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  • talk first

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  • 'Talk first, think later' ummmmm... What if you say the most STUPID thing, what then?

  • GOD MODE

  • "WOW NICE BOOBS!!!!!!"

  • 10 people are too shy to date : )

  • Stephenerdman you should check out Simple Pickup, if you haven't already. I think you'd have a lot in common.

  • It works I got laid

  • If I were to talk first what's really on my mind, I might say "Damn, that ass is hot!"

  • @someoneangrier bro go for her just be confident and genuine. Just go up to her and introduce yourself "Hey I'm (your name here), where would you like to go to dinner this evening?" say that followed by a closed mouth smile. You have nothing to loose

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  • Heres what i do.... i pick out a woman i want. Then, i walk over to her and give her a hard glance and a sneer (possibly even a nostril flare). When i approach her i ask, "did i just notice you noticing me noticing you?" If she laughs, i know that i'm in like flint... if she doesnt, then i bop her over the head with my beer bottle, throw her over my shoulder while she's unconcious, and run her out to my car. How's that for ascertiveness! For more tips on approaching women, just subscribe.

  • @WanderleiSilva29 I like your style, lmfao.

  • @WanderleiSilva29 Ha ha, you sir are brilliant. May I buy you a drink?

  • I starting talking without thinking and I said my penis is hard

  • @831chrisbrown

    Well, uhmm..

    First, be a popular, and be perfect..o_e

    That's what most girls think..

    Anyways,

    Talk to the girl.

    How would you know how she would act around you?

    Its a pretty simple idea..

    But if your a shy guy, then yeah, ik..

  • talk first think later that stuff dnt work.. if u talk first there really nt going to b much conversation

  • Talk 1st, think later that stuff dnt works

  • talk 1st and think later that stuff dnt works..

  • talk 1st and think later.. that stuff dnt works..

  • How do I get a girl to notice me with out me talking to her

  • do you have tips for very handsome people ?

  • Oh crap everything you've told us not to do I've done!!! And I'm still interested in the girl I made the mistakes with but she hasn't really snapped or "avoided me" HOW DO I FIX THIS???

  • He is so right

  • haha he's so right. especially about how guys pretend to look cool as they start to freak out inside. and it's really important to talk first, think later because I've found that the longer I hesitate before talking to a girl, the more awkward the conversation gets.

  • I think talk first approach works because the fearlessness is attractive

  • hey everyone, I've made some videos of myself and friends approaching girls in public. check them out and let me know what you think. thanks

  • Kind of like a video I've seen called the 3 Second rule, right?

    Thanks.

  • It works when I know an attractive girl or I'm sitting by her in class. I would just open up by saying, "what's up(her name)" that way I'm in my zone and the next thing she says I talk to her like I'm talking to any other person and try to show her that I'm confident. So yeah, the talk before think works for me very well. :)

  • That look he is talking about IS really creepy try not to do it. Talk first, think later is right.

  • Good advice Stephan, I will try it from now on.

  • Hey guys! Yeah you viewers! Listen! Why is that we guys are the ones approaching women? Women and Men are the same right. I just read a article that made alot of sense to me. If a girl looks at you and is interested in you, why doesn't she approach, what she clearly wants? Why are we the ones who have to approach instead? The excuse guys and PUAs use is how often do girls approach guys! The whole thing I found out is girls actually do approach guys as much as guys i've seen it alot of times!

  • If did doesn't work with this girl ..... I give up on life ....

  • holy .omg bro like when you did the facial expressions i do those two wow

  • I like you video and you give good advice and I do the same thing but everyday I get better at it

  • If I mess this up with this girl - I honestly can't see the point on living on, this better work.

  • thanks ur really good at giving advice

  • i wana fuck you! oh shit...thanks -_-

  • just don't practice with your mom or sister people :)

  • Thanks!

  • Hah, that's exactly how I am. Last time on a bus ride I took about 40 minutes to think of what to say. Gah! I'll try following your advice :)

  • There is this girl, i knew she loved me, i asked her somehow. And when i asked her, i was too fcking shy and today im gonna try to hug her but i really dont know what to do with her

  • What you should do treat her the way Eminem treated Dr Dre in the sexing verse of Rain Man. I ask her"is it gay to play PUT PUT gold with a friend and watch his butt butt when he tees off? And continue the verse from there (cant recite it all) from there. What will either happen is she will burst out laughing or slap you across the face for being a freak. Normally the second one happens

  • this is exactly what I needed. for years i noticed myself being a better talker when I speak before i think. The more i think about it the worse i performed. this is great material! thanks stephan.

