Santoria's top 10 turn offs with guys

[levimichal]

Submission is key in the life of a Christian. Yet men and women there is a difference men submit to Jesus Christ and leadership in their local body if theu are younger this includes their father. Women are to submit to her father and Christ up until the point she gets married then she is to submit to her husband. I.e. Ephesians, Colossians (maybe), 1 Corinthians 14 they mention something similar.

[7KEDDY7]

AMEN SISTA! :) GOD BLESS YOU BOTH*

[aaliyahbr3]

8:36 "As the woman, our job is to follow and submit completely..submit to him like we do to the Lord." I'm struggling with this, no lie. I understand the importance of submitting to your leadership, being held accountable & edified by the authority above you. (pastor, bishop, mentor, etc.) But it's harder for me to imagine why within a partnership/marriage, women have to submit to the men as our authority. 1 Peter 5:5 talks about mutual submission. Could this also apply in marriage? God bless. ♥

[corazoncito77]

She's really good at explaining things. Please do a blog Santoria ! I live in Europe and your advice is great... Use the the good side of internet pleaaase :)

[relinquishedwill]

All them words may be good and true but still will you move for anything other than money? Not you 2 personally, ...... the viewers.

[BSlady85]

Preach that 

[MsTNGC]

Great video! This list not only helps me know what to avoid concerning men and relationships but it completely raises the standard for me as a woman of God. Very inspiring!

[snuggliciousforever]

Hello judging by the date and time stamp on this post I'm mad late but if it hasn't already been put in place I was wondering if Santoria could start a blog as well. After watching the "10 things" lists i realize just how weak my spiritual life is and that I have soooo far to go and I think i would benefit greatly from her ministry. I hail from Philadelphia Pa so needless to say I won't be in Cali area any time soon. Is this something you all/ he would be willing to do?

[rknott8]

This really made me understand my role with God. I mean I got time, I'm only 19, but It reminded me of Abraham, and Sarah being the wife and how well they worked because of the leader being led by something supernatural. Leaders are led too and it is what leads them to be good leaders. I want to have a wife later in life so it's important to see and correct motives.

[calvinstrying]

This one is real good!

[blissfulbirdie]

hi-five at 5:27! haha! AGREED

[RobertSS50]

u guys r speakin da truth

[nzrockitgirl]

One thing that turns me off is a dude who is too political because then that opens doors for them to be judgemental

Another thing is a dude that is nuetral they don't comment on things based on the word of God, their opinion is what ever the crowd is swaying to at the time

I need a brother with some balence in the life...Stability

[wootwoot1285]

oh my goodness...i love it!!!

SO GOOD.

[TheKurdy16]

* finger snaps*

[princespretykity]

I need to be in fellowship with that girl !!! How do I get connected with this sis PJC??...love n bless.. great message Antoniaaaa

[scj816]

#3 A man with no vision *stands up an applauds* Santoria you hit the nail right on the head!! Your entire list is spectacular!! I am so happy to see a women of God speaking the truth! *chanting* No Garden Marriage! No Garden Marriage! No Garden Marriage! Love it!

[crywhitfield2]

omg she was very helpful,.. this needs to be published in a book or something

[SweetSavior18]

OHH YES I AGREE

[Prisscill]

Thanks for your words of wisdom. Very helpful.

[NaturalDiva624]

YESSSS to point 1!! YES!!! #3 YES!! #5! OMG! YES! #6! You must be in my head! lmbo!! #7!!! AHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! Right?! #8 my, my, my!!! say that girl! lol #9....smh. yes. #10 HAHA! Yes!!

I'm gonna have to make a response vid,,,my Lord! lol

[itzjuzme86]

I totally agree when she said a man needs to be compassionate and humble himself. Sadly, too many men within the church and outside the church are over zealous. Being able to humble yourself doesn't show your weakness but rather one strength!

[NicheDiva]

"You have no confidence in God, or the authority he has given you... our marriage will be powerless because I'm running it and everything will be out of order...then we'll have the "garden" all over again". What?! Such a word. She betta preach!!!

[illholla84]

@NicheDiva but why would a virtuous woman being trying to manipulate somebody....?

[bmpoet]

@illholla84 It's not necessarily that a virtuous woman is trying to be manipulative. Sometimes when a woman has natural leadership or is more of a loud/independent type she can slip into manipulating mode without even realizing it. A woman who knows that she struggles with this knows she can't have a man who can be easily manipulated: it's a form of temptation. Part of being a virtuous woman isn't not struggling with sin and such, but being able to know boundaries and staying within them.

[kriccistarr]

No.6 all day long.

[stazzylove456]

Yo yoooooo list was. HITTIN. i mean its so true in every number of the list. like wow. and i feel you. like as a woman with a "strong personality" i cant JUST follow any man. you right, like if ima submit like the lord wants me to (every intention on doin that) then ima make sure...ugh, you gotta have yo one's and two's together.

