Holy moly. This is just nuts. None of these things will work. Women think that you are a clingy wimp if you do all this stuff. Lady says to me, "How do you think I look?" So I say "Oh, yeah, like you don't know that you look hot. Seriously, why would I be out with you if I thought you were a skank?" All the sudden she loves me. But, you are a sweet girl and I think your heart is in the right place and for that you get major props. Wha???? There I go with that nice guy junk. NOOOO!
I think Ill never get a girl. I do evrything you say but it doesnt seem to work and by the way Im 27 and not bad looking but still single and I believe more and more that women want bad boys and not commitment even atchurch as Im also christian.
As far as I know 99% of guy's who have problems with attracting women, have no problems with being polite, attentive, complimenting and behaving properly. However those who are rude assholes are those about which women complain the most. That is because those guys at least capture their attention, while those do no harm guys never get noticed and when they start expressing their interest, they usually get banished into the friend zone.
So there is this girl that I am talking to now. I have known her for a while now. But haven't really talk until a couple of months now. I have told her I liked her and it seems like she likes me. But don't really know?!? Kind of driving me bonkers. I was just wondering what I should do?!? And if you had any advice on this matter. Thank you and Aloha
Your tips are timely. I'm 52 and have been putting it out there again the last 6 months to meet a nice lady after being divorced 3 years ago. I've been learning many new skills to help me, especialy through ballroom dancing, which I would highly recomend to anyone. I have a 1st date tomorrow with a lovely lady and your tips gave me a quick top up. I've learnt how important these skills are and have been teaching my kids. Thanks.
@walkertexasranger33 yeah we all went to highschool, whats your point? Now im at one of the best universities in the country, which is more than you can say mr internet gangster =]
@EZBreezy187 and based on your reply. It seems as though you haven't grown up much since highschool because a mature person would've responded to me in a much more respectful manner and actually own up to their failings.
lol, can u please answer my question: thers this girl i know, shes really nice and we used to be friends. but then i dumped her for another crowd, and on ocassion we wud make fun of her and she got really angry and stopped talking to me. well now that high school is over i dont really know how to make it up to her, because i reallly like her again, and not just because shes become really hot. any advice on how i can make her like me again? thanks! =]
Apologize - especially nice in a letter - and be prepared that she may not accept it or need time to process what you have to say. Even if she cannot move past it, it will be the right thing to do for you. I'm proud you wish to do so :)
@EZBreezy187 You don't want her to like you you want her to LOVE you. Things that make people like other people have little to do with what. Be unapologetic, unless you did something objectively wrong. If you made fun of her in an objectively rude way(not something she was subjectively displeased with), admit that you behaved like an idiot and your sorry, and you accept if she doesn't want to know you, but don't suck up to her in "I beg for your forgiveness, dear goddess" style.
For the nice guys out there that have managed to date or marry the few quality women left, congratulations. I'm officially jealous(no sarcasm intended). You are very fortunate. The rest of us have two choices: 1)settle, or 2)resign.
resignation, with the occasional fling in between, seems like the best option for me personally right now.
i love this video, mostly because I.B is so charming, but men need to forget about being nice in today's society. It just doesn't work. It's a complete waste of time. When i was the nice guy it barely got me anywhere. When i became indifferent i was successful. The problem is that i didn't like being that way, so i quit dating altogether and have been single for well over 6 years.
i didn't know you still responded to comments from dated videos ysabella. How are you? Where are the new videos? I'm growing weary of looking forward to your refreshing advice. Where are your songs? I loved the Sade one (among many)!
Your take on number two is interesting. Once girls find out I'm Christian they walk. Plus I'm a weirdo. I'd rather get it over with than start liking her then having her walk.
The first point is quite interesting. I'm old enough to remember how things were during the 70's and 80's when the feminist movement was in full swing. I made the terrible mistake of politely opening a door for a lady (I use this term loosely.) She proceeded to bark at and berate me, making it quite clear that she was perfectly capable of opening her own door, thank you very much, and kindly get the hell out of the way! Well, excuse me maam! You girls get what you deserve.
Ysabella is so sweet. Sadly though, nice women don't realize what it's like to be an average guy dating average women in their early adulthood. You really can't fathom how selfish and uninteresting many women are, until they get older and realize the world isn't promised to them.
I wanna throw down a lil advise as well if its cool, try to stear away from your compliments being the complete obvious ones at first it tends to sound shallow and insincere try to compliment on something that you really like about her that may catch her off guard because she will realize that u r really attentive to small details and women love a man that is thoughtful trust me it's how a nice guy can still seem intriguing and also not sound desperate.... peace
Picking girls up is so easy... you just have to be nice and charming but not pushy, clingy or over zealous. For instance, I met an attractive lady who was with a few of her friends out one night. I approached her and asked her how her night was going. They were just going out to a bar. It was cold/rainy that night and they were trying to get a cab, so I offered her my jacket as I walked onto the road and hailed a cab. I wished her well and sent her on her way, she asked for my number. Easy.
What's your thought on the idea that women always like 'the chase'? Once they know they can have a guy, or they think he is paying TOO much attention to her and that they can have him whenever they want... they lose interest.
@jaries12 THANK YOU! My ex did this and it was so rude. One time the waitress even kept asking me if everything he was ordering was okay with me. I was embarrassed.
