He should like whatever his little heart desired without being riduculed at the age of 4. i mean come on. Yea, I know he'll get teased by his friends in a couple of years but my plan, when that time comes, tell him you like whatever the hell you want to like and don't worry about what other think. Bravo to those parents. Thanks for the vid. It really help me see a more clear answer to my situation. :) u rock Curlmebella!
i know I'm so late on responding but concerning my 4 yr old this is just on time. My son loves the color pink, likes princesses and cars. I say whatever, he's 4 yrs old. But I recieve these side remarks from others who gives the "look" at me and my husband as if he's gay. First off if that was the case, I'm gonna love him the same no matter what. That doesn't bother me. What does bother me is these ignorate people do. I stopped telling him he should like a boy color or not like princesses.
I don't think it's anybody's business if your child wants to wear a dress at home or in public. It seems like the parents love their child very much and just want him to learn to love himself at an early age. I would not want my child on the tv shows, just because people are so crazy, but writing a book about it seems a bit unnecessary. I know there are plenty of other things this country could be concerned with besides "boys who wear dresses."
@curlmebella telling him that I don't like him dressed like that and taking him into my arms and smothering him with a big ole kiss. Shoot, I love my son more than I love myself, and I'm sure most parents feel the same way
@maximuslyricus I know and u sound like a great parent.I have open communication with my son as well and I think you are absolutely correct that having that bond really helps to aid the kids against peer pressures.I am not judging your parenting or anyone elses who does what they feel is appropriate.I am the last person to tell someone how they should parent. I was just expressing my personal admiration for these parents who acknowledged an issue w/their child head on and showed acceptance
@curlmebella rampant cursing in middle school to our love and acceptance of one of our favorite uncles in spite of his homosexuality. Based on my experience, I believe that a boy whose parents try to re-direct his desire to cross dress will be ok as long as the parents deal with him lovingly and under the parameters that they accept him as their son whether he cross dresses or not. I know that if I walked in on my son while he was cross dressed, I would have no problem simultaneously
@curlmebella and why, but I make it clear to him that as he ages, he will have his own beliefs and that he should know that I do and will always love and accept him no matter what he believes or what decisions he makes regarding his life. And that he can throw anything at his dad and me without fear of rejection nor reprisal. So far, dealing with my son in this manner has helped him to share all kinds of dilemmas with us, from how he's handled being offered cigarettes and the
@curlmebella family knowing she was pregnant. She didn't even know where babies came from. And yes, she had had sex with a boy her own age voluntarily. At any rate, if we could survive our parents shortcomings, so can our kids survive ours. Also, even parents who are firm in what they believe tend to be much more open with and accepting of their kids in this day and time. I regularly let my son know what I believe
@curlmebella attracted to other boys, or if a girl was attracted to boys at an early age, that cud lead to a big problem for the kid. The boy's (or homosexual girl's) problem is obvious. But many girls who had to navigate their sexuality without guidance from her parents could and did end up experiencing unwanted pregnancies, secret abortions, infertility arising out of these abortions, etc. I know of a lady who as a girl, endured an entire pregnancy and gave birth without her nor her
@curlmebella If memory serves me correctly, I think Jesus forgave those running buddies, and told them to go and sin no more. I think that in my generation, most children dealt with a certain amount of stress from their parents as regarding the kids sexuality. The boys were admonished to be "men!". And the girls were admonished to "keep their legs closed". Now I ain't telling my biz, but I know that if a boy was
for me to address cause some people have paralysis, blindness, brain tumors. Yet the fact is, if I failed to remove that splinter, it cud poison my entire system and cause my death. Finally, I do agree that our children are gifts from God. I believe that it is because of this that we should strive to raise our kids according to our understanding of God's will. We can certainly teach our children to love the sinner, but to hate the sin.
@RootsRunDeeep U're absolutely right - it is God according to me. Just like any parent, I'm going to raise my child based on "God according to me" - not based on "God according to" someone else.
@maximuslyricus ah...yes..the judgmental GODS througout history has not been very beneficial in maintaining patriarch thought patterns generationally.
