of expressing who I wanted to be. Now I'm kinda androge with hints of fem and I've felt more confident than ever. It's a fun process. Don't feel anxious be adventuresome and enjoy it!
jbschott3 1 year ago
Its nice to know I can wear jeans and a t when I feel like it (witch is most of the time!) and a dress when I have to, I love being a girl (and girls but that's another story.)
paramoreFan642 1 year ago
When I was in middle school, i went thru this phase where i only wanted to wear my brothers clothes. he was a couple years older than me, but around my size. It lasted for about 3 years. then when i hit highschool, i started dressing really girly & decided to cheer again like in primary. & now, im stilll pretty girly. lol.
leannnicole91 1 year ago
I'm pretty much a tomboy when it comes to what I wear. I don't wear dresses or skirts a lot, but people say I look fantastic when I do. I think it's great that we can pretty much wear whatever we want (sorry guys!).
P.S. Jess- Do It Like a Dude? Fantastic song. Thanks for turning me on to it!
GabbyXena100 1 year ago
I never felt like myself in makeup or dresses and the sort. I really wanted to wear a nice tux to prom, but i felt pressured by everyone to do what was 'normal'. Looking back on it i really wish i had just said fuck it, and did what made me comfortable. Live and learn.
smartalec452 1 year ago
THANK YOU for bringing up this topic! I think my style confuses a lot of people... My physical features (ie. hair, makeup etc) would lead one to believe I'm feminine, but my clothing ranges from girly work clothes to baggy band t-shirts and Vans. I like the best of both worlds. I am a tomboy, but I like nail polish and pink earrings too. The bottom line is that you have to make yourself happy, bc there will always be negativity. Love YOU & do what makes YOU comfortable.
mesmerizedelf 1 year ago 2
omg! this is totally normal for me! sometimes I dress up as a total butch chick and sometimes as a girly girl. it's part of finding yourself and being comfortable. maybe one day I can damn pick what I want to perceive myself as but I don't mind just being undecisive! I don't believe it is about sexual orientation btw.
sarahhification 1 year ago
ive always been boyish and dressed more like a guy, then it came to high school and i dont know why but i felt pressured to dress more girly which i didnt feel comfatable with, so latly ive become more comfatable in being myself and dresing how i want to dress.
pigzy500 1 year ago
Guy clothing is incredibly comfortable >.< Most women sacrifice comfort for beauty. I do not do this. I also "Do it like a dude", Mens clothing is much more practical as well.
Riorach 1 year ago
UH tank nice
bandgeek34 1 year ago
I went through the same thing but with me I was very young and all I would wear was camo. But later my mom stopped letting me dress like that and forced me to dress girly. She would make me wear dresses and pink and things like that. I never felt comfortable. I would literally cry when she made me wear things like that. Now I'm in high school and dress how I want. I wear mens clothing and hardly own or wear any womens clothing. I completely understand what you guys are going through.
sample0175 1 year ago
I have felt the same desire to dress up in mens clothing. Every few days I tend to wear mens shirts or more masculine clothing but it's always with a feminine touch I guess you could say.
SunOutOfTheDarkness 1 year ago
I mix it up, short hairstyle, but i still wear makeup. "Guys" shirts with "girls" pants and vice versa...whatever the hell i feel like wearing at the time, I put on. Some days I bind my chest, other days I don't. They're just clothes, they're inanimate objects that have no gender.
SharinganBlossom91 1 year ago 2
Hell yeahh Univertiy of Hawaii.
xerinx20 1 year ago
feesh!
mucho love. gotta love mondays with jess
michiluvsreptar 1 year ago
I'm pretty inbetween with my style. I'm most comfortable when I'm in guy jeans and a tight shirt, but seeing as my mom has a tendency to throw out my guy jeans, I'm usually in skinny jeans and still a tight shirt. Once I go off to school I'm going to buy guy jeans again tho, they're just more comfortable!
mihomi98 1 year ago
Iv allways had long hair untill last summer i told my mom i wanted to cut it and used the xcuss i wanted to donate it... in the end i did donate it and my hair is really short.. i dressed like a dude all my life and my hair just wasnt working out...
itsjessina 1 year ago
Why did you and Mary B break up? :(
weirdalyancovic1234 1 year ago
@weirdalyancovic1234
Did they really break up...? Oh God.
retrovodka 1 year ago
@weirdalyancovic1234 I'm not a fan of answering questions on our videos because there are typically so many... check out our facebook and I promise you'll find the answer to this.
cautiousplay 1 year ago
I'm 17 and in a year I went from 100% femme to 100% butch. I am sooooo much more happy with myself now:) just wear whatever makes you happy! If other people have negative comments just tell them to keep it to themselves.
