Okay i know i'm going to sound pretty stupid, but I've only perform oral sex one time and that's it...haven't done anything. but I understand I'm not considered a virgin, but at the same time I havent had inter course...so I'm really confused at to what to consider myself because i tell guys all the time ima virgin bc im too much of a chicken to do anything..which is kinda sad bc im 21 but thats beside the point..whet the heck am i?! lol
It's slightly contradictory and confusing because I'm technically not a virgin because I've had 'roaming fingers' but no penetration yet, you go on to talk about how a virgin's "nana" is better than 90% of the women on the planet, so that refers to all of those who have not had penetration and that includes me. Ahhh, why am I even bothering to reply..
@ 9:15 lmao funny as hell but obviously this isn't something that can truly be talked about in one video hopefully you go into more detail about this topic because there are some exceptions. Great job on these videos of yours.
A virgin is someone has not engaged in sexual intercourse, i.e. penis-vaginal penetration. A person who has experienced oral sex, is just that---experienced.
If sex is what it is, no matter in what form, then why do men want sex (=>penetration) so bad, and not only "touchin" or whatever?Ok I got the end.:)But I am a virgin because I have never let anyone inside me.period. It's still sth. else than just being intimate with a guy or if he had his fun just lookin at me..
But I understand that the gurl isn't as "pure" anymore..also because she might have lied to herself. But yet It will be special for THE one guy - that's my ideal at least, still. I'm 21
this prolly has nothing to do with the topic but i hate when people be like men can roam free but women have to be set in one place and for one man. FUCK THAT SHIT! ROFL!!!
so what if you break your hyman (cherry) using a tampon or horseback riding,sports masterbation? you have never had sex but your hymans gone. are you still a virgin?
He's right. If you been touched in any way your not a virgin 'cause your not untouched. being a virgin technically means having no idea of how something feels like because you never been touched!!
Playing devils advocate :) I feel anal sex, oral sex and sex are totally different. Just because the root word is sex doesn't make them anymore similar. A veggieburger and hamburger both have the words burger in them. She can eat a million and one veggieburgers, but it's not until the day she decides to eat that one hamburger has she become a meat eater?
i think if a man hasnt stuck his penis in your snatch...and if ur a man and u havent stuck your penis in a girl's snatch, then youre a virgin. oral sex is a form of sex and i dont think youre very pure if youve done that but i still think youre pretty much a virgin.
if youre a gay man and u got some ding ding up the poop shoot then youre not a virgin lol
plus he even said it himself. when he defined the FIRST dictionary definition. not having "sexual intercourse". it didn't say not having oral or anal or finger etc. assuming most people go by the first definition.
i dont agree with him at all. oh so i guess if a virgin goes to the gyn and the trained professional has to explore that area did she just loose her virginity? or what if shes had her tities sucked is she no longer a virgin?lol look if i man has entered her with her penis shes no longer a virgin, if her cherry has been popped she is no longer a virgin simple.
I lost my virginity a few months ago at 19. I knew he wasn't "the one" and that we wouldn't be together, but I was ready to do it and have no regrets. The experience has helped me.
Honestly no one knows why we,women have hymens some scientists believe its just there to protect the vagina from germs and stuff. I as a virgin(I really am!) ask myself that all the time, I think its stupid to have.
well I think its more special than that. I place a high value on virginity for some reason, probably because Ive never dated a virgin in my whole life.
I was jutr giving you an answer to your question. I think virginity is special also, I plan on staying a virgin till marriage because I think its a good choice for me. I believe guys who are virgins are very strong not to give in to society's image of a man. Well ummm if you wanted to date a virgin I guess you should go to chruch(there might be some good girls there). Don't just date a girl b/c shes a virgin either that's very shallow.
Wow that's a very romantic view of it. I believe God intended for me(I won't say "people" b/c people will get mad) to remain a virgin until marriage. Plus it's the only way to protect myself 100% from unwanted pregnacy, diseases and a broken heart. But I think if a guy wants to marry a virgin...he should be a virgin too. NO double standards. If my husband isn't a virgin I'll need to have him tested before I even lay in the same bed with him!
Well sometimes for some women it isn't painful as in a sharp pain but just a little uncomfortable. Some people think if sex doesn't hurt then you must not be a virgin..that's a lie. Well I do agree with you,something as private and possibly painful as sex I would want to be with someone who I really loved also.
Actually Gurl TV is Wrong WROng Worng, a Virgin is someone who has not ahd their HYMAN the "seal" Broken, . DOnt beleive this bull shitttt! Just becasue you got your titties touched does not mean that you are not a virgin. That is not true and can actually make girls who re holdiong off actually having sex start having sex becasue they think it is too late. GO to churh and ask your pastor. Every child goes through an exploration phase, but to actually have sex is totally different.
I agree children do go through exploraton phases. We learn this in psychology but some women are born without hymens or break it when they take gymnastics or horseback riding so this cannot determine if every woman is a virgin.
i agree. sometimes this guy gives pretty good advice and insight but i dont agree with this video. his ideas of what a virgin is, is totally incorrect
I can't agree. It's your opinion and i can respect that at least. There are alot of virgin girls and guys who have kissed and touched each other WITHOUT oral or intercourse. I've even asked my doctors about this. Gynocologists still consider women virgins because they haven't had vaginal INTERCOURSE and being a virgin doesn't mean you get out of taking the yearly pap smear. I had to take one just because i turned 21. It was extremely painful and uncomfortable.
Hi! I barely found you on youtube today (oct 31) ... Ive been watching your videos for two hours now (i dont go out on halloween anymore). You are hella funny! But what I like most about you is that your topics are very intelligent and real at the same time, I like that... Now Im not a virgin so with this one I cant relate ... what I want to know now is how does a man feel or think about a woman who is abstaining from sex although she's had sex before?
I know a girl who is a virgin still.. I talk to her all the time... sooo..I guess i can get her to watch this.. she isnt a youtube member though.... umm.. as far as would i lose it again at the age taht i lost it.. mine was taken from me.. sooooo.. had that have not happened, id still be a virgin now
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I lost my virginity at 16....never been touched. i also had never worn a tampon til about 6 months before that....uh....that hurt BAD. it wouldn't fit! no joke seriously. i tried and tried for like a year before to get a tampon up there but it just wouldn't fit...until i MADE it fit and yeah it hurt like hell. so i'd say a REAL virgin won't be able to fit a tampon. of course after i lost it, it was a lot easier to fit it.lol hope that's not tmi.
Good vid. All these years, I've considered losing ur virginity, doing the actual deed. So, I guess according to your theory, I lost it at, 14. (doing ther things) I've always considered myself losing it at 15, which was the real deal, basically. Yes, i wouldve waited because of all of the problems that followed me losing it, yet I wouldnt have learned what I learned this far (at 18) about sex and life. But yes, generally, I wouldve waited.