@maximuslyricus yes, always lovingly and peacefully:-) I agree, if your Christian understanding is such that is an abomination for a young boy to wear a dress then by all means teach your child to adhere to whatever your understanding tells him it is appropriate for him to wear. Its funny to me how this issue has become a gay/crossdressing/trans issue, and the arguments are the same as they always r. I just feel we dont really know what this is abt,this boy is too young to have a sexuality perse
possible, and fine to accept a person, and yet not accept that person's actions. I do understand that parents are dealing with really grave issues concerning their kids, like birth defects, etc. But I don't believe that this is justification for the attitude that cross dressing by little kids is too small an issue to be of concern to the kids parents. An example wud be if I had a splinter in my toe. I cud say, well this issue is too small
@maximuslyricusand really it could be a phase.Indicators would say otherwise but I just dont understand the vehement objection to him expressing himself thru clothing. if he wanted to dress up in a clown suit should we assume he will grow up to be the next wayne gasey?Im agreeing to disagree and I suppose I dont get it because we have different perspectives.I dont live under the premise that being gay/trans/crossdresser is bad and horrible or sinning but if I did we'd be on the same page.
@maximuslyricus Im not saying it shouldnt be a concern. Believe me if my son came to me with this it would not be my favorite day, all Im saying is that once its there I have a choice to acknowledge it or deny it and I believe denying it would be too damaging to my child.
that these differences are wrong. Specifically, I believe that it is not right nor logical to compare acceptance of cross dressing with the acceptance of natural hair. Cross dressing is a voluntary act. It may arise from an involuntary urge, but it is still a voluntary act. Natural hair is not an act. Natural hair is an involuntary occurrence. There is no comparison, nor should there logically be. More generally, I think that it is
desires of God. And while I don't think it's a parent's right to exercise mind control over their kids, I do think that it is the parent's responsibility to provide their kids with a moral compass. Yes, I do know that the moral compass of one parent is different from the moral compass of another. Which leads us to your assertion that we should accept differences. I believe that one should not accept differences if one believes
Hey Miss Bella! I subbed to u not because of your hair, but because I luv how analytical u are. Yet I must say that this is one time that we hopefully - peacefully and lovingly - disagree. I approach the whole princess boy issue from my own moral compass and experience, as I'm sure u do also. Therefore, because of my christian beliefs and understanding of the christian bible, I feel that our children are not created to edify their parents nor their own dreams and desires, but to edify the
How interesting. I have a friend whos son really really wanted a play kitchen and tea set for his birthday. She refused to buy it for him at first but he was so upset that in the end she brought it for him. He is now an adult and guess what, he isnt gay! Some times children just need to be aloud to express them selves! xx
@LeiLei08 Precisely! Thats a great example. I mean the kid is 5 for Gods sake I mean in 3yrs he may want to dress like a clown. He really seems super creative so to me, it seems that is where this is coming from. I just wish we could let people be and let them be who they are until they find themselves. Its sad really, Ive looked at a few other vids and the comments are incredibly conservative. And if he did grow up to be gay, so what. People are so afraid of differences its quite archaic.lol
gosh, i just watched the video about it. it's hard to say anything really, parents do what they think is best for their children. i really don't understand why people are bashing these parents, they are making their boy happy and comfortable with who he is, ok it's not the "norm" but some people are taking it way out of context. I feel for the parents because it is hard like you said. So what if he grows up to be gay? oh Lord.
@louloumatou right, for all we know he is playing dress up and thats it. on a real level who cares, he's 5. I just hate the hypocrisy. If he went to his parents and said "I feel light headed when I breath" they would take him to every doctor they could to support him and get him the help he needs and everyone would lavish them with compliments on great courageous parenting but because they are supporting him on something that isnt "the norm" somehow that means they are negligent.really?
@curlmebella OMG, were you evesdropping in my living room? hubby and i were saying the exact same thing, we had a chat about it. let kids be kids and be happy! it;s because we have become so "distorted" in our way of thinking, we immediately look at the things negatively. i love your videos on this topic.
@louloumatou Thanks so much! Im glad to see at least one other person in the universe feels the way I do. As you can see ur abt the only one commenting.lol
@curlmebella ahh people are just afraid to comment on a "controversial" topic, that's all. but i am sure you might get some PMs or prolly some more comments later. I always like the way you express your opinions, you find the right words and you are confident about your own views. People are often a little too "conservative" about certain things and then they do some crazy ish in other areas of their lives! lol
He should like whatever his little heart desired without being riduculed at the age of 4. i mean come on. Yea, I know he'll get teased by his friends in a couple of years but my plan, when that time comes, tell him you like whatever the hell you want to like and don't worry about what other think. Bravo to those parents. Thanks for the vid. It really help me see a more clear answer to my situation. :) u rock Curlmebella!
taibeach 1 year ago
i know I'm so late on responding but concerning my 4 yr old this is just on time. My son loves the color pink, likes princesses and cars. I say whatever, he's 4 yrs old. But I recieve these side remarks from others who gives the "look" at me and my husband as if he's gay. First off if that was the case, I'm gonna love him the same no matter what. That doesn't bother me. What does bother me is these ignorate people do. I stopped telling him he should like a boy color or not like princesses.
taibeach 1 year ago
Well said.