  • I am a teenage boy and my main problem with women is that I'm fat. (I'm not just being self consious, I am genuinely tubby,not morbidly obese, but tubby) and if you have dealt with teenage girls you will know that they will allways go for the fitter guy... even if he is very stupid. I have tried getting thinner but everthing I try just wont work. I lack commitment. But If I could just get to talking to a girl I could show my personality. When I Approach a girl what would be a good ice breker?

  • Hey Stephan, quick question. What are some simple, generic conversation openers for girls you don't know? After, "hey what's up?" what should i instinctivily say if she answers wit a simple hi?

  • talk first, think later..

    ''TITS''

  • @ErikOnEarth Talk 1st Think Soon = T1TS !

  • Girls wana see the MONEY BABY!!!!

  • If you got tne money you wont need to talk first think later lol.

  • nice...it worked for me dude

  • do you have tips for ugly people?

  • @ny1fanta Yeah, stop thinking you're ugly. I've seen lots of guys who I personally think are ugly going out with hot girls, and it's all due to the ugly guy thinking he's the bees knees and being confident. Tell yourself, I'm as deserving of this girl as any guy so why let any other guy get his mitts on her. Approach the girl with confidence that everything's going to turn out great. If it doesn't, think to yourself it's your loss love! But most of the time she'll be impressed by your confidence

  • @ny1fanta ugly is in bro. you can be the ugliest mother fucker on the face of the earth and still grab a good lookin girl.

  • @ny1fanta I have. Be cultivated and well-groomed. Smell good (buy some cheap perfume for 10 bucks) and style yourself so YOU feel great. If she has the feeling you feel good in your skin, she will feel good in your area. thats what I experienced

  • @ny1fanta stop to be ugly

  • @ny1fanta yes, I have tips for people who think they're ugly. Check out my channel!

  • @stephanerdman Dear Stephan

    i can't decide between 5 girls 1 of them is popular but short the 2nd one is a geek/nerd like me and she is nice 3rd she is a bit of a dumb girl but she 's cute

    4th one is a year younger than me anc we talk she is cute but i think she is interested i this other guy and th 5th one HOTTEST im not a perv but her ass is so nice i don't even have to imagen her naked i once got a boner in class and had to hide it but she ignores me most of the time

    Reply please.OTWTS

  • I love your tips, their all great

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  • @stephanerdman.you are so fucking hot.love the video.

  • I do well asking girls out it's just when I'm dating them it gets really wierd... Like akward and we never talk... I need help. Message me pls :l

  • i tell myself im a sissy and i grow ball and ask them out

  • i wonder why im watching this i do fine with girls i just dont do fine with girls that i know like hm wtf?? its weird one of my good gfs not dating but a friend thats a girl she came over my house and everything and i cant talk to her in school like hmm really?!?!

  • (continued). Remember act with no expectaions, who cares, and if she doesnt answer or gives one word answers dont say anything else. just stand there like a dead piece of wood.

  • (continued). If you shake when you approach she will see it and appraise it probably negatively. But again who cares. So what???? You will get lauged at. Still, so what?????? the point is to get through the initial stages. Remember you have no expectations. Have in mind 4 things to say 1) hi 2) how are you) 3 ) Are you having a good nite tonite/day today 4) who are you here with? And assume a facial expression of the dead piece of wood. No laugh smile or anything. ( continued)

  • (continued). So to relax when approaching a girl have no expectations. You are not trying to pick her up you are not trying to do a thing. Turn yourself and your face into a dead piece of wood with no smile or expression ( same as when you dont give a damned about anything). You dont have to impress anyone and she doesnt have to impress you. Remember you are a piece of wood. Whatever she says or doesnt say who cares??? Same with you what aever you say or dont say who cares???? ( continued)

  • Why do guys get ( very) nervous when they want to talk to a girl? Answer. Expectations. They have expectations on themselves that they want to make a good impression, and they want the girl to perceive them as good so they can pick the girl up. Also they have expectations on the girl - hope she talks, hope she likes me and the expectation that this girl is important and so is her opinion and appraisal of you the guy. With all this its only natural that the guy shakes and gets nervous (continued)

