Quando eu fui a São Paulo, eu achei muito esquisito porque em geral as pessoas se cumprimentam apertando mãos e beijando de um lado só. Aqui onde eu moro, Salvador-BA, varia demais de pessoa pra pessoa e eu nunca sei o que fazer, me sinto socialmente inapta, rs. Por essas e outras, toda vez que eu preciso cumprimentar alguém, a vontade que eu tenho é de sair correndo e gritando. Achei que fosse a única até assistir ao seu vídeo. :)
eh verdade Leticia ... ja fui correndo me esconder bastante vezes... Meu pesadelo eh um dia precisar cumprimentar o time de volleyball feminino...juro que vou morrer. :P
in romania we just wave when we see each other and only if we are good friends or near relatives we kiss on the cheek(this happens on fem-fem and fem-man) and between mans (it dosen`t matter if they are relatives or anything else) they shake hands.:)
I worked with some Romanian guys and they were always shaking my hand, then I stopped working with them and I continued trying to shake hands with people of my own nationality and they began to think I was weird and it all got embarassing and very disconcerting.
What we need are globalized people that all have the same customs.
@donnyab Even if they tought it was weird, I think they should have acted normally. On Earth are a lot of diffrent civilizations, so we must act suitable.
In Texas we wave, shake hands and/or hug but no kisses unless at least one of you is Hispanic and you are both female. Then you peck on the cheek if you know them pretty well. I do get confused sometimes whether I should hug or not. I guess girls usually hug. Guys either one.
hahha1 Nice video, well here in Chile we always say hello with a kiss on the cheek for women and a handshake for men; hugs are for friends or relatives...xD
Oh well. What I do is that I don't give a rat's butt and just give 'em a peck on the cheek, with my lips right there, planted on her cheek. If it's a guy, handshake. If I feel like the mod is right, half hug. :)
In my country we mostly shake hands....but if you haven't seen someone in a very long time you hug aswell...we like almost never kiss on the cheak, only for birthdays...are'nt we cool :P..LOL
[[Giggles]] ach it's so horrible meeting people and not knowing how to greet them =O
[[shudder]] it's like once when I did what you were talking about with the peck but they did at the same time and.. [[shiver]] please don't make me continue.
I lived in Brasil. I know all about the awkward kiss thing. Not only do you have to decide if they're going kiss you, shake your hand, or hug you, you also have to decide how many times they're going to kiss you. What is it again, twice if you're married, three times if you're single?
And I hate shaking hands. I would rather not. I will hug my friends. Kiss my Brasilians. Nod politely at acquaintances.
O.K. Daniel, a hint from your stateside mom-friend.You..hunky young man. Her..pretty young girl. Go for the kiss, man. They don't kiss ya when you get old and farty.
Woow~~.. This is probably one of your top 5 videos.
Very, very great. And I agree with you. Where is that old good "shake hands"?.. Well I never go to public so I don't have problems like these anymore.. But stuff like this happen to me even between my family..
My uncle come and say "Hi" i say "hi" .. and then we just look at ourselfs saying "what now?"..
Greetings differ. One thing remains the same. -You don't hug/kiss your dentist.- It's called the doc/patient relationship. It's why eye docs don't say "My! Your eyes are so bee-uutiful!" and dermatologists "My! Your skin is so silky, it reminds me of black velvet in the winter!" It makes you comfortable as he/she is poking/prodding around. So if my dentist ever wanted a hug, I'd likely cross my arms, smile sweetly, and say "aw aren't ya sweet, are ya sweet enough to tear up my bill?"
We made this a second time and by then it was the most horrible greeting-situation I ever experienced and then finally I decided just to go straight ahead and just hug her, come what may, so we hugged but it was a most uncomfortable, embarassing hug, and, for making all this even worse, there was the friend that introduced me to her standing there and watching us so now the whole situation was just doomed!
I'll wear a sign with clear instructions from now on, seriously!
Had an horrible situation some days ago! I met a friend's friend, i decided to be very kind and hug her, but she seemed to be confused by that and didn't act like she wanted to hug her, so I decided to drop the hug-thing but in that very moment she decided it would be a good idea to hug my anyway, so I went back in the same moment when she went forward to hug me. We both noticed that the other one changed her mind, so I wanted to hug her again and she wanted to shake hands again.
Hey, Daniel I've noticed a pattern with your vids..."cute, young, slightly nerdy guy has trouble with social interaction and wonders if other people feel the same way." Am I right??
I wave and say hi. Friends may get a hug, if I haveven't/won't see them in a while. Yah, I agree with you. and then there are new people..do you shake their hand? Some people insist on shaking hands, and others think its weird...so theres always that awkward look on your face....then there are the gentlement who do the peck thing. That's kinda awkward too, when they lean in, do you peck, or hug? We'll never know....
I live in Brussels, Belgium. Greeting people here is quite simple: people kiss each other on the cheek three times... It's not unusual to see two men doing this either, it does not, in any way, mean they're gay. It's very rare that I've needed to only shake hands with someone. I only usually shake hands with people I'm meeting during formal occasions. Obviously, when I'm seeing friends I haven't seen in a while, I hug them...
Although, I do tend to hug my friends at school a lot, one of them being Isabelle (who says "hi" by the way) who's a right cutie and a joy to hug. Yeah don't ask, I'm kind of addicted to hugging at the moment, I'm a bit weird. Although I like to think I'm special...
EEK! You are SO cute. I could just sprinkle you on a cupcake.
I don't know. Here in Canada, it kind of varies with each province, but in B.C. we're pretty laid back and tend to either shake hands or hug. In Quebec, they kind of hug and air-kiss.
What does the poster behind you say? All I can see is "Vlogger's Nirvana".
you should come to norway. people are so cold here, almost no one hugs or pecks on each other. If they dont know each other pretty well. I dont say that you're a cold person! But most norwegians are, makes it easier thou ;) Love the vid by the way! you always put a smile on my face
Wow, this is a really good topic and I totally missed this video until now! One thing that I like to do is take the lead - if somebody introduces me to someone else, I stick my hand out as I say, "Hi, nice to meet you". Works out really well, because it takes care of the physical question immediately and my intentions are clear to the other person. I've met people who do cheek pecks or hugs with the same confidence that I do a handshake, and it's never akward because they are so confident.
