MEET MY "PARTNER"!

[jack3927417]

My Foopy.

[jessicamelia96]

Are you bisexual?

[tengwarsenna]

@jessicamelia96 Either that or Pansexual.

[LoveBud1765]

My "boo-thang"

[jjhendo]

Never had one, therefore, I have no such names to speak of...

[WHATNOW01]

I call him my partner, usually. And I like that term because it is gender neutral and more adult/serious but mostly I like it because that's exactly what we are. He's my partner and I'm his. We're a team and we're equals. What we do, we do together. :)

[highmorekin]

my love i call her love more on line

[sweetlov1989]

slave lol

[hazza4pompeyfc]

My other half, she completes me :D

[demonqueenzeo]

My mate, my companion, my sweetheart, my best friend, my love, my darling, my wonderful, my world, my universe, my lover, my cutie, my cutiepie, my partner, my Alex.

Yep, that pretty much sums it up.

[tengwarsenna]

@demonqueenzeo Mine is an Alex too! He is my sweet baboo. Ot Boo Boo Kitty Fuck. But just when no one is around.

In all seriousness though, I do call him Boyfriend, even though I kinda hate the word. We have been dating for six years, and are adults. Does the fact that we are not married yet invalidate the seriousness of our relationship? I think not.

[demonqueenzeo]

@tengwarsenna Aww! Baboo, that's cute! XD Where'd you come up with Ot Boo Boo Kitty Fuck? It sounds really unique-like an inside joke or something.

I hate the word boyfriend too, it doesn't sound like a real relationship to me. Good for you, you marry when you're ready. And you do have a serious relationship, being together for so long, through the ups and downs. I was beginning to worry there weren't any of us left. We're just one year behind you two. <3

I usually just say miti boo.

[zimmawoman]

I love your videos so much. Every one of them pushes boundaries in ways I never really thought about. Thanks for encouraging me to keep thinking differently! :)

[LilySevShipper]

I usually just say "boyfriend" because I'm a teenager and I get weird responses for calling him my partner. But I would rather use the term partner. When I say boyfriend I feel like I'm flaunting our relationship and being all, "Oh, look at me! I have a BOYFRIEND! Aren't you so jealous of me?" which is immature and not the message I want to give.

[Goodolnate7]

@Spanishprisoner everyone is insecure to a certain extent. Just a cliche term "nobody is perfect".

[spanishprisoner]

@Goodolnate7 some are more insecure and others are blatantly insecure.

[TheOnlyKimberlyWise]

I loathe using the word boyfriend, I always say partner or "my partna in crime" and have had so many people ask me if I am a lesbian... haha... NO SILLY.....AND EVEN IF I WAS....why did it matter?

[LilySevShipper]

@TheOnlyKimberlyWise Partner in crime. I LIKE THAT.

[khadhowf]

"My Squeeze" would be a cute word for a girlfriend I think. But it would definitely have a sexual tone to it, in my point of view.

[fadetofixation]

I call him my booface. it's fun, cute, and serious, just like our relationship. plus it's different; it's not like everyone is using it:)

[patrick1020000]

I'd prefer to be called "my boyfriend" by a girl because it puts emphasis on me being theirs. Not that "my partner" doesn't do that, but it just seems too formal.

[spanishprisoner]

@patrick1020000 so, you are insecure.

[patrick1020000]

@spanishprisoner I guess I am, seeing as you didn't phrase that as a question.

[spanishprisoner]

@patrick1020000 well, why would you accept that just like that? If someone comes to you and says asshole to you. Are you one then? tz.

[pl8961]

lacy if you do not repent and Get Saved, By the Lord Jesus Christ you are going straight to Hell when you die guaranteed. your channel is an abomination. Don't throw your soul away for the sake of this world.

[hibernia89]

@pl8961 HAHAHAHAHAHA Good joke!

[MissRaychillAmelia]

@pl8961 You're trolling, right??

[swolson84]

I started referring to a person I am dating as my partner because it makes the equality in the relationship explicit. It being inclusive is just an added bonus.

[TchicVG]

Im single D:

Thanks for asking though laci

[Weendigo172]

There's this word in Swedish that I adore, "Hjärtevän". It's not often used that seriously, but I think it carries a very deep meaning. It literally translates to "friend of the heart," and it kinda resonates with me.

[5107259803]

I call him my love.

