I'm so glad I found this channel. I've been studying these things for YEARS!!! Excellent video and info. I'm ex mil and now LEO. After watching just this 1 video, I subscribed right away. You know your stuff. After this, I'm going to your channel and watching your other vids. Keep up the great work, derekbanas.
@archangelmichael1978 Thank you. Just understand that my psychology / negotiation videos are some of my earlier videos. I moved into other areas. My website is probably easier to dig through for this stuff. I'm working on a indirect hypnosis story telling tutorial. I'm just waiting until it's perfect before I put it out. I learned most of this stuff from military and law enforcement books :) Not the stuff on Amazon
Hey there Derek. I am so happy I listened to your video! I am presently a substitute teacher for Jr. & highschool. I am recalling many staff and students confabs I have. What I have learned from you rings true. I am eager for more please. I was not sure about the body language indication concerning the direction that the knee points to. Please let me know. Thank You
@LyleLincoln A person naturally exposes the soft parts of their body towards those they prefer. The knee normall points towards what they don't prefer. If you force a person into a positive body position their mind and respect will surely follow. I have a ton of stuff on mirroring and rapport building that should help you as well. If you need anything just ask
Thanks derek I appreciate your response and will definitely go to this site. One suggestion- you might want to talk a little slower. I have some students who can't follow such a fast pace and if it were slowed down they would comprehend much better. There is a certain pace that is most conducive to comprehension and if you go too fast or too slow much of the content is lost.
@jewlt I appreciate your input and I agree that I move rather fast. My goal isn't so much to teach everything, but instead to excite people to want to learn more. I found that I learned extremely well after I learned how to speed read. Some of my videos are based on my attempt to speed teach. I constantly experiment. Some times videos work, sometimes not. Oddly this video became popular because of spelling errors :) I never thought anyone would see it, so I didn't spell check it
@derekbanas Very well I will look around amazon and see what I can find. That being said, would you happen to know how I should go about practicing this body language to always ensure I am giving off the proper signals at the right times? (Ala during a heated poker match or intense corporate bargaining session.)
Additionally, how should I study body language as to pick up on it quickly?
@tdlob1 Look for the video Poker and Body Language on my YouTube channel. I cover negotiation stuff in numerous videos. Go to my site and click on Sitemap on my menu to see everything. I have tons of stuff there that I don't have on YouTube. I hope that helps
I showed this video to my Life Skills class. I have 13 teenagers approx. 15-17. We loved it and got a lot out of it. Thanks for these videos, they are great! Please send me anything else you think would be helpful to teach high schoolers.
@jewlt Sorry I couldn't send you a message because YouTube blocked me because I'm not a valid contact person. If you go on my newthinktank site you'll find a ton of things in my sitemap that should be of interest. They will probably love the personality stuff. Everything is free of course
@tdlob1 Pretty much 20+ popular books on body language. Just go to Amazon and search for Body Language. I also learned some of this from personal hypnosis schooling and law enforcement books I bought on ebay
I agree this is a great presentation but would love to get written notes for all the body language information by this poster if possible, is this possible? Many thanks, Alan
i'm curious about excessive yawning when a person doesn't really feel tired...sometimes i think people tend to use this as a defence mechanism for coping in situations when they don't know what to add to the conversation or if they're thinking about something else. it's a gesture that buys them more time.
@gogoasacenusie Most people believe Eckmans techniques aren't useable outside of a controlled environment. Can you easily spot eye dilation and slight facial flushing? I personally find his stuff to be unuseable
@derekbanas , indeed but maybe if you internalize all of these techniques and have a good eye then you could be a living lie detector. I don't think the type of environment has any relevance since body language is unconscious, well, of course if the person knows his body language is being observed maybe it will act in other way other than expected. My 2 cents...
@gogoasacenusie You'll learn a great deal more about lying through verbal analysis in my opinion. It's extremely easy to catch people in a lie. All of the police interrogation books I've read force people to tell a story and then tell it backwards. When a person lies they make up to many details. Then they forget those details during the retelling. If you want to detect lying study the words over the body language. That's what law enforcement does anyway
If you are going to speak fast, A picture, or a drawing, or video of yourself demonstrating this would be nice. By the time, I start to visualize, you've already moved on.
I have ADHD and for someone who is trying to work on their social skills....your video is difficult to follow. Good information I'm not good enough for me to watch the whole thing.
@face2facechick I made the exact video you are looking for Gestures and Body Language 2. I made it because of requests like yours. I hope it answers your questions
@hobsoletem I think your asking how can you tell if someone is analyzing you. I doubt anyone can tell that I'm analyzing them. However most people that do what I do tend to mirror (Mirroring Body Positions) whomever they are talking to. If you watch for mirroring you can normally spot a person who monitors body language.
I'm left wondering if body language is different in different cultures which would significantly complicate non-verbal communications or are these non verbal communications universal? I know gestures around the world differ in their meanings but there could be human universal body language reagardless of culture or society, and other body language that is indicative of a particular society or culture or social class, historical era..
