Hii. Im going on holiday tomorrow and my mam is scared of flying. Its too late to get hypnotherapy and she hasnt slept for a week worrying about it. Is there anything I can do to make it better because she wants to go but is thinking negative.Please post back a.s.a.p. Thank you.
Emotionally, that makes a lot of sense. Many people don't feel secure in general. Their answer to that is to control everything. So, if ones whole life has been organized around control, to puts yourself in a situation that you don't control looks like suicide.
That's how it looks emotionally. Logically is another thing. But I've worked with may people who feel like they are going to die if they get on the plane. Fortunately, this - amazingly - can be fixed.
ive flown maybe 50 times,but now ive got kids when i had to fly i got a panic attack and went home,,wasted 300 euros,,but i wont fly again,,no matter how many people tell me its safe,,PLANES CRASH,,and its one of the most horrible ways to die in my opinion,,especially if your family is with you helpless and in panic with everyone else on the plane waiting for impact,,too much,,ill stick to longer journey times by train and boat,,flying seems unnatural..
fly on separate ways, and don't let fear lord over you. you have to give example to your kids, and sometimes that means doing things that we really loath. i've done it. i'm sometimes scared of boarding a plane, but then i think about my kids, and i don't want them to be afraid of nothing, and if it means to die, well, i'll die, but i refuse to live with fear, and watch my kids be scared of stuff and grow up with fears, you know. so, be valiant, and defeat your fears. good luck
hey, honestly, don't stress it... it doesn't help or change a thing. booze helps some but makes it worse for others. your best bet is to be well rested, not hungover or anxious and bring an ipod or something. the key is "worrying only makes it bad"... not the experience itself. try to enjoy.
Anyone have inner ear problems? Here's a suggestion: Get the book "Phobia Free" by Harold N. Levinson. get it used on amazon or from the library for I have no financial interest in Levinson's work, just an emotional one. The book saved my life. Panic free for 16 years from a simple inner-ear medication called meclizine. Get your inner-ears checked, thoroughly. Write me, I'll send links to 13 medical studies on pub-med showing link between panic/agor and inner ear problems. Correlation:60-90%.
For those who might be concerned about pilots falling asleep in the cockpit, relax. The recently installed impenetrable doors will assure that pilots can continue their nap undisturbed. The autopilot will continue flying the plane until the fuel runs out.
I have the worst fear of flying,ive been flying all my life and one bad plane ride changed everythnig,after it I still continued to fly,but I would have the worst symptoms when I was flying that now Ive missed some flights because I cant get over the fear,I feel like its gotten worse,and I am constantly dreaming about my fear,I keep having dreams all the time
The problem generally gets worse and worse. Why? Because a single though about "what if" causes just one shot of adrenalin, which on a scale of zero to ten, takes you only to a "two". But if that leads quickly to a second "what if", you get a second shot of hormones and go on up from "two" to "four". And then another takes you to "six", etc. The answer is to STOP this domino effect. We now know how to do that and stop high anxiety and panic before it can even start.
With all due respect, what this gentleman is saying is simplistic at best. There are many critical parts in an airliner for which they are no back ups at all. Accidents happen for a myriad of reasons, mechanical failure being one of them. Something as fundamental as a jack screw on a horizontal stabilizer, or a PCU on a 737 rudder actuator has no back up. While accidents are extremely rare statistically, that does not speak to lack of potential. The potential is there in many forms.
That is an uninformed option. The jackscrew on the horizontal stabilizer does have a backup; there are TWO channels. But with the Alaska accident, both failed because both were improperly lubricated. The redesigned 737 rudder actuator does have a backup.
I fully agree that accidents are extremely rare. My work through the SOAR program is to help people develop enough of the "right stuff" to deal with the fear of that extremely rare possibility.
Regardless of channels, the threads wore off at the same time, thereby defeating the purpose of redundancy. A lack of grease was all it took to kill those people. As for the 737, yes the later models fixed that problem, but it flew for 30 years without that redundancy. The salient point is that the gentleman in this video insinuated that all bases are covered by redundancy. This is a well-intentioned fib. The system still has holes and the lady's concerns are not completely baseless.
You are absolutely right. But the video was done before that accident which was, so far as I know, the only accident ever like that (in which the main and the backup failed simultaneously). There is a lot more to this, though. After the primary failed, the secondary did hold, but the pilots made the mistake of continuing to play with the jackscrew instead of leaving it alone, and coming back to land. It was their action that caused the second channel to fail, also.
Hii. Im going on holiday tomorrow and my mam is scared of flying. Its too late to get hypnotherapy and she hasnt slept for a week worrying about it. Is there anything I can do to make it better because she wants to go but is thinking negative.Please post back a.s.a.p. Thank you.
TheJaiid 2 years ago
Hypnosis (which I'm trained in) is "hit or miss". For solid help in a short time, search using the terms "fear of flying rapid relief"
CaptTomBunn 2 years ago
like I heard someone said that I feel that every time I get of a plane it feels like another failed suicide attempt
klenoth 2 years ago
Emotionally, that makes a lot of sense. Many people don't feel secure in general. Their answer to that is to control everything. So, if ones whole life has been organized around control, to puts yourself in a situation that you don't control looks like suicide.