@ysabellabravetalk Yeah that is really sweet like you said. I would like this too. But this was on the first date :( and the thing is I have acid reflux which worsens when i'm nervous.... or eat foods like pizza LOL
@ysabellabravetalk Yeah your right. It is very sweet. But unfortunately this was the first date, and I have acid reflux which worsens when I get nervous or eat foods like pizza LOL. I ended up eating only breadsticks and him eating the whole pizza all in like less then 30 minutes lol
I am starting to get pissed because women have looked down and away so many times, i am staring to think something is wrong with me. Men do it also but i dont really give a shit, its the women i am concerned about. WHY DO THE ALWAYS LOOK DOWN!
I have noticed something while walking. Everytrime i look at a woman she immediately looks down or at her phone. Then on the corner of my eye after she passes me she immediately looks up. This happens 90% of the time i pass a woman. Why do you guys think this is? i don't look like Sasquatch or anything so what causes them to do that.
This happens to me without fail. I think people are 1) shy, 2) don't want to appear rude, or 3) were looking at you/ near you and happened to look away for no reason at all.
@ysabellabravetalk Good advice, but some women think a guy should not need complements or validation from his girlfriend, and to desire such is to be insecure.
@ysabellabravetalk@ysabellabravetalk I believe you missed my point. I had a girlfriend who never gave me a compliment, and when I brought it up, she stated that a man should be secure enought in himself that he doesn't need compliments. She also added that a man should not need or seek validation from the woman in his life.
Good tip for being irritated by complaining: talk about something you admire or like. If they still complain endlessly (we're talking about first dates here), they may be a bitter type of person and it may be a good idea to move along.
I completely agree with you and I do all those things, and I still feel frustrated, and feel that me being a gentleman is generally unappreciated and not respected by the majority of girls I've encountered and dated. I fear the majority of girls my age (21-25) are attracted to assholes, they seem to just want a 1 night stand with a goodlooking guy. I wish there were more sweethearts out there...
Most of us gentlemen in America have a trepidation about being so polite to a lady, especially immediately--after feminism razed the culture to the ground. I hear the very old music in the background. Are you really so traditional? It seems almost too good to be true. I would much rather be in the company of a traditional woman because of the mutual respect involved: I myself got married to a woman who was putting on a front of being traditional, then she took me for what she could.
@HealthisinPlease..uh ,who the heck said anything about ''me '' inviting her out ???..did it ever occur to you that women might suggest going to'dinner too?.Should they pay the ''whole ''tab when that happens?.....Next time think about what you post before posting..you sound a little inexperienced
All women are insecure about themselves and their shape (with various grades). To succeed in a date, you need to make them feel comfortable about who they are and how they look.
All compliments should be genuine and, if asked, can be explained.
That means things like: bringing them in a nice place, listening (not advising), smile and flatter. You can also cook for them, draw, handwrite a letter. Finally, trying to look nice is also a sign that you care.
never listen to a woman giving dating advice. they usually have no idea what they want. in most cases expressions of manners and respect are perceived as weakness.
@timsartsite that may be well true, but that's because most women are insecure. If you date women that think manners are weak, change dating location.
@timsartsite Agreed. It is always in reverse for some reason. You should be a gentleman which means respectful but doesn't take no crap. the other side so the spectrum are the wuss bag nice dude and the bad boy. Someone once said " You will never have her heart until she realizes you will walk and never look back.
What a revolting sentiment. Love, true love, is unconditional - 'walking away and never looking back' and 'having someone's heart' are virtually contradictory.
This is all well and good but me being a guy who is a true complete gentleman in the most sincere sense I have done all of these and never gotten anywhere with women.
after watching your videos i have to say madame you are america's dream girl enticing eyes a gorgeous smile angelic hair and such outstanding view points on the dating world in all honesty i'd be blessed to find a girlfriend like you my age
Nandakumar: don't people gets bored of these compliments.....does the complimenting words loose value since we compliment....wont they say i know i am so and so....
Someone actually promoting manners and positivity in this day and age? What's next? Actually suggesting that parents should raise their kids instead of leaving it to the institutions and schools? My word :).
hold on are we dating the queen,no good young man you get your slde in there first , its good to pffend it amkes relationships either godo to go or godd to stop,now what if was sitting with you and siad,your masscre is clotted what masscre do you use and wouldnt it be better if you got some new masscr,as the one your suing look old(men elarn thta women have masscre thtas old and becoems clotted they have to liqiuify the masccre,so it doesnt clot ,thats what the adevets are about ,so we on
I will be an old man if I have to pay attention to her. Why can't she open the door for me if I going to pay for the dinner? Can I ask her to shut up would that be approriate? I'm single because I have never followed a woman's lead. If I have ever offended a woman is because she desired it.
On the good side, if I meet someone like you, I can be pursauded to conform.
Hi ysabellabravetalk, your right, I am nuts and crazy about you and your videos. You and your videos are awesome. I couldn't help in having a little fun. No disrespect to you. To be truthful, I was over whelmed by you because you reminded me of a dear friend and awesome dance partner. Like you, she also was a lady. With love, may all your dreams come true ysabellabravetalk.
