Jesus Christ, I must be diagnostic for about a hundred of the, cough cough, diseases and disorders in that piece of expensive toilet paper, the DSM, including this.
You said there are patterns and it's helpful to see them. That is what a personality disorder is. It's extremely helpful to see the pattern, and reading books that elucidate that, I find, helps tremendously in helping/ understanding a friend with bpd. There is research slowing that bpd's tested had specific brain abnormalities compared to"normal" people. That is probably not the source of the illness, but a result of trauma. It just validates the reality and depth of the problem.
I have bpd but I agree with him in the sense that this is NOT a biological mental illness. It is a severely traumatized person, who was traumatized too early in life and needs to change the way they think about themselves and others, as well as trauma recovery work.
are you for real???? its like saying to diagnoses someone with CP will not help treat there symptoms, god you are the most stupid man i have ever had the unpleasure to hear
Psychiatry was developed before 1900 in Germany to get rid of people complaining.First use of directed energy weapons can be seen in psychiatric literature from 1908, see Psychiatrie->Zur Klinik der Narkolepsie on my homepage.After murdering oponents in ww2,Psychiatry was relaunched in´45 to persecute+silence concentration camp survivors.
As a Doctor in a German nuthouse said:
Half the inmates are mad.The other half are secret service agents on training.
borderline personality disorder is a sham diagnosis made for flamboyant gay men and dramatic whiny drama queens… they are just bored and start shit with everyone all the time because they are bored, they threaten suicide all the time, that is why they are not ignored like narcissists and sociopaths. they are all "me, me, me!!" look at the top rated comments for fuck's sake...
@MrSpemat Have a great life living in denial and apathy. It should be nice for you there. Just FYI - 10% of patients with BPD commit suicide. Not attempt, but succeed. I personally do not have BPD, however, I do have a heart, and compassion, and concern for my fellow man. Good luck to you. I pray that people treat you far better than you can treat them.
@MrSpemat Youy sound so ignorant. more women suffer from borderline personality disoreder more than men. If you want to no what a sham is then you should checkout "The Bible"
@MrSpemat I have this disorder.. I had abusive parents, who told me my feelings were wrong.. When I was scared, sad, lonely.. And now I struggle with it.. And you sit there, thinking you know what this disorder is like and judging others.. This personality disorder is HELL.. Every day people like me suffer in agony.. So don't belittle people for suffering a legitimate disorder, we suffer enough.
@OhMissAna It's good that you acknowledge that you have the disorder. A lot of the people with BPD I've talked to end up trying to deny it rather than get better, and refuse to acknowledge the agony and suffering they cause to those closest to them through their actions and perceptions. It's nice to see someone recognize it and accept it in themselves so that they can maybe get better. People do recover, you know. I've met a couple people who've recovered from BPD and they were really great.
Plus I hear voices, doctors, WE ACCEPT, Admitt the presence of lawyers (I do have problems) and so therefore I cant say anything else about them. I do worry though, I worry about death, when I get on a train or when the next train is. Unfortuantely if it is dead it doesnt do anything, probably o more than once.
Hi, benefited from your sites, ty, I do however, myself, find the "icons" of a ranting wife to her husband rather intrusive and just a little too little a little too late. As they are just too clear and ment to be. Plus there old and stated to be so just as I am, whilst looking into your videos. Unfortuantely despite the insults I am not sure I can excuse it without changing something.
DISEASE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HAVE A SPIRITUAL UNDERLYING ISSUE THAT EACH PERSON SHOULD PRAY TO GOD FOR HELP.JESUS IS THE REAL HEALER HE IS THE TRUTH THE WAY AND LIFE!
i have PBD a mixed type. there is different types as far as i know,but what does it mean?? does is mean i have bordeline or does it mean i have some features that reminds of borderline???????????????????
i have PBD a mixed type. there is different types as far as i know,but what does it mean?? does is mean i have bordeline og does it mean i have some features that reminds of borderline???????????????????
Give the man a chance to speak! Think about DBT and taking a Non-Judgmental stance. DBT and/or CBT are still valid! All our feelings, thoughts and actions: still valid. This fellow is trying to soften the blow. Who has not been hurt by the diagnosis of "Borderline?" (I was just refused therapy from a clinic... and I am a "quiet Borderline.") Recovery is possible with all "personality disorders" - but we shall always keep the good parts: empathy/sensitivity/deep emotional value. I validate John.
@lyramax1 I'm glad you recovered! My psychiatrist is not fond of labels. She thinks that most BPD-labelled people out-grow the "illness" with time (and life-skills learning [from any source]). For some, or many, the label of BPD can be useful at the beginning. What is hurtful is believing that BPD is a life-sentence. The opinions/reactions of others to the diagnosis is the worst part! peace and radical acceptance, sylvester
Just because they are mentally ill does not make them above ownership BPD sufferers have treated me like shit!,and just pass off the behavior as an excuse grow the fuck up ! I refuse to let them abuse me or pass this off as acceptable. Prison is full of mentally ill people who are paying for their shitty actions.
Don't be an asshole. I have BPD and I am married and deserve love just like anybody else. There are plenty of liars without BPD. In this world, good luck finding someone who hasn't experienced trauma. Life IS dramatic. How dare you talk bad about someone with an illness. You and those like you have no compassion. It is people like YOU who are judgmental and lack compassion who drive people like us to suicide. Dick.
It amazes me how many retarded commenters on youtube are. This man has many, very good points and explains them well. And for those who attack his "I'm not an expert" well, you people sure seem BIG EXPERTS on these things. Remember people - there is no just WHITE or just BLACK. To each's own, for some it is better to HEAR a diagnose, for some NOT to heart it. With my personal experience with a person who has BPD, he said that even hearing the word "borderline" takes all the strength from him.
Dr. John Breeding, you are NOT a Psychiatrist OR a MEDICAL DR. Have you dealt with BPD personally through family or in a clinical setting? I have been dealing with BPD for over 35 years PERSONALLY and I can tell you this IS A ILLNESS. When I was finally diagnosed it was a gigantic relief to finally KNOW what was wrong with me and why I felt so intensely. Imaging studies show the physical brain is involved; the brains of people with BPD perform differently from the brains of those without BPD
I lived with a borderline for 4 months before I kicked her out. It was a total nightmare! She lied about everything. Her life was nothing but EXTREME chaos and there was NO reasoning with her. It started taking a toll on me and I am so thankful she is gone. Take my advice guys if you live or date a BPD get rid of her ASAP. Life is to short! She will try to manipulate you back. Possibly with suicide threats. Don't buy into it. You did'nt cause her disorder and you sure as hell won't fix it!
One thing I learned when I went to college is that many people who consider themselves as "highly educated" believe that education makes them somehow life-smart. If you haven't lived it, don't judge it. I live with bipolar and do not take med's because of sensitivity to medication, and I know that everyday I have to struggle with feelings of wanting to kill myself, or just wanting to run away from "me", and there is nowhere to go. This man just wanted the pleasure of hearing himself talk."SHAME
I'm sorry, but I was just recently dignosed for this and its revealed my entire life to me. Everyone in my life and myself have wondered what was wrong w/ me, and now finally years later I can say -yes thats me, thats how I feel, this is how I can try to work through my issues, and people can better understand. I think you need to check what you talk about before you automatically rule something out as not definite or have any weight to it.
Spoken like someone who has never had to deal with a serious problem in their life. Odd that while your spending all your time disagreeing with authority you haven't spent a second to disagree with yourself, and maybe arrive at a conclusion that wasn't entirely solipsistic and self indulgent. At least "experts" attempt to justify their conclusions with something resembling evidence.
I've been suffering with BPD for 34 years. My life has felt often like a living hell, a prison where the only way out is to kill myself. I tried any kind of meds and I can definitely say they didn't help, infact taking chems made my psychological situation far messier. What really helped me out was taking natural food supplement such as 5HTP for the mood swings, Chromium to induce my drive for life, Valerian, Passiflora and Lettuce extract to control my anger outbursts. Mostly though, what real
I had a friend in my life since childhood that had borderline disorder and it was living hell being his friend. He would destroy my things and expect me to forgive him.And would blame it on others. He started dressing like me and acting like me it was creepy he was becoming me. I had to move and quit my job just to escape him. 10 years later he still stalks me on the internet.
i never want to do anything but good... and no matter how hard i try i end up hurting people. WHY WOULD I CHOSE TO DO THAT? I don't want to be like this. at all. i would give up so much to be able to function and have normal relationships. but, i can't. i can't be normal. so fcuk off if you think i chose thing you ignorant dumb asses.