[MaggieLovesJimmy]

I prefer thinking of my fiance as my life partner or life mate. I think the terms husband and wife are antiquated. After all, these terms were used to give particular roles to each. Today, those roles are blurred (or in some cases, no longer exist - women are NOT the husband's property). Plus, we now have same-sex partners, so even calling one husband or wife based on differentiation of gender isn't necessary.

[Synicade]

Oh fuck. Feminism -.-

[Junglerotica]

I picked that word up 2 years ago from a homosexual friend; he was my real estate agent. He also claims to be. . . my DOOM! No he doesn't.

I just got through doing a load of borderline-late work for a world religions class. Which was. . . absolutely sanity-destroying. I had to walk to partially clear the nonsense, but I'm not done unfortunately. Cheerio.

[xoxlotsaluvsxox]

I don't have one. Sad face :(

[EnJoyGasmic]

laci's "partner" is some lucky guy

[homousios]

being asexual, I prefer the term my good friend or when I feel especially classical my muse

[Mr1FineDay]

My women call me Good Jelly.

[itsrainingwren]

I am totally calling my next significant other my "friend+" :D

[xYourKnifeMyBack]

My best friend

[DjMistoffelees]

I find it better myself, when I am in a relationship to just refer to the individual by her name. I agree that BF/GF is a little juvenile . However, the problem with gender neutral terminology, as you pointed out does tend to get strange reactions. People tend to attached it to homosexual or lesbian relationships. Of course it is common parlance in those relationships, so it understandable that people would react that way. My only problem with the term is that it's not very intimate.

[nickcull11]

My mate

[kare8440]

I call my 'boyfriend' my zach or the guy im sleeping with at this time

[TheUrbanNinjia]

i think once i get into a relationship i might try this out

[JunniEnriquez]

This is a very interesting way of looking at relationship labels.

[fallbread]

great vid interesting idea :)

[HaylzyHeartbroken]

i pick what describes them best

[HaylzyHeartbroken]

i just started dating a guy so its still in the bf/gf phase =o when things get more serious thats when i use terms like lover and partner and what not..... in my head i have a whole pyramid of terms in my head that i use through out a relationship XD lol i pick wh

[lovefulize]

I call him my boyfriend and he calls me his girlfriend. It works for us so I guess that's all that matters!

[shabido1]

Oh, when I had a human partner, I called her bitch. Does that count?

She called me asshole, loser, not a man BTW.

Aint marriage grand?

[gannen33]

@shabido1 That's terrible.

Unless you're a black rapper, of course.

[shabido1]

@gannen33 Um... 'Ya, I'm a black rapper.'

My name is... Sir Mix Some Tea

Betta believe it son!

[gannen33]

@shabido1 I feel ya here, G.

My rapper name is Bitch Make Me A Sammich.

[shabido1]

@gannen33 If she did that I'd still be married.

[shabido1]

My dog is my partner...

One of us needs to change our definition. How about saying intimate partner?

I call my dog my PIC, partner in crime, but we don't actually commit crimes. So, IDK, language sucks.

Her partner is dark and mysterious, and has a long head. I guess that is a good sign.

[lumpy1candy1]

i call him my babe or baby <3

[mscocorosie]

In the dark, your boyfriend kind of looks like Colin Morgan from BBC's Merlin. Just putting that out there.

[MJG164]

My better half

[metallicinsanity666]

i call them f**k buddies

[ashleykelln]

My lover! It started as a joke, but it kinda stuck! Lol

[LMDNYC82]

your thinking way too hard about the simple things in life

[shmoopsy650]

@LMDNYC82 DISAGREE! you're not thinking HARD ENOUGH

[talkingtaco5]

completely agree, i use partner just for the reason that boyfriend in today's world doesn't sound like the relationship is serious enough. Partner is a good word for people that aren't engaged but intend to be together for many years.

[stephenwism]

Liberal cool-aid drinkers/pushers like this anti-patriarchal heterophobe are so funny when they try to push there illogical antisocial lingo onto clear thinking people....truly pitiful.

[rbshow211]

At 1:01 Laci said she doesn't identify as a heterosexual. Is she Bisexual or Pansexual? Did she cover this in another video?

[JRobJams]

I would absolutely love to see her stance on open relationships. (for anyone that doesn't know, that's a relationship with one "significant other" but you can still be sexual with other people.)

[Litameena4chan]

@JRobJams She already covered it. Her video titles can be kind of weird sometimes. I recommend taking a look at the playlist with all her videos and finding it in there.

