@Igenerally lol if a person doesnt want to go natural they dont have to. I honestly hear more relaxed girls telling me to wear weave, and why? Why is my natural hair not uniform? Why should i HAVE to relax it?
your hair is beautiful hun. people like that are they type of people who feels like they better then you because of there hair type how long there hair is and there skin color smh...
Speaking as someone who did not realize that their hair was "curly" even up to five years of being natural; the texture of one's hair does decide the products and styles that they should choose. I spent years trying products and hair styles that I thought would work for me just because I am black. But all black hair is not the same. IT'S ALL BEAUTIFUL but everybody can't do everything. My hair is not only curly (3C) but it's also very fine... lot's of frustration trying to do the wrong things...
lol..this video is sooo funny but TRUE!! I'm from Louisiana and mixed people or lighter colored blacks sometimes do think they are "SPECIAL" because their hair has looser curls. I totally feel this video!!
I know a girl like that. She always bragging about her hair. She's quick to say, " I have good/curly hair, yall have "N" hair." She thinks she's special or something, but really she looks like an idiot. Plus she can't really brag about her hair, b/c she rarely wears it curly. If she does it's in a pony tail or bun.
@loveshinae Thank you, but I don't know if you know what I mean by "N" hair. The "N" word I was taking about was the " N****r" word. The girl thought that anyone who didn't have hair that looks like heres, they had that kind of hair.
i think how one wears their hair is a personal choice a person should NOT be pressured socially too NOT relax their hair or color it a certain color if that is what they decide to do for them. Why are so many blacks trying to guilt other blacks into a uniformed al naturale look if it's a style that a person doesn't want to wear.
@AfreensHair I disagree. I think that textures should be categorized because otherwise there would be too many people who make the same mistakes that I made. I grew up thinking that all black people had the same hair type and now that I am an adult and have been natural for a few years I found out that there is not true. Now, do I tell people that I have "good hair"? ABSOLUTELY NOT!! I DON'T BELIEVE IN GOOD HAIR/BAD HAIR. Is my hair curly? Yes. And I should not be made to feel ashamed to say it.
@TWIGGY281 I agree with you. I need to watch your video again to see in what context I made that comment. I know everybody's hair is different. I don't have a problem with categorizing at all. I think what I meant to say was most nappy hair iis "curly" it's just that some curls are coiled differently and to varying degrees. :)
you are absolutely right! I've noticed that too...it does not make no difference....people should just say that they hair is natural instead stepping out of their box and saying that their hair is curly natural...they make it seem as if their hair is better or something...i agree with you on that 100%
@yacrumpt Thanks for commenting, i was so aggravated in this vid, can you tell, lol. I think division helps some people feel special and unique. And you know what, I say more power to you if that is the only way you can feel that. Please dont be a stranger. I love to hear intelligent comments.
@yacrumpt I beg to differ. I see women say their hair is nappy all the time, but some folks want to argue with them, even if they're 4b, it's crazy! Kimmaytube gets that ALL the time!
lol this is funny but no I do use curly/coily/kinky to people who don't have hair like us because they'll say nappy when it's not but I dont say it to other naturals because its a given we know all of our hair is curly
My daughter and I have experienced the opposite of what you are talking about. People come up to us and say, "Oh well you got "good" hair so YOU can do that." or they ask me if my daughter is mixed because her hair is the way it is. One chick even sed, "Stop trying to pretend that your hair is "good" you KNOW you have a texturizer!". This is the hair i was given and I accept it but it seems as tho others cant. We need to stop this silliness. Thanks for the vid sis.
@TheSistahChick I think that is totally the essence of what i am talking about. Sometimes when we are mis-educated about our own hair we buy into all of the brain washing from both our people and society. We say oh that looks pretty because... or she must have altered something because our hair is not like that naturally. Why cant we just see the beauty in ourselves with out reason. I wish we would just stop all the mindless chatter and realize all of our hair is beautiful. Thanks Queen ;)
@TheSistahChick I got the texturizer comment too. When I first bc'd. I showed my dad and step mom my hair. My step mom was like you got a texturizer. I was like no. This is my my natural texture. I am chemical free. She said "quit lying girl you know you don't have good hair".
I agree! My hair is naturally NAPPY. Nappy = Curly, Kinky, Coily, same thing! We use the same techniques to take care of our hair, anyway! That's why I watch women with textured hair no matter what hair type. I've had ladies with textures tell me that my advice worked.
Wow I know exactly what you mean, I've heard that before! lol I think some people are so proud of their "curls" because they probably think they have the "good" kind of natural hair. Actually, All natural hair is the good natural hair. I think the unique textures of natural hair all pretty, neat, and mega unique...
I just wanted to put out there that it seems to me that you are a tad bit jealous of curly hair.... no one can make you feel as if you hair is nappy or that you cannot say the word curly unless you feel that way about you own hair .....i am proud to see more blacks loving their hair and are boosting up their confidence you need to do the same
I love it! If you don't use a chemical relaxer process in your hair, You aRe natural. No matter the texture. I am so with you sista! I have heard my own family members oh and ah over sistahs with looser curl patterns, and turn up their nose at those with tighter curls! Wow! I will try my best to help them out! We got to stop the Division!
Believe me this just happen to me today,I said the same thing to 63yr. old lady
she had a short afro,she came out an said oh I've always has curlyhair even as a
little girl,an guess what when she said that I could hear (THE PRICE IS RIGHT)music in my ear,it would have been rude but I almost laughed in her face.