Oh my GOD, this is so true! My best friend hangs out with people in all the cliques, so when I'm talking to her other friends, I have to keep it straight! It's so crazy! Maybe we are just too nerdy.
*writes a note reading "Shake My Hand" and sticks it to her shirt*
yes for cultural clashes! from going to either a mature wave =P or a handshake to suddently have to kiss strangers on both cheeks =S was very awkward. thanks for another great vid !
Hmmm I guess I am just a HUG MAGNET? I dunno, but to me most of the time a hug is a very comforting way to greet many people. Most of the time however I will offer my handshake first. Yes there are so many different cultures that do clash with greetings. But I tend to get away with more than I should for some reason =) Maybe I am turning into a dirty ol lady I dunno ROFL
Not so long ago we had this South American guy over for dinner (I live in Australia). I met him earlier on in the day and we greeted by shaking hands. As he was leaving, I stuck out my hand to say goodbye, but he gave me a peck on the cheek instead! I didn't know what to do with my hand, so I tried to pretend it just swayed forward for no reason whatsoever. =/
I don't like it when we go to churches and the pastor says everyone ought to hug (or MUST hug)! I just don't go around hugging everyone who happened to show up to one of our concerts. There's a skill involved in dodging someone who wants to hug a bit too comfy-like for comfort, if you know what I mean :p
When I went to Brazil, I found it totally awkward. Because...everyone I met who knew my grandparents all wanted to do the "two pecks" thing... but they didn't hug or anything. Every time it looked to me as if they were coming in for a hug, so I reciprocated. It was awkward because it always ended up that I was hugging them and they were kissing my ear...
We say "Hey, how ya doin'?" as we walk by and the other person says "Fine, you?" as THEY walk by, the end result being that no one really knows how anyone else is but they did their duty by asking anyway. :-P
I usually just stand there and let them hug/kiss me or whatever. If they hug me, i put one arm around them, to make it look like i'm hugging them. I wait and see what they want to do. If they do nothing, I just say "Hi" or "bye" and maybe wave or something. We need those stickers!!
The old greek lady one time dud the whole kiss on both cheeks, I wasen't sure what to do, so I ended up doing that twice, it was incredibly akward, and I was the only one who got the whole kiss on both cheeks thing.
hug me. :D My roommate and I have been trying to teach a lady friend in distress (mostly her fault....) proper greetings, and proper associations w/ the opposite sex. Mostly, by telling her, "you know, guys are turned on by hugs. Don't hug guys."
haha! Great video, dude. Those situations are so awkward! Next time I'll probably think of this video and laugh, adding to the awkwardness of the situation.
as for the kiss/hug combo... it's terribly confusing. always go straight for the hug and then the other person's kissing you and you're already past that stage and if you're lucky they just have to bend a little more but if you're not it ends up next to your ear and then you're stuck wondering if you ought to try to go back and kiss after that or just give it up as a lost cause.
I like kenneth's point. I don't usually initiate, but I'd imagine it'd be less awkward if I did.
I'm half Swedish and half Dutch. In Sweden we only hug and shake hands, and in The Netherlands we kiss on the cheek. It's funny how it can be so different from country to country xD
With my moms side of the family, shes raised jewish, so we peck on the cheek, my dads side, just normal hugs, someone ive never met before, handshake. and then friends, i give hungs too if they are girls lol
lol! Yeah, I know what your talking about. I've found that, as other people on here have said, its least awkward if you initiate it. Whatever it is. A handshake, a hug, a peck, whatever.
DG, can you believe this same thing happened to me on a JOB INTERVIEW?!! I mean, I gave the perfect interview; this older lady & I really hit it off, she practically said I had the job... Then, as she's walking me to the door, she leans in ambiguously (I discover too late) for a handshake, and I give her a kiss. Then, in an attempt to hide my blunder, I compound it by grip-hugging her around the neck, practically knocking her over. I could have died.
Actually, yes! believe it or not. In fact, I'm still at this job today. Luckily, this fine boss was able to put my gaff in the back of her mind--as I had done myself, until your video post brought it all back... If I have nightmares tonight, we'll both know what's to blame. ;-)
one time, I was talking with three freinds (they are sisters) and this guy walks up and he's really good freinds with them and he hugs them goodbye because he was leaving. He looks at me, I look at him, I wave.
'Bye <name>, nice seeing you!"
he gets this releived look on his face and walks out.
So, be comforted, Daniel, that at least people dont DREAD hugging you.
Just be the first to reach out your hand and then you make the decisions. Handshake and smile and that's it. No kissing in greetings where I'm from, very rare at least. I find the kissing stuff awkward too: "Do I know you?" "Why are you kissing me?" Goodbyes also tend to be awkward, especially with new people. Did you bond enough to merit a hug? Or is it just time for a handshake or maybe a little wave? Great video.
I understand this too well! This exact same thing happens to me. This even kind of happens when I'm introducing two people. I terrible at meeting people and introducing them. I claim that I'm not a human and not being able to properly meet someone really makes me think I'm not human.
I know what you mean! In my church when one greets someone else they kiss three times. But some people don't like this at all. Other times you just meet someone after church and they come in for a threefold kiss or a handshake hug. I never know ... It's definitely slightly nerve racking.
Yeah. I never like hugging acquaintances, so when they go in for the hug it's always awkward, with my arms at my sides...
But sometimes when you stick out your tried and true (the handshake) people look at you as if your a snob...alas, I don't think there will ever be an answer to the enigma of physical greeting...
It depends on the person. Normally, I stick my hand out for a handshake or I wave before they do something. (I'm in the US, so I've seen just about everything though.)
Oh I SO get what you are saying! try to greet people in France properly, nearly impossible! LOL. in my counrty it really depends on the closeness of the relationship, and even then- it sometimes gets weird.
Yes I understand your concern lol Back home, everyone kisses, no matter if it's a perfect stranger. Here, people hardly even shake hands, so forget about hugs... Hugs are seen as "sexual foreplay" here (and I quote the newspapers lol)
Excellent topic! Personally, I'd rather hug, especially during cold season. Shaking hands is the best way to spread germs. But yeah, it would be great if there was a generally accepted and acknowledged method of greeting strangers when meeting them for the first time. You aren't the only one to feel this!! Thanks for the morning chuckle!