Jess- are you a fan of the University of Hawaii? Haha nice shirt!
BrittParker23 1 year ago
I was totally the other way. My family couldn't get me out of dresses until I was about 11. Some things are just awkward to do in a skirt!
Now I switch depending on how I feel in the morning. Sometimes I'll wear a pretty dress or a skirt and heels, sometimes I'll raid my brother's wardrobe for the day (or stuff I buy in the men's section) Whatever feels right at the time.
Pixiesoapbox 1 year ago
I'm a straight female. By appearance, I look like what many would stereotype as a lesbian. Extremely short hair, gender neutral clothes, no makeup, etc. It wasn't until I was 21/22 that I really started to embrace what I felt comfortable wearing and doing in terms of my appearance. Thankfully, my husband of 3 1/2 years loves this about me and loves my "image". Living in a more conservative area in the Midwest (an affluent area north of Indy), I get a lot of looks. :)
MissDjDePo 1 year ago
@MissDjDePo I'm so glad that you responded to my video this week. I'm always very interested to hear stories from the straight community. thanks for sharing :)
jess.
cautiousplay 1 year ago
I didn't think it was possible, but your reference to Jessie J just made this video 1000x better.
musicexplorer17 1 year ago
I've always hated dresses and skirts and my mom was cool with that but my dad tries to force them on me but I shan't wear them! I shan't!'
simplayaj 1 year ago
I Want to see a picture of your shaved head!!
eparized 1 year ago 45
ok well first off i would like to say hi to everyone...but i want to know if anyone could give me advice for the way my hair looks...i have hair that is down to my shoulders and im getting tired of it...and i want to cut it but my parents wont let me get it cut the way i want to...should i just do it anyway or should i just deal with it...and i also dont like dresses and skirts i just wear some bball shorts and skinny jeans with band tshirts and sometimes a tie...and i love it <3.thx for reading
4444bird4444 1 year ago
@4444bird4444 Compromise with them on a shorter hairstyle. Once you move out you can do whatever you want. Just don't get on their bad side while you're still financially dependent and what not.
rockinthepride 1 year ago
@rockinthepride ok thx...i will try and talk them into it but i will see wat happens...cause my parents are not strict but they dont like when i go and "do something stupid" like going and cutting my hair with out them knowing until the next day haha...i will toughen it out...but thanks again
4444bird4444 1 year ago
@4444bird4444 anytime. good luck, friend!
rockinthepride 1 year ago
@4444bird4444 Hey! I used to have pretty long hair as well. My mom would never let me cut it, but as I got older she began to let me do what I want within reason. It was down to my lower back and then she let me cut it below my shoulders. From there I got it shoulder length then just above my shoulders. Now she lets me do what I ever I want and part comes to mid-ear while the other side comes just below my jawline. Compromise! <3 Eventually they'll probably let you do what you want. ^^
xShiizam 1 year ago
@xShiizam thanks for the advice i will try and do that...its just like they dont understand me...like they dont want me to grow up...any way thanks again
4444bird4444 1 year ago
@4444bird4444 You're welcome! And I know what you mean, my mom was the same way. But yeah. I hope they begin to understand you over time and I hope everything works out! <3
xShiizam 1 year ago
My parents loved dressing me up in dresses when I was a little kid. As I grew up I hated wearing dresses, so I beged my parents to get me skirts. But by high school, I had convinced my parents to let me wear dress pants and decent shirts to church and weddings. Amazingly enough they understood that I was more comfortable in pants than skirts or dresses, so they were happy to give me dress pants for christmas eearly in high school
ppmusic06 1 year ago
hello all :)
I have most definitely felt this way. For me, its sporadic. It happens every so often. Usually I try to dress more androgynous, but there are days I feel like dressing really masculine. I have my girly days too, but those are more rare.