Dr. Breeding is a gentlemen, but he clearly has no understanding of the pathology involved with a BPD. If he did, he'd understand that calling BP a "serious mental disorder "is like calling end-stage terminal cancer a "potentially serious illness".
Dr. Breeding is a wonderful person, and I learn a lot from this man. When are you going to upload more video's? I would like to hear your thoughts on socopath's and why people kill. Something's way off, when people kill.
OK, I'll confess - I gave up watching around 3rd minute, because it was boring. But I am guessing that you have never been in a relationship with a BP, who threatens suicide if you don't do something. But according to you it's not a disease, so I guess you should try and work things out with such a personality instead of getting them to change themselves? If it's not a disease, then why their point of view would be less valid than yours? Are you crazy?
Diagnoses don't help people? Bull crap. How do you deal with something you cannot name? If a man lives with a woman who had BPD, how does he know the difference between a wife who is a jerk vs a wife who has a mental disorder and once he knows what he is dealing with he can find help and learn how to live with it. Diagnoses don't help ppl? That's bull crap. Not an expert on ANYTHING.
@capoderra No, you are being extremely ignorant. Who profits from the diagnosis? Rarely the powerless individual. People who are traditionally designated 'jerks' in modern society are not hounded or even coerced into taking neurotoxic medications on the fraudulent pretext that you have a disorder or disease; he-she will not be incarcerated in de jure hospitalsm but de facto prisons, where they have only extralegal recourse, their freedom contingent upon their willingness to cooperate with....
@capoderra ....with the psychotyrant and his odiious, mercenary lackeys, delegated the task of moulding the individual into a shape desirable to family members and the community and the state; there to condition some to be more economically productive and to get some to conform to the ideal of the socially expansive, automated, unimaginative, philistinistic, self-estranged, smug and insipid mediocrity; and to uphold the majority ethic.
@capoderra ....historically these invidious labels have been used to justify violence and coercion, to inculpate and mutilate. Diagnoses do benefit lots of people, but often it is not the person diagnosed who is beneficiary but, for example, the psychiatrists, Big Pharma execs, family members and those who have conferred upon them the dubious honour of being arbitrairily designated 'healthy' and 'sane', who can use it against those labelled mentally disturbed.
I think we shouldn't let circumstances define ourselves. People always have something to say, but unless they've walked in anothers shoes, their judgements are flawed. Keep an open mind, but base self image on analysis of the evidence. BPD or not, male or female, I believe we're all equal and nobody is better or worse than the other. As people we're all trying to overcome obstacles. As long as we keep trying, we can never fail. Lets help each other up, not put each other down.
I want to heal from this condition. All that I read about bpd on the internet hurts deeply and made me feel like I'm some kind of human monster that needs to be removed from society. I don't want to keep on being a burden to those people that I love.
I hear you sweetie. There is so much stigma surrounding BPD, it sickens me. I am (I believe wrongly) diagnosed with BPD and like you, long for health but I am so often met with ignorance and discrimination, even by so called professionals.
This guy is Judgemental. The people who have Borderline personality disorder are given an overwhelming burden, and who is anyone to say they should get past it.
This brings my search for help on my own internal sufferings to full circle. I began with the videos of Harlow's monkey's, went to videos on separation anxiety in people, then on to BPD, and ended up here. This man gives me the most hope. My sufferings, however diagnosed, are not solved via diagnosis. There are many powerful, traumatic, and painful things occurring inside me. However we label them they really are just normal things that all people experience that must find a way to be expressed.
I suffer from this EVERY SINGLE DAY and nobody understands this man, this is real pain yo beyond what I ever thought, and psychedelics only brought up all the mental trash even more bluntly, now im really in a hole forsure BUT im not planning on staying here forever, Meditation everynight with a proper diet should get me to my natural god state
i have this n its like hell i never wish this on noone the pain inside really hurts like migrain in ur head but in ur tummy is only way i can explain the pain i feel
this is just a label placed on people so that way if they try to sue medical professionals for their incompetence, they can say that they have no credibility because they are just "borderline" and therefore a liar...
People with this disorder are in so much mental pain trying to live day to day life. It sucks. The disorder is mentally crippling and it hurts. So until you understand how a person feels and goes through each day, don't talk badly about it.
@FarOutFrog1992 Why do you say "Don't talk badly about it"? If someone had cancer would you say don't talk badly about cancer? A person is not their disease, but as long as they identify with it they can never get past it.
Its amazing he connects "attachment theory" with BDP and dialectal behavior therapy and explains BPD as a a trauma of neglect and abandonment. Too many people think they have BDP like its part of them forever, when in fact they are reacting in a totally normal way to the affects of trauma in their childhood. Its "intense, stormy, challenging, angry, despairing...but its human". BPD people desperately want to be validated because their needs were once neglected; that's the therapy we need.
@FarOutFrog1992 They're in so much pain, but they choose to sit there and wallow in it. They complain, they manipulate, and cause their own problems quite often.
@littlebluepill0 ...and I'm sure you are the sense of perfect? Doubtful. It is painful dealing with life. It's fuckin' awful. Is it our fault some of us get molested as small children? Yes, that sometimes plays a major part in why some of us can't function in life. Something we had NO control over... So don't make points in which you know nothing about. Some people handle life different then others. So fuck off.
What you said it´s very "beautiful" but you tell that to people who has suffered the consequences of the violence, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, even physical abuse from psychopaths, borderline and narcissistic people. I would like to see you living in an isolated island with a person with a character disorder. He/she will make you swallow your beautiful ideology.
Yours is a very cool approach, restorative, softer and aware. There's got to be a middle ground I think to identify related symptoms, then to not harden into them, but still use as a touch and go sort of reference. I mean a certain level of that is a good thing in the right hands b/c it can be not clung to in such limiting ways that prejudice and twist the process.
Then again, we could have only ONE word ie., Loco! Talk about desperate LOL!
If we had loving social ties that goes a long way.
When he negates psychiatry, he makes very good points. But BPD does exist as do many mental disorders. The dsm isn't perfect, but we need a guideline for putting people into categories; as crappy as that sounds we need to be able to stereotype certain mental illnesses in order to treat them. If you just sit here and talk to a person with depression or anxiety in some vague, hippy-like way, you are not going to help shit. "Woah man negative vibes" aint gonna cut it.
@brik9r imho we still don't know how to treat extreme mental states or conditions. Psychiatry is about pharma, and pharma is like kicking a TV into working for awhile and dealing with side-effects. On another level the push to medicate kids throughout school years end up missing developmental steps. My experience of a few psychiatrists having been raped by one (dating my roommate) another just oppressive a person, another w/a fresh degree I could weep for those seeking help.
Merry Christmas (2010) everyone! Tell someone you love them and do something special for yourself. "The best lack conviction given some time to think and the worst are full of passion without mercy." --Yates.
nice sugar coated lecture, chief! i'm a gawdamn Aquarian...i have the spiritual birthright to be a genius and a weird sumbitch all in one happy meal :D
how did you know this?damn you got me pegged and its ruff i don't know if im going to make it what can i do to make my life better without other people controlling me
I sincerely hope this video was not intended to be used to educate people. To me, it appears as if he opened up the DSM to a random page and decided to make a video on it. People should stop making videos on topics they clearly only know about through wikipedia.
I am 45 and still unable to work.I am continuing with therapy, medication. There is always a change in my medication from time to time.My chance for recovery is slim to none. Those of you out there who have or think they might have a mental disorder and 1 out of every 3 Americans do,Please seek true medical help, then when you are stable with your meds,and therapy is going well, then if you want to work with someone like Dr.John Breeding. Use his methods as an addition to your meds and therapy.
As most of you may have guessed by now I have Borderline personality disorder,Bi-Polar disorder, Post traumatic stress,OCD,anxiety,depression,and social phobia. This is why I vehemently disagree with this man. I went untreated for many years,then i was only treated for depression until I was 35. When I was finally properly diagnosed. Without medication and therapy I would not be able to function from day to day. I am on disability due to my mental diagnosis going untreated for so long.