My parents gave me this same advice and now, at 30, I'm still single. A lot of women I encounter are jaded single moms or fashionista who care all that materialistic. I have to say my dear I completely agree with your advice, but in todays world I think we were born about 60 years too late. I am single not because of bad manners, but because i refuse to be well adjusted to the standards of society that does not reflect my appreciation of the very words that you speak. Nice music in this one btw
Same here, 30 and still single. I'll wait or go without, but not settle for rubbish. There are selfless, good people out there. If I'm not to be married, so be it :)
I'm very suprised by your answer. 1st by the fact your single, and second how you accept that you may spend the rest of your life unmarried. ( unless you choose to do so.) As a man of science I can't accept that finding someone we can fall in love with is left to the same random patterns that dictate weather phenomenon. Out of 6 billion people, there has to be a pairing probability. lol sorry, this is maybe why I'm single. some ideas keep me up at night.
yeah, talking about politics on a date, specifically a first date, is risky. first and second dates for the most part are all about keeping it light, just having fun. the more comfortable the person feels with you the more you can start to open up and talk about all that type of stuff. religion is a little different fhough because i kinda have to know from the jump if a woman has a relationship with Christ. if not then it's probably not gonna work out.
your right on target when you say that the guy should be a gentleman it's something that people say is old fashion however i do believe that it brings a couple closer together
So nice if that were only true. But, alas, many have fallen into a web of deceit by a pretty face. A mans spirit can deceive ones self. There is so much more to Love than physical attraction, and one must work at it with truth and honesty to get it right. If it is meant to be, the right one will come along.
1 John 4:1
BELOVED, DO not put faith in every spirit, but prove (test) the spirits to discover whether they proceed from God; for many false prophets have gone forth into the world.
It might be a little familiar if you have only just met them. A good rule of thumb in the beginning of dating or meeting women is would you punch a guy out if he said this to your mother.
you should edit the title of this video and make it "Dating Advice for Gentlemen who date classy, respectable women", lol. sadly there are alot of women out there with whom all it takes is you picking up the tab to capture their hearts, regardless of how much of prick she knows deep down that you really are. very low standards out there.
What if the girl is asking me all types of questions and all I can do is talk to myself. I wanna ask her things and talk about her but she doesnt really let me cause she is interested in me. Its hard to redirect traffic like that lol.
I've done everyone of those gentlemenly things in the past and they all managed to decrease my appeal to a woman, and generate rude responses from them. Sad but true.
Everything u said works if the lady has already made it clear she likes you alot. Otherwise chivalry is looked upon as neediness or weakness.
I think its because women spend their time chasing after a feeling rather than admiring good character. Men are probably guilty of that as well.
U gals luv to say that, then u up go out with the bold brash guy, lol.
Hopefully ur one of the few women that says what they mean & do as they say.
I've seen it with my own eyes too often.
I'm sure u mean well when u say that, but women gravitate to cockiness not humility or meekness. Those are qualities that are respected, but not neccesarily appealing or eyecatching. Theres a difference.
I've really come to question how well women even understand themselves.
I agree with all the points you make in this video. They are, most of them, already applied. However, I want to thank you because I think you're right in saying to express dislike in a more positive manner. Appreciate it.
Personally I think it sounds like our grandpa's time things to do as a gentleman. Today I think it will portray superficial behavior which is not appreciated(AKA creepy). Besides there arent any gentlemen left, I saw the last one vanished in front of me ;)
I would marry you. hehe Your so classy. I love the way u talk too; its like u traveled here from the past. That kinda classy. Hows this for a compliment? lol
"Follow her lead", yeah, like worship her as if she were a goddess and you wouldn't really deserve her attention makes you UNBELIEVABLY attractive to her!
Guys are in a tough sitiuation now adays. SOme women are taught by their father sto EXPECT the door holding, the pulling out the chair, ect.
God forbid a guy try to pick up a girl at my house {for a date} by honking the horn, we just wait till they ome to the door XD
But anyway, other women HATE all that, and feel insulted when a guy does this {how is beyond me, unless they thnk the guy is implying we're weak or feeble
For some reason I felt the need to add my 2 cents :) I know there are women who despise chivalrous acts from men, but, at least in my experience, there are far more women who appreciate it. I do it because it's in my nature to do so. The occaisional negative response won't change that.
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You know it's kinda funny because any date that I've ever gone on, I've done most of what you had explained only to be viewed by my date as being a "dork". It seems that having class and manners is now looked upon as a sign of weakness?... I don't get it...
It's not true unless you really are being dorky like actually telling her, "I'll hold the door open for you," or, "I watched a video on youtube for dating advice." Otherwise, as a girl, I can tell you it is very much appreciated when guys act politely and considerately.
I like this video!. not being creepy or nothing but you are so sweet and I like looking into your eyes lol. there very nice :D .and you have good facial features and your attractive. I could go on :P .
Hey, you sound sweet, but your attitudes seem that of the traditional dating scene. These days it seems like if a guy's any bit of nice, women put him off as a wuss, or "JUST a nice guy". Some women like to push buttons too, just to test a guy's reaction, so I think it rules all depend on the datees. All in all though, nice talk. One other thing - stand when she stands? Haha, I saw that in Kate and Leopold, didn't think ppl still did that!
@Jugivadi I know I speak for quite a few women when I say we'd prefer a simple, "You look beautiful".
jena1235 5 months ago
Holy moly. This is just nuts. None of these things will work. Women think that you are a clingy wimp if you do all this stuff. Lady says to me, "How do you think I look?" So I say "Oh, yeah, like you don't know that you look hot. Seriously, why would I be out with you if I thought you were a skank?" All the sudden she loves me. But, you are a sweet girl and I think your heart is in the right place and for that you get major props. Wha???? There I go with that nice guy junk. NOOOO!
