The first warning sign of domestic violence is when some big mouth bitch wont shut the fuck up & do what she is told. When she wont cook, clean or get on her knees & do what God designed her for. When she starts to think she a mans equal. Domestic attitude adjustment is sure to follow. LADIES: Are U tired of getting kicked in the head? Try being less of a cunt for a change. Keep a cock in your mouth to help U shut the fuck up. THIS HAS BEEN A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT TOO.
The real truth is most women don't respect man who wont kick her in the ass now and then. If U don't occasionally beat the daylights out of your old lady, she will think U don't care or love her. Also, she will become defiant & insubordinate. Women want to be controlled & they find a romantic allure to being manhandled & roughed up. Strange, but indeed true! Normally I don't endorse using fists on broads but a belt, slap, whip, hot water is fine! Don't permanently mark chicks! Not cool!
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women out there must know there abusing and stalking men after tros are sent out. they follow the men after a broke up or protection order but cant go jail
@TheMattgfc1893 :/ do you not think, that most often than not, the majority of 'niceguys' i have met, that have showered me with chocolates, been the kindest person in the world for the first three months, you do not think, that after the 'grooming' period, coz that is what it is, that 'niceguys' are domestically violent? you actually, really truthfully think that it is only 'badguys'? what planet are you living on, and from your comment, i would take it, you are a 'fake' nice guy, obviously
@Kidkel69 yes, i agree, but, also, you will know as well as i do, that some are very crafty, and they 'pretend' or put on a front at first, in the wooing stages of you, that they are nice and loving etc, and it isn't until you have been going out with each other for a while, that sometimes all of a sudden, their true colours start coming out, because it is impossible to 'pretend' forever if you get me...so some seem nice guys is the point i was making, when really theyre wolves in sheeps clothin
@Kidkel69 i've been there too, more than once with different exes, and, the what you see is what you get, doesn't apply initially, because therefore, after the chatting up on the first meeting, the 'bad guy' would then instantly drag you by the hair and hit you a few times, so initially, no, what you see isn't always what you get at first...because i wish mine had been like it on the first date, coz i wouldnt have gone near them with a barge pole...they lured me in with their niceness for a bit
@Kidkel69 yes, i am glad you got out too. it is horrible. i was just reading TheMota69 what she had put...it brings back horrid memorys of a horrible rotten time for me, and i wouldn't wish any of it on anyone. i still cant get my head round all of it, and i left 13 years ago. i just wish and hope people see your video, and watch it and take it in, so that they can help themselves early on before things go too far with an abusive partner. i think all teens shud know this info you are giving.
@Kidkel69 brilliant, am glad :) keep up the good work spreading the word and giving people the skills to recognise an abusive relationship...i think it is marvellous what you are doing :) because, if a person stays too long in an abusive relationship, the affects can last decades longer than the abuse. they may eventually leave the abuser, but the scars in the head, stay for years, and it is a hurdle in itself, getting over the damage. :)
@Kidkel69 yes, im not surprised :( ive had to 'talk about things' in therapy, on a one to one, and thats hard enough in itself, because the memories are not nice, and i cant help but replay the memories like a film in my head when i talk about things. the emotional abuse is just as bad as the physical, and yours sort of covers both, which is why i think it is such agood video...i have showed my daughter and my son, (people forget that males get abused too) coz they are only teens. :) x
If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
emotions botteled up and sometimes we bottel to many emotions for too long and when someone comes along male or female and drops the final straw that breaks the camels back they usualy get the full brunt of the wrath inflicted on them by someone else but none the less wrong is wrong all im saying is dont be a douche if your in a serious relation ship say i love you to him hell a simple random hug will make some mens day you have no idea what i would give for a loving girl right now
after almost a week of it constantly i snapped hit her twice once in the arm once in the shoulder more of a hey get off me u pscho hit than a im going to kill you hit but a hit is a hit what im trying to get at is men have limits dont push them we should never ever hit anyone not just women but people in general did i appologize to my sister your damn right i did did i want to hurt my sister not one bit but dont forget men are actualy verry deep people were just taught to keep our
it happens to men too it may not be physicaly violent but theyll drive you to suicide sometimes ive seen it in some people
ive had woman tell me to drop dead because i said i loved her and i did nothing i shit you not i am very critical of myself but i legitmatly did nothing wrong ive hit a girl in my life only once i hit my sister who was hitting me and it was out controll and it was a week of her hitting me backtalking teasing (my sis is a bitch) then she slaped me and called me a name
my ex boy friend gave me a black eye and told me i did it to myself yet i stayed hes slapped me spit at me kicked me because he said i was starring at his friends but none of that was true all i could say to calm him down was say im sorry and he said that because he didnt trust me he had to kep me in a tight leash i got sikk of his abusing and not trying to hit him a socked his car window and it some wat broke his mom told me to pay for it but wen is he going to pay?
BREAK THE CYCLE AND END THE NIGHTMARE. Why do women stay and call it love? Why did I stay for as long as I did? I want to share my own experience to help even ONE other person to break the cycle of abuse and end the nightmare. Please be that person! Love, Sarah
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Thank you, thank you, thank you. You are a person I can say I have respect for. You mention in your intro, recognizing that it is men and women that are abusers not just men and women are not only victims. I have been in about four abusive relationships, I am a big guy, could have hospitalized or killed with one striker my abusers but, I didn't and still I was treated like the abuser, even though I was the abused and refrained from absuing. STOP MEN AND WOMEN FROM ABUSING!
First of all you can not be a day care proveider for any children when you are in this type of relationship and for years after. I was married I left and I was a provider for over 10 years and with him having a no contact order all i would be doing is putting others and there children in danger.
@Kidkel69 oh yeah all is better! but its still all my fault for leaving and tearing up our happy family (right) when we just had normal issues. but honestly I never expected him to change that is why I left. you are one of the lucky ones that u could be in a locked place.
what about women who beat on men what about moms who beat on kids fuck that shit if someone hits you then hit their ass back and if you stay with them than u like it
but he seems so up-and-down, one minute he's happy the next he's mad and cursing...any little thing i say can set him off...i've tried to break up with him in the past, but he'd always come back....can that be signs of control? because i just don't know...i mean there's more, but....
