separation anxiety

[dorsey98]

I have that towards my mom and I'm eleven.

[dkamle234]

beautiful...true innocense

[Derka33]

I never had a dad, so I didn't have to experience this ! Ow, I made myself sad.

[1958boomergirl]

As bad as this may look & sound, it does show progressive development. The child now knows the difference between Dad and a total stranger. This is just my opinion, but it would be really worrisome if the boy just acted like anybody and everybody is his parent.

[YelimRay]

@1958boomergirl The kids walking.. by the time a baby walks they know the difference UNLESS the dad isn't really in there life a whole lot.. What's weird though it they know there mother from day one..

[TheNubian1985]

awwww so cute!! my son never had separation anxiety. i am due back to work and will leave my baby girl behind, i am nervous because she cries when i leave the room....:-(

[Miikaika25]

omg how do people leave their kids alone knowing they are crying like that

[leakeg]

evolution has done a terrific job ensuring a baby crying is the most horrifically annoying thing I can hear!! GOD MAKE IT STOP!

[TheNubian1985]

@leakeg ur a goof, now go die.

[strayydreamerr]

Yes, he was NOISY. Yes, I winced at that 'cry' PAUSE 'CRYYY' part. But, I would have a baby just like that just to see that cute, content, happy face at the starting and at the end...

SIGH..

[Abnormaldiversity]

At my church there's a family with a foster baby. The first time I met the kid, he was friendly and sociable with me, about as much as with his caregiver, and didn't seem to care if she wandered off. Several months later, they came back to church and he only wanted to interact with his caregiver and got upset if she got too far away or if anyone else got too close. He'd calm down immediately if the caregiver came back / stranger backed off.

[Krimbo1990]

I love how his expression changes from content to "OH MY GOD, I CANNOT BELIEVE HE'D JUST LEAVE ME LIKE THAT!"

[cca211]

@Krimbo1990 and then back to "Oh goody! He's back =)"

How adorable! ^^

[rodrigotavares13]

very good|| :D

[scantysandwiches]

@missmagicgirl13 It was just an observation. Calm down love.

[sjaplord]

fucking hell, the sound those things make convinces me again that I'm certainly not ready for one yet. Have to visit many more dance events befor that.

[ShabbaMama]

I was like that with my mom when I was younger lol he is tooo cute :)

[shahidmasoodkhan]

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[mistress60]

this is a recorded observation of psychologist Mary Ainsworth. The principal is that a child with effective, and strong attachment bonds to their parents will have a negative reaction to separation. the bonds being tested are the ones built through affection and physical contact like hugging, nursing, touching and playing. the more you do this with your child, the stronger the bonds will be. It is basically a measure of how much your child associates you with security and comfort.

[MomsNearby]

That's why I left my job, couldn't cope with this :(

[alinecalves]

@MomsNearby were you the nanny? or the mom who left the job?

[x0xTHLover4Lifex0x]

When babies don't cry when their caretaker leaves it means something is wrong with them, we just covered this in my Child Psych class. No crying = no bond, no attachment, no trust.

[EmperorOfMars]

"eff you bitch! I want meh daddy!!!"

[RRARRKITTY]

he is so cute aww

[miyalana]

I think the woman was a stranger... not the mom.

[lordbazzelbottom]

my kid used to do that with me when he was around 1-2. he now does it just with his father (he's 4 now). i hope that's normal

[RandomWierdAwesome94]

@lordbazzelbottom yes, they go through different phases, at some point he'll become dependent from his father too. :) he's just growing up :)

[AriesXDiamond]

Also, parents never kno who they're putting there kids with....maybe the stranger is more aggressive when dads not around so he cries nd when dad is around he kno'z everything will b ok...

[e69alpha]

this..isn't the separation anxiety i expected

[nhobiak]

*sigh* if only all instances of childhood disstress could be resolved that quickly...

[psychmaj323]

Separation anxiety SHOULD occur in a child that has a secure attachment, it's normal. He's experiencing this anxiety because he wants to be with his father, but he's been separated, hence the term separation anxiety. If he showed no anxiety, if he didn't cry at all that would have been a problem.