OMG This is so true. I have been in all these awkward moments. I should wear a sign that says my comfort zone is at least two feet. That would narrow it down to a hand shake.
We shake hands here! well, if you're just meeting the person you shake hands...unless it's the person's um...wait...maybe I ought to do a vlog about this... I'll think about it.
Not all creativity is good, is it Daniel? It seems we can't just stick with what works! We have to fiddle around and tweak and make our own funky thing. .. Which doesn't work.
Well I live in England and personally I'm getting sick and tired of this "gangsta" crap.
Someone presents their hand, I go in to shake it and then before I know it, they're slapping it from side to side and pulling me towards them and hitting me on the back.
I should also say that between males kissing isn't really a possibility, guess it's a machothing, the furthest I've EVER gone with a guy is the quick distant hug+ pat on the back.
Females often do a peck+hug+quick backrub,I see it every day.
Coming from a Chinese family, the first thing we do is ask "ni chi le ma?" or "have you eaten"? This applies to everyone, regardless of whether or not it's 5 in the morning.
Great vid, Daniel! Love the expressions! Keep them up!
In my country we just say hi, SOMETIMES we hug close friends or relatives (think Sweden is known for the rigidity). On Iceland where the other half of my relatives live, we hug and kiss. Even strangers! Since I've become so rigid from growing up in Sweden, it just feels really awkward with all that hugging and kissing.. >.<
Depends on the country you are in- if you are a female in Nicaragua/Latin America, I'll give you a kiss, male in Latin America, a hug, Norteamericana, a handshake.
Nice hoodie :-D. Obviously, you know where I live. The usual greeting is with a handshake (occasionally a hug). There was an Italian man in my old Church that would sometimes give kisses. And if you didn't turn you would get a smacker right on the lips instead of the cheek.
LOL, dude that's hilarious! :D Did you learn about the importance of turning the hard way? :P I reserve hugs for my friends who I know really well, and I shun kissing Italian men. :)
It's so cold here man, you're hoodie is a lifesaver! I took it to camp with me and it came out in all the pictures...I treat St. Andy's RFC like a cult and I'm a cultist. :D
HAHA, ah the questions that arise...and now they have this "peck thing" where you don't actually kiss the person on the cheek, you just sorta make the sound of kissing. Like...I don't get it. Why not make sneezing noises if it's all the same? :D
well i use to live in the middle east (syria) and greeting there you are only suppose to shake hands with a girl but not allowed to kiss unless she was ur mom or aunt ohh yah and grandmother... But now i live in canada toronto and finally i can hug and kiss girls mama meyah. mmm.... except for old women lol
Here in California, I've never actually experienced or even seen the peck thing. I guess that's just not done here, which is kinda too bad. A handshake is almost always the acceptable and expected thing to do. In special cases a hug is sometimes exchanged between a guy and a girl, or the hug/handshake combo between two guys. Hugs are much more commonplace between two girls.
Close enough, although it's a little rude to actually 'rub' the noses of Maori, as the royals learned the hard way. It's more of a simple nose (& often forehead) touch than a rubbing.
Haha, I'm the Same way.... I'm kinda an introvert till I really get to know someone, so especially first greetings are ALWAYS awkward...
Over spring break I went on a trip to Mexico to volunteer at a Church (Yay for volunteers!), and there they do the peck on the cheek... Lets just say the first few days were fun... :-P
nice nice it is always confusing in the Netherlands we don't really do hugs we do the kind of fake kiss on the cheek thing twice and then men just shake hands ith each other.
OMG, I LOVE YOU! I am from Philadelphia, Pa and we go through the same thing. My favorite is the hand grasp (the tight hand shake that doesn't shake, just grasps the hand), pull in for the hug and the peck on the cheek. It is like... ummmm... hi, nice to meet you... do I know yo.... I guess I do now.
If you are someone I don't know.... I don't know you. If I want to get to know you, you will learn my name. No hug, no kiss.... ew. BTW... **hand shake** nice to meet you, I am Veronica!
With my Arabic relatives, it's always a hug and peck on each cheek (twice on one, one on the other!), and with my Indian/Pakistani relatives, it's more of a hug. The men and women tend to not greet eachother that way, whatsoever. I'm always searching around for a breath mint because we get so damn close!
Hey thanks Nathan...I wish more of you Canadians would meet me...I don't see how that greeting could be awkward but I'll take your word on it. :) Try to export it to my country please. :P
Haha, not a magnet because the dentist lady was married with grandchildren. Yeah. Uh huh. It was the season that made her 'huggy'. :^)
Lol i live in chicago and I know exactly what you're talking about! Usually, I just try to shake hands, but sometimes when its some latino or european person they want like a hug/peck combo and that just throws me off. Not to mention, im probablly 2 feet taller than most of them and its really awkward to do that combo while trying to bend over and hug a person.
HAHA melissa I know the EXACT feeling! I think it was the european influence here in Brazil (blame the europeans! hehe) that brought up this hug/peck think. When I was younger it was only older women that would do the cheek-peck thing and now it's everyone with everybody. I got a lol out of your being 2 feet taller, that sounds really funny! :D
But then again, there's always "ugs" and "clicks" from tinkerbells. :P
hannahbananalee 3 years ago
Quando eu fui a São Paulo, eu achei muito esquisito porque em geral as pessoas se cumprimentam apertando mãos e beijando de um lado só. Aqui onde eu moro, Salvador-BA, varia demais de pessoa pra pessoa e eu nunca sei o que fazer, me sinto socialmente inapta, rs. Por essas e outras, toda vez que eu preciso cumprimentar alguém, a vontade que eu tenho é de sair correndo e gritando. Achei que fosse a única até assistir ao seu vídeo. :)
sundaysun 3 years ago
eh verdade Leticia ... ja fui correndo me esconder bastante vezes... Meu pesadelo eh um dia precisar cumprimentar o time de volleyball feminino...juro que vou morrer. :P
Abraços!