I'm left wondering if body language is different in different cultures which would significantly complicate non-verbal communications or are these non verbal communications universal? I know gestures around the world differ in their meanings but there could be humn universal body language reagradles of culture or society, and other body language that is indicative of a particular society or culture or social class, historical era..
It appears to me social class, and the type of sciety one lives in impacts our body language. A case can be made for social memory and body language. In some eastern cultures it is rude to look people in the eye when talking to them, and upper class and lower class people in the US display different body language during greeting rituals . My students comes from a variety of cultures throughout the world so I will get some data from them and report their findings later.
It appears social class, and the type of society one lives in impacts our body language. A case can be made for social memory and body language. In some eastern cultures it is rude to look people in the eye when talking to them, and upper class and lower class people in the US display different body language during greeting rituals . My students comes from a variety of cultures throughout the world so I will get some data from them and report their findings later.
Very informative. Liked it very much, but could you please slow down a little. I need a lil time to figure out what these gestures look like - and once I'm done I'll already have missed the next thing
@scarletgriffon It's hard for a person to remain crossed up when they have hot coffee in their hands. I use the hot coffee to force them to stop crossing their arms and legs. Try it yourself. It's hard to cross your arms while holding hot coffee :)
Fantastic job o. This, I have watched it over and over many times ;) just curious to know, when you were studying was there a source that provided excellent information on these subjects you were discussing in the video? I would much appreciate a reference to one or more of your Information provider, as I am extremely interested in expanding the horizon of my knowledge. Thanks - Phill.
@PhillzTV I took everything from the top 20 books on Amazon. I then created a list of what each author agreed on. Those signs made the tutorial. Everything came from that top seller list, but I also used 2 law enforcement manuals I bought on Ebay. They aren't available to the public as far as I can tell?
I love this video. I am guilty of so many of these things. I am extremely reserved around ppl i dont know and i get self-conscious really quickly. If i am feeling insecure i start to pull in body and limbs in, if that makes sense.
@YurrahAlHadi That totally makes sense and is completely natural. Understand that you can control your body language now and complete change the way people see you if you want? I'm an extreme introvert, but anyone who meets me in public would never know it because of my understanding of body language
@derekbanas Well, I have been told that I carry myself nicely and come off as mature, lol. I am fine until I get nervous. I am going to try to use this video to help with presentations and job interviews. I am confident in myself, and I know my capabilities. However, I get shy so I become unable to show that to other people. I could use the body language that shows I am calm, cool, and collected. Oh, can you do a video about body language to use in a job interview or presentation??
@YurrahAlHadi Search for "newthinktank INTERVIEW TYPICAL QUESTIONS" in google. Then refer to the my tutorial called How to Get people to like you and you're set
At 6.18 you say the knee points to that which you prefer but the writing says the knee points to what you don't prefer ... not to be too pedantic lol!!
@wedosketch You're welcome. I have another version of this with tons of pictures called Gestures and Body Language 2 on my YouTube channel. I hope that helps
The creator might want to learn how to make pauses in a monologue and how important it is when giving lectures. Failing to give pauses is like failing to punctuate when writing.
One way I judge people is how much weight they put on minute or superficial cues. For instance, if they leap to a sweeping judgement of me by the color of my skin, or which way I glance after saying "I'm glad you're well" I usually take that into advisement.
@Yrhp8268 This video is a little too categorical about individual cues, when usually, we come to an interpretation of someone by a multitude of cues. That's really the key. I tend to think this person doesn't actually think this way, though if they do, they're probably fun at parties, but not fun to be friends with, since they'll forever be leaping to various sundry opinions of people they don't really know.
Like I said, these are all potential indicators, not proof.
Ahem, pardon...but y complain? everything is 'wrote' down as well, thaz what a pause button is for, lol. Thanx dude for putting this out there. My 'so called' roomie n best friend had been manipulating me for years n i really couldn't put my finger on 'how' or had no proof, but a gut feeling. But this video n some other studies has helped me see the light. Now my life is so much um 'clearer'. Thanx again ^^ for starting my studies. I'm now a fan. Peace out.
@NightFireXD I'm very happy that it has helped you find people that are manipulating you. That was my original goal. I wanted to show people all of the ways you can be manipulated. Thank you :)
Stop complaining. I actually found this very interesting/helpful. Even tho he was going a bit too fast, yes, look at the texture, pause or whatever. As Fimochu suggested.
OMG, can you feel the annoyance in me while listening to you? >/ It was so irritating, to me, because you were talking so fast without providing visual examples :/. I see you have many positive comments, but don't understand why. I guess I'm dumb. lol you commented in another video of your's that you do show examples in other videos, but this is my third one and haven't seen one yet. :(
well, i can't thank u enough for attributing so much for us to learn. With little flaw in ur video (such as the pacing) i could totally tolerate it and understand what u're trying to present to us. Thank u eternally :)
I love how much you know, but half of the time I have no idea what you are talking about. Adding pictures or animations of the gesture in question would greatly improve this.
@dars2607 I have the same information with tons of pictures on my YouTube channel. Search for Gestures and Body Language 2 It should answer all of your questions
"If someone gives you a sideways glance, look at their eyebrows. If they are raised, they like you. If not, they don't." Is this true 100 of the time or is it just a good chance they they like/don't like you?
