5:57 Imagine a mother who deliberately throws her child into a river then jumps in and saves it. As she crawls onto land a crowd gathers around her and cheers her, lauding her as a hero. That's sounds ridiculous, but it's pretty much the attitude we have towards single motherhood now.
There are two types of single mothers: #1 single moms who became single moms under unfortunate circumstances like a divorce or a tragic loss for example and #2 single mothers that didn't make a good choice in the type of men they choose to have kids with. now the second type of single mothers are the ones we should blame, but instead we put the 1st choice of unfortunate single mothers in the same category as the unresponsible ones. Not all single moms are the same. Analyze before you judge.
And if a man decides not to be a father to his child, that should NOT require the mother to give the child up for adoption or have an abortion just because, according to you, single motherhood is a "bad choice."
@yourbear87 And if a woman decides unilaterally that she wants to be a single mother, she should be on her own. Her body, her choice, her rights, her responsibility.
As a single mother, you would know that single motherhood is not always a "choice." While I largely agree with you, the fact is that if a man doesn't want to be a father, he shouldn't assume that his partner is on any form of birth control. If he doesn't want to be a father, he should use a damned condom.
@yourbear87 I like how there is ALWAYS the assumption that the man that was unexpectedly a father must not have even bothered to use a condom (don't even try to say "most of them..." as though you even KNOW most men). Women poke holes in condoms, women go get used condoms from the trash and scrape out semen (again, don't say how rare that is, when you don't know). Stop assuming--no matter how convenient it may make male-slamming.
@MyOttoLink Haha. WHERE did I say that unplanned pregnancy ALWAYS comes from a man not using a condom? Funny, I didn't say that. I simply said that IF he doesn't want to be a father, he should use one. In fact. I am not anti-male in any way. If you don't believe me, please check out my blog: yourkbear.xanga.com. I'm pretty sure I just defended paternal rights. Also, please check my comments, where I said a women who doesn't want to be pregnant needs to take responsibility.
@yourbear87 Not at any point did I say you claimed the pregnancy ALWAYS comes from a man not using a condom. But the absence (in your comment) of ANY mention of the woman's responsibility helping the man to not be a father DID communicate that. Didn't have the benefit of your blog, or other comments to provide context--and this comment did go the other way.
@MyOttoLink I would also like to point out that I said a man shouldn't assume (i.e. even if she says she is) that his partner is on birth control. He should take action to defend himself against unplanned pregnancy if he doesn't want it. So please, tell me again what a man-hater I am.
Personally, I prefer being a single parent. Less drama. I've always let them opt out and always been perfectly fine being the sole parent. I've never been the sort to 'stay together because of the children' because to do so is detrimental to my children. Good videos, thanks for posting!
I've been on all ends of this spectrum but have always considered my 3 children my three children. I made those choices and decisions and have raised my kids happily ever since. We didn't need the paternal input. My 3rd child, father and I married so come time for divorce, he got hit hard on financial support. He wanted to escape all responsibility so he's out. The state, however, considers it a felony to fail to support children, so he's going to have to deal with it.
@brownie1982ad Bone up on the law. The state considers it a felony to fail to support your offspring. We were married, we divorced. He's established paternity, acknowledges his child and refused to do jack shit for years. State says no dice. I didn't put him at risk of prison rape. HE put himself at risk by failing to follow the law of the land. Do I care? Nope. I have little sympathy for him. All choices have consequences. As do yours.
Norway recently withdrew all the funding to so called "gender studies" in scientific research much due to a documentary "hjernevask" (Brainwash) shown on National Tv NRK. It shines the light on how feminism do not hold up to science when faced with biology and psychology.
sweden still keeps up the gender fascism.
The show has English subtitles and should be seen and spread by anybody antifeminist and interested in the present nordic situation.
@marianasreality I find it hypocritical to mentnion men, in appearance of wanting to reduce the number of abortions, but say nothing about the number of women that abort the child, whether or not the father agrees.
"single motherhood is avoidable even for the most enthusiastic of sluts". I seriously wanna propose to girlwriteswhat. Just kidding I'm not a creeper but that was awesome.
Maybe you could make a Video on how we could Fix this terrible injustice cause by 45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that:
- Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists!
@MyOttoLink Actually, some of us aren't even keen on dating, let alone get into a relationship. And this is not only on account of the things illuminated in this video but also because these things are not illuminated in general. The loss of a child who a man is forced (and let's face it sometimes tricked) into conceiving is a violation. The loss of a loved child is too great a risk simply for the chance of loving a woman.
Unfair childsupport laws are the reason why we have an epidimic if single motherhood,it provides financial incentives for women to have out have out of wedlock births so I 100% agree with you!
A default joint custody judgement would put emphasis on identifying the father via DNA test, eliminating paternity fraud, entrapment from women, women who breed just for child support, and essentially leaving the parents to focus on what they're going to do with the child.
Why does GWW have to constantly defend her views against people who prefer that men remain disposable? Her thinking is black and white? How about custody decisions in NA family court systems? Are they black and white too? Yes plenty of grey area there right? Lol. How about DV awareness? I can't change the channel without hearing about how women can stop emotional abuse. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Yeah right. Black and white- Whatever.
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What? Are you saying that a man's desire to assert his rights of fatherhood lies not in his control or freewill, but is influenced solely by a woman's decisions to ask for child support? That's why Adam doesn't call his kids on birthdays? Because he owes Sally $125/month. Jeez. Those evil "sluts", and poor, innocent men who have no reproductive rights! Pat yourself on the back, after comparing single moms to crack addicts, you may just be responsible for another hate crime this year. Congrats!
@seaofserpent The reason Adam doesn't call his kids on their birthdays is because he never wanted to be a father in the first place. That was forced on him, by a woman's choice.
You really need to step out of yourself for a moment and think about what it would be like to be forced to do something against your will for 18 years, because someone else made a decision you were allowed zero say in. If you can't do that, then there's no point in talking to you.
@girlwriteswhat You are so blindingly black and white, conditional, that I'm actually doing you a favor by interacting with you.
Men do actually choose to have children as quickly as they choose to be unavailable and to abandon them afterwards. Your "open door policy" for men is ridiculously simplistic.
@girlwriteswhat "That was forced on him, by a woman's choice.
You really need to step out of yourself for a moment and think about what it would be like to be forced to do something against your will for 18 years, because someone else made a decision you were allowed zero say in. If you can't do that, then there's no point in talking to you."
RIGHT!! "Something" that crippled your ability to live, build a career, meet basic financial needs, attacked your reputation and credit rating, etc.
While default custody goes to a mother, a man has a right to challenge and assert his rights of fatherhood. He has a right to file a paternity action against a woman to establish legal rights. And, I'm fairly sure that a man can object to an adoption of his biological child. While the man has no say in a woman's choice to end a pregnancy, he DOES have rights to establish parental rights in all 50 states once the child is born. Your conclusion of "only SHE has the rights" is 100% fiction.
@seaofserpent he only has rights if she chooses to give birth before that he has 0 rights and many times a father without money for a huge legal battle has no rights either,, he has the right to pay and never see the child? also he has the right to go to jail if he doesnt pay for a child he didnt want,, thats his right also oh oh and his next wife has the right to have her income included in the child support calculations thus forcing her to pay also....
@fixt100 So, wait. Men are complaining that they couldn't order the woman to abort the baby they otherwise don't want? Because they aren't the ones actually performing the abortions themselves, they feel left out? Let's be honest, most of the men here would probably prefer that their unintended offspring are aborted. The ones who DO NOT, are the ones who should avoid this "victim mentality" that girlwriteswhat is condoning, and fight to be on equal footing with the mother of his child.
@fixt100 Sir, I have been around the block enough times in my life to have bumped into men who succeeded in not only having rights to their children, but having full custody. Using the system as an excuse, poverty, etc doesn't fly, as men can easily go down to the child support office and file paperwork to estabilsh paternity for free. And, a man can easily represent himself in court, or find low-income representation, to ensure that his rights as a father are enforced.
@seaofserpent a man can easily represent himself at 18? compared to a lawyer? as far as getting representation, cant get it from legal aide office here if the mother already has it from them"conflict of interest" is what i was told...nobody is talking about the mothers right to abort/adopt only that her choice shouldnt affect the mans life if hes a doner and chooses not to be apart of the childs life, a man has no choice to become a father after he used every contraceptive avail
@fixt100 I don't believe that the /majority/ of males who have become unintended fathers have used "every contraceptive available" to avoid pregnancy, just as I don't believe that every unintended pregnancy happened because an evil woman got pregnant on purpose. The truth is in between. Condoms have a great success rate, especially in conjunction with a female's BC method... Lastly, sex is a mutual risk and a mutual act, no matter how you want to see it.