@cherryprincess5 Girl, get out now, he is disrespecting you and if you say there is more, I am sure it's about to get worse.Please keep me informed of your progress.Good sex is the biggest excuse I've heard from woman who don't want to leave. There are men out there who are caring and compassionate, who would never dream of cursing a woman.
@cherryprincess5 did he ever hurt you physically? because if he just gets angry and shouts and is mad that doesnt sound like he is attacking you physically with things. If he ever would hurt you, you would probably already be grabbed, shoved, choked. punched. Maybe he just loses it easy and get its out by yelling and being angry, another way he could get it out is by punching you in the face but it sounds like he is taking the route of yelling, or he could bottle it all up till one day!
@th3planetsghost that's what scares me the most...he does get physical, but in little ways, especially when i don't do what he says, exactly how he says it. and i do feel he's bottling it up, also..
Thats terrible. any physical contact that is angry or forceful is way out of line and should be taken as a warning, why are you with him if he is like this? You are scared of your lover? your protector and life long friend? hurts you? and scares you into being something you arent? WTF is that? sounds like he doesnt care all that much about you but cares greatly about what he wants and gets. My dad would hurt my mom, threaten to kill her till she saw a way out and she left him. now shes happy :)
yes. you do. unless you can give me a more well-mannered response, do not reply to my comments. this is a serious matter and this is no time for smart-asses
Thank you for your informative video alot of people dont realise how dificult it is to leave an abusive relationship, with factors such as family finance children and of course fear. I hope your video helps alot of people well done to you x
sadly, this sounds like my older brother who is 30 but there is nothing i can do;his girlfriend wont let his family or friends talk to him without her being in the room and , to top it all off, she purposely got pregnant and had a baby so he WOULDNT leave her.its tragic, she wont even get a job or clean the house!!
Thank you thank you thank you sooo much for posting a video such as this out there for others to rea.d you can get out. I'm also a survivor. You can get out of the cycle of abuse. I did 7yrs ago and now and remarried. you have to hold onto hope. your words are soo true. jealousy is a huge issue and trigger the rest of the issues.
@taram1494 It is the number 1 sign, Tara. Be careful. Most of the time if you think your in a domestically dangerous relationship , you most likely are @kidkel69
Please remember though that sometimes the signs are harder to see, my husband is a well respected business man who you would find charming but he was abusive to me for 20yrs (i left him). I stayed 'cos of the children but ultimately left 'cos of them, I didn't want them to copy him. DV is more than kicking and punching, often the emotional abuse is the hardest to recover from. It is all about control and getting their needs met. My husband is an intellegent, shrewd man.soon to be ex.husband!
Thank you for posting this... a lot of people need to know about domestic violence! Also other warning signs are neglect, if you are depressed/not yourself! , and from personal experience alcoholism. You cannot tell at first, but then all of a sudden it starts to get worse! Thank you again for letting people know the possible warning signs... OH and if you have already got out of one and the person you were with says, "I have changed" DONT GO BACK! because abusers typically NEVER change!!
BULLSHIT!! Women usually deserve it when they get their asses kicked. Its usually a case of disobedience, cheating or unladylike behavior which warrants a good ass kicking. The Holy Bible endorces corrective discipline for women, and so do I. My wife gets out of line, and I break her face, and she knows that! That's why our marriage will stand the test of time. Cause I wont let some sorry cunt ruin my life. I'd rather break her fucking face, and I've done it before!!
My sister who was married 2 years ago has one baby boy. She is not allowed to cut her hair, wear jeans, bleach her face, wear kajal, wear bindi, her husband and her family never share anything with her, never even told her that we called her up, by her husband and he rebuked her left and right in a very loud rude manner in the nursing home when my nephew was just 1 day old, in front of my mother
that is so horrible. I will pray daily for your sister. I hope you can call her, just to let her know you are there fro her. This is very upsetting to me, and I pray for the Lords intervention. Sincerely, Kellie
i am asian too but trust me if it started once it will never finish i left my x husband coz of extreme voilance and now i live on my own wth my 4 years old cild just tell police ans they will visit her and make sure she is ok and tell her its always tomorrow so dont worry dont wast ur life with some 1 less worthy i beg u..
I agree, woman who have been brainwashed into feminism are the most abusive people on the planet. They should go seek help to realize their abusive ways.
I was abused, taken to another country far away from my family. I am a survivor and I am so glad you're making videos on the subject so young women can get out before getting sucked into the cycle. Men who abuse are weak and want to dominate all aspects of your life in order to feel powerful. My ex hated when I got attention from others. I couldn't have friends in college b/c he was taking up so much of my emotional reserve. Sometimes things are so subtle but they're abuse.
Diana, I couldn't agree with you more. I noticed all the signs as soon as I was out of my abusive relationship. My family and close friends, even my employees could notice things that were happening, but I couldn't. You don't realize how lucky you are until you are well and truly out of it. My ex is a greasy, sleazy little man who has been in trouble with the police for having sex with a minor, beats women and has nothing going for him. I am now stronger and able to live a spectacular life. xx
I'm so glad you left too. I made a video about men who abuse women on YouTube. It's called Males: Grow the Fuck Up. I've been threatened with a human rights violation by a Male Rights Activist (laugh) and comments from men screeching and name calling. This is what happens when women talk about Violence Against Women.
abusive men are babies, spoiled, wicked brats who always want there own way and are too stupid to resolve a problem verbally. By leaving the wanker, you ladies will definitely be doing right, no matter how hard it is.
To anamericanstory-you're the victim of a golddigger & you should've seen the signs rather than posting stupid remarks supporting DV-there's NO excuse for it!!