  • If a girl asks you out, she wants your D

  • How do you start the conversation

  • @patobond007 hahahahhahaha that rocks

  • Lol my bro acts like that all the time were at school maybe he's have girl problems

  • Foes This Work For Girls Too? Cause I Was At The Mall With My Chicka And We Liked These Guys And I Told Her Just Be Yourself And We Were Playing In All The Little Kid Rides N Stuff And They Came Up To Us Wen We Were Acting Like Total Asses

  • I gave him thumbs up a minute in !

  • Brilliant. It makes it easier whenur already in the conversation

  • I just say: Hi

    and when she doesn't say anything i say: Saying Hi doesn't make you pregnant.

  • What he is saying is we as Men think to much if we just say Hello how you doing today act then think later Good idea

  • What if i see a girl with big boobs and i just say "I wanna feel those melons!". Will she feel flattered because i just said it and didn't think about it?

  • @patobond007

    lol

  • 8 people are bitches

  • It works

  • i jus cant talk to girls i wanna talk to cus im a pussy, and I think im afraid of rejection...how do I get over fearing rejection?? Pls help

  • thank you steph a nerd man

  • DUS THIS DUDE HAVE ANY 10 YEAR OLD STUFF

  • u is a genius dude

  • If we (women) act bitchy to guys, it probably has more to do with our problems than any errors on his part. How people treat others is directly related to how we treat ourselves.

  • im out

  • ok I give up. I think approach a random girl is creepy. well that's what my friend ben says. and I think he's wrong.

  • dude, i get subsribed to you, like, i learned how to talk and be social to girls a few months ago, but i still lack the ability to just GO TO THE GIRL! lol

  • @RaulTheSunshineMan Same man.

    **Sigh**

  • @danny02463 Just believe :D

  • This is so true. Best thing is to just blurt out something it works! Its usually complete rubbish but many find it just entertaining. Last time I went up and said something like "alright, I've just seen you and felt something went a bit funny inside of me, don't judge me though!", she automatically went into shock but oh it broke the ice!!

  • @kevingp12 and this is a fine example of being negative instead of looking at the positives of what hes saying, gtfo

  • DUDE, I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THAT 0.0 imma give what you said a thought, TY BRO [:

  • That goes against everything I have ever been told. It's crazy enough that it might actually work

  • @pretaanluxis Lol! Was kinda thinking the same exact thing...

  • thumbs up if you liked this How To Approach Girls Without Freezing Up

  • YOU ARE A LORD

  • this is how you get punched in the mouth, when you talk and dont think beforehand.

  • But, thank you so much :) i thought about it and now i feel confident in my self and i know i can do it!

  • lmao i feel like a... after your expressions lmao! because thats how i was :P

  • Last time that hapond I ended up in a dich

  • you can't just talk to a random girl you don't know. But no I don't understand any of this. I want to talk to a random girl in order for that girl to get to know me. My friends say it's creepy.

  • I have to say I really enjoy your videos. Most dating 'coaches' or pick up- 'gurus' seem to put it all in gimmicks, tricks, techniques... you put things into 'perspective' to help improve how we view and think about interaction with the opposite sex. Very well done man!

  • I have to say I really enjoy your videos. Most dating 'coaches' or pick up- 'gurus' seem to put it all in gimmicks, tricks, techniques... you put things into 'perspective' to help improve how we view and think about interaction with the opposite sex. Very well done man!

  • You're right. Once I talked to girl next to me without thinking at all because my thoughts were about other one and her ex-boyfriend who stood next to me and we had a very pleasant chatter with that new girl. Then I added her on facebook and found out she was the most beautiful girl I've ever met and talked to. And I thought in other situation I won't be able to master it, definitely. Sad thing is that I fucked everything up after I started thinking about her beauty. My thought is that people f

  • This sounds pretty good, I've watched a lot of ur videos, and they help, but i still have a problem u know, I walk up to a girl, make a commet mayby, or just hi, and she says hi, I smile, she smiles, and then I just freeze, becasue shes so damn hot, and I just dont know what to say, Hi, Hi then Cya... help... :(

  • I call the look us guys get when we see a girl we like the diarrhea face, cause It's similar to someone suffering from an excruciating case of diarrhea lol

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  • that is what happen to me freeze up.