@fixt100 A man SHOULD do whatever it takes, even if it means representing himself in court and using whatever means to utilize his rights - even if it means showing up to defend himself! But... wait... "it's hard!" Jeez. I can use almost every one of Girlwriteswhat's titles to show you how men are using the same victim mentality tatics that they accuse women of using - and more successfully!
@fixt100 But, you ARE expecting her to abort a child or face supporting your offspring for the next 18 years alone, because you do not want to accept the facts of simple biology. Instead, you'd rather blame the woman, because she is the one that offensively grows the child. In spite of the fact that it was your seed that merged with her egg to produce a child.And, she could NOT make a child without your DNA.
@seaofserpent but the only time you say the child is a child is if the mother decides that it is?? if im responsible from the time of conception for a CHILD then every woman thats ever had an abortion has murdered a child by your reasoning?? because that is what your saying? talking about my dna? if its mine she used it against my wishes for purposes unintended,, if its hers after i leave it in her then SHE is responsible for what happens since its hers,........
@fixt100 You are crazy. A child is a child when a mother decides? WHY DO YOU CARE? You would abort/exterminate the damn thing. Don't argue murder when you don't freakin care - BE honest and admit the only reason you DO care is because sometimes the women will allow the thing to grow and you have no control over that... whaaaa.
BUT, NEITHER DOES SHE over the biology. She actually has no control over the light-speed cell replication that occurs after your "lubricant" merges with her egg.
@seaofserpent she has the choice to drop her responsibility from the time its concieved till the child is 18 at any time she wants.... and btw you didnt refute my question....so since you resort to insults to answer an honest (if a little hard for you) question, enjoy your trolling...
@fixt100 I don't answer ridiculous, dishonest questions. Admit that you don't care about abortion, and that you only care whether or not a woman allows a pregnancy to continue without your consent.
@seaofserpent you have to decide if its a child at conception?(no more roe vs wade or abortions) or if its a child when the mother says it is(misuse of my property DNA for purposes unintended,, or her property her responsibility) you are dancing around this,,, why? it a question thats neither dishonest or irrelevant so stop stalling and lets see where you stand.
@seaofserpent so go fight against the baby killing abortionists? cause if that were the way i thot it would prevail over this topic all day,, not for you? are only semi against baby killing? baby killing lite? you can see how this would become unimportant in light of the murder every in hospitals.....(im pro choice btw) her body her choice is fine by me but also her responsibility if theres a child i may OPT IN as a father if she was the girl for me..
@fixt100 See, you are dishonest, because you don't give a shit about abortion, and feel fine in "opting in" when you care to give a damn. What are you, have an influence-lite? Give a crud about a child's life when you feel like it, kinda guy? I'm not out fighting baby killing abortionists, because there are issues around conception to talk about all freaking day. I'm here to talk about the issues at hand. And, yes... another argument is these "simple" female choices aren't easy for pro-lifers.
@seaofserpent nobody ever said it was easy for anyone i want the same choice a woman currently has,, weither to give up college for a child? to risk going to jail for non payment? paying the cost of a house over my lifetime in child support? there are things i would like in writing if i choose to participate financially,, locked in visitation or default on payments?(protection of my visitation and rights to actually father the child) you know silly things like that....
@fixt100 I support father's rights, and feel compelled to fight on their behalf perhaps more than even I do for women. How about that? If a man actually wants to participate in his child's life, I think there should be a way without financially devastating him. In fact, the ideal would be allowing the father to provide specifically for the child's needs without needing child support. Unfortunately, people don't play fair, and certain fathers like to forget their responsibilities.
@fixt100 Which is why we have birth control. Although, it is not a fail safe method and people need to grow the f*ck up and realize the hazards of life in everything, including sex. I agree with you in theory, but not when it comes to justifying abortion. That's where I get off the train.
@seaofserpent to me pro choice doesnt have to mean abortion it can mean adoption as well to a family that very much wants to have a child. i mentioned it but i think only once because adoption is very much an option for women these days if they dont believe in abortion at all. As far as fathers not playing fair neither do mothers play fair my ex admitted in court that she got pregnant on purpose (skipped pills and tampered with condom) to try and get me to stay with her(cont)
@seaofserpent the court didnt care assigned child support and i had to pay 18 years for a child that i got to see on the day i dropped off the cheque for the first 2 years,, then she moved i got to see my daughter 4 times in the following 16 years and i still payed, but for what? i wasnt her father the ex was with the same guy for that time and my daughter knows him as dad, i turned into the ATM from day one so tell me why a man should have to pay in that situation?(cont)
@seaofserpent i wasnt allowed to be a father the only thing they made sure of was that i payed (i finished paying 2 years ago, in full i might add) under threat of prison so no i dont think a man should have to pay without certain assurances of his rights but if the mans rights are violated when it comes to parenting they do nothing and he still has to pay, if a woman decides at any time the whole motherhood thing just isnt working out for her she can legally bail out.
@fixt100 I don't disagree with you. A man should under normal circumstances have assurances and protections of his rights as a father, especially if he is financially supporting his children. Our system needs to better adapt to fathers and allow them to play balanced, vital roles in the lives of their kids.
@seaofserpent i hope my point of view comes across better than an excuse for abortion,, i take precautions(but they do fail) so i am literally stuck with a womans decision to have a child or abort it why shouldnt a man have at default no responsibility in something he has no say in whatsoever? if the mother wants the help and the father IS willing then give him the opportunity to "OPT IN" legally at that point you would find men (not all) who commit in this way(cont)
@fixt100 Your point is coming across better now. I do feel that men could provide in other ways, such as days spent with child, providing physical goods like clothes, food, etc. and involvement without the focus being totally financial. In fact, most of these things could be avoided if there was a default joint custody ruling for fathers who were not abusers, addicts. etc. That would be the best kind of "fair". Having both parents involved in the childs life, if the woman forgoes abort/adopt.
@seaofserpent (cont) ... would have the same full gusto as adoptive parents do when they raise their child also other things like fraud would minimalise because if i was "signing up" for 18 years there would def be dna testing and if i was in college i could possibly negotiate that period with the moither as a "no pay" time period so i could provide better for my child in the future (not currently done,,in fact i had my tuition for school siezed by maintenance enfor for no reason )
@fixt100 She never "used" it against your wishes, because she's not slaving over a freaking rubix cube of dna to produce a child... it's also happening with or without her consent and awareness. If you leave your DNA in a woman's body, and it begins a chain reaction by merging with an egg - BOTH of you, while you sleep unaware, are actually unconsciouslly in tandem creating multiple chain reactions that lead to another lifeform, long after you orgasm.
@seaofserpent (cont)he isnt given the same options after conception that a woman is given as a right, i figure her body her choice her responsibility,, nobody is asking anyone to have an abortion , and why should the guy pay for something he has no say in?,, and the man should be able to "OPT IN" if he chooses to be a parent the same way the pregnant girl can, and dont start on keep it in your pants because unless you want to go against roe vs wade that isnt even in the pictrure...
Sure, are you going to pay his lawyer's bills? and what legal rights does a father have? Visitation? equal custody? Your feelings versus legal reality does not equal 100% fiction, unless you are talking about the movie playing in your head.
@utubehayter It's futile to argue with a group of men who refuse to see themselves as anything but victims in the whole scheme of things - you're more of a "head game" than the facts available to you. But, pull the cover over your head! You're a man - women are evil, there is no hope, no rights, everyone is a feminist, blah, blah, blah.
Incentives of "victim mentality" are great for sexually irresponsible males and welfare recipients alike... And the next generation is left with the debt.
Ah! Nice!.. Considering that most people on welfare are single mothers and their children and even abortions are provided with federal aid.
As for sexually irresponsible males, I always advocate avoiding partners with STDs and being honest about your status. Beyond that, there is no need for a man to do anything else. And we all know there is no such thing as sexually irresponsible female.
Quite interesting indeed! Maybe what you should be talking is in your mirror.
@utubehayter I'm glad you said it "single mothers". Perhaps there would be a more equal amount of men and women on welfare, if more dads stepped up to the plate to be "single fathers". Beyond avoiding STD's there is no need for a man, to what, wear a condom and avoid pregnancy? You resentment of women and entitlement to spread your seed is so great that your brain is dangerously warped. You can send me a check in the mail for that tidbit of observation.
Its just a matter of how rights and responsibilities go together. It probably never occurred to you that there is a relationship between the two. I know you folks do everything based on "feeling".. but please don't assume everyone else is just as brain dead as you.
@utubehayter Seriously? You have an idea on how "rights and responsibilities" go together when you go around and evacuate your seed into any woman without a std? I'm sure your entitled attitude has probably eliminated any hint of responsibility pretty quickly from your selfish existence.
It is a good thing that certain men opt out of parenthood, seeing as they are completely incapable of instilling self-preserving and responsible behavior in their offspring. Cheers!
Ignoring the petulant attitude, it would be a good thing IF men could opt out of parenthood. Unfortunately feminists are not honest about that either! And they have done and will do anything and everything to keep it from happening in reality, not just their heads.
