i think yu should move the date, especially if you don't know when the mom's gunna get better, i wouldn't wanna get all those peoples hopes up then randomly put the wedding off!!
and although or if the mother was to say go ahead on without me, thats a no no, i would want my mama at my damn wedding LOL yu knoo?!?
I had a similar situation when I got married. My dad passed 2 1/2 months before my wedding and I really wanted to call off the wedding but my mother assured me that this wasn't something my father would have wanted. So I had a great wedding day and my dad was there in spirit. I think they should go ahead with their plans and go visit his mom if she is still alive before they leave for their honeymoon. You can't put your life on hold for something you have no control over.
I'm kinda late chiming in but i'll toss in my 2cents anyway. I understand that a wedding day is something lots of girls dream about, but should really be important is the MARRIAGE. The importance of the wedding should pale in comparison. I think they're both being a little selfish. My solution; get married in a small civil ceremony for now and save the big shabang for a later date. Aside from the invitations, the deposits for everything else can be held over.
sounds like cold feet if you ask me.....if something happens to the mother she would never be able to see her son get married.....do the wedding now so your mother can attend and then if worse comes to worse you know in your heart that your mother saw you get married before she died unless the real reason is........he dont want to marry the gurl lol
i think they should push the wedding back b/c i wouldn't want my wedding to be associated with the illness or death of someone. It should be one of the happiest days of your life and something you will never forget. Also during the wedding the groom's mind will be focused on his mom and not on the wedding. If the mom can talk I would ask her for her thoughts as well.. especially if she's in the wedding.
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I think that they should keep the date because if they change it that would be money comimg from their pocket. Which they could be using for his mother's doctor bills or other things that need to be paid for.
As a married woman myself I feel like this is a test that the couple has to endure.... is he going to put you first after GOD? I don't know the nature of her illness and I pray that she will be better.... If he puts up a big fuss he needs to be aware that the fact that you are the new first lady and that this is setting the premise for how situations will be handled.... maybe mom is against it and suggested it, we don't know.. My advice is to pray and ask the Lord to direct your path. GOD Bless
Next time you are in the Big Apple, hit the outer boroughs. Go to the original Juniors in BKlyn. LMK I am a NYC girl who can recommend so good eats. .
I must comment on Miss Chriss82. But first, let me apoligize for not recognizing his mother. She is not well, but she is here. We must not pass judgement on the bride because, we donot know the actually facts. All I am hearing is judgement.
Hi Ateyaa, I am so glad you had a good time NY. By reading the other comments, I can tell it is some sistas in the mix.lol. I have no comment because there not enough facts, I donot personally know the couple, and therefore I can not give any advice or opinions. I can say this one thing, she needs to follow her heart. But two other question comes to mind and that is: Is the bride paying for the wedding? if so really need more facts. If he was paying, there would be no postponement. trust
I think that if he thought his mom was terminally ill, it would make more sense for him to want to move the date up rather than push it back. To me it seems like he is making excuses and him changing the date has less to do with his mom and more to do with him just having cold feet. When she talks to him, she would need to have a gentle approach just so things dont turn sour and he thinks that she doesnt care about his mom's illness.
Ateya, I just wanted to say you are truly a blessing to have. Thanks so much for your videos, you have helped me so much. Now I need to thank you for recommending Divascancook. OMG she can burn, I've tried several this from her blog and they are all sooo good. Thanks for everything.
I adore this hotel! yeah, it's not sprawling, but very cute & fun like a little fancy bon-bon lol now about the wedding: This might be an excuse for cold feet, actually. A wedding is a joyous event-- not only a deposit's-already-in-place/ people-adjusting-their-plans-sort of thing like a business transaction -- it's a celebration! Also, it also lasts 1 day..... love is forever-- for wife and for mother.
I would keep the date especially if everything is set in stone and paid for because depending on who u do business with they might not take change or set backs lightly and they might end up dishing out way more money than intended. Keep prayin for mom dukes and if worst case senario things have to be pushed then they will figure out how to deal wit it......love the hair Ateyaa
@hourglas39 i agree with u with d cold feet thing...
if i was d girl,i'd try to marry anyways (lol) but without d party/celebration thing (just d legal/officially one)...maybe just get it into d paper n later on when mother in law gt back,we'd make d party (maybe marry in d church)...i know ppl who were in similar situation,did d "civil mariage" n later on (maybe in some bday anniversary) dey'd really do d big party n if needed d religious mariage as well...but its up 2 dem,cant force a guy =)
Yeah, now that I think about it, I had 2 friends that did the same thing with the civil marriage but it was due to finances but they did have a big ass party later on along with getting married in a church at a later date :)
i think hes making an excuse so he can hold it off because he has cold feet and i hear what a teyas saying i feel like ok anything like birthdays that are coming in a week r 2 nad anniversaries would be held off because it right around that time but in febuary? we are in november....................BUT my grandma was sick for 4 years due to cancer so lets say that it was the midle of january i think that when sthey should be makin that choice but not tooooo far out so they can tell their guests
Oh, and she should definitely not change the date. So close to the wedding that would cost SO MUCH MONEY. Especially if she's from a big city. Not knowing if the mom is going to get well or get worse is another reason not to change the date, because if and or when her state changes, you won't know and no vendors are going to be kept in limbo. The only way they can wait until the mom gets better is to wait and then hit city hall. They should find another way to include and honor Mom.
You have to stop at Juniors in BROOKLYN and get the cheese pie, not the cake, with the strawberries on top... that's how you gotta have it. LOL
and trust that bathroom is standard, that's how most apts in manhattan look, I'm a real estate agent. Hey, you don't pay for the space, you pay for the location. lol You want more space, go to Jersey. lol
Did you see any fans of your channel while in NYC? I'm sure you didn't get any shopping done. Make sure you do next month! :)
Mannnnnnn seeing those pics makes me wanna go back to New York! Went about 5yrs ago for my b-day and didnt wanna go back home (UK)!! If i wasnt with my cousin who had to drag me to the airport, i'd probably still be there living it up!! LOL
girl that's new york huge city but very crowded with small apartments but so exciting! now 4 the let's talk topic she should keep the date becuz his mother may end up being ok after all.
I think that she should wait cause if the shoe was on the other foot how would she feel. personally i know how my boyfriend is with his mother and i know he wouldnt really be happy on our wedding day if he know his mother would be dying... Its just not right.. I also dont think that it has anything to do with him not wanting her, His first love (which is his mother) is really sick some things are just not that important... you can always get married but you cant ever bring someone back
Lastly Ateya, Congrats on your trip! Thank God you aren't claustrophobic!! But girl, some Hotels in Europe as well as Apts are this small...lol..makes you appreciate space huh? The room had all u needed though and it was cozy! Lobster looked delish...where in Texas are you? You know you spoiled right? texas does everything BIG!! :) Enjoyed the pics, keep me posted on your upcoming trip. Love the do! You look fantastic. Peace until next time. Congrats to the engaged couple.Praying 4 his mom.
Ateya, I think the Queen should ask him if he has any reservations about marrying her? If there are none, & no financial situations preventing, they should proceed.If the mom is out of town, a small ceremony with her a Pastor & witness would be nice just in case something should keep her from attending the ceremony,however, I would think that she wouldn't want to miss a special day such as this one. Then, on Feb 14, since all is taken care of,if the dates not moved up..they have things set!
I agree with you Ateya and I had the same situation just last year with my cousin and my uncle. There was a decision to proceed as scheduled, but plans were made to move the date up, not back- if necessary. My uncle was able to be there and is still with us. If his goal is to get married, then do it now, you can still have the Feb 14 ceremony- either way your married.
I can understand her frustration but she sounds like she is the one pushing this marriage thing. However, no one knows the entire story so its hard to say. They can keep the date but she can focus on the plans but I wouldn't care about a wedding at such a time.