DanielGardner 3 years ago
Outra...eu moro em SP tbm. :)
DanielGardner 3 years ago
in romania we just wave when we see each other and only if we are good friends or near relatives we kiss on the cheek(this happens on fem-fem and fem-man) and between mans (it dosen`t matter if they are relatives or anything else) they shake hands.:)
cris13n92 3 years ago
@cris13n92
I worked with some Romanian guys and they were always shaking my hand, then I stopped working with them and I continued trying to shake hands with people of my own nationality and they began to think I was weird and it all got embarassing and very disconcerting.
What we need are globalized people that all have the same customs.
donnyab 10 months ago
@donnyab Even if they tought it was weird, I think they should have acted normally. On Earth are a lot of diffrent civilizations, so we must act suitable.
cris13n92 9 months ago
In Texas we wave, shake hands and/or hug but no kisses unless at least one of you is Hispanic and you are both female. Then you peck on the cheek if you know them pretty well. I do get confused sometimes whether I should hug or not. I guess girls usually hug. Guys either one.
violetbutterfly21 3 years ago
hahha1 Nice video, well here in Chile we always say hello with a kiss on the cheek for women and a handshake for men; hugs are for friends or relatives...xD
-Rodrigo.
RPozoA 3 years ago
Oh well. What I do is that I don't give a rat's butt and just give 'em a peck on the cheek, with my lips right there, planted on her cheek. If it's a guy, handshake. If I feel like the mod is right, half hug. :)
LastCokeInTheDesert 3 years ago
'lol' has become such a cliché. but i'm serious about this thing... L O L !
i love the the first 'awkward look.' poifect.
psalmnineteen 3 years ago
desculpa ser indiscreto, mas vc é famoso?
até que vc é um bom ator!!!
Zorro0800 3 years ago
rs, naum sou famoso não. Fazer videos online eh apenas um hobby.
DanielGardner 3 years ago
he's crackin..
Dreamer23245 4 years ago
In my country we mostly shake hands....but if you haven't seen someone in a very long time you hug aswell...we like almost never kiss on the cheak, only for birthdays...are'nt we cool :P..LOL
kkiibbii 4 years ago
[[Giggles]] ach it's so horrible meeting people and not knowing how to greet them =O
[[shudder]] it's like once when I did what you were talking about with the peck but they did at the same time and.. [[shiver]] please don't make me continue.
O.O
charmanderess 4 years ago
Oh wow.. Makes me laugh every time. I totally agree with everything. Handshakes are great huhh..?
SilentStarsRCalling 4 years ago
Not as good as your others and too long
takeadvantage225 4 years ago
Hey.
Lets see, for me.
Well, I like hugs alot, but if i don't lnow you...shake my hand. If I know yo, or have been around you awhile...then a hig..
Skip the peck on the check.
~Chip
antonuccigirl 4 years ago
Answer to your problem: initiate the handshake first. Simple.
Handshake is never too forward and if you have your hand out right away then the ball is in the other person's court.
roachizkool 4 years ago
I lived in Brasil. I know all about the awkward kiss thing. Not only do you have to decide if they're going kiss you, shake your hand, or hug you, you also have to decide how many times they're going to kiss you. What is it again, twice if you're married, three times if you're single?
And I hate shaking hands. I would rather not. I will hug my friends. Kiss my Brasilians. Nod politely at acquaintances.
whimsicalfaery 4 years ago
This is soooo funny and sooooo true!
I know the feeling. I never know what to do... and always end up feeling like a fool :(
littlexerox 4 years ago
The xerox has graced my video with her comment...WOW. :P
DanielGardner 4 years ago
yeah! :-)
It's funny... whenever I'm having a down day... I just skim through your videos! It perks me up everytime! ;-)
littlexerox 4 years ago
Hey wazzap i'm cool =) 5/5
hexagram13 4 years ago
O.K. Daniel, a hint from your stateside mom-friend.You..hunky young man. Her..pretty young girl. Go for the kiss, man. They don't kiss ya when you get old and farty.
2degucitas 4 years ago
I see your reasoning...thanks for the tip. ;)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Woow~~.. This is probably one of your top 5 videos.
Very, very great. And I agree with you. Where is that old good "shake hands"?.. Well I never go to public so I don't have problems like these anymore.. But stuff like this happen to me even between my family..
My uncle come and say "Hi" i say "hi" .. and then we just look at ourselfs saying "what now?"..
Really great video.. 6/5
RozenMaidenSK 4 years ago
I'm glad I'm not the only one. :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
i know how u feel!!! i cant greet people either=]
blacksavengers8 4 years ago
Greetings differ. One thing remains the same. -You don't hug/kiss your dentist.- It's called the doc/patient relationship. It's why eye docs don't say "My! Your eyes are so bee-uutiful!" and dermatologists "My! Your skin is so silky, it reminds me of black velvet in the winter!" It makes you comfortable as he/she is poking/prodding around. So if my dentist ever wanted a hug, I'd likely cross my arms, smile sweetly, and say "aw aren't ya sweet, are ya sweet enough to tear up my bill?"
ultraviolet12 4 years ago
We made this a second time and by then it was the most horrible greeting-situation I ever experienced and then finally I decided just to go straight ahead and just hug her, come what may, so we hugged but it was a most uncomfortable, embarassing hug, and, for making all this even worse, there was the friend that introduced me to her standing there and watching us so now the whole situation was just doomed!
I'll wear a sign with clear instructions from now on, seriously!
CinnamonHunter 4 years ago
HAHAHA, I don't think it's all gone to waste though, because at least we can get a good laugh out of it. :^)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Had an horrible situation some days ago! I met a friend's friend, i decided to be very kind and hug her, but she seemed to be confused by that and didn't act like she wanted to hug her, so I decided to drop the hug-thing but in that very moment she decided it would be a good idea to hug my anyway, so I went back in the same moment when she went forward to hug me. We both noticed that the other one changed her mind, so I wanted to hug her again and she wanted to shake hands again.
CinnamonHunter 4 years ago
In Scotland we shake hands :D Thanks dan :D
HitItOnTheNaill 4 years ago
Well, Daniel, I'm in Japan. When someone you don't know is being introduced to you, it's usually a bow. A low, polite bow.