I'm a virgin, and I really don't understand whats the hype of virginity. But anyways the reason why people regret having sex the first time is because they were not ready. They don't listen to their body and inner-self, instead their ego. The ego deceives you very well, on telling you that you're doing the right thing even though the person might not be ready. So listening is the key, when it comes to making decisions.
i'm sorry I find this video extremely sexist. A virgin can be a man OR a woman. Claiming the word to only stretch to describing females only perpetulates the double standards some cultures have when it comes to virginity, IE feamles being killed for not being virgins after marriage, by men(who themselves were not virgins either.) I do believe virginity is more serious when it comes to women, as their first time is going to be a lot more painful and possibly more emotionaly heavy, but that is it.
Please note the first sentence in the description. "The Virgin Chronicles is an in depth look at the realities a virgin faces when HE or she decides that it is their time to move forward and forever let go of their virginity." That said, the topic was requested by a woman who was interested in learning one males perspective on virginity. GTTV Verdict: We the People Find the Accuser Guilty of Unwarranted Sexism Slander. Your sentence Watch all my videos & SUBSCRIBE DAMN IT. lol
Not been touched, huh? Eeeeh. I dont agree with that, I know it means "untouched" but when a girl goes to the doctor and gets checked up (sorry to be graphic) they use a plastic-thingy to spread the lips...and it HURTS! STILL A VIRGIN! IF ANYTHING HURTS ENTERING...STILL A VIRGIN! lol
i agree. i went to the gynocologist and they made me get a pap smear and I told them i was a virgin. but they had to do it since i was 21. and I screamed. i don't get why women have to do the pap smear if they never had sex before.
yeah, some people take the word "untouched" literally. "untouched" in the bible doesn't mean if you kiss she is no longer a virgin. it was another way of saying if a woman has intercourse with a man she has been touched.
I think if someone has been raped there are indeed a virgin. When you cant get a tampon up there...etc. (okay just an ex. I dont want to be to graphic) you're a virgin. I but one thing I dont think its fair that a some1s a virgin just because theyre nice. Or try to rethink the meaning of virginity cause they feel guilty about losing it so soon. (which most non-virgins constantly admit too!)
I was 19 and yes I'd wait if I could do it all over bc the relationship crashed and burned lol.
I have a question though...what if no one else touched them but they touched their own body? Are you still a virgin? That doesn't apply to me but I'm just curious of what you think.
So I can understand how you may consider a person who has experiences oral sex, not a virgin, but to say you can only call yourself a virgin you have NEVER been touched, now that I'm anxious to hear your explanation on. So what do you call a person that has been touched, but has never done anything sexually (orally, or otherwise)?? GREAT VIDEO!!
I have no regrets about losing my virginity, because at that moment it was what I wanted and with who I wanted. No I am not with that person anymore, but by my experience with him (outside of sex) was a wonderful lesson that will be with me to carry into my other relationships.
To girls considering to have sex for the first time: Make sure its your decision and no one else's. If you are having doubts, then don't do it...let no one pressure you. Being a virgin is NOT a bad thing.
I soooo wish I waited until marriage. Because it less to compare ur man too. U cant miss what you never had! lol. Also, even more so becuase I am a christian now.
Sadly enough, I don't know any virgins. Well if they are virgins they are like young teen agers and I'm still not 100% sure. About me, if I could be RE-VIRGINATED, I would definitely keep my stuff to myself longer. It was a painful, terrible experience and dude sucked! Just get it in by any means necessary. I wish I would have waited until I was older and able to have my virginity taken by an older, more experienced man.
I am a woman and i agree with you. I hear so many girls talk about the fact that they only do anal, so it still makes them a virgin. That is sooo not true in my opinion. Your vagina may still be a virgin but you are not.
dumb question though. Is kissing considered exploring sexually???
I wish, I wish, I wish I would have waited but times got hard and so was he( ha ha ha). I was of age and so was he but he acted like a child. I mean he had feelings and I didn't the end
wait.you'll regret it if you do it with the wrong person or at the wrong time.
but, i think that you may not be a "virgin" if you have oral sex or whatever, but there are def. more emotional consequences of intercourse. speaking from experience.
Some people may stuggle with your definition of what a virgin is. In all honesty I did because by your terms I am not a virgin. I was sexually molested when I was 7, however from that point I have never had any sexual contact. Does your definition of virginity apply to those who may have been sexually abused?
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! And I will be sure to elaborate more in upcoming episodes, but just for the record SEXUAL ABUSE does NOT APPLY to the definition provided.
@GurlTalkkTV Why not, aside from saving any psychological damage (wow I sound so thoughtless), but the definition changes because of a person's circumstance??
So for example if the definition of stinky means that I exude a potent odour, I am exempt from it because I haven't had running water to bathe in 3 days??
Everyone is a statistic. You being a virgin at whatever age and being black (I presume) makes you a statitic of a certain category. We're all statistics.
Plus, if you have to ask people to think about "when they want to lose virginity" then does that not suggest that there is an 'act' to be performed in order to do so??..Sex in itself aside from it being an self gratifying experience serves to create a child, and so even though oral sex and exploratory sexual acts, such as touching, you suggest 'is sex', can these things lead to the production of a child???....
so that last quote really scared mean "your vriginity means everything and nothing to me: I'm really scared by the "means nothing" part, because what the hell I am saving myself for "nothing". A lot of these guys run superbly good game (like I bet you do ;-)) and sometimes I get so damn near falling for some of their tricks. It's getting harder. :-(
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I was 15 when I lost my virginity by the dictionary definition. 16 by the more widely accepted and indefinately false definition. If I could do it again, would I wait? No. Simply because I waited for the right person and I did it because I wanted to. He was gentle and caring and that alone made it special for me.
I think if I had to do it all again, I would wait. I mean, there really isn't a "right" or "wrong" time to lose it so to speak, but if you feel its the "right" time for you, think about the aftermath.
Is this person worth getting something that is supposed to be held dear to you?
Just because someone says 'I Love You' doesn't make them worthy of getting something you can't get back.
Make the right choice before giving it up ladies/gents. Hell, even said 'non-virgins'.
No disrespect towards anyone but why does everyone feel the need to tell the age of when they lost their virginity and how sad they are about because they regret it?
Veronica, maybe people are choosing 2 share b/c this topic is not about being self-centered. Maybe its b/c they can see past themselves & recognize that this video is not about us non-virgins but 4 the many young boys & girls who can benefit from hearing real experiences from adults whether positive or negative 2 receive as much info as possible 2 make an informed decision about sex. There are many young impressionable minds out there, so please consider there needs b4 your own. Peace :)
That is fine if people want to share. And you don't have to remind me to consider other peoples needs. I was just wondering because that was not the point of his video.
i am 14 years old and i am still a virgin (yay me) it makes me unique and im gonna hold on to it as long as i can...and if u think about it..gettin fingered is like mad stupid cuz technically..u lost ur innocence..to a fuckin finger..
to answer your question sir i would have waited...im male im 16 now i lost mine at 15...i completely regrett my decision and wish i could take it back because i did not lose my virginity to a person truly loved and to me thats wat sex is all about....