I have a friend and her dad was terminally ill. my friends older sister was to get married and they wanted to hold off too but in the end they went ahead with the wedding.their dad was so sick but they were able to bring him out the hospital for the occasion but sadly he passed about a week later. if they had waited he would have missed it and they so wanted him there so I guess it kinda worked out. Keep the feb 14th 2010 date, let your mom be part of it or you may regret it later.
She is simply being selfish. I have a friend who is going through the same thing. His father has cancer but his fiance is down on getting married before the end of the year. Every cent he as, has to go to the wedding. Some women forget that the wedding is not important, its the marriage that she should be focusing on. The wedding is just a performance so to speak or a photo shoot. She needs to relax and chill. He can get another wife or fiance but not another mother.
I say keep the date, especially having put in all that money, everyone has already booked off and all. I guess he may want to hold on because if his mom passes a month before the wedding, it may be hard for him..grieving wise especially if him and his mom is close. not knowing what her illness is, I too would keep the feb 14 date and if the worse is to happen, let it happen after the wedding.
you only get one mother. if my mom was sick, i couldnt spend a minute away from her. i love her too much. i would have to be there every minute at all cost. she should be understanding. its a wedding. it can be rescheduled. the time spent with an ill relative cannot be replaced. i learned that the hard way. My grandmother was in her last days and i didnt make her priority. i had to work and this and that, now she is gone, and i will never get her back. that is something i have to liv w/ 4ever
This woman should consider the realtionship her man has with his mother. Count herself fortunate she has someone who values his realtionships with people he cares for. He wants to be there for his mother. Is he really going to be able to concentrate on an event. Does she really want someone who could under those circumsatances? She needes to consider how he will view her if she presures him about this. She's need's to have her man's back on all things period.
its amazing how people from out of town sees so much beauty and have so much appreciation for NYC and us New Yorkers (me included) can walk through times square without so much as a second glance at a billboard lol! Looking at your video made me think "ummmm when was the last time I actually payed attention to my beautiful city filled with the flashing lights?" (lol) Thank you girl
She should flip the script and put herself in his place and it was her mother with the serious illness. She can have her wedding anytime but momma's not going to be here all the time. Let him do what he have to do for his mother. If the illness is not as serious as she mentioned then move foward with the plans. Remember we only have ONE mother.
Ateyaa I have to agree on everything you just said about the issue. Well said, weddings are a HUGE deal, money-wise and date-wise. I know mama is so important but illness is something that we all can't have any control of. We'll never know what will be the best thing to do date wise, so like you said keep what you have in stone, things can CHANGE. Weddings are so expensive and moving the date back and rearranging plan is a little dangerous. So, again, well said, happy TG Day!!!, and God bless ya
I think she should go ahead and postpone, people should take priority over money, it's just money, you can never replace people but more money can always be earned.
I agree; I really dont think the two have anything to do with each other unless you need to redirect funds to the mother. Ok, so you may have to scale back the wedding plans and spend time with the mother but you can still get married on that day even if something does happen.
Hey Teya, Thanks for the glimpse of the Big Apple. I hope your trip was successful and you accomplished what you wanted. As far as the wedding date change, I feel that it depends on what the mother's illness is. It seems like she intentionally left that part off. Makes you say hhuumm?
Its his mom. to be honest I could not mentally prepare for a wedding thinking that my mother was dying. to be honest paid for or not that would be the last thing on my mind. I would understand the money is spent but being on my mothers side is more important if she is terminally il
She should postpone the wedding She can always have invites reprinted & dates changed Most people can understand what it is like to be losing a mother With the added stress of getting married in February is not a good idea for the fiance. No one wants to get married and feel like they are under pressure Make sure he understands that all changes will cost him You don't want to start a marriage thinking about yourself and what you want But think of what is best for the both of you
did u pay alot for the room cuz i would to spend the weekend out there with my bf,,we live in south jersey but we would like to just stay there instead of rushing home
@ Ladonte1984...I agree...IF it's possible. However, that may put more strain on everyone and the whole situation at hand! Because everyone has a life...and that may require rearranging everybody's schedules. I don't know...not always that simple. Again, what ever works.
that is a very nice hotel room, what was the desert? Yes about the question she is being selfish but she has a right to be because money has been spent and what if the mother does not get better? I am sure he wants here there but unless they do not have the money they should go ahead with the wedding.
I would keep the date (or even move it up if possible) because if his mother is in danger of dying then if I was him I'd want her to experience that before she passed so that she could be a part of her sons wedding. It would be great for her knowing that her son will be well taken care of after she leaves.
she's not being selfish(but only to a certain degree) but she needs to understand what he is dealing with now. i know i would be understanding and would have suggested before he did to wait! people dont get better from being terminally ill. fuck errbody else being inconvenienced! its his damn mother! she probably can't even be there at the wedding! omg get a clue people.lmao imsuchabitch79...get a life for real!
She is EXTREMLY SELFISH!!! it shouldnt even be an issue to delay the wedding...his MOM is sick for peeps sake....if it was her MOM im sure she wud delay. how will she be comfortable spending the rest of her life with him, if his mom wasnt there to give her blessing??? Personally ateeya i think she should question whether or not she is ready for marriage, because she seems selfish and self centred. Marriage is about sacrifce....she needs to grow up! Im 19 btw so it goes to show her maturity level
I would wait. I mean look at the scenario, who's coming to the wedding if his mom is sick? Its a bit selfish, and you don't want to get married under stressed circumstances either. See what you need to do to postpone or reschedule arrangements, but you have to do it soon as possible.
he may have cold feet OR feel like he would not be able to enjoy his wedding because the only thing on his mind is his mom's illness. but he dosent know whats gonna happen she could get better or not. he says to postpone but how long will that take everything is paid for n say she does pass he dosent want have to pay for three things (the 2weddings cuz he aint gettin money bac 4rm vendors and sadly a funeral)
she sould put herself in his shoes. what if that was her mom? she would feel the same way he feels. yes things have been paid for, and invites have went out, but hes trying to make sure his mom is going to be ok. to be hones I think they need to talk to his mother, and if she says she will be ok & dont worry about her, then they should keep their wedding date.
I understand you have paid your vendors but right now, you have some time to plan ahead. Let the vendors know you need another date and how much more will it cost. IT'S NOT LIKE IT'S TOTALLY LAST MINUTE...A COUPLE MONTHS IN ADVANCE
That's a hard decision but that's too soon of a date to cancel. When my husband and I got married his grandmother was sick with a brain tumor. She was actually able to make it to the wedding and later passed away that year. So if we had waited she would have never been there to see us be married.
I think that for now, they should keep that date because everything is already paid for...like you said, his mom might be better by then and if not, she most likely would be supportive of their decision to have the wedding on February 14th...who knows, if they postpone the wedding, it may not happend at all...
it cost a lot of money to take care of terminally ill people and if he is smart he may also be thinking of funeral cost so if she is supportive she should let him think these circumstances through. and they may not have to wait but i am pretty sure if it were here parent she would want to wait as well because a mother's love is precious and can not ever be replaced.
i would say to keep it the same, because if you back it up what if she does not make it, at least if the date stands there is more likely a chance she will get to see her son married and happy and if you move it back the chance of her seeing him get married lessens
I think he has cold feet because of the wedding but I also think he is scared for his mom. I wouldn't change the dates because his mom may not live past Feb 14 and then again she may live longer. Her illness doesn't have to be unto death becuz God can do all things. Everything is already set so I would stick to my plans and have faith in God! If she does pass on after the wedding he would feel better knowing that she made it to see him get married!
it depends on the mother. i'm assuming the mother and son are close or this wouldn't be an issue. if she is deathly ill, how can you go on with a wedding!