Hello! Your hair is glorious. It _is_ Curly. You're right, too. People get hung up on hair and typing it. I get confused if asked and just say "It's curly." LOL. Thanks for your perspective. Keep talking with people you meet. It's nice randomly chatting with another Curly.
Not that it matters, but your hair looks curly to me! I don't know...maybe I'm getting the definintion wrong. I was thinking tho, maybe when you come up to them they are thinking you are admiring them in a way like their hair is so special that you had to come up to them and say something to them (a complete stranger) so they are trying to explain it. Just a thought.
@ferntre I see how you could say that, but I am already interacting with them because they are my patients. So while i am treating them and spending time with them i bring it up. I dont just out of the blue say stuff to random people. The natural hair topic is always a sidebar convo.
LMBO!!!I know what u mean...but the worse is to see a natural and her head looks like sadia arabia!! i be thinkn like, BABBBYYYY....Put some oil on that dry mess!!!! but i dont say it! lol....but at least if u gonna be natural,get the knowledge on how to take care of it...ohhhhh and another one,is to see the nap of the neck with BBs lookn like they are run'n from their back....ughh...get a razor and clean that mess up!!! lol...sorry i had to say it!!! lmboooo
I see what you are saying. I feel all natural hair is special and should be celebrated. Each texture has it's own personality; the fun part of this natural journey is getting to discover what our hair can do. I haven't had those types of experiences in talking to folks. Maybe they are just talking w/o thinking how it may sound.don't let it to ya.
I like the price is right sound effect also,, I feel you Latia4u, I have had people come up to me and say "if I had curly hair like you I would go natural" I have to stop them right then and their and say all hairtype of a black woman is beautiful. I go even further to say once you go on a journey with your hair, its more than just hair that you are dealing with, you are dealing with rediscovering you and how God made you and its all good, you learn to love yourself for who and what you are.
At my work i so not care what they have to say about my locs,that they stop ask those
stupid behind question about natural hair (that's white folk as well as black folk).Thanks to youtube they think i came up with all my styles myself, thank you
You're bold I see alot of naturals and wonder how long they've been natural and ask them other questions, but I know people don't like to be bothered, so I just look and wonder LOL I don't think they're trying to say it as though their hair is better some people don't know how they sound when they say certain things, or they don't think about what they're saying, maybe they were just caught off guard. Don't let it get to you.
Hey I feel you on so much. I feel you about some products work better on some hair vs other's hair..... I dnt have curls in my hair..its just on my head ,that's what I say now. I just now know that having healthy hair is so much better. Thanks for ur video
Girl because unfortunately we as black people are still trying to have the whitest natural hair(ie curly) possible. We are still trying to be white. Those who are saying they have that extra special curly hair are psycologically not natural. Your hair is beautiful ad currrrrly.
I literally LOL watching this video!!!! I have experienced the same thing from other naturals and it really irks me! If no one else feels you... I FEEL YOU! I just wanna scream sometimes "it's just hair honey!" I believe some people have an innate sense of separatism. I could go on forever, but in short: I feel you!
Just because they wear their HAIR natural doesn't mean that their mine is (for lack of a better word)afrocentric,their are some sisters that love the look,but minesets are not completely free,however you stay with a peaceful mine,thats what the natural journal is all about.
I know what you're on about! It's so annoying! Once, I told a friend that I was going natural, and she kept asking me what my hair type was, then she told me about her friend, who's also transitioning, making special emphasis on the curliness of her hair. Then she kept asking me if I was sure I knew what I was doing. What's she on about!?
Don't let that get you down. Maybe she did not understand the term "natural" . That term can mean something totally different to others. Natural to me just means chemical free. I no longer relax my hair so I am rocking it in its natural state (the way it grows out of my head). For some it could mean curly, kinky or just the texture...
cont...so when you approach them and they are not linked to the youtube natural hair community for instance, they begin to talk about their texture or how their hair looks because that is what natural means to them. But only you know the vibe they gave off so you just continue to rock the naturally beautiful you.
Hey Girl!!! .... People are funny huhhhh... they got that Tiger Woods Syndrome thinkin that they are "cablanasian"... and not simply black ... somehow that just ain't good enough .... but it's good enough for us-- girl hahaha lol ... we are African American Girls with Afros... and that is wonderful -- ;)
What I normally get are the competively disillusioned permer's ( what I call them) that haven't permed their hair in 6 months, so they call it natural...lol I've been told on a few occasions " I wish I could get my hair to be like yours, but it just won't curl." Oh really?...
On the reverse end, I've had biracial girls ( with coarser hair textures than they would like) ask me, "What do you use to "make" your hair do that?" As if since I am not biracial, I have to "make" my hair do something.
What I normally get are the competively disillusioned permer's ( what I call them) that haven't permed their hair in 6 months, so they call it natural...lol I've been told on a few occasions " I wish I could get my hair to be like yours, but it just won't curl." Oh really?...
On the reverse end, I've had biracial girls ( with coarser hair textures than they would like) ask me, "What do you use to "make" your hair do that?" As if since I am not biracial, I have to "make" my hair do something.
this bothers me too a little. i would not hesitate to say that 90+ percent of natural black people (that i have met anyway) either have some tight coil or some kind of kink going on in their hair. "curl" just isnt the word for our hair and people need to realize that that is OK. just saying the word "curly" does NOT make ur hair curly or (more often than not) any less nappy than mine!