There is always abuse and neglect around the ability of the adult to sensitively respond to the needs of the other person "Child" So this Dr. is saying that abuse and neglect always happens? Sounds like his way of telling pedophiles it's okay to do what they do to children "babies" because it always happens. They just need to discover a newer,softer way of relating. Is this guy saying it's okay for abuse and neglect to happen?
There is a high percentage of people with BPD who have been sexually abused.Listen how casually he talks about sexual abuse and how he words it.There is always abuse and neglect around the ability of the adult to really sensitively responded to the needs of that other person. There has to be a restoration and discovery of a newer and softer way of relating. " Intense, stormy challenging,angry ,despairing, you know but it's human, it's a human reaction It's what babies do?
Every illness has to have a name to distinguish it from others so it can be separated and treated, that's only logical.Borderline personality disorder is a serious illness."leading to suicide and 20% of psych hospitalizations" this Dr. says it's not dangerous. This man says BPD is not an illness in the medical sense it's caused by trauma. Now try telling someone with Post traumatic stress disorder that it's not an illness. The government would disagree with that one too.Consider our soldiers.
I thought you didn't believe in diagnoses.B P Disorder may idealize someone then turn around and think that person is horrible.So now people with BPD are dissolutioned .fear of rejection and abandonment,this is not a disease " who said this was a disease" BPD is an illness.Look for Marsha and dialectical therapy.Dialectal therapy-a fallacious"deceptive or misleading"system of objective reality.Perceptions by the mind of external objects.So this deceptive therapy is supposed to work?
Saying order and disorder there's patterns, chaos,flows between the two ,chaos leads to transformation, you sound like a mathematical theorist, not a psychologist.you couldn't even read the printed paper about the funded research about brain mechanisms, studies suggest, then you falter and mumble because you don't understand what you are reading, "clearly bio-psychiatric thing" sounds like a very intelligent remark. "you say guess what that's one of the diagnostic criteria"
Your a psychologist yet you don't know anything about "disorders" Your a fake. Your a spiritualist trying to push the idea that people with mental illness don't need any psychiatric treatment. Your so called information you post is very dangerous. You are causing many people who need psychiatric help to stay away from the very thing they need to help them. Counciling allows you to become relaxed and share your feelings. The councilor is empathetic and does not tell you how you feel is wrong.
Saying using medications to treat borderline personality disorder is dangerous? If you were a real Dr. you would never say this! Without treatment with some type medications can and does lead to suicides, and other types of self harm like cutting,drinking,promiscuity and harm to others. No one called these disorders diseases. Cognitive behavioral therapy has been proven to help many people with Bi-polar and BPD. What you are saying is get spiritual being a "Buddhist" will cure you?
Your only Ph D you have is in philosophy. To be a psychologist and you have to read from a paper you printed off the internet and you don't believe in disorders and you not an expert on any leads me to believe that you are an idiot . You give names to other diseases like measles,TB,HIV,so if your diagnosed with one of these diseases the diagnosis won't help you to get better? Well thats exactly what you are saying. Disorder order chaos sounds like philosophy to me . Go back to school!
Good video. His PhD should be upgraded to an MD, and all the slimy coxucker MDs who shovel meds at people need to have their degrees downgraded to a BS.
Borderline PD is a variant of asshole, like a narcissist or sociopath, the only difference is that women make up most of the people who behave in these patterns and feminism creates the idea that one should feel sorry for all women and that they are victims.
This is just a polite way of saying someone is a manipulative selfish cunt who likes to throw tantrums and threaten suicide if you abandon them.
the one's that grow up are different because this was meant to describe character.
This is why i find it important to call it a name and treat it
You can also say "let's not call it names, but yes work with it"
which is ok, as long as you do not deprive people who has it - whatever it is - of their rights (to die in peace, to not be a financial and emotional burden on their families and friends etc)
Also - it gives hope because if they have treatments for medical states such as cancer or even AIDS, they can find medical treatments for mental ailments such as trauma, BPD and so on
There is also the issue of special rights and expectations out of people with ailments: for example - mercy killing - in case you don't wish to continue on living with unresolvable pain
another example is financial support for people who are invalid and have no money for medications or treatments etc
As a person who is in the process of diagnosis - suspected to be borderline - all I can say is that I prefer to see it as sort of a medical disease that has developed in my body and soul due to stress and trauma plus some genes maybe - and find the solution
the label of PBD does not mean i am not human, but that I am a person that goes through the things other people go through in a far more intense way because the way i experience feelings is far more deep and intense
Despairing my whole life so far. "46" next week. I have to be self employed, my customers have to understand, or get dumped. I will prolly always be single. It's just too painful to lose,,, again. A kick in the rear only gets vitriol for a response. STILL there are some politicians, who are trying to block any anti-bullying laws. I say off with all bully's heads now. They are a stink on humanity.
....You are right, such as a diagnosis is just a word and the truth is so fascinating changeable and replaceable. And if I want to believe what you say and just forget about everything I`ve learned before, it might help me. But the expectations of society and the fact that for some people (especially those with trauma) are often wheeeigh to much won`t change because of that.
I still think that a "hard task" or "difficult period of lifetime" is diffrent from being a raped, disabled person.
disabled person because i've had trauma of x y i say -
he is disabled
but if for you seeing it as something of a difficult period of a lifetime helps getting over the trauma - do whatever feels right for you - for yourself
It might be disturbing for people to be fixed in a diagnosis for their mental health, but you can not ignore the fact of society. That our society comes to change more and more and some people with a traumatic background see it as a kind of help to have a diagnosis that protects them from getting overloaded and blamed CONSTANTLY.
you are avoiding reality and trying to be politically correct. Or would you say you have the symptoms of a heart attack or the symptoms of diabetes. You have to accept what is and you have to know what the problem is inroder to get help. You have to be able to describe it. And what the problem is. This is called understanding and find a treatment from their. Can you describe what you're talking about? It sounds like you have shame and guilt a bout having mental problem.
is this a scientology website? it totally is. I mean.. what is an illness? it's when a body is not well. the mind is a part of the body.. when the mind grows into a particular state.. putting a label on that state is a useful tool to address it. I just don;t really see the point of the point this guy is making. who cares if we give the disorder a name? it's a disorder just like he said in the video.. it's a painful state of mind that needs to be worked out.. that's what psychology tries to do..
I am 37. And I battle with BPD for about 20 years at least. It is- and it always was- very very painful. it is like walking on a meadow with pins that sometimes go right into your body and you want to scream and collapse on the ground, but you cant..because you are the only one barefoot there...and everybody else you see wears shoes. So they dont feel your pain, they dont understand it, they dont even care. But they do see you are different and "not cool" and they tend to dislike you for it.
In the first years of my poetic cyber spiritual journey people would quickly label me in need of medical attention; now many have accepted that I am a cyber-poet and have begun to express their own spirits freely. I believe people get stuck in rational thought when the world as a whole is anything but....
Am I crazy simply because I find beauty all around and want others to see it too?
@carefulcarpenter no your not crazy, your an idiot. go tell a rape victim the world is full of beauty, its full of crap and the internet is full of porn get used to it and you will actually have a happy life. Stop lying to yourself to make you feel better.
you are 100% right growing up ive always had person mental problems i kept to my self and worked on my self and never once thought it was one of these illnesses until hearing of or reading or being told that i had these mental disease and being told this it literally makes you think your crazy and im not
Yes thats it, the rejection! Again and again.. I'm 45, and all my romantic relationships have found me disposable. My employment has been sporattic. Intense feelings of loneliness, and inadequacy. Self sobotage.. Fear of living and ultimatly dying alone. Pretty wicked " non- disease "
This guy may mean well, but he comes across as hopelessly naiive. I wonder if he has ever successfully treated someone with BPD or seen one of them outside of a consulting room. I spent three years with someone who could switch from happy and smiling into a raging psychopath in 30 seconds. Talking/reassuring them makes f*ck all difference believe me. If you ever meet one, be very, very careful. They have such a reputation for manipulation that many therapists refuse to even treat them.