The wedding is around the corner so It would be a hard decision, but If It were my parent I would not be able to concentrate on the wedding planning while this is going on. What if the wedding proceeds, but his heart is not in it due to his mother being ill. She is the mother of the groom so she is an important part and I wouldn't want her to feel as though it was biz as usual. They should see if the companies will work with them since its his mom is ill. God Bless to all involved. NYC always!
Ateyaaa asked for our input on the subject. This is not about us! Respond to the subject and keep it moving! Again...do you how you need to do you! I don't judge ANYONE!!!
@ olusegun...It's ok to disagree! I never said that. Just because we are both virgos...doesn't mean that we will agree on something! We are two different indivisuals. That's just my take on it! You do what you must! I know life is short and all that...but two people are suppose to be together for LIFE right??? I'm not asking you to agree with me. I'm just giving my opinion. I do have that right. However, you don't judge someone just because they have a difference of opinion.
bornavirgo if u reali are a virgo we got nothing in common, you are looking at this all wrong it aint about being selfish its about making the most of wat little time we all have together on this earth, if dat had been my mum i would probably be trying to push for an earlier date if anything i know sure as hell i would want my loved ones to be a part of it. not for me to be crying later on thinkin if only she was here to see this. Um sure she as a woman would think the same.
it depends how sick she is. if she can make to February 2010 i would keep the wedding just so she can be there. i would think he would want to push the day closer so his mom can be there.
I understand about losing out on the funds and all...but you know what...if I love you, I will make it up to you. We make sacrifices everyday! well at least I do...lol. So if that is what ails you...the lost of the money and the planning, which I TRULY understand! I'll make it worth your while in the end because I love you remember??? However, we agree to disagree...and tht's ok too.
You must visit City Island the next time you come to New York. They have some of the best seafood in the East! I hope you will have a meet up here next month when you visit!
@ missdoublekiss...I agree with you to a certain point...however, what if he's not a momma's boy??? Look, once again, I truly understand how she must feel! No Doubt!!! But all I'm asking for is a little time here...we are going to be one for LIFE!!! I need to be there for my mom in this time need. You BEST BELIEVE that I would do it for you if it was your mom! I know your not going ANYWHERE so that would not concern me at all!!! Again...that's just me...lol.
As for the bride to be, if everything is paid for, she would be hard pressed to recoup funds back from wedding vendors. They usually do things in advance and once the deposits and/or payments are made it's a done deal. On with the show!
No she isn't selfish for wanting to keep the plans going BUT...
If her fiance is torn up about his mother's "sickness' that is reason enough to be there for him. But if he's a momma's boy, he's going to be bitter that she went on w/ the wedding.
You don't have to worry about me going ANYWHERE!!! If I plan to be together with you for LIFE...then I would pray you understand that!...if you love me. LORD forbid...my mom passes on that day or anywhere in between that time. Me personally...I could'nt do it!!! I would ask that we hold off for a little while longer. Nothings going to change between us. I just need us to be there for mom! If you can't understand that...then that's selfish to me!!! I love my mom like I love you. Go figure...lol.
Devine, not trying to start anything but how is she being desperate? Wanting to start her life with someone she loves. You or anyone can't/shouldn't keep putting your life on hold because of family/life crisis....you would never get anything done...putting off your life. Maybe I'm looking at it wrong could you go into further detail.
I TRULY understand how the bride to be feels...however, when you get married...your married till death do you part! So your going to be together for a long time anyways!!! It not going to change that fact if you decide to put it off a little while longer. I can REALLY relate to the guy because I am really close to my mom...my mom is my ROCK!!! So unless you have that type of relationship with your mom...you may go the other way on this thing. I need to know that my moms out of danger first!!!
There are two people getting married if he's not ready then call it off I understand perfectly what he is saying. He is probably stressed because of his mom and she is being selfish who cares about money family is first...I think he should call it off indefinitely or move on from her to someone who has a brain. People are so desparate these days
What hotel where u at? Never seen a hotel so small and I'm from NY! Yeah the taxpayers pay for all those dam lights! I think they should turn it off at night at least lol! Save me some money!!!
Also juniors cheesecake isn't really that good. The cheesecake factory's cheesecake is better. Make sure u go to Cake Man Raven in Downtown Bklyn for the BEST red velvet cake and go to Sugar Cane in Bklyn for dinner. Its a Caribbean spot.
That room looked like a pretty coffin Ateyaa...we're both from the south and we like space no matter if we're just in the room for short period of time...you know when you're vactioning you don't stay in the room too much anyway but that small..I haven't ever been anywhere that small either...LOL hope all went well..food looked great too...so happy for you.
No, unless he's changing his mind about the marriage...NO!
Loved the New York trip info and pics, great. As for the couple I would not cancel just because of the cost and the inconvience. It's just one day. I would compromise and cancel the honeymoon only but I would go with my wedding because you're going to lose a LOT of money. Of course he wants his mom there but unfortunately it's not possible. When she gets better they could have a small blessing in which she could attend.
i feel that its life an death & feb .14 is close.if she dies in the nxt couple of wks he may not be healed fully and emotionally ready to marry in 2 months.marriage is exciting & he jus wnts to b all there whn it cums time & really enjoy tht moment.the hurt will still b there but nt as fresh you feel me? obviously he is deeply affected by this.stand by him an support him tht is only gonna make ur bond stronger,
this is a tough situation. i dont think its fair to the bride or the wedding guests to put off the wedding especilly since it will be here in a few months. if anything, they should have the wedding on a closer date. if his mother is that sick, they shouldnt wait, especially if he wants her to be there. but he needs to think of his fiance. its not fair to postpone such an important date
I mean is he marrying his mother or his fiancee? I understand what he wants but the point of a wedding is for those two to be married. Although, family is usually there for the wedding, everything is ready for that date and those two are the only ones that need to be there. I wouldn't change the date. I feel for him and his family, but why stop the wedding for that? Anything can happen...you just have to be prepared for anything.
This is a hard situation. He may want to change the date because he wants to focus on his mother 100%, or it may be an illness that prevents his mother from being at the wedding and he really wants her there. I don't know what I would do, because if his mother does pass, before the day, and he didn't do what he THINKS he should have done, it could put a strain on their relationship, because he could blame her.
he doesnt want to be enjoying his life right now when his mother is about to die or maybe he does not want to marry her fir sure right now and is using his mothers death as somewhat of an excuse
I would not change anything..I'm an event planner and I know how much a wedding cost. She would be stupid to go along with him on this. I understand his mother is sick, but come one you can not cnacel the wedding when people already been paid. You do not get a refund on a lot of things, so I think she needs to have a serious talk with her soon to be husband. I'm wandering if he is using his mother's illness as an excuse to not marry her. Maybe he got "cold feet" I hope things work out for her!
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I'm glad that you had a safe trip to New York. Pertaining to the wedding: It seems like the groom to be may have a lot on his mind. He may be speaking out of fear and I personally would have some concerns. However, I pray that everything turns out alright.
My best friend had the same situation happen to her only it was her mother who was I'll. My friend went on with her wedding and her mom was too sick to attend. Her mother died 4 months later. Point is ..... Life goes on u have to live your own and keep it moving!!!
That is a difficult situation and I am getting married myself next year. If it were me I would either keep the date or push up to a date that is closer. Like Ateya said you don't know waht is going to happen with his mom and she would probably give her blessing. Good luck on that one girl.
we in a recession, he must be rich to pay for alla dat... if he wanna change everything up he must have something else up his sleeve. i aint got not money for dat. i cud understand that his mom is sick but wont you want her alive for the wedding.. so if anything bring it forward- but dont... that date was picked for a reason
im sure those invitations cost out the a**... nah i wouldnt change it.. esp pushin it back! If it's set in stone, they should just leave it. Besides it would probably cost MORE money just to change everything around
Then again, as a Brooklynite I can say that there are rats all over Downtown Bk. The question is how close to the food are they lol. Diddy eats it...I've never had em...but I'm sure its an experience to have lol.
i went thow to the same situacion ..i spoke to my mother -in-law and she told me "do not cancel the party""" i wil be ok.. i thik ask your in law and explain her the situacion and she will understand u..good luck...