That is the fun part. No matter what feminists do... I get to win! They have sowed the seeds of their own destruction. Sharia is the future of the west.
@utubehayter That, my friend, will never happen. The future of this country is Jesus' law... not Islam. Repent and accept your savior before it's too late. But, on another topic, I'm sure it's with great pride, Girlwriteswhat, will realize that her supporter here wants Sharia law. Put on your BURKA Girlwriteswhat. These men will hang you along with all the women you are condeming.
Islam has Jesus too you know. And I am not talking of Islam as religion (which almost no one follows.. if they do, they are as rare as unicorns) but Islam as culture and more importantly Islamic world as the gene pool from which the future will come from. Chinese and Indians will contribute only as much as they keep their feminists under control and they are failing badly.
More likely, Islam will persuade the west.. not thru bombs, but thru sheer births that their societies produce, while the west ages and dies off.
"You can thank feminism for that." Indeed I can. Not that I am some sort of fan of Islamic culture (it is totally repressive of women).. but it is precisely their bad parts that will form effective countermeasures to feminism (unfortunately) at the cost to all women.
@utubehayter What are you, a vampire? You honestly expect to see this great "win" play out in your lifetime? You are going to be so old, so saggy and slow, by the time the counterforces are so influential that feminists lose. Likely, at that time, no one will care, as there might be better things to worry about.
I don't care if I am old or dead. I am only predicting the future based on current trends. As for me, I care about me, other men, boys and women who have credibly stood beside men and against injustice. I couldn't care less what happens to the rest of humanity.. even if it happens right before my eyes. I will simply walk away.
@utubehayter Well, I only care about me, women, young boys and girls and men who provide and protect their wives and children (either or, but at least their children). All other men who do not protect and provide for their children are as good as trash to me, and I would not defend them either if they were facing horrible circumstances.
No one needs your help. :) Infact the only reason you are bitching about men who do not protect and provide.. is because you think someone needs them. Thus proving my point.. no one, especially those that do not provide or protect their children, do not need your help, because you aren't capable of helping them at all.
@utubehayter Well, I'm not against the Islam gene pool, neither the Chinese or Indians. That just means healthier breeding in the future. A population boom will be happening in these areas. Along with growth, these cultures will be persuaded by the West and its feminism, as it condones sexual freedom that men like. Keeping "feminists" under control will be short lived, as all men are really for a woman's sexual freedom. You are all closet feminist lovers.
Denial is not a river in Egypt. If there was a button to get rid of all feminists, I would push it without a single doubt. But if there was a way to send them back to the alternative universe of delusions they came from, I would prefer to send them back where they came from.
Its funny how you always keep coming back to the point. You really think this is because of personal experience.. don't you? I actually hate chivalrists and traditionalists far more than I hate feminists, because I see what they do and what they want.
@utubehayter The only thing men don't like about the feminists' sexual liberation is that they have to pay the bill for the offspring produced, after indulging in it. Otherwise, men all over the world wouldn't give a damn about "sluts" and "single moms with 4 baby daddys" They might even become so docile and worship them... Now, if only men could find a way to indulge in sexual freedom without having to pay child support... (condoms...condoms...condoms).
@DaveElectric I don't. I haven't declined the couple times he's sent money (though I'd rather he send it to the kids, or spend it to see them). Though as DaveElectric said, it's not that I don't believe in child support. I believe parents should support their kids. But I believe both parents should have a choice about whether they will be parents or not, and have that responsibility or not.
The argument you tear apart here is even dumber and more ignorant than you've let on (believe it or not).
In finance, what you call enabling, they call moral hazard. This stupid argument says that not only is moral hazard a false concept, but that it describes THE REVERSE of typical human behavior. They imply that people take LESS risk when they know the personal cost will be diminished.
I have often described child support as a moral hazard that paradoxically increases total harm to society.
It might an elementary argument to counter- but it's one that is sorely needed to be made.
If I may be frank, I get such a strange sensation hearing you talk- it's like the first time I've heard a woman on 'my side' in relationship matters, as if women aren't enemies to be on guard against but as someone on your team- or at least playing by the same rules.
Perhaps it's the next dialectic step of egalitarianism which was antagonistic- and now it's corrosion is being undone.
@studybox If you'll believe, I'm actually on women's side, too. Women have plenty of agency these days--more than men when you include reproductive agency--but we keep denying it to them. This whole agency thing is just a big pain in the ass, when your decisions affect you negatively, see.
Agency isn't just the wherewithal to succeed all by yourself and take credit, it's the wherewithal to fuck up all by yourself and not blame anyone else, too.
@girlwriteswhat, the culture of single motherhood goes far beyond enabling. It has literally created a huge class of parasitic young women that deliberately dupe men into impregnating them so they can sit on their asses for the next 18 - 21 years. That's criminal behavior, not merely failing to take responsibility. I believe women who "trap" men in this manner should be in jail. It's morally no different than fraud or grand larceny.
@KhagarBalugrak It is so true how women will trick men into pregnancy because they want a baby. I have had it happen to me. I think it has happened to other guys I know also but they won't be that hard on the women and say right out that is what they did. It is far to easy for a woman to say she is on the pill and quit taking them or not be on them to begin with. And even if you are in a "loving" relationship they feel that they are doing nothing wrong. FREAKING AMAZING!
@girlwriteswhat, but I know you didn't mean it "only" enables irresponsible behavior. I just think you should have mentioned the women who "trap" men into child support in this video. :P
@KhagarBalugrak, and by duping men into impregnating them, I mean doing things like telling men they're on birth control when they're not, or using the sperm in condoms after sex to impregnate themselves, so they can collect child support and sit on their asses for the next couple decades.
I'm guessing - though I don't have any personal experience in this realm - that feminists think such behavior on the part of women is virtuous.
@studybox, why would egalitarianism be corrosive if it lived up to its name? Literally speaking, there's nothing wrong with actual quality between the sexes. Indeed, that's what we should aspire towards. The problem is that in the West, one sex (females) clearly enjoys massive amounts of advantages and privileges denied the other. In family court and domestic violence disputes, men have even been denied due process - no trial is needed for an ex parte restraining order, for example.
@KhagarBalugrak: "there's nothing wrong with actual equality"
One of the oh-so-dreaded differences between men and women is that since men are biologically predisposed to protect women, there's no will to enforce the 'downside' of equality on women.
Take note of this absurd situation where women have full political agency, but zero expectation to ever effectively defend the nation.
Over time, the attempt to have egalitarianism between the sexes inevitably results in rampant female privilege.
@Eincrou, then women should be drafted into the army, just as men are, if a country decides to go to war. That'll sure stop countries from being violent with one another.
There you go. Actual equality where women have all the responsibilities, as well as all of the rights, as men.
@KhagarBalugrak Egalitarianism as I use it goes far beyond merely equal treatment (which I would agree with) but seeks equal outcomes. It's used as justification to undo perceived offenses of one group against another through force. In that sense, it is an antagonistic force. To illustrate, having intercourse and an unplanned pregnancy is like having a gun put to your head.
'Egalitarianism' as I've encountered it has most often been used in this context.
@studybox, well the drive for equal outcomes is not egalitarian by definition. Only the most competent people should be given jobs where competence is critical - doctors, police officers, judges, etc. However, we should not throw people out of their homes, deny them medical care, and so on just because they have financial troubles. Doing so is simply cruel and barbaric. In short: welfare is good, Affirmative Action is evil.
@studybox, when you assign men 100% responsibility for something that they have no power over (pregnancy), that's the antithesis of egalitarianism. When you force men to fork over their life savings to their wives in ANY incidence of divorce, even a divorce where the woman is completely at fault, that's the antithesis of egalitarianism. Egalitarianism means privileges and obligations must be balanced and given to both sexes in equal measure.
@studybox, according to my definition of egalitarianism, if men cannot force women to have abortions, they cannot be held accountable for child support. No power and privilege = no responsibility. In the same vein, if women have 100% power over pregnancy and abortion, they must assume complete responsibility for supporting children as a result of pregnancies except in cases in which rape, incest, etc. are involved.
@studybox, do you want equality between the sexes or not? If not, you aren't any different than the man-hating feminazis who have painstakingly engineered the current societal disaster that men currently face. If you do want equality between the sexes, don't blame egalitarianism; blame feminists for trampling on egalitarianism with everything they say and do.
i agree we should stop "enabling" let's start with the cutting off the women's supply of money...i.e. the government welfare and child support. after all we should reward women for bad behavior.
Stop, you're making too much sense. :P But seriously? I think you bring a lot to the table of discussion. Not only do you have the personal experience regarding much of what you talk about. But you're logical and concise about it too. I learn so much watching your vids.
The reason feminists want men to be held responsible for single mothers is so some women can dupe men into impregnating them and sit on their asses for the next 18 years. I've seen tons of women who are like this, and it needs to stop.