TattooedVogue 1 year ago
@regineli & @pigeon309 haha thank you :) <3
Thischannelhasnoname 1 year ago
I remember in third grade wearing baggy pants and a sports t shirt and thinking I was hot stuff. I would fake grab my crotch like a rapper. But I have this memory, obviously, because something clicked. I dressed really not feminine in middle school, but when high school came, I dressed girly like all the other girls. Now i'm a senior and I've finally found what i'm most comfortable in. A nice mix of mens fashion one day and very feminine the next. I make sure i'm fully comfortable each day.
xSophieCuyler 1 year ago
Jess i love you! :D
MrDamnS 1 year ago
I'm in a weird situation. About four years ago, I started getting more and more masculine, until I finally ended up convincing myself I was a transsexual. I later stopped feeling that way, and then near the end of last year, I started getting occasional but strong urges to appear like, and sometimes even actually be, a guy. It's strange, because sometimes I feel fine being female, sometimes even feminine, but then I need to be masculine again.
pigeon309 1 year ago
@pigeon309 I absolutely understand what you're talking about. I'm finally at a point with myself where I'm comfortable just being me... definitely not a lady but also not super masculine. Somewhere in the middle fits me perfectly.
cautiousplay 1 year ago
@cautiousplay Thankyou, it's good to know you understand. All the people I know personally seem fairly comfortable in their assigned sexes, but I'm still a teenager, and I guess I've got a lot to learn about the world. I'm glad you found what makes you comfortable. I hope one day I can do the same.
pigeon309 1 year ago
so...I feel really stupid asking this but...What does ''Pansexual'' mean?
Thischannelhasnoname 1 year ago
@Thischannelhasnoname Pansexual means you can be attracted to people in general, regardless of both physical sex and mental gender.
pigeon309 1 year ago
@Thischannelhasnoname Meh, you don't need to feel stupid. Pansexual means that you are attracted to people based on their personality and the person as a whole; and their gender, sexuality or gender identity plays no part on why you like them. In a nutshell.. I guess.
regineli 1 year ago
1 person doesn't wear clothes haha
truthspeaksv0lume 1 year ago 2
I think nowadays I found my thing and it's something near to a tomboy. It wasn't forced, it just happened. But it's funny, 'cause I make videoblogs too here in Brazil and some people ask on the comment section if I'm a girl or a guy. It happens a lot and I used to get offended, but now I just think it's funny. People who know me in person don't have this doubt, but maybe video is something confusing...
Kisses!
marinaxisto 1 year ago
@marinaxisto I think it's great that you've gotten to a point where you just laugh off the comments. When making videos, you really have to take most with a grain of salt and keep recording :)
cautiousplay 1 year ago
this vid is really like perfect for this moment in my life :D I love the idea of the five natural forces,I have a tattoo with that same message.I'm pansexual and also have strong interest in these clothes,world-percieve-me issues.I'd been dressing as a guy for at least 6 years,maybe more.now I kind of combine my feminine and my mascular and it feels great.just do whatever makes u feel good.peace
JanIsBoy5 1 year ago
Ahh, I love your long videos,
Queerdification 1 year ago
@Queerdification Haha I'm glad someone does! Someone once made a video parody of the 5 Beavers and in my video they said my videos are too long... so I cut them in half! :)
cautiousplay 1 year ago
when i was a child i didn't care about clothes. i wore "androgyne" clothes as well as dresses. when i got older i started to dress more girly, especially from about 13-16. now i'm 18 and i basically wear "androgyne" clothes again and i feel totally comfortable with it.
btw, my sister is kinda the opposite. as a child she was quite a tomboy and now she dresses very girly.
so, i think it's ok for everyone to dress the way they want to. especially guys, if you feel like dressing feminine, do it.
tlcfreak2510 1 year ago
I always wore guys clothes when I was in primary school. But when I went to high school I tried to fit in and dressed more girly, also because of a sort of bullying. I was tired of everyone shouting when I was cycling home; 'hey are you a guy or a girl?' In the end it didn't work for me, to be all that girly. This year I went to college and I met a LOT of other gay people. They (and all other straight college friends) are far more open minded. So I'm 'guyish' again. And I feel more like myself.
sannevdwal 1 year ago 22
Love the tattoo jess!
chellehrtsnapo 1 year ago 5
@chellehrtsnapo thanks!
cautiousplay 1 year ago
when i was in 3rd and 4th grade nobody really cared because they didnt know the difference. i always wore my hair back, collared shirts from the guys section jeans and timberlands. over all i looked like a hard core prison gaurd. i went through one year of middle school and came out with my hair straightened everyday, the cute skinni jeans and converse with frilly tops. middle school just chews you up and spits you out. i still cant wait to get home and throw on basketball shorts and a t-shirt
mrandmsglove 1 year ago
I have a similar feling in phases, there are times that I wear a lot of skirts and bodycon clothing and there are phases that I live in baggy jeans with a tanktop/t-shirt. Dress the way you want to, wear something you feel confident in.