I would go ahead and do it early so my mother would be able to enjoy it before she gets really down with her sickness. If he says back it up for later I would really question that, because it may not even be a wedding due to way to much time being lost trying to hold out for his mother and after that situation comes to a head he just may have a change of heart and you may be out your money anyway. Most things for a wedding are non-refundable. So she needs to come up with a decision asap.
If my mother was sick I would want to speed things up rather than back them up. If someone is terminally ill you want them to atleast live to see the day you get married. Why would you back it up and make it where they may not? Doesn't make sense to me. Sounds like someone got a REALLY good excuse to procrastinate to me.
In my opinion its him thats being selfish...you cant inconvenience EVERYONE taking part in the wedding (caterers, bridesmaids, groomsmen, venue owner, guests etc) for one person. Its just like if they were having a child...if his mom was sick near the due date you cant ask the baby to wait until grandma gets better. The show must go on. Just pray his mom gets well.
its not selfish .. not at all .... we all understand that guys will forever be mama's boys its in their nature but there is no reason for him to stop everything without knowing what gonna happen in the future so yes i would keep everything the way it is and just wait and see what happens
I'M sorry I think she shouldnt have to move the wedding date...Its paid for..weddings are not cheap and who knows the venue could be booked for the next year or so......Stick with your wedding day...Mom-In-Law is going to be ok. Tell Fiance to stop thinking the worse, pray and leave it to God.
was it "chambre" room???
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Nanadsyl 1 year ago
i think yu should move the date, especially if you don't know when the mom's gunna get better, i wouldn't wanna get all those peoples hopes up then randomly put the wedding off!!
and although or if the mother was to say go ahead on without me, thats a no no, i would want my mama at my damn wedding LOL yu knoo?!?
i hope everything went well with the couple :)
ChelleyFresh01 1 year ago
what happend, did they go thru with the wedding or postpone?
naimae 1 year ago
Wow, I am just seeing this video Ateya, what happened to the couple do you know? And I do agree do not put of the plans...
smissmurray 1 year ago
Cute hair!
Th3lite 2 years ago
I had a similar situation when I got married. My dad passed 2 1/2 months before my wedding and I really wanted to call off the wedding but my mother assured me that this wasn't something my father would have wanted. So I had a great wedding day and my dad was there in spirit. I think they should go ahead with their plans and go visit his mom if she is still alive before they leave for their honeymoon. You can't put your life on hold for something you have no control over.
Nanadsyl 2 years ago 4
@Nanadsyl asshole
ladariuspritchett92 1 year ago
@Nanadsyl bithcett
ladariuspritchett92 1 year ago
I'm kinda late chiming in but i'll toss in my 2cents anyway. I understand that a wedding day is something lots of girls dream about, but should really be important is the MARRIAGE. The importance of the wedding should pale in comparison. I think they're both being a little selfish. My solution; get married in a small civil ceremony for now and save the big shabang for a later date. Aside from the invitations, the deposits for everything else can be held over.
heavenleiblu 2 years ago
sounds like cold feet if you ask me.....if something happens to the mother she would never be able to see her son get married.....do the wedding now so your mother can attend and then if worse comes to worse you know in your heart that your mother saw you get married before she died unless the real reason is........he dont want to marry the gurl lol
purpleladydragon 2 years ago 2
OMG I'm so late...when did u go? I live in NYC..i missed u! =( Ughh
JoJa00 2 years ago
i think they should push the wedding back b/c i wouldn't want my wedding to be associated with the illness or death of someone. It should be one of the happiest days of your life and something you will never forget. Also during the wedding the groom's mind will be focused on his mom and not on the wedding. If the mom can talk I would ask her for her thoughts as well.. especially if she's in the wedding.
exotickiwi1 2 years ago
it´s pronounced (pah-STEESE). And I don´t know who was up in Pastis on a health kick....that´s a French restaurant! Everything at Pastis is SUPER fattening (even though they don´t have scrimps haha :)
GabbyTime 2 years ago
So glad u enjoyed your visit! I love living here! Jrs cheescake is the bomb!
crownofHisglory 2 years ago
I always laugh at the tourists for taking pictures of the billboards and what not. I'm glad you enjoyed our city.
hollyhollyrose 2 years ago 3
I think that they should keep the date because if they change it that would be money comimg from their pocket. Which they could be using for his mother's doctor bills or other things that need to be paid for.
LoveLaTisha 2 years ago
Boutique hotels are small but fly.. Next time try the new Hotel indigo in chelsea.. big enough for two.. in the heart of the wholesale districts.
mymakeupfetish 2 years ago
That hotel Indigo is fly they have one in Atlanta across from the Fox Theatre and the rooms were sufficient for two. Great customer service.
Nanadsyl 2 years ago
i think he want to postpone the wedding because of the honeymoon......they can get married and go on the honeymoon after his mom gets better!!
mimily890 2 years ago
As a married woman myself I feel like this is a test that the couple has to endure.... is he going to put you first after GOD? I don't know the nature of her illness and I pray that she will be better.... If he puts up a big fuss he needs to be aware that the fact that you are the new first lady and that this is setting the premise for how situations will be handled.... maybe mom is against it and suggested it, we don't know.. My advice is to pray and ask the Lord to direct your path. GOD Bless
Trendolyn78 2 years ago
Next time you are in the Big Apple, hit the outer boroughs. Go to the original Juniors in BKlyn. LMK I am a NYC girl who can recommend so good eats. .
499mattsmom 2 years ago
I must comment on Miss Chriss82. But first, let me apoligize for not recognizing his mother. She is not well, but she is here. We must not pass judgement on the bride because, we donot know the actually facts. All I am hearing is judgement.
monique6819 2 years ago
Hi Ateyaa, I am so glad you had a good time NY. By reading the other comments, I can tell it is some sistas in the mix.lol. I have no comment because there not enough facts, I donot personally know the couple, and therefore I can not give any advice or opinions. I can say this one thing, she needs to follow her heart. But two other question comes to mind and that is: Is the bride paying for the wedding? if so really need more facts. If he was paying, there would be no postponement. trust
monique6819 2 years ago
I'll bet he's using his Mom's illness as an excuse to postpone the wedding because he has cold feet.
MrsTheDoll 2 years ago 2
I think that if he thought his mom was terminally ill, it would make more sense for him to want to move the date up rather than push it back. To me it seems like he is making excuses and him changing the date has less to do with his mom and more to do with him just having cold feet. When she talks to him, she would need to have a gentle approach just so things dont turn sour and he thinks that she doesnt care about his mom's illness.
Only1Meya 2 years ago 4
You're Look So Nice.
Fsbren13 2 years ago
One of my sentences made no since. I meant to say, "I've tried several things from her blog". or "several receipes"
(smile) Have a Good one.
1Beauty08 2 years ago
Ateya, I just wanted to say you are truly a blessing to have. Thanks so much for your videos, you have helped me so much. Now I need to thank you for recommending Divascancook. OMG she can burn, I've tried several this from her blog and they are all sooo good. Thanks for everything.
1Beauty08 2 years ago
he shouldn't change it., i do think its cold feet. he does have a life of his own and u jus gotta have high hopes..,
sucha5starchikk 2 years ago
I think she should've told us the illness
So we know how serious it is...
But I think yeah, let the date stay the same.