There should be a 'b*tch'-checklist guys can consult before entering a relationship with a woman that prevents them from hooking up with a psycho. A lot of trouble and single motherhood could be prevented that way.
@chocoboasylum, lol, maybe some female psychologists could give men some tips on how to spot female psychopaths or traps. And as far as preventing single motherhood, well, women can get abortions funded by the state (which I fully support). That, as well as birth control, is how women can avoid being single mothers. It's not hard. It's state-sponsored!
@chocoboasylum, the problem is that once a woman is pregnant, only she can decide to avoid single motherhood at that point. To hold men responsible at that point for something they are powerless to change is, well, insane. And women will continue to have unplanned pregnancies. It happens, and only they have the right and responsibility to deal with it.
I wouldnt worry to much about getting a good education these days especially if your a man. Changes are you will get passed up by a women or you will have already be at a massive disadvantage due to how feminized the education system has bcome in the last decade.
@RedLanternXY Well, I'm not a feminist. I'm not even really sure what I am, considering that a truly egalitarian society seems out of reach. A lot of women don't want real agency, the interaction between power, wherewithal, responsibility and accountability. They only want half, and a lot of men seem to want the same thing for women.
Part of me wants men to abandon masculinity for their own sakes, and another part wants them to cling to it with a kung fu grip for everyone else's.
@TheAryoBarzan87 I divorced him. It's a long story. It was a decision I weighed for a long time--a couple years, really--but I was, in effect, a single mother for the last three years of my marriage or more, just with a (sort of) adult male boarder in the house. It wasn't good for my kids anymore.
@girlwriteswhat: They are his children as much as yours and there is more than a little irony in your removing him from their lives and remarking on other women who choose to do the same without as much consideration.
@WilliamGruff He removed himself from their lives--most days he spent less than 10 minutes with them, even though he was in the house for more than 8 waking hours a day. Usually, they'd have to seek him out to get even that. When he moved out, he chose to relocate to a community where every visit had to be prearranged, rather than them being able to "pop by" whenever they wanted. His job was in our town, and there were plenty of apartments, but he moved a ferry-ride away. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat For the first months, when he still had a phone, I called and arranged visits. He saw them more hours a week then than when he lived with us. When he'd come to town to run errands, he never stopped by to see them, even though I'd made it clear he could do this anytime, without giving me notice. When he quit his job, I sent groceries with them on visits. When he lost his apartment, I still sent them to stay overnight with him in an 8x12 room above a bar. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat I moved away from that town (it was that or go bankrupt and lose my house) when the economy crashed, but he stayed (homeless and unemployed), for another year and a half. He's moving now (for the same reasons I did), but not to the place we live (where there are lots of jobs and apartments), but to another city, 3 hours away. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat Last summer, I paid over $1000 out of my pocket to send them to visit him. Up until that point, he hadn't paid a dime toward them since we split up in 2008. At this point, he's sent me $300 total, in three years. Before I moved, he was seeing them about 1 night every 6-8 weeks, because I couldn't contact him--I had to wait until he phoned. So no, I did not remove his kids from his life. He's welcome there, anytime he wants to be, as much as he wants to be. He doesn't want that.
@girlwriteswhat, that's very valiant of you. I'm sorry to hear your ex doesn't want to see your children. Actually, the way I would write the laws, in the case of divorce the children would be required to see both parents for an equal amount of time each week, and both parents would be required to spend the same amount of money. If one of the parents was abusive, then the child would not see that parent, and the nonabusive parent would receive government aid since he/she has to do it alone.
@girlwriteswhat, so in short, I am in support of welfare for people struggling to raise children on their own (that is, lacking in sufficient funds) because their ex either abandoned them, was abusive, or committed a crime and went to jail. I would make abandonment or abuse of one's family a crime and punishable in order to avoid enabling this kind of behavior.
@girlwriteswhat: I wrote ' ... there is more than a little irony in your removing him from their lives ... ', which is not the same as he removing you from his life or himself from your life, or them from his life, even though there is little practical difference in the outcome, and divorcing him is tantamount to removing him from their lives.
Your difficulties remind me of those that preceded, accompanied and followed my own divorce, except that you have his children and I lost mine (contd)
@WilliamGruff: (contd) and had to deal with the gristle brained moron she subsequently took up with, and being male I could do nothing about that. You have the freedom to choose the male influence in your children's lives while their father does not, which, I think, is partly the point of your videos, isn't it? So I say, again, 'there is more than a little irony', while intending no hostility to you personally and personally sympathising with you, and I would not have explained that to a man.
@WilliamGruff It would have seemed an easy decision for any other woman to make--and when I finally did, everyone (including several of his friends) told me "about time!" At the same time, I did not promise to be with him forever lightly. I felt guilty as hell for the first while, until I realized my kids' behavior and performance in school actually improved when he moved out, and their relationship with him improved as well, when they could still see him regularly. (cont)
@girlwriteswhat And while I know that they have a better life now because I made the choice I did--they'll be able to go to college, they're doing great in school, and we're not always just scraping by--it's a choice I still wish I hadn't had to make. I feel like the entire process of divorcing cost me some of my integrity and honor, no matter how fair I tried to be. The courts (and him, to be honest) didn't give me the option of being fair--not to him or my kids.
@girlwriteswhat: Divorce is the acknowledgement of failure, and is regrettable, and we have that in common, although you seem to have come to the decision rather later in your marriage than I, even if you resorted to divorce sooner than I, but you have not addressed my points. That notwithstanding, I have no axe to grind with you and enjoyed your videos, and I hope you publish more of whatever pleases you.
5:57 Imagine a mother who deliberately throws her child into a river then jumps in and saves it. As she crawls onto land a crowd gathers around her and cheers her, lauding her as a hero. That's sounds ridiculous, but it's pretty much the attitude we have towards single motherhood now.
Scampfarmer 1 week ago
And I'm speaking to the people who literally put every single woman in the bad category of irresponsible single motherhood.
Brivonn3 2 weeks ago
There are two types of single mothers: #1 single moms who became single moms under unfortunate circumstances like a divorce or a tragic loss for example and #2 single mothers that didn't make a good choice in the type of men they choose to have kids with. now the second type of single mothers are the ones we should blame, but instead we put the 1st choice of unfortunate single mothers in the same category as the unresponsible ones. Not all single moms are the same. Analyze before you judge.
Brivonn3 2 weeks ago
I see the trolls are feeding in this thread. That's giving them credit. Otherwise, some people really are that retarded.
StaceyTaylorNet 3 weeks ago
@StaceyTaylorNet Sounds to me like you weren't ready for kids.
MrShadowfax42 3 weeks ago
It dawns on me why a 26 yr old with no kids and has never been married has gotten so popular. Here I was thinking it was because I'm charming. :(
PaladinJulian 1 month ago
Logical and reason is so attractive on a woman .more women should try it or at least put it in their purse.
nomyaw 1 month ago
@nomyaw more PEOPLE should try it. i know neither many women nor men who can reason well..
nihil00nihil 3 weeks ago
And if a man decides not to be a father to his child, that should NOT require the mother to give the child up for adoption or have an abortion just because, according to you, single motherhood is a "bad choice."
yourbear87 1 month ago
@yourbear87 And if a woman decides unilaterally that she wants to be a single mother, she should be on her own. Her body, her choice, her rights, her responsibility.
girlwriteswhat 1 month ago 19
@girlwriteswhat What about the kids? Being a kids in a single parent family where the mother is nuts, is not fun.
brownie1982ad 1 month ago
As a single mother, you would know that single motherhood is not always a "choice." While I largely agree with you, the fact is that if a man doesn't want to be a father, he shouldn't assume that his partner is on any form of birth control. If he doesn't want to be a father, he should use a damned condom.
yourbear87 1 month ago
@yourbear87 I like how there is ALWAYS the assumption that the man that was unexpectedly a father must not have even bothered to use a condom (don't even try to say "most of them..." as though you even KNOW most men). Women poke holes in condoms, women go get used condoms from the trash and scrape out semen (again, don't say how rare that is, when you don't know). Stop assuming--no matter how convenient it may make male-slamming.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink Haha. WHERE did I say that unplanned pregnancy ALWAYS comes from a man not using a condom? Funny, I didn't say that. I simply said that IF he doesn't want to be a father, he should use one. In fact. I am not anti-male in any way. If you don't believe me, please check out my blog: yourkbear.xanga.com. I'm pretty sure I just defended paternal rights. Also, please check my comments, where I said a women who doesn't want to be pregnant needs to take responsibility.
yourbear87 1 month ago
@yourbear87 Not at any point did I say you claimed the pregnancy ALWAYS comes from a man not using a condom. But the absence (in your comment) of ANY mention of the woman's responsibility helping the man to not be a father DID communicate that. Didn't have the benefit of your blog, or other comments to provide context--and this comment did go the other way.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink I would also like to point out that I said a man shouldn't assume (i.e. even if she says she is) that his partner is on birth control. He should take action to defend himself against unplanned pregnancy if he doesn't want it. So please, tell me again what a man-hater I am.
yourbear87 1 month ago
@yourbear87 Didin't even come close to calling you a man-hater. But did call your comment "man-slamming.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
Hahah...sign me...a very, very enthusiastic slut!
lmao...