[pizzabear]

Friend+?...i like it. =)

[lalisloca]

I call him my dude or my lover LOL.

[142doddy]

Not being funny but compared to Laci, her boyfriend seems really lax, I'm guessing he was either really high or really tired lol

[Langers1986]

Sexypants, always sexypants

[gothic666angel6]

Relationships can also be complicated, mine has gone through so many different "titles" that to anyone that knows me at all he is purely "my TJ" (his name is TJ if that wasn't clear.)

[LovelyxxxLily]

my love :D xD

[MrGunghosgt]

i call mine imaginary. foreveralone.jpg. lol

[vulgarswim]

65 year old professor? I wonder why he felt inclined to include the age. Did it add to what he was trying to get across or something? I don't know why I found that odd. lol

[jacksinner666]

I usually stick with babe or something like it

[tweetspie06]

I'm not a fan of the word partner, but I also agree with boyfriend/girlfriend sounding juvenile. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but every time I say boyfriend, I feel like a 15 year old girl in a 2 month relationship. Like, to everyone else, that's how important my relationship is.

[Etheoma]

companion lol you know what I am actually going to use that from now on havent had a relationship in like 5 years and thats not going to help but eh f*** it I'm hardly bothered by it anymore.

[unamericano]

This is why I love college educated people. They are aware, at least on some level, of the existence of non binary genders.

[THOSLT]

I agree with your 'partner' Laci. I've always felt that partner carried the connotation that it is a word gay people use to describe their bf/gf in "polite" conversation. Personally, I don't care for partner, because bf/gf is more informative. If you're gay, be open about your significant other. If you're straight, do the same. I think the more that society hears about the gender of your partner, the more accepting it will be forced to become as a result of exposure.

[Craigbuckley1gh]

Cool

[butterflygirl123ful]

WHen im introducing my boyfriend to someone it depends on who it is im introducing. if its an adult ill say my significant other or my boyfriend, if im talking to another teen ill say my sweetheart or boyfriend. I dont say partner though cause it doesnt really sound intimate or anytihng reallly but business like :) BTW great video Laci! I watch and love all of them!!! <3 xoxox

[Tocxica]

I just call him my Matt.

[Qt4life6179]

I call her whatever I feel like. Labels only mean so much. If people think I am something, whether it's write or wrong, I don't really care because if they don't take the time to ask and just make an assumption, then not worth the effort to explain things

[vinnievinvin99]

@aardvarkbilly listen to her tone + the laugh at the end. it was exaggerated shock from Laci.

perception is everything.

[HoserSaysWhat]

To me 'partner' just sounds like the person you're square-dancing with :P

[RUconfuzed]

I call married women I fuck, my sluts.

[CameoxMoped]

I use boyfriend or partner when introducing mine. I have lots of silly pet names too :P Your partner's a cutey btw ^_^

[mexistache760]

I always use the gender neutral term "Cockholster" to describe my sexfriends because I am classy.

[ThiaLam]

@mexistache760 LOL love it

[iRewel]

Hooters.

[orioncheung]

He looks like a cheater, lair, maybe even a pedo.

[Dragaurang]

I prefer to introduce myself as Her fuck puppet.

[BrittaniaD13]

I say manfriend. I agree that boyfriend sounds juvenile, so I think manfriend is a bit of a hilarious jab. My manfriend and I have actually had this conversation many times trying to "define" our relationship to people...partner may be where it's at.

[LandSnipe415]

"My Girl". Any GF for lack of more rigorously applicable terms I've used, has absolutely LOVED "My Girl" as applied to them. Why fix what isn't broken? Well, @ least as it nicely sits in my particular life & relatinships, anyway? May not work for all.

BTW, Laci. If you're a Cal Allumn, you heard of More House, More University. Or "The Welcomed Consensus"? All Bay Area rooted sexually pioneering Communities. The very Former being who lead the discovery & application of the 1 Hr. female Orgasm.

[Ffguy82]

Lol you make him feel insignificant. Not because of the partner thing, but because he is to shy and you are not. He also won't tell you what he's really thinking.

[yotodine]

I concur. I like how you include the idea of a person CHOOSING how they will identify their relationship to others. Kinda like choosing what your going to wear. Showing people in a non verbal manner how you consciously choose to represent yourself and your body to others. Your partner seems like an intelligent person. I'd like to see you both in conversations about subjects you present in your vids. That would be interesting. But my attention wanes. Oh look a piece of candy!