Sorry but you don't know what will happen
&& maybe this isbad... But that's Valentine's day and that's so romantic!!
ladefizz 2 years ago
I adore this hotel! yeah, it's not sprawling, but very cute & fun like a little fancy bon-bon lol now about the wedding: This might be an excuse for cold feet, actually. A wedding is a joyous event-- not only a deposit's-already-in-place/ people-adjusting-their-plans-sort of thing like a business transaction -- it's a celebration! Also, it also lasts 1 day..... love is forever-- for wife and for mother.
gigimc 2 years ago
atey ifthat was small you couldnt live in britain we are dying over here man. you'd be lucky to have a bathroom like that here
kattaplay 2 years ago
hahahahahahahaha
OMG! EXACTLY!!!! LOOOL
ladefizz 2 years ago
I haven't been to NY in years. I need to get back there.
sassygalady 2 years ago
Even though it was small, it seems nice.
sassygalady 2 years ago
I would keep the date especially if everything is set in stone and paid for because depending on who u do business with they might not take change or set backs lightly and they might end up dishing out way more money than intended. Keep prayin for mom dukes and if worst case senario things have to be pushed then they will figure out how to deal wit it......love the hair Ateyaa
flynshy88 2 years ago
I would keep the date. I wouldn't change anything. If he gives her no alternative, then I would put him to work on making the changes.
ladyrose01z 2 years ago
OMG this made me LOL so much XD
This woman is so fucking ... OMG LOOOOOOOL XD
mrsohmygosh 2 years ago
I think the dates should stay the same.
The sooner the wedding, the more likely the mum will still be alive to see her son get married. Definitely. Hope she gets well.
Loved the beginning of the video too. I'd love to visit New York!
McLovin7xoxo 2 years ago
GIRL!!!! I work at Macys on 34th street!! I could have got you the hook-up in our store!
myronmlawing 2 years ago
isnt it a BEAUTIFUL place and yay im from new york lol glad u liked it:)
tashadt5 2 years ago
I think the Divas man is getting cold feet.
Or maybe the mothers illness is worse than he's saying and maybe just maybe he wants his mother there at the wedding for support.
I would put off the wedding but not too far.
And money wise, make the man pay the difference for sure !
hourglas39 2 years ago
@hourglas39 i agree with u with d cold feet thing...
if i was d girl,i'd try to marry anyways (lol) but without d party/celebration thing (just d legal/officially one)...maybe just get it into d paper n later on when mother in law gt back,we'd make d party (maybe marry in d church)...i know ppl who were in similar situation,did d "civil mariage" n later on (maybe in some bday anniversary) dey'd really do d big party n if needed d religious mariage as well...but its up 2 dem,cant force a guy =)
angelfiremz 2 years ago
@Angelfiremz
Yeah, now that I think about it, I had 2 friends that did the same thing with the civil marriage but it was due to finances but they did have a big ass party later on along with getting married in a church at a later date :)
hourglas39 2 years ago
Historic is the key word here, that's why your room was small. Way back when they only made the rooms a certain size.
But now adays, dam, some hotel rooms are just too big ! LOL
Lobster looks good
hourglas39 2 years ago
If his mom is ill, his mom is ill. What can he do about it. So I say if you have to move the date move it no late than the end of march.
gemini850 2 years ago
i think hes making an excuse so he can hold it off because he has cold feet and i hear what a teyas saying i feel like ok anything like birthdays that are coming in a week r 2 nad anniversaries would be held off because it right around that time but in febuary? we are in november....................BUT my grandma was sick for 4 years due to cancer so lets say that it was the midle of january i think that when sthey should be makin that choice but not tooooo far out so they can tell their guests
SheridanBryant 2 years ago 2
no need to for me to be redundant-I agree with Sheridan: excuses
rollininHislove 2 years ago
lol thats what i say, damn i just wanna know how much is the light bill for one day...
treejay01 2 years ago
Oh, and she should definitely not change the date. So close to the wedding that would cost SO MUCH MONEY. Especially if she's from a big city. Not knowing if the mom is going to get well or get worse is another reason not to change the date, because if and or when her state changes, you won't know and no vendors are going to be kept in limbo. The only way they can wait until the mom gets better is to wait and then hit city hall. They should find another way to include and honor Mom.
mychelle0706 2 years ago
You have to stop at Juniors in BROOKLYN and get the cheese pie, not the cake, with the strawberries on top... that's how you gotta have it. LOL
and trust that bathroom is standard, that's how most apts in manhattan look, I'm a real estate agent. Hey, you don't pay for the space, you pay for the location. lol You want more space, go to Jersey. lol
Did you see any fans of your channel while in NYC? I'm sure you didn't get any shopping done. Make sure you do next month! :)
mychelle0706 2 years ago
r u engaged, just curious I saw a ring
loubookie 2 years ago
Mannnnnnn seeing those pics makes me wanna go back to New York! Went about 5yrs ago for my b-day and didnt wanna go back home (UK)!! If i wasnt with my cousin who had to drag me to the airport, i'd probably still be there living it up!! LOL
SexySensi 2 years ago
girl that's new york huge city but very crowded with small apartments but so exciting! now 4 the let's talk topic she should keep the date becuz his mother may end up being ok after all.
jerseygirl149 2 years ago
I think that she should wait cause if the shoe was on the other foot how would she feel. personally i know how my boyfriend is with his mother and i know he wouldnt really be happy on our wedding day if he know his mother would be dying... Its just not right.. I also dont think that it has anything to do with him not wanting her, His first love (which is his mother) is really sick some things are just not that important... you can always get married but you cant ever bring someone back
PinkGoddess1515 2 years ago
Lastly Ateya, Congrats on your trip! Thank God you aren't claustrophobic!! But girl, some Hotels in Europe as well as Apts are this small...lol..makes you appreciate space huh? The room had all u needed though and it was cozy! Lobster looked delish...where in Texas are you? You know you spoiled right? texas does everything BIG!! :) Enjoyed the pics, keep me posted on your upcoming trip. Love the do! You look fantastic. Peace until next time. Congrats to the engaged couple.Praying 4 his mom.
sweetestjoi 2 years ago
Ateya, I think the Queen should ask him if he has any reservations about marrying her? If there are none, & no financial situations preventing, they should proceed.If the mom is out of town, a small ceremony with her a Pastor & witness would be nice just in case something should keep her from attending the ceremony,however, I would think that she wouldn't want to miss a special day such as this one. Then, on Feb 14, since all is taken care of,if the dates not moved up..they have things set!
sweetestjoi 2 years ago
I agree with you Ateya and I had the same situation just last year with my cousin and my uncle. There was a decision to proceed as scheduled, but plans were made to move the date up, not back- if necessary. My uncle was able to be there and is still with us. If his goal is to get married, then do it now, you can still have the Feb 14 ceremony- either way your married.
sjd6247 2 years ago
I can understand her frustration but she sounds like she is the one pushing this marriage thing. However, no one knows the entire story so its hard to say. They can keep the date but she can focus on the plans but I wouldn't care about a wedding at such a time.
MichyGW 2 years ago
I have a friend and her dad was terminally ill. my friends older sister was to get married and they wanted to hold off too but in the end they went ahead with the wedding.their dad was so sick but they were able to bring him out the hospital for the occasion but sadly he passed about a week later. if they had waited he would have missed it and they so wanted him there so I guess it kinda worked out. Keep the feb 14th 2010 date, let your mom be part of it or you may regret it later.
Nagoz83 2 years ago
She is simply being selfish. I have a friend who is going through the same thing. His father has cancer but his fiance is down on getting married before the end of the year. Every cent he as, has to go to the wedding. Some women forget that the wedding is not important, its the marriage that she should be focusing on. The wedding is just a performance so to speak or a photo shoot. She needs to relax and chill. He can get another wife or fiance but not another mother.
MichyGW 2 years ago
I say keep the date, especially having put in all that money, everyone has already booked off and all. I guess he may want to hold on because if his mom passes a month before the wedding, it may be hard for him..grieving wise especially if him and his mom is close. not knowing what her illness is, I too would keep the feb 14 date and if the worse is to happen, let it happen after the wedding.
Nagoz83 2 years ago
keep the date...if the wedding is postponed, he should pay for the reschedule
mountainbride07 2 years ago
U should have gone to BBQ'S!! OMG they have the BEST food & Drinks~!!!