Sista, u are right. but, the reason is because we as Black people have so much self-hate. We have been brain washed to hate ourselves. We have to turn this around. We have to address these issues and change our mind set. You are doing just that. You are forcing poeple to think and dialogue about these issues in the Black community. Let's keep the discussion going.
@nmc37 I am very touched by this comment... u are so right. i makes me look back on the experience with sadness. I almost feel sorry for them with the whole subconcious self hate thing. We have to combate this ignorance with education.Peace Queen, Thanks for the wisdom
I agree with you totally. It aggrivates the crap out of me when people categorize their hair or my hair. It doesn't matter if your hair is "curly" or "kinky", it's natural so rock it hard Divas!!!
It's all in an effort to feel like they are more relatable to what's acceptable. It's sad that even some "natural" women think that their hair is better because it's curlier, as oppossed to being kinkier. It's because of the oppression we've had to endure since the slave days when women started straightening their hair in order to pass. Can't really fault them because it has been the way of life for so long. But, thank God things are slowly but surely changing.
I feel you girl! My hair is very kinky....but let me say, I can rock a mean fro...;o). But it pisses me off to, when you compliment someone on their natural hair and the first thing out of their mouth is "oh, I've always had NATURALLY CURLY hair" As if they aren't "really" natural. But forget those haters....obviously they are full of self hate.
"Am I just suppose to be a slave because your hair is...something SO special!" LOL!!! I've had the same thing happen to me from individuals I've gone up to randomly. It's like they want to clue you in that their hair is NOT in the same category as yours. I don't even bother people anymore...I wait for them to say something to me before I strike up a convo...it's that sad..
It is just another divisional discriminatory tatic, that's all it is, just another term used to divide and seperate us, making us "kinky haired" ladies not as "good" or "acceptable" or beautiful as ladies with a more loose curl pattern. Get over themselves is what they need 2 do! Can't we just all get along! Girl, don't let this stuff get 2 you, now u know u can't just go up and talk 2 everyone just b/c they r natural, they may be on an whole notha trip.
I just experienced a black guy who has a biracial daughter with straight hair ask me if his daughter's hair will turn out like mine....my hair is combination 4a/4b. I explained that I have afro textured hair and his daughter basically has straight hair, so probably not. The guy then chimed in and told me my hair wasn't afro textured, it's curly....I told him that most black people have curly hair.....he looked at me like I was crazy....and he was wearing locks! My people are so funny LOL!
Not just black women, an older caucasian guy who had a biracial grandchild was complaining about how hard it was for his wife to take care of her hair. When I begin giving him advice on how I take care of my daughters similar hair, he was determined I didnt understand because theres NO WAY a full black child could have hair like his granddaughters! Hair is freakin' hair folks!! *smh
@reinventingthenorm Wow, i feel you on that one. I once had a man ask me if I braided hair (his child was asian and black) i told him i did and his wife was so excited. I tried to talk to him about some of the problems he was having with his daughters hair and he look at me like i had egg on my face.
i normally have the opposite affect on ppl though. Like my cousin her hair is natural and she is begging for a perm i am like why do you want to perm your hair its really pretty dont perm it. She said i dont like natural hair, i told her my hair is natural and she said but you have curly hair... i was like w/e your hair is curly too and she said not like yours. i dont get it really, its like as black people we always have to rank ourselves...
@PrettyEyedMommy Yes, I've run into those types too as if they are explaining why their hair is the way it is...somehow different from the norm...It annoys me when I hear, oh yes, my hair is like this because I'm 1/3 cat, dog, chicken, irish, italian, fruitcake...whatever!!!!
That's why I am hestitant to compliment women with natural hair when I see them because some of them act as if their from another planet...Most of the ones I've come in contact with are NORMAL but you have those few like the ones you are talking about in this video that are simply from another planet...
Thank you! I have a friend who does that about skin color. She always says "well for light skinned people, or for us light skinned..." etc. Always reiterating it. As if she were somehow separate from the rest of black diaspora. She spoke as if she were white or something! "Well I'm white (light skinned) so..." What the H-E- DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS?!?!! We're all black people. You are not exclusive or better because you are lighter. That really pissed me off and I told her so in a very nice way.
@Weewinkle7 lol, in a nice way tehee. Yeah I once got a sunburn cuz i want my back to be an even complection so i laid out in the sun. It mad my back peel and i had really sensitive skin. But when I said this to a fair skinned person they looked at me like i was crazy, and didnt respond. It was like a record scratched, lol
@LongHairDontCareLLC Yeah i had to cut part of that out cuz i thought my head would explode if i didnt take a break , exhale and collect my thoughts. It is so funny how similar we are yet we still choose to divide outselves.
Honey, that's that "good hair" syndrome... I'm surprised she didn't come right out and say she's always had "good hair". I've never liked that expression, by the way.
@brownshuga24 But you know, I feel like if we have the decency to eleminate words like"Good Hair" from our vocabular we should also try to eleminate the ignorance behind them. Tip toeing aroud the subject is still unacceptable u know.
its so funny. This happens in reverse to me. I get the you aint soulful look. I'm with you on this topic. Can't we all just be natural beauties REGARDLESS of the texture?? More loose curls don't make you prettier or special and tighter curls don't make you more soulful or black...dude please...SHEESH.