  • @lawshorizon no offense but that's horrible advise. Since I last made that comment I've slow danced with her twice, got her number and then proceeded on getting to know her. And NEVER get someone's number without them knowing, that's so creepy..

  • @Zuberguber105

    LOL – I has playing with words. Of course go for the “in person” approach whenever possible. Actually, I’ve had one girl look me up in the phone book and call me. Another girl, I met briefly, only new the place/building where I worked. She phoned the building and they tracked me down to give me the call – really, personally, I didn’t mind – although it was a surprise.

  • Re. Freezing Up. ... I think the problem with you guys is that you're thinking about it the wrong way. You're probably thinking "Hot Sophisticated Babe - I'll never get her!" when you should be thinking "just a little girl with lots of insecurities of her own." Girls/Women are a whole different sex and have a lot more insecurities then guys (although they might try to fake that they don't).

  • Hi S. ... Ya, I've seen guys do that. One, that comes to mind, was this guy I watched talking with a girl for 20 seconds (while stading in a check-out line). She was cheerful (but faking it, I think) and when the conversation stopped he got a weird, worried look on his face. He didn't know what to say next, I guess, and he wasn't aware of his expression.

  • Hi everybody. Re. What to talk about/approaching girls. ,,, Pretty damn simple. Start with Hi then expand with a question. E.G, Your waiting for a bus so ask her: "Have you been waiting long for a bus. Or, It's raining ask: "When did this rain start?" - stuff like that.

  • Hey stephan,

    my problem is how to approach a girl or even a group of girls. im okay on how to talk to a girl and what to say but approaching one is the problem.i mean if you have any advice i could have to help me overcome this then id be gratful.

    :)

  • Hey, I'm a rising star on Youtube set for the top. I'm also a successful party organiser and children's entertainer: see me in action on my channel. Business is going well and, as you'll see I'm pretty much a self-made man. My womanising days are behind me and I'm hoping to settle down. So, ladies, come take a look and if you like what you see, try your luck. Much love and tender hearts - john, john xxx

  • Mention that if you do see an attractive girl and she catches you checking her out..."SMILE" right away!! Don't sit there and stare at her or she will think you are Jeffrey Dahmer and you want to kill her and eat her flesh!

  • You said talk first but talk about what though?

  • can u show a video of u using ur technique to approach girls?

  • i totally do that when I see a hot lady, act serious and not really looking at her

  • I've noticed somethig: whenever I approach without thinking, nd just be spontaneous and have fun...oh boy it's like magic, awesome stuff. Then, I noticed that the moment I start thinking, I become a nervous loser haha nd can't be funny anymore dayum! I wish I can do the stop thinking technique for ever, but sometimes it gets to me nd I fail :(

  • yeah about the staring thing. my neighbor is gay and he always whistles at me and stares, the whole time i thought he wanted to fight then i asked around and everyone is like "juan is gay, U didnt know that?" so yeah i could empathize with women bout that

  • @unaffiliatedperson

    LOL ... Some gay-joker said I had a sexy voice. Made me feel sick and I almost punched his teeth in. On the other hand, I used to know this other gay-guy and he was really funny.

  • @lawshorizon yeah hes really over stepped his boundaries lol hes followed me to the bus stop, i think he ejaculated on my door step, its really a bad situation, if only i could transform him into a lady lol

  • I like your style! Why did I not think of this before? This makes you act instantly before nerves can even set in. I'm sure this will also make you look more NORMAL to her so she won't be fearful of you. Simple and natural, but effective. Great vid!!

  • pffff ty i will try it tomorow....hope it will work and i dont freeze up.....xPPP i will be just my self and talk without think if i mesh up i think it will work tnx anyway :D

  • thanks a lot for the advice!!! I did exactly what you said about do first and think afterwards....got her number :D

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  • Thank you my friend told me the best to do it was to find a girl who thinks your funny you can probley guess how that went

  • Heres what i do. i see a girl i like across the room and i give her a sneer. Just a little grin with my left nostril opened up and 1 eyebrow raised that says, "im here to feed you my solami". Then i casually walk over to her making eye contact the entire time. Once I am face to face with her, i will ask, "I noticed that you noticed me noticing you".... Now, if she laughs, you're in! If she doesnt, i bop her on top of the head with the nearest beer bottle and drag her to my car unconcious.