That's how it looks emotionally. Logically is another thing. But I've worked with may people who feel like they are going to die if they get on the plane. Fortunately, this - amazingly - can be fixed.
CaptTomBunn 2 years ago
ive flown maybe 50 times,but now ive got kids when i had to fly i got a panic attack and went home,,wasted 300 euros,,but i wont fly again,,no matter how many people tell me its safe,,PLANES CRASH,,and its one of the most horrible ways to die in my opinion,,especially if your family is with you helpless and in panic with everyone else on the plane waiting for impact,,too much,,ill stick to longer journey times by train and boat,,flying seems unnatural..
andrewkenworthy 2 years ago
fly on separate ways, and don't let fear lord over you. you have to give example to your kids, and sometimes that means doing things that we really loath. i've done it. i'm sometimes scared of boarding a plane, but then i think about my kids, and i don't want them to be afraid of nothing, and if it means to die, well, i'll die, but i refuse to live with fear, and watch my kids be scared of stuff and grow up with fears, you know. so, be valiant, and defeat your fears. good luck
cesaralexis73 2 years ago
sinserely thank you your very kind
markkenworthy 2 years ago
hey, honestly, don't stress it... it doesn't help or change a thing. booze helps some but makes it worse for others. your best bet is to be well rested, not hungover or anxious and bring an ipod or something. the key is "worrying only makes it bad"... not the experience itself. try to enjoy.
futureBLU 3 years ago
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Anyone have inner ear problems? Here's a suggestion: Get the book "Phobia Free" by Harold N. Levinson. get it used on amazon or from the library for I have no financial interest in Levinson's work, just an emotional one. The book saved my life. Panic free for 16 years from a simple inner-ear medication called meclizine. Get your inner-ears checked, thoroughly. Write me, I'll send links to 13 medical studies on pub-med showing link between panic/agor and inner ear problems. Correlation:60-90%.
pchanson42 3 years ago
For those who might be concerned about pilots falling asleep in the cockpit, relax. The recently installed impenetrable doors will assure that pilots can continue their nap undisturbed. The autopilot will continue flying the plane until the fuel runs out.
airste172 3 years ago
LOL!
futureBLU 3 years ago
I have the worst fear of flying,ive been flying all my life and one bad plane ride changed everythnig,after it I still continued to fly,but I would have the worst symptoms when I was flying that now Ive missed some flights because I cant get over the fear,I feel like its gotten worse,and I am constantly dreaming about my fear,I keep having dreams all the time
dknockoutblonde 4 years ago
The problem generally gets worse and worse. Why? Because a single though about "what if" causes just one shot of adrenalin, which on a scale of zero to ten, takes you only to a "two". But if that leads quickly to a second "what if", you get a second shot of hormones and go on up from "two" to "four". And then another takes you to "six", etc. The answer is to STOP this domino effect. We now know how to do that and stop high anxiety and panic before it can even start.
CaptTomBunn 4 years ago
With all due respect, what this gentleman is saying is simplistic at best. There are many critical parts in an airliner for which they are no back ups at all. Accidents happen for a myriad of reasons, mechanical failure being one of them. Something as fundamental as a jack screw on a horizontal stabilizer, or a PCU on a 737 rudder actuator has no back up. While accidents are extremely rare statistically, that does not speak to lack of potential. The potential is there in many forms.
myndenway 4 years ago
That is an uninformed option. The jackscrew on the horizontal stabilizer does have a backup; there are TWO channels. But with the Alaska accident, both failed because both were improperly lubricated. The redesigned 737 rudder actuator does have a backup.
I fully agree that accidents are extremely rare. My work through the SOAR program is to help people develop enough of the "right stuff" to deal with the fear of that extremely rare possibility.
CaptTomBunn 4 years ago
Regardless of channels, the threads wore off at the same time, thereby defeating the purpose of redundancy. A lack of grease was all it took to kill those people. As for the 737, yes the later models fixed that problem, but it flew for 30 years without that redundancy. The salient point is that the gentleman in this video insinuated that all bases are covered by redundancy. This is a well-intentioned fib. The system still has holes and the lady's concerns are not completely baseless.
myndenway 4 years ago
You are absolutely right. But the video was done before that accident which was, so far as I know, the only accident ever like that (in which the main and the backup failed simultaneously). There is a lot more to this, though. After the primary failed, the secondary did hold, but the pilots made the mistake of continuing to play with the jackscrew instead of leaving it alone, and coming back to land. It was their action that caused the second channel to fail, also.
CaptTomBunn 4 years ago
You describe me completely!!! Wish i could fly normally
mouseyrara 4 years ago
You CAN fly normally. Call me and let's talk it over. 877 332-7359.
CaptTomBunn 4 years ago
Captain Bunn is the best!
Thanks
doglouver 4 years ago
Thanks. If you need any help, just call me at 877 332-7359 or email me.
CaptTomBunn 4 years ago
Thank you Dr. Bunn!!
aumpak 4 years ago