LOL! FSU, u are tooooo funny! I feel u tho. In reality, black hair, ehemm, ALL black hair is curly...end of story. some curls are just tigher than others like u said. I think it goes back to the idea of basing ur self esteem/ beauty on how "close" u r 2 "straight hair"; the lower or higher u are are on the continum, the more or less acceptable/"prettier"/"uglier" you are.
Why does someone have to tell you their hair is curly? That is something you can observe for yourself..... SMH. :( I've only explained that my hair is naturally curly to people with straight hair (read white people) because many of them honestly don't know about relaxers. You are right; we are all natural and it's sad that people will still find a way to try to divide.
I am sooo frustrated and trying to get my hair soft! I have tried all kinds of oils and noting leaves my hair soft, tired of using Kinky Curly , any suggestions?
@ljb415 i like using combinations. Depending on the stage my hair is in...I like using Carol's Daughter Hair Milk. It works well for softness. I also use a Moracan oil daily. I get it from Sally's.
I love my NAPPY, KINKY, COILY hair...anybody else who can only feel good about saying they're natural by only defining it as curly can kick rocks!!! Happy to be Nappy!!!
The worst thing is when you have natural hair is longer than theirs they feel a type of way about it ....and the question is are you mixed!!!! NAPPY AND HAPPY FOR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BAAAAAAA HHHHAAAAAA SLAVE HAIR!!!!
you're so right! i get that sometimes, too. then i have to realize that people do not always have the mentality that we share here on YT. i think it's kind of sad that those women are ignorant to a degree.
My hair is nappy curly lol I'm proud though straight hair is booorreinggg
wrkin90044 1 week ago
I see beauty in all hairtypes
BritneyGiggles 2 weeks ago
@Igenerally lol if a person doesnt want to go natural they dont have to. I honestly hear more relaxed girls telling me to wear weave, and why? Why is my natural hair not uniform? Why should i HAVE to relax it?
BritneyGiggles 2 weeks ago
your hair is beautiful hun. people like that are they type of people who feels like they better then you because of there hair type how long there hair is and there skin color smh...
lalabeana 4 months ago
Speaking as someone who did not realize that their hair was "curly" even up to five years of being natural; the texture of one's hair does decide the products and styles that they should choose. I spent years trying products and hair styles that I thought would work for me just because I am black. But all black hair is not the same. IT'S ALL BEAUTIFUL but everybody can't do everything. My hair is not only curly (3C) but it's also very fine... lot's of frustration trying to do the wrong things...
TWIGGY281 6 months ago
i love my hair just the way it is nappyy
dadacomedian 7 months ago
lol..this video is sooo funny but TRUE!! I'm from Louisiana and mixed people or lighter colored blacks sometimes do think they are "SPECIAL" because their hair has looser curls. I totally feel this video!!
MsSexyDiva4Lyfe 8 months ago
I know a girl like that. She always bragging about her hair. She's quick to say, " I have good/curly hair, yall have "N" hair." She thinks she's special or something, but really she looks like an idiot. Plus she can't really brag about her hair, b/c she rarely wears it curly. If she does it's in a pony tail or bun.
loveshinae 9 months ago
@loveshinae I like the N in quotation marks lol.
301sophi 9 months ago
@loveshinae Thank you, but I don't know if you know what I mean by "N" hair. The "N" word I was taking about was the " N****r" word. The girl thought that anyone who didn't have hair that looks like heres, they had that kind of hair.
but yeah, I don't use the other "N" word either
loveshinae 9 months ago
i think how one wears their hair is a personal choice a person should NOT be pressured socially too NOT relax their hair or color it a certain color if that is what they decide to do for them. Why are so many blacks trying to guilt other blacks into a uniformed al naturale look if it's a style that a person doesn't want to wear.
Igenerally 9 months ago
@Igenerally This video is not about that, thats a different debate all together.
latia4u 9 months ago
@latia4u Cosign, sister. I never had that experience, but I AM loving your hair.
HappyHooker83 2 weeks ago
I luv u...u r crazy...I ask ppl a lot about there natural hair and yeah I get really strange responses sometimes
redvicredbone 9 months ago
Thank God I Don't meet those kind of people.U're right, natural hair is natural hair. And it's just hair! SMH
HelowAddicted 10 months ago
@latia4u
It is amusing and disgusting when folks try to act like their hair is CURLY, as opposed to COILY, when 4b hair is, technically, CURLIER than 3b hair!
AfreensHair 10 months ago
@AfreensHair I disagree. I think that textures should be categorized because otherwise there would be too many people who make the same mistakes that I made. I grew up thinking that all black people had the same hair type and now that I am an adult and have been natural for a few years I found out that there is not true. Now, do I tell people that I have "good hair"? ABSOLUTELY NOT!! I DON'T BELIEVE IN GOOD HAIR/BAD HAIR. Is my hair curly? Yes. And I should not be made to feel ashamed to say it.