StaceyTaylorNet 1 month ago
Personally, I prefer being a single parent. Less drama. I've always let them opt out and always been perfectly fine being the sole parent. I've never been the sort to 'stay together because of the children' because to do so is detrimental to my children. Good videos, thanks for posting!
StaceyTaylorNet 1 month ago
I've been on all ends of this spectrum but have always considered my 3 children my three children. I made those choices and decisions and have raised my kids happily ever since. We didn't need the paternal input. My 3rd child, father and I married so come time for divorce, he got hit hard on financial support. He wanted to escape all responsibility so he's out. The state, however, considers it a felony to fail to support children, so he's going to have to deal with it.
StaceyTaylorNet 1 month ago
@StaceyTaylorNet So you are proud of putting your ex at risk of prison rape? You are one sick bitch.
brownie1982ad 1 month ago
@brownie1982ad Bone up on the law. The state considers it a felony to fail to support your offspring. We were married, we divorced. He's established paternity, acknowledges his child and refused to do jack shit for years. State says no dice. I didn't put him at risk of prison rape. HE put himself at risk by failing to follow the law of the land. Do I care? Nope. I have little sympathy for him. All choices have consequences. As do yours.
StaceyTaylorNet 1 month ago
@StaceyTaylorNet You made your choices as well, and you used the state to put him at risk of rape. You are a disgusting human being, and I pity you.
brownie1982ad 3 weeks ago
@brownie1982ad
*yawn*
StaceyTaylorNet 3 weeks ago
@brownie1982ad
And you seem to be leaning toward being retarded. Get over yourself.
StaceyTaylorNet 3 weeks ago
Probably need to do a little disclaimer on rape. I know it's kind of assumed, but it might stop some trolls. Great work.
NativeNewMexican 1 month ago
Norway recently withdrew all the funding to so called "gender studies" in scientific research much due to a documentary "hjernevask" (Brainwash) shown on National Tv NRK. It shines the light on how feminism do not hold up to science when faced with biology and psychology.
sweden still keeps up the gender fascism.
The show has English subtitles and should be seen and spread by anybody antifeminist and interested in the present nordic situation.
Just search " hjernevask english " on youtube.
crangdaniel 1 month ago
great stuff
crangdaniel 1 month ago
I love this video series. Thank you so much for sharing your well thought and eloquent comments.
monster8090 1 month ago
Your children are very lucky.
gavnaisling 1 month ago
Abortion gives a woman an out, which men don't have. Men should be allowed to forgo their parental rights/responsibility
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@MrShaneVicious If men had an out, there would be twice as many abortions.
marianasreality 1 month ago
@marianasreality then so be it. Better an abortion than an unwanted child.
MrShaneVicious 1 month ago
@marianasreality I find it hypocritical to mentnion men, in appearance of wanting to reduce the number of abortions, but say nothing about the number of women that abort the child, whether or not the father agrees.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
I wish we had more women like her
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Shouting: "I don't need no man". Whispering: "But I do need other citizens taxes to subsidize my motherhood".
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
"single motherhood is avoidable even for the most enthusiastic of sluts". I seriously wanna propose to girlwriteswhat. Just kidding I'm not a creeper but that was awesome.
ActaNonVerba71 1 month ago
@girlwriteswhat :
Again, your discussions are Fantastic ! Thanks !
Maybe you could make a Video on how we could Fix this terrible injustice cause by 45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that:
- Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists!
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Thanks !
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Is the sound going out of sync with the video or am I just going crazy? Also my neck hurts from nodding in agreement so much. :D
falloutforever88 2 months ago
@falloutforever88 It's probably the acoustics of the kitchen. Lots of sound wave bouncin'
SphincterOfDoom 1 month ago
I know a LOT of men that are hesitant to even get in relationship anymore, due to things like you're illuminating, here!
MyOttoLink 2 months ago 19
@MyOttoLink Actually, some of us aren't even keen on dating, let alone get into a relationship. And this is not only on account of the things illuminated in this video but also because these things are not illuminated in general. The loss of a child who a man is forced (and let's face it sometimes tricked) into conceiving is a violation. The loss of a loved child is too great a risk simply for the chance of loving a woman.
TableWolfMusic 1 month ago
@TableWolfMusic So, so true!
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
Unfair childsupport laws are the reason why we have an epidimic if single motherhood,it provides financial incentives for women to have out have out of wedlock births so I 100% agree with you!
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@crypter27 Woman breed more in poverty, no matter what the incentives are. Study some history and you will realise I am right.
brownie1982ad 1 month ago
@brownie1982ad That is true!
crypter27 1 month ago
A default joint custody judgement would put emphasis on identifying the father via DNA test, eliminating paternity fraud, entrapment from women, women who breed just for child support, and essentially leaving the parents to focus on what they're going to do with the child.
seaofserpent 2 months ago 3
Why does GWW have to constantly defend her views against people who prefer that men remain disposable? Her thinking is black and white? How about custody decisions in NA family court systems? Are they black and white too? Yes plenty of grey area there right? Lol. How about DV awareness? I can't change the channel without hearing about how women can stop emotional abuse. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Yeah right. Black and white- Whatever.
TMac473 2 months ago
Pandering to "victim mentality" in either gender is counter-productive and passive aggressive violence, at best.
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What? Are you saying that a man's desire to assert his rights of fatherhood lies not in his control or freewill, but is influenced solely by a woman's decisions to ask for child support? That's why Adam doesn't call his kids on birthdays? Because he owes Sally $125/month. Jeez. Those evil "sluts", and poor, innocent men who have no reproductive rights! Pat yourself on the back, after comparing single moms to crack addicts, you may just be responsible for another hate crime this year. Congrats!
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent The reason Adam doesn't call his kids on their birthdays is because he never wanted to be a father in the first place. That was forced on him, by a woman's choice.
You really need to step out of yourself for a moment and think about what it would be like to be forced to do something against your will for 18 years, because someone else made a decision you were allowed zero say in. If you can't do that, then there's no point in talking to you.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 24
@girlwriteswhat You are so blindingly black and white, conditional, that I'm actually doing you a favor by interacting with you.
Men do actually choose to have children as quickly as they choose to be unavailable and to abandon them afterwards. Your "open door policy" for men is ridiculously simplistic.
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@girlwriteswhat "That was forced on him, by a woman's choice.
You really need to step out of yourself for a moment and think about what it would be like to be forced to do something against your will for 18 years, because someone else made a decision you were allowed zero say in. If you can't do that, then there's no point in talking to you."
RIGHT!! "Something" that crippled your ability to live, build a career, meet basic financial needs, attacked your reputation and credit rating, etc.
MyOttoLink 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat Awesome videos, I subbed you. Just curious, are you a voluntaryist/anarchist?
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While default custody goes to a mother, a man has a right to challenge and assert his rights of fatherhood. He has a right to file a paternity action against a woman to establish legal rights. And, I'm fairly sure that a man can object to an adoption of his biological child. While the man has no say in a woman's choice to end a pregnancy, he DOES have rights to establish parental rights in all 50 states once the child is born. Your conclusion of "only SHE has the rights" is 100% fiction.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent he only has rights if she chooses to give birth before that he has 0 rights and many times a father without money for a huge legal battle has no rights either,, he has the right to pay and never see the child? also he has the right to go to jail if he doesnt pay for a child he didnt want,, thats his right also oh oh and his next wife has the right to have her income included in the child support calculations thus forcing her to pay also....
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 So, wait. Men are complaining that they couldn't order the woman to abort the baby they otherwise don't want? Because they aren't the ones actually performing the abortions themselves, they feel left out? Let's be honest, most of the men here would probably prefer that their unintended offspring are aborted. The ones who DO NOT, are the ones who should avoid this "victim mentality" that girlwriteswhat is condoning, and fight to be on equal footing with the mother of his child.
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@fixt100 Sir, I have been around the block enough times in my life to have bumped into men who succeeded in not only having rights to their children, but having full custody. Using the system as an excuse, poverty, etc doesn't fly, as men can easily go down to the child support office and file paperwork to estabilsh paternity for free. And, a man can easily represent himself in court, or find low-income representation, to ensure that his rights as a father are enforced.