[MsDrunkGamer]

your butt buddy

[raintessa]

Oh the things you learn at Berkeley... But I enjoyed your video. :)

[montebosss]

Sexy and atheist but we always pick on each other. Well, I think you are right about some stuff but we don't always agree, anyway, long live, old friend.

[ThePupetShow]

My love and I call each other "Partner, Darling, Love, Baby, Lion-kitty/Mew-Kitty, ect ect" and I love it so much <3

[WhatTheSin]

I call my boyfriend my missus. Let's people know i wear the trousers in the relationship. ;D

[hellterminator]

"Boyfriend" sounds to juvenile to you? What about "manfriend?" :D

[ximagination]

i call my partner my lovely. well, because she's lovely.

[MrsCPoulson]

I usually call him my husband or my Significant Other.

I usually use S.O. when in groups talking about our "other halves" when we all don't have husbands/wives/girlfriends/etc­.

[DarkEyesOfAKiller]

I refer to my boyfriend/partner as my significant other. c:

[thebatchtube]

I mostly just call her "monkey nipples".

[sevenlemon]

I just refer to my SO as my friend or lady friend. It feels strange to say lover, or girlfriend (i'm 51) and partner sounds like i'm going square dancing.

[sleepswthghosts]

I like to call them my person, my beau, or *insert person's name here*. Partner sounds too much like a business relationship (though it's become my default term for referring to other people's people), lover is too eroticized, boy/girlfriend sounds very high school, and Manfriend is something reserved for my mother's partners.

[karnatakapapayaya]

i like that these videos exist

[shawman9]

I'd say it has to do more with age, cause the older you are the more serious you become towards certain things, cause my father uses the word "partner" but me being 20 years of age I prefer to use Girlfriend to describe my other. Then again I could be wrong, in which case ignore this comment.

[Rabbitsketch]

I called my ex of 5 years 'my love', sometimes 'my lover', but that sounded more sexual than I wanted it to be. With my current boyfriend, I don't really know. I'm not close enough yet to call him 'my love'.

I've also used 'babylove', when feeling more cutesy.

[majo271010]

I like to call him my boyfriend, because partner sound a bit to serious, not that I dont think our relasionship is serious, but the only person I remember who uses the term is my father, to refer to his partner of almost 8 years

[ToyletGnome]

I use "boyfriend" because I'm 16, he's 17, we've been going out 7 months, it just kinda seems appropriate. My dad always used the term "partner" instead of "girlfriend" which I thought made sense in the way I call her my "step-mum" even though they're not married because they've been together for over three years and they live together. Although now he gets to call her his "fiancee". :)

[MrBrightsideXVI]

It's funny because I always thought "Partner" is the most appropriate word for it because that's basically he/she is. Your "partner" is the person you share life experiences with for that part certain part of your life.

[IslandHermit]

My partner and I call each other "paramour" in public, and "sweetie" in private. We prefer gender-neutral terms for pretty much the same reasons you outlined, and even use gender neutral pronouns (zie, zir) when talking to others. Gets me some strange looks in IRL, but not so much now as it did 10 years ago.

[ArsenicAngel89]

I've always just called evey one babe or baby. even friends though

[theKaylaCarrieshow]

woah and this whole time i thought you were a lesbian. well at first i thought you were straight and then i thought you were a lesbian. now i have no idea. 

[RightMeow69]

Laci I'm usually a big fan of yours and people can use whichever labels they prefer but I personally believe words don't matter it's the context you use them in.

[RizeUpAgainstIt]

my pleasure object

[cluescrollvids]

anyone wanna text? hit me up at 587-400-2204

[1mitch1hctim1]

I'm not actually in a relationship, but normally I refere to them by their actual name rather then my boyfriend/partner , also I hate when girls refere to their partner/boyfriend as "my man" or "my boy" just gets on my tits...

[AoiSeraph12]

I think partner and lover works.

[lmfislb]

I call mine my Bangmaid!

[Slacktoo]

In otherwords, politically correct bullshit

[legi0naire]

"Protein disposal unit" that's neutral enough right?

[lordbaver]

I don't really have monogamous relationships, and usually refer to all my friends as "friends" regardless of if I have sex with them or have romantic feelings for them. I have one though, that I sometimes call "lover", though mostly directly to her, not when talking with other people.