Wow. I lost mines at 14 (intercourse) but by your definition I was 11 (i had discovered that violating myself felt good, lol). I'm 26 now and have said for a decade that if I could go back I'd be a virgin to this day. My desire to have sex at such a young age was a direct reflection of how BAD my self-esteem was at that time. I tell teenagers and pre-teens all the time the importance of waiting, and how so many women they know would have waited if they could. Interesting topic.
Answering your question is hard. I'm torn between yes and no. I want to say yes I would have waited. But at the same time, everything I've done in my past, including my sexual experiences, has made me who I am today. I'm not sure I'd be the same person if I were still a virgin. Loosing my virginity changed my life, but its all worked out for my good and I have no regrets...well maybe a couple...there were a few triflin BOYS I could have gone without...if I knew then what I know now... :)
No bullsheeeeeit, you just took a nucca back when I use to play "house, doctor, and hide & go get(finger fuckin'em)" with the honeys...LOL...Damn good shit, slim!!!
I love you breakin it down, finally someone with the correct ibfo on virginity. "however slight" a finger, penis,tongue,sex toy. You are no longer a virgin, so sell that to someone who dont ask questions lol.
ah! this creates all types of bitter feelings within me, but you speak the truth. I lost my virginity as a (way too young teen) to some 20 year old who didn't appreciate it at the time. Save it for your husband.
I was actually havin this conversation with a young girl i know. She's 16 a virgin and startin to think about it alot lately. I was tellin her i was 17 when i lost mine and given the chance again i would most definately have decided not to. its so hard to tell young people that its not a good idea, cause girls wanna be close to someone and they feel sex makes them close to someone. I think i needed to do it to realize it was a bad idea. I guess the key is to learn from your mistakes.
You make mention of the fact that even a graze, a graze Temple, qualifies as exploration and furthermore puts the female in the used category. Some female athletes through heightened physical activity/sports have broken their hymens. To a potential mate, that would give the impression that she has been previously explored. Does that make her any less virginal than those females who still have theirs in tact? I dont think so. Clearly this is an issue that cannot be oversimplified.
Now on the flip side of the argument looking at the homosexual relationship, although the organs involved are not vagina and penis, the terms virgin and non-virgin are still applicable. Since men do not have hymens, when a man is anally or orally intimate with another man, does that still make him a virgin? I dont think so! As with many other situations, it is obvious a double standard exists here.
If a woman visited her ob/gyn, the presence of a hymen would unequivocally constitute her as virginal despite her vast sexual exploration via oral, anal, whatever.
I wouldnt say that Med because a lot of women dont even have hymens anymore. Bike riders and gymnast or some just active girls they dont have it.
And another thing Temple you mean to tell me if a woman has had oral sex with a man she is not a virgin? What sense does that make? Or someone who has been fingered? a finger decides if you are not a virgin or not...no babe WAY off. I think that is ridiculous.You cited the definition in your vid then you gave your own spin on it. incorrect!
According to the technical definition cited in your vid,"...a virgin is a person who hasn't experienced sexual intercourse." Sexual intercourse itself traditionally relates to the heterosexual relationship and the penetration of the vagina by the penis. This is why a lack of penetration is broadly accepted as how to characterize someone as a virgin.
if he has given or you have given oral...that does not necessarily mean you are no longer a virgin. It is not fact is what I mean...it is OPINION and what virginity means to you. The only hands down your V Days are numbered is when both genitals come together and there is penetration. I'm sorry...I can't let a man tell me about my vagina and my innocence or lack there of...what have you...lol. NOPE!
So I love ya T...but this is definitely how a person views their virginity. And no woman should allow any man to explain what that means to her and because some guy played wit her clit or vagina she is no longer a virgin. Ladies...your vagina and virginity is what it means to you. There is a basic definition of loss of virginity...vaginal penetration. Now, if a man has penetrated your vagina with his penis...then sorry your V days are over! But....
But thats the problem. Women define their own virginity and mislead others. You can get STD's from oral sex, anal sex, and simply genital rubbing. If little Tina can catch a disease from the stuff she was doin with little Timmy, she's not a virgin anymore. Ever heard of a virgin with Herpes?! Ain't nothin' pure about that!
MMmm nooo you are taking what I said waaaay out of context. As far as a kid having oral, anal, bump n grind...what have you--parents need to sit their kids down and discuss the issues in that. How you label virginity has very little to do with that. It's how you TEACH safe sex of any form to kids...adolescents...and adults.
Women are defining their own damn virginity and misleading others...lol!
People have narrowed the criteria so that they can justify their actions. Virginity goes beyond just the physical. In the bible sex is referred to as "knowing" someone else. To know something means to have explored or dealt with it first hand. If a woman's body has been touched and explored sexually by a man, she is no longer "unknown." Before I was ever penetrated, someone "knew" my body through exploration and I could no longer say I was pure or untouched.
Look...it's simple...plain and clear. If two genitals come together and penetrate...you are no longer a virgin. If you have oral sex...or whatever...you are still considered a virgin because there was no vaginal penetration by the male genitals. Hell! I didn't make the definition up...lol. I'm just telln you what it is. Now you can switch it and flip it and take it to different extremes...but the true definition is vaginal/penis intercourse. The End!
The problem is, you're not giving the "true" definition, you're giving a socially accepted definition. Just because most people "understand" it that way, doesn't mean thats the way it is. Most people thought HIV was a "gay" disease, but it isn't. You just said "virginity is what it means to you," and then you go on to site a "general" definition including penetration. That's a contradiction. You said "vaginal/penis" intercourse, so does that mean anal sex is not included in that?
I'm not going to go back and forth on this with you love...lol. I just gave you the foundation definition of it. I am not contradicting anything. I am just stating what the definition of it is. I didn't make up the definition. Take that ish up with who wrote it...lol And I also added in I will not allow anyone to define my virginity or the lack thereof. That is personal to me...and should be to others as well. He is not your spokesperson for your vagina.
You keep saying you're just "giving what the definition is," what I'm telling you is that YOU ARE WRONG. That is NOT what the definition. Especially not historically. I did a response video on it, feel free to watch it. However, if you lost your virginity in elementary school based on the actual definition, then accept it. People use that lame excuse about "what it means to you" to justify themselves. If you have a problem with what he said, speak FOR YOURSELF not on behalf of all women.