Domestic Violence, domestic violence is when ur girlfriend totals both your cars, steals ur money, and her other boyfriend to visits when ur away. then when you say she has to leave, she callls the cops and has you arressted, then steals yourstuff when your in jail. No marks on her, as long as I'm alive boyfriends can beat the shit out of their girlfriends and I'll give them a medal!
the one thing i wish i had done different would to have him put in jail,if i could change one thing that would be it. i also think legislature should be passed making a law that convicted abusers have to pay all future medical cost from injuries they inflict. i have severe,harsh pain that is getting harder to endure EVERY DAY because of my ex twisting my head around with both hands by force..almost broke my neck,literally. my husband has to pay for all my medical because of a evil man before him
I agree and the worst thing we can do is NOT report these monsters when they attack and cause injuries. I hear you sis because I am in the same boat. Almost 4-5 years later. I did not report my abuser, and he got away scott free. I am still dealing with my injuries. An arm he almost broke, and neck/throat injuries. Stay safe and encouraged. You'll be in my prayers.
Thank You for your prayers! I am very happy now,been married to a good man for 9 years now so I am blessed. I am an old woman now but hopefully you or someone you touch in life will get bills passed & new laws passed to hold these men that are convicted for hurting us responsible for future medical related to previous injuries inflicted by our abusers.
If they have to start paying for their mean & just pure evil later in life..just maybe some will think twice or more before hitting us again.
but remember until we decide when to leave,it is like beating our head on a brick wall ok. the last time my bf was beating on me,it was a ba one..anyway i remember the paramedics telling me the next time they saw me they would be scooping my brains off the floor.
you should tell women that the most dangerous time in a violent relationship is IF she lives to see the day that the blinders come off & she decides to leave....many men will then kill her. That is very important for women to know...when you are finally ready to get out & leave..please,please be very cautious in your actions..act normal & defeated..most men can detect the subtle change in us when we are leaving him. It is all mental really,and telling women to get out is a good thing
the sad truth is I need a prayer chain for my daughter. Woman who have been in abusive relationships pass it on. My daughter is in danger from her mate. Last week he rapped a blanket around her neck, pushed her out of a moving vehicle,spit i her face, on and on. I call the cops every time, but she says nothing happened. It is horrible
I will definitely keep you and her in my prayers. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please keep praying and talking to her. Don't stop until she gets the message and gets help.
I wish that all women and men involved in abusive relationships would just do the right thing and leave...It's not worth risking your life and the life of your children if you have any.I am so glad that you had the courage to leave,you are a hero!!
Wow I mean it's like these men write a book on the same patterns of abuse. My ex did the same exact things. This is so surreal. I mean everything you listed I experienced the same things. I am so sorry as well you had to endure that. Stay encouraged!
Your young..us old folks future..you have the energy & optimism to change things for women..should have already happened imo. I pray that you will find the time & effort to maybe one day pursue this..or get others more active for new laws concerning medical expenses. I do believe God puts people in our paths of life..I read your page & just have to say you look happy in your picture & I wish you the best in your life. Thanks again & be safe!
Thanks for responding to us. sorry to hear about your daughter. maybe you should let her man know that if he hurts her , you will see to it that he gets whats coming to him!
it is very emotional they should have more organizations for those who are serious but other women and men make it so bad when they keep going back maybe to communities are exhausted
my sister was beat down and strangled by her boyfriend on dec 27th. i respect you for making this. if you have a facebook add me, adam hartzke and join my group warren addington exposed. i would appreciate it greatly
If only I knew before this all happened to me. I didn't get any help from the police in the UK - the one organisation that I thought would help me but if your message can stop the lose of one life or one punch its a job well done. Take care
PART TWO - KidKel69, greetings from the United Kingdom. By the way, I'm not a person who has ever perpetrated nor been the victim of Domestic Violence. It's just a topic I feel strongly about as I genuinely care about people. I just want to say that I wish you respect, resolution, love and happiness in your courageous life. It is people like YOU that inspire me to continue to help people in anyway I can & to tell my beautiful wife, children & family, EVERYDAY, that I love them. Thank you x x
PART ONE - EVERYBODY needs to hear what this strong & admirable lady is saying. Domestic Violence is a vicious and heinous social cancer that never had any place in any of our societies. We ALL need to be aware and truly understand the effects of this highly destructive phenomenon because ultimately, it erodes self-esteem/self-worth which can & is actually KILLING people!! Can you believe in the 21st century human beings are DYING as a result of this???!!. We need to resolve this problem NOW!
Women are as likely as men to be abusive. 25 years of family violence research backs this up. An internet search on "battered men" will turn up plenty of info. Such severe and complex problems can't be solved without telling the complete truth.
My fiancee's ex girlfriend is a fucking demon. She is paying the price. She's in jail, on her way to mental hospital, and has no visitation rights to her daughter and baby son. So I can understand how you feel,TediusZanarukando.
I admire your courage and initiative. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experiences. The more "real" faces we put to this problem, the more "Real" chances we have at diminishing the numbers.
Green - Women need to show respect to a man. Speaking as a black man, we men can knock you the FUCK out. A broken jaw beats all your little head games and arrogance. A lot of you women think you are making progress and getting ahead of men, BUT that's not the way I measure progress. You count the RAPES. You count the women who are BATTERED. You count the DEAD and you will CLEARLY see that there is an EPIDEMIC of hatred towards women and the war will NEVER end until women stop there evil ways.
I do not believe in romantic love. I do not want to be bothered with women. I do not a restraining order placed on me. I would rather have video games, motion pictures, top-of-the-line gadgets, sophisticated PC, and the latest application software than to have a wife.
I totally agree. I'd rather have my sanity,peace of mind,freedom to do what I want,when I want, how I want,and for however long I want. I'd rather be bruised and broken free, then have a man.
Thanks, that's good. I would like my sanity, peace of mind, and freedom to do whatever I please myself, rather than live with a woman. I had a bad experience with women in the past.
Far too many women are oppressors. I have been mistreated by several women before.