I find it very overrated to constantly state that "this is a person I sleep with". I think that in itself makes people draw a lot of unnecessary conclusions and is something that to me is personal anyway.

[chemluise]

I use "primary relationship". But it's a platonic relationship. I think it would work for relationships with sex too.

[Z333iscentury]

I prefer significant other.

[superfries0]

Over in the Netherlands i call them my 'Scharrels' ... Best to be described as flirts :P

[FriezaReturns00001]

damn. 

[purplefrog42]

I like "lover" but I use BF/GF and partner too. Oh or "sexy friend" ^.^

[LibraGirl1990]

my aunty and uncle who arent married but have children and a life together call eachother their "life-partner" which i think is beautiful

[bunnyblue2]

I love friend plus XD

[frededison]

Spooning mate.  Take back your taken aback, Jack. ;)

[wa2si]

2:57 lol oh the timing of the cut!

[DiogoDC123]

so basically people use "partner" not to piss off the gays? doesn't make sense to me

[purplefrog42]

@DiogoDC123 totally missed the point

[DiogoDC123]

@purplefrog42 thats all i got from this video essentially who cares what people call their s/o

[purplefrog42]

@DiogoDC123 then I suggest you check your privilege

[DiogoDC123]

@purplefrog42 what the fuck are you talking about?

[purplefrog42]

@DiogoDC123 try googling "check my what?" there is a blog post on Shrub.com which can help you

[SandLizard]

Partner sounds good, as does lover and several of those mentioned. I've never liked significant other, though, it makes it sound like your partner is an object, an 'other'.

[stephiilove94]

I got in the habit of saying "significant other" when telling someone I was in a relationship or talking about them around people who weren't comfortable when the fact that I was dating a girl.

[maggotlust]

I do this too. I consider myself to be multisexual. I call my male companion my partner most of the time actually. For the same reasons you stated.

[HiMyNameIsJacky]

The sound is panned weirdly.

[bevhill317]

my boyfriend

[jerseyt0mat0]

I don't like "partner" because it makes me think of people who own a law firm together. It just seems too cold and business-y for an intimate relationship.

[captainkilljoy6]

my baby

[kittykat0232]

i like to call him my fiancé :)

[RockGod323]

Does that mean that if you break up, its Ex-Partner?

[miguelito1308]

you should call it "MY LUCKY BASTARD" ´cause that´s what he is ( damn I just fucking envy him so much) (T_T)

[RosutoRyu]

sweety

[GLCorps2]

Sad.

[Rupture]

N I call my partner my "homie" ;)

[Rupture]

"im not dating a boy im dating a MAN!" Lol I forgot how cute you were :)

[gabimookie]

I tend to call my relationship many things partner, bfgf, lovaaa,

[Badthoughts90]

If I'm dating a guy I tend to say 'Beau' or 'Boyo', something I picked up from my mother. Now I'm with a girl and I usually call her my 'Corazón' which is Spanish for heart (I'm not Spanish though, just thought it sounded nice).

[MarioAbo123]

we have that in norway to, we dont have "girl" and "boy" in the partner word :P

[FutureAbe]

I call my girlfriend Whore

[1966spg]

nerimon

[Punana1992]

You could do better .... Just saying

[GhostIntoTheFog]

I think it's just a matter of being comfortable using certain language. For instance, I refer to male and female comics as "comedians" and find the word "comedienne" disconcertingly obsolete. However, if I refer to a female thespian, I exclusively use the word "actress" and find it sounds unnatural when a woman refers to herself as an "actor." There's no logic there; it's just what I'm used to. In some languages, nearly every noun is gender specific; English is the middle ground.

[MaJiahuo]

This is stupid. It's my relationship and I'll call my "partner" whatever I feel like, it is nobodies business. If someone for some reason happens to feel "offended" or "excluded" by that they can go fuck themselves.

[purplefrog42]

@MaJiahuo check your privilege

[ChaosCode]

I refer to my wife as "my love". That seems pretty neutral? yes no?

[xingichaun007]

ONE LUCKY GUY

[Satori1800]

I prefer to call my partner 'righty' 

great video, thanks:)

joseph

[mikepar2]

Significant Other

[shoottherunner8008]

Here in England I just call my girlfriend bitch.

And that's her name.

[zewarlock]

I call my girlfriend a kraken cuz its what she is and she accepts it :P