And furthermore and finally, if this is the case, then most of us lost our virginity in elementary school. He did say if you "explore" it is a loss of virginity. I'm pretty sure many of us, "explored" in elementary school. I am just not buying his view on virginity. Simple as that. I do not believe women are misleading men because they've had oral sex and they still claim themselves a virgin. Misleading is saying, its my first time. And you get poked on a reg.
Being that we live in a heterosexism society...the meaning of virginity and lack thereof focus is, "heterosexuals."
However, there are some gay/lesbians who will consider themselves virgins because they've had no sexual intercourse with the opposite gender. Now, how they view themselves with the same sex may different.
But don't take issue with me on this definition...lol take issue with the foundation and history of sexuality and how it is defined.
Eh...I have to disagree. The basic definition of virginity is someone who has not genital to genital penetration. All these other ideas are just personal beliefs and how that person views virginity. There are some people who feel as if they have never orgasmed so
So i'm not a virgin because of ob gyn? >.<
XbeyourselfisbestX 2 months ago in playlist gurltalktv 2
Has he left youtube?
XbeyourselfisbestX 2 months ago in playlist gurltalktv
and wheres part 2...or am i overlooking it?
MyBreezy2009 2 months ago
Okay i know i'm going to sound pretty stupid, but I've only perform oral sex one time and that's it...haven't done anything. but I understand I'm not considered a virgin, but at the same time I havent had inter course...so I'm really confused at to what to consider myself because i tell guys all the time ima virgin bc im too much of a chicken to do anything..which is kinda sad bc im 21 but thats beside the point..whet the heck am i?! lol
MyBreezy2009 2 months ago
LOL!!!
mazwas 2 months ago
tell them again ..no no no haha
HARLAB12 8 months ago
virgins masterbate too, so how foes that work?
GlamourAngel321 10 months ago
It's slightly contradictory and confusing because I'm technically not a virgin because I've had 'roaming fingers' but no penetration yet, you go on to talk about how a virgin's "nana" is better than 90% of the women on the planet, so that refers to all of those who have not had penetration and that includes me. Ahhh, why am I even bothering to reply..
Moviesmoveme 1 year ago
@ 9:15 lmao funny as hell but obviously this isn't something that can truly be talked about in one video hopefully you go into more detail about this topic because there are some exceptions. Great job on these videos of yours.
dranzon 1 year ago
is there a second part to this video i looked for it but cant find it
mzamerica07 1 year ago
I would have waited til I was 35!!!!
truegemmie 1 year ago
Do you plan on finishing the chronicles because as a 19 yr. old virgin, I want to know what men really feel about virgins in depth.
kamieheartsyou 1 year ago
this nigg so creepy
niggatime1 1 year ago
i wish i had family members that talk the way you do.
punkkimiko 1 year ago
so if a girl grinded up on my penis while dancing that means im not a virgin anymore?
jjtiojohn12 1 year ago 4
Nope. Wrong.
A virgin is someone has not engaged in sexual intercourse, i.e. penis-vaginal penetration. A person who has experienced oral sex, is just that---experienced.
An experienced virgin.
crml7672 1 year ago 2
Of course they place importance on income...that's all they care about is money.
Listen, Guys...women want whats in your pants....its just not what you're thinking.
RLove99 1 year ago
huuhm i know this is not a real chat but.. Anyone up for some cam chat
ArohaaArtemisia 1 year ago
If sex is what it is, no matter in what form, then why do men want sex (=>penetration) so bad, and not only "touchin" or whatever?Ok I got the end.:)But I am a virgin because I have never let anyone inside me.period. It's still sth. else than just being intimate with a guy or if he had his fun just lookin at me..
But I understand that the gurl isn't as "pure" anymore..also because she might have lied to herself. But yet It will be special for THE one guy - that's my ideal at least, still. I'm 21
Cosi88 1 year ago
right .... waiting on the part 2. love ya!!!
socajem 1 year ago
nobody wants a virgin anymore.
msquestionmark 2 years ago
Just discovered the channel & series, Is there more of this section or is this one discontinued
volstron 2 years ago
so at 19 ive never penetrated a woman but at my church they said if youve jacked off your not a virgin is that true
jambrandon531 3 years ago
Let the truth be told! Finally a brother that break the subject down proper!
watermelonsmile90 3 years ago
this prolly has nothing to do with the topic but i hate when people be like men can roam free but women have to be set in one place and for one man. FUCK THAT SHIT! ROFL!!!
holla06 3 years ago 5
there is a difference between virgin and being chaste. Virginity has to do with penis in vagina. Don't be stupid people.
camilly4lyfe 3 years ago
if this is true, i lost my virginity ages ago mann lol
halfwelshhaha 3 years ago
would masterbation count?
brina2254 3 years ago 3
Penetration defines virginity. Anything else is called foreplay. If the penis penetrates the vag, then thats it. Anythign else does not count.
bj07bran7 3 years ago
so what if you break your hyman (cherry) using a tampon or horseback riding,sports masterbation? you have never had sex but your hymans gone. are you still a virgin?
noneedchick 3 years ago 3
So if a women masturbates is she not a virgin? She has experience the pleasures of what sex could be.
thegurlrepn215 3 years ago 5
He's right. If you been touched in any way your not a virgin 'cause your not untouched. being a virgin technically means having no idea of how something feels like because you never been touched!!
FroxieProxie 3 years ago
Playing devils advocate :) I feel anal sex, oral sex and sex are totally different. Just because the root word is sex doesn't make them anymore similar. A veggieburger and hamburger both have the words burger in them. She can eat a million and one veggieburgers, but it's not until the day she decides to eat that one hamburger has she become a meat eater?
calltyshon 3 years ago 13
ur are wrong here buddy.having ur area touched does not mean ur not a virgin.
GotLuvForAllMyHaters 3 years ago
i think if a man hasnt stuck his penis in your snatch...and if ur a man and u havent stuck your penis in a girl's snatch, then youre a virgin. oral sex is a form of sex and i dont think youre very pure if youve done that but i still think youre pretty much a virgin.
if youre a gay man and u got some ding ding up the poop shoot then youre not a virgin lol
anonymizzle 3 years ago 3
plus he even said it himself. when he defined the FIRST dictionary definition. not having "sexual intercourse". it didn't say not having oral or anal or finger etc. assuming most people go by the first definition.
calltyshon 3 years ago
i dont agree with him at all. oh so i guess if a virgin goes to the gyn and the trained professional has to explore that area did she just loose her virginity? or what if shes had her tities sucked is she no longer a virgin?lol look if i man has entered her with her penis shes no longer a virgin, if her cherry has been popped she is no longer a virgin simple.
calltyshon 3 years ago 4
I lost my virginity a few months ago at 19. I knew he wasn't "the one" and that we wouldn't be together, but I was ready to do it and have no regrets. The experience has helped me.
crazilyconfident1 3 years ago
why is the hyman there anyway?