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@seaofserpent a man can easily represent himself at 18? compared to a lawyer? as far as getting representation, cant get it from legal aide office here if the mother already has it from them"conflict of interest" is what i was told...nobody is talking about the mothers right to abort/adopt only that her choice shouldnt affect the mans life if hes a doner and chooses not to be apart of the childs life, a man has no choice to become a father after he used every contraceptive avail
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 I don't believe that the /majority/ of males who have become unintended fathers have used "every contraceptive available" to avoid pregnancy, just as I don't believe that every unintended pregnancy happened because an evil woman got pregnant on purpose. The truth is in between. Condoms have a great success rate, especially in conjunction with a female's BC method... Lastly, sex is a mutual risk and a mutual act, no matter how you want to see it.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@fixt100 A man SHOULD do whatever it takes, even if it means representing himself in court and using whatever means to utilize his rights - even if it means showing up to defend himself! But... wait... "it's hard!" Jeez. I can use almost every one of Girlwriteswhat's titles to show you how men are using the same victim mentality tatics that they accuse women of using - and more successfully!
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@fixt100 But, you ARE expecting her to abort a child or face supporting your offspring for the next 18 years alone, because you do not want to accept the facts of simple biology. Instead, you'd rather blame the woman, because she is the one that offensively grows the child. In spite of the fact that it was your seed that merged with her egg to produce a child.And, she could NOT make a child without your DNA.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent but the only time you say the child is a child is if the mother decides that it is?? if im responsible from the time of conception for a CHILD then every woman thats ever had an abortion has murdered a child by your reasoning?? because that is what your saying? talking about my dna? if its mine she used it against my wishes for purposes unintended,, if its hers after i leave it in her then SHE is responsible for what happens since its hers,........
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 You are crazy. A child is a child when a mother decides? WHY DO YOU CARE? You would abort/exterminate the damn thing. Don't argue murder when you don't freakin care - BE honest and admit the only reason you DO care is because sometimes the women will allow the thing to grow and you have no control over that... whaaaa.
BUT, NEITHER DOES SHE over the biology. She actually has no control over the light-speed cell replication that occurs after your "lubricant" merges with her egg.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent she has the choice to drop her responsibility from the time its concieved till the child is 18 at any time she wants.... and btw you didnt refute my question....so since you resort to insults to answer an honest (if a little hard for you) question, enjoy your trolling...
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 I don't answer ridiculous, dishonest questions. Admit that you don't care about abortion, and that you only care whether or not a woman allows a pregnancy to continue without your consent.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent you have to decide if its a child at conception?(no more roe vs wade or abortions) or if its a child when the mother says it is(misuse of my property DNA for purposes unintended,, or her property her responsibility) you are dancing around this,,, why? it a question thats neither dishonest or irrelevant so stop stalling and lets see where you stand.
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 In my opinion, it is a child at conception.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent so go fight against the baby killing abortionists? cause if that were the way i thot it would prevail over this topic all day,, not for you? are only semi against baby killing? baby killing lite? you can see how this would become unimportant in light of the murder every in hospitals.....(im pro choice btw) her body her choice is fine by me but also her responsibility if theres a child i may OPT IN as a father if she was the girl for me..
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 See, you are dishonest, because you don't give a shit about abortion, and feel fine in "opting in" when you care to give a damn. What are you, have an influence-lite? Give a crud about a child's life when you feel like it, kinda guy? I'm not out fighting baby killing abortionists, because there are issues around conception to talk about all freaking day. I'm here to talk about the issues at hand. And, yes... another argument is these "simple" female choices aren't easy for pro-lifers.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent nobody ever said it was easy for anyone i want the same choice a woman currently has,, weither to give up college for a child? to risk going to jail for non payment? paying the cost of a house over my lifetime in child support? there are things i would like in writing if i choose to participate financially,, locked in visitation or default on payments?(protection of my visitation and rights to actually father the child) you know silly things like that....
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 I support father's rights, and feel compelled to fight on their behalf perhaps more than even I do for women. How about that? If a man actually wants to participate in his child's life, I think there should be a way without financially devastating him. In fact, the ideal would be allowing the father to provide specifically for the child's needs without needing child support. Unfortunately, people don't play fair, and certain fathers like to forget their responsibilities.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent btw i believe in pro choice because i also believe in a womans right to choose and believe i have the same right to choose.
fixt100 2 months ago
@seaofserpent children should not be brought into the world by ppl that dont want to have them and resent them for being there,,, just sayn.
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 Which is why we have birth control. Although, it is not a fail safe method and people need to grow the f*ck up and realize the hazards of life in everything, including sex. I agree with you in theory, but not when it comes to justifying abortion. That's where I get off the train.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent to me pro choice doesnt have to mean abortion it can mean adoption as well to a family that very much wants to have a child. i mentioned it but i think only once because adoption is very much an option for women these days if they dont believe in abortion at all. As far as fathers not playing fair neither do mothers play fair my ex admitted in court that she got pregnant on purpose (skipped pills and tampered with condom) to try and get me to stay with her(cont)
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 You were technically "raped"... and so, my rants about dead beats and losers do not apply to you.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent the court didnt care assigned child support and i had to pay 18 years for a child that i got to see on the day i dropped off the cheque for the first 2 years,, then she moved i got to see my daughter 4 times in the following 16 years and i still payed, but for what? i wasnt her father the ex was with the same guy for that time and my daughter knows him as dad, i turned into the ATM from day one so tell me why a man should have to pay in that situation?(cont)
fixt100 2 months ago
@seaofserpent i wasnt allowed to be a father the only thing they made sure of was that i payed (i finished paying 2 years ago, in full i might add) under threat of prison so no i dont think a man should have to pay without certain assurances of his rights but if the mans rights are violated when it comes to parenting they do nothing and he still has to pay, if a woman decides at any time the whole motherhood thing just isnt working out for her she can legally bail out.
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 I'm sorry that happened to you. It was wrong.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@fixt100 I don't disagree with you. A man should under normal circumstances have assurances and protections of his rights as a father, especially if he is financially supporting his children. Our system needs to better adapt to fathers and allow them to play balanced, vital roles in the lives of their kids.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent i hope my point of view comes across better than an excuse for abortion,, i take precautions(but they do fail) so i am literally stuck with a womans decision to have a child or abort it why shouldnt a man have at default no responsibility in something he has no say in whatsoever? if the mother wants the help and the father IS willing then give him the opportunity to "OPT IN" legally at that point you would find men (not all) who commit in this way(cont)
fixt100 2 months ago
@fixt100 Your point is coming across better now. I do feel that men could provide in other ways, such as days spent with child, providing physical goods like clothes, food, etc. and involvement without the focus being totally financial. In fact, most of these things could be avoided if there was a default joint custody ruling for fathers who were not abusers, addicts. etc. That would be the best kind of "fair". Having both parents involved in the childs life, if the woman forgoes abort/adopt.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent (cont) ... would have the same full gusto as adoptive parents do when they raise their child also other things like fraud would minimalise because if i was "signing up" for 18 years there would def be dna testing and if i was in college i could possibly negotiate that period with the moither as a "no pay" time period so i could provide better for my child in the future (not currently done,,in fact i had my tuition for school siezed by maintenance enfor for no reason )
fixt100 2 months ago
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seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent if some escaped(DNA) it was only ever intended to be lubricant.....
fixt100 2 months ago
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@fixt100 She never "used" it against your wishes, because she's not slaving over a freaking rubix cube of dna to produce a child... it's also happening with or without her consent and awareness. If you leave your DNA in a woman's body, and it begins a chain reaction by merging with an egg - BOTH of you, while you sleep unaware, are actually unconsciouslly in tandem creating multiple chain reactions that lead to another lifeform, long after you orgasm.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent (cont)he isnt given the same options after conception that a woman is given as a right, i figure her body her choice her responsibility,, nobody is asking anyone to have an abortion , and why should the guy pay for something he has no say in?,, and the man should be able to "OPT IN" if he chooses to be a parent the same way the pregnant girl can, and dont start on keep it in your pants because unless you want to go against roe vs wade that isnt even in the pictrure...
fixt100 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Sure, are you going to pay his lawyer's bills? and what legal rights does a father have? Visitation? equal custody? Your feelings versus legal reality does not equal 100% fiction, unless you are talking about the movie playing in your head.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter It's futile to argue with a group of men who refuse to see themselves as anything but victims in the whole scheme of things - you're more of a "head game" than the facts available to you. But, pull the cover over your head! You're a man - women are evil, there is no hope, no rights, everyone is a feminist, blah, blah, blah.
Incentives of "victim mentality" are great for sexually irresponsible males and welfare recipients alike... And the next generation is left with the debt.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Ah! Nice!.. Considering that most people on welfare are single mothers and their children and even abortions are provided with federal aid.
As for sexually irresponsible males, I always advocate avoiding partners with STDs and being honest about your status. Beyond that, there is no need for a man to do anything else. And we all know there is no such thing as sexually irresponsible female.