MrsRaena 1 year ago
I don't think it's anybody's business if your child wants to wear a dress at home or in public. It seems like the parents love their child very much and just want him to learn to love himself at an early age. I would not want my child on the tv shows, just because people are so crazy, but writing a book about it seems a bit unnecessary. I know there are plenty of other things this country could be concerned with besides "boys who wear dresses."
LandOPhile 1 year ago
you are so cool Bella! NG channel is great!
wagechi29 1 year ago
@curlmebella telling him that I don't like him dressed like that and taking him into my arms and smothering him with a big ole kiss. Shoot, I love my son more than I love myself, and I'm sure most parents feel the same way
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus I know and u sound like a great parent.I have open communication with my son as well and I think you are absolutely correct that having that bond really helps to aid the kids against peer pressures.I am not judging your parenting or anyone elses who does what they feel is appropriate.I am the last person to tell someone how they should parent. I was just expressing my personal admiration for these parents who acknowledged an issue w/their child head on and showed acceptance
curlmebella 1 year ago
@curlmebella rampant cursing in middle school to our love and acceptance of one of our favorite uncles in spite of his homosexuality. Based on my experience, I believe that a boy whose parents try to re-direct his desire to cross dress will be ok as long as the parents deal with him lovingly and under the parameters that they accept him as their son whether he cross dresses or not. I know that if I walked in on my son while he was cross dressed, I would have no problem simultaneously
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@curlmebella and why, but I make it clear to him that as he ages, he will have his own beliefs and that he should know that I do and will always love and accept him no matter what he believes or what decisions he makes regarding his life. And that he can throw anything at his dad and me without fear of rejection nor reprisal. So far, dealing with my son in this manner has helped him to share all kinds of dilemmas with us, from how he's handled being offered cigarettes and the
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@curlmebella family knowing she was pregnant. She didn't even know where babies came from. And yes, she had had sex with a boy her own age voluntarily. At any rate, if we could survive our parents shortcomings, so can our kids survive ours. Also, even parents who are firm in what they believe tend to be much more open with and accepting of their kids in this day and time. I regularly let my son know what I believe
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@curlmebella attracted to other boys, or if a girl was attracted to boys at an early age, that cud lead to a big problem for the kid. The boy's (or homosexual girl's) problem is obvious. But many girls who had to navigate their sexuality without guidance from her parents could and did end up experiencing unwanted pregnancies, secret abortions, infertility arising out of these abortions, etc. I know of a lady who as a girl, endured an entire pregnancy and gave birth without her nor her
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@curlmebella If memory serves me correctly, I think Jesus forgave those running buddies, and told them to go and sin no more. I think that in my generation, most children dealt with a certain amount of stress from their parents as regarding the kids sexuality. The boys were admonished to be "men!". And the girls were admonished to "keep their legs closed". Now I ain't telling my biz, but I know that if a boy was
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@RootsRunDeeep Since I don't live my life nor raise my child based on "the judgmental GODS througout history", I have no comment.
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
for me to address cause some people have paralysis, blindness, brain tumors. Yet the fact is, if I failed to remove that splinter, it cud poison my entire system and cause my death. Finally, I do agree that our children are gifts from God. I believe that it is because of this that we should strive to raise our kids according to our understanding of God's will. We can certainly teach our children to love the sinner, but to hate the sin.
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus well..thats GOD according to you.
RootsRunDeeep 1 year ago
@RootsRunDeeep U're absolutely right - it is God according to me. Just like any parent, I'm going to raise my child based on "God according to me" - not based on "God according to" someone else.
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus ah...yes..the judgmental GODS througout history has not been very beneficial in maintaining patriarch thought patterns generationally.