TheRealSnedz 3 years ago
Honestly no one knows why we,women have hymens some scientists believe its just there to protect the vagina from germs and stuff. I as a virgin(I really am!) ask myself that all the time, I think its stupid to have.
onlybaby90 3 years ago
well I think its more special than that. I place a high value on virginity for some reason, probably because Ive never dated a virgin in my whole life.
TheRealSnedz 3 years ago
I was jutr giving you an answer to your question. I think virginity is special also, I plan on staying a virgin till marriage because I think its a good choice for me. I believe guys who are virgins are very strong not to give in to society's image of a man. Well ummm if you wanted to date a virgin I guess you should go to chruch(there might be some good girls there). Don't just date a girl b/c shes a virgin either that's very shallow.
onlybaby90 3 years ago
I would never do that. whatever will be will be.
TheRealSnedz 3 years ago
My view is that its God's seal that His chosen husband for her is supposed to break
ManofChrist101 3 years ago 5
Wow that's a very romantic view of it. I believe God intended for me(I won't say "people" b/c people will get mad) to remain a virgin until marriage. Plus it's the only way to protect myself 100% from unwanted pregnacy, diseases and a broken heart. But I think if a guy wants to marry a virgin...he should be a virgin too. NO double standards. If my husband isn't a virgin I'll need to have him tested before I even lay in the same bed with him!
onlybaby90 3 years ago 16
Its going to be painful. The only way I would enjoy it is if the guy is amazingly good or I really love him. So I am waiting.
quitejaded 3 years ago 4
Well sometimes for some women it isn't painful as in a sharp pain but just a little uncomfortable. Some people think if sex doesn't hurt then you must not be a virgin..that's a lie. Well I do agree with you,something as private and possibly painful as sex I would want to be with someone who I really loved also.
onlybaby90 3 years ago 4
I am the same way...quitejaded. So that is why I am a full virgin..and I'm waiting
baybeetricia 3 years ago 2
Actually Gurl TV is Wrong WROng Worng, a Virgin is someone who has not ahd their HYMAN the "seal" Broken, . DOnt beleive this bull shitttt! Just becasue you got your titties touched does not mean that you are not a virgin. That is not true and can actually make girls who re holdiong off actually having sex start having sex becasue they think it is too late. GO to churh and ask your pastor. Every child goes through an exploration phase, but to actually have sex is totally different.
Javaka4 3 years ago 8
I agree children do go through exploraton phases. We learn this in psychology but some women are born without hymens or break it when they take gymnastics or horseback riding so this cannot determine if every woman is a virgin.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago 3
i agree. sometimes this guy gives pretty good advice and insight but i dont agree with this video. his ideas of what a virgin is, is totally incorrect
anonymizzle 3 years ago 2
Its so disrespectful when ppl use the word "VIRGIN-ITY" so loosely. If ya cherry has been *popped* stop being guilty! :P
M0N3t7 3 years ago
a girl told me she lost hers at 9 years old
leous666 3 years ago
that's sad
khotcutie 3 years ago
I can't agree. It's your opinion and i can respect that at least. There are alot of virgin girls and guys who have kissed and touched each other WITHOUT oral or intercourse. I've even asked my doctors about this. Gynocologists still consider women virgins because they haven't had vaginal INTERCOURSE and being a virgin doesn't mean you get out of taking the yearly pap smear. I had to take one just because i turned 21. It was extremely painful and uncomfortable.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago
wow im 13 and im def. gona stay a virgin now tht i saw this vid
nsmschick 3 years ago
Wow, I think all girls should watch this video. That definition of virginity does make sense.
Sassy2K6 3 years ago
Hi! I barely found you on youtube today (oct 31) ... Ive been watching your videos for two hours now (i dont go out on halloween anymore). You are hella funny! But what I like most about you is that your topics are very intelligent and real at the same time, I like that... Now Im not a virgin so with this one I cant relate ... what I want to know now is how does a man feel or think about a woman who is abstaining from sex although she's had sex before?
MssDrma 3 years ago
great question!
kswiftee 3 years ago
I know a girl who is a virgin still.. I talk to her all the time... sooo..I guess i can get her to watch this.. she isnt a youtube member though.... umm.. as far as would i lose it again at the age taht i lost it.. mine was taken from me.. sooooo.. had that have not happened, id still be a virgin now
Pooobaihr23 3 years ago
How to know if you are a virgin...ladies...
can you fit a tampon up-in-there?! lol
M0N3t7 3 years ago
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I lost my virginity at 16....never been touched. i also had never worn a tampon til about 6 months before that....uh....that hurt BAD. it wouldn't fit! no joke seriously. i tried and tried for like a year before to get a tampon up there but it just wouldn't fit...until i MADE it fit and yeah it hurt like hell. so i'd say a REAL virgin won't be able to fit a tampon. of course after i lost it, it was a lot easier to fit it.lol hope that's not tmi.
khotcutie 3 years ago
are you kidding, wow
kdiddle 3 years ago
As a woman saving if for marriage I have been waiting for this series! Thank you!I shall proceed to the next video!
Go Phillies!
b2223967 3 years ago 3
im still a virgin andim 33 yearz old.... am i a loser?
norfillyson 3 years ago
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seriously... do you want an "honest" answer?
lol....
laohung 3 years ago
no you are not
allen362002 3 years ago
Good vid. All these years, I've considered losing ur virginity, doing the actual deed. So, I guess according to your theory, I lost it at, 14. (doing ther things) I've always considered myself losing it at 15, which was the real deal, basically. Yes, i wouldve waited because of all of the problems that followed me losing it, yet I wouldnt have learned what I learned this far (at 18) about sex and life. But yes, generally, I wouldve waited.
ImNotYourFriend212 3 years ago
I'm a virgin, and I really don't understand whats the hype of virginity. But anyways the reason why people regret having sex the first time is because they were not ready. They don't listen to their body and inner-self, instead their ego. The ego deceives you very well, on telling you that you're doing the right thing even though the person might not be ready. So listening is the key, when it comes to making decisions.
velvet123 3 years ago
i'm sorry I find this video extremely sexist. A virgin can be a man OR a woman. Claiming the word to only stretch to describing females only perpetulates the double standards some cultures have when it comes to virginity, IE feamles being killed for not being virgins after marriage, by men(who themselves were not virgins either.) I do believe virginity is more serious when it comes to women, as their first time is going to be a lot more painful and possibly more emotionaly heavy, but that is it.