TWIGGY281 6 months ago
@TWIGGY281 I agree with you. I need to watch your video again to see in what context I made that comment. I know everybody's hair is different. I don't have a problem with categorizing at all. I think what I meant to say was most nappy hair iis "curly" it's just that some curls are coiled differently and to varying degrees. :)
AfreensHair 6 months ago
you're very welcome. Yes I could tell that you looked aggevated in your video but believe me...i completely understand....
yacrumpt 1 year ago
you are absolutely right! I've noticed that too...it does not make no difference....people should just say that they hair is natural instead stepping out of their box and saying that their hair is curly natural...they make it seem as if their hair is better or something...i agree with you on that 100%
yacrumpt 1 year ago
@yacrumpt Thanks for commenting, i was so aggravated in this vid, can you tell, lol. I think division helps some people feel special and unique. And you know what, I say more power to you if that is the only way you can feel that. Please dont be a stranger. I love to hear intelligent comments.
latia4u 1 year ago
@yacrumpt I beg to differ. I see women say their hair is nappy all the time, but some folks want to argue with them, even if they're 4b, it's crazy! Kimmaytube gets that ALL the time!
AfreensHair 10 months ago
@PrettyEyedMommy ROFKML! U DID NOTTT! GOHHEEAAD GIRL! I don't blame you..pure foolery!
TantraGal 1 year ago
lol this is funny but no I do use curly/coily/kinky to people who don't have hair like us because they'll say nappy when it's not but I dont say it to other naturals because its a given we know all of our hair is curly
RinLove 1 year ago
lol so funny
MyHairFetish 1 year ago
My daughter and I have experienced the opposite of what you are talking about. People come up to us and say, "Oh well you got "good" hair so YOU can do that." or they ask me if my daughter is mixed because her hair is the way it is. One chick even sed, "Stop trying to pretend that your hair is "good" you KNOW you have a texturizer!". This is the hair i was given and I accept it but it seems as tho others cant. We need to stop this silliness. Thanks for the vid sis.
TheSistahChick 1 year ago
@TheSistahChick I think that is totally the essence of what i am talking about. Sometimes when we are mis-educated about our own hair we buy into all of the brain washing from both our people and society. We say oh that looks pretty because... or she must have altered something because our hair is not like that naturally. Why cant we just see the beauty in ourselves with out reason. I wish we would just stop all the mindless chatter and realize all of our hair is beautiful. Thanks Queen ;)
latia4u 1 year ago
@TheSistahChick I got the texturizer comment too. When I first bc'd. I showed my dad and step mom my hair. My step mom was like you got a texturizer. I was like no. This is my my natural texture. I am chemical free. She said "quit lying girl you know you don't have good hair".
NaturalNola86 1 year ago
@TheSistahChick
I agree! My hair is naturally NAPPY. Nappy = Curly, Kinky, Coily, same thing! We use the same techniques to take care of our hair, anyway! That's why I watch women with textured hair no matter what hair type. I've had ladies with textures tell me that my advice worked.
AfreensHair 10 months ago
Wow I know exactly what you mean, I've heard that before! lol I think some people are so proud of their "curls" because they probably think they have the "good" kind of natural hair. Actually, All natural hair is the good natural hair. I think the unique textures of natural hair all pretty, neat, and mega unique...
Jesavee 1 year ago
I really like your comment, "stop trying to divide based on texture".
daphney94 1 year ago
I just wanted to put out there that it seems to me that you are a tad bit jealous of curly hair.... no one can make you feel as if you hair is nappy or that you cannot say the word curly unless you feel that way about you own hair .....i am proud to see more blacks loving their hair and are boosting up their confidence you need to do the same
kiaranatural13 1 year ago
I love it! If you don't use a chemical relaxer process in your hair, You aRe natural. No matter the texture. I am so with you sista! I have heard my own family members oh and ah over sistahs with looser curl patterns, and turn up their nose at those with tighter curls! Wow! I will try my best to help them out! We got to stop the Division!
magnifyhm 1 year ago
Believe me this just happen to me today,I said the same thing to 63yr. old lady
she had a short afro,she came out an said oh I've always has curlyhair even as a
little girl,an guess what when she said that I could hear (THE PRICE IS RIGHT)music in my ear,it would have been rude but I almost laughed in her face.
Princemom1 1 year ago
Hello! Your hair is glorious. It _is_ Curly. You're right, too. People get hung up on hair and typing it. I get confused if asked and just say "It's curly." LOL. Thanks for your perspective. Keep talking with people you meet. It's nice randomly chatting with another Curly.
DelynofRhondda 1 year ago
Why did you grow it back? You were absolutely stunning without hair?
moderadonna 1 year ago
Not that it matters, but your hair looks curly to me! I don't know...maybe I'm getting the definintion wrong. I was thinking tho, maybe when you come up to them they are thinking you are admiring them in a way like their hair is so special that you had to come up to them and say something to them (a complete stranger) so they are trying to explain it. Just a thought.
ferntre 1 year ago
@ferntre I see how you could say that, but I am already interacting with them because they are my patients. So while i am treating them and spending time with them i bring it up. I dont just out of the blue say stuff to random people. The natural hair topic is always a sidebar convo.
latia4u 1 year ago
@latia4u OOOOOOHHH....well that's different then. Sorry that you have experienced that. Some people just think they are special I guess.
ferntre 1 year ago
LOL@ "you have #5 hair so. . . you're special"
mikka203 1 year ago
LMBO!!!I know what u mean...but the worse is to see a natural and her head looks like sadia arabia!! i be thinkn like, BABBBYYYY....Put some oil on that dry mess!!!! but i dont say it! lol....but at least if u gonna be natural,get the knowledge on how to take care of it...ohhhhh and another one,is to see the nap of the neck with BBs lookn like they are run'n from their back....ughh...get a razor and clean that mess up!!! lol...sorry i had to say it!!! lmboooo
shon4christ 1 year ago
Girl this sister said the forbidden words of my daughter has had natural
hair for two yrs,an she takes hair after her father(nappy),she didn't take
after me with curly hair,oh my goodness,, i though i would explode...