When you're seeing a good friend of yours again, it's often a hug.
:3 Guess it just depends.
And in America, I always get handshakes. [Btw: LOVE the video!~xD]
Shiuilme 4 years ago
Hey, Daniel I've noticed a pattern with your vids..."cute, young, slightly nerdy guy has trouble with social interaction and wonders if other people feel the same way." Am I right??
2degucitas 4 years ago
Perhaps without the wondering, but otherwise right on! :) The real Daniel shines through.
DanielGardner 4 years ago
I wave and say hi. Friends may get a hug, if I haveven't/won't see them in a while. Yah, I agree with you. and then there are new people..do you shake their hand? Some people insist on shaking hands, and others think its weird...so theres always that awkward look on your face....then there are the gentlement who do the peck thing. That's kinda awkward too, when they lean in, do you peck, or hug? We'll never know....
itsalexie 4 years ago
I live in Brussels, Belgium. Greeting people here is quite simple: people kiss each other on the cheek three times... It's not unusual to see two men doing this either, it does not, in any way, mean they're gay. It's very rare that I've needed to only shake hands with someone. I only usually shake hands with people I'm meeting during formal occasions. Obviously, when I'm seeing friends I haven't seen in a while, I hug them...
celinium 4 years ago
Although, I do tend to hug my friends at school a lot, one of them being Isabelle (who says "hi" by the way) who's a right cutie and a joy to hug. Yeah don't ask, I'm kind of addicted to hugging at the moment, I'm a bit weird. Although I like to think I'm special...
x Céline
celinium 4 years ago
Interesting traditions, Céline. Tell Isabelle I said hi too. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
EEK! You are SO cute. I could just sprinkle you on a cupcake.
I don't know. Here in Canada, it kind of varies with each province, but in B.C. we're pretty laid back and tend to either shake hands or hug. In Quebec, they kind of hug and air-kiss.
What does the poster behind you say? All I can see is "Vlogger's Nirvana".
KamikazeKumquat 4 years ago
It was a prop from the video called "YOuTube Gathering"...the poster says "YouTube Gather..Vlogger's Nirvana". :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
I've seen some of your videos. I hope you don't think this is a bad thing, but you remind me a bit of Jerry Seinfeld.
lerp3254 4 years ago
Haha, a compliment, thanks! :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
you should come to norway. people are so cold here, almost no one hugs or pecks on each other. If they dont know each other pretty well. I dont say that you're a cold person! But most norwegians are, makes it easier thou ;) Love the vid by the way! you always put a smile on my face
tonjedew 4 years ago
Hey thanks! :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Wow, this is a really good topic and I totally missed this video until now! One thing that I like to do is take the lead - if somebody introduces me to someone else, I stick my hand out as I say, "Hi, nice to meet you". Works out really well, because it takes care of the physical question immediately and my intentions are clear to the other person. I've met people who do cheek pecks or hugs with the same confidence that I do a handshake, and it's never akward because they are so confident.
snotpokkit 4 years ago
Oh my GOD, this is so true! My best friend hangs out with people in all the cliques, so when I'm talking to her other friends, I have to keep it straight! It's so crazy! Maybe we are just too nerdy.
*writes a note reading "Shake My Hand" and sticks it to her shirt*
Devaria 4 years ago
I think it depends on you your greeting. examples:
angry man = handshake
angry woman = handshake/run away
some one famous = stair
your crush = go in for a handshake but then stumble and possibly spill your drink on them Ect...
MackysBackInTown 4 years ago
yes for cultural clashes! from going to either a mature wave =P or a handshake to suddently have to kiss strangers on both cheeks =S was very awkward. thanks for another great vid !
LadyTequila152 4 years ago
Hmmm I guess I am just a HUG MAGNET? I dunno, but to me most of the time a hug is a very comforting way to greet many people. Most of the time however I will offer my handshake first. Yes there are so many different cultures that do clash with greetings. But I tend to get away with more than I should for some reason =) Maybe I am turning into a dirty ol lady I dunno ROFL
KweenHuman 4 years ago
I would wear a HUG ME tag.
Shaking hands spreads more germs. Seriously. Just ask Mister Monk. Okay-okay I admit, I'm just a hug addict!
This was a cute video, as usual ~L~
WoosterFanGirl 4 years ago
I need a hug.
patriotaction 4 years ago
HUGs matt. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Thanks, dude!
patriotaction 4 years ago
"Am I so nerdy that I can't greet people?? [Si]"
LAWL. I love this. I feel your pain, Daniel, greetings are a hard thing. *Puts on tag that says 'hug me'* One less person to get people confused! ^_^
Neogami 4 years ago
Not so long ago we had this South American guy over for dinner (I live in Australia). I met him earlier on in the day and we greeted by shaking hands. As he was leaving, I stuck out my hand to say goodbye, but he gave me a peck on the cheek instead! I didn't know what to do with my hand, so I tried to pretend it just swayed forward for no reason whatsoever. =/
emahlee26 4 years ago
i'm going to wear a sticker that says hug me....just to eliminate the confusion
klouni666 4 years ago
I don't like it when we go to churches and the pastor says everyone ought to hug (or MUST hug)! I just don't go around hugging everyone who happened to show up to one of our concerts. There's a skill involved in dodging someone who wants to hug a bit too comfy-like for comfort, if you know what I mean :p
Authorized77 4 years ago
When I went to Brazil, I found it totally awkward. Because...everyone I met who knew my grandparents all wanted to do the "two pecks" thing... but they didn't hug or anything. Every time it looked to me as if they were coming in for a hug, so I reciprocated. It was awkward because it always ended up that I was hugging them and they were kissing my ear...
mandamk 4 years ago
We say "Hey, how ya doin'?" as we walk by and the other person says "Fine, you?" as THEY walk by, the end result being that no one really knows how anyone else is but they did their duty by asking anyway. :-P
XEDSOON 4 years ago
and one more thing..youre fine!<3
angelcarpet 4 years ago
damn!! youre funny Daniel!<3
I`m from Norway and in Norway we are pretty shy:P
i have never got a smooch,it`s mostly a handshake and hug next time i meet the person:P
angelcarpet 4 years ago
I usually just stand there and let them hug/kiss me or whatever. If they hug me, i put one arm around them, to make it look like i'm hugging them. I wait and see what they want to do. If they do nothing, I just say "Hi" or "bye" and maybe wave or something. We need those stickers!!
missmonzomatic 4 years ago
The old greek lady one time dud the whole kiss on both cheeks, I wasen't sure what to do, so I ended up doing that twice, it was incredibly akward, and I was the only one who got the whole kiss on both cheeks thing.
wintertale 4 years ago
Handshake all the way!
