BPD Criteria #1 - avoiding abandonment

[dharmabeats2]

thank you very much for making these. while i take no joy in your suffering it's strangely comforting to hear my own issues vocalized by someone else. the best of luck to you.

[borderlinebrain1]

Hi, ive just watched your 9 bpd criteria videos, you did a great job in explaining them, thankyou so much!

I will be watching your other videos with interest!

thankyou sooooooo much!

[evilsneasel]

you explained this perfectly, especially about feeling paranoid and using distance as self-protection. thank you

[ravenluxe]

hi- thanks for taking the time to make these videos. This was my first one and I will watch through to the last one. Everything you described here, happens to me as well. when I do feel abandoned I feel the need to disattach and (in my relationship) I feel the need/want to do something reckless, and I don't know why? I have been having these feelings really badly lately. and I am running out of ways to cope. thanks again.

[thecrackwalker]

@ravenluxe Thanks for the kind words. have you investigated DBT? it really is a great coping dealio

[kody9333]

I was diagnosed last year with bpd and avoidance disorder and sever major depression, I think I fit all of it, I also struggle with physical disabilities which makes me angry and then more depressed.

Thanks for you videos, you can understand what goes on in my crazy head.

Cheryl

[thecrackwalker]

@kody9333 Hi there, yes you seem to have the same as me with the bpd/avpd combo.. deadly. I hope you seek help.. it really is good to get therapy.!!

[TaTiska]

I think my mother might be borderline, her life is always one extreme to the next, she can't even sit in a quiet room by herself, she always needs drama, and if she can't get that she drinks. Can you give me any advice? I think she's too stubborn to willingly commit herself but it hurts everyone to see her go through life the way she does.

[thecrackwalker]

How old are you? When a person is in the state your mother is in is to try to help her to get help. later on you can learn out to treat her - the major important thing is to make her see she needs help. Get your whole family to help - ever watched the show "Intervention" well in this case maybe it's time, huh?

good luck and stay in touch

[Thimble78]

I think this criteria must have impacted your relationship with your therapist - have you worried about the therapist abandoning you? Has the therapist done things to make you feel rejected and if so, how did you overcome this (or did you leave the therapist?) Thanks in advance for any comments you are able to share.

[thecrackwalker]

I stopped seeing my therapist when I thought my moving was imminent, but I have recently returned to him.

No I have never felt abandonned by my therapist. he is very careful not to upset me. He is a briiliant man. He knows the BPD shit inside out.

[JustxAnotherxCut]

Thank you so much for posting all of this criteria. It has really helped me and may others I am sure x

[thecrackwalker]

You are more than welcome. :)

[BeccaJade90]

thank you, this has helped me understand myself more, thank you for posting!! x

[thecrackwalker]

you're more than welcome. I truely hope I have helped in some way.

[Twiley333]

interesting and informative series.  Thanks for sharing

[thecrackwalker]

Thank you, thx for watching. :)

[Bestrong4]

You on did it again another darn good video.

I hate rejection as well, was picked on as a kid in school. Ive been a loner for awhile myself

[thecrackwalker]

Thx Bestrong. :) check the whole bpd series out, its quite interesting.

[maximotion]

I have this quite bad I think in that I lose the feeling of being loved or cared for very easily. It makes me seem very needy but it's just that I can't feel their love. I feel totally abandoned almost all the time. When my feelings are not validated (and mocked or just ignored) it is indescribably painful and that's when I feel most abandoned. It's an awful thing...

[thecrackwalker]

This is why it important to have peer to peer chats. to describe to others our pain and needs as we know they really undertsand fully. to share our knowledge with each other.

its like the saying "doctor heal thyself" well in mental health its patient heal theyself because only the sick can heal the sick in this illness

[cambridgejane]

Bingo.

Suicidal thoughts "sometimes" occur along with the anger? "Sometimes" for me is way too damn frequently, then.

My whole dealing with I'll just say shit that doesn't exactly go my way is separating myself from the situation for a long while, I'll go dive into unhealthy junk, junk food, junk TV, I'll work hard on pretending I'm sick with a cold so I can stay in bed as much as possible because I find myself so useless. Truly is fucking chemical. All because someone said or did something I

[cambridgejane]

didn't much care for. And when I finally care to go see about patching things up with them, I Never like to make a big to-do about it, it HAS to be casual, like Oh Hi, fancy bumping into you again! That kind of deal. :p

People can be so frustrating to that quick point of unreasonableness. Over nothing.

[thecrackwalker]

Yeah, I hate making a big deal out of patching things up too. it's like rocking thed boat all over again

[thecrackwalker]

lol I think some of get the suicidal thoughts harder and stronger at certain times.. although the idea bounces around in my head like a bad dream all the time

[cambridgejane]

Exactly. :)

[iamwhoiamnow42]

Thank you for doing these videos. You have put a personal touch to the dsm IV criteria. I showed your vids to my family and now they understand me a little better. Looking forward to seeing more of you vids.

[thecrackwalker]

Really? thank you. I hope i have helped

[linsplace]

this was very good because I can totally relate completely hope your doing well I worry about you {{{{big hug}}}}

[thecrackwalker]

Thx lin, yeah I am feeling well these days. Just a little standoffish