Iammejustthatone 1 year ago
5:56 = too cute :)
Love, love, love your sleeve! It's beautiful!
Great advice, as always, Jess! Thanks!
allyjoYAknow 1 year ago
@allyjoYAknow thank you very much :)
cautiousplay 1 year ago
i went through a similar phase and had to ditch it for work as i felt uncomfortable in my guy clothes in my new job. i must say it was nothing that anyway said, it was just me. i wear girl clothes now but would never wer skirts as i really don't feel they fit my body.
my gf wears guy clothes and over the years she owns nothing for girls. some of its too loose and not masculine just bad fitting. i have really started to get her into girl brands in masculine fit which looks really good
jigglypuffgirl 1 year ago
I'm gay and dress pretty much like Jess does, not completly butch but not completly femm either..
i think that's what's hard to figure out for alot of girls, since it's not just a matter of suits/dresses, but more fluid than that.
good luck to all :)
nolwennrenault 1 year ago
This girl has the best smile.
Whateverintheworld 1 year ago
i stopped wearing feminine clothes when i was about 11 i think. my mum just stopped trying and let me know it was okay to not want to look like a girl
now i confuse people so much with my dress sense, i dress like a complete guy but still have big boobs. i get called sir alot :D
jess i dont now why pretty much the whole beaver bunch apologises about having long videos? the longer the better the way i see it!
megsvideos123 1 year ago
go hawaii!!!
alohanikki93 1 year ago
I'm going through this right now...im gradually coming out and im trying to figure out how i feel the most comfortable; the point is that it kind of changes all the time so on one side im happy that being a girl i am free to pick whatever i feel like wearing even if its less feminine, but on the other hand i feel like the friends im out to question my being a lesbian whenever i wear heels or i put on a little more make up. i just wish people understood that it isnt all black or white
AlyLunatika 1 year ago
Great video this week, Jess. I went through a similar faze in high school, only it was the opposite. Everyone thought I was gay so I dressed very feminine, but I wore a lot of dark clothes. Of course, then, everything changed and I wasn't gay anymore, I was 'the goth', which was worse. Anyway, I'm straight and since college I've really been able to come to terms with myself. People now accept me and accept that just because I don't always dress girly, doesn't automatically make me gay.
acaterpiller 1 year ago
Aw, thank you so much for showing your tattoos! I feel so happy that you took the time to show us! :D
Your sleeve looks very nice. I especially like the flower. Very pretty. The colours are gorgeous.
acaterpiller 1 year ago
Once, a girl, after hooking up with me, realised that I would wear skirts. She left so fast telling me she couldn't be seen with a girl who wore dresses and skirts. That's some douchebag right there. I am very femme for the most part but I did at a point feel like I should wear more masculine clothes to fit in but then I realised I didn't feel right like that. I had to dress it all up with high heels and make up and spend longer getting ready because it just wasn't me. Each to their own I say!
aphrosie66 1 year ago
For a short period in high school I dressed more like a boy to fit i with the other gay girls my age. It was very uncomfortable for me but when I wore the dresses and skirts I felt at home in my orientation was always questioned. I finally stopped caring what they thought because honestly there isn't enough sparkle and lace in the world to keep me happy.
bellamorgella 1 year ago
dressing less fem for some women os also a way to take off a hug piece of male attention from them. they will still get some attention put mostly less then if they were dressed fem.
I do that most of the time, and thats why i feel comftble and left alone to do my own buisness. :)
SoraQuasar 1 year ago
Im going through this right now! just came out a few months ago but ive been going through the whole change of style & looks thing for some time now. kinda like u jess, not to mas. or fem. & im comfortable wit it =]
V33queen 1 year ago
I look great wearing everything that I put on and nothing on me!! ;0) If you have confidence in yourself you can feel good in anything you do or wear!!!! Question: What is the most pride you take in yourself?
Diggz0 1 year ago
thanks jess it really helps me alot
im so in love wit u no joke ur the most beautiful woman ever (:
ilsekritel 1 year ago
@ilsekritel aww you're very sweet.
cautiousplay 1 year ago
I mostly feel very feminine, but I have days when I feel more masculine as well. Not a phase, just days. No big deal. I'm still me. ;) (And I'm past my 20's).
purplebookfairy 1 year ago
why did you two break up?