@MrChegaleg I never judge anyone based off of less than 4 signs. If you see 4 or more signs that have the same meaning you can trust the body language. With practice you'll need less than 4 signs
At 6:10 line three...you said "If legs are crossed, the knees point toward what you prefer"...but in the presentation it says "If legs are crossed, the knees point toward what you DON'T prefer"...would you mind clarifying as I am sure it was a typo...or "wordo"...lol
I like how you researched many credible resources for this instead of sloppily giving your opinion. Well done, a lot of information to retain but I like how you read the facts and explained them.
Next topic: What makes us lazy? This is a neuroscientific question so if you could find cognitive answers that has to do with our psychology that would be great.
@CommentFreely Yes this stuff is just a combination of what the experts say is true. I read a huge research study on laziness a few months ago. They felt that anyone is inclined to be non-productive. It just requires that the person feels rewarded, or stimulated repetitively. This is why so many people get addicted to World of Warcraft and Zynga games. I'll see if I can find out more
@SuperDelta000 I'm interested in why you believe that? The list of professionals that use body language is quite long: Psychologists, Law Enforcement, Actors, Management, Nurses, Doctors, Marketers, etc. Why do you think they have continued to use these techniques for decades if they don't work? Just a question
@YJ4 Not from anything I've seen. People that are good liars normally over do eye contact. That's a good way to spot a good liar. A bad liar will have a hard time maintaining eye contact at all. If the level of eye contact doesn't feel right, that normally means the person is nervous and/or lying
Thank you for making the effort to put all this on line. I do have some caveats, however. Stimulus-response approaches like this tend to put us all in little boxes, making us apparantly predictable, certainly readable. By whom? By people who have the technique. There is straightaway an unequal relatioship built in to these approaches. There is nothing about creating equal power relationships, I wish there had been.
@markythecat You are correct in that it's important to create that feeling of equality. You can do so through rapport building techniques. Then if you get good at understanding how the other person thinks you can further strengthen that relationship. I cover all of this to the utmost detail in my other psychology videos
Great video thank you. People forget we are part of the animal kingdom. We too have different body reactions, depending on the situation or the mood, just like a cat hisses when scared or angered, or when it brings its ears pointing backwards etc.
This is a great video! However, I do have a question. What would be the best way to shake an employee's hand (hand facing up, hand facing down, or equal)? I am the owner of a small business and obviously want my employees to respect me and listen to me, but also feel comfortable and that they can trust me. Thanks!
@skiguy1994 From all I've read an equal handshake is almost always best. An authority handshake should be reserved for when you wish to show you are in charge. Step to the left of the person with your right foot to best pull this off.
Thank you so much for uploading this, I found it very useful and interesting. Also the speed is perfect, it's not too fast but not so slow that it drags on. If people find it too fast... that's what the pause button is for! :D
this is very interesting, and although I was apprehensive about watching the whole thing because of the length, every second was filled with good information and I didn't want to turn it off.
@Moongoose86 It is bad in a professional situation. It comes off as very arrogant because you are exposing all of the soft parts of your body. It is a good position if you want to look like the alpha male though
Change the title picture. I didn't want to watch some dude make faces. And if you feel don't judge a book by its cover is an appropriate response, fuck yourself. Overall good video and well presented.
I have a soft spot for Psychology and am planning on majoring in it in college, so thank you so much for putting this up! But I do have one question: this is after you've already established a baseline, correct? Or are you just saying that this is generally how it is going to be?
@ledzeppelinrawks I never judge anyone based off of less than 4 signs. I always baseline the eye movements even though they work 85% of the time. I've found handshakes to almost always work. Combine this with NLP techniques and you can read anybody
He said crossing your legs and cradling your hands behind your head is off-putting to women? I have trouble believing that... why exactly is that? I've read other books that states this is a sign of self-confidence.
I'm so glad I found this channel. I've been studying these things for YEARS!!! Excellent video and info. I'm ex mil and now LEO. After watching just this 1 video, I subscribed right away. You know your stuff. After this, I'm going to your channel and watching your other vids. Keep up the great work, derekbanas.
archangelmichael1978 5 hours ago
@archangelmichael1978 Thank you. Just understand that my psychology / negotiation videos are some of my earlier videos. I moved into other areas. My website is probably easier to dig through for this stuff. I'm working on a indirect hypnosis story telling tutorial. I'm just waiting until it's perfect before I put it out. I learned most of this stuff from military and law enforcement books :) Not the stuff on Amazon
derekbanas 4 hours ago
Body language for dummies ebook on iphone is fantastic! Or alternatively, "Alan Pease, Bodylanguage."