Jugivadi 6 months ago
The world is upside down.
franciscodudeful 7 months ago
I think Ill never get a girl. I do evrything you say but it doesnt seem to work and by the way Im 27 and not bad looking but still single and I believe more and more that women want bad boys and not commitment even atchurch as Im also christian.
franciscodudeful 7 months ago
there arent too many real women like you, especially in my highschool
pineappleryan96 7 months ago
@pineappleryan96
High school is a tough time, lots of weird stuff goes down. Just get through it to the other side.
ysabellabravetalk 7 months ago
@ysabellabravetalk i'll do just that
pineappleryan96 7 months ago
As far as I know 99% of guy's who have problems with attracting women, have no problems with being polite, attentive, complimenting and behaving properly. However those who are rude assholes are those about which women complain the most. That is because those guys at least capture their attention, while those do no harm guys never get noticed and when they start expressing their interest, they usually get banished into the friend zone.
mik1984 7 months ago
So there is this girl that I am talking to now. I have known her for a while now. But haven't really talk until a couple of months now. I have told her I liked her and it seems like she likes me. But don't really know?!? Kind of driving me bonkers. I was just wondering what I should do?!? And if you had any advice on this matter. Thank you and Aloha
kpimp5007 8 months ago
@kpimp5007 Tell her :)
ysabellabravetalk 7 months ago
HEHE SWEET =D
licialicous 9 months ago
Your tips are timely. I'm 52 and have been putting it out there again the last 6 months to meet a nice lady after being divorced 3 years ago. I've been learning many new skills to help me, especialy through ballroom dancing, which I would highly recomend to anyone. I have a 1st date tomorrow with a lovely lady and your tips gave me a quick top up. I've learnt how important these skills are and have been teaching my kids. Thanks.
tellyz59 10 months ago
@EZBreezy187 i dunno brah, you seemed to have failed
walkertexasranger33 11 months ago
You're an anachronism.
padge61 11 months ago
@walkertexasranger33 yeah we all went to highschool, whats your point? Now im at one of the best universities in the country, which is more than you can say mr internet gangster =]
EZBreezy187 11 months ago
@EZBreezy187 and based on your reply. It seems as though you haven't grown up much since highschool because a mature person would've responded to me in a much more respectful manner and actually own up to their failings.
walkertexasranger33 11 months ago
Ysabella's comments are wonderful but unfortunately apply to her and few others. None of this applies to women who want bad boys and to be taboo.
She also misses the part of where once a woman thinks you're a jerk there is absolutely no chance of recovery no matter what you do.
My odds in the weekly Lotto are about 12.5 million to 1. I suspect those are better odds than meeting someone like Ysabella.
I'm just too tired to look for a needle in a haystack.
axt947 11 months ago
u go ysabella, wit ur fine self lol
antajsgee 1 year ago
@antajsgee
YOU KNOW IT
ysabellabravetalk 7 months ago
lol, can u please answer my question: thers this girl i know, shes really nice and we used to be friends. but then i dumped her for another crowd, and on ocassion we wud make fun of her and she got really angry and stopped talking to me. well now that high school is over i dont really know how to make it up to her, because i reallly like her again, and not just because shes become really hot. any advice on how i can make her like me again? thanks! =]
EZBreezy187 1 year ago
@EZBreezy187
Apologize - especially nice in a letter - and be prepared that she may not accept it or need time to process what you have to say. Even if she cannot move past it, it will be the right thing to do for you. I'm proud you wish to do so :)
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@EZBreezy187 You don't want her to like you you want her to LOVE you. Things that make people like other people have little to do with what. Be unapologetic, unless you did something objectively wrong. If you made fun of her in an objectively rude way(not something she was subjectively displeased with), admit that you behaved like an idiot and your sorry, and you accept if she doesn't want to know you, but don't suck up to her in "I beg for your forgiveness, dear goddess" style.
mik1984 7 months ago
For the nice guys out there that have managed to date or marry the few quality women left, congratulations. I'm officially jealous(no sarcasm intended). You are very fortunate. The rest of us have two choices: 1)settle, or 2)resign.
resignation, with the occasional fling in between, seems like the best option for me personally right now.
lamentate07 1 year ago
i love this video, mostly because I.B is so charming, but men need to forget about being nice in today's society. It just doesn't work. It's a complete waste of time. When i was the nice guy it barely got me anywhere. When i became indifferent i was successful. The problem is that i didn't like being that way, so i quit dating altogether and have been single for well over 6 years.
lamentate07 1 year ago
i didn't know you still responded to comments from dated videos ysabella. How are you? Where are the new videos? I'm growing weary of looking forward to your refreshing advice. Where are your songs? I loved the Sade one (among many)!
P L E A S E C O M E B A C K ! ! !
isaiahezekiel25 1 year ago
Do you know how to sweep a girl offf her feet ? Maybe like some things that you can say?
Fogglesworthify 1 year ago
Your take on number two is interesting. Once girls find out I'm Christian they walk. Plus I'm a weirdo. I'd rather get it over with than start liking her then having her walk.
vesperus1981 1 year ago
@vesperus1981
That's too bad, but I know how you feel, once I'm discovered to be Christian people get uncomfortable, too!