But be proud of me i kept the PEACE...IT WAS VERRRRRRRRRRY HARD.
Princemom1 1 year ago
I see what you are saying. I feel all natural hair is special and should be celebrated. Each texture has it's own personality; the fun part of this natural journey is getting to discover what our hair can do. I haven't had those types of experiences in talking to folks. Maybe they are just talking w/o thinking how it may sound.don't let it to ya.
teaberry73 1 year ago
I like the price is right sound effect also,, I feel you Latia4u, I have had people come up to me and say "if I had curly hair like you I would go natural" I have to stop them right then and their and say all hairtype of a black woman is beautiful. I go even further to say once you go on a journey with your hair, its more than just hair that you are dealing with, you are dealing with rediscovering you and how God made you and its all good, you learn to love yourself for who and what you are.
Londa42 1 year ago
At my work i so not care what they have to say about my locs,that they stop ask those
stupid behind question about natural hair (that's white folk as well as black folk).Thanks to youtube they think i came up with all my styles myself, thank you
youtube family.
Princemom1 1 year ago
You're bold I see alot of naturals and wonder how long they've been natural and ask them other questions, but I know people don't like to be bothered, so I just look and wonder LOL I don't think they're trying to say it as though their hair is better some people don't know how they sound when they say certain things, or they don't think about what they're saying, maybe they were just caught off guard. Don't let it get to you.
chisellecouture 1 year ago
I feel you totally I am so tired of everybody with all these curls poppin or defined, coily, am I the only sista wit nappy hair ?
yattamook 1 year ago
Hey I feel you on so much. I feel you about some products work better on some hair vs other's hair..... I dnt have curls in my hair..its just on my head ,that's what I say now. I just now know that having healthy hair is so much better. Thanks for ur video
Lovelyladybug12ify 1 year ago
I soooo feeeeel YOU!!!
Girl because unfortunately we as black people are still trying to have the whitest natural hair(ie curly) possible. We are still trying to be white. Those who are saying they have that extra special curly hair are psycologically not natural. Your hair is beautiful ad currrrrly.
qmaylee 1 year ago
I literally LOL watching this video!!!! I have experienced the same thing from other naturals and it really irks me! If no one else feels you... I FEEL YOU! I just wanna scream sometimes "it's just hair honey!" I believe some people have an innate sense of separatism. I could go on forever, but in short: I feel you!
KinkyCharlieB 1 year ago
Just because they wear their HAIR natural doesn't mean that their mine is (for lack of a better word)afrocentric,their are some sisters that love the look,but minesets are not completely free,however you stay with a peaceful mine,thats what the natural journal is all about.
Princemom1 1 year ago 2
I know what you're on about! It's so annoying! Once, I told a friend that I was going natural, and she kept asking me what my hair type was, then she told me about her friend, who's also transitioning, making special emphasis on the curliness of her hair. Then she kept asking me if I was sure I knew what I was doing. What's she on about!?
ashababe56 1 year ago
@ashababe56 wow. u should have told her as shure as the last signature on the emancipation proclamation....
latia4u 1 year ago
@ashababe56 I also had someone tell me that everyone can't go natural ie ppl w? hair like mine
monicajoi 1 year ago
Don't let that get you down. Maybe she did not understand the term "natural" . That term can mean something totally different to others. Natural to me just means chemical free. I no longer relax my hair so I am rocking it in its natural state (the way it grows out of my head). For some it could mean curly, kinky or just the texture...
Naturallylovelycurls 1 year ago
cont...so when you approach them and they are not linked to the youtube natural hair community for instance, they begin to talk about their texture or how their hair looks because that is what natural means to them. But only you know the vibe they gave off so you just continue to rock the naturally beautiful you.
Naturallylovelycurls 1 year ago
@Naturallylovelycurls ur right....exhale
latia4u 1 year ago
I feel ya on this! natural hair is natural hair..lol just different curl types like u said..but natural is natural! people are silly..smh..lol
cawitsme 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy
LMAO! No she didnt! Lol!!!
MahoganyCurls 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy LMAO!
MahoganyCurls 1 year ago
Girl, I was c t f u!!!!!!
ShiningThru 1 year ago
Hey Girl!!! .... People are funny huhhhh... they got that Tiger Woods Syndrome thinkin that they are "cablanasian"... and not simply black ... somehow that just ain't good enough .... but it's good enough for us-- girl hahaha lol ... we are African American Girls with Afros... and that is wonderful -- ;)
lovennappiness 1 year ago
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What I normally get are the competively disillusioned permer's ( what I call them) that haven't permed their hair in 6 months, so they call it natural...lol I've been told on a few occasions " I wish I could get my hair to be like yours, but it just won't curl." Oh really?...
On the reverse end, I've had biracial girls ( with coarser hair textures than they would like) ask me, "What do you use to "make" your hair do that?" As if since I am not biracial, I have to "make" my hair do something.
NightGypsie 1 year ago
What I normally get are the competively disillusioned permer's ( what I call them) that haven't permed their hair in 6 months, so they call it natural...lol I've been told on a few occasions " I wish I could get my hair to be like yours, but it just won't curl." Oh really?...