ThisIsaTragedy 3 years ago
Please note the first sentence in the description. "The Virgin Chronicles is an in depth look at the realities a virgin faces when HE or she decides that it is their time to move forward and forever let go of their virginity." That said, the topic was requested by a woman who was interested in learning one males perspective on virginity. GTTV Verdict: We the People Find the Accuser Guilty of Unwarranted Sexism Slander. Your sentence Watch all my videos & SUBSCRIBE DAMN IT. lol
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GurlTalkkTV 3 years ago 2
Not been touched, huh? Eeeeh. I dont agree with that, I know it means "untouched" but when a girl goes to the doctor and gets checked up (sorry to be graphic) they use a plastic-thingy to spread the lips...and it HURTS! STILL A VIRGIN! IF ANYTHING HURTS ENTERING...STILL A VIRGIN! lol
M0N3t7 3 years ago
i agree. i went to the gynocologist and they made me get a pap smear and I told them i was a virgin. but they had to do it since i was 21. and I screamed. i don't get why women have to do the pap smear if they never had sex before.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago
yeah, some people take the word "untouched" literally. "untouched" in the bible doesn't mean if you kiss she is no longer a virgin. it was another way of saying if a woman has intercourse with a man she has been touched.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago 3
cont'd...
I think if someone has been raped there are indeed a virgin. When you cant get a tampon up there...etc. (okay just an ex. I dont want to be to graphic) you're a virgin. I but one thing I dont think its fair that a some1s a virgin just because theyre nice. Or try to rethink the meaning of virginity cause they feel guilty about losing it so soon. (which most non-virgins constantly admit too!)
M0N3t7 3 years ago
Agreed.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago
humping isn't sex
CraftLulz 3 years ago
I was 19 and yes I'd wait if I could do it all over bc the relationship crashed and burned lol.
I have a question though...what if no one else touched them but they touched their own body? Are you still a virgin? That doesn't apply to me but I'm just curious of what you think.
shaylaarielle 3 years ago
thank god im still a virgin my is virginity gift to my futer wife :P
nordlac 3 years ago 3
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If you a male and not getting any ass or waiting until marriage, slap yourself. (about gift to my future wifey, fuck outta here, It's 08)
Hizzle10 3 years ago
So I can understand how you may consider a person who has experiences oral sex, not a virgin, but to say you can only call yourself a virgin you have NEVER been touched, now that I'm anxious to hear your explanation on. So what do you call a person that has been touched, but has never done anything sexually (orally, or otherwise)?? GREAT VIDEO!!
quietstormSLG 3 years ago
I would have waited
viky83000 3 years ago
I have no regrets about losing my virginity, because at that moment it was what I wanted and with who I wanted. No I am not with that person anymore, but by my experience with him (outside of sex) was a wonderful lesson that will be with me to carry into my other relationships.
To girls considering to have sex for the first time: Make sure its your decision and no one else's. If you are having doubts, then don't do it...let no one pressure you. Being a virgin is NOT a bad thing.
trakstarz07 3 years ago
I soooo wish I waited until marriage. Because it less to compare ur man too. U cant miss what you never had! lol. Also, even more so becuase I am a christian now.
Healthyhairluvaffair 3 years ago 3
Sadly enough, I don't know any virgins. Well if they are virgins they are like young teen agers and I'm still not 100% sure. About me, if I could be RE-VIRGINATED, I would definitely keep my stuff to myself longer. It was a painful, terrible experience and dude sucked! Just get it in by any means necessary. I wish I would have waited until I was older and able to have my virginity taken by an older, more experienced man.
COCONESS67 3 years ago
I am a woman and i agree with you. I hear so many girls talk about the fact that they only do anal, so it still makes them a virgin. That is sooo not true in my opinion. Your vagina may still be a virgin but you are not.
dumb question though. Is kissing considered exploring sexually???
honeyonly192007 3 years ago
Not that being a virgin makes someone better than anyone, they're just taking a different path.
You should make a vid about why some guys love to lie about who and what they did o_O
hnmchick 3 years ago 2
wISH I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW.....
joujoubee1521 3 years ago
I wish, I wish, I wish I would have waited but times got hard and so was he( ha ha ha). I was of age and so was he but he acted like a child. I mean he had feelings and I didn't the end
Serwena1212 3 years ago
Dude, you're a funny ass mother fucker. Keep it up. Telling it how it is and keeping ppl interested. Chea! 5 stars
JC85cap 3 years ago
wait.you'll regret it if you do it with the wrong person or at the wrong time.
but, i think that you may not be a "virgin" if you have oral sex or whatever, but there are def. more emotional consequences of intercourse. speaking from experience.
blingblang333 3 years ago
Some people may stuggle with your definition of what a virgin is. In all honesty I did because by your terms I am not a virgin. I was sexually molested when I was 7, however from that point I have never had any sexual contact. Does your definition of virginity apply to those who may have been sexually abused?
Benisato 3 years ago
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! And I will be sure to elaborate more in upcoming episodes, but just for the record SEXUAL ABUSE does NOT APPLY to the definition provided.
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GurlTalkkTV 3 years ago
i did not see the second part of sex psycology are you putting it up at all.
dimebeats 3 years ago
No doubt, it will be coming up after this series.
GurlTalkkTV 3 years ago
@GurlTalkkTV Why not, aside from saving any psychological damage (wow I sound so thoughtless), but the definition changes because of a person's circumstance??
So for example if the definition of stinky means that I exude a potent odour, I am exempt from it because I haven't had running water to bathe in 3 days??
Moviesmoveme 1 year ago
You are a virgin even if you were molested. Virginity also means to be pure at heart. Virginity is not only a physical thing.
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago
True. But a lot of women who KNOW that theyve been "around" are now going to give "virginity" a crappy meaning.
Not directed to you, but I just think a virgin is just that...A VIRGIN!
M0N3t7 3 years ago
Everyone is a statistic. You being a virgin at whatever age and being black (I presume) makes you a statitic of a certain category. We're all statistics.
PositiveNature 3 years ago
Plus, if you have to ask people to think about "when they want to lose virginity" then does that not suggest that there is an 'act' to be performed in order to do so??..Sex in itself aside from it being an self gratifying experience serves to create a child, and so even though oral sex and exploratory sexual acts, such as touching, you suggest 'is sex', can these things lead to the production of a child???....
No, I didn't think so either.
xXSweetheartzXx 3 years ago
No! I don't agree, ACTUAL Intercourse defines virginity, not if you're touched orally or via fingers..!
xXSweetheartzXx 3 years ago
I advise young ladies to at least wait until they are adults living on their own.
By the way, according to your def. of virginity I guess I was pretty young when I lost mine!! I think I was like 10 or some crazy shit.
mom2dave 3 years ago
"grazed" lol
martinithechobit 3 years ago
this is a video with really good quality. cheer for your honesty! and get 6stars.