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
Very interesting. Thank you.
But what are you saying between 4:20 and 4:40? I really can't get it, I'm afraid.
dhepermana 1 year ago
The first point is quite interesting. I'm old enough to remember how things were during the 70's and 80's when the feminist movement was in full swing. I made the terrible mistake of politely opening a door for a lady (I use this term loosely.) She proceeded to bark at and berate me, making it quite clear that she was perfectly capable of opening her own door, thank you very much, and kindly get the hell out of the way! Well, excuse me maam! You girls get what you deserve.
swillswill 1 year ago
does anyone still do this? maybe in the 80's lol
ikilleduku 1 year ago
Ysabella is so sweet. Sadly though, nice women don't realize what it's like to be an average guy dating average women in their early adulthood. You really can't fathom how selfish and uninteresting many women are, until they get older and realize the world isn't promised to them.
klined 1 year ago
@klined
Oh I'm sorry to read that :(
I feel for you and thank you for telling us how it can be.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL yeah and pet store shows u have luv 2 give lol and that were charitable
ordepolbap 1 year ago
I wanna throw down a lil advise as well if its cool, try to stear away from your compliments being the complete obvious ones at first it tends to sound shallow and insincere try to compliment on something that you really like about her that may catch her off guard because she will realize that u r really attentive to small details and women love a man that is thoughtful trust me it's how a nice guy can still seem intriguing and also not sound desperate.... peace
ordepolbap 1 year ago
Picking girls up is so easy... you just have to be nice and charming but not pushy, clingy or over zealous. For instance, I met an attractive lady who was with a few of her friends out one night. I approached her and asked her how her night was going. They were just going out to a bar. It was cold/rainy that night and they were trying to get a cab, so I offered her my jacket as I walked onto the road and hailed a cab. I wished her well and sent her on her way, she asked for my number. Easy.
jaries12 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL
That's pretty much how I met all my boyfriends.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
not bad
annabelle089 1 year ago
@RNRDOLL
Compliments should be true, pure, and authentic - desiring nothing in return. Simple as that.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
What's your thought on the idea that women always like 'the chase'? Once they know they can have a guy, or they think he is paying TOO much attention to her and that they can have him whenever they want... they lose interest.
jaries12 1 year ago
@jaries12
It's quite the contrary for me - that's usually when I get a hint that he is interested at all!
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
Also, when out to dinner DO NOT ORDER FOR HER!!! Let her order yourself, or if it's pizza, ask what pizza she likes.
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
@BatliciousBatgirl Why the f**K would you order for your date? That's completely obnoxious, rude and intrusive.
jaries12 1 year ago
@jaries12 THANK YOU! My ex did this and it was so rude. One time the waitress even kept asking me if everything he was ordering was okay with me. I was embarrassed.
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
@BatliciousBatgirl
After some time of dating, I think it is very sweet if the gentleman orders - but only if that has been established as all right, naturally.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk Yeah that is really sweet like you said. I would like this too. But this was on the first date :( and the thing is I have acid reflux which worsens when i'm nervous.... or eat foods like pizza LOL
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
@BatliciousBatgirl
I would've put a stop to it right off! I feel your pain on that one! :D
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk LOL
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk Yeah your right. It is very sweet. But unfortunately this was the first date, and I have acid reflux which worsens when I get nervous or eat foods like pizza LOL. I ended up eating only breadsticks and him eating the whole pizza all in like less then 30 minutes lol
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
If your movie-star voice won't help men to learn, what will? Such an appealing delivery - I live in hope!
IdaSputum 1 year ago
you remind me of Katherine Heigl
tsoppannos 1 year ago
I am starting to get pissed because women have looked down and away so many times, i am staring to think something is wrong with me. Men do it also but i dont really give a shit, its the women i am concerned about. WHY DO THE ALWAYS LOOK DOWN!
ChosenPrince 1 year ago
I have noticed something while walking. Everytrime i look at a woman she immediately looks down or at her phone. Then on the corner of my eye after she passes me she immediately looks up. This happens 90% of the time i pass a woman. Why do you guys think this is? i don't look like Sasquatch or anything so what causes them to do that.
ChosenPrince 1 year ago
@ChosenPrince
This happens to me without fail. I think people are 1) shy, 2) don't want to appear rude, or 3) were looking at you/ near you and happened to look away for no reason at all.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ChosenPrince I do this a lot and feel really stupid. It's cause i'm too shy to look guys in the face. So it's probably cause they're shy :)
BatliciousBatgirl 1 year ago
Also women should complement men, but so rarely do.
GregWn 1 year ago
@GregWn
For those who want to receive: GIVE.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk Good advice, but some women think a guy should not need complements or validation from his girlfriend, and to desire such is to be insecure.
GregWn 1 year ago
@GregWn
I think people who refuse to be loving because 'it is insecurity' should be avoided.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
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GregWn 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk @ysabellabravetalk I believe you missed my point. I had a girlfriend who never gave me a compliment, and when I brought it up, she stated that a man should be secure enought in himself that he doesn't need compliments. She also added that a man should not need or seek validation from the woman in his life.
GregWn 1 year ago
Dude's got a point!