Can fully understand. My husband had the ex-girlfriend from hell, very abusive, but mostly head trips. (which I think can be more damaging.) My ex was very abusive as well. It's taken us a lot of trust and respect for each other, but it's been very healing for us both. I've been where you are, though.
yikes. i find a good thing to do is a basball bat to the head or knees or the balls, any of these will stop even the largest man in his tracks, and he wont bother you again.. and as a back up a 38.. not to make light of this but some people only need a wack to the head some times to straighten them out..
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The first warning sign of domestic violence is when some big mouth bitch wont shut the fuck up & do what she is told. When she wont cook, clean or get on her knees & do what God designed her for. When she starts to think she a mans equal. Domestic attitude adjustment is sure to follow. LADIES: Are U tired of getting kicked in the head? Try being less of a cunt for a change. Keep a cock in your mouth to help U shut the fuck up. THIS HAS BEEN A PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT TOO.
StiffyBoy56 1 week ago
I understand it all. Been there before.
MsIndian0 5 months ago
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The real truth is most women don't respect man who wont kick her in the ass now and then. If U don't occasionally beat the daylights out of your old lady, she will think U don't care or love her. Also, she will become defiant & insubordinate. Women want to be controlled & they find a romantic allure to being manhandled & roughed up. Strange, but indeed true! Normally I don't endorse using fists on broads but a belt, slap, whip, hot water is fine! Don't permanently mark chicks! Not cool!
StiffyBoy56 5 months ago
please take 4 mintues of your time and click on my name to see a video called "STATE OF MY COUNTRY" which is a rap song about domestic violence....YOU NEED TO HEAR THIS,
GWaxTV 5 months ago
@GWaxTV I am there ....Thank U@kidkel69
Kidkel69 5 months ago
@Kidkel69 "amazing" wow thank you.
GWaxTV 5 months ago
This woman is so awesome, she's like you can get out of it. Thank you for speaking your truth.
SeraphinMusic 5 months ago
women out there must know there abusing and stalking men after tros are sent out. they follow the men after a broke up or protection order but cant go jail
narcovice 6 months ago
your the only women in the world who says women are just as abused as men
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TheServiceWeb 6 months ago
women who get hit by men deserved.They think bad guys are funny well ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.joke on you..nice guys are the best
TheMattgfc1893 8 months ago
@TheMattgfc1893 :/ do you not think, that most often than not, the majority of 'niceguys' i have met, that have showered me with chocolates, been the kindest person in the world for the first three months, you do not think, that after the 'grooming' period, coz that is what it is, that 'niceguys' are domestically violent? you actually, really truthfully think that it is only 'badguys'? what planet are you living on, and from your comment, i would take it, you are a 'fake' nice guy, obviously
minimal1975 7 months ago
@minimal1975 Education says violence is hereditary ....what u see is what u get @kidkel69
Kidkel69 7 months ago
@Kidkel69 yes, i agree, but, also, you will know as well as i do, that some are very crafty, and they 'pretend' or put on a front at first, in the wooing stages of you, that they are nice and loving etc, and it isn't until you have been going out with each other for a while, that sometimes all of a sudden, their true colours start coming out, because it is impossible to 'pretend' forever if you get me...so some seem nice guys is the point i was making, when really theyre wolves in sheeps clothin
minimal1975 7 months ago
@Kidkel69 i've been there too, more than once with different exes, and, the what you see is what you get, doesn't apply initially, because therefore, after the chatting up on the first meeting, the 'bad guy' would then instantly drag you by the hair and hit you a few times, so initially, no, what you see isn't always what you get at first...because i wish mine had been like it on the first date, coz i wouldnt have gone near them with a barge pole...they lured me in with their niceness for a bit
minimal1975 7 months ago
@minimal1975 You are right about luring yes @kidkel69 I am grateful you survived
Kidkel69 6 months ago
@Kidkel69 yes, i am glad you got out too. it is horrible. i was just reading TheMota69 what she had put...it brings back horrid memorys of a horrible rotten time for me, and i wouldn't wish any of it on anyone. i still cant get my head round all of it, and i left 13 years ago. i just wish and hope people see your video, and watch it and take it in, so that they can help themselves early on before things go too far with an abusive partner. i think all teens shud know this info you are giving.
minimal1975 6 months ago
@minimal1975 The video is posted world wide at domestic abuse seminars and classes .....YOUR FREE .....now live and rock on @kidkel69
Kidkel69 6 months ago
@Kidkel69 brilliant, am glad :) keep up the good work spreading the word and giving people the skills to recognise an abusive relationship...i think it is marvellous what you are doing :) because, if a person stays too long in an abusive relationship, the affects can last decades longer than the abuse. they may eventually leave the abuser, but the scars in the head, stay for years, and it is a hurdle in itself, getting over the damage. :)
minimal1975 6 months ago
@minimal1975 Thank You, hardest video I ever made ......xoxoxo @kidkel69
Kidkel69 6 months ago
@Kidkel69 yes, im not surprised :( ive had to 'talk about things' in therapy, on a one to one, and thats hard enough in itself, because the memories are not nice, and i cant help but replay the memories like a film in my head when i talk about things. the emotional abuse is just as bad as the physical, and yours sort of covers both, which is why i think it is such agood video...i have showed my daughter and my son, (people forget that males get abused too) coz they are only teens. :) x
minimal1975 6 months ago
@minimal1975 Get it out of your mind.......it is over and everyday is a new beginning....xoxoxoxo you need to become an advocate and speak @kidkel69
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makaylawashere 1 year ago
emotions botteled up and sometimes we bottel to many emotions for too long and when someone comes along male or female and drops the final straw that breaks the camels back they usualy get the full brunt of the wrath inflicted on them by someone else but none the less wrong is wrong all im saying is dont be a douche if your in a serious relation ship say i love you to him hell a simple random hug will make some mens day you have no idea what i would give for a loving girl right now
MetalicaFan2007 1 year ago
after almost a week of it constantly i snapped hit her twice once in the arm once in the shoulder more of a hey get off me u pscho hit than a im going to kill you hit but a hit is a hit what im trying to get at is men have limits dont push them we should never ever hit anyone not just women but people in general did i appologize to my sister your damn right i did did i want to hurt my sister not one bit but dont forget men are actualy verry deep people were just taught to keep our
MetalicaFan2007 1 year ago
it happens to men too it may not be physicaly violent but theyll drive you to suicide sometimes ive seen it in some people
ive had woman tell me to drop dead because i said i loved her and i did nothing i shit you not i am very critical of myself but i legitmatly did nothing wrong ive hit a girl in my life only once i hit my sister who was hitting me and it was out controll and it was a week of her hitting me backtalking teasing (my sis is a bitch) then she slaped me and called me a name
MetalicaFan2007 1 year ago
my ex boy friend gave me a black eye and told me i did it to myself yet i stayed hes slapped me spit at me kicked me because he said i was starring at his friends but none of that was true all i could say to calm him down was say im sorry and he said that because he didnt trust me he had to kep me in a tight leash i got sikk of his abusing and not trying to hit him a socked his car window and it some wat broke his mom told me to pay for it but wen is he going to pay?