Timeos 4 years ago
Maybe they like you that's why they hugged you instead of the conventional handshake? :)
virlaney 4 years ago
nod head gd :P nod head and aight :P
mrpeeman 4 years ago
I know just what you mean.
I live in Brasil too.
BBQbrasil 4 years ago
In England Where Im From We Just Nod Our Head And Say Alright Lol
2k6Tinkerbella2k7 4 years ago
Peck hug combo please
Florescent6Muffin 4 years ago
I'd love an awkward smooch, Sir. :-)
bunnytube 4 years ago
we shake hands not the first time we meet particular person but every day :)
Pashtett2007 4 years ago
in Russia we shake hands
Pashtett2007 4 years ago
Daniel, I think you're the funniest person I've ever met. Thanks for that!
cravoecanella 4 years ago
hug me. :D My roommate and I have been trying to teach a lady friend in distress (mostly her fault....) proper greetings, and proper associations w/ the opposite sex. Mostly, by telling her, "you know, guys are turned on by hugs. Don't hug guys."
livingpicture 4 years ago
haha! Great video, dude. Those situations are so awkward! Next time I'll probably think of this video and laugh, adding to the awkwardness of the situation.
lindsaynickel 4 years ago
Hehe. "Si" can mean "no" in French.
bananAPPEAL 4 years ago
AWKWARD.......
strondbab 4 years ago
Funny Guy! Great Vid!!!
sistermoonshine13 4 years ago
as for the kiss/hug combo... it's terribly confusing. always go straight for the hug and then the other person's kissing you and you're already past that stage and if you're lucky they just have to bend a little more but if you're not it ends up next to your ear and then you're stuck wondering if you ought to try to go back and kiss after that or just give it up as a lost cause.
I like kenneth's point. I don't usually initiate, but I'd imagine it'd be less awkward if I did.
stenforthewin 4 years ago
I'm half Swedish and half Dutch. In Sweden we only hug and shake hands, and in The Netherlands we kiss on the cheek. It's funny how it can be so different from country to country xD
TheCoolestJoke 4 years ago
With my moms side of the family, shes raised jewish, so we peck on the cheek, my dads side, just normal hugs, someone ive never met before, handshake. and then friends, i give hungs too if they are girls lol
BrianJensen 4 years ago
lol this is so true
urbanzombiekiller 4 years ago
lol! Yeah, I know what your talking about. I've found that, as other people on here have said, its least awkward if you initiate it. Whatever it is. A handshake, a hug, a peck, whatever.
KenneththePeasant 4 years ago
DG, can you believe this same thing happened to me on a JOB INTERVIEW?!! I mean, I gave the perfect interview; this older lady & I really hit it off, she practically said I had the job... Then, as she's walking me to the door, she leans in ambiguously (I discover too late) for a handshake, and I give her a kiss. Then, in an attempt to hide my blunder, I compound it by grip-hugging her around the neck, practically knocking her over. I could have died.
TomCory 4 years ago
BUAHAHAHAHAHAA! And I thought I had it bad. :) Did you get the job? :P
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Actually, yes! believe it or not. In fact, I'm still at this job today. Luckily, this fine boss was able to put my gaff in the back of her mind--as I had done myself, until your video post brought it all back... If I have nightmares tonight, we'll both know what's to blame. ;-)
TomCory 4 years ago
BUAHAHAHA I control your mind!!!!!!!! :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Haha, you're so funny, Daniel. =D
I like hugging people.. but I normally don't randomly hug people that I don't know. Usually... =P
FCake 4 years ago
This is great! :D
fingerprinted 4 years ago
Lol, cool video Dan, a handshake is good enough for me.
Don
PlasmaDude47 4 years ago
I understand TOTALLY.
I dont like hugging people... but...
one time, I was talking with three freinds (they are sisters) and this guy walks up and he's really good freinds with them and he hugs them goodbye because he was leaving. He looks at me, I look at him, I wave.
'Bye <name>, nice seeing you!"
he gets this releived look on his face and walks out.
So, be comforted, Daniel, that at least people dont DREAD hugging you.
Perhaps I stink?! I dont think so! ;)
Shalom
Neshama
NeshamaBirth 4 years ago
Just be the first to reach out your hand and then you make the decisions. Handshake and smile and that's it. No kissing in greetings where I'm from, very rare at least. I find the kissing stuff awkward too: "Do I know you?" "Why are you kissing me?" Goodbyes also tend to be awkward, especially with new people. Did you bond enough to merit a hug? Or is it just time for a handshake or maybe a little wave? Great video.
majestia19 4 years ago
I understand this too well! This exact same thing happens to me. This even kind of happens when I'm introducing two people. I terrible at meeting people and introducing them. I claim that I'm not a human and not being able to properly meet someone really makes me think I'm not human.
yoruzora 4 years ago
I know what you mean! In my church when one greets someone else they kiss three times. But some people don't like this at all. Other times you just meet someone after church and they come in for a threefold kiss or a handshake hug. I never know ... It's definitely slightly nerve racking.
meitzenator 4 years ago
Yeah. I never like hugging acquaintances, so when they go in for the hug it's always awkward, with my arms at my sides...
But sometimes when you stick out your tried and true (the handshake) people look at you as if your a snob...alas, I don't think there will ever be an answer to the enigma of physical greeting...
GOPchick 4 years ago
It depends on the person. Normally, I stick my hand out for a handshake or I wave before they do something. (I'm in the US, so I've seen just about everything though.)
kara1991mcpherson 4 years ago
I think hugging is normal in Norway, but if you've not met the person before a handshake is the safest :P
eenish 4 years ago
hahahaha very funny, agree totally. Good ole handshake.