PrisonerInGlass 1 year ago
Complaining... There is a tip for the girls. Women... Stop complaining.
bnelson33186 1 year ago
@bnelson33186
Good tip for being irritated by complaining: talk about something you admire or like. If they still complain endlessly (we're talking about first dates here), they may be a bitter type of person and it may be a good idea to move along.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
Ysabella seems like a wonderful date. Thumbs up if you agree.
minstrel1184 1 year ago 28
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sleeplezznightz 1 year ago
@sleeplezznightz
Not so, this is advice from married women and men. Some of whom are my parents - hardly virgins.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
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sleeplezznightz 1 year ago
@sleeplezznightz
'Last month one of your friends...'? That's not very compelling beyond that one individual.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
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sleeplezznightz 1 year ago
@sleeplezznightz
You just watched one of them tell her experiences on it.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
I was with you until the "You know I'm concerned that I may have offended you somehow or done something wrong...have I?" Otherwise, good video.
laertes0420 1 year ago
I completely agree with you and I do all those things, and I still feel frustrated, and feel that me being a gentleman is generally unappreciated and not respected by the majority of girls I've encountered and dated. I fear the majority of girls my age (21-25) are attracted to assholes, they seem to just want a 1 night stand with a goodlooking guy. I wish there were more sweethearts out there...
Andrewz05 1 year ago
Most of us gentlemen in America have a trepidation about being so polite to a lady, especially immediately--after feminism razed the culture to the ground. I hear the very old music in the background. Are you really so traditional? It seems almost too good to be true. I would much rather be in the company of a traditional woman because of the mutual respect involved: I myself got married to a woman who was putting on a front of being traditional, then she took me for what she could.
Lachdenan 1 year ago
You are mislead and not in reality.
redfernfield 1 year ago
@redfernfield
Just out of morbid curiosity, what do you propose I'm being mislead by?
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk Cool background music it reminds me of Fallout.
AnbusKi 1 year ago
whats the song in the background
5959512 1 year ago
you have beautiful hair and you eyes are stunning -
TruGroovez 1 year ago 17
Point #1 - Can you show your partner, or success you've had in relationships?
Point #2 - Can you show your partner, or success you've had in relationships?
Point #3 - Can you show your partner, or success you've had in relationships?
Can you show any evidence at all that shows your advice is relevant?
OpineTime 1 year ago
@OpineTime
Your redundancy betrays you.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk It betrays me? Where is the evidence?
OpineTime 1 year ago
@HealthisinPlease..uh ,who the heck said anything about ''me '' inviting her out ???..did it ever occur to you that women might suggest going to'dinner too?.Should they pay the ''whole ''tab when that happens?.....Next time think about what you post before posting..you sound a little inexperienced
nneevveerrmmoorree 1 year ago
uh I merely had dating advice...simple..now get over yourself ..dont bother responing
nneevveerrmmoorree 1 year ago
@nneevveerrmmoorree
Your goal is to mess with people, you on the WRONG channel. Move on.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
Why not try my dating site.
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1010ayesha 1 year ago
Judging from your video and the way you speak, I must say I find you charming and delightful to listen to. Thank you for the insightful advice.
CupofPhenol 1 year ago
All women are insecure about themselves and their shape (with various grades). To succeed in a date, you need to make them feel comfortable about who they are and how they look.
All compliments should be genuine and, if asked, can be explained.
That means things like: bringing them in a nice place, listening (not advising), smile and flatter. You can also cook for them, draw, handwrite a letter. Finally, trying to look nice is also a sign that you care.
Do all of that and you should be good.
NicoZ000 1 year ago
never listen to a woman giving dating advice. they usually have no idea what they want. in most cases expressions of manners and respect are perceived as weakness.
timsartsite 1 year ago 3
@timsartsite I disagree :)
GamerChickk 1 year ago
@GamerChickk
Ditto!
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@timsartsite that may be well true, but that's because most women are insecure. If you date women that think manners are weak, change dating location.
NicoZ000 1 year ago
@timsartsite Agreed. It is always in reverse for some reason. You should be a gentleman which means respectful but doesn't take no crap. the other side so the spectrum are the wuss bag nice dude and the bad boy. Someone once said " You will never have her heart until she realizes you will walk and never look back.
lrich65184 1 year ago
@lrich65184
What a revolting sentiment. Love, true love, is unconditional - 'walking away and never looking back' and 'having someone's heart' are virtually contradictory.
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
@ysabellabravetalk Agree, That is why God Loves us. :)
mbytbksm 1 year ago
what music is that ?
o0dekker0o 1 year ago
This is all well and good but me being a guy who is a true complete gentleman in the most sincere sense I have done all of these and never gotten anywhere with women.
dirtywhiteboy5751 1 year ago 3
i'm lovin' the background music =)
StuartHaitchXbox 1 year ago
after watching your videos i have to say madame you are america's dream girl enticing eyes a gorgeous smile angelic hair and such outstanding view points on the dating world in all honesty i'd be blessed to find a girlfriend like you my age
XvanityX60 1 year ago
btw sweeet jazzz
goddolove 1 year ago
i wonder how many men come on the comments here, and rant after a bad date, relationship, fuck etc.
goddolove 1 year ago
Nandakumar: don't people gets bored of these compliments.....does the complimenting words loose value since we compliment....wont they say i know i am so and so....
nandan135 1 year ago
Someone actually promoting manners and positivity in this day and age? What's next? Actually suggesting that parents should raise their kids instead of leaving it to the institutions and schools? My word :).
guitardbucket 2 years ago 3
There is hope yet!
ysabellabravetalk 1 year ago
from what I`ve seen women don`t like gentlemen...usually the young women that is. I don`t know about the older ones.