TheMota69 1 year ago
@TheMota69 please call the number on the screen , please leave, it is going to get worse, please call the number honey@kidkel69
Kidkel69 1 year ago
@TheMota69 ....please call the number in description as soon as possible
Kidkel69 1 year ago
@TheMota69 i am here with you baby girl.....u okay?@kidkel69
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BREAK THE CYCLE AND END THE NIGHTMARE. Why do women stay and call it love? Why did I stay for as long as I did? I want to share my own experience to help even ONE other person to break the cycle of abuse and end the nightmare. Please be that person! Love, Sarah
Go to Amazon.com for my book HONEYMOON AND HELL: A Memoir of Abuse ($5.99)
MsSarah729 1 year ago
Thank you, thank you, thank you. You are a person I can say I have respect for. You mention in your intro, recognizing that it is men and women that are abusers not just men and women are not only victims. I have been in about four abusive relationships, I am a big guy, could have hospitalized or killed with one striker my abusers but, I didn't and still I was treated like the abuser, even though I was the abused and refrained from absuing. STOP MEN AND WOMEN FROM ABUSING!
GTCism 1 year ago
@GTCism Are you free from this now? I find it to be true that we fall in the same pattern if we are not completely on guard @kidkel69
Kidkel69 1 year ago
nice legs
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lynnemccarthysa 1 year ago
First of all you can not be a day care proveider for any children when you are in this type of relationship and for years after. I was married I left and I was a provider for over 10 years and with him having a no contact order all i would be doing is putting others and there children in danger.
kaile0430 1 year ago
@kaile0430 I do understand what your saying, I was lucky to work at a private locked facility.are things better now?
Kidkel69 1 year ago
@Kidkel69 oh yeah all is better! but its still all my fault for leaving and tearing up our happy family (right) when we just had normal issues. but honestly I never expected him to change that is why I left. you are one of the lucky ones that u could be in a locked place.
kaile0430 1 year ago
Good video, I have been through this before with my ex husband, and everything you said was spot on.
ChouLian23 1 year ago
@ChouLian23 I am glad you are now free
Kidkel69 1 year ago
"Put the beer can down and go to a technical college". lol
ibxncgc 1 year ago
what about women who beat on men what about moms who beat on kids fuck that shit if someone hits you then hit their ass back and if you stay with them than u like it
turus22 1 year ago
i'm very worried about my own relationship..but i keep thinking i'm overreacting..i could use more advice...
cherryprincess5 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5 Cherry , if your worried, that is your red flag. You are a beautiful person who deserves to be treated kindly. I will support you
Kidkel69 1 year ago
but he seems so up-and-down, one minute he's happy the next he's mad and cursing...any little thing i say can set him off...i've tried to break up with him in the past, but he'd always come back....can that be signs of control? because i just don't know...i mean there's more, but....
cherryprincess5 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5 Girl, get out now, he is disrespecting you and if you say there is more, I am sure it's about to get worse.Please keep me informed of your progress.Good sex is the biggest excuse I've heard from woman who don't want to leave. There are men out there who are caring and compassionate, who would never dream of cursing a woman.
Kidkel69 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5 did he ever hurt you physically? because if he just gets angry and shouts and is mad that doesnt sound like he is attacking you physically with things. If he ever would hurt you, you would probably already be grabbed, shoved, choked. punched. Maybe he just loses it easy and get its out by yelling and being angry, another way he could get it out is by punching you in the face but it sounds like he is taking the route of yelling, or he could bottle it all up till one day!
th3planetsghost 1 year ago
@th3planetsghost that's what scares me the most...he does get physical, but in little ways, especially when i don't do what he says, exactly how he says it. and i do feel he's bottling it up, also..
cherryprincess5 1 year ago
Thats terrible. any physical contact that is angry or forceful is way out of line and should be taken as a warning, why are you with him if he is like this? You are scared of your lover? your protector and life long friend? hurts you? and scares you into being something you arent? WTF is that? sounds like he doesnt care all that much about you but cares greatly about what he wants and gets. My dad would hurt my mom, threaten to kill her till she saw a way out and she left him. now shes happy :)
th3planetsghost 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5 Listen to Kidkel69. She is saying the right thing. Your man is slowly losing his control.
kozeel 1 year ago
@kozeel slowly losing control? of what?
cherryprincess5 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5 Control over his own actions.
kozeel 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5
Are you keeping the sandwiches full? Are you keeping the dishes clean? Do you stay the fuck away from the Grill?
If you answer yes to all of these first - then yes perhaps you are being abused.
orasis 1 year ago
@orasis do you need to shut the fuck up?
yes. you do. unless you can give me a more well-mannered response, do not reply to my comments. this is a serious matter and this is no time for smart-asses
cherryprincess5 1 year ago
@cherryprincess5
See that overt aggression you display towards me? That is why your boyfriend is still training you.