MabusPwns 4 years ago
i'm in love with you!
ununhexium 4 years ago
Yikes!
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Sorry :(
ununhexium 4 years ago
Is this a character or you talking? do you really have this problem?
Spiff144 4 years ago
Good question Spiff. I think it's me. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
So you really are human after all:O I still think you are cool bat a bit more silly:P I don't have this problem bat than I live in Sweaden so.. :P
The vid was funny bay the way, it is good that you talk about you life, it makes you more human, peopel can relate to you and stuff:D
Spiff144 4 years ago
Oh I SO get what you are saying! try to greet people in France properly, nearly impossible! LOL. in my counrty it really depends on the closeness of the relationship, and even then- it sometimes gets weird.
nonigold 4 years ago
Yes I understand your concern lol Back home, everyone kisses, no matter if it's a perfect stranger. Here, people hardly even shake hands, so forget about hugs... Hugs are seen as "sexual foreplay" here (and I quote the newspapers lol)
MIM7890 4 years ago
Ah, here in the UK, i've met people (usually older ladies) who greet by kissing, well, not kissing. AIR kissing, on either side of the face.
It is SO annoying if we both try to kiss the same side at once. ^^;
Mysterioux 4 years ago
Haha! In my country, we greet each other with either:
1. Hi!
2. Ni hao! (Hello in Chinese)
3. Or a handshake...
NO HUGS! Arghh!!! :D
vicyim 4 years ago
I usually shake someone's hand if i'm meeting them for the first time. If i've met them before though i'll hug them.
LivienRochelle 4 years ago
Excellent topic! Personally, I'd rather hug, especially during cold season. Shaking hands is the best way to spread germs. But yeah, it would be great if there was a generally accepted and acknowledged method of greeting strangers when meeting them for the first time. You aren't the only one to feel this!! Thanks for the morning chuckle!
Illuminatta 4 years ago
OMG This is so true. I have been in all these awkward moments. I should wear a sign that says my comfort zone is at least two feet. That would narrow it down to a hand shake.
jinxie3334 4 years ago
do the bill Lumberg on office space when you greet someone and say whaaaats happening .
justonfletcher2006 4 years ago
We shake hands here! well, if you're just meeting the person you shake hands...unless it's the person's um...wait...maybe I ought to do a vlog about this... I'll think about it.
nalalyon 4 years ago
Vlogs are fun! Sounds like a good idea. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Hahaha.
Not all creativity is good, is it Daniel? It seems we can't just stick with what works! We have to fiddle around and tweak and make our own funky thing. .. Which doesn't work.
Jamwllms 4 years ago
That's SO true :) Great vlog.
French-style greetings are a bit confusing sometimes.
Hm... I think I'll try a video response this time, I've got a few things to tell. :)
LennieGallagher 4 years ago
YES! Your audience awaits. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Classic Daniel!!! You are always excellent and you have a real gift for making the ordinary interesting.
27may1972 4 years ago
YEAH DUDE great video daniel :) you greet ppl perfectly man especially on youtube bro :)
JEFFYjackass 4 years ago
Well I live in England and personally I'm getting sick and tired of this "gangsta" crap.
Someone presents their hand, I go in to shake it and then before I know it, they're slapping it from side to side and pulling me towards them and hitting me on the back.
Its scary and awkward.
TomSka 4 years ago
HAHAHA, nice description, fate makes that happen to you so the rest of us can have a good laugh. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
We usually just go with "Tjena, hej, or hallå" here in Sweden, if it's someone we see every day.
That's the equivalent of "Hey, hi and hello".
If it's someone we just met it's usually a handshake and a hey. or a quick hug+backpat if it's someone you haven't seen for a while.
Elganko 4 years ago
I should also say that between males kissing isn't really a possibility, guess it's a machothing, the furthest I've EVER gone with a guy is the quick distant hug+ pat on the back.
Females often do a peck+hug+quick backrub,I see it every day.
Elganko 4 years ago
LOL, great topic. I've had all of the same stuff happen to me. I'm sure everyone has.
wigglepuppies 4 years ago
Coming from a Chinese family, the first thing we do is ask "ni chi le ma?" or "have you eaten"? This applies to everyone, regardless of whether or not it's 5 in the morning.
Great vid, Daniel! Love the expressions! Keep them up!
RayZR 4 years ago
Haha omg you're so funny!
In my country we just say hi, SOMETIMES we hug close friends or relatives (think Sweden is known for the rigidity). On Iceland where the other half of my relatives live, we hug and kiss. Even strangers! Since I've become so rigid from growing up in Sweden, it just feels really awkward with all that hugging and kissing.. >.<
KeendraQueendra 4 years ago
You have to go on the offensive! Let THEM be awkward for once. Go in for the eskimo kiss. That'll throw them off.
NeenerBee 4 years ago
BUAHAHA! Classic. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
I dont think I go and hug people I dont know! I usually do the handshake. I will hug you if you want, Daniel :)
rettnaye 4 years ago
Depends on the country you are in- if you are a female in Nicaragua/Latin America, I'll give you a kiss, male in Latin America, a hug, Norteamericana, a handshake.
If you smell bad, a can of Axe...
theusking 4 years ago
HAHA, you think of everything. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
I'm a handshaker. That's what people in Norway do when we greet strangers. But if it's a friend or relative, I'd normally hug them. :)
evajenta 4 years ago
THAT makes sense. Everyone should do as they do in Norway.
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Nice hoodie :-D. Obviously, you know where I live. The usual greeting is with a handshake (occasionally a hug). There was an Italian man in my old Church that would sometimes give kisses. And if you didn't turn you would get a smacker right on the lips instead of the cheek.
atoned4byX 4 years ago
LOL, dude that's hilarious! :D Did you learn about the importance of turning the hard way? :P I reserve hugs for my friends who I know really well, and I shun kissing Italian men. :)
It's so cold here man, you're hoodie is a lifesaver! I took it to camp with me and it came out in all the pictures...I treat St. Andy's RFC like a cult and I'm a cultist. :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
lol, I also have a problem with greeting people.