EugenicsIsTheAnswer 2 years ago
she will crush any man that approaches her...dont listen to her tips they are lieeeees all liessssssss
catchfree84 2 years ago
i love your song dream a little dream of me you are amazing love you girl
aysuria 2 years ago
hold on are we dating the queen,no good young man you get your slde in there first , its good to pffend it amkes relationships either godo to go or godd to stop,now what if was sitting with you and siad,your masscre is clotted what masscre do you use and wouldnt it be better if you got some new masscr,as the one your suing look old(men elarn thta women have masscre thtas old and becoems clotted they have to liqiuify the masccre,so it doesnt clot ,thats what the adevets are about ,so we on
delpha3110 2 years ago
Wow
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
I love to watch this video time to time! Because you learn something!!!
waystogetyourexback 2 years ago
I will be an old man if I have to pay attention to her. Why can't she open the door for me if I going to pay for the dinner? Can I ask her to shut up would that be approriate? I'm single because I have never followed a woman's lead. If I have ever offended a woman is because she desired it.
On the good side, if I meet someone like you, I can be pursauded to conform.
brokenarrow2222 2 years ago
You are nuts.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
@ysabellabravetalk
Hi ysabellabravetalk, your right, I am nuts and crazy about you and your videos. You and your videos are awesome. I couldn't help in having a little fun. No disrespect to you. To be truthful, I was over whelmed by you because you reminded me of a dear friend and awesome dance partner. Like you, she also was a lady. With love, may all your dreams come true ysabellabravetalk.
brokenarrow2222 2 years ago
haha thank you for your kindness :)
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
this woman Reminds me of a grandmother
dapras 2 years ago
My parents gave me this same advice and now, at 30, I'm still single. A lot of women I encounter are jaded single moms or fashionista who care all that materialistic. I have to say my dear I completely agree with your advice, but in todays world I think we were born about 60 years too late. I am single not because of bad manners, but because i refuse to be well adjusted to the standards of society that does not reflect my appreciation of the very words that you speak. Nice music in this one btw
jtack19791 2 years ago
Same here, 30 and still single. I'll wait or go without, but not settle for rubbish. There are selfless, good people out there. If I'm not to be married, so be it :)
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
I'm very suprised by your answer. 1st by the fact your single, and second how you accept that you may spend the rest of your life unmarried. ( unless you choose to do so.) As a man of science I can't accept that finding someone we can fall in love with is left to the same random patterns that dictate weather phenomenon. Out of 6 billion people, there has to be a pairing probability. lol sorry, this is maybe why I'm single. some ideas keep me up at night.
jtack19791 2 years ago
Don't go unmarried. Perhaps you should marry me sweet lady : )
kjordon1 2 years ago
what if she is a mute?
Lithorseman 2 years ago
I'm sure she will have her own way of communicating.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
Cursing ladies are something to watch out for?
Well then.
I'm fucked.
katyc130890 2 years ago
great video, I love the music!
imaeh1 2 years ago
Ay carumba.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
what song is that in the background
5959512 2 years ago
holly crap its marlin minrow
brannman129 2 years ago
yeah, talking about politics on a date, specifically a first date, is risky. first and second dates for the most part are all about keeping it light, just having fun. the more comfortable the person feels with you the more you can start to open up and talk about all that type of stuff. religion is a little different fhough because i kinda have to know from the jump if a woman has a relationship with Christ. if not then it's probably not gonna work out.
AlexHitchens860 2 years ago
I don't think politics is the thing to talk about.
tonylee1973 2 years ago
your right on target when you say that the guy should be a gentleman it's something that people say is old fashion however i do believe that it brings a couple closer together
darelationshipguru 2 years ago
What's the name of the song in the background?
Killjustice 2 years ago
beautiful video
9tiin 2 years ago
Its better to stay off certain topics until...you know.
CBoavida 2 years ago
DON'T DATE,WAIT!!!!!!
A mans spirit will KNOW the right lady the second,the very instant he see's her face!
DON'T move until that happens....
onlyjoetee 2 years ago
So nice if that were only true. But, alas, many have fallen into a web of deceit by a pretty face. A mans spirit can deceive ones self. There is so much more to Love than physical attraction, and one must work at it with truth and honesty to get it right. If it is meant to be, the right one will come along.
1 John 4:1
BELOVED, DO not put faith in every spirit, but prove (test) the spirits to discover whether they proceed from God; for many false prophets have gone forth into the world.
noahsstarship 2 years ago
thanks you so much i need it them advice. how bout telling a women she has great lags is that a good complment.
163mike 2 years ago
It might be a little familiar if you have only just met them. A good rule of thumb in the beginning of dating or meeting women is would you punch a guy out if he said this to your mother.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
if i ever get into a bad relationship, which hopefully i don't I will watch your videos forever.
williambrown007 2 years ago
AlexHitchens860 i totally agree u ;)
CchemicalL 2 years ago
you should edit the title of this video and make it "Dating Advice for Gentlemen who date classy, respectable women", lol. sadly there are alot of women out there with whom all it takes is you picking up the tab to capture their hearts, regardless of how much of prick she knows deep down that you really are. very low standards out there.