Truhotone 2 years ago
I think she needs to talk to him and maybe not change the date but truly sit down and talk to him.
BabyTigga23 2 years ago
you only get one mother. if my mom was sick, i couldnt spend a minute away from her. i love her too much. i would have to be there every minute at all cost. she should be understanding. its a wedding. it can be rescheduled. the time spent with an ill relative cannot be replaced. i learned that the hard way. My grandmother was in her last days and i didnt make her priority. i had to work and this and that, now she is gone, and i will never get her back. that is something i have to liv w/ 4ever
ttime2003 2 years ago
keep the date
redlovelywoman 2 years ago
I hope you had fun
quianaj27 2 years ago
This woman should consider the realtionship her man has with his mother. Count herself fortunate she has someone who values his realtionships with people he cares for. He wants to be there for his mother. Is he really going to be able to concentrate on an event. Does she really want someone who could under those circumsatances? She needes to consider how he will view her if she presures him about this. She's need's to have her man's back on all things period.
Sheshe416 2 years ago
its amazing how people from out of town sees so much beauty and have so much appreciation for NYC and us New Yorkers (me included) can walk through times square without so much as a second glance at a billboard lol! Looking at your video made me think "ummmm when was the last time I actually payed attention to my beautiful city filled with the flashing lights?" (lol) Thank you girl
xklusivekween 2 years ago
She should flip the script and put herself in his place and it was her mother with the serious illness. She can have her wedding anytime but momma's not going to be here all the time. Let him do what he have to do for his mother. If the illness is not as serious as she mentioned then move foward with the plans. Remember we only have ONE mother.
jaylin40 2 years ago
Ateyaa I have to agree on everything you just said about the issue. Well said, weddings are a HUGE deal, money-wise and date-wise. I know mama is so important but illness is something that we all can't have any control of. We'll never know what will be the best thing to do date wise, so like you said keep what you have in stone, things can CHANGE. Weddings are so expensive and moving the date back and rearranging plan is a little dangerous. So, again, well said, happy TG Day!!!, and God bless ya
BlaqGurl25 2 years ago
Girl next time you come to the NY you better hit me up for real SMOOCHES & enjoy your Thanksgiving
muffinismylovers 2 years ago
I think she should go ahead and postpone, people should take priority over money, it's just money, you can never replace people but more money can always be earned.
rm1483 2 years ago
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Da Mansfield only $300 a night! Wut da fuck u expect Ateyaaaaaaaaaaaa? Dang nigga u dumb!
THELOWLIFENIGGA 2 years ago
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THELOWLIFENIGGA 2 years ago
THELOWLIFENIGGA: I think you should look up the definition of RESPECT and remove your comment. The cursing is inappropriate.
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essence2187 2 years ago 3
I agree; I really dont think the two have anything to do with each other unless you need to redirect funds to the mother. Ok, so you may have to scale back the wedding plans and spend time with the mother but you can still get married on that day even if something does happen.
AlexisMoneyMaker 2 years ago
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Dang gurl u so country! U act like u neva beeen anywhere. Why u takin pics where u stay? xD an u food u ate? wtf?
I fink dat nigga wanna get outta marrying his biatch!
THELOWLIFENIGGA 2 years ago
Hey Teya, Thanks for the glimpse of the Big Apple. I hope your trip was successful and you accomplished what you wanted. As far as the wedding date change, I feel that it depends on what the mother's illness is. It seems like she intentionally left that part off. Makes you say hhuumm?
1krzypraz 2 years ago
Its his mom. to be honest I could not mentally prepare for a wedding thinking that my mother was dying. to be honest paid for or not that would be the last thing on my mind. I would understand the money is spent but being on my mothers side is more important if she is terminally il
trfrierson 2 years ago
She should postpone the wedding She can always have invites reprinted & dates changed Most people can understand what it is like to be losing a mother With the added stress of getting married in February is not a good idea for the fiance. No one wants to get married and feel like they are under pressure Make sure he understands that all changes will cost him You don't want to start a marriage thinking about yourself and what you want But think of what is best for the both of you
caramelsunday77 2 years ago
she should let everything stay especially since it was already paid for and the invitations were already sent out ,,
chocolatedream3411 2 years ago
did u pay alot for the room cuz i would to spend the weekend out there with my bf,,we live in south jersey but we would like to just stay there instead of rushing home
chocolatedream3411 2 years ago
@ Ladonte1984...I agree...IF it's possible. However, that may put more strain on everyone and the whole situation at hand! Because everyone has a life...and that may require rearranging everybody's schedules. I don't know...not always that simple. Again, what ever works.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
that is a very nice hotel room, what was the desert? Yes about the question she is being selfish but she has a right to be because money has been spent and what if the mother does not get better? I am sure he wants here there but unless they do not have the money they should go ahead with the wedding.
lavvy2585 2 years ago
I would keep the date (or even move it up if possible) because if his mother is in danger of dying then if I was him I'd want her to experience that before she passed so that she could be a part of her sons wedding. It would be great for her knowing that her son will be well taken care of after she leaves.
Ladonte1984 2 years ago
Big ups to being a Texas girl!! Im one too. And I always think when I go to other places they just dont compare!
I love this place =)
SwagDivaLisaNicole 2 years ago
Its a lose lose situation, If they forfeit the date they forfeit the money. If she forfeit his feelings she may forfeit his love!
tierrasings4u 2 years ago
she's not being selfish(but only to a certain degree) but she needs to understand what he is dealing with now. i know i would be understanding and would have suggested before he did to wait! people dont get better from being terminally ill. fuck errbody else being inconvenienced! its his damn mother! she probably can't even be there at the wedding! omg get a clue people.lmao imsuchabitch79...get a life for real!
treasurecat03isme 2 years ago 2
Ateya, you SURE can EAT!!! The lobster plate was huge and then you had dessert? And you don't look like you wear bigger than a size 9 or so!LMAO
EtherealLuv 2 years ago
She is EXTREMLY SELFISH!!! it shouldnt even be an issue to delay the wedding...his MOM is sick for peeps sake....if it was her MOM im sure she wud delay. how will she be comfortable spending the rest of her life with him, if his mom wasnt there to give her blessing??? Personally ateeya i think she should question whether or not she is ready for marriage, because she seems selfish and self centred. Marriage is about sacrifce....she needs to grow up! Im 19 btw so it goes to show her maturity level
XxJulez18xX 2 years ago 3
she probably would straight cancel the wedding.
jaylin40 2 years ago
Ateyyaa is doen it big that hotel in Newyork was hot too death.
Appplecidder 2 years ago
ahahahahahahaha!!!! Man I'm telling you!!!! It never ceases to amaze me!!!! Some PEOPLE!!!! Lol.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
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and...why did u feel the need to show us your NYC trip? U probably never get out of TX so maybe tahts why
anyway you are starting to look old
imsuchabitch79 2 years ago
wth
BreeTube123 2 years ago
your a hater. wats ur problem?
Fookyoo2 2 years ago
I would wait. I mean look at the scenario, who's coming to the wedding if his mom is sick? Its a bit selfish, and you don't want to get married under stressed circumstances either. See what you need to do to postpone or reschedule arrangements, but you have to do it soon as possible.