  • @WanderleiSilva29 hahaha what???

  • @niimartey111 60% of the time it works.... every time.

  • @WanderleiSilva29 hahah Anchorman???

  • @WanderleiSilva29 What If There Was A Boooger In Your Nose Lol

  • @WanderleiSilva29 you gotta have an amazing sex life.

  • @WanderleiSilva29 Hahaha =). You're my hero!

  • @WanderleiSilva29 giggty no homo

  • @prophetisawsume13 como es quan?

  • @WanderleiSilva29 what???

  • I have ADD so I always talk first, think later. I've noticed girls find me a lot more fun and spontaneous then when I take mah drugs.

  • is there any schools on how to get women or personal coaches out there because i really need help!!!

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  • @ItsFreddyFred Hey it's Stephan here. You should join my newsletter and send me an email...I accept a limited number of personal coaching clients. I can explain how it works when you get in touch. Of course you can also try my programs. Just follow the links on my page. Hope this all makes sense, stephan

  • this guys a fucking genius

    

  • another trick is just don't over think it. Some people just pretend they're talking to a friend and it works

  • okay so i see this girl every morning when i go to school, ive been thinkin if i should talk or shouldnt

    help me out

    thnx

  • I hate that we guys have to make the first move!

  • @TheGlitcher77 exactly!! i'm totally 100% agree with you!

  • @TheGlitcher77 its so ankwardd yeah :S

  • @TheGlitcher77 I know, eh?

  • @TheGlitcher77 Unless you are extremely good looking, yes it's sad :(

  • i can stand up to a charging bear without flintching talking to girls scares the shit out of me

  • I've jumped out of a plane 13,500 feet above land.

    Approaching a women scares me way more.

    Sigh. It makes no sense.

  • @UnknownXV

    Try jumping without a parachute --- then it will make sense!

  • @lawshorizon I don't have a death wish.

  • Stephen,

    Wow, you hit the nail right on the head. I definitely am guilty of this. I agree with what you said about talking first and thinking later. I will certainly apply this tip.

    Much thanks

  • i always think that i nervous when i talk to a girl, maybe i think that they might be disgusted of me because im fat

  • my problem is that I like this girl who I have no classes with, she's just my bestfriend's girlfriend's bestfriend and I have no idea what kind of approach I should make.. I only see her in the morning on school days before homeroom and she's usually with people I don't know

  • @Zuberguber105 damn that's another hard deal. i know how you're feeling with that.

  • @Zuberguber105

    Ask your bestfriend's girlfriend to ask her bestfriend whether your bestfriend's girlfriend's bestfriend likes you or not. Then ask your bestfriend's girlfriend to get her bestfiend's phone number to give to your bestfriend to give to you.

  • Man there's this cute girl in my class that sits in front of me. I want to talk to her and get her number but I'm not sure what to say or how to get her attention cuz her back is to me.....And I don't want to tap her on the shoulder cuz that might be creepy......What do I do? She's really cute and I don't want to let this one pass by........I know you said to talk first then think but if I did that I would probably only say "Hi" or something boring related to the class.

  • @ryguy2598

    Since you sit in front of her, play with the back of her hair (or use a ruler to extend your reach). Once you've got her angry enough then apologize to her, saying you did it because you like her so much, and see how she reacts. It should work?

  • @lawshorizon my friend did it one time,the girl actually slapped him and told the teacher.ive done it before i read you comment,the girl told me "can you please stop" i apologized and said i really like you i could not think of other way to get your attention,she smiled and asked me about my name,next day she didnt even look at me.i knew that shes mean or gotta a boyfriend.but it was really weird!!

  • Nice one buddy...that's a great tip

  • how do i approach a cute female because everytime i make complement them and all they just think its a compliment and then they go back to what there doing they dont get im trying to have a relationship with them

  • thanks alot dude.... i was dat kinda guy...but aftr applyin ur tips...i ve bcum reali attractive 2 gals...thx alot

  • say first think later? ok say damn bitch you got nice tits. tell me how it goes

  • I didn't think this would work, tried it, n it worked awesomely :) thx man

  • ahhaha stephen you're a cool dude.