@randyatlantis Yes, there are some really bad people who reaelly are users. But not all ill people are EVIL, dear, others just may suffer in science and You don´t even know about their disorder, but still they have it.
My girlfriend has BPD. I can tell you it is rough and test the limits of compassion. But i can tell you that this is not an illness but more of a perception that the person has. I have worked very hard with her to get her to see there is no need for those dangerous thoughts she has and for the most part she has gotten 100 times better but she is still unpredictable. Her family is full or Narcissist and enablers and they don;t help at all.
I look at such things as Borderline PD as thought habits that a person has sublimated... and of course, once an habitual way of responding to given situations has become "second nature," the person in question can hardly be expected just to get over it without help. Don't you find any usefulness in seeing how peoples' collections of thought habits - coping strategies, etc. - so often fit an already-known pattern so closely they CAN be labeled? I agree that labels "negate," but jeez, Doc!
@inky960 I love that " thought habit" concept you really hit the nail on the head. I have practiced meditation in many forms for many years. meditation involves simply watching ones thoughts. I AM continuousley amazed at how all most ALL my thoughts are habitual. and the only release from the habitual way of conciousness is meditation.
In medieval times the mentally ill were considered eccentric. Now they are catagorized, defined, and told what is normal or not normal. Patients are supposedly given care, fixed, and are molded for the normal society. Well, how normal is that society? The systematic normalization of the human being in the twentieth century is just as frightening as any mental disorder.
@TheDogRibs Normal? Find me the individual who can define that word and I will show you the most insane person in the world. Normal? Ranks right up there with "stereotypical". And to the doctor doing this video..get rid of the background voices and that funky distraction blue background when you speak to me because they both fuck me up seriously and I can't even concentrate on what you're saying.
@TheDogRibs I would agree but the medieval time did more than just considered them eccentric. The system is certainly far from perfect but it is better than it has been for sure.
@TheDogRibs - uh, in medieval times werent people timpanned (sp? Hole drilled in their head) to relieve them of evil spirits in their heads? Fast forward to Spanish Inquisition, Salem, etc, werent people with mental illness considered agents of the devil and tortured/murdered?
Demonization of people who function differently is nothing new.
@TheDogRibs i agree with your general idea about modern labeling of mental disorders but NOT when it's applied to BPD. This guy already admits that he is not an expert in BPD and anyone who has been in a relationship with a person with BPD will tell you that it's definitly a disorder and the BPD characteristics are not just misunderstood emotional responses. They take everything to an irrational emotional extreme! Anyone who says otherwise has obviously never met a true borderline.
@TheDogRibs please spare me your soundbite foucault. people who end up in psych wards often do so because they are engaging in violent and self-destructive behavior. the notion that it is somehow fascistic to try to instill changes in the behavior of patterns of people engaged regularly in self-destructive behavior-- that's laughable.
Jesus Christ, I must be diagnostic for about a hundred of the, cough cough, diseases and disorders in that piece of expensive toilet paper, the DSM, including this.
Transmintosity 1 week ago
You said there are patterns and it's helpful to see them. That is what a personality disorder is. It's extremely helpful to see the pattern, and reading books that elucidate that, I find, helps tremendously in helping/ understanding a friend with bpd. There is research slowing that bpd's tested had specific brain abnormalities compared to"normal" people. That is probably not the source of the illness, but a result of trauma. It just validates the reality and depth of the problem.
Raina430 1 month ago
I jump the border on occasion !
ArkansasGillum 1 month ago
What the fuck are you even saying? You seem high.
RUBBERDUCKZILLERPSN 1 month ago
Hello bpd fellows! You guys should come and talk to us other sufferers on mom (mapofmates . com).
miissmiaa 1 month ago
I hate having this disorder. :/
101aspiringmusician 1 month ago
I have bpd but I agree with him in the sense that this is NOT a biological mental illness. It is a severely traumatized person, who was traumatized too early in life and needs to change the way they think about themselves and others, as well as trauma recovery work.
kassandramd 3 months ago
WHAT A FOOL.
delosbry 3 months ago
are you for real???? its like saying to diagnoses someone with CP will not help treat there symptoms, god you are the most stupid man i have ever had the unpleasure to hear
mrnic4444 3 months ago
i have no faith in psychological analysis, people are what they are, good bad, end of story.
deviatea 3 months ago
I usually do not consider ignorance such as this worth a response, but you're lucky I'm on these drugs.
MrEnleft 4 months ago
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Psychiatry was developed before 1900 in Germany to get rid of people complaining.First use of directed energy weapons can be seen in psychiatric literature from 1908, see Psychiatrie->Zur Klinik der Narkolepsie on my homepage.After murdering oponents in ww2,Psychiatry was relaunched in´45 to persecute+silence concentration camp survivors.
As a Doctor in a German nuthouse said:
Half the inmates are mad.The other half are secret service agents on training.
Dubbed correctly, they are snitchers.
wwwtotalitaerde 4 months ago
BPD is the clinical definition of evil. Ask any psychiatrist in private. Just do....
robduncan2000 4 months ago
he looks like a serial killer
banshi68 4 months ago
@banshi68 Nah, I just checked, he isn't a psychiatrist, or were you referring to other kinds of serial killers?
Transmintosity 1 week ago
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IvanNells 4 months ago
borderline personality disorder is a sham diagnosis made for flamboyant gay men and dramatic whiny drama queens… they are just bored and start shit with everyone all the time because they are bored, they threaten suicide all the time, that is why they are not ignored like narcissists and sociopaths. they are all "me, me, me!!" look at the top rated comments for fuck's sake...
MrSpemat 4 months ago
@MrSpemat Have a great life living in denial and apathy. It should be nice for you there. Just FYI - 10% of patients with BPD commit suicide. Not attempt, but succeed. I personally do not have BPD, however, I do have a heart, and compassion, and concern for my fellow man. Good luck to you. I pray that people treat you far better than you can treat them.
beatnikloserkid82 4 months ago
@MrSpemat Youy sound so ignorant. more women suffer from borderline personality disoreder more than men. If you want to no what a sham is then you should checkout "The Bible"
remyfacade 4 months ago
@MrSpemat I have this disorder.. I had abusive parents, who told me my feelings were wrong.. When I was scared, sad, lonely.. And now I struggle with it.. And you sit there, thinking you know what this disorder is like and judging others.. This personality disorder is HELL.. Every day people like me suffer in agony.. So don't belittle people for suffering a legitimate disorder, we suffer enough.
OhMissAna 4 months ago
@OhMissAna It's good that you acknowledge that you have the disorder. A lot of the people with BPD I've talked to end up trying to deny it rather than get better, and refuse to acknowledge the agony and suffering they cause to those closest to them through their actions and perceptions. It's nice to see someone recognize it and accept it in themselves so that they can maybe get better. People do recover, you know. I've met a couple people who've recovered from BPD and they were really great.
albinoelf 3 months ago
Plus I hear voices, doctors, WE ACCEPT, Admitt the presence of lawyers (I do have problems) and so therefore I cant say anything else about them. I do worry though, I worry about death, when I get on a train or when the next train is. Unfortuantely if it is dead it doesnt do anything, probably o more than once.
BeBorderLine 4 months ago
Hi, benefited from your sites, ty, I do however, myself, find the "icons" of a ranting wife to her husband rather intrusive and just a little too little a little too late. As they are just too clear and ment to be. Plus there old and stated to be so just as I am, whilst looking into your videos. Unfortuantely despite the insults I am not sure I can excuse it without changing something.