KoolGirlsDoThis 2 years ago
you should be a tv personality....or your own talkshow
okonkwoobiageli 2 years ago 2
girl, i just came from ny today, i stayed at verne hotel in queens. that hotel is very nice!
labellabijoux 2 years ago
he may have cold feet OR feel like he would not be able to enjoy his wedding because the only thing on his mind is his mom's illness. but he dosent know whats gonna happen she could get better or not. he says to postpone but how long will that take everything is paid for n say she does pass he dosent want have to pay for three things (the 2weddings cuz he aint gettin money bac 4rm vendors and sadly a funeral)
b2ksflyhoney 2 years ago
she sould put herself in his shoes. what if that was her mom? she would feel the same way he feels. yes things have been paid for, and invites have went out, but hes trying to make sure his mom is going to be ok. to be hones I think they need to talk to his mother, and if she says she will be ok & dont worry about her, then they should keep their wedding date.
sexybaybay24 2 years ago
I understand you have paid your vendors but right now, you have some time to plan ahead. Let the vendors know you need another date and how much more will it cost. IT'S NOT LIKE IT'S TOTALLY LAST MINUTE...A COUPLE MONTHS IN ADVANCE
soulcandy24 2 years ago
HERE's A COUPLE OF THINGS TO THINK ABOUT:
1.)What if was your mom!!!!!!!
2.)He might not want to get married because you have a lil ways to FEB 14
soulcandy24 2 years ago
someone seems a little nervous or have a change of heart i will not force him because it just might not be right
donieka1 2 years ago
Girl I'm glad you have fun in my city! I'll catch you on your next trip to NY!
Tashie723 2 years ago
That's a hard decision but that's too soon of a date to cancel. When my husband and I got married his grandmother was sick with a brain tumor. She was actually able to make it to the wedding and later passed away that year. So if we had waited she would have never been there to see us be married.
AshleyVillacorta 2 years ago
I think that for now, they should keep that date because everything is already paid for...like you said, his mom might be better by then and if not, she most likely would be supportive of their decision to have the wedding on February 14th...who knows, if they postpone the wedding, it may not happend at all...
jazzyjazz0916 2 years ago
it cost a lot of money to take care of terminally ill people and if he is smart he may also be thinking of funeral cost so if she is supportive she should let him think these circumstances through. and they may not have to wait but i am pretty sure if it were here parent she would want to wait as well because a mother's love is precious and can not ever be replaced.
GlamGoldDiva 2 years ago
i understand the funeral cost point but chances are she would not get her money back that she has already paid (invitations, venue, catering etc.)
b2ksflyhoney 2 years ago
I am a New Yorker and i am happy to hear the city did not let you down. It seems like everythig in NYC it small at times...lol.
lolitaotaku 2 years ago
I think he has cold feet too. He should want to keep the date or move it up to have his mom there at the wedding.
princessaleishia 2 years ago
i would say to keep it the same, because if you back it up what if she does not make it, at least if the date stands there is more likely a chance she will get to see her son married and happy and if you move it back the chance of her seeing him get married lessens
shaday21 2 years ago 3
I think he has cold feet because of the wedding but I also think he is scared for his mom. I wouldn't change the dates because his mom may not live past Feb 14 and then again she may live longer. Her illness doesn't have to be unto death becuz God can do all things. Everything is already set so I would stick to my plans and have faith in God! If she does pass on after the wedding he would feel better knowing that she made it to see him get married!
nikjohn77 2 years ago 4
it depends on the mother. i'm assuming the mother and son are close or this wouldn't be an issue. if she is deathly ill, how can you go on with a wedding!
shellsnik 2 years ago
I think HE getting cold feet.
xPrexiousdymex 2 years ago
@ BeautifyWithin...Point well taken!
bornavirgo 2 years ago
The wedding is around the corner so It would be a hard decision, but If It were my parent I would not be able to concentrate on the wedding planning while this is going on. What if the wedding proceeds, but his heart is not in it due to his mother being ill. She is the mother of the groom so she is an important part and I wouldn't want her to feel as though it was biz as usual. They should see if the companies will work with them since its his mom is ill. God Bless to all involved. NYC always!
BeautifyWithin 2 years ago
Let me make this point for the record...I am ALL WOMAN!!! 100%...and I understand where he's coming from. again, my opinion.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
Ateyaaa asked for our input on the subject. This is not about us! Respond to the subject and keep it moving! Again...do you how you need to do you! I don't judge ANYONE!!!
bornavirgo 2 years ago
hey girl, glad you had fun
i also had a trip last September and OMG ! it was just great
if you love sushis i have an address to give you i went back 3x there before i leave back from France
love you always
lol
nunaavane 2 years ago
@ olusegun...It's ok to disagree! I never said that. Just because we are both virgos...doesn't mean that we will agree on something! We are two different indivisuals. That's just my take on it! You do what you must! I know life is short and all that...but two people are suppose to be together for LIFE right??? I'm not asking you to agree with me. I'm just giving my opinion. I do have that right. However, you don't judge someone just because they have a difference of opinion.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
i think he should also speak to his mum and find out wat she reali feels about it all.
olusegun3232 2 years ago
bornavirgo if u reali are a virgo we got nothing in common, you are looking at this all wrong it aint about being selfish its about making the most of wat little time we all have together on this earth, if dat had been my mum i would probably be trying to push for an earlier date if anything i know sure as hell i would want my loved ones to be a part of it. not for me to be crying later on thinkin if only she was here to see this. Um sure she as a woman would think the same.
olusegun3232 2 years ago
On the other hand...I think I would know if he really did'nt want to get married or not. Different story altogether.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
@supaflygurly...you have a point! I'm for whatever works! lol. I just know that I would stand by my man.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
it depends how sick she is. if she can make to February 2010 i would keep the wedding just so she can be there. i would think he would want to push the day closer so his mom can be there.
supaflygurly 2 years ago
agreeing with you
nunaavane 2 years ago
Sound like he dont want to get married... If anything he should be pushing it up to ensure she can be there to share his day...
Prettypee81 2 years ago
I understand about losing out on the funds and all...but you know what...if I love you, I will make it up to you. We make sacrifices everyday! well at least I do...lol. So if that is what ails you...the lost of the money and the planning, which I TRULY understand! I'll make it worth your while in the end because I love you remember??? However, we agree to disagree...and tht's ok too.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
You must visit City Island the next time you come to New York. They have some of the best seafood in the East! I hope you will have a meet up here next month when you visit!
Takia0913 2 years ago
@ missdoublekiss...I agree with you to a certain point...however, what if he's not a momma's boy??? Look, once again, I truly understand how she must feel! No Doubt!!! But all I'm asking for is a little time here...we are going to be one for LIFE!!! I need to be there for my mom in this time need. You BEST BELIEVE that I would do it for you if it was your mom! I know your not going ANYWHERE so that would not concern me at all!!! Again...that's just me...lol.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
Okay....
As for the bride to be, if everything is paid for, she would be hard pressed to recoup funds back from wedding vendors. They usually do things in advance and once the deposits and/or payments are made it's a done deal. On with the show!
No she isn't selfish for wanting to keep the plans going BUT...
If her fiance is torn up about his mother's "sickness' that is reason enough to be there for him. But if he's a momma's boy, he's going to be bitter that she went on w/ the wedding.
missdoublekiss 2 years ago
You don't have to worry about me going ANYWHERE!!! If I plan to be together with you for LIFE...then I would pray you understand that!...if you love me. LORD forbid...my mom passes on that day or anywhere in between that time. Me personally...I could'nt do it!!! I would ask that we hold off for a little while longer. Nothings going to change between us. I just need us to be there for mom! If you can't understand that...then that's selfish to me!!! I love my mom like I love you. Go figure...lol.
bornavirgo 2 years ago
are you the guy she is talking abou in this video?