On the reverse end, I've had biracial girls ( with coarser hair textures than they would like) ask me, "What do you use to "make" your hair do that?" As if since I am not biracial, I have to "make" my hair do something.
NightGypsie 1 year ago
this bothers me too a little. i would not hesitate to say that 90+ percent of natural black people (that i have met anyway) either have some tight coil or some kind of kink going on in their hair. "curl" just isnt the word for our hair and people need to realize that that is OK. just saying the word "curly" does NOT make ur hair curly or (more often than not) any less nappy than mine!
butterflyze 1 year ago
Sista, u are right. but, the reason is because we as Black people have so much self-hate. We have been brain washed to hate ourselves. We have to turn this around. We have to address these issues and change our mind set. You are doing just that. You are forcing poeple to think and dialogue about these issues in the Black community. Let's keep the discussion going.
nmc37 1 year ago
@nmc37 I am very touched by this comment... u are so right. i makes me look back on the experience with sadness. I almost feel sorry for them with the whole subconcious self hate thing. We have to combate this ignorance with education.Peace Queen, Thanks for the wisdom
latia4u 1 year ago
Gurl don't let anyone's ignorance disturb your peace. They will be alright:)
MyBlackIsNatural 1 year ago
Well said, and YES, even 4a/b hair is technically "curly".
SweetVirginiaNatural 1 year ago
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Loved the Price is Right sound effect!! LOL!!!!!!!
kurtisgirlpinky 1 year ago
Loved the Price is Right sound effect! LOL!!!!!
kurtisgirlpinky 1 year ago
I agree with you totally. It aggrivates the crap out of me when people categorize their hair or my hair. It doesn't matter if your hair is "curly" or "kinky", it's natural so rock it hard Divas!!!
ervinrc 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy LOL they always do that!
spbiz 1 year ago
It's all in an effort to feel like they are more relatable to what's acceptable. It's sad that even some "natural" women think that their hair is better because it's curlier, as oppossed to being kinkier. It's because of the oppression we've had to endure since the slave days when women started straightening their hair in order to pass. Can't really fault them because it has been the way of life for so long. But, thank God things are slowly but surely changing.
vddavis123 1 year ago
@vddavis123 oh so slowly...i almos feel like it is in reverse for a little while. Because in the 70's the fro was the junk, u know!
latia4u 1 year ago
I feel you girl! My hair is very kinky....but let me say, I can rock a mean fro...;o). But it pisses me off to, when you compliment someone on their natural hair and the first thing out of their mouth is "oh, I've always had NATURALLY CURLY hair" As if they aren't "really" natural. But forget those haters....obviously they are full of self hate.
nickyworth25 1 year ago 2
"Am I just suppose to be a slave because your hair is...something SO special!" LOL!!! I've had the same thing happen to me from individuals I've gone up to randomly. It's like they want to clue you in that their hair is NOT in the same category as yours. I don't even bother people anymore...I wait for them to say something to me before I strike up a convo...it's that sad..
CheapisCute 1 year ago 2
lmao
at the price as right sound effects
PeaceLoveandFreckles 1 year ago 4
@PeaceLoveandFreckles lol, u caught that ;)
latia4u 1 year ago
@latia4u me and my great grandma used to watch it all the time :)
PeaceLoveandFreckles 1 year ago
It is just another divisional discriminatory tatic, that's all it is, just another term used to divide and seperate us, making us "kinky haired" ladies not as "good" or "acceptable" or beautiful as ladies with a more loose curl pattern. Get over themselves is what they need 2 do! Can't we just all get along! Girl, don't let this stuff get 2 you, now u know u can't just go up and talk 2 everyone just b/c they r natural, they may be on an whole notha trip.
tjbmom123 1 year ago
I just experienced a black guy who has a biracial daughter with straight hair ask me if his daughter's hair will turn out like mine....my hair is combination 4a/4b. I explained that I have afro textured hair and his daughter basically has straight hair, so probably not. The guy then chimed in and told me my hair wasn't afro textured, it's curly....I told him that most black people have curly hair.....he looked at me like I was crazy....and he was wearing locks! My people are so funny LOL!
IMINTOMAKEUPNOW 1 year ago
@IMINTOMAKEUPNOW our people are so funny, lol and they dont even know it.
latia4u 1 year ago
Not just black women, an older caucasian guy who had a biracial grandchild was complaining about how hard it was for his wife to take care of her hair. When I begin giving him advice on how I take care of my daughters similar hair, he was determined I didnt understand because theres NO WAY a full black child could have hair like his granddaughters! Hair is freakin' hair folks!! *smh
reinventingthenorm 1 year ago
@reinventingthenorm Wow, i feel you on that one. I once had a man ask me if I braided hair (his child was asian and black) i told him i did and his wife was so excited. I tried to talk to him about some of the problems he was having with his daughters hair and he look at me like i had egg on my face.
latia4u 1 year ago
i normally have the opposite affect on ppl though. Like my cousin her hair is natural and she is begging for a perm i am like why do you want to perm your hair its really pretty dont perm it. She said i dont like natural hair, i told her my hair is natural and she said but you have curly hair... i was like w/e your hair is curly too and she said not like yours. i dont get it really, its like as black people we always have to rank ourselves...
solidice242 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy Yes, I've run into those types too as if they are explaining why their hair is the way it is...somehow different from the norm...It annoys me when I hear, oh yes, my hair is like this because I'm 1/3 cat, dog, chicken, irish, italian, fruitcake...whatever!!!!
chubbi44 1 year ago 23
@chubbi44 I loved this lol at " I am 1/3 cat dog...EXACTLY!
tjbmom123 1 year ago
@chubbi44 HHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! ****tears******
latia4u 1 year ago
That's why I am hestitant to compliment women with natural hair when I see them because some of them act as if their from another planet...Most of the ones I've come in contact with are NORMAL but you have those few like the ones you are talking about in this video that are simply from another planet...
chubbi44 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy lmaoo I can't stand that.