Cturne16 1 year ago
for me this seems to come in "phases". i have always been more on the girly side, but about two or three times in my life i felt like i wanted to look a little less femine and cut off my hair, changed the way i dress a bit. i think some of that might have also been due to the fact that you become a little more visible as a lesbian, whereas when you are feminine, people tend to automatically assume that you are straight, other gay girls included. hope that makes sense. xo
Julikate 1 year ago
@Julikate *feminine
Julikate 1 year ago
:)
1202o 1 year ago
Thanks for the video Jess...I'm going through this at the moment..I feel stuck in between..I'm more comfortable when I dress casual yet lately I find myself wanting to be a little more "girly"..I'm almost 22 (birthday is this month) and have only recently come out..So this is all still new to me.
Mskcmo 1 year ago
I totally feel the same way, not butch or femme, just somewhere inbetween. I've always been known as the jeans and t-shirt gal. A year ago I went through my phase that I wanted to dress like a "girl" because I was tired of all the comments. After accepting myself I just don't care. I love wearing guy skate clothes and as of just a couple months ago I'm completely accepted by myself! :) thank you jess! This video was a nice breather to procrastinating my homework! haha :D
TheMalloblaster 1 year ago
I do kinda dress like a guy.. Sporty kind of girls jeans, nike or adida shoes and just a t-shirt.. I do dress up if I am going out with my friends at night i will wear heels, nice blouse, cute jeans.. I dont wear dresses cuz i feel awkward wearing them.. Just not for me. I would like to dress more femi but I just cant I dont have that really femi side of me of what kind of cute clothes go with what and makeup I dont know how to really put that on.
claudia1515 1 year ago
I never have the urge to dress like a guy and I came out two years ago. I had a boyfriend for 3 years, and fell in love with a girl who I am still with now.. she is my first girlfriend and hopefully my last & I am such a girly girl & don't mind it at all :) She on the other hand, is more butch, but she's sometimes girly at the same time
blaytonx04 1 year ago
I am a pansexual female and I also went through a phase where I wanted to be perceived as really masculine. I know this sounds stupid, but I was actually convinced that I was a transman for a few weeks. I realized that I'm not and that it was just a transient thing, but I'll never forget that experience. In my case, such a strong desire to appear male was a phase. However, I go through cycles and sometimes wish to appear more masculine, sometimes more feminine.
FM897 1 year ago
I'm 20 and going through something like this now; I am kind of in the middle of being feminine and masculine. I mostly shop in the guy's section for casual clothes. I've been really thinking about cutting my hair short into some super awesome fauxhawk, but I think my family would freak out; I'm not out yet. So as far as style, I'm comfortable, but I'm on the fence about my hair. I'm over having long hair.
Kriz1090 1 year ago
I'm a guy. I hope you females out there know how fortunate you are to be able to "dress like a dude", and it still be pretty accepted by society. I myself haven't had the urge, but, what if I DID have the desire to wear a dress? That wouldn't fly at all in our society. So, I do hope you guys realize that you are fortunate to be able to wear "our" clothes and it not be that big of a deal to our society.
theFriendlyHughes 1 year ago 93
@theFriendlyHughes This is one of the issues that I really want to change. The way society views males and how they should act and dress is sad. When ever the opportunity arises, I always try to lend another perspective to those I'm with when they carelessly perpetuate these standards of the way males should act.
Kaizen800 1 year ago
@theFriendlyHughes Great point. I really don't understand what's wrong with guys wearing dresses and skirts, and so many people don't even realise this is a double standard.
pigeon309 1 year ago
This is really good advice. One thing I would add is that you do not have to change all in one go. if you are worried about what friends and family may say, try perhaps just adding in a few male clothing articles this way you can ease people into possibly the new you.
eaglebreath5 1 year ago 2
Is it strange to say that when I dress up like a feminine girl, I get this gut retched feeling in my stomach?
But when I dress casually, or "like a guy" I feel completely comfortable?
I'm a completely straight girl as well.
MartyMcflyGirl 1 year ago 49
Is it true that if you shave your head your hair might not grow back the same way it was before?
EMHPicardo 1 year ago
Im 22 years old and I went through the "look" stage last summer.. I've always been a "casual" looking girl.. weekends at the club: dress and higheels. did I feel like myself: NOT AT ALL! now ive found myself and everyday I wear button shirts, converse, hats.. I feel so comfortable and attractive
robymtzny 1 year ago
that was my tattoo request! Yay thank you!<3 Great tats, love the bluejay!
r1ssky 1 year ago
Love it!
Heatherhjj09 1 year ago