Quite interesting indeed! Maybe what you should be talking is in your mirror.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter I'm glad you said it "single mothers". Perhaps there would be a more equal amount of men and women on welfare, if more dads stepped up to the plate to be "single fathers". Beyond avoiding STD's there is no need for a man, to what, wear a condom and avoid pregnancy? You resentment of women and entitlement to spread your seed is so great that your brain is dangerously warped. You can send me a check in the mail for that tidbit of observation.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Its just a matter of how rights and responsibilities go together. It probably never occurred to you that there is a relationship between the two. I know you folks do everything based on "feeling".. but please don't assume everyone else is just as brain dead as you.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter Seriously? You have an idea on how "rights and responsibilities" go together when you go around and evacuate your seed into any woman without a std? I'm sure your entitled attitude has probably eliminated any hint of responsibility pretty quickly from your selfish existence.
It is a good thing that certain men opt out of parenthood, seeing as they are completely incapable of instilling self-preserving and responsible behavior in their offspring. Cheers!
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Ignoring the petulant attitude, it would be a good thing IF men could opt out of parenthood. Unfortunately feminists are not honest about that either! And they have done and will do anything and everything to keep it from happening in reality, not just their heads.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter Go cry yourself to sleep... Maybe you'll dream of winning against the feminists you hate so much. That's something to look forward to...
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
That is the fun part. No matter what feminists do... I get to win! They have sowed the seeds of their own destruction. Sharia is the future of the west.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter That, my friend, will never happen. The future of this country is Jesus' law... not Islam. Repent and accept your savior before it's too late. But, on another topic, I'm sure it's with great pride, Girlwriteswhat, will realize that her supporter here wants Sharia law. Put on your BURKA Girlwriteswhat. These men will hang you along with all the women you are condeming.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Islam has Jesus too you know. And I am not talking of Islam as religion (which almost no one follows.. if they do, they are as rare as unicorns) but Islam as culture and more importantly Islamic world as the gene pool from which the future will come from. Chinese and Indians will contribute only as much as they keep their feminists under control and they are failing badly.
utubehayter 2 months ago
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seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
More likely, Islam will persuade the west.. not thru bombs, but thru sheer births that their societies produce, while the west ages and dies off.
"You can thank feminism for that." Indeed I can. Not that I am some sort of fan of Islamic culture (it is totally repressive of women).. but it is precisely their bad parts that will form effective countermeasures to feminism (unfortunately) at the cost to all women.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter What are you, a vampire? You honestly expect to see this great "win" play out in your lifetime? You are going to be so old, so saggy and slow, by the time the counterforces are so influential that feminists lose. Likely, at that time, no one will care, as there might be better things to worry about.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
I don't care if I am old or dead. I am only predicting the future based on current trends. As for me, I care about me, other men, boys and women who have credibly stood beside men and against injustice. I couldn't care less what happens to the rest of humanity.. even if it happens right before my eyes. I will simply walk away.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter Well, I only care about me, women, young boys and girls and men who provide and protect their wives and children (either or, but at least their children). All other men who do not protect and provide for their children are as good as trash to me, and I would not defend them either if they were facing horrible circumstances.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
No one needs your help. :) Infact the only reason you are bitching about men who do not protect and provide.. is because you think someone needs them. Thus proving my point.. no one, especially those that do not provide or protect their children, do not need your help, because you aren't capable of helping them at all.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter Actually, quite a few people need my help. And, I am fine being unhelpful to men who abandon their offspring.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@utubehayter Well, I'm not against the Islam gene pool, neither the Chinese or Indians. That just means healthier breeding in the future. A population boom will be happening in these areas. Along with growth, these cultures will be persuaded by the West and its feminism, as it condones sexual freedom that men like. Keeping "feminists" under control will be short lived, as all men are really for a woman's sexual freedom. You are all closet feminist lovers.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
"You are all closet feminist lovers."
Denial is not a river in Egypt. If there was a button to get rid of all feminists, I would push it without a single doubt. But if there was a way to send them back to the alternative universe of delusions they came from, I would prefer to send them back where they came from.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter A feminazi must've gotten you good. That makes me smile.
seaofserpent 2 months ago
@seaofserpent
Its funny how you always keep coming back to the point. You really think this is because of personal experience.. don't you? I actually hate chivalrists and traditionalists far more than I hate feminists, because I see what they do and what they want.
utubehayter 2 months ago
@utubehayter The only thing men don't like about the feminists' sexual liberation is that they have to pay the bill for the offspring produced, after indulging in it. Otherwise, men all over the world wouldn't give a damn about "sluts" and "single moms with 4 baby daddys" They might even become so docile and worship them... Now, if only men could find a way to indulge in sexual freedom without having to pay child support... (condoms...condoms...condoms).
seaofserpent 2 months ago
I am enjoying your six part insightful comments. You present a fresh perspective and have broadened me. SL SW Florida
PS You are simply Brilliant (^_-)-☆
lutacrew 2 months ago in playlist More videos from girlwriteswhat
I'm continuously amazed whenever I hear your videos. It's as if you're from another planet. No... Really.
DJSQWYD 2 months ago
Let me ask you, do you require your fmr husband to pay for child support since you're against it?
DaveElectric 2 months ago
@DaveElectric She never said she was against child support. Please pay attention to videos before commenting.
johnman1911 2 months ago
@johnman1911 Please pay attention to contex clues to what I actually mean.
DaveElectric 2 months ago
@DaveElectric I don't. I haven't declined the couple times he's sent money (though I'd rather he send it to the kids, or spend it to see them). Though as DaveElectric said, it's not that I don't believe in child support. I believe parents should support their kids. But I believe both parents should have a choice about whether they will be parents or not, and have that responsibility or not.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago 15
@girlwriteswhat proud of you !
TheAlamPanah 2 months ago in playlist More videos from girlwriteswhat
The argument you tear apart here is even dumber and more ignorant than you've let on (believe it or not).
In finance, what you call enabling, they call moral hazard. This stupid argument says that not only is moral hazard a false concept, but that it describes THE REVERSE of typical human behavior. They imply that people take LESS risk when they know the personal cost will be diminished.
I have often described child support as a moral hazard that paradoxically increases total harm to society.
Eincrou 2 months ago
It might an elementary argument to counter- but it's one that is sorely needed to be made.
If I may be frank, I get such a strange sensation hearing you talk- it's like the first time I've heard a woman on 'my side' in relationship matters, as if women aren't enemies to be on guard against but as someone on your team- or at least playing by the same rules.
Perhaps it's the next dialectic step of egalitarianism which was antagonistic- and now it's corrosion is being undone.
studybox 2 months ago 4
@studybox If you'll believe, I'm actually on women's side, too. Women have plenty of agency these days--more than men when you include reproductive agency--but we keep denying it to them. This whole agency thing is just a big pain in the ass, when your decisions affect you negatively, see.
Agency isn't just the wherewithal to succeed all by yourself and take credit, it's the wherewithal to fuck up all by yourself and not blame anyone else, too.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, the culture of single motherhood goes far beyond enabling. It has literally created a huge class of parasitic young women that deliberately dupe men into impregnating them so they can sit on their asses for the next 18 - 21 years. That's criminal behavior, not merely failing to take responsibility. I believe women who "trap" men in this manner should be in jail. It's morally no different than fraud or grand larceny.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak It is so true how women will trick men into pregnancy because they want a baby. I have had it happen to me. I think it has happened to other guys I know also but they won't be that hard on the women and say right out that is what they did. It is far to easy for a woman to say she is on the pill and quit taking them or not be on them to begin with. And even if you are in a "loving" relationship they feel that they are doing nothing wrong. FREAKING AMAZING!
johnman1911 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, but I know you didn't mean it "only" enables irresponsible behavior. I just think you should have mentioned the women who "trap" men into child support in this video. :P
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak, and by duping men into impregnating them, I mean doing things like telling men they're on birth control when they're not, or using the sperm in condoms after sex to impregnate themselves, so they can collect child support and sit on their asses for the next couple decades.
I'm guessing - though I don't have any personal experience in this realm - that feminists think such behavior on the part of women is virtuous.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@studybox, why would egalitarianism be corrosive if it lived up to its name? Literally speaking, there's nothing wrong with actual quality between the sexes. Indeed, that's what we should aspire towards. The problem is that in the West, one sex (females) clearly enjoys massive amounts of advantages and privileges denied the other. In family court and domestic violence disputes, men have even been denied due process - no trial is needed for an ex parte restraining order, for example.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak: "there's nothing wrong with actual equality"
One of the oh-so-dreaded differences between men and women is that since men are biologically predisposed to protect women, there's no will to enforce the 'downside' of equality on women.
Take note of this absurd situation where women have full political agency, but zero expectation to ever effectively defend the nation.
Over time, the attempt to have egalitarianism between the sexes inevitably results in rampant female privilege.
Eincrou 2 months ago
@Eincrou, then women should be drafted into the army, just as men are, if a country decides to go to war. That'll sure stop countries from being violent with one another.