PrettyBrownEyes718 1 year ago
CUTE! I, like you prefer my twistout after a couple days...I love BIG HAIR!!!
chubbi44 1 year ago
I love this video!! Girlfriend you are so on point I am definitlley making this a favorite!!
lilallnatural1 1 year ago
Thank you! I have a friend who does that about skin color. She always says "well for light skinned people, or for us light skinned..." etc. Always reiterating it. As if she were somehow separate from the rest of black diaspora. She spoke as if she were white or something! "Well I'm white (light skinned) so..." What the H-E- DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS?!?!! We're all black people. You are not exclusive or better because you are lighter. That really pissed me off and I told her so in a very nice way.
Weewinkle7 1 year ago
@Weewinkle7 lol, in a nice way tehee. Yeah I once got a sunburn cuz i want my back to be an even complection so i laid out in the sun. It mad my back peel and i had really sensitive skin. But when I said this to a fair skinned person they looked at me like i was crazy, and didnt respond. It was like a record scratched, lol
latia4u 1 year ago
lol...girl you make a valid point.
NotoriousLYNappy1 1 year ago
i feel you latia...
but we ARE talking about black women right? well, it's my humble opinion that a lot of us HAVE to have some way to separate "us" from "them."
first light/dark, then relaxed/natural & now nappy/curly...
i love the what you said:
"we're not so different..."
sigh...
LongHairDontCareLLC 1 year ago
@LongHairDontCareLLC Yeah i had to cut part of that out cuz i thought my head would explode if i didnt take a break , exhale and collect my thoughts. It is so funny how similar we are yet we still choose to divide outselves.
latia4u 1 year ago
Closed mindedness is a terrible condition!!!!!
saxophone01 1 year ago 3
@saxophone01 Lol
latia4u 1 year ago
LOL! Yes, this is a great vid. I love your intro btw.
holyghostcarrier 1 year ago
@holyghostcarrier Thanks ms.lady, been loving your vidz
latia4u 1 year ago
@PrettyEyedMommy LOL!
brownshuga24 1 year ago
Honey, that's that "good hair" syndrome... I'm surprised she didn't come right out and say she's always had "good hair". I've never liked that expression, by the way.
brownshuga24 1 year ago 4
@brownshuga24 But you know, I feel like if we have the decency to eleminate words like"Good Hair" from our vocabular we should also try to eleminate the ignorance behind them. Tip toeing aroud the subject is still unacceptable u know.
latia4u 1 year ago
@latia4u Agreed!
brownshuga24 1 year ago
its so funny. This happens in reverse to me. I get the you aint soulful look. I'm with you on this topic. Can't we all just be natural beauties REGARDLESS of the texture?? More loose curls don't make you prettier or special and tighter curls don't make you more soulful or black...dude please...SHEESH.
CreativelySoulful 1 year ago
LOL! FSU, u are tooooo funny! I feel u tho. In reality, black hair, ehemm, ALL black hair is curly...end of story. some curls are just tigher than others like u said. I think it goes back to the idea of basing ur self esteem/ beauty on how "close" u r 2 "straight hair"; the lower or higher u are are on the continum, the more or less acceptable/"prettier"/"uglier" you are.
Geezeimhungry 1 year ago 2
Why does someone have to tell you their hair is curly? That is something you can observe for yourself..... SMH. :( I've only explained that my hair is naturally curly to people with straight hair (read white people) because many of them honestly don't know about relaxers. You are right; we are all natural and it's sad that people will still find a way to try to divide.
jmailj 1 year ago
I am sooo frustrated and trying to get my hair soft! I have tried all kinds of oils and noting leaves my hair soft, tired of using Kinky Curly , any suggestions?
ljb415 1 year ago
@ljb415 i like using combinations. Depending on the stage my hair is in...I like using Carol's Daughter Hair Milk. It works well for softness. I also use a Moracan oil daily. I get it from Sally's.
CreativelySoulful 1 year ago
Well said!
roseoftara 1 year ago
Love the video!
ladycurlyhead 1 year ago
I love my NAPPY, KINKY, COILY hair...anybody else who can only feel good about saying they're natural by only defining it as curly can kick rocks!!! Happy to be Nappy!!!
mizchei1 1 year ago
The worst thing is when you have natural hair is longer than theirs they feel a type of way about it ....and the question is are you mixed!!!! NAPPY AND HAPPY FOR LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BAAAAAAA HHHHAAAAAA SLAVE HAIR!!!!
safire718 1 year ago
Those people are just close minded and don't think outside the box.
sweetnessk29 1 year ago
Lol girl your funny
sweetnessk29 1 year ago
Hillarious, but sooo true!
msdansby 1 year ago
great vid!
ChrissieA33 1 year ago
you're so right! i get that sometimes, too. then i have to realize that people do not always have the mentality that we share here on YT. i think it's kind of sad that those women are ignorant to a degree.
suthernbella 1 year ago