When do you start a new relationship after a break up or divorce?

[AshasJourney]

HELP!! when my boyfriend Was 20 yrs old, he dated his first love and first girl to take his v-card for 9 months.. they broke up with eachother and we became official a month later.. it's been a year now and we are still together and he loves me and does not communicate with her or talk about her anymore.. am i still considered a rebound???

[glamcam23]

love your show i subbed.. your info really helping me during my break up now all i need to do now is move out i been celibate for 2 months now

[queenTrdh]

Does that mean that after 25yrs one should wait 10 -12.5yrs b4 starting a relationship? If so a person would have missed out on so many potentially wonderful years

[jamala38]

Great advice! I just divorced after 11yrs, I'm not even thinking of another relationship right now. I feel I'll be ready for something new once I stop throwing up in my mouth everytime the idea comes up!!!

[peterpetersnbg]

marriage should be banned in the USA.. its just a farce

[sherrib71]

allready did the rebound thing, hoping for something more this time around

[Holworks]

Hi Abiola! I am glad I stopped by. Love your advice! I believe the time to wait after a relationship depends on so many things, the most formidable being how did the relationship end? Some people cannot be alone and will partner up despite the living arrangements or it seems the person they are with at the time - transient attitudes do not make long term partners. I like rule number 3. One must be content with being alone. She's there somewhere - I can feel it in my bones.

[misterpantybuns]

I discovered you just recently on the Blogspot blog at blogsisters.blogspot  (Blog Sisters). Love it.

[PlanetAbiola]

@misterpantybuns Thanks

[ChaosButterfly8]

whoops! Sorry, I didn't realize it had already posted. I'm new at this.

[ChaosButterfly8]

Most people you date are nice and there is nothing wrong with them, only its missing that extra "thing". So unless your willing to get involved with someone who only fits into the "nice" category you will be single for a while by default.

[bornkool]

I like what you're doing over here, Stay Up 1Luv

[LostPlum]

great advise from one great lady! xo

[ColeeLocks]

This was great advice! THanks for this!

[PlanetAbiola]

@ColeeLocks Thanks Colee! xoxo

[joncamanei]

I think you are a very sexy lady

[LuvemOrLeavem]

I agree with everything except the half rule. Whoever wrote that one must have had mainly short relationships, because for my friends who have gotten divorced after 30 years of marriage, they'll be in a nursing home before they can date again:)

You look fabulous as always, and I love that little commentary that pops up in your videos--so high tech!

[PlanetAbiola]

WOW. 30 year relationships -- half definitely won't work there!! :-) lol

[kasper8840]

Thank abi,haha,your a welcome,love you baby ,haha big kiss from me to,bye.

[deandrakixx1]

Stay awesome, Abi! You rock!!!

[PlanetAbiola]

Thanks for watching D!

[dsp7631]

I was in a relationship for 18 years noway was I going to wait 9 years before getting into another one!

[PlanetAbiola]

WOW!!! I agree. You should absolutely not wait 9 years. That would be insane. :-) Have fun-- and congrats on your new start and new freedom. xoxo

[PlanetAbiola]

YES!!! This was YOUR question. I'm going to add an annotation shouting YOU out. xoxoxo

[RealGurl920]

good advice abiola

[bertmarx]

5 years he must be locked up..

[Pirate7X]

Single hunh?... ; >

Ha, back to the question. I believe you should date freely but be more careful & selective about the next serious relationship.

Examine what went wrong and right with you and the other person. Try avoid any past mistakes and improve on the best parts.

[kimmaytube]

Great tips, Abiola!

I don't think women should wait *years* though. Because we women only get older. I can't imagine a 25 year old waiting until she's 30 to become seriously involved again.

Life is too short and tomorrow is not guaranteed!

[PlanetAbiola]

I agree, Kimmay! But a 25 year old was probably not in a 10 year relationship. Hopefully not!! :-D

[PlanetAbiola]

You guys are awesome. I love the comments.

[Artsamust]

Thanks for the advise Abiola..Unlike AmmoShockTroop who apparently has not healed from sum past relationship!

Take a moment to heal properly...ITS OK TO BE ANGRY...thats normal, but to hold a grudge an become bitter and crap on everybody else is just corny

GET SUM LOVE

[journalism101]

This is great series and I give it 5*. Honestly, it's a 2 yr. grace period before I enter a new relationship but it's been a unknown pattern than a known set time period and I only been in 3 serious relationships.

[MsSugaPlumPlum]

If the relationship is DONE why wait that is just wasting your time. Be smart about your next guy and always reach for better.

[pinkpornstar1]

But you are right Get your life back and pamper yourself... But its okay to date just dont ty yourself down

[PlanetAbiola]

Exactly!

[pinkpornstar1]

How long??? Hell if its ending marriage I will be dating 2 weeks after I have packed..

[AmmoShockTroop]

why even bother?

[PlanetAbiola]

Why even bother what?

[AmmoShockTroop]

Dating and another relationshit.