Dominant Aggression needs to be controlled from the minute it's recognized, (no matter how young or how small the woman is.)
I wish you and your boyfriend the best, a properly trained woman is a happy woman.
orasis 1 year ago
Thank you for your informative video alot of people dont realise how dificult it is to leave an abusive relationship, with factors such as family finance children and of course fear. I hope your video helps alot of people well done to you x
ADELECG85 2 years ago
@ADELECG85 Thank You for taking the time, to let me know the video is worth while.@kidkel69
Kidkel69 2 years ago
@Kidkel69 no problem. Just keep up the good work your a star and you are very brave for sharing your heartbraking experience
ADELECG85 2 years ago
@ADELECG85 Thank You, so much, you are very nice to say that.
Kidkel69 2 years ago
sadly, this sounds like my older brother who is 30 but there is nothing i can do;his girlfriend wont let his family or friends talk to him without her being in the room and , to top it all off, she purposely got pregnant and had a baby so he WOULDNT leave her.its tragic, she wont even get a job or clean the house!!
babyblueartest 2 years ago
Man, he better love her ALOT .
that sucks she won't help him out
Kidkel69 2 years ago
Thank you thank you thank you sooo much for posting a video such as this out there for others to rea.d you can get out. I'm also a survivor. You can get out of the cycle of abuse. I did 7yrs ago and now and remarried. you have to hold onto hope. your words are soo true. jealousy is a huge issue and trigger the rest of the issues.
thereichertfamily 2 years ago
@thereichertfamily I'm so happy your free and happy! @kidkel69
Kidkel69 2 years ago
is jealousy a sign of unhealthy realtionship? - coming from a teen girl.
taram1494 2 years ago
@taram1494 It is the number 1 sign, Tara. Be careful. Most of the time if you think your in a domestically dangerous relationship , you most likely are @kidkel69
Kidkel69 2 years ago
thank you so much. i talk to a boy an he`s the jealous type. and just want everthing to work out.
taram1494 2 years ago
Good for you sister! Thanks for your great advice and truthful, heartfelt message. I hope your life is getting better now. God bless!
linzz626 2 years ago
Life is getting better everyday
Kidkel69 2 years ago
Please remember though that sometimes the signs are harder to see, my husband is a well respected business man who you would find charming but he was abusive to me for 20yrs (i left him). I stayed 'cos of the children but ultimately left 'cos of them, I didn't want them to copy him. DV is more than kicking and punching, often the emotional abuse is the hardest to recover from. It is all about control and getting their needs met. My husband is an intellegent, shrewd man.soon to be ex.husband!
eternalsun69 2 years ago
Thank You for your great insightful comment
Kidkel69 2 years ago
Thank you for posting this... a lot of people need to know about domestic violence! Also other warning signs are neglect, if you are depressed/not yourself! , and from personal experience alcoholism. You cannot tell at first, but then all of a sudden it starts to get worse! Thank you again for letting people know the possible warning signs... OH and if you have already got out of one and the person you were with says, "I have changed" DONT GO BACK! because abusers typically NEVER change!!
punk420rawk 2 years ago
Thank You for being apart of the cause
Kidkel69 2 years ago
Thank you very much for posting this video. I'm surprised that it doesn't have hundreds of thousands of hits.
logalogalog 2 years ago
Hopefully it will. The domestic abuse hotline uses it at seminars so that is worth it for me to make awareness
Kidkel69 2 years ago
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BULLSHIT!! Women usually deserve it when they get their asses kicked. Its usually a case of disobedience, cheating or unladylike behavior which warrants a good ass kicking. The Holy Bible endorces corrective discipline for women, and so do I. My wife gets out of line, and I break her face, and she knows that! That's why our marriage will stand the test of time. Cause I wont let some sorry cunt ruin my life. I'd rather break her fucking face, and I've done it before!!
56Stiffy 2 years ago
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Kidkel69 2 years ago
Thanks for posting, much appreciated and much needed for any ladies who are suffering out there. Be Blessed and encouraged to all! :)
StopDomViolence 2 years ago
Life got u down. Check out Coloria "Let Go"
ggullet 2 years ago
My sister who was married 2 years ago has one baby boy. She is not allowed to cut her hair, wear jeans, bleach her face, wear kajal, wear bindi, her husband and her family never share anything with her, never even told her that we called her up, by her husband and he rebuked her left and right in a very loud rude manner in the nursing home when my nephew was just 1 day old, in front of my mother
hianupamroy 2 years ago
that is so horrible. I will pray daily for your sister. I hope you can call her, just to let her know you are there fro her. This is very upsetting to me, and I pray for the Lords intervention. Sincerely, Kellie
Kidkel69 2 years ago
i am asian too but trust me if it started once it will never finish i left my x husband coz of extreme voilance and now i live on my own wth my 4 years old cild just tell police ans they will visit her and make sure she is ok and tell her its always tomorrow so dont worry dont wast ur life with some 1 less worthy i beg u..
thepinkkbeauty 2 years ago
i have never been involved in domestic violence but i have been assulted. it messes with you. the more help you seek, the easier it becomes.
DaisySpree09 2 years ago
That is horrible honey. I am sorry for you, and pray your okay.
Kidkel69 2 years ago
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I agree, woman who have been brainwashed into feminism are the most abusive people on the planet. They should go seek help to realize their abusive ways.
ChupacabraYetiElmo 2 years ago
I was abused, taken to another country far away from my family. I am a survivor and I am so glad you're making videos on the subject so young women can get out before getting sucked into the cycle. Men who abuse are weak and want to dominate all aspects of your life in order to feel powerful. My ex hated when I got attention from others. I couldn't have friends in college b/c he was taking up so much of my emotional reserve. Sometimes things are so subtle but they're abuse.