JimiDelicious 1 day ago
Hey there Derek. I am so happy I listened to your video! I am presently a substitute teacher for Jr. & highschool. I am recalling many staff and students confabs I have. What I have learned from you rings true. I am eager for more please. I was not sure about the body language indication concerning the direction that the knee points to. Please let me know. Thank You
LyleLincoln 2 days ago
@LyleLincoln A person naturally exposes the soft parts of their body towards those they prefer. The knee normall points towards what they don't prefer. If you force a person into a positive body position their mind and respect will surely follow. I have a ton of stuff on mirroring and rapport building that should help you as well. If you need anything just ask
derekbanas 2 days ago
Thanks derek I appreciate your response and will definitely go to this site. One suggestion- you might want to talk a little slower. I have some students who can't follow such a fast pace and if it were slowed down they would comprehend much better. There is a certain pace that is most conducive to comprehension and if you go too fast or too slow much of the content is lost.
jewlt 2 days ago
@jewlt I appreciate your input and I agree that I move rather fast. My goal isn't so much to teach everything, but instead to excite people to want to learn more. I found that I learned extremely well after I learned how to speed read. Some of my videos are based on my attempt to speed teach. I constantly experiment. Some times videos work, sometimes not. Oddly this video became popular because of spelling errors :) I never thought anyone would see it, so I didn't spell check it
derekbanas 2 days ago
@rukieishere Thanks for the headsup, I'll go pick up a book or two of his from Amazon.
tdlob1 4 days ago
@derekbanas Very well I will look around amazon and see what I can find. That being said, would you happen to know how I should go about practicing this body language to always ensure I am giving off the proper signals at the right times? (Ala during a heated poker match or intense corporate bargaining session.)
Additionally, how should I study body language as to pick up on it quickly?
tdlob1 4 days ago
@tdlob1 Look for the video Poker and Body Language on my YouTube channel. I cover negotiation stuff in numerous videos. Go to my site and click on Sitemap on my menu to see everything. I have tons of stuff there that I don't have on YouTube. I hope that helps
derekbanas 4 days ago
@tdlob1 Look up Paul Ekman's work.. He studied this kind of stuff for 50 years
rukieishere 4 days ago
I showed this video to my Life Skills class. I have 13 teenagers approx. 15-17. We loved it and got a lot out of it. Thanks for these videos, they are great! Please send me anything else you think would be helpful to teach high schoolers.
jewlt 4 days ago in playlist first impressions
@jewlt Wow that's very awesome. I sent some other things you may be interested in to your YouTube message box
derekbanas 4 days ago
@jewlt Sorry I couldn't send you a message because YouTube blocked me because I'm not a valid contact person. If you go on my newthinktank site you'll find a ton of things in my sitemap that should be of interest. They will probably love the personality stuff. Everything is free of course
derekbanas 4 days ago
I like it
SpamAnn 4 days ago
You have piqued my interest, can you give a list of the books you studied?
tdlob1 5 days ago
@tdlob1 Pretty much 20+ popular books on body language. Just go to Amazon and search for Body Language. I also learned some of this from personal hypnosis schooling and law enforcement books I bought on ebay
derekbanas 4 days ago
im a sound Language expert and this man it's liar
king34697 5 days ago
Brilliant, really interesting and detailed. Thanks!
AbercrombieKicks 1 week ago
thanks stumble and thank you for this great presentation!
SubRosa999 1 week ago
@SubRosa999 Thank you :) Yes Stumbleupon sends me a ton of traffic. I love that site
derekbanas 1 week ago
I agree this is a great presentation but would love to get written notes for all the body language information by this poster if possible, is this possible? Many thanks, Alan
woodythings 6 days ago
@woodythings I sent you a link to all of the articles I wrote. Check your youtube message box. I hope you like them
derekbanas 6 days ago
@derekbanas That's great thanks, if you ever gt time, what tea is the best, milk in before hot water or after hot water...................Woody
woodythings 6 days ago
nothing new
discowhip 1 week ago
Wow!
iriszb 1 week ago
YOU TALK TOO FAST
vlandaos 1 week ago
i'm curious about excessive yawning when a person doesn't really feel tired...sometimes i think people tend to use this as a defence mechanism for coping in situations when they don't know what to add to the conversation or if they're thinking about something else. it's a gesture that buys them more time.
zarehara 1 week ago
Great video
mgelfuso1 2 weeks ago
how can i tell if some one is gay thorugh body language, will they fuck me.
yourma40 2 weeks ago
@yourma40 I've never seen anything about determining if someone is gay sorry. I guess you could ask them? Maybe they'll be interested?
derekbanas 2 weeks ago
@derekbanas , does this apply in case of Reptilians and Gray aliens too?
gogoasacenusie 2 weeks ago
@gogoasacenusie Gray aliens but not Reptilians
derekbanas 2 weeks ago
@gogoasacenusie , do you think that guy from "Lie to me" series is a Reptilian?
gogoasacenusie 2 weeks ago
@gogoasacenusie He might be? He definitely read to many Paul Eckman books
derekbanas 2 weeks ago
@derekbanas , what's the best book from Eckman ( i want to buy one )
gogoasacenusie 1 week ago
@gogoasacenusie Most people believe Eckmans techniques aren't useable outside of a controlled environment. Can you easily spot eye dilation and slight facial flushing? I personally find his stuff to be unuseable
derekbanas 1 week ago
@derekbanas , indeed but maybe if you internalize all of these techniques and have a good eye then you could be a living lie detector. I don't think the type of environment has any relevance since body language is unconscious, well, of course if the person knows his body language is being observed maybe it will act in other way other than expected. My 2 cents...
gogoasacenusie 1 week ago
@gogoasacenusie You'll learn a great deal more about lying through verbal analysis in my opinion. It's extremely easy to catch people in a lie. All of the police interrogation books I've read force people to tell a story and then tell it backwards. When a person lies they make up to many details. Then they forget those details during the retelling. If you want to detect lying study the words over the body language. That's what law enforcement does anyway
derekbanas 1 week ago
You speak too fast
If you are going to speak fast, A picture, or a drawing, or video of yourself demonstrating this would be nice. By the time, I start to visualize, you've already moved on.
I have ADHD and for someone who is trying to work on their social skills....your video is difficult to follow. Good information I'm not good enough for me to watch the whole thing.
face2facechick 2 weeks ago
@face2facechick I made the exact video you are looking for Gestures and Body Language 2. I made it because of requests like yours. I hope it answers your questions
derekbanas 2 weeks ago
@derekbanas ok thank you!
face2facechick 2 weeks ago
So how can you spot someone as a behaviorist analysing your gestural ?
hobsoletem 2 weeks ago
@hobsoletem I think your asking how can you tell if someone is analyzing you. I doubt anyone can tell that I'm analyzing them. However most people that do what I do tend to mirror (Mirroring Body Positions) whomever they are talking to. If you watch for mirroring you can normally spot a person who monitors body language.
derekbanas 2 weeks ago
Way too many rules. How the hell can a person keep track of all these?
sclytrack 2 weeks ago
bs
MrIPawd 3 weeks ago 2
@MrIPawd Bold Statement?
derekbanas 3 weeks ago 8
what if someone tell you something while holding your hand. Does that mean truth because you have their palm in your hand?
frizzie 3 weeks ago
the eye chart would be reversed for left handed people
buildadream 4 weeks ago
@buildadream That's what most people believe
derekbanas 4 weeks ago
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I'm left wondering if body language is different in different cultures which would significantly complicate non-verbal communications or are these non verbal communications universal? I know gestures around the world differ in their meanings but there could be human universal body language reagardless of culture or society, and other body language that is indicative of a particular society or culture or social class, historical era..
mdandrea39 4 weeks ago in playlist Sociology of Personality
I'm left wondering if body language is different in different cultures which would significantly complicate non-verbal communications or are these non verbal communications universal? I know gestures around the world differ in their meanings but there could be humn universal body language reagradles of culture or society, and other body language that is indicative of a particular society or culture or social class, historical era..
mdandrea39 4 weeks ago in playlist Sociology of Personality
@mdandrea39 I'm sure that most of the memory accessing mannerisms are the same, but most of my research came from US and European analysis
derekbanas 4 weeks ago
@derekbanas
It appears to me social class, and the type of sciety one lives in impacts our body language. A case can be made for social memory and body language. In some eastern cultures it is rude to look people in the eye when talking to them, and upper class and lower class people in the US display different body language during greeting rituals . My students comes from a variety of cultures throughout the world so I will get some data from them and report their findings later.
mdandrea39 4 weeks ago
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@derekbanas
It appears social class, and the type of society one lives in impacts our body language. A case can be made for social memory and body language. In some eastern cultures it is rude to look people in the eye when talking to them, and upper class and lower class people in the US display different body language during greeting rituals . My students comes from a variety of cultures throughout the world so I will get some data from them and report their findings later.
mdandrea39 4 weeks ago
Very informative. Liked it very much, but could you please slow down a little. I need a lil time to figure out what these gestures look like - and once I'm done I'll already have missed the next thing
maledivennixe 1 month ago
@maledivennixe pause the video then?
yamammiwammi 4 weeks ago
Very informative! I just subscribed.
DaniTea281 1 month ago
WOW! People must think I'm a real jerk!
sonderkommando77 1 month ago
@derekbanas @6:21 u say the knee points to that which you prefer, but the presentation says the knee points to what you dont prefer.
iluvpurplestew 1 month ago
@iluvpurplestew I noticed that too. What is the verdict @derekbanas ??
Kimberly4twenT 1 month ago
@Kimberly4twenT People expose their soft parts to those they trust. The knee points towards the person they trust the least
derekbanas 1 month ago
really ..so nice presentation sir
shindedeepakm 1 month ago
love the work you are doing!!
SHYTBALLSDEEP 1 month ago
@SHYTBALLSDEEP Thank you. Great Name :)
derekbanas 1 month ago
I don't understand the bit at 5:50 about offering a hot drink so they uncross themselves so they don't burn themselves???
scarletgriffon 1 month ago
@scarletgriffon It's hard for a person to remain crossed up when they have hot coffee in their hands. I use the hot coffee to force them to stop crossing their arms and legs. Try it yourself. It's hard to cross your arms while holding hot coffee :)
derekbanas 1 month ago
Wowwwwww slow the fuck down!!
ItisShe 1 month ago
Well hello internet!
TheMrRaoul 1 month ago 24
Yawning is used by people TO BUILD RAPPORT & AVOID AGGRESSION???!!!???
toyzyibz 1 month ago
@toyzyibz Yes, I thought I brought that up in the video
derekbanas 1 month ago
Fantastic job o. This, I have watched it over and over many times ;) just curious to know, when you were studying was there a source that provided excellent information on these subjects you were discussing in the video? I would much appreciate a reference to one or more of your Information provider, as I am extremely interested in expanding the horizon of my knowledge. Thanks - Phill.
PhillzTV 1 month ago
@PhillzTV I took everything from the top 20 books on Amazon. I then created a list of what each author agreed on. Those signs made the tutorial. Everything came from that top seller list, but I also used 2 law enforcement manuals I bought on Ebay. They aren't available to the public as far as I can tell?
derekbanas 1 month ago
@derekbanas
ah okay thanks mate, guess i'll have to do some hardcore readin then eh...
PhillzTV 1 month ago
@PhillzTV Not really. I condensed everything from all of those books into this one tutorial.
derekbanas 1 month ago
woooahhhhh its very informative ... but too fast..... but thanks for the tip :)
dorongahas9 1 month ago
I love this video. I am guilty of so many of these things. I am extremely reserved around ppl i dont know and i get self-conscious really quickly. If i am feeling insecure i start to pull in body and limbs in, if that makes sense.
YurrahAlHadi 1 month ago
@YurrahAlHadi That totally makes sense and is completely natural. Understand that you can control your body language now and complete change the way people see you if you want? I'm an extreme introvert, but anyone who meets me in public would never know it because of my understanding of body language
derekbanas 1 month ago
@derekbanas Well, I have been told that I carry myself nicely and come off as mature, lol. I am fine until I get nervous. I am going to try to use this video to help with presentations and job interviews. I am confident in myself, and I know my capabilities. However, I get shy so I become unable to show that to other people. I could use the body language that shows I am calm, cool, and collected. Oh, can you do a video about body language to use in a job interview or presentation??
YurrahAlHadi 1 month ago
@YurrahAlHadi Search for "newthinktank INTERVIEW TYPICAL QUESTIONS" in google. Then refer to the my tutorial called How to Get people to like you and you're set
derekbanas 1 month ago
@derekbanas Ok, Thanks.
YurrahAlHadi 1 month ago
At 6.18 you say the knee points to that which you prefer but the writing says the knee points to what you don't prefer ... not to be too pedantic lol!!
Great vid tho!!
SuperDuperSte 1 month ago
@SuperDuperSte People expose their soft parts to those they trust. Boy that sounded dirty :) The knee points to those they don't prefer
derekbanas 1 month ago
you talk too fast. is that a sign of insecurity? lol
MeesterVal 1 month ago
i favourite ur video... sooo much gd info
purplestar273 1 month ago
@purplestar273 Thank you :)
derekbanas 1 month ago
i had to read ahead -you were monotone and slow.
Krewcible 1 month ago
thank u for uploading this
Sims2bat1105 1 month ago
@Sims2bat1105 You're very welcome
derekbanas 1 month ago
very usefull! thanks! kinda hard to remember it all but ill manage :)
wedosketch 1 month ago
@wedosketch You're welcome. I have another version of this with tons of pictures called Gestures and Body Language 2 on my YouTube channel. I hope that helps
derekbanas 1 month ago
Great Video !!! Too Fast had to pause and rwd several times - Nice job & thanks
TheRaoulmontana 1 month ago
Awesome vid
iKinda92 2 months ago
@iKinda92 Thanks :)
derekbanas 2 months ago
The creator might want to learn how to make pauses in a monologue and how important it is when giving lectures. Failing to give pauses is like failing to punctuate when writing.
sepelester 2 months ago
@sepelester I delete all of the pauses to make the video go faster. Sorry you didn't like it
derekbanas 2 months ago
@derekbanas I agree that some pauses included would be good. Now I have to keep pushing the pause button to keep up.
Otherwise it's good stuff, thanks for the vid!
punk4rockorz 1 month ago
@sepelester You're pathetic.
bookbookism 1 month ago
Interesting. OK yeah it was a little fast, but just hit the pause button, folks.
Mindraker1 2 months ago
One way I judge people is how much weight they put on minute or superficial cues. For instance, if they leap to a sweeping judgement of me by the color of my skin, or which way I glance after saying "I'm glad you're well" I usually take that into advisement.
timisat 2 months ago
interesting findings but presentation was boring.
ama00010 2 months ago
Liars maintain strong eye contact? I've always heard the exact opposite; if your eyes are darting around or looking away, the person is likely lying.
Yrhp8268 2 months ago
@Yrhp8268 This video is a little too categorical about individual cues, when usually, we come to an interpretation of someone by a multitude of cues. That's really the key. I tend to think this person doesn't actually think this way, though if they do, they're probably fun at parties, but not fun to be friends with, since they'll forever be leaping to various sundry opinions of people they don't really know.
Like I said, these are all potential indicators, not proof.
timisat 2 months ago
@timisat I agree 100%. Never judge anyone unless they provide at least 4 cues
derekbanas 2 months ago
Ahem, pardon...but y complain? everything is 'wrote' down as well, thaz what a pause button is for, lol. Thanx dude for putting this out there. My 'so called' roomie n best friend had been manipulating me for years n i really couldn't put my finger on 'how' or had no proof, but a gut feeling. But this video n some other studies has helped me see the light. Now my life is so much um 'clearer'. Thanx again ^^ for starting my studies. I'm now a fan. Peace out.
NightFireXD 2 months ago
@NightFireXD I'm very happy that it has helped you find people that are manipulating you. That was my original goal. I wanted to show people all of the ways you can be manipulated. Thank you :)
derekbanas 2 months ago
this video is good but i think it will be better if you have pictures in it. cause there's certain situation that i cant imagine. good job btw!
rebellionmolotov 2 months ago
omg people people people :')
Stop complaining. I actually found this very interesting/helpful. Even tho he was going a bit too fast, yes, look at the texture, pause or whatever. As Fimochu suggested.
Thanks for the upload :)
MusicElskerLove 2 months ago
@MusicElskerLove You're very welcome
derekbanas 2 months ago
Holy Shit. Very well put
ZillX 2 months ago
OMG, can you feel the annoyance in me while listening to you? >/ It was so irritating, to me, because you were talking so fast without providing visual examples :/. I see you have many positive comments, but don't understand why. I guess I'm dumb. lol you commented in another video of your's that you do show examples in other videos, but this is my third one and haven't seen one yet. :(
Jonim40 2 months ago in playlist More videos from derekbanas
well, i can't thank u enough for attributing so much for us to learn. With little flaw in ur video (such as the pacing) i could totally tolerate it and understand what u're trying to present to us. Thank u eternally :)
genesismta1989 2 months ago in playlist Negotiation Tutorials
@genesismta1989 You're very welcome :) I'm glad you liked it
derekbanas 2 months ago
I love how much you know, but half of the time I have no idea what you are talking about. Adding pictures or animations of the gesture in question would greatly improve this.
dars2607 2 months ago
@dars2607 I have the same information with tons of pictures on my YouTube channel. Search for Gestures and Body Language 2 It should answer all of your questions
derekbanas 2 months ago
"If someone gives you a sideways glance, look at their eyebrows. If they are raised, they like you. If not, they don't." Is this true 100 of the time or is it just a good chance they they like/don't like you?
MrChegaleg 2 months ago
@MrChegaleg I never judge anyone based off of less than 4 signs. If you see 4 or more signs that have the same meaning you can trust the body language. With practice you'll need less than 4 signs
derekbanas 2 months ago
Could you go more into depth with facial expressions?
MrChegaleg 2 months ago
At 6:10 line three...you said "If legs are crossed, the knees point toward what you prefer"...but in the presentation it says "If legs are crossed, the knees point toward what you DON'T prefer"...would you mind clarifying as I am sure it was a typo...or "wordo"...lol
Moniqtee 2 months ago
@Moniqtee Knee points towards what you don't prefer
derekbanas 2 months ago
I like how you researched many credible resources for this instead of sloppily giving your opinion. Well done, a lot of information to retain but I like how you read the facts and explained them.
Next topic: What makes us lazy? This is a neuroscientific question so if you could find cognitive answers that has to do with our psychology that would be great.
Cheers. :)
CommentFreely 2 months ago
@CommentFreely Yes this stuff is just a combination of what the experts say is true. I read a huge research study on laziness a few months ago. They felt that anyone is inclined to be non-productive. It just requires that the person feels rewarded, or stimulated repetitively. This is why so many people get addicted to World of Warcraft and Zynga games. I'll see if I can find out more
derekbanas 2 months ago
loved it, i wish i knew all of this. -^.^-
RiOiXX 2 months ago
@RiOiXX It's very easy to learn with a little practice. Hard to forget though :)
derekbanas 2 months ago
if your legs are crossed, does you knee point to what you prefer or dont prefer? you said one thing but it shows something different
manticorepilgrims 2 months ago
@manticorepilgrims Knee points towards what you don't prefer
derekbanas 2 months ago
i love this video even though it's very fast but that's what the pause button is for :) thank you for making this video
Maximo20009 3 months ago
You're going WAY too fast.
pitfashn 3 months ago 26
@pitfashn Sorry, that's what I do. I cram tons of information into short videos. I'm sorry it didn't work for you :(
derekbanas 3 months ago
pseudoscience nonsense
SuperDelta000 3 months ago
@SuperDelta000 I'm interested in why you believe that? The list of professionals that use body language is quite long: Psychologists, Law Enforcement, Actors, Management, Nurses, Doctors, Marketers, etc. Why do you think they have continued to use these techniques for decades if they don't work? Just a question
derekbanas 3 months ago
@derekbanas It's a pseudoscience, It does not work. You cant read a persons mind in an aware situation.
SuperDelta000 3 months ago
I wish I could remember all of this, that would be REALLY cool. The closest I'll ever get to reading peoples mind.
TheLinneaful 3 months ago
I've heard that liars smile more.
YJ4 3 months ago
@YJ4 Not from anything I've seen. People that are good liars normally over do eye contact. That's a good way to spot a good liar. A bad liar will have a hard time maintaining eye contact at all. If the level of eye contact doesn't feel right, that normally means the person is nervous and/or lying
derekbanas 3 months ago
@derekbanas I said smile more :)
YJ4 3 months ago
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CaeloBellator 3 months ago
Alot to remember my friend!
JayWarren1991 3 months ago
Thank you for making the effort to put all this on line. I do have some caveats, however. Stimulus-response approaches like this tend to put us all in little boxes, making us apparantly predictable, certainly readable. By whom? By people who have the technique. There is straightaway an unequal relatioship built in to these approaches. There is nothing about creating equal power relationships, I wish there had been.
markythecat 3 months ago
@markythecat You are correct in that it's important to create that feeling of equality. You can do so through rapport building techniques. Then if you get good at understanding how the other person thinks you can further strengthen that relationship. I cover all of this to the utmost detail in my other psychology videos
derekbanas 3 months ago
Great video thank you. People forget we are part of the animal kingdom. We too have different body reactions, depending on the situation or the mood, just like a cat hisses when scared or angered, or when it brings its ears pointing backwards etc.
ReturnOfJackDawson 3 months ago
Actually this is the most revealing video I've ever watched on Body Language !! Well done :)
Loubna29101 3 months ago
@Loubna29101 Thank you :)
derekbanas 3 months ago
you should rap
xtakexchancesx17 3 months ago
1000 likes
kitgumtownrepublic 3 months ago
@kitgumtownrepublic Wheeeee!!!
derekbanas 3 months ago
This is a great video! However, I do have a question. What would be the best way to shake an employee's hand (hand facing up, hand facing down, or equal)? I am the owner of a small business and obviously want my employees to respect me and listen to me, but also feel comfortable and that they can trust me. Thanks!
skiguy1994 3 months ago
@skiguy1994 From all I've read an equal handshake is almost always best. An authority handshake should be reserved for when you wish to show you are in charge. Step to the left of the person with your right foot to best pull this off.
derekbanas 3 months ago
excellent...
sanamahi1 3 months ago
Thank you so much for uploading this, I found it very useful and interesting. Also the speed is perfect, it's not too fast but not so slow that it drags on. If people find it too fast... that's what the pause button is for! :D
Fimochu 3 months ago 11
@Fimochu Thank you :) I don't know why this is everyones favorite video, but I'm glad you liked it
derekbanas 3 months ago
this is very interesting, and although I was apprehensive about watching the whole thing because of the length, every second was filled with good information and I didn't want to turn it off.
xINVISIGOTHx 3 months ago
@xINVISIGOTHx I pack a ton of info into my videos. I'm glad you liked it
derekbanas 3 months ago
@SFLydia same here. I stumbled, but glad I did. Really informative, and well presented.
JambalayaCreole 4 months ago
Why are you talking so fast?
Ol0fsson 4 months ago
how did you make that presentation, better said, where and with what, looks like something I need...
btw great info...time to spot liars :D
PacoMxxN 4 months ago
@PacoMxxN Thank you :) I record screencasts with Quicktime Player and edit the video with iMovie. Free software that came with my computer
derekbanas 4 months ago
GREAT INFORMATION, BUT HE SPEAK TO FAST, NO PAUSE AND IT IS NOT EASY TO FOLLOW, BUT GREAT INFORMATION THKS
foreverlucky100 4 months ago
@foreverlucky100 You might prefer Gestures and Body Language 2. I have a ton of pictures and go slower
derekbanas 4 months ago
why is arms behind head and legs crossed bad?
Moongoose86 4 months ago
@Moongoose86 It is bad in a professional situation. It comes off as very arrogant because you are exposing all of the soft parts of your body. It is a good position if you want to look like the alpha male though
derekbanas 4 months ago
If they place the back of their chair in front of you, they are a camp-counselor.
gregstrompolos 4 months ago
Love the speed of the video.
xkoenigseggx 4 months ago
It needs to be said that this eye diagram is true for right-handed people. It's horizontally reversed for left-handed people.
Eizara 4 months ago
i am a person who is aggressive but likes to avoid it XD thats what i got from this
pokemon9513 4 months ago
Change the title picture. I didn't want to watch some dude make faces. And if you feel don't judge a book by its cover is an appropriate response, fuck yourself. Overall good video and well presented.
hero169 4 months ago
can you do a tutorial on how to read body language in pictures for example two people/friends in a picture or a couple in a picture? thanks :)
jenrockz203 4 months ago
I have a soft spot for Psychology and am planning on majoring in it in college, so thank you so much for putting this up! But I do have one question: this is after you've already established a baseline, correct? Or are you just saying that this is generally how it is going to be?
ledzeppelinrawks 5 months ago
@ledzeppelinrawks I never judge anyone based off of less than 4 signs. I always baseline the eye movements even though they work 85% of the time. I've found handshakes to almost always work. Combine this with NLP techniques and you can read anybody
derekbanas 5 months ago
He said crossing your legs and cradling your hands behind your head is off-putting to women? I have trouble believing that... why exactly is that? I've read other books that states this is a sign of self-confidence.
elquicko 5 months ago
@elquicko I should have stated that it would be off-