[rufuscarswell]

sorry this didn't help me at all.......actually, where in the word does it tell us to look to a women to figure out how to be a Godly man? sounds out of order to me.....be blessed

[stazzylove456]

@rufuscarswell, she just sharing her turn offs dude. if you feel a wee offended....hmm man maybe we should check ourselves. also you said it seems out of order....as in backwards? the word doesnt say look to man to find out how to be a Godly woman.....the word tells you how to be a Godly woman. same for man....sooooo hey

[neosaberleo]

I know you made this comment like a month ago, but I need to reply to this.

The point of the video is not to look to a woman to figure out how to be a steadfast man of God, the point of the video is one thing: Trust God, follow God, submit to God completely, and you will be fully prepared for a proper, stable, and God-ordained relationship that will stand because your foundation is God.

Hope this helps.

[walksbyf8h]

@rufus: I agree with neosaberleo. I find it curious that Santoria had 10 points yet you mention 1 & say that the entire video didn't help you. There's a 'heart issue' here, friend. Time for knee mail with an open heart and mind before the Lord.

~~ Take care, walksbyf8h

[Kelmichelle1]

loved it :) and they all line up with biblical womanhood!!

[reneelillian]

AMEN!

5stars!

I am gonna spread this video!

P4CM is awesome!

bless the Lord!

[kriccistarr]

this is a good video for young women I'm a 24 yr old young women and i helped me thank you.

[danielval05]

I was feeling a lot of the stuff on this list. I'm sure a lot of guys are being smitten by these corrections. I know I was. Thanks for some of the insights. May God bless you all through Christ.

[tifwit1]

Your list is awesome, I also wanted to add that ,you look for His calling it should some how line up with yours and not pull you away from what God has laid on your heart,How about Him being like your best friend ,he should be more than just your husband I gotta have some with a sense of humor whats life without any laughter,and lastly I believe He should be a man who is faithful in every sense of the word.

[MrHeavydose]

You have conflicting turnoffs. You need to check your list again. SOmeof them come together you want a leader (domminiat) and a non-leader at the same time.=======your can figure out what # if you listen to your self talk.

[stazzylove456]

@MrHeavydose, hold up man you gotta understand it. as the man, yes you need to be the leader. but as a FOLLOWER in Christ, you gotta know how to be a follower too. And in many ways women...we dont want to just "control" men or have you weak, we just want you to be able to take advice and help on stuff. thats what we were created for. And a lotta men dont wanna hear us, but thats what our job is. So we're suppose to help you be humble and lift you up at the same time, see?

[stazzylove456]

@MrHeavydose, as a christian man who FOLLOWS God, then you have to be a leader for a woman, but humble and walking in the way for God. Christ  humbled himself to God to follow even though he is a leader....cuz a leader has has has has to be able to follow too

[differentFOCUS]

#9 was key lol :)

[PureHolySalted]

Number ten was good stuff... you're right.. we have the source of wisdom, but if we can't acknowedge our need for wisdom, then we can't ask to receive it.... *sigh*

Help us Christians in general to humble ourselves.

[TheDeb19]

She speaking truth!!!! wow

[Rhdpayne]

i enjoyed this list! Correction is big--

[SaranGlover]

Wow number 7 was dope!! As well as number 8!! Overall I agree with all of them! But I don't wanna be able to manipulate my husband (when I get one) either!!

[kobynr]

Amen! truly a woman of God who knows what is right and wrong. So many women who don't know.

[djabbico]

This is Good. I saw this woman when i went to P4CM ...she is Anointed, people!

[tquan2]

That brotha gotta be willing or able to provide for his family. Seems like it was kinda in the lazy one, but I wanna bring that one out. Find a way to provide men. You have too many options to say there ain't no jobs out there.

[servantk20]

If I could borrow a point from Pastor's Top 10 things girls do to turn him off...Brothers that are THIRSTY!!! Just like how women can be thirsty, so can men, and it is so unattractive. Certainly, he is the one who is supposed to find his wife, but if that brother is putting all his energy into that, he's usually not spending enough time with God preparing himself to be a good husband or even a strong Christian. If he's just lonely and doesn't want to be alone, we have a problem.

[black1992orly]

Numba 6 !!!!!!! I feel ya on that one. I remember back in the days when i used to do that. I'd see men lookin all saved and serious with the big bible but if i went to talk to them. I could make them do whatever i wanted them to.

'Nd Numba 7 !!!!! I've never seen anyone gettin all deep but i do see brothas during worship moments closing theres eyes like the're some place else to impress the ladies but out of the church they're jacked up. I think thats kinda funny

Good job!!

[VokalMC]

NUMBER SEVEN! THANK YOU SANTORIA! Geeeeez!

[XMasturbatorCoop]

Yo honestly....this is so basic. though such a standard that sadly some brathas dont show. well worded minister santoria..praise GOD for a humble spirit

[SMJGraphicArtist]

That's a great list. The only thing though is there is nothing wrong with looking up words in the Greek and Hebrew to find out the right interpretation of the Bible. Because the Bible was written in Greek and Hebrew before it was translated into English. Other than that I agree with your list. But if a person teaches they should live by what they teach and preach about because there is nothing worst than an hypocrite. God bless you.

[LanceCHRISTstrong]

Amen....thats good. In the words of my brotha Joe. Mad encouraging San