@squarepapershade, well apparently she is going to take counselling. "Jane" is making her get counselling cause she "Can't deal with all Tara's shit"...apparently. Shit being the fact that "Tara" is somewhat depressed. But can you blame her, having a girlfriend like that! Thank you very much babe *blushes* haha x
our friends have to stick up for themselves. if they want out of their current situation but they are afraid to leave for whatever reasaon then I think we should intervene. yoru friend seems to be in a very unhealthy situation. eventually she will get tired of "Jane", and when that time comes I hope "Jane" doesn't turn violent. I hope things work out. Good luck with everything.
@themukisa11, hey I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I do think I need to say something, abuse is abuse- whether it's physical, mental or otherwise. I hope Jane doesn't turn violent, otherwise she will have problems. I'm just going to sit down and have a one to one with "Tara" , talk about her options and be supportive.
aw man! i'm going through a similar situation with a close friend of mine. her live-in boyfriend is becoming more controlling and possessive by the day. the only major difference is that he doesn't degrade my friend infront of anyone. he just controls where she goes and who she hangs out with. my friend is almost identlical to your own. she's sweet as pie, and wouldn't hurt a sole. another of mine approached me about confronting the guy but I don't think it's my place.
sounds of it it might be difficult!!) but talk to Tara about other stuff and let her mention the topic of 'Jane'. Tell her that you've noticed she isn't quite the same up-beat person. The trick is not to blame Jane (as this will only make Tara defensive) but to try and discuss the issues as to why she is feeling the way she is. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully this situation will improve. x
@thisistalisha, thank you for commenting, it makes a lot of sense. I defo will be speaking to her because I would feel bad to sit back and wait for things to just get better. It's unlikely they will, she's so self destructive at times. I dunno if it's worth waiting for it to fizzle out. You're right, I won't blame "Jane", but I know Tara is starting to get fed up of the relationship. That's promising, but she's scared to hurt "Jane's" feelings, by mentioning their "issues". Tricky, eh?
This is a difficult situation for you, but also for 'Tara'. Of course you want what's best for her but from personal experience these relationships eventually fizzle out. I once had a friend who's boyfriend I couldn't stand from the minute I met him--there was just some negative vibes around him. But I kept my mouth closed, these are life lessons our friends need to go through. They do say love is blind, and I think in this case it is true. Maybe try and have a one-on-one with 'Tara' (from the
@squarepapershade, well apparently she is going to take counselling. "Jane" is making her get counselling cause she "Can't deal with all Tara's shit"...apparently. Shit being the fact that "Tara" is somewhat depressed. But can you blame her, having a girlfriend like that! Thank you very much babe *blushes* haha x
Kandgoods 7 months ago
I HAVE received ALL your comments, but for some reason they won't show up in the video comments section. I'm working on it. Thanks guys x
Kandgoods 7 months ago
our friends have to stick up for themselves. if they want out of their current situation but they are afraid to leave for whatever reasaon then I think we should intervene. yoru friend seems to be in a very unhealthy situation. eventually she will get tired of "Jane", and when that time comes I hope "Jane" doesn't turn violent. I hope things work out. Good luck with everything.
themukisa11 7 months ago
@themukisa11, hey I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I do think I need to say something, abuse is abuse- whether it's physical, mental or otherwise. I hope Jane doesn't turn violent, otherwise she will have problems. I'm just going to sit down and have a one to one with "Tara" , talk about her options and be supportive.
Kandgoods 7 months ago
aw man! i'm going through a similar situation with a close friend of mine. her live-in boyfriend is becoming more controlling and possessive by the day. the only major difference is that he doesn't degrade my friend infront of anyone. he just controls where she goes and who she hangs out with. my friend is almost identlical to your own. she's sweet as pie, and wouldn't hurt a sole. another of mine approached me about confronting the guy but I don't think it's my place.
themukisa11 7 months ago
sounds of it it might be difficult!!) but talk to Tara about other stuff and let her mention the topic of 'Jane'. Tell her that you've noticed she isn't quite the same up-beat person. The trick is not to blame Jane (as this will only make Tara defensive) but to try and discuss the issues as to why she is feeling the way she is. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully this situation will improve. x
thisistalisha 7 months ago
@thisistalisha, thank you for commenting, it makes a lot of sense. I defo will be speaking to her because I would feel bad to sit back and wait for things to just get better. It's unlikely they will, she's so self destructive at times. I dunno if it's worth waiting for it to fizzle out. You're right, I won't blame "Jane", but I know Tara is starting to get fed up of the relationship. That's promising, but she's scared to hurt "Jane's" feelings, by mentioning their "issues". Tricky, eh?
Kandgoods 7 months ago
This is a difficult situation for you, but also for 'Tara'. Of course you want what's best for her but from personal experience these relationships eventually fizzle out. I once had a friend who's boyfriend I couldn't stand from the minute I met him--there was just some negative vibes around him. But I kept my mouth closed, these are life lessons our friends need to go through. They do say love is blind, and I think in this case it is true. Maybe try and have a one-on-one with 'Tara' (from the
thisistalisha 7 months ago