Itr is just weird, like when people peck you on the cheek I dunno what to do.
Should I give them a peck on the check or just do nothing? :P
Anyway nice video :-)
williamc99 4 years ago
HAHA, ah the questions that arise...and now they have this "peck thing" where you don't actually kiss the person on the cheek, you just sorta make the sound of kissing. Like...I don't get it. Why not make sneezing noises if it's all the same? :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
well i use to live in the middle east (syria) and greeting there you are only suppose to shake hands with a girl but not allowed to kiss unless she was ur mom or aunt ohh yah and grandmother... But now i live in canada toronto and finally i can hug and kiss girls mama meyah. mmm.... except for old women lol
zombiehunter86 4 years ago
buahahahaha, stinker. :D You got lucky. :P
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Daniel, yee bee mee Heroe, :)
i'll make sure i'll be wearing a tag if i ever get the honor to gweet u
muahahasaidkimberly 4 years ago
haha, tank yee muahahasaid, that would be vewee funny. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Here in California, I've never actually experienced or even seen the peck thing. I guess that's just not done here, which is kinda too bad. A handshake is almost always the acceptable and expected thing to do. In special cases a hug is sometimes exchanged between a guy and a girl, or the hug/handshake combo between two guys. Hugs are much more commonplace between two girls.
thepenguinboy 4 years ago
Oh you'd just LOVE the New Zealand Maori traditional greeting. It involves um, rubbing noses. Seriously, like *squish* noses together.
Luckily, other than charmingly embarrassing natives, the rest of society is all "omg personal space plz!", for that I am thankful.
OMG I just randomly thought of the scary movie alien kick-to-the-groin greeting lol!
Ratergray 4 years ago
Close enough, although it's a little rude to actually 'rub' the noses of Maori, as the royals learned the hard way. It's more of a simple nose (& often forehead) touch than a rubbing.
cant7think7clearly 4 years ago
I'm a little rude :).
Your EV video series is super!
Ratergray 4 years ago
Hehehe, thanks mate!
cant7think7clearly 4 years ago
Haha, I'm the Same way.... I'm kinda an introvert till I really get to know someone, so especially first greetings are ALWAYS awkward...
Over spring break I went on a trip to Mexico to volunteer at a Church (Yay for volunteers!), and there they do the peck on the cheek... Lets just say the first few days were fun... :-P
S73v3H42K3R 4 years ago
:D haha, that's funny to imagine. :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
i just wave to people like hey (wave) or a HUG if i acutally know them aka like a friend , i kiss them if they are my boyfriend
lillitamovies 4 years ago
Good summary, that's the way I was brought up too.
DanielGardner 4 years ago
nice nice it is always confusing in the Netherlands we don't really do hugs we do the kind of fake kiss on the cheek thing twice and then men just shake hands ith each other.
TheoVanDerDeer 4 years ago
hahaha! We need those stickers, I'll go out and get an order of 100000000. :P
Russoft 4 years ago
Thank you my friend. You'll be the producer of our campaign. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
AHHHHH!!!!!!!!
I LOVED that sound effect!
I've been to Germany, they just shook hands.
And in Japan they bow.
XD
And you got a Stickam!!!!
I'm adding you!
I will watch you always!
cheesychicky 4 years ago
OMG, I LOVE YOU! I am from Philadelphia, Pa and we go through the same thing. My favorite is the hand grasp (the tight hand shake that doesn't shake, just grasps the hand), pull in for the hug and the peck on the cheek. It is like... ummmm... hi, nice to meet you... do I know yo.... I guess I do now.
Swimmer631 4 years ago
haha, right on. It's socially assumed that you treat complete strangers like long lost friends. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
If you are someone I don't know.... I don't know you. If I want to get to know you, you will learn my name. No hug, no kiss.... ew. BTW... **hand shake** nice to meet you, I am Veronica!
Swimmer631 4 years ago
*hand shake* I'm Daniel. :)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Pleasure to meet you.... now... where do I have to go to meet you in person? Or you could come up to Philadelphia.... hehehe.
Swimmer631 4 years ago
Lol, amusing...I'm definitely a shake hands person; sometimes shake elbows, but only in certain situations.
I love the variations in your facial expressions -- reminds me a little of my friend Jon.
Oh, and BTW...I agree completely about volunteer work!
JesiR 4 years ago
You are a sweetie!
sophiaal 4 years ago
With my Arabic relatives, it's always a hug and peck on each cheek (twice on one, one on the other!), and with my Indian/Pakistani relatives, it's more of a hug. The men and women tend to not greet eachother that way, whatsoever. I'm always searching around for a breath mint because we get so damn close!
CompanionableIlls 4 years ago
You sound like a chick magnet. Different girls are wanting to hug/kiss you while they barely know you. Thats hawt.
Im in Canada and we just put our open palms up to the face level and say Hi. It sounds more awkward than it really is.
BTW good to see another video from you.
HyperNathan 4 years ago
Hey thanks Nathan...I wish more of you Canadians would meet me...I don't see how that greeting could be awkward but I'll take your word on it. :) Try to export it to my country please. :P
Haha, not a magnet because the dentist lady was married with grandchildren. Yeah. Uh huh. It was the season that made her 'huggy'. :^)
DanielGardner 4 years ago
Lol i live in chicago and I know exactly what you're talking about! Usually, I just try to shake hands, but sometimes when its some latino or european person they want like a hug/peck combo and that just throws me off. Not to mention, im probablly 2 feet taller than most of them and its really awkward to do that combo while trying to bend over and hug a person.
hnrchhmmlr 4 years ago
HAHA melissa I know the EXACT feeling! I think it was the european influence here in Brazil (blame the europeans! hehe) that brought up this hug/peck think. When I was younger it was only older women that would do the cheek-peck thing and now it's everyone with everybody. I got a lol out of your being 2 feet taller, that sounds really funny! :D
DanielGardner 4 years ago
"hug me" :D What'Z'up?! I am just a REGULAR hug kinda gal--no peck on the cheek.
katalina2007 4 years ago
"shake my hand" :D Well at least you're labeled now. :) It's nice to know who we're all dealing with, heh heh.
DanielGardner 4 years ago