JOIPLICIMA 3 years ago
so that last quote really scared mean "your vriginity means everything and nothing to me: I'm really scared by the "means nothing" part, because what the hell I am saving myself for "nothing". A lot of these guys run superbly good game (like I bet you do ;-)) and sometimes I get so damn near falling for some of their tricks. It's getting harder. :-(
koolyokam007 3 years ago
i feel u. Im 21 and its not as easy holding on as it used to be!
lilchocchip06 3 years ago
im 19 and still a damn virgin
mikepasek 3 years ago 5
lol...i'm 23, still a vr trooper
coolbreeze842003 3 years ago
lol I haven't used the term 'vr trooper' like that since....fifth grade?
and coolbreeze, i'll be 23 in about 4 1/2 weeks and i'm still a vr trooper as well.
rockruffnstuff 3 years ago
I'm 20 and I still am,it's a choice though. ENJOY IT!!
ElectricLadyLand08 3 years ago
I'm almost 20 and still a virgin...I don't ever plan on losing it.
GloomGrl18 3 years ago
*high five*
Onegurrrlrev 3 years ago
she hasnt met me yet
superoriginalname 3 years ago
YES YES Thankyou Thankyou Christian! Finally something for us older than 21 y.o. female virgins!!!
koolyokam007 3 years ago 3
Yo temp u back son!!!!! back makin dem good videos educating again dats wassup yoooo im mad u got 14 & 15 yr ppl watchin yo vids dats crazy but they teens so its all good im mad they lyin on their page too talkin bout they 24 lol A BOY YOU A FUNNY DUDE SO SERIOUS BUT FUNNY AND TRUE TOO "COME ON BITCH GET TIGHT IM GONNA FOOL THESE NIGGAS" LMAO!!!!
aceboog5 3 years ago
Woot Woot
<<proud 19 year old Virgin....
MixedBeauti03 3 years ago
I was 15 when I lost my virginity by the dictionary definition. 16 by the more widely accepted and indefinately false definition. If I could do it again, would I wait? No. Simply because I waited for the right person and I did it because I wanted to. He was gentle and caring and that alone made it special for me.
dominoe1305 3 years ago
I think if I had to do it all again, I would wait. I mean, there really isn't a "right" or "wrong" time to lose it so to speak, but if you feel its the "right" time for you, think about the aftermath.
Is this person worth getting something that is supposed to be held dear to you?
Just because someone says 'I Love You' doesn't make them worthy of getting something you can't get back.
Make the right choice before giving it up ladies/gents. Hell, even said 'non-virgins'.
-Drea
Dreaontv 3 years ago
Im turning 20 soon and still a virgin.
I don't believe in sex before marriage.
Good video
p.s Can your DVDs come to England ? lol
notserious100 3 years ago 2
No disrespect towards anyone but why does everyone feel the need to tell the age of when they lost their virginity and how sad they are about because they regret it?
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
Veronica, maybe people are choosing 2 share b/c this topic is not about being self-centered. Maybe its b/c they can see past themselves & recognize that this video is not about us non-virgins but 4 the many young boys & girls who can benefit from hearing real experiences from adults whether positive or negative 2 receive as much info as possible 2 make an informed decision about sex. There are many young impressionable minds out there, so please consider there needs b4 your own. Peace :)
takethat1123 3 years ago 4
That is fine if people want to share. And you don't have to remind me to consider other peoples needs. I was just wondering because that was not the point of his video.
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
this is some true shit!
aseite 3 years ago
i am 14 years old and i am still a virgin (yay me) it makes me unique and im gonna hold on to it as long as i can...and if u think about it..gettin fingered is like mad stupid cuz technically..u lost ur innocence..to a fuckin finger..
sugashawty22 3 years ago 3
lolololololollool so true
EastSidex24x 3 years ago
But if you try to have vaginal sex without any digital or oral stimulation beforehand, it will hurt like no other. I really wouldn't suggest it.
dominoe1305 3 years ago
If I could go back i would definitely wait to have sex....
Rochelle1212 3 years ago
to answer your question sir i would have waited...im male im 16 now i lost mine at 15...i completely regrett my decision and wish i could take it back because i did not lose my virginity to a person truly loved and to me thats wat sex is all about....
babibloo14 3 years ago 2
Welcome Back Temple!
I see your good works continue! Keep teaching the ladies!
EV
Evens1 3 years ago
a girls hymen can be broken through using a tampon aswell!
28silverdale 3 years ago
Wow. I lost mines at 14 (intercourse) but by your definition I was 11 (i had discovered that violating myself felt good, lol). I'm 26 now and have said for a decade that if I could go back I'd be a virgin to this day. My desire to have sex at such a young age was a direct reflection of how BAD my self-esteem was at that time. I tell teenagers and pre-teens all the time the importance of waiting, and how so many women they know would have waited if they could. Interesting topic.
kmichellej413 3 years ago
Answering your question is hard. I'm torn between yes and no. I want to say yes I would have waited. But at the same time, everything I've done in my past, including my sexual experiences, has made me who I am today. I'm not sure I'd be the same person if I were still a virgin. Loosing my virginity changed my life, but its all worked out for my good and I have no regrets...well maybe a couple...there were a few triflin BOYS I could have gone without...if I knew then what I know now... :)
carameldelight87 3 years ago
No bullsheeeeeit, you just took a nucca back when I use to play "house, doctor, and hide & go get(finger fuckin'em)" with the honeys...LOL...Damn good shit, slim!!!
bighouseboy427 3 years ago
Honestly, sex is not that serious. Anyone can wait...
hollyhollyrose 3 years ago 10
@hollyhollyrose for most people sex is everything and its a shame lol
thickjai18 1 year ago
I love you breakin it down, finally someone with the correct ibfo on virginity. "however slight" a finger, penis,tongue,sex toy. You are no longer a virgin, so sell that to someone who dont ask questions lol.
callokla 3 years ago
ah! this creates all types of bitter feelings within me, but you speak the truth. I lost my virginity as a (way too young teen) to some 20 year old who didn't appreciate it at the time. Save it for your husband.
mindful826 3 years ago
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u are a cunt.
kerry160 3 years ago
i wonder what the next video will be like cause he said virgnity is everything AND nothing to him
meansteez 3 years ago 2
Me too. Guess what channel I will be looking at tomorrow?
rockruffnstuff 3 years ago
i lost my virginity when i was 16 .
if i had the chance to do it all over ,
i would have waited .
maybe not for marriage ,
but at least for the right person .
justcallmeGIA 3 years ago
I lost mine at 19 and I wish I would have waited.
itsurgirl2 3 years ago
Aw yeah, playa. You gon start some sh*t wit dis one.
realtalent 3 years ago
I take Alice Walker's definition from "The Color Purple" There's way more virgins than you fellas think.
tccoop 3 years ago 3
"I take Alice Walker's definition from "The Color Purple" There's way more virgins than you fellas think. "
Haha. I had to think about that for a minute.
"Why Ms. Celie. Yous still a virgin."