BeBorderLine 4 months ago
JESUS IS THE SAVIOR REDEEMER HEALER AND THE PRINCE OF PEACE
healmeholy 5 months ago
DISEASE MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HAVE A SPIRITUAL UNDERLYING ISSUE THAT EACH PERSON SHOULD PRAY TO GOD FOR HELP.JESUS IS THE REAL HEALER HE IS THE TRUTH THE WAY AND LIFE!
healmeholy 5 months ago
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i have PBD a mixed type. there is different types as far as i know,but what does it mean?? does is mean i have bordeline or does it mean i have some features that reminds of borderline???????????????????
baloorina 5 months ago
i have PBD a mixed type. there is different types as far as i know,but what does it mean?? does is mean i have bordeline og does it mean i have some features that reminds of borderline???????????????????
baloorina 5 months ago
Give the man a chance to speak! Think about DBT and taking a Non-Judgmental stance. DBT and/or CBT are still valid! All our feelings, thoughts and actions: still valid. This fellow is trying to soften the blow. Who has not been hurt by the diagnosis of "Borderline?" (I was just refused therapy from a clinic... and I am a "quiet Borderline.") Recovery is possible with all "personality disorders" - but we shall always keep the good parts: empathy/sensitivity/deep emotional value. I validate John.
gayforlife2020 5 months ago
@lyramax1 I'm glad you recovered! My psychiatrist is not fond of labels. She thinks that most BPD-labelled people out-grow the "illness" with time (and life-skills learning [from any source]). For some, or many, the label of BPD can be useful at the beginning. What is hurtful is believing that BPD is a life-sentence. The opinions/reactions of others to the diagnosis is the worst part! peace and radical acceptance, sylvester
gayforlife2020 5 months ago
Just because they are mentally ill does not make them above ownership BPD sufferers have treated me like shit!,and just pass off the behavior as an excuse grow the fuck up ! I refuse to let them abuse me or pass this off as acceptable. Prison is full of mentally ill people who are paying for their shitty actions.
phenylket 5 months ago
@TheMightyKaz
Don't be an asshole. I have BPD and I am married and deserve love just like anybody else. There are plenty of liars without BPD. In this world, good luck finding someone who hasn't experienced trauma. Life IS dramatic. How dare you talk bad about someone with an illness. You and those like you have no compassion. It is people like YOU who are judgmental and lack compassion who drive people like us to suicide. Dick.
11NightAngel11 5 months ago
It amazes me how many retarded commenters on youtube are. This man has many, very good points and explains them well. And for those who attack his "I'm not an expert" well, you people sure seem BIG EXPERTS on these things. Remember people - there is no just WHITE or just BLACK. To each's own, for some it is better to HEAR a diagnose, for some NOT to heart it. With my personal experience with a person who has BPD, he said that even hearing the word "borderline" takes all the strength from him.
monkeybear 6 months ago
Dr. John Breeding, you are NOT a Psychiatrist OR a MEDICAL DR. Have you dealt with BPD personally through family or in a clinical setting? I have been dealing with BPD for over 35 years PERSONALLY and I can tell you this IS A ILLNESS. When I was finally diagnosed it was a gigantic relief to finally KNOW what was wrong with me and why I felt so intensely. Imaging studies show the physical brain is involved; the brains of people with BPD perform differently from the brains of those without BPD
hillbillyhoodoo 6 months ago
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I lived with a borderline for 4 months before I kicked her out. It was a total nightmare! She lied about everything. Her life was nothing but EXTREME chaos and there was NO reasoning with her. It started taking a toll on me and I am so thankful she is gone. Take my advice guys if you live or date a BPD get rid of her ASAP. Life is to short! She will try to manipulate you back. Possibly with suicide threats. Don't buy into it. You did'nt cause her disorder and you sure as hell won't fix it!
TheMightykaz 6 months ago in playlist Psychology
One thing I learned when I went to college is that many people who consider themselves as "highly educated" believe that education makes them somehow life-smart. If you haven't lived it, don't judge it. I live with bipolar and do not take med's because of sensitivity to medication, and I know that everyday I have to struggle with feelings of wanting to kill myself, or just wanting to run away from "me", and there is nowhere to go. This man just wanted the pleasure of hearing himself talk."SHAME
desidre1 6 months ago
"im not an expert on bpd, im not really an expert on any diagnosis"
why dont you shut the fuck then
Hornilope 6 months ago 2
@Hornilope Shut what fuck? You don't need to be an expert in ghosthunting or theology to know it is a lot of nonsense!
Transmintosity 1 week ago
I agree with everyone else, you dont seem to know what your talking about. My girlfriend has this and its clearly very f**king real.
bigflix22 6 months ago
I'm sorry, but I was just recently dignosed for this and its revealed my entire life to me. Everyone in my life and myself have wondered what was wrong w/ me, and now finally years later I can say -yes thats me, thats how I feel, this is how I can try to work through my issues, and people can better understand. I think you need to check what you talk about before you automatically rule something out as not definite or have any weight to it.
deadlyyellowrose 6 months ago 2
Hey doc,try being married to one of these psycos and tell me that its not a evil disease,your degree is not worth the paper its printed on....
rackgee 7 months ago 3
@stinkyglove
Spoken like someone who has never had to deal with a serious problem in their life. Odd that while your spending all your time disagreeing with authority you haven't spent a second to disagree with yourself, and maybe arrive at a conclusion that wasn't entirely solipsistic and self indulgent. At least "experts" attempt to justify their conclusions with something resembling evidence.
PizzaParty101 7 months ago
for a doctor you're not quite smart.
toyworld872 8 months ago
I've been suffering with BPD for 34 years. My life has felt often like a living hell, a prison where the only way out is to kill myself. I tried any kind of meds and I can definitely say they didn't help, infact taking chems made my psychological situation far messier. What really helped me out was taking natural food supplement such as 5HTP for the mood swings, Chromium to induce my drive for life, Valerian, Passiflora and Lettuce extract to control my anger outbursts. Mostly though, what real
sh17a 8 months ago
@sh17a
depressed people must NOT take valerian.
it makes u wake up feeling utter loss, hoplessness and depression, in fact it even warns u of that over here in the uk.
I understand about the living hell part although with me I get good times.
I find high cbd cannabis helps as cbd has been found to be a natural anti phsychotic.
I also found morphine to help greatly but being illegal makes life worse unless a doctor prescribes it so im on methadone.
tpvalley 8 months ago
I had a friend in my life since childhood that had borderline disorder and it was living hell being his friend. He would destroy my things and expect me to forgive him.And would blame it on others. He started dressing like me and acting like me it was creepy he was becoming me. I had to move and quit my job just to escape him. 10 years later he still stalks me on the internet.
StaunchComic 8 months ago
all of these comments are so hurtful..
i never want to do anything but good... and no matter how hard i try i end up hurting people. WHY WOULD I CHOSE TO DO THAT? I don't want to be like this. at all. i would give up so much to be able to function and have normal relationships. but, i can't. i can't be normal. so fcuk off if you think i chose thing you ignorant dumb asses.
allixclassic 9 months ago
@youji213
Wrong, people with BPD do not choose to be unwell.
missdisorientated 9 months ago
Dr. Breeding is a gentlemen, but he clearly has no understanding of the pathology involved with a BPD. If he did, he'd understand that calling BP a "serious mental disorder "is like calling end-stage terminal cancer a "potentially serious illness".
ChicagoFusion 9 months ago
@ChicagoFusion
I don't get what you mean... BPD is a serious mental health disorder/illness just as cancer is a serious illness.
missdisorientated 9 months ago
Dr. Breeding is a wonderful person, and I learn a lot from this man. When are you going to upload more video's? I would like to hear your thoughts on socopath's and why people kill. Something's way off, when people kill.
BlueLady2020 10 months ago 2
OK, I'll confess - I gave up watching around 3rd minute, because it was boring. But I am guessing that you have never been in a relationship with a BP, who threatens suicide if you don't do something. But according to you it's not a disease, so I guess you should try and work things out with such a personality instead of getting them to change themselves? If it's not a disease, then why their point of view would be less valid than yours? Are you crazy?
gizliayetler 11 months ago
You, sir, are a revolutionary!!!!
theorganichispanic 11 months ago
Diagnoses don't help people? Bull crap. How do you deal with something you cannot name? If a man lives with a woman who had BPD, how does he know the difference between a wife who is a jerk vs a wife who has a mental disorder and once he knows what he is dealing with he can find help and learn how to live with it. Diagnoses don't help ppl? That's bull crap. Not an expert on ANYTHING.
capoderra 11 months ago 20
@capoderra No, you are being extremely ignorant. Who profits from the diagnosis? Rarely the powerless individual. People who are traditionally designated 'jerks' in modern society are not hounded or even coerced into taking neurotoxic medications on the fraudulent pretext that you have a disorder or disease; he-she will not be incarcerated in de jure hospitalsm but de facto prisons, where they have only extralegal recourse, their freedom contingent upon their willingness to cooperate with....