DianaBoston 2 years ago
Thank You, Diana for sharing. So glad your free of that life now. God Bless You
Kellie
Kidkel69 2 years ago
I'm so glad that you left,you did the right thing!!
WCD73 2 years ago
Diana, I couldn't agree with you more. I noticed all the signs as soon as I was out of my abusive relationship. My family and close friends, even my employees could notice things that were happening, but I couldn't. You don't realize how lucky you are until you are well and truly out of it. My ex is a greasy, sleazy little man who has been in trouble with the police for having sex with a minor, beats women and has nothing going for him. I am now stronger and able to live a spectacular life. xx
figzie01 2 years ago
I'm so glad you left too. I made a video about men who abuse women on YouTube. It's called Males: Grow the Fuck Up. I've been threatened with a human rights violation by a Male Rights Activist (laugh) and comments from men screeching and name calling. This is what happens when women talk about Violence Against Women.
DianaBoston 2 years ago
abusive men are babies, spoiled, wicked brats who always want there own way and are too stupid to resolve a problem verbally. By leaving the wanker, you ladies will definitely be doing right, no matter how hard it is.
miakaal 2 years ago
To anamericanstory-you're the victim of a golddigger & you should've seen the signs rather than posting stupid remarks supporting DV-there's NO excuse for it!!
chaves11b 2 years ago
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Domestic Violence, domestic violence is when ur girlfriend totals both your cars, steals ur money, and her other boyfriend to visits when ur away. then when you say she has to leave, she callls the cops and has you arressted, then steals yourstuff when your in jail. No marks on her, as long as I'm alive boyfriends can beat the shit out of their girlfriends and I'll give them a medal!
anamericanstory 2 years ago
the one thing i wish i had done different would to have him put in jail,if i could change one thing that would be it. i also think legislature should be passed making a law that convicted abusers have to pay all future medical cost from injuries they inflict. i have severe,harsh pain that is getting harder to endure EVERY DAY because of my ex twisting my head around with both hands by force..almost broke my neck,literally. my husband has to pay for all my medical because of a evil man before him
hunny1967 2 years ago
I agree and the worst thing we can do is NOT report these monsters when they attack and cause injuries. I hear you sis because I am in the same boat. Almost 4-5 years later. I did not report my abuser, and he got away scott free. I am still dealing with my injuries. An arm he almost broke, and neck/throat injuries. Stay safe and encouraged. You'll be in my prayers.
eternalthruchrist 2 years ago
Thank You for your prayers! I am very happy now,been married to a good man for 9 years now so I am blessed. I am an old woman now but hopefully you or someone you touch in life will get bills passed & new laws passed to hold these men that are convicted for hurting us responsible for future medical related to previous injuries inflicted by our abusers.
If they have to start paying for their mean & just pure evil later in life..just maybe some will think twice or more before hitting us again.
hunny1967 2 years ago
that will never happen
AlphaBlackWolf12 2 years ago
but remember until we decide when to leave,it is like beating our head on a brick wall ok. the last time my bf was beating on me,it was a ba one..anyway i remember the paramedics telling me the next time they saw me they would be scooping my brains off the floor.
hunny1967 2 years ago
you should tell women that the most dangerous time in a violent relationship is IF she lives to see the day that the blinders come off & she decides to leave....many men will then kill her. That is very important for women to know...when you are finally ready to get out & leave..please,please be very cautious in your actions..act normal & defeated..most men can detect the subtle change in us when we are leaving him. It is all mental really,and telling women to get out is a good thing
hunny1967 2 years ago
These are some major warning signs I should have paid attention to but didn't:
1. said he will kill himself if we break up
2. must always be by my side
3. during an argument, he would speed
up the car and threaten to kill us both
4. he was always in trouble at work
5. my friends and family did not like him
(though they didn't know he was violent)
6. the FIRST time he hit me (it wasnt' the last)
The cold truth is that the abuser never stops being violent. Experts know this.
deepblue671 2 years ago
the sad truth is I need a prayer chain for my daughter. Woman who have been in abusive relationships pass it on. My daughter is in danger from her mate. Last week he rapped a blanket around her neck, pushed her out of a moving vehicle,spit i her face, on and on. I call the cops every time, but she says nothing happened. It is horrible
Kidkel69 2 years ago
I will definitely keep you and her in my prayers. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please keep praying and talking to her. Don't stop until she gets the message and gets help.
eternalthruchrist 2 years ago
Prayer and my constant calling the cops worked. he is OUT of her life! Thank God
Kidkel69 2 years ago
I wish that all women and men involved in abusive relationships would just do the right thing and leave...It's not worth risking your life and the life of your children if you have any.I am so glad that you had the courage to leave,you are a hero!!
WCD73 2 years ago
Wow I mean it's like these men write a book on the same patterns of abuse. My ex did the same exact things. This is so surreal. I mean everything you listed I experienced the same things. I am so sorry as well you had to endure that. Stay encouraged!
eternalthruchrist 2 years ago
Your young..us old folks future..you have the energy & optimism to change things for women..should have already happened imo. I pray that you will find the time & effort to maybe one day pursue this..or get others more active for new laws concerning medical expenses. I do believe God puts people in our paths of life..I read your page & just have to say you look happy in your picture & I wish you the best in your life. Thanks again & be safe!
hunny1967 2 years ago
Thank You for supporting the cause and standing behind us
Kidkel69 2 years ago
It is amazing how the same abuse is across the board.
Kidkel69 2 years ago
Check out our song on domestic abuse 'pretty butterfly' your advice on the topic is great. peace!
nublackmusic 3 years ago
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Kidkel69 2 years ago
Thanks for responding to us. sorry to hear about your daughter. maybe you should let her man know that if he hurts her , you will see to it that he gets whats coming to him!
Peace!
nublackmusic 2 years ago
He's scared to death of me. I told him the wrath of God , is way worse then anything I or the police will do.