Oh boy!!!!!!!!
missdoublekiss 2 years ago
Devine, not trying to start anything but how is she being desperate? Wanting to start her life with someone she loves. You or anyone can't/shouldn't keep putting your life on hold because of family/life crisis....you would never get anything done...putting off your life. Maybe I'm looking at it wrong could you go into further detail.
kokienga 2 years ago
I TRULY understand how the bride to be feels...however, when you get married...your married till death do you part! So your going to be together for a long time anyways!!! It not going to change that fact if you decide to put it off a little while longer. I can REALLY relate to the guy because I am really close to my mom...my mom is my ROCK!!! So unless you have that type of relationship with your mom...you may go the other way on this thing. I need to know that my moms out of danger first!!!
bornavirgo 2 years ago
love your hair. gurl.^_^..
danijanimi 2 years ago
There are two people getting married if he's not ready then call it off I understand perfectly what he is saying. He is probably stressed because of his mom and she is being selfish who cares about money family is first...I think he should call it off indefinitely or move on from her to someone who has a brain. People are so desparate these days
Devine5188 2 years ago
What hotel where u at? Never seen a hotel so small and I'm from NY! Yeah the taxpayers pay for all those dam lights! I think they should turn it off at night at least lol! Save me some money!!!
Also juniors cheesecake isn't really that good. The cheesecake factory's cheesecake is better. Make sure u go to Cake Man Raven in Downtown Bklyn for the BEST red velvet cake and go to Sugar Cane in Bklyn for dinner. Its a Caribbean spot.
kittrin 2 years ago
That room looked like a pretty coffin Ateyaa...we're both from the south and we like space no matter if we're just in the room for short period of time...you know when you're vactioning you don't stay in the room too much anyway but that small..I haven't ever been anywhere that small either...LOL hope all went well..food looked great too...so happy for you.
No, unless he's changing his mind about the marriage...NO!
kokienga 2 years ago
Loved the New York trip info and pics, great. As for the couple I would not cancel just because of the cost and the inconvience. It's just one day. I would compromise and cancel the honeymoon only but I would go with my wedding because you're going to lose a LOT of money. Of course he wants his mom there but unfortunately it's not possible. When she gets better they could have a small blessing in which she could attend.
Cutchswife 2 years ago
if u object he might distance himself frm u and thn the relationship might not last. extreme but when some1 suffers emotionally there is no crutch
authentic810 2 years ago
i feel that its life an death & feb .14 is close.if she dies in the nxt couple of wks he may not be healed fully and emotionally ready to marry in 2 months.marriage is exciting & he jus wnts to b all there whn it cums time & really enjoy tht moment.the hurt will still b there but nt as fresh you feel me? obviously he is deeply affected by this.stand by him an support him tht is only gonna make ur bond stronger,
authentic810 2 years ago
this is a tough situation. i dont think its fair to the bride or the wedding guests to put off the wedding especilly since it will be here in a few months. if anything, they should have the wedding on a closer date. if his mother is that sick, they shouldnt wait, especially if he wants her to be there. but he needs to think of his fiance. its not fair to postpone such an important date
tierrae3810 2 years ago
i love your hair here. very pretty
tierrae3810 2 years ago
I mean is he marrying his mother or his fiancee? I understand what he wants but the point of a wedding is for those two to be married. Although, family is usually there for the wedding, everything is ready for that date and those two are the only ones that need to be there. I wouldn't change the date. I feel for him and his family, but why stop the wedding for that? Anything can happen...you just have to be prepared for anything.
shandifox 2 years ago
This is a hard situation. He may want to change the date because he wants to focus on his mother 100%, or it may be an illness that prevents his mother from being at the wedding and he really wants her there. I don't know what I would do, because if his mother does pass, before the day, and he didn't do what he THINKS he should have done, it could put a strain on their relationship, because he could blame her.
MrsStreet1 2 years ago 3
he doesnt want to be enjoying his life right now when his mother is about to die or maybe he does not want to marry her fir sure right now and is using his mothers death as somewhat of an excuse
lit26 2 years ago
I would not change anything..I'm an event planner and I know how much a wedding cost. She would be stupid to go along with him on this. I understand his mother is sick, but come one you can not cnacel the wedding when people already been paid. You do not get a refund on a lot of things, so I think she needs to have a serious talk with her soon to be husband. I'm wandering if he is using his mother's illness as an excuse to not marry her. Maybe he got "cold feet" I hope things work out for her!
RosefromPittsburgh 2 years ago 3
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favorx7 2 years ago
WHEN ARE YOU COMING TO VEGAS? :-) .NO SMALL HOTEL ROOMS HERE. LOL Glad you had a safe trip.
BrittneyDanielle1 2 years ago
I'm glad that you had a safe trip to New York. Pertaining to the wedding: It seems like the groom to be may have a lot on his mind. He may be speaking out of fear and I personally would have some concerns. However, I pray that everything turns out alright.
mikers1242 2 years ago 2
My best friend had the same situation happen to her only it was her mother who was I'll. My friend went on with her wedding and her mom was too sick to attend. Her mother died 4 months later. Point is ..... Life goes on u have to live your own and keep it moving!!!
denise08094 2 years ago
That is a difficult situation and I am getting married myself next year. If it were me I would either keep the date or push up to a date that is closer. Like Ateya said you don't know waht is going to happen with his mom and she would probably give her blessing. Good luck on that one girl.
Carribeanbabie 2 years ago
we in a recession, he must be rich to pay for alla dat... if he wanna change everything up he must have something else up his sleeve. i aint got not money for dat. i cud understand that his mom is sick but wont you want her alive for the wedding.. so if anything bring it forward- but dont... that date was picked for a reason
marliestrim 2 years ago
im sure those invitations cost out the a**... nah i wouldnt change it.. esp pushin it back! If it's set in stone, they should just leave it. Besides it would probably cost MORE money just to change everything around
cm2fresh 2 years ago
Don't go to Juniors !!! They have rats. . No lie
azaniaa 2 years ago
Then again, as a Brooklynite I can say that there are rats all over Downtown Bk. The question is how close to the food are they lol. Diddy eats it...I've never had em...but I'm sure its an experience to have lol.
lilbaby103 2 years ago 2
i went thow to the same situacion ..i spoke to my mother -in-law and she told me "do not cancel the party""" i wil be ok.. i thik ask your in law and explain her the situacion and she will understand u..good luck...
chachi1809 2 years ago
I would go ahead and do it early so my mother would be able to enjoy it before she gets really down with her sickness. If he says back it up for later I would really question that, because it may not even be a wedding due to way to much time being lost trying to hold out for his mother and after that situation comes to a head he just may have a change of heart and you may be out your money anyway. Most things for a wedding are non-refundable. So she needs to come up with a decision asap.
Tbflirtin 2 years ago
how u gonna come to ny and u aint tell me
labancita 2 years ago
I am glad you had fun on your trip; you look fab by the way. As far as the situation goes, I understand all points that have been made.
rmbb10 2 years ago
i agree wit thickumz2002.
klady758 2 years ago
If my mother was sick I would want to speed things up rather than back them up. If someone is terminally ill you want them to atleast live to see the day you get married. Why would you back it up and make it where they may not? Doesn't make sense to me. Sounds like someone got a REALLY good excuse to procrastinate to me.
Thickumz2002 2 years ago 2
Wow your hair is so cute today. Look so pretty today. Glad you had a good time on your trip.
phoenix9ty 2 years ago
In my opinion its him thats being selfish...you cant inconvenience EVERYONE taking part in the wedding (caterers, bridesmaids, groomsmen, venue owner, guests etc) for one person. Its just like if they were having a child...if his mom was sick near the due date you cant ask the baby to wait until grandma gets better. The show must go on. Just pray his mom gets well.
thepassoftheword 2 years ago
its not selfish .. not at all .... we all understand that guys will forever be mama's boys its in their nature but there is no reason for him to stop everything without knowing what gonna happen in the future so yes i would keep everything the way it is and just wait and see what happens
imspetacular1 2 years ago
You went to my neck of the woods.. lol. I know u loved it! I miss home now :*(
Viccoria 2 years ago
I'M sorry I think she shouldnt have to move the wedding date...Its paid for..weddings are not cheap and who knows the venue could be booked for the next year or so......Stick with your wedding day...Mom-In-Law is going to be ok. Tell Fiance to stop thinking the worse, pray and leave it to God.
Lovelypersonality 2 years ago