There you go. Actual equality where women have all the responsibilities, as well as all of the rights, as men.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak: "women *SHOULD* be drafted into the army"
Hello? Did you even read my post? There is no will to do this, that's the whole point.
Imagining what *SHOULD* happen in a fantasy world where everyone does exactly as you think they ought to is useless.
Eincrou 2 months ago
@KhagarBalugrak Egalitarianism as I use it goes far beyond merely equal treatment (which I would agree with) but seeks equal outcomes. It's used as justification to undo perceived offenses of one group against another through force. In that sense, it is an antagonistic force. To illustrate, having intercourse and an unplanned pregnancy is like having a gun put to your head.
'Egalitarianism' as I've encountered it has most often been used in this context.
studybox 2 months ago
@studybox, well the drive for equal outcomes is not egalitarian by definition. Only the most competent people should be given jobs where competence is critical - doctors, police officers, judges, etc. However, we should not throw people out of their homes, deny them medical care, and so on just because they have financial troubles. Doing so is simply cruel and barbaric. In short: welfare is good, Affirmative Action is evil.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@studybox, when you assign men 100% responsibility for something that they have no power over (pregnancy), that's the antithesis of egalitarianism. When you force men to fork over their life savings to their wives in ANY incidence of divorce, even a divorce where the woman is completely at fault, that's the antithesis of egalitarianism. Egalitarianism means privileges and obligations must be balanced and given to both sexes in equal measure.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@studybox, according to my definition of egalitarianism, if men cannot force women to have abortions, they cannot be held accountable for child support. No power and privilege = no responsibility. In the same vein, if women have 100% power over pregnancy and abortion, they must assume complete responsibility for supporting children as a result of pregnancies except in cases in which rape, incest, etc. are involved.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@studybox, do you want equality between the sexes or not? If not, you aren't any different than the man-hating feminazis who have painstakingly engineered the current societal disaster that men currently face. If you do want equality between the sexes, don't blame egalitarianism; blame feminists for trampling on egalitarianism with everything they say and do.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
i agree we should stop "enabling" let's start with the cutting off the women's supply of money...i.e. the government welfare and child support. after all we should reward women for bad behavior.
Joebuttsify 2 months ago
Stop, you're making too much sense. :P But seriously? I think you bring a lot to the table of discussion. Not only do you have the personal experience regarding much of what you talk about. But you're logical and concise about it too. I learn so much watching your vids.
Aeimos 2 months ago
The reason feminists want men to be held responsible for single mothers is so some women can dupe men into impregnating them and sit on their asses for the next 18 years. I've seen tons of women who are like this, and it needs to stop.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
There should be a 'b*tch'-checklist guys can consult before entering a relationship with a woman that prevents them from hooking up with a psycho. A lot of trouble and single motherhood could be prevented that way.
Ps.: I'm a woman, too :P
chocoboasylum 2 months ago
@chocoboasylum, lol, maybe some female psychologists could give men some tips on how to spot female psychopaths or traps. And as far as preventing single motherhood, well, women can get abortions funded by the state (which I fully support). That, as well as birth control, is how women can avoid being single mothers. It's not hard. It's state-sponsored!
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@chocoboasylum, the problem is that once a woman is pregnant, only she can decide to avoid single motherhood at that point. To hold men responsible at that point for something they are powerless to change is, well, insane. And women will continue to have unplanned pregnancies. It happens, and only they have the right and responsibility to deal with it.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
I wouldnt worry to much about getting a good education these days especially if your a man. Changes are you will get passed up by a women or you will have already be at a massive disadvantage due to how feminized the education system has bcome in the last decade.
Dobogio 2 months ago
Death to women! Life for men! This woman is a fucking joke and a feminazi.
freemanian2027 2 months ago
@freemanian2027 Yeah...don't "help".
Endoptic 2 months ago
Please keep up these videos! Great commentary on subjects people seem to just ignore!
rang3r34 2 months ago
@MrBladeCrash: In what country?
WilliamGruff 2 months ago
Have the earlier posts been deleted?
WilliamGruff 2 months ago
@RedLanternXY Well, I'm not a feminist. I'm not even really sure what I am, considering that a truly egalitarian society seems out of reach. A lot of women don't want real agency, the interaction between power, wherewithal, responsibility and accountability. They only want half, and a lot of men seem to want the same thing for women.
Part of me wants men to abandon masculinity for their own sakes, and another part wants them to cling to it with a kung fu grip for everyone else's.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
Wait a minute... you're a single mother? Who the hell would divorce you?
Either way, BEAUTIFULLY said video as usual. Definitely one of the most intelligent channels on youtube.
TheAryoBarzan87 2 months ago
@TheAryoBarzan87 I divorced him. It's a long story. It was a decision I weighed for a long time--a couple years, really--but I was, in effect, a single mother for the last three years of my marriage or more, just with a (sort of) adult male boarder in the house. It wasn't good for my kids anymore.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat: They are his children as much as yours and there is more than a little irony in your removing him from their lives and remarking on other women who choose to do the same without as much consideration.
WilliamGruff 2 months ago
@WilliamGruff He removed himself from their lives--most days he spent less than 10 minutes with them, even though he was in the house for more than 8 waking hours a day. Usually, they'd have to seek him out to get even that. When he moved out, he chose to relocate to a community where every visit had to be prearranged, rather than them being able to "pop by" whenever they wanted. His job was in our town, and there were plenty of apartments, but he moved a ferry-ride away. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat For the first months, when he still had a phone, I called and arranged visits. He saw them more hours a week then than when he lived with us. When he'd come to town to run errands, he never stopped by to see them, even though I'd made it clear he could do this anytime, without giving me notice. When he quit his job, I sent groceries with them on visits. When he lost his apartment, I still sent them to stay overnight with him in an 8x12 room above a bar. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat I moved away from that town (it was that or go bankrupt and lose my house) when the economy crashed, but he stayed (homeless and unemployed), for another year and a half. He's moving now (for the same reasons I did), but not to the place we live (where there are lots of jobs and apartments), but to another city, 3 hours away. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat Last summer, I paid over $1000 out of my pocket to send them to visit him. Up until that point, he hadn't paid a dime toward them since we split up in 2008. At this point, he's sent me $300 total, in three years. Before I moved, he was seeing them about 1 night every 6-8 weeks, because I couldn't contact him--I had to wait until he phoned. So no, I did not remove his kids from his life. He's welcome there, anytime he wants to be, as much as he wants to be. He doesn't want that.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, that's very valiant of you. I'm sorry to hear your ex doesn't want to see your children. Actually, the way I would write the laws, in the case of divorce the children would be required to see both parents for an equal amount of time each week, and both parents would be required to spend the same amount of money. If one of the parents was abusive, then the child would not see that parent, and the nonabusive parent would receive government aid since he/she has to do it alone.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat, so in short, I am in support of welfare for people struggling to raise children on their own (that is, lacking in sufficient funds) because their ex either abandoned them, was abusive, or committed a crime and went to jail. I would make abandonment or abuse of one's family a crime and punishable in order to avoid enabling this kind of behavior.
KhagarBalugrak 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat: I wrote ' ... there is more than a little irony in your removing him from their lives ... ', which is not the same as he removing you from his life or himself from your life, or them from his life, even though there is little practical difference in the outcome, and divorcing him is tantamount to removing him from their lives.
Your difficulties remind me of those that preceded, accompanied and followed my own divorce, except that you have his children and I lost mine (contd)
WilliamGruff 2 months ago
@WilliamGruff: (contd) and had to deal with the gristle brained moron she subsequently took up with, and being male I could do nothing about that. You have the freedom to choose the male influence in your children's lives while their father does not, which, I think, is partly the point of your videos, isn't it? So I say, again, 'there is more than a little irony', while intending no hostility to you personally and personally sympathising with you, and I would not have explained that to a man.
WilliamGruff 2 months ago
@WilliamGruff It would have seemed an easy decision for any other woman to make--and when I finally did, everyone (including several of his friends) told me "about time!" At the same time, I did not promise to be with him forever lightly. I felt guilty as hell for the first while, until I realized my kids' behavior and performance in school actually improved when he moved out, and their relationship with him improved as well, when they could still see him regularly. (cont)
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat And while I know that they have a better life now because I made the choice I did--they'll be able to go to college, they're doing great in school, and we're not always just scraping by--it's a choice I still wish I hadn't had to make. I feel like the entire process of divorcing cost me some of my integrity and honor, no matter how fair I tried to be. The courts (and him, to be honest) didn't give me the option of being fair--not to him or my kids.
girlwriteswhat 2 months ago
@girlwriteswhat: Divorce is the acknowledgement of failure, and is regrettable, and we have that in common, although you seem to have come to the decision rather later in your marriage than I, even if you resorted to divorce sooner than I, but you have not addressed my points. That notwithstanding, I have no axe to grind with you and enjoyed your videos, and I hope you publish more of whatever pleases you.
WilliamGruff 2 months ago