AlexHitchens860 2 years ago 2
I'm glad I've never met one of those women! I imagine it's the same type of thing as men who are satisified with someone's mere appearance.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
Good stuff. I've got a dating video on my channel. Feel free to utilize it for any dating advice you might give.
yozillaproductions 2 years ago
What if the girl is asking me all types of questions and all I can do is talk to myself. I wanna ask her things and talk about her but she doesnt really let me cause she is interested in me. Its hard to redirect traffic like that lol.
hubomba 2 years ago
A good idea might be to answer, then say immediately afterward, "How about you?" in regards to the same question she had just asked you.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
thanks for the advice...
but you're pretty old fashioned lol
theonthepsi 2 years ago
i found your dating advice to be very enlightening and also id like to mention that you are one extremely attractive woman
milkywaymusic 2 years ago
well how nice for you to say so, thank you!
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
Its ashame how wrong women are.
I've done everyone of those gentlemenly things in the past and they all managed to decrease my appeal to a woman, and generate rude responses from them. Sad but true.
Everything u said works if the lady has already made it clear she likes you alot. Otherwise chivalry is looked upon as neediness or weakness.
I think its because women spend their time chasing after a feeling rather than admiring good character. Men are probably guilty of that as well.
SLICENSLASH 2 years ago
Two of my favorite qualities in men is humility and meekness.
ysabellabravetalk 2 years ago
U gals luv to say that, then u up go out with the bold brash guy, lol.
Hopefully ur one of the few women that says what they mean & do as they say.
I've seen it with my own eyes too often.
I'm sure u mean well when u say that, but women gravitate to cockiness not humility or meekness. Those are qualities that are respected, but not neccesarily appealing or eyecatching. Theres a difference.
I've really come to question how well women even understand themselves.
SLICENSLASH 2 years ago
she said - "once in a kwhile"
zoomerbemen 2 years ago
I agree with all the points you make in this video. They are, most of them, already applied. However, I want to thank you because I think you're right in saying to express dislike in a more positive manner. Appreciate it.
shadowmyfeet 2 years ago
Personally I think it sounds like our grandpa's time things to do as a gentleman. Today I think it will portray superficial behavior which is not appreciated(AKA creepy). Besides there arent any gentlemen left, I saw the last one vanished in front of me ;)
archetype001 2 years ago
You forgot to say do the opposite of everything you said! lol
BambooScar 2 years ago
both sexes need to be show respect and love for eachother. I blame society for this downfall.
DoranP900 3 years ago 10
I would marry you. hehe Your so classy. I love the way u talk too; its like u traveled here from the past. That kinda classy. Hows this for a compliment? lol
jmacalangi 3 years ago 4
"Follow her lead", yeah, like worship her as if she were a goddess and you wouldn't really deserve her attention makes you UNBELIEVABLY attractive to her!
kaichen1988 3 years ago
Guys are in a tough sitiuation now adays. SOme women are taught by their father sto EXPECT the door holding, the pulling out the chair, ect.
God forbid a guy try to pick up a girl at my house {for a date} by honking the horn, we just wait till they ome to the door XD
But anyway, other women HATE all that, and feel insulted when a guy does this {how is beyond me, unless they thnk the guy is implying we're weak or feeble
NagainaFier 3 years ago
You're so cute.
madieebel 3 years ago 3
Too bad many women are not like you. :(
skalamin 3 years ago 16
For some reason I felt the need to add my 2 cents :) I know there are women who despise chivalrous acts from men, but, at least in my experience, there are far more women who appreciate it. I do it because it's in my nature to do so. The occaisional negative response won't change that.
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noahsstarship 3 years ago
You know it's kinda funny because any date that I've ever gone on, I've done most of what you had explained only to be viewed by my date as being a "dork". It seems that having class and manners is now looked upon as a sign of weakness?... I don't get it...
BRUCERW 3 years ago 7
i know exactly how you feel.
sirmoalot 3 years ago
It's not true unless you really are being dorky like actually telling her, "I'll hold the door open for you," or, "I watched a video on youtube for dating advice." Otherwise, as a girl, I can tell you it is very much appreciated when guys act politely and considerately.
JulietheWriter 3 years ago
You mean to tell me that I'm not "batting a thousand" by starting every conversation with, "According to the instructional video on dating..."
Haha, comon now... I didn't say I WAS a dork...
BRUCERW 3 years ago 2
then you didn't go out with the right girl. a nice girl will appreciate all that.
(i'm a girl by the way), and i hate how the fellow females act nowadays, so many have no self-control/self-respect and they don't look for nice guys
goshnessmaggy 2 years ago
I like this video!. not being creepy or nothing but you are so sweet and I like looking into your eyes lol. there very nice :D .and you have good facial features and your attractive. I could go on :P .
jraybay 3 years ago
Hey, you sound sweet, but your attitudes seem that of the traditional dating scene. These days it seems like if a guy's any bit of nice, women put him off as a wuss, or "JUST a nice guy". Some women like to push buttons too, just to test a guy's reaction, so I think it rules all depend on the datees. All in all though, nice talk. One other thing - stand when she stands? Haha, I saw that in Kate and Leopold, didn't think ppl still did that!
thesix107 3 years ago
Oh yeah, they do! It's rare. But when it happens, I just about swoon :D
ysabellabravetalk 3 years ago