Kidkel69 2 years ago
She has got to get away from him. That sounds horrible what you explained he did to her. I am so sorry...
eternalthruchrist 2 years ago
she is right the signs are there and we think it gets better but they will damn near kill you or will if you dont leave and i mean leave them alone
lisalizapop 3 years ago
it is very emotional they should have more organizations for those who are serious but other women and men make it so bad when they keep going back maybe to communities are exhausted
lisalizapop 3 years ago
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hfl2005 3 years ago
very nice vid.
dontlistentomeimmute 3 years ago
my sister was beat down and strangled by her boyfriend on dec 27th. i respect you for making this. if you have a facebook add me, adam hartzke and join my group warren addington exposed. i would appreciate it greatly
TripCtulsa 3 years ago
"my sister was beat down and strangled by her boyfriend"
What did she fucking do wrong?
hfl2005 3 years ago
Thank you so much and bless you. Have a happy christmas from the UK
anitab348 3 years ago
If only I knew before this all happened to me. I didn't get any help from the police in the UK - the one organisation that I thought would help me but if your message can stop the lose of one life or one punch its a job well done. Take care
anitab348 3 years ago
I hope your situation is better. I will pray for you.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
PART TWO - KidKel69, greetings from the United Kingdom. By the way, I'm not a person who has ever perpetrated nor been the victim of Domestic Violence. It's just a topic I feel strongly about as I genuinely care about people. I just want to say that I wish you respect, resolution, love and happiness in your courageous life. It is people like YOU that inspire me to continue to help people in anyway I can & to tell my beautiful wife, children & family, EVERYDAY, that I love them. Thank you x x
nigelmlb 3 years ago
I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and care.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
You're welcome Kidkel69. Keep up the great work and take care! x
nigelmlb 3 years ago
PART ONE - EVERYBODY needs to hear what this strong & admirable lady is saying. Domestic Violence is a vicious and heinous social cancer that never had any place in any of our societies. We ALL need to be aware and truly understand the effects of this highly destructive phenomenon because ultimately, it erodes self-esteem/self-worth which can & is actually KILLING people!! Can you believe in the 21st century human beings are DYING as a result of this???!!. We need to resolve this problem NOW!
nigelmlb 3 years ago
Thank You for sharing.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
Women are as likely as men to be abusive. 25 years of family violence research backs this up. An internet search on "battered men" will turn up plenty of info. Such severe and complex problems can't be solved without telling the complete truth.
Roland3337 3 years ago
I am also saying abuse goes both ways.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
My fiancee's ex girlfriend is a fucking demon. She is paying the price. She's in jail, on her way to mental hospital, and has no visitation rights to her daughter and baby son. So I can understand how you feel,TediusZanarukando.
TaintedCandy21 3 years ago
It goes both ways. I know two abusive woman.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
Hopefully she gets the help she needs. Sometimes there to far gone.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
I admire your courage and initiative. Thank you for making this video and sharing your experiences. The more "real" faces we put to this problem, the more "Real" chances we have at diminishing the numbers.
peace love & flow
~M
Yeaher007 3 years ago
Thank You for taking your time to comment. I appreciate that.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
I have never been attracted to any kind of violence.
VeohWatch 3 years ago 4
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what if the woman IS fat, dumb and stupid?
hanniballecturer 3 years ago
if you have a problem with that, do not stay around and abuse her, there is NO excuse to abuse anybody.
stypa1717 3 years ago 3
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Green - Women need to show respect to a man. Speaking as a black man, we men can knock you the FUCK out. A broken jaw beats all your little head games and arrogance. A lot of you women think you are making progress and getting ahead of men, BUT that's not the way I measure progress. You count the RAPES. You count the women who are BATTERED. You count the DEAD and you will CLEARLY see that there is an EPIDEMIC of hatred towards women and the war will NEVER end until women stop there evil ways.
denilson200 3 years ago
I do not believe in romantic love. I do not want to be bothered with women. I do not a restraining order placed on me. I would rather have video games, motion pictures, top-of-the-line gadgets, sophisticated PC, and the latest application software than to have a wife.
TediusZanarukando 3 years ago 2
I totally agree. I'd rather have my sanity,peace of mind,freedom to do what I want,when I want, how I want,and for however long I want. I'd rather be bruised and broken free, then have a man.
snoopy8me 3 years ago
Thanks, that's good. I would like my sanity, peace of mind, and freedom to do whatever I please myself, rather than live with a woman. I had a bad experience with women in the past.
Far too many women are oppressors. I have been mistreated by several women before.
TediusZanarukando 3 years ago 4
Can fully understand. My husband had the ex-girlfriend from hell, very abusive, but mostly head trips. (which I think can be more damaging.) My ex was very abusive as well. It's taken us a lot of trust and respect for each other, but it's been very healing for us both. I've been where you are, though.
spiffygirl77 3 years ago
lol... true!?
dontlistentomeimmute 3 years ago
i wish i knew this stuff b4 i met my ex b4 im in a good reltionship now
ktandbrandon4life 4 years ago
I am glad you are happy now.
Kidkel69 3 years ago
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WOW, YOU GOT GREAT LEGS..PS NICE VID
RATTMANFILMS 4 years ago
Good, you're alive because of it. And BTW I'm glad to see that you realize it's a two way street and BOTH men and women can be abusers...
broadjumper1 4 years ago
Best of luck to you. Sorry you've had such a difficult situation yourself, but you've survived and seen stronger for it.
broadjumper1 4 years ago
Very well put together!!!!
adopttoshare 4 years ago
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do suck dick because u should so u shut your mouth u pig. Do u like your feet behind your head pig
gbikes 4 years ago
grow up little boy...
broadjumper1 4 years ago 3
yikes. i find a good thing to do is a basball bat to the head or knees or the balls, any of these will stop even the largest man in his tracks, and he wont bother you again.. and as a back up a 38.. not to make light of this but some people only need a wack to the head some times to straighten them out..
iseehaters 4 years ago
Good Thoughts!!!! 5*'s ~HiGH HeaD JeSTeR~
highheadjester 4 years ago