Transmintosity 1 week ago
@capoderra ....with the psychotyrant and his odiious, mercenary lackeys, delegated the task of moulding the individual into a shape desirable to family members and the community and the state; there to condition some to be more economically productive and to get some to conform to the ideal of the socially expansive, automated, unimaginative, philistinistic, self-estranged, smug and insipid mediocrity; and to uphold the majority ethic.
Transmintosity 1 week ago
@capoderra ....historically these invidious labels have been used to justify violence and coercion, to inculpate and mutilate. Diagnoses do benefit lots of people, but often it is not the person diagnosed who is beneficiary but, for example, the psychiatrists, Big Pharma execs, family members and those who have conferred upon them the dubious honour of being arbitrairily designated 'healthy' and 'sane', who can use it against those labelled mentally disturbed.
Transmintosity 1 week ago
I think we shouldn't let circumstances define ourselves. People always have something to say, but unless they've walked in anothers shoes, their judgements are flawed. Keep an open mind, but base self image on analysis of the evidence. BPD or not, male or female, I believe we're all equal and nobody is better or worse than the other. As people we're all trying to overcome obstacles. As long as we keep trying, we can never fail. Lets help each other up, not put each other down.
tuesdayschild89 11 months ago
I want to heal from this condition. All that I read about bpd on the internet hurts deeply and made me feel like I'm some kind of human monster that needs to be removed from society. I don't want to keep on being a burden to those people that I love.
LadyYellowViolet 11 months ago 2
@LadyYellowViolet
I hear you sweetie. There is so much stigma surrounding BPD, it sickens me. I am (I believe wrongly) diagnosed with BPD and like you, long for health but I am so often met with ignorance and discrimination, even by so called professionals.
missdisorientated 9 months ago
This guy is Judgemental. The people who have Borderline personality disorder are given an overwhelming burden, and who is anyone to say they should get past it.
1987Powers 1 year ago 2
This brings my search for help on my own internal sufferings to full circle. I began with the videos of Harlow's monkey's, went to videos on separation anxiety in people, then on to BPD, and ended up here. This man gives me the most hope. My sufferings, however diagnosed, are not solved via diagnosis. There are many powerful, traumatic, and painful things occurring inside me. However we label them they really are just normal things that all people experience that must find a way to be expressed.
stevedoetsch 1 year ago
I suffer from this EVERY SINGLE DAY and nobody understands this man, this is real pain yo beyond what I ever thought, and psychedelics only brought up all the mental trash even more bluntly, now im really in a hole forsure BUT im not planning on staying here forever, Meditation everynight with a proper diet should get me to my natural god state
IAMLEGEND2545 1 year ago
A smack in your gob might offend
talentuk 1 year ago
Spare me the ignorance. To stereotype the mentally ill as automatically dangerous or violent is the same attitude of the Nazis. Are you a Nazi?
TheDogRibs 1 year ago
i have this n its like hell i never wish this on noone the pain inside really hurts like migrain in ur head but in ur tummy is only way i can explain the pain i feel
poo19811 1 year ago
@poo19811 find a network spinal analysis doc or an SRI practitioner please
bodyheals 1 year ago
this is just a label placed on people so that way if they try to sue medical professionals for their incompetence, they can say that they have no credibility because they are just "borderline" and therefore a liar...
9436oelable 1 year ago
i have this disorder
TheChembalin 1 year ago
People with this disorder are in so much mental pain trying to live day to day life. It sucks. The disorder is mentally crippling and it hurts. So until you understand how a person feels and goes through each day, don't talk badly about it.
FarOutFrog1992 1 year ago 62
@FarOutFrog1992 Why do you say "Don't talk badly about it"? If someone had cancer would you say don't talk badly about cancer? A person is not their disease, but as long as they identify with it they can never get past it.
stevedoetsch 1 year ago
Its amazing he connects "attachment theory" with BDP and dialectal behavior therapy and explains BPD as a a trauma of neglect and abandonment. Too many people think they have BDP like its part of them forever, when in fact they are reacting in a totally normal way to the affects of trauma in their childhood. Its "intense, stormy, challenging, angry, despairing...but its human". BPD people desperately want to be validated because their needs were once neglected; that's the therapy we need.
stevedoetsch 1 year ago
@FarOutFrog1992 They're in so much pain, but they choose to sit there and wallow in it. They complain, they manipulate, and cause their own problems quite often.
littlebluepill0 11 months ago
@littlebluepill0 ...and I'm sure you are the sense of perfect? Doubtful. It is painful dealing with life. It's fuckin' awful. Is it our fault some of us get molested as small children? Yes, that sometimes plays a major part in why some of us can't function in life. Something we had NO control over... So don't make points in which you know nothing about. Some people handle life different then others. So fuck off.
NerdehGirl 10 months ago 2
@FarOutFrog1992 thank you ! These words made me feel better.
Rumpainiite 9 months ago
@FarOutFrog1992 Often times it is not considered a problem by the individual who has the disorder but it is a big problem for their mate.
mattydizzle420 7 months ago
What you said it´s very "beautiful" but you tell that to people who has suffered the consequences of the violence, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, even physical abuse from psychopaths, borderline and narcissistic people. I would like to see you living in an isolated island with a person with a character disorder. He/she will make you swallow your beautiful ideology.
ajdr13 1 year ago
Yours is a very cool approach, restorative, softer and aware. There's got to be a middle ground I think to identify related symptoms, then to not harden into them, but still use as a touch and go sort of reference. I mean a certain level of that is a good thing in the right hands b/c it can be not clung to in such limiting ways that prejudice and twist the process.
Then again, we could have only ONE word ie., Loco! Talk about desperate LOL!
If we had loving social ties that goes a long way.
deckchairs1 1 year ago
When he negates psychiatry, he makes very good points. But BPD does exist as do many mental disorders. The dsm isn't perfect, but we need a guideline for putting people into categories; as crappy as that sounds we need to be able to stereotype certain mental illnesses in order to treat them. If you just sit here and talk to a person with depression or anxiety in some vague, hippy-like way, you are not going to help shit. "Woah man negative vibes" aint gonna cut it.
brik9r 1 year ago
@brik9r imho we still don't know how to treat extreme mental states or conditions. Psychiatry is about pharma, and pharma is like kicking a TV into working for awhile and dealing with side-effects. On another level the push to medicate kids throughout school years end up missing developmental steps. My experience of a few psychiatrists having been raped by one (dating my roommate) another just oppressive a person, another w/a fresh degree I could weep for those seeking help.
Yes, tenderness.
deckchairs1 1 year ago
Merry Christmas (2010) everyone! Tell someone you love them and do something special for yourself. "The best lack conviction given some time to think and the worst are full of passion without mercy." --Yates.
MonacoBlast 1 year ago
Get it?
MonacoBlast 1 year ago
@MonacoBlast no please explain
just4e 1 year ago
All the girls and the guys are playing in the yard. They're playing
in the yard and they're playing real hard saying,
"My life is better than yours. My life is better than yours."
They're playing real hard and they're playing in the yard saying,
"My life is better than yours. My life is better than yours."
MonacoBlast 1 year ago
@MonacoBlast no please explain
just4e 1 year ago
nice sugar coated lecture, chief! i'm a gawdamn Aquarian...i have the spiritual birthright to be a genius and a weird sumbitch all in one happy meal :D
upNyaBizznizz 1 year ago
how did you know this?damn you got me pegged and its ruff i don't know if im going to make it what can i do to make my life better without other people controlling me
willybartlett 1 year ago
how did you know this?damn you got me pegged and its ruff i don't know if im going to make it
willybartlett 1 year ago
how did you know this?
willybartlett 1 year ago
Nice video. Really Unique. Check out my videos also and tell me what you think.
rbogdewic 1 year ago
I sincerely hope this video was not intended to be used to educate people. To me, it appears as if he opened up the DSM to a random page and decided to make a video on it. People should stop making videos on topics they clearly only know about through wikipedia.
tothestage913 1 year ago
@tothestage913 Yeah you know way more than this doctor of psychology who's job it is to know about pathology
LTBL88 1 year ago
This gentleman starts off by saying that he is not an expert and then goes on to proove it. Why?
DWORSKYMUSIC 1 year ago
@DWORSKYMUSIC lol
just4e 1 year ago
29 seconds into the video you reveal that you are not an expert on BPD. please remove you video and allow the expects to comment.
mightymindful 1 year ago
I am 45 and still unable to work.I am continuing with therapy, medication. There is always a change in my medication from time to time.My chance for recovery is slim to none. Those of you out there who have or think they might have a mental disorder and 1 out of every 3 Americans do,Please seek true medical help, then when you are stable with your meds,and therapy is going well, then if you want to work with someone like Dr.John Breeding. Use his methods as an addition to your meds and therapy.
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
As most of you may have guessed by now I have Borderline personality disorder,Bi-Polar disorder, Post traumatic stress,OCD,anxiety,depression,and social phobia. This is why I vehemently disagree with this man. I went untreated for many years,then i was only treated for depression until I was 35. When I was finally properly diagnosed. Without medication and therapy I would not be able to function from day to day. I am on disability due to my mental diagnosis going untreated for so long.
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
There is always abuse and neglect around the ability of the adult to sensitively respond to the needs of the other person "Child" So this Dr. is saying that abuse and neglect always happens? Sounds like his way of telling pedophiles it's okay to do what they do to children "babies" because it always happens. They just need to discover a newer,softer way of relating. Is this guy saying it's okay for abuse and neglect to happen?
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
There is a high percentage of people with BPD who have been sexually abused.Listen how casually he talks about sexual abuse and how he words it.There is always abuse and neglect around the ability of the adult to really sensitively responded to the needs of that other person. There has to be a restoration and discovery of a newer and softer way of relating. " Intense, stormy challenging,angry ,despairing, you know but it's human, it's a human reaction It's what babies do?
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Every illness has to have a name to distinguish it from others so it can be separated and treated, that's only logical.Borderline personality disorder is a serious illness."leading to suicide and 20% of psych hospitalizations" this Dr. says it's not dangerous. This man says BPD is not an illness in the medical sense it's caused by trauma. Now try telling someone with Post traumatic stress disorder that it's not an illness. The government would disagree with that one too.Consider our soldiers.
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
I thought you didn't believe in diagnoses.B P Disorder may idealize someone then turn around and think that person is horrible.So now people with BPD are dissolutioned .fear of rejection and abandonment,this is not a disease " who said this was a disease" BPD is an illness.Look for Marsha and dialectical therapy.Dialectal therapy-a fallacious"deceptive or misleading"system of objective reality.Perceptions by the mind of external objects.So this deceptive therapy is supposed to work?
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Saying order and disorder there's patterns, chaos,flows between the two ,chaos leads to transformation, you sound like a mathematical theorist, not a psychologist.you couldn't even read the printed paper about the funded research about brain mechanisms, studies suggest, then you falter and mumble because you don't understand what you are reading, "clearly bio-psychiatric thing" sounds like a very intelligent remark. "you say guess what that's one of the diagnostic criteria"
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Your a psychologist yet you don't know anything about "disorders" Your a fake. Your a spiritualist trying to push the idea that people with mental illness don't need any psychiatric treatment. Your so called information you post is very dangerous. You are causing many people who need psychiatric help to stay away from the very thing they need to help them. Counciling allows you to become relaxed and share your feelings. The councilor is empathetic and does not tell you how you feel is wrong.
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Saying using medications to treat borderline personality disorder is dangerous? If you were a real Dr. you would never say this! Without treatment with some type medications can and does lead to suicides, and other types of self harm like cutting,drinking,promiscuity and harm to others. No one called these disorders diseases. Cognitive behavioral therapy has been proven to help many people with Bi-polar and BPD. What you are saying is get spiritual being a "Buddhist" will cure you?
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Your only Ph D you have is in philosophy. To be a psychologist and you have to read from a paper you printed off the internet and you don't believe in disorders and you not an expert on any leads me to believe that you are an idiot . You give names to other diseases like measles,TB,HIV,so if your diagnosed with one of these diseases the diagnosis won't help you to get better? Well thats exactly what you are saying. Disorder order chaos sounds like philosophy to me . Go back to school!
crazyladysprite 1 year ago
Nice beard, mate!
radioajo 1 year ago
Good video. His PhD should be upgraded to an MD, and all the slimy coxucker MDs who shovel meds at people need to have their degrees downgraded to a BS.
AlaskanAltitude 1 year ago
Guy sounds like a hippy ... or tht guy off south park tht goes drugs are bad mmmkay LOL but hes tlkin bout some proper stuff
mole1122 1 year ago
Borderline PD is a variant of asshole, like a narcissist or sociopath, the only difference is that women make up most of the people who behave in these patterns and feminism creates the idea that one should feel sorry for all women and that they are victims.
This is just a polite way of saying someone is a manipulative selfish cunt who likes to throw tantrums and threaten suicide if you abandon them.
the one's that grow up are different because this was meant to describe character.
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
if there weren't accidental suicides from their attempt to hold someone else hostage, there would be no help but a restraining order from doctors.
this guy probably doesn't call sociopaths or narcissists people who are stigmatized victims and this is in that spectrum when it is the real thing.
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
@HerrSpieldose lol ignorance
ashhhofpompeii 1 year ago
@HerrSpieldose Im a borderline. It's so funny what u said, that what many people would say. But u would not want to be in my skin, trust me.
marindoll 1 year ago
my mother have something like borderline and it's verry hard to life with her but it has not been determined!!!! :-(
mariodebontridder 1 year ago
This is why i find it important to call it a name and treat it
You can also say "let's not call it names, but yes work with it"
which is ok, as long as you do not deprive people who has it - whatever it is - of their rights (to die in peace, to not be a financial and emotional burden on their families and friends etc)
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
Also - it gives hope because if they have treatments for medical states such as cancer or even AIDS, they can find medical treatments for mental ailments such as trauma, BPD and so on
There is also the issue of special rights and expectations out of people with ailments: for example - mercy killing - in case you don't wish to continue on living with unresolvable pain
another example is financial support for people who are invalid and have no money for medications or treatments etc
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
As a person who is in the process of diagnosis - suspected to be borderline - all I can say is that I prefer to see it as sort of a medical disease that has developed in my body and soul due to stress and trauma plus some genes maybe - and find the solution
the label of PBD does not mean i am not human, but that I am a person that goes through the things other people go through in a far more intense way because the way i experience feelings is far more deep and intense
That's a medical state
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
This smacks of scientology
mormor39 1 year ago
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CurtainTwitcher 1 year ago
@mormor39 lmao
CurtainTwitcher 1 year ago
Despairing my whole life so far. "46" next week. I have to be self employed, my customers have to understand, or get dumped. I will prolly always be single. It's just too painful to lose,,, again. A kick in the rear only gets vitriol for a response. STILL there are some politicians, who are trying to block any anti-bullying laws. I say off with all bully's heads now. They are a stink on humanity.
madinventor13 1 year ago
Deer Typ ist seehr Hübsch ;D
TheDenne58 1 year ago 10
I have been turned down for the treatment for BPD, dialectical behavior therapy, because I am apparently 'too anxious'.
dlzoidberg 1 year ago
You are right. And absolutely wrong. I feel a little sympathy.
rosegoesnorth 1 year ago
....You are right, such as a diagnosis is just a word and the truth is so fascinating changeable and replaceable. And if I want to believe what you say and just forget about everything I`ve learned before, it might help me. But the expectations of society and the fact that for some people (especially those with trauma) are often wheeeigh to much won`t change because of that.