RootsRunDeeep 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus yes, always lovingly and peacefully:-) I agree, if your Christian understanding is such that is an abomination for a young boy to wear a dress then by all means teach your child to adhere to whatever your understanding tells him it is appropriate for him to wear. Its funny to me how this issue has become a gay/crossdressing/trans issue, and the arguments are the same as they always r. I just feel we dont really know what this is abt,this boy is too young to have a sexuality perse
curlmebella 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus and u know whats kinda funny. prostitutes, criminals and dregs of society were jesus's running buddies, wonder what he would do?
curlmebella 1 year ago
possible, and fine to accept a person, and yet not accept that person's actions. I do understand that parents are dealing with really grave issues concerning their kids, like birth defects, etc. But I don't believe that this is justification for the attitude that cross dressing by little kids is too small an issue to be of concern to the kids parents. An example wud be if I had a splinter in my toe. I cud say, well this issue is too small
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
@maximuslyricusand really it could be a phase.Indicators would say otherwise but I just dont understand the vehement objection to him expressing himself thru clothing. if he wanted to dress up in a clown suit should we assume he will grow up to be the next wayne gasey?Im agreeing to disagree and I suppose I dont get it because we have different perspectives.I dont live under the premise that being gay/trans/crossdresser is bad and horrible or sinning but if I did we'd be on the same page.
curlmebella 1 year ago
@maximuslyricus Im not saying it shouldnt be a concern. Believe me if my son came to me with this it would not be my favorite day, all Im saying is that once its there I have a choice to acknowledge it or deny it and I believe denying it would be too damaging to my child.
curlmebella 1 year ago
that these differences are wrong. Specifically, I believe that it is not right nor logical to compare acceptance of cross dressing with the acceptance of natural hair. Cross dressing is a voluntary act. It may arise from an involuntary urge, but it is still a voluntary act. Natural hair is not an act. Natural hair is an involuntary occurrence. There is no comparison, nor should there logically be. More generally, I think that it is
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
desires of God. And while I don't think it's a parent's right to exercise mind control over their kids, I do think that it is the parent's responsibility to provide their kids with a moral compass. Yes, I do know that the moral compass of one parent is different from the moral compass of another. Which leads us to your assertion that we should accept differences. I believe that one should not accept differences if one believes
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
Hey Miss Bella! I subbed to u not because of your hair, but because I luv how analytical u are. Yet I must say that this is one time that we hopefully - peacefully and lovingly - disagree. I approach the whole princess boy issue from my own moral compass and experience, as I'm sure u do also. Therefore, because of my christian beliefs and understanding of the christian bible, I feel that our children are not created to edify their parents nor their own dreams and desires, but to edify the
maximuslyricus 1 year ago
How interesting. I have a friend whos son really really wanted a play kitchen and tea set for his birthday. She refused to buy it for him at first but he was so upset that in the end she brought it for him. He is now an adult and guess what, he isnt gay! Some times children just need to be aloud to express them selves! xx
LeiLei08 1 year ago
@LeiLei08 Precisely! Thats a great example. I mean the kid is 5 for Gods sake I mean in 3yrs he may want to dress like a clown. He really seems super creative so to me, it seems that is where this is coming from. I just wish we could let people be and let them be who they are until they find themselves. Its sad really, Ive looked at a few other vids and the comments are incredibly conservative. And if he did grow up to be gay, so what. People are so afraid of differences its quite archaic.lol
curlmebella 1 year ago
gosh, i just watched the video about it. it's hard to say anything really, parents do what they think is best for their children. i really don't understand why people are bashing these parents, they are making their boy happy and comfortable with who he is, ok it's not the "norm" but some people are taking it way out of context. I feel for the parents because it is hard like you said. So what if he grows up to be gay? oh Lord.
louloumatou 1 year ago
@louloumatou i like how you broke it down, i can't find better words myself.
louloumatou 1 year ago
@louloumatou Thanks so much!
curlmebella 1 year ago
@louloumatou right, for all we know he is playing dress up and thats it. on a real level who cares, he's 5. I just hate the hypocrisy. If he went to his parents and said "I feel light headed when I breath" they would take him to every doctor they could to support him and get him the help he needs and everyone would lavish them with compliments on great courageous parenting but because they are supporting him on something that isnt "the norm" somehow that means they are negligent.really?
curlmebella 1 year ago
@curlmebella OMG, were you evesdropping in my living room? hubby and i were saying the exact same thing, we had a chat about it. let kids be kids and be happy! it;s because we have become so "distorted" in our way of thinking, we immediately look at the things negatively. i love your videos on this topic.
louloumatou 1 year ago
@louloumatou Thanks so much! Im glad to see at least one other person in the universe feels the way I do. As you can see ur abt the only one commenting.lol
curlmebella 1 year ago
@curlmebella ahh people are just afraid to comment on a "controversial" topic, that's all. but i am sure you might get some PMs or prolly some more comments later. I always like the way you express your opinions, you find the right words and you are confident about your own views. People are often a little too "conservative" about certain things and then they do some crazy ish in other areas of their lives! lol
louloumatou 1 year ago