[iig0tem]

@psychmaj323 Lots of babies don't cry when they're separated it's not a big deal. It just means they are less dependent.

[psychmaj323]

@iig0tem then that's an attachment issue, but if you seem fine with that, then that's how you feel.

NO crying = not very bonded

[RandomWierdAwesome94]

@iig0tem no if you study psychology, a baby cries because it's dependent on it's mother father, because it trusts them and they are too helpless to defend themselves, that's why they stop when they come back. (secure attachment) babies who don't cry, don't trust there parents any more than the stranger, they are indifferent because they have no attachment (avoidant). baby who cries on/off and wants his parents but turns his back on them has an unstable relationship (resistant)

[iig0tem]

@RandomWierdAwesome94 this baby is insecure resistant... meaning he clings on his caregiver and protests loudly when caregiver leaves.

[AllLoveKateAusten]

why dont the mom give the boy a hug when the pa leaves. it might be the boy knows the mom gets upset when the dad leaves. why dont the mom give the poor kid a hug, why does she get the toys out, he dont want toys, he wants a hug.

the mom is just trying to get the dad to feel bad when he leaves and the boy knows it.

poor boy is being used by the crazy mother.

why does she smile when the kid cries and why does the boy not like being left alone with her. must be a reason and its not separation

[xkrntylsekkix]

@AllLoveKateAusten lol cuz thats not his mother its a random stranger.

[RandomWierdAwesome94]

@AllLoveKateAusten that's not his mum, it's a stranger... this video makes better sense to people who have studied psychology...

[learnwhentostop]

im the little kid and the dad is my gf i avent been able to talk to in like 3 weeks cause i have to go to another school

[WHOULOOKINAT123]

Cute little guy. Its amazing to see how he calms down instantly when his dad holds him.

[schadenfreudelolz22]

you are diseased. kids cry. its natural. you can't bend to every whim they have. they need structure.  they need to learn they cannot and will not control everything.

[kastnmagic]

@schadenfreudelolz22  It's not about "control" ... It's literally about human emotional development... Good Grief, get an education before you attempt to debate an issue. :o)

[schadenfreudelolz22]

@kastnmagic If you run every time they cry, they learn that they get the attention they want, which leads to spoiled, bratty kids who control their parents by throwing a fit every time they don't get the attention, or whatever, that they want.

Good grief, that education thing goes both ways. :)

[kastnmagic]

@schadenfreudelolz22 I have quite an education and that's not to mention having raised seven (7) children through adulthood. :o) Ah, you are speaking of the Art of Manipulation, which is certainly something children are very capable of. Nevertheless, there is a distinct difference between the two and a prudent parent can see the difference and respond appropriately.. :o)

[RandomWierdAwesome94]

@schadenfreudelolz22 o.O you clearly don't study psychology...

[niekie49]

Question, do you have this movie in a wmp. document? Indeed yes can you send this movie to me? I need it for my education

[looby88]

Aw poor little thing!

[jalisaskyy]

my baby does the same thing anytime i take him near his grandparents or first cousin. I can't put him down or leave his sight. Very annoying. Now nobody wants to baby sit his clingy butt.

[velocity246]

@jalisaskyy well if he cries when you leave and stops crying when you hold him in your arms, that's a good thing. In my psychology class we learned that that means you have a securely attached child :)

[debthed]

Actually, this represents an insecure attachment. If your child is unable to leave your side to explore his/her environment it could indicate he/she feels you may not return. An optimally functioning child should interact with the environment and return to the mother on occasion. Demonstrating his/her understanding that the mother will consistently return when she leaves.

[kastnmagic]

@debthed I disagree with you.... A child such as this child which shows a secure attachment ("seperation anxiety") CAN and WILL transition into being able to be in the company of a stranger without the anxiety as they progress. This, in my opinion shows a child with a secure attachment to his parent/caregiver.

[debthed]

@kastnmagