I really don't know a huge amount about childbirth, but I do live on an organic farm and see all the animals wandering off to be somewhere very private and on their own to give birth. Do many women feel this instinct themselves? To me it seems like such a natural thing to do, to be on your own and going by instinct completely. Can you do that? Or is it illegal or something?
@laurashanley even if it was illegal, i'd still have to have an unassisted birth- to save myself and my baby from pain and danger. i know from my body that both pain and complications can come from fear, surveillance, and psychological resistance.
@laurashanley Wow.I would love to give birth unnassisted but I am tired of hearing critic from family members about the hopsital being the only place u should do it "just in case".
@onecheshirecat - I advice you to read Michel Odent's book "The Nature of Birth and Breastfeeding". He writes a lot about the importance of beeing unwatched/privacy while birth for having a save and comfortable birth.
I think this would be the best way for me to go, Im so dang scared of the epesiotomy they do. I dont feel doctors should have to do them to adult women, we are made for giving birth. I understand why they have to with teenage women, because their bodies arent ready yet but, I dont think I will have any issues in the future as long as I never see scissors
Teenage moms not ready yet? Actually young mothers are able to deliver much easier than older women because their tissues are more elastic to begin with. They also tend to recover faster. Episiotomies are unnecessary if the mother is laboring in a natural position and allows herself to relax enough for her body to ease open.
@AlisonHopeRankin they don't always do an episiotomy, you can tell them that you don't consent to it and they legally can't. it's not a routine procedure anymore and it can cause even more tearing.
@thesilvershoes I told the doctor not to give me one as my first child was coming out and he did it anyways, i wish i had of been more educated then i would have atleast complained to his bosses.
Right on sister! I birthed unassisted as well and it's such an amazing way to just KNOW your body so well that your faith just KNOWS it's gonna be just fine. Beautiful!
Arnt you then worried that something will be wrong and you wont know without medical proffessionals there?? Just a question, I would rather a natural birth too but i would be scared of complications...
Many times something goes wrong precisely BECAUSE someone is there. Doctors and even many midwives routinely interfere with birth. Testing, measuring, timing, telling a woman what position to be in, when to push, etc. all interfere with the natural process. For more info visit the web site shown in the video.
You could have a natural childbirth if you opt for a homebirth. I had one last year and plan on one for my baby due next may, too. You will still have midwives with you who are trained to deal with situations that may arise.
For the most part, my m/ws left me to it. I even delivered my son with them watching on. There was jus a few interruptions in the pool whilst they checked his heart rate. It was a very pleasurable birth - I think you should read up on it and decide if its for you! =)
I'm not sure if you're addressing this to me or to everyone, but I've read up on midwife attended birth and it isn't for me. Simply being observed can be an intervention. But when the observer is legally required (in many cases) to time, measure and interrupt the process, problems can and do result. But I'm glad your birth went well!
No, I wasn't addressing it to you. I was replying to CassiaWindSong. She said she wants a natural birth but is worried about complications. I was merely giving her another option. Unassisted births aren't for everyone and I thought my suggestion was a good half way point.
That was so beautiful. When I had my son I was in a hospital, but I waited until the very end of the labor to go. I didn't want tons of people telling me to take drugs and poke and prod me. And I was adament about voicing my wishes. I only had two regular strength tylenol and luckily my labor wasn't too bad. When I have more children I'm going to skip the hospital and it's outrageous bill all together and just give birth at home.
when i have kids, im definately going to have a homebirth, i couldnt stick all the doctors mucking about around me, i would want it to be as natural as possible
I agree I think doctors/nurses/midwifes can make it worse theres so much prodding & poking down there I've seen one vid where the nurse vertually pulls the baby out by the head! & I've heard stories about nurses pulling on the cord (too hard) to get the placenta out they should just stand back & leave the mother to it & only intervene if really necessary
I don't understand this calmness. I gave birth in the hospital with 2 epidurals that totally ran out by the time she was coming out and felt EVERYTHING including the epiziotomy (sp?) I was screaming!
This mom worked on overcoming fear during her pregnancy. If we aren't afraid, and therefore don't trigger the fight/flight response, birth doesn't have to be painful. For more info see the web site shown in the video.
ok im 19 weeks onmy 4th baby (ive a 10 yr old son and 8 yr old daughter and lost a baby boy who died inside me at 26 weeks last year)
Can you please please tell me how to overcome the fear, i went so quick with all of mine that i had no pain meds and felt everything, id like to do it that way again but have been watching birth videos and am sooo scared now, any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
That is because the doctors stick their hands in there to measure how many inches it is dilated and break the water by accident so the birth is dry and painful. everytime a little water comes out during contractions it is less painful. The water makes the baby glide easily without pain.
Yes, medical intervention can definitely make birth more painful and difficult. To read more about this, as well as articles on overcoming fear, visit the site shown in the video.
Different states have different requirements regarding birth certificates, but they're generally easy to get. You usually have to show proof of pregnancy and proof of residency. It's best to check with your local health dept. or dept. of vital statistics.
I am planning a homebirth with a midwife, I believe the midwife will give me the same kit they give a mother at the hospital, (birth cert, social insurance number form) if not you can get it from the pediatrician at the first check up. That is here in Canada though...but I imagine it is the same.
Laura, waiting in stillness just makes me unpatient. Due date's still on next sunday, i don't have any fear, but also not yet getting any sign of labour. What should i do to keep avoiding myself from uncertainty and negativity? You know, people around sometimes come with horror stories & sceptic advice.. Any advice to keep me on track?
My dad is an MD so I certainly dealt with negative comments from family and friends. In my case I felt I had to isolate myself to a degree. Eventually I felt strong enough to be around people that didn't understand what I was doing. But I didn't go near them when I was close to giving birth. I believe we have inner help/guidance and so this is what I tried to tune into. You might also join one or more of the unassisted birth email lists or message boards if you haven't already. Good luck!
Probably because she wasn't :-) I birthed my last baby at home unassisted and there was absolutely no pain when she emerged. My two hospital births I couldn't get through without epidurals though. Women who are comfortable and feel safe often have painless births.
being naked is an instinctual thing when your baby comes out its naked right? its only normal nudity should not be shamed ! when i gave birth to my son i was completely naked and i did not care!!
geburt ist ein natürliche angelegenheit - stimmt, meine frau wäre allerdings gestorben, wenn sie nicht im krankenhaus geboren hätte! die geburt zu hause oder im sog. geburtshaus birgt immer das risiko, das bei komplikationen keine hilfe in erreichbarer nähe ist, was zum tod des kindes oder der mutter führt!!!!!
Without knowing the details I can't comment on your wife's situation but in many, many cases the lives doctors are saving in hospital births wouldn't have been endangered in the first place if they hadn't continually interfered. Induction and augmentation of labor, forced pushing, obstetrical drugs, and forceps are some of the numerous dangerous interventions that are routinely performed on birthing women. In most cases, both mother and baby are SAFER giving birth at home.
Unfortunately Laura, this is very untrue. In most cases, it will be fine. In some cases, not. Coming from the NL where it is quite accepted to give birth at home, I can tell you that about 60% of mothers intending to give birth at home, still ends up in the hospital for various safety reasons.
Oh and being naked? Drawing from experience, in labour - you couldn't care less.
No, it's not untrue. If you read my book or explore my website you'll learn WHY women sometimes have problems in birth. If the birth isn't interfered with physically, then the problems can be traced to poverty or psychological intervention. Fear triggers the fight/flight response which shuts down labor. Most of the women you refer to could have avoided a transfer if they had worked to overcome their fear of birth. I'm not judging them. But I stand by what I've written.
Homebirth IS much more peaceful, I've had two children at home and wittnessed a few hospital births as a Doula. As far as your comment about being nude... I remember I labored in just an over-sized tshirt until I was in transition and then I took it off cause I was just toooooo hot. Many women find that they get too warm to wear clothes.
I am far to young to have children, but when the time comes (and hopefully it will) I know I will be scared, but I will be more excited to hold my new child, boy or girl! And to honest I think screaming will make whatever pain I feel worse, it will just tire me out and hurt my throat, concentrate more on getting your child out into the world than the pain you feel at that moment.
thats what alot of ppl think but from experience i can tell you its the opposite the harder you scream the more energy it takes from the pain so you feel it less...yes you may have a sore throat after wards but i would pick a sore throat over labour pain anyday...
This idea scares me. I can totally understand why some women would choose to give birth this way though. I can imagine it being a lot calmer. I'm inclined to say it's a tad selfish BUT, only because of my ignorance towards childbirth. I would worry far too much about something going wrong.
when I see vid's of birth, some doctors and nurses are rough when the women is giving birth, I think it is a natural thing, just let nature take it's course. instead of pull the vagiana open, let it open naturally.
During her pregnancy she worked on overcoming her fear of birth. She also didn't allow anyone to interfere. The majority of the pain and problems in birth are caused by interference, both physical and psychological.
amen!! I sang out ... sounded like a chant. We have to connect with our bodies instead of treating them like foreign objects that a stranger should deal with.
She worked on overcoming fear during her pregnancy. She also didn't allow anyone to interfere with the birth. For more information, visit the web site shown in the video.
I am so lucky I was born at home before my parents were able to get to the hospital. Both my brother & I were born BEFORE the annoying doctors & nurses could get in the way. My brother was born at the hospital before they could transfer my mom to a "table". Fast labors I guess. It worked out great for everyone.
I had my first two children at a hospital and thought it was the only "safe" way to have a baby....After a lot of research I decided to have a UC with my third. Being able to listen to my body and not have strangers telling me what to do and when was amazing. I went to the store 4 hours after I had her. I wish I could do the first two over again!!
Actually, interfering in birth - either physically or psychologically is dangerous. Many problems that happen in birth are actually caused by doctors (and sometimes midwives) poking, prodding, testing, drugging and cutting. Other problems are due to the woman's own fear, which triggers the fight/flight response and shuts down labor. For more information visit the web site shown on the screen.
I would love to have you on my blogtalkradio show. I had an UC in 2006 and am going to have another in March. If you would like to talk about UC please email back at your earliest convenience.
i didnt have great time when the baby was born lol i had baby blues and that was the most awful thing i am scared of that. plus they always say that birth is beautyful and pain last just few minutes blabla bla nothing to be scared of...i didnt but now i know and i feel that they lied to me :) nothing´´s beautyful in birth, its painful its awful and its scary and i had´´luck´´to get real rude and mean nurses there who told me bad things
I sympathize with you. However as this video shows, birth doesn't have to be painful and traumatic. No doubt your birth was interfered with by the hospital staff. Your own fear could have contributed also. Next time you might consider giving birth at home where you are free to assume any position you want, can push or not push depending on how YOU feel, and will not be subjected to numerous rules and procedures. Birth can be blissful when it's allowed to unfold in its own time and own way.
This is meant as a serious comment, and I 'm sortof researching this question, so here goes:
at 1:03 and for about a couple seconds, is that an orgasm [whether she percevied it as all that great, as opposed to useful for automatic responses of the body to aid child birth]? be serious, women out there who had something related to orgasm when giving birth.... and let me know.
Beautiful.. I was by myself. I found it hard. My daughters father had left me when he found out that I was pregnant. But I really love my little girl. She's the best thing that ever happened to me..
I had an epi too. I was induced though so I had no chance of not painless(border-line pre-e).Im a little jealous. Sigh, maybe next time wont be as bad. Good video!
This wasn't staged. Josephine allowed herself to totally relax. She didn't fight the contractions and didn't allow anyone to interfere with the birth. Consequently she gave birth easily. My births were also very easy and I had very little pain. More information can be found on my unassisted childbirth web site. To see another nearly painless birth type in "Clio's birth."
i don't know about that! i had a friend who had to have a c-section because she was too small. so if she would have tried to have an unassisted birth no matter how much she tried to relax i bet she would have been screamin and crying! i'm not doubting u know wat ur talking about i just have a hard time thinking it's possible for everyone u and josephine are just blessed women.
Thousands of women have been told they're too small to give birth vaginally and in most cases that's absolutley false. Search Youtube for "question CPD."
I hate it when people take this moral high ground because the kids was watching the birth,nothing wrong with it,unless they had a problem of seeing it.
beautiful videos to show how women are really strong i mean a lot of preagnant women are dealing with every baby or pregnancy problem alone because the ather is not always in the mood of a baby just sex!!
wow, is really amazing!! this is a clear example that we as woman have the capasitive of give birth without any type of pain medication!!! thank you for sharing such a beautiful video!! I'm 3 months pregnant and I want that special day to be like this video!!
I just wanted to thank you, Laura, for all you've done. I discovered your website eight years ago and have been studying intensively since then. I'm proud to say that I had a very pleasurable birth this past March and I never though that it would feel so wonderful! I was always afraid of it before I gave birth as I've seen women in videos screaming. I was pleasantly surprised to find that not only did it not hurt, but it felt better than anything I've felt in my life. Mahalo!
Wow, that was amazing. Thank you, Laura, for inspiring wemon like me to have a wonderful unassisted birth, even after a csection. I am due in December and i will be birthing my son at home with only my husband and daughter present. Thanks for your website as well, it always gives me inspiration and strength and never fails to remind we that i CAN birth my baby. Thanks again. :)
I wanted to thank you for what you are doing for those of us interested in home birth. My daughter was born in a hospital and it was awful. My husband is against homebirth. Don't know why, he told me he'd be really proud of me if I were a midwife yet he doesn't want me having a baby at home. If I should get pregnant again this is what I'm going to do, maybe with a midwife, but definately at home. If he refuses to support it then I'm afraid it will be the end of our marriage, sadly.
Keep at him! My husband was also against me having a home birth eight years ago. I just kept talking about it and researching and learning. He eventually got on board with the idea and even defended my choices to his mother! He was there holding my hand when I gave birth unassisted in March and smiled every step of the way. See if you can get him to watch "The Business of Being Born." It will change his mind :)
this is probably one of the most inspiring vids I,ve seen yet. I will never understand the words and actions of some who outright condemn the lives of others
I love UC vids b/c most if not all looks so easy. I have a co-worker who recently had a baby. She pushed for 2 long hours then had a c-section. Yikes!
I agree Laura, that birth can occur wihtout any incident at all naturally. I am the last person to insist that doctors have their hand in everything. My only pointe here is that Murphy's law can be close to a universal truth. If something very bad goes wrong and you are in a cabin in the middle of Wyoming, you may be in trouble. Do not forget that death is as natural a process as birth, and occurs without remorse or consideration for the emotions of those involved.
If Murphy's law were true, the sun wouldn't come up tomorrow, and humanity would have died off long ago. However, because our bodies are responsive to our thoughts, if we believe that something is bound to go wrong, often it will. Modern obstetrics essentially believes in Murphy's law, and consequently numerous problems occur in the hospital. I'd much rather give birth alone in a cabin than in a US hospital with a 30% c-section rate. Maternal mortality has doubled in the past 10 years.
Not long ago a man gave himself a tracheotomy without medical assistance. Is it possible? Yes. Is it optimal or safe? No. There is a difference between refusing medication and refusing emergency measures which could save the life of the baby. Unless you live across the street from a hospital, or are at some sort of midwife clinic that has attached medical facilities, this is lunacy. I think the intention is wonderful, but unfortunately good intentions don't reanimate dead babies.
A tracheotomy cannot be compared to birth, which is a natural bodily function. Birth is not an emergency, it is simply an emergence. Yes, birth can be problematic - when a woman lives in poverty and/or the birth is interfered with physically or psychologically. But when a woman is relaxed and trusts her body, birth can be an easy, empowering, and safe experience. There's a reason animals seek seclusion when they're in labor. See my web site for more information.
This is fearmongering at its worst. Babies die at childbirth for a number of reasons but very, very rarely because of a lack of medical techonology. (Statistics bear that out, it's usually to do with lack of maternal health or an untreatable pregnancy condition.) Before you go comparing an emergency situation with a natural bodily ability you might want to think about whether or not you know anything about what you're speaking on.
Wow, the look on the mother's face... was so peaceful and calm. Not at all what I've usually seen, or personally experienced. She seemed so in control, so without fear or pain. How did she acheive such a feat I wonder? I would so love to be in that frame of mind when I bring my next child to into this world. Kudos to her for doing it the way mother earth and father sky intended!
She simply relaxed and allowed her body to work the way it was designed. Giving birth is much easier than most people realize. Most of the problems result from fear which triggers the fight/flight response and shuts down labor. When we're relaxed and unafraid, babies can be born safely and easily without the aid of a doctor or midwife.
I had a home birth with a midwife 21 years ago after having a c section for my first son't birth. I was glad the midwife was there,but I was also glad I did things the way I wanted to, not the way hospitals would have told me to.
The majority of Midwives are very good at sitting quietly and letting women labour at home.Its actually illegal to birth at home intentially without assistance.Your partner would be prosecuted if anything happened to you or the baby.
Thankfully, you're wrong. Unassisted birth is not illegal. And while there are midwives who will "allow" a woman to labor in her own time and her own way, there are also midwives who unnecessarily intervene, either because they don't trust birth, or they're required by law to do so. In Colorado a midwife must transfer a woman to the hospital if she doesn't give birth within a certain time frame or her placenta isn't out within an hour of the birth. I'm in charge of my birth, not the state.
I'd say that the chance of medical intervention being needed is a very good reason for giving birth in the hospital. Sure complications are rare, but it could easily happen to me, and I would like to be in the hospital in case I have a blue baby or something. I'm interested in unassisted childbirth, however, because I'd like to know when doctors are doing anything unneccessary...
Actually that isn't a good reason for giving birth in the hospital. Often something goes wrong BECAUSE a woman is in the hospital. Doctors (and sometimes midwives) continually interfere with the birth process, and numerous problems result. Read "Pushed" by Jennifer Block. Hospital born babies are more likely to need medical attention primarily due to the drugs given to laboring women, and the fact that most labors are induced and/or augmented. What's happening in hospitals is criminal.
I sympathize with doctors to a degree. They're often blaimed for problems that aren't their fault. But 30% of women should not be enduring major surgery when they give birth. New studies show that women who've been c-sectioned have a greater chance of needing a hysterectomy later in life, and are more likely to have a stroke. They're also more likely to die in birth, as are their babies. C-sectioned babies often have medical problems. The current system does not serve mothers or babies.
Just curious, how does a woman know when to start pushing? Its obvious for home births that the dr cannot inform you that your 10 inches dialated. Do women just know or wait for a particular feeling?
If a woman is relaxed and no one is telling her what to do she will know when to push. My 1st baby was born with 3 or 4 pushes. The others were born with 1. The urge was unmistakable. Women are different shapes and sizes so it's silly for doctors to claim that ALL women must be 10 centimeters before they can push - or that they MUST push when they're 10 centimeters. Relax, allow your body to work the way it was designed, and when the urge to push hits, do it. It's much easier than people think.
youre right. my doctor was great, and he let me push when i was ready. i reached 10 cm and he propped my bed up and told me to let the baby naturally slide down on his own and about 30 min after i reached 10cm i started feeling like i should push and he was out in 3 pushes with no tearing.
I wanna have a baby, too! :) This made me so happy :)
MsKTMvalley 11 months ago 2
Birth just happens
wedefeet 1 year ago
She is so beautiful and so are all her children!
korupshun1 1 year ago
wow she did that so perfectly.
Angielyrica 1 year ago
Wow what a trooper she was!
djtblizzle 1 year ago
Awesome video
Danielle58282 1 year ago 2
I really don't know a huge amount about childbirth, but I do live on an organic farm and see all the animals wandering off to be somewhere very private and on their own to give birth. Do many women feel this instinct themselves? To me it seems like such a natural thing to do, to be on your own and going by instinct completely. Can you do that? Or is it illegal or something?
onecheshirecat 1 year ago 23
@onecheshirecat - more and more women are feeling this way. Yes, you can give birth unassisted. It is not illegal.
laurashanley 1 year ago 6
@laurashanley even if it was illegal, i'd still have to have an unassisted birth- to save myself and my baby from pain and danger. i know from my body that both pain and complications can come from fear, surveillance, and psychological resistance.
anija27 1 year ago 2
@laurashanley Wow.I would love to give birth unnassisted but I am tired of hearing critic from family members about the hopsital being the only place u should do it "just in case".
TrynaGetBacToMyLuv 1 year ago
@onecheshirecat - I advice you to read Michel Odent's book "The Nature of Birth and Breastfeeding". He writes a lot about the importance of beeing unwatched/privacy while birth for having a save and comfortable birth.
Sorry for my bad English. :-)
SavNachtfrau 1 year ago
im having a birth like that but im due 3rd august
cutiebaybee123 1 year ago
Its good she is educating her children by letting them watch the tape as well so they dont get freaked out when she goes into labor.
LyeLye 1 year ago
I think this would be the best way for me to go, Im so dang scared of the epesiotomy they do. I dont feel doctors should have to do them to adult women, we are made for giving birth. I understand why they have to with teenage women, because their bodies arent ready yet but, I dont think I will have any issues in the future as long as I never see scissors
AlisonHopeRankin 2 years ago 7
Teenage moms not ready yet? Actually young mothers are able to deliver much easier than older women because their tissues are more elastic to begin with. They also tend to recover faster. Episiotomies are unnecessary if the mother is laboring in a natural position and allows herself to relax enough for her body to ease open.
yuniique 2 years ago 7
@yuniique the problem with most teenage moms is that they can't relax enough.
BellaJaramillo 1 year ago
@AlisonHopeRankin they don't always do an episiotomy, you can tell them that you don't consent to it and they legally can't. it's not a routine procedure anymore and it can cause even more tearing.
thesilvershoes 1 year ago
@thesilvershoes I told the doctor not to give me one as my first child was coming out and he did it anyways, i wish i had of been more educated then i would have atleast complained to his bosses.
LyeLye 1 year ago
@LyeLye u could have brought a civil lawsuit against the doctor that did the episiotomy without consent.
BellaJaramillo 1 year ago
How can she give birth so relaxed ? she makes it look so easy ... when it isn't for everybody . Good for her .
lancastermadeira 2 years ago 11
good video
mustang071 2 years ago 7
Is that position a good birthing one? Or is it better led down? Because she lifts her hips to push
depressedbiatch 2 years ago 12
Most women prefer to give birth standing, squatting or on hands and knees but this position worked fine for this woman.
laurashanley 2 years ago 8
Right on sister! I birthed unassisted as well and it's such an amazing way to just KNOW your body so well that your faith just KNOWS it's gonna be just fine. Beautiful!
1AGEL 2 years ago 8
How did you not like scream in pain! o.O ouch! even I had too!
321928Lover 2 years ago 6
look at the wee baby
nextgenvids 2 years ago 6
that baby was blue!
031674 2 years ago 11
Lots of babies are blue at birth. It isn't a cause for concern, as they pink up pretty quickly.
laurashanley 2 years ago 17
@031674 Unless they pinken up, it shouldn't be a problem. I was born a bit bluish, but I pinkened up quickly.
MariaBernkastel 1 year ago
That was beautiful!
sballangel93 2 years ago 6
Arnt you then worried that something will be wrong and you wont know without medical proffessionals there?? Just a question, I would rather a natural birth too but i would be scared of complications...
CassiaWindSong 2 years ago
Many times something goes wrong precisely BECAUSE someone is there. Doctors and even many midwives routinely interfere with birth. Testing, measuring, timing, telling a woman what position to be in, when to push, etc. all interfere with the natural process. For more info visit the web site shown in the video.
laurashanley 2 years ago
You could have a natural childbirth if you opt for a homebirth. I had one last year and plan on one for my baby due next may, too. You will still have midwives with you who are trained to deal with situations that may arise.
For the most part, my m/ws left me to it. I even delivered my son with them watching on. There was jus a few interruptions in the pool whilst they checked his heart rate. It was a very pleasurable birth - I think you should read up on it and decide if its for you! =)
n0odles86 2 years ago 2
I'm not sure if you're addressing this to me or to everyone, but I've read up on midwife attended birth and it isn't for me. Simply being observed can be an intervention. But when the observer is legally required (in many cases) to time, measure and interrupt the process, problems can and do result. But I'm glad your birth went well!
laurashanley 2 years ago 2
No, I wasn't addressing it to you. I was replying to CassiaWindSong. She said she wants a natural birth but is worried about complications. I was merely giving her another option. Unassisted births aren't for everyone and I thought my suggestion was a good half way point.
n0odles86 2 years ago
How peaceful this is.
kimlovessos84 2 years ago 4
yeah the music is peaceful.
greaval 2 years ago 2
Beautiful!
julie2ish 2 years ago
thats pink floyd music...sweet
cookiemonster31377 2 years ago
That was so beautiful. When I had my son I was in a hospital, but I waited until the very end of the labor to go. I didn't want tons of people telling me to take drugs and poke and prod me. And I was adament about voicing my wishes. I only had two regular strength tylenol and luckily my labor wasn't too bad. When I have more children I'm going to skip the hospital and it's outrageous bill all together and just give birth at home.
7twatwaffle7 2 years ago 18
when i have kids, im definately going to have a homebirth, i couldnt stick all the doctors mucking about around me, i would want it to be as natural as possible
RazzHorsex 2 years ago 23
I agree I think doctors/nurses/midwifes can make it worse theres so much prodding & poking down there I've seen one vid where the nurse vertually pulls the baby out by the head! & I've heard stories about nurses pulling on the cord (too hard) to get the placenta out they should just stand back & leave the mother to it & only intervene if really necessary
1Jerbilina1 2 years ago 8
I don't understand this calmness. I gave birth in the hospital with 2 epidurals that totally ran out by the time she was coming out and felt EVERYTHING including the epiziotomy (sp?) I was screaming!
HeidiChambers70 2 years ago
This mom worked on overcoming fear during her pregnancy. If we aren't afraid, and therefore don't trigger the fight/flight response, birth doesn't have to be painful. For more info see the web site shown in the video.
laurashanley 2 years ago
ok im 19 weeks onmy 4th baby (ive a 10 yr old son and 8 yr old daughter and lost a baby boy who died inside me at 26 weeks last year)
Can you please please tell me how to overcome the fear, i went so quick with all of mine that i had no pain meds and felt everything, id like to do it that way again but have been watching birth videos and am sooo scared now, any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
laura81stev 2 years ago
That is because the doctors stick their hands in there to measure how many inches it is dilated and break the water by accident so the birth is dry and painful. everytime a little water comes out during contractions it is less painful. The water makes the baby glide easily without pain.
elaine02270 2 years ago
Yes, medical intervention can definitely make birth more painful and difficult. To read more about this, as well as articles on overcoming fear, visit the site shown in the video.
laurashanley 2 years ago
so how do they get a birth certificate for the baby if the baby wasnt born in the hospital? just say the baby was born there?
sodaandjuice123 2 years ago
Different states have different requirements regarding birth certificates, but they're generally easy to get. You usually have to show proof of pregnancy and proof of residency. It's best to check with your local health dept. or dept. of vital statistics.
laurashanley 2 years ago
I am planning a homebirth with a midwife, I believe the midwife will give me the same kit they give a mother at the hospital, (birth cert, social insurance number form) if not you can get it from the pediatrician at the first check up. That is here in Canada though...but I imagine it is the same.
alicebrb 2 years ago
Wow! that was beautiful beyond words. It's amazing what a body can do...bring another body into this world.
gowalkingathinline 2 years ago 4
Laura, waiting in stillness just makes me unpatient. Due date's still on next sunday, i don't have any fear, but also not yet getting any sign of labour. What should i do to keep avoiding myself from uncertainty and negativity? You know, people around sometimes come with horror stories & sceptic advice.. Any advice to keep me on track?
missHanita 2 years ago
My dad is an MD so I certainly dealt with negative comments from family and friends. In my case I felt I had to isolate myself to a degree. Eventually I felt strong enough to be around people that didn't understand what I was doing. But I didn't go near them when I was close to giving birth. I believe we have inner help/guidance and so this is what I tried to tune into. You might also join one or more of the unassisted birth email lists or message boards if you haven't already. Good luck!
laurashanley 2 years ago
Oh that's beautiful! :)
sweetfairydust 2 years ago
why there`s no blood??
songongs02 2 years ago
If a woman hasn't had an episiotomy (unnecessary cutting of the perineum prior to birth) often there isn't much blood at all.
laurashanley 2 years ago
Episiotomy in not unnecessary but is done as a last resort in the UK, I do not know one midwife who does these as routine.
nettoner 2 years ago
No way. I would freak out if I had to deliver a baby all by myself. So kudos to the women who've done it successfully.
Fayme20 2 years ago 3
i also give kudos
omgapaintball3r 2 years ago
wow i cant wait till thats me
BLDBLT 2 years ago 4
Dude the mom is a G...she didnt even look like she was in pain
VicaQueen09 2 years ago 9
Probably because she wasn't :-) I birthed my last baby at home unassisted and there was absolutely no pain when she emerged. My two hospital births I couldn't get through without epidurals though. Women who are comfortable and feel safe often have painless births.
krisdiane 2 years ago 4
being naked is an instinctual thing when your baby comes out its naked right? its only normal nudity should not be shamed ! when i gave birth to my son i was completely naked and i did not care!!
mondogurl 2 years ago
that was beautiful :)
StellaRose1990 2 years ago
Home childbirth definately looks more peaceful.
I watched one where the woman was giving birth in the hospital and the doctors were like yanking the baby it looked violent.
But is it necessary to be completely naked while giving birth?
I wouldn't want to be completely naked giving birth, but of course she was in front of her husband.
Nicole7801 2 years ago
geburt ist ein natürliche angelegenheit - stimmt, meine frau wäre allerdings gestorben, wenn sie nicht im krankenhaus geboren hätte! die geburt zu hause oder im sog. geburtshaus birgt immer das risiko, das bei komplikationen keine hilfe in erreichbarer nähe ist, was zum tod des kindes oder der mutter führt!!!!!
Midgard234 2 years ago
Without knowing the details I can't comment on your wife's situation but in many, many cases the lives doctors are saving in hospital births wouldn't have been endangered in the first place if they hadn't continually interfered. Induction and augmentation of labor, forced pushing, obstetrical drugs, and forceps are some of the numerous dangerous interventions that are routinely performed on birthing women. In most cases, both mother and baby are SAFER giving birth at home.
laurashanley 2 years ago
Unfortunately Laura, this is very untrue. In most cases, it will be fine. In some cases, not. Coming from the NL where it is quite accepted to give birth at home, I can tell you that about 60% of mothers intending to give birth at home, still ends up in the hospital for various safety reasons.
Oh and being naked? Drawing from experience, in labour - you couldn't care less.
maartjjewinkler 2 years ago
No, it's not untrue. If you read my book or explore my website you'll learn WHY women sometimes have problems in birth. If the birth isn't interfered with physically, then the problems can be traced to poverty or psychological intervention. Fear triggers the fight/flight response which shuts down labor. Most of the women you refer to could have avoided a transfer if they had worked to overcome their fear of birth. I'm not judging them. But I stand by what I've written.
laurashanley 2 years ago
Das ist schrecklich, ich sind so traurig. Ist sie gut heute? Gute Gesundheit.
Sadyechester 2 years ago
I'm not a girl, but I think it's just more comfortable for them to be naked. You def can't be wearing bottoms though haha.
blacklite911 2 years ago
Homebirth IS much more peaceful, I've had two children at home and wittnessed a few hospital births as a Doula. As far as your comment about being nude... I remember I labored in just an over-sized tshirt until I was in transition and then I took it off cause I was just toooooo hot. Many women find that they get too warm to wear clothes.
faerysexy 2 years ago
I am far to young to have children, but when the time comes (and hopefully it will) I know I will be scared, but I will be more excited to hold my new child, boy or girl! And to honest I think screaming will make whatever pain I feel worse, it will just tire me out and hurt my throat, concentrate more on getting your child out into the world than the pain you feel at that moment.
VamLoveAndKisses 2 years ago
thats what alot of ppl think but from experience i can tell you its the opposite the harder you scream the more energy it takes from the pain so you feel it less...yes you may have a sore throat after wards but i would pick a sore throat over labour pain anyday...
TiffieTube 2 years ago 2
that woman made it look so easy my hats off to her though i got to do this in couple months =/
mjrocks6661 2 years ago 4
i see it, but i hardly believe it, isnt it supposed to be hurtful?
slashoasis156 2 years ago 2
This idea scares me. I can totally understand why some women would choose to give birth this way though. I can imagine it being a lot calmer. I'm inclined to say it's a tad selfish BUT, only because of my ignorance towards childbirth. I would worry far too much about something going wrong.
TwilightBee8 3 years ago
when I see vid's of birth, some doctors and nurses are rough when the women is giving birth, I think it is a natural thing, just let nature take it's course. instead of pull the vagiana open, let it open naturally.
videolver2 3 years ago 6
I agree. That's what scares me about hospital births...how rough the doctors and nurses are/can be.
zanessaXisXcute 2 years ago 4
amazing
felixiv 3 years ago
Great video! i don't think I could have ever had my children with out medical assistance
Princessnene08 3 years ago
Holy hell... she's a trooper!!
aaron71 3 years ago
Why wasn't she screaming? I was screaming with both of mine!
angelaramphal 3 years ago
During her pregnancy she worked on overcoming her fear of birth. She also didn't allow anyone to interfere. The majority of the pain and problems in birth are caused by interference, both physical and psychological.
laurashanley 3 years ago
amen!! I sang out ... sounded like a chant. We have to connect with our bodies instead of treating them like foreign objects that a stranger should deal with.
thehealingpot 2 years ago 5
She worked on overcoming fear during her pregnancy. She also didn't allow anyone to interfere with the birth. For more information, visit the web site shown in the video.
laurashanley 3 years ago
i would love to have a home birth, it seems so calm and smooth.
TheDominoEffect09 3 years ago
thats how i had my little girl! incredible video
Beklan422 3 years ago
unbelievable..she's so cool.
kasturi03 3 years ago 4
Thank you mom!!
quaid580 3 years ago 6
I am so lucky I was born at home before my parents were able to get to the hospital. Both my brother & I were born BEFORE the annoying doctors & nurses could get in the way. My brother was born at the hospital before they could transfer my mom to a "table". Fast labors I guess. It worked out great for everyone.
rockstarofredondo 3 years ago 2
I had my first two children at a hospital and thought it was the only "safe" way to have a baby....After a lot of research I decided to have a UC with my third. Being able to listen to my body and not have strangers telling me what to do and when was amazing. I went to the store 4 hours after I had her. I wish I could do the first two over again!!
londynsmomma 3 years ago 6
but isn't that dangerous?
i mean wat if there was a complication
and there was a doctor or other things u would find in a hospital?
Fierakeee 3 years ago
Actually, interfering in birth - either physically or psychologically is dangerous. Many problems that happen in birth are actually caused by doctors (and sometimes midwives) poking, prodding, testing, drugging and cutting. Other problems are due to the woman's own fear, which triggers the fight/flight response and shuts down labor. For more information visit the web site shown on the screen.
laurashanley 3 years ago
I would love to have you on my blogtalkradio show. I had an UC in 2006 and am going to have another in March. If you would like to talk about UC please email back at your earliest convenience.
TheGodWoman 3 years ago 5
WOW IT`S REALY HELPFUL THAT I KNOW
jolson1204 3 years ago 5
i didnt have great time when the baby was born lol i had baby blues and that was the most awful thing i am scared of that. plus they always say that birth is beautyful and pain last just few minutes blabla bla nothing to be scared of...i didnt but now i know and i feel that they lied to me :) nothing´´s beautyful in birth, its painful its awful and its scary and i had´´luck´´to get real rude and mean nurses there who told me bad things
niltsirk 3 years ago 2
I sympathize with you. However as this video shows, birth doesn't have to be painful and traumatic. No doubt your birth was interfered with by the hospital staff. Your own fear could have contributed also. Next time you might consider giving birth at home where you are free to assume any position you want, can push or not push depending on how YOU feel, and will not be subjected to numerous rules and procedures. Birth can be blissful when it's allowed to unfold in its own time and own way.
laurashanley 3 years ago
WOW!!!!!
lakii49 3 years ago
before the baby comes is a great time becuase you get to go shopping for things like the babys bedroo, clothes, cot etc
its just the pain when the baby is bon that hurts!
after the baby is born is the best becuase then your future looks on!
who ever has watched this birth and is pregant... please dont get scared... just think about after the baby is born all the great times.
over all the pain you go through is minor compared to the hapiness and joy you will spend after the baby is born! xxx
077601255 3 years ago 4
This is meant as a serious comment, and I 'm sortof researching this question, so here goes:
at 1:03 and for about a couple seconds, is that an orgasm [whether she percevied it as all that great, as opposed to useful for automatic responses of the body to aid child birth]? be serious, women out there who had something related to orgasm when giving birth.... and let me know.
LLCoolPass 3 years ago
She didn't describe her birth as orgasmic but many women do experience it that way. Google "orgasmic childbirth" to read my article about this.
laurashanley 3 years ago
über skillz lol
Zecez 3 years ago
that's cool
saad1505 3 years ago
Beautiful.. I was by myself. I found it hard. My daughters father had left me when he found out that I was pregnant. But I really love my little girl. She's the best thing that ever happened to me..
LouLou2u2 3 years ago 4
being a mother is not an easy responsibility.. MOM.. i Salute u!
embe990 3 years ago 4
Beautiful !
yooper4lyf 3 years ago
Wow that did look so perfect it was like out of a movie, only it was real... Amazing! God bless you & your family Josephine!!
enimsaj2005 3 years ago 2
Wow.
I'm a wimp in comparison. No question.
HypoAllergenicJin 3 years ago
I had an epi too. I was induced though so I had no chance of not painless(border-line pre-e).Im a little jealous. Sigh, maybe next time wont be as bad. Good video!
blue31308 3 years ago
That lady is amazing. o_o
So beautiful. :)
EvilVivel 3 years ago
wow she's GOOD
scolac 3 years ago
it is me or was that staged?
only there seemed to be a lot of smiling going on when she should of been screaming her head off and cursing men to bits
pickleboy23 3 years ago 4
This wasn't staged. Josephine allowed herself to totally relax. She didn't fight the contractions and didn't allow anyone to interfere with the birth. Consequently she gave birth easily. My births were also very easy and I had very little pain. More information can be found on my unassisted childbirth web site. To see another nearly painless birth type in "Clio's birth."
laurashanley 3 years ago
i don't know about that! i had a friend who had to have a c-section because she was too small. so if she would have tried to have an unassisted birth no matter how much she tried to relax i bet she would have been screamin and crying! i'm not doubting u know wat ur talking about i just have a hard time thinking it's possible for everyone u and josephine are just blessed women.
MRSBREBROWN 3 years ago
Thousands of women have been told they're too small to give birth vaginally and in most cases that's absolutley false. Search Youtube for "question CPD."
laurashanley 3 years ago
AHHHH
WoW shes a pro lmao
plzIneedhelp 3 years ago
My God, when the husband leant over and gave her a kiss on the forhead, that was truly beautiful... Thankyou so much so letting me see that xxX
WeWantWeWant 3 years ago 5
it was so beautiful..i really mean it!!!thnks to the mother!!
faiwawa 3 years ago
wow she made it look easy!! :-o that was impressive x
starstrucksteph 3 years ago 7
I think childbirth is one of the most beautiful joys of life. You have courage, I had an epi..
snookyzoo 3 years ago 7
such a beautiful moment...
coffeescup 3 years ago 5
I hate it when people take this moral high ground because the kids was watching the birth,nothing wrong with it,unless they had a problem of seeing it.
1982CMC 3 years ago 6
good courage
gogo4909 3 years ago
She made it look SOOO EASY!
500019579 3 years ago 25
beautiful videos to show how women are really strong i mean a lot of preagnant women are dealing with every baby or pregnancy problem alone because the ather is not always in the mood of a baby just sex!!
cartoonmaster13 3 years ago 2
wow, is really amazing!! this is a clear example that we as woman have the capasitive of give birth without any type of pain medication!!! thank you for sharing such a beautiful video!! I'm 3 months pregnant and I want that special day to be like this video!!
solanye28 3 years ago 7
I just wanted to thank you, Laura, for all you've done. I discovered your website eight years ago and have been studying intensively since then. I'm proud to say that I had a very pleasurable birth this past March and I never though that it would feel so wonderful! I was always afraid of it before I gave birth as I've seen women in videos screaming. I was pleasantly surprised to find that not only did it not hurt, but it felt better than anything I've felt in my life. Mahalo!
amberskyfire 3 years ago
Wow, that was amazing. Thank you, Laura, for inspiring wemon like me to have a wonderful unassisted birth, even after a csection. I am due in December and i will be birthing my son at home with only my husband and daughter present. Thanks for your website as well, it always gives me inspiration and strength and never fails to remind we that i CAN birth my baby. Thanks again. :)
darklily1313 3 years ago 2
Wow, absolutly amazing and so beautiful. You are an inspiration to all women.
RaquelandRoss 3 years ago 5
I wanted to thank you for what you are doing for those of us interested in home birth. My daughter was born in a hospital and it was awful. My husband is against homebirth. Don't know why, he told me he'd be really proud of me if I were a midwife yet he doesn't want me having a baby at home. If I should get pregnant again this is what I'm going to do, maybe with a midwife, but definately at home. If he refuses to support it then I'm afraid it will be the end of our marriage, sadly.
sugarpill6 3 years ago
Keep at him! My husband was also against me having a home birth eight years ago. I just kept talking about it and researching and learning. He eventually got on board with the idea and even defended my choices to his mother! He was there holding my hand when I gave birth unassisted in March and smiled every step of the way. See if you can get him to watch "The Business of Being Born." It will change his mind :)
amberskyfire 3 years ago
Wonderful! They were filled with such love and joy.I can`t wait to meet my baby.This video was beautiful.
celindyyo 3 years ago 3
its totally amasing
Mauricegarra 3 years ago
That was so beautiful. I wish that at least one of my 3 birthing experiences was like that! Awe inspiring!
dovebar76 3 years ago 2
Wow that was actually beautiful unlike some other video's which I can't help but cringe at the thought of pain.
arenaskies 3 years ago 6
this is probably one of the most inspiring vids I,ve seen yet. I will never understand the words and actions of some who outright condemn the lives of others
cvrnut09 3 years ago 3
what an inspiring video! i'm sorry you are having to defend such a natural act to some people!!
charm586 3 years ago 3
Have a great future mother and child.
ElCid4321 3 years ago 11
I love UC vids b/c most if not all looks so easy. I have a co-worker who recently had a baby. She pushed for 2 long hours then had a c-section. Yikes!
honeybunch2k6 3 years ago 3
i am so amazed to see the strength of the mother. I salute to your audacity.
sonpari00 3 years ago 6
I thank God for women!
NoSuchThingAsTrinity 3 years ago 22
I loved the babe voice ... So beautiful....:)
aaligi 3 years ago
One Word, BEAUTIFUL!!!
tinky471 3 years ago 6
didnt look like she was in pain
warpedcomedy 3 years ago 2
somethings it happens that way .. they just.. pop out :)
dmeatloaf 3 years ago
I agree Laura, that birth can occur wihtout any incident at all naturally. I am the last person to insist that doctors have their hand in everything. My only pointe here is that Murphy's law can be close to a universal truth. If something very bad goes wrong and you are in a cabin in the middle of Wyoming, you may be in trouble. Do not forget that death is as natural a process as birth, and occurs without remorse or consideration for the emotions of those involved.
whiteknight521 3 years ago
If Murphy's law were true, the sun wouldn't come up tomorrow, and humanity would have died off long ago. However, because our bodies are responsive to our thoughts, if we believe that something is bound to go wrong, often it will. Modern obstetrics essentially believes in Murphy's law, and consequently numerous problems occur in the hospital. I'd much rather give birth alone in a cabin than in a US hospital with a 30% c-section rate. Maternal mortality has doubled in the past 10 years.
laurashanley 3 years ago
Murphy's law includes time. Some random results are more likely to occur frequently than others.
mindhaze 3 years ago 2
Not long ago a man gave himself a tracheotomy without medical assistance. Is it possible? Yes. Is it optimal or safe? No. There is a difference between refusing medication and refusing emergency measures which could save the life of the baby. Unless you live across the street from a hospital, or are at some sort of midwife clinic that has attached medical facilities, this is lunacy. I think the intention is wonderful, but unfortunately good intentions don't reanimate dead babies.
whiteknight521 3 years ago
A tracheotomy cannot be compared to birth, which is a natural bodily function. Birth is not an emergency, it is simply an emergence. Yes, birth can be problematic - when a woman lives in poverty and/or the birth is interfered with physically or psychologically. But when a woman is relaxed and trusts her body, birth can be an easy, empowering, and safe experience. There's a reason animals seek seclusion when they're in labor. See my web site for more information.
laurashanley 3 years ago
This is fearmongering at its worst. Babies die at childbirth for a number of reasons but very, very rarely because of a lack of medical techonology. (Statistics bear that out, it's usually to do with lack of maternal health or an untreatable pregnancy condition.) Before you go comparing an emergency situation with a natural bodily ability you might want to think about whether or not you know anything about what you're speaking on.
thoughtful 3 years ago 5
nice...
mynameisthearbiter 3 years ago
yay = )
audrasfriend 3 years ago
Wow, the look on the mother's face... was so peaceful and calm. Not at all what I've usually seen, or personally experienced. She seemed so in control, so without fear or pain. How did she acheive such a feat I wonder? I would so love to be in that frame of mind when I bring my next child to into this world. Kudos to her for doing it the way mother earth and father sky intended!
cobaltmoments 3 years ago 2
She simply relaxed and allowed her body to work the way it was designed. Giving birth is much easier than most people realize. Most of the problems result from fear which triggers the fight/flight response and shuts down labor. When we're relaxed and unafraid, babies can be born safely and easily without the aid of a doctor or midwife.
laurashanley 3 years ago
Birth the way it was intended! Thanks for sharing.
sudds2x 3 years ago
beautiful
Massdem 3 years ago 2
I had a home birth with a midwife 21 years ago after having a c section for my first son't birth. I was glad the midwife was there,but I was also glad I did things the way I wanted to, not the way hospitals would have told me to.
DebbsHereNow 3 years ago
Thanks for sharing!
hot4enrique 3 years ago
The majority of Midwives are very good at sitting quietly and letting women labour at home.Its actually illegal to birth at home intentially without assistance.Your partner would be prosecuted if anything happened to you or the baby.
vames1970 3 years ago
Thankfully, you're wrong. Unassisted birth is not illegal. And while there are midwives who will "allow" a woman to labor in her own time and her own way, there are also midwives who unnecessarily intervene, either because they don't trust birth, or they're required by law to do so. In Colorado a midwife must transfer a woman to the hospital if she doesn't give birth within a certain time frame or her placenta isn't out within an hour of the birth. I'm in charge of my birth, not the state.
laurashanley 3 years ago
I'd say that the chance of medical intervention being needed is a very good reason for giving birth in the hospital. Sure complications are rare, but it could easily happen to me, and I would like to be in the hospital in case I have a blue baby or something. I'm interested in unassisted childbirth, however, because I'd like to know when doctors are doing anything unneccessary...
gluntford 3 years ago
Actually that isn't a good reason for giving birth in the hospital. Often something goes wrong BECAUSE a woman is in the hospital. Doctors (and sometimes midwives) continually interfere with the birth process, and numerous problems result. Read "Pushed" by Jennifer Block. Hospital born babies are more likely to need medical attention primarily due to the drugs given to laboring women, and the fact that most labors are induced and/or augmented. What's happening in hospitals is criminal.
laurashanley 3 years ago
Criminal? I think that taking it a bit far.
Smittyswymer 3 years ago
I sympathize with doctors to a degree. They're often blaimed for problems that aren't their fault. But 30% of women should not be enduring major surgery when they give birth. New studies show that women who've been c-sectioned have a greater chance of needing a hysterectomy later in life, and are more likely to have a stroke. They're also more likely to die in birth, as are their babies. C-sectioned babies often have medical problems. The current system does not serve mothers or babies.
laurashanley 3 years ago
you are amazing
jaystoner99 3 years ago 3
Just curious, how does a woman know when to start pushing? Its obvious for home births that the dr cannot inform you that your 10 inches dialated. Do women just know or wait for a particular feeling?
Minyadagniriel 3 years ago
If a woman is relaxed and no one is telling her what to do she will know when to push. My 1st baby was born with 3 or 4 pushes. The others were born with 1. The urge was unmistakable. Women are different shapes and sizes so it's silly for doctors to claim that ALL women must be 10 centimeters before they can push - or that they MUST push when they're 10 centimeters. Relax, allow your body to work the way it was designed, and when the urge to push hits, do it. It's much easier than people think.
laurashanley 3 years ago
Cool.
407bli 3 years ago
youre right. my doctor was great, and he let me push when i was ready. i reached 10 cm and he propped my bed up and told me to let the baby naturally slide down on his own and about 30 min after i reached 10cm i started feeling like i should push and he was out in 3 pushes with no tearing.
jorgeb237 3 years ago
Yes it is a unmistakable feeling. Great pressure like you have to void. You cant miss that either.
midsummernight50 3 years ago
I felt incredible pressure when it was time to push, both times, and had a baby in my arms ten minutes later. :)
moonfirefaery 3 years ago
Yes woman wait for a particular feeling to push.