I still think that a "hard task" or "difficult period of lifetime" is diffrent from being a raped, disabled person.
rosegoesnorth 1 year ago
@rosegoesnorth
i think that feeling a disabled person is really not a thing you can change so quickly if this is how you feel
and fuck what society things (sorry for the offensive word)
society can kiss your toes, but will it change how you innerly feel concerning whatever you have gone through?
probably only a real trauma therapy that sorts the root out of the problem can
unless your problems are not being raped but being viewed as disabled by society
to me - when someone views me as
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
@rosegoesnorth
disabled person because i've had trauma of x y i say -
he is disabled
but if for you seeing it as something of a difficult period of a lifetime helps getting over the trauma - do whatever feels right for you - for yourself
those who mind - don't matter
and those who matter don't mind
MagicalSunrise1984 1 year ago
It might be disturbing for people to be fixed in a diagnosis for their mental health, but you can not ignore the fact of society. That our society comes to change more and more and some people with a traumatic background see it as a kind of help to have a diagnosis that protects them from getting overloaded and blamed CONSTANTLY.
rosegoesnorth 1 year ago
My parents are getting angry at me for watching you.LOL
movadoband 1 year ago
The DSM is an adjunct for the pharmaceutical industry
diogeneslaertius666 1 year ago
you are avoiding reality and trying to be politically correct. Or would you say you have the symptoms of a heart attack or the symptoms of diabetes. You have to accept what is and you have to know what the problem is inroder to get help. You have to be able to describe it. And what the problem is. This is called understanding and find a treatment from their. Can you describe what you're talking about? It sounds like you have shame and guilt a bout having mental problem.
greenearthnazi20204u 1 year ago
is this a scientology website? it totally is. I mean.. what is an illness? it's when a body is not well. the mind is a part of the body.. when the mind grows into a particular state.. putting a label on that state is a useful tool to address it. I just don;t really see the point of the point this guy is making. who cares if we give the disorder a name? it's a disorder just like he said in the video.. it's a painful state of mind that needs to be worked out.. that's what psychology tries to do..
crotanger 1 year ago
hello, there are good loving people out there ready to help, love and understand. This is available for me too.
beautywomantoadore 1 year ago
I think borderline has a lot to do with lazy parenting, no 'borderlines'in their childhood, they need a kick in the butt. That's all.
LaBellaa1984 1 year ago
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@LaBellaa1984 Perhaps you should be kicked out of the gene pool.
SuperUberPappy 1 year ago
I am 37. And I battle with BPD for about 20 years at least. It is- and it always was- very very painful. it is like walking on a meadow with pins that sometimes go right into your body and you want to scream and collapse on the ground, but you cant..because you are the only one barefoot there...and everybody else you see wears shoes. So they dont feel your pain, they dont understand it, they dont even care. But they do see you are different and "not cool" and they tend to dislike you for it.
Akyana11 1 year ago
@Akyana11
Same here
1Delu 1 year ago
In the first years of my poetic cyber spiritual journey people would quickly label me in need of medical attention; now many have accepted that I am a cyber-poet and have begun to express their own spirits freely. I believe people get stuck in rational thought when the world as a whole is anything but....
Am I crazy simply because I find beauty all around and want others to see it too?
carefulcarpenter 1 year ago
@carefulcarpenter no your not crazy, your an idiot. go tell a rape victim the world is full of beauty, its full of crap and the internet is full of porn get used to it and you will actually have a happy life. Stop lying to yourself to make you feel better.
mattcolt 1 year ago 2
these types are odd, i knew this one girl that would just collapse to the floor and scream...
HerrSpieldose 1 year ago
you are 100% right growing up ive always had person mental problems i kept to my self and worked on my self and never once thought it was one of these illnesses until hearing of or reading or being told that i had these mental disease and being told this it literally makes you think your crazy and im not
number1charmer 1 year ago
Very good video! I love how he repeats that it's not an "illness" per say, but a way the mind reacts.
mazack00 1 year ago
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bluddy666 1 year ago
Yes thats it, the rejection! Again and again.. I'm 45, and all my romantic relationships have found me disposable. My employment has been sporattic. Intense feelings of loneliness, and inadequacy. Self sobotage.. Fear of living and ultimatly dying alone. Pretty wicked " non- disease "
madinventor13 1 year ago
This guy may mean well, but he comes across as hopelessly naiive. I wonder if he has ever successfully treated someone with BPD or seen one of them outside of a consulting room. I spent three years with someone who could switch from happy and smiling into a raging psychopath in 30 seconds. Talking/reassuring them makes f*ck all difference believe me. If you ever meet one, be very, very careful. They have such a reputation for manipulation that many therapists refuse to even treat them.
randyatlantis 1 year ago
@randyatlantis Yes, there are some really bad people who reaelly are users. But not all ill people are EVIL, dear, others just may suffer in science and You don´t even know about their disorder, but still they have it.
finehomemadewine 1 year ago
My girlfriend has BPD. I can tell you it is rough and test the limits of compassion. But i can tell you that this is not an illness but more of a perception that the person has. I have worked very hard with her to get her to see there is no need for those dangerous thoughts she has and for the most part she has gotten 100 times better but she is still unpredictable. Her family is full or Narcissist and enablers and they don;t help at all.
majikstranger 1 year ago
I look at such things as Borderline PD as thought habits that a person has sublimated... and of course, once an habitual way of responding to given situations has become "second nature," the person in question can hardly be expected just to get over it without help. Don't you find any usefulness in seeing how peoples' collections of thought habits - coping strategies, etc. - so often fit an already-known pattern so closely they CAN be labeled? I agree that labels "negate," but jeez, Doc!
inky960 1 year ago
@inky960 I love that " thought habit" concept you really hit the nail on the head. I have practiced meditation in many forms for many years. meditation involves simply watching ones thoughts. I AM continuousley amazed at how all most ALL my thoughts are habitual. and the only release from the habitual way of conciousness is meditation.
lsmith869 1 year ago
that was pretty cool. hes got a cool perspective on this.
Guitarstring187 1 year ago
its old man Magoozer
Jimmyjoeandthegang 1 year ago
In medieval times the mentally ill were considered eccentric. Now they are catagorized, defined, and told what is normal or not normal. Patients are supposedly given care, fixed, and are molded for the normal society. Well, how normal is that society? The systematic normalization of the human being in the twentieth century is just as frightening as any mental disorder.
TheDogRibs 1 year ago 27
@TheDogRibs Well if a quater of people have a mental illness then mental illness is normal. Being abnormal is normal and being normal is abnormal.
emergenyexit23 1 year ago
@emergenyexit23 See how the ying and the yang come together?
TheTexasBastard1 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs Normal? Find me the individual who can define that word and I will show you the most insane person in the world. Normal? Ranks right up there with "stereotypical". And to the doctor doing this video..get rid of the background voices and that funky distraction blue background when you speak to me because they both fuck me up seriously and I can't even concentrate on what you're saying.
tyme4mike 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs
wow, i never looked at it like that, just about everyone has problems... and they all need fixing!
unholypenguin4 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs I would agree but the medieval time did more than just considered them eccentric. The system is certainly far from perfect but it is better than it has been for sure.
RedundantPlum 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs - uh, in medieval times werent people timpanned (sp? Hole drilled in their head) to relieve them of evil spirits in their heads? Fast forward to Spanish Inquisition, Salem, etc, werent people with mental illness considered agents of the devil and tortured/murdered?
Demonization of people who function differently is nothing new.
skeletonmom 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs
normal society does not exist. Globaly,invirementaly ,nationaly perception of normal behavior divvers from place to place. From culture to culture .
for example. Marriage at young age in macedonie is very normal. In holland its not accepted en legal to marry at your 14 th birtday.
But in the intire world every behavior expression what is not violent or frightning or what is fitting the to the enviremont is normal.
unrealfantasy 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs i agree with your general idea about modern labeling of mental disorders but NOT when it's applied to BPD. This guy already admits that he is not an expert in BPD and anyone who has been in a relationship with a person with BPD will tell you that it's definitly a disorder and the BPD characteristics are not just misunderstood emotional responses. They take everything to an irrational emotional extreme! Anyone who says otherwise has obviously never met a true borderline.
junebugmeg 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs much more normal than someone seeing and hearing imaginary things and living in a depressive or manic oblivion.
Juberoos 1 year ago
@TheDogRibs please spare me your soundbite foucault. people who end up in psych wards often do so because they are engaging in violent and self-destructive behavior. the notion that it is somehow fascistic to try to instill changes in the behavior of patterns of people engaged regularly in self-destructive behavior-- that's laughable.
fromis111 1 year ago
Where's Cheech?
thebleedingjeans 1 year ago
two thumbs up Ebert
SLAPSTIX001 1 year ago
he is fantastic!!!!!!
canaltvfama 1 year ago
you are a stupid man!!!
agirlinterupted 1 year ago
you are a stupid man!!!
agirlinterupted 1 year ago