And now I shall stop crowding the channel and get me some rest.
rockruffnstuff 3 years ago
I was actually havin this conversation with a young girl i know. She's 16 a virgin and startin to think about it alot lately. I was tellin her i was 17 when i lost mine and given the chance again i would most definately have decided not to. its so hard to tell young people that its not a good idea, cause girls wanna be close to someone and they feel sex makes them close to someone. I think i needed to do it to realize it was a bad idea. I guess the key is to learn from your mistakes.
MixedChick416 3 years ago
Yo man you speak the truth haha saw one vid and ive been hooked since nice material!
Smitty06 3 years ago
You make mention of the fact that even a graze, a graze Temple, qualifies as exploration and furthermore puts the female in the used category. Some female athletes through heightened physical activity/sports have broken their hymens. To a potential mate, that would give the impression that she has been previously explored. Does that make her any less virginal than those females who still have theirs in tact? I dont think so. Clearly this is an issue that cannot be oversimplified.
med151 3 years ago
Okay never mind Med...you already 5 steps in front of me lol!
vnt31 3 years ago
Now on the flip side of the argument looking at the homosexual relationship, although the organs involved are not vagina and penis, the terms virgin and non-virgin are still applicable. Since men do not have hymens, when a man is anally or orally intimate with another man, does that still make him a virgin? I dont think so! As with many other situations, it is obvious a double standard exists here.
med151 3 years ago
If a woman visited her ob/gyn, the presence of a hymen would unequivocally constitute her as virginal despite her vast sexual exploration via oral, anal, whatever.
med151 3 years ago
I wouldnt say that Med because a lot of women dont even have hymens anymore. Bike riders and gymnast or some just active girls they dont have it.
And another thing Temple you mean to tell me if a woman has had oral sex with a man she is not a virgin? What sense does that make? Or someone who has been fingered? a finger decides if you are not a virgin or not...no babe WAY off. I think that is ridiculous.You cited the definition in your vid then you gave your own spin on it. incorrect!
vnt31 3 years ago
According to the technical definition cited in your vid,"...a virgin is a person who hasn't experienced sexual intercourse." Sexual intercourse itself traditionally relates to the heterosexual relationship and the penetration of the vagina by the penis. This is why a lack of penetration is broadly accepted as how to characterize someone as a virgin.
med151 3 years ago 2
thank u so much..i was one of da TRUE VIRGINS that hit u up about dis topic....it really helped and i thank u
sugashawty22 3 years ago
if he has given or you have given oral...that does not necessarily mean you are no longer a virgin. It is not fact is what I mean...it is OPINION and what virginity means to you. The only hands down your V Days are numbered is when both genitals come together and there is penetration. I'm sorry...I can't let a man tell me about my vagina and my innocence or lack there of...what have you...lol. NOPE!
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
So I love ya T...but this is definitely how a person views their virginity. And no woman should allow any man to explain what that means to her and because some guy played wit her clit or vagina she is no longer a virgin. Ladies...your vagina and virginity is what it means to you. There is a basic definition of loss of virginity...vaginal penetration. Now, if a man has penetrated your vagina with his penis...then sorry your V days are over! But....
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
But thats the problem. Women define their own virginity and mislead others. You can get STD's from oral sex, anal sex, and simply genital rubbing. If little Tina can catch a disease from the stuff she was doin with little Timmy, she's not a virgin anymore. Ever heard of a virgin with Herpes?! Ain't nothin' pure about that!
carameldelight87 3 years ago 6
MMmm nooo you are taking what I said waaaay out of context. As far as a kid having oral, anal, bump n grind...what have you--parents need to sit their kids down and discuss the issues in that. How you label virginity has very little to do with that. It's how you TEACH safe sex of any form to kids...adolescents...and adults.
Women are defining their own damn virginity and misleading others...lol!
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
People have narrowed the criteria so that they can justify their actions. Virginity goes beyond just the physical. In the bible sex is referred to as "knowing" someone else. To know something means to have explored or dealt with it first hand. If a woman's body has been touched and explored sexually by a man, she is no longer "unknown." Before I was ever penetrated, someone "knew" my body through exploration and I could no longer say I was pure or untouched.
carameldelight87 3 years ago 3
Look...it's simple...plain and clear. If two genitals come together and penetrate...you are no longer a virgin. If you have oral sex...or whatever...you are still considered a virgin because there was no vaginal penetration by the male genitals. Hell! I didn't make the definition up...lol. I'm just telln you what it is. Now you can switch it and flip it and take it to different extremes...but the true definition is vaginal/penis intercourse. The End!
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
The problem is, you're not giving the "true" definition, you're giving a socially accepted definition. Just because most people "understand" it that way, doesn't mean thats the way it is. Most people thought HIV was a "gay" disease, but it isn't. You just said "virginity is what it means to you," and then you go on to site a "general" definition including penetration. That's a contradiction. You said "vaginal/penis" intercourse, so does that mean anal sex is not included in that?
carameldelight87 3 years ago
I'm not going to go back and forth on this with you love...lol. I just gave you the foundation definition of it. I am not contradicting anything. I am just stating what the definition of it is. I didn't make up the definition. Take that ish up with who wrote it...lol And I also added in I will not allow anyone to define my virginity or the lack thereof. That is personal to me...and should be to others as well. He is not your spokesperson for your vagina.
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
You keep saying you're just "giving what the definition is," what I'm telling you is that YOU ARE WRONG. That is NOT what the definition. Especially not historically. I did a response video on it, feel free to watch it. However, if you lost your virginity in elementary school based on the actual definition, then accept it. People use that lame excuse about "what it means to you" to justify themselves. If you have a problem with what he said, speak FOR YOURSELF not on behalf of all women.
carameldelight87 3 years ago
Your a little bit over the top. I never was speaking on behalf of women. I was voicing my opinion. I'm done with this convo love.
Have a good day!
*smile*
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
And furthermore and finally, if this is the case, then most of us lost our virginity in elementary school. He did say if you "explore" it is a loss of virginity. I'm pretty sure many of us, "explored" in elementary school. I am just not buying his view on virginity. Simple as that. I do not believe women are misleading men because they've had oral sex and they still claim themselves a virgin. Misleading is saying, its my first time. And you get poked on a reg.
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
So how can gay people remain virgins?
rockruffnstuff 3 years ago
Being that we live in a heterosexism society...the meaning of virginity and lack thereof focus is, "heterosexuals."
However, there are some gay/lesbians who will consider themselves virgins because they've had no sexual intercourse with the opposite gender. Now, how they view themselves with the same sex may different.
But don't take issue with me on this definition...lol take issue with the foundation and history of sexuality and how it is defined.
veronicaburgess 3 years ago
Eh...I have to disagree. The basic definition of virginity is someone who has not genital to genital penetration. All these other ideas are just personal beliefs and how that person views virginity. There are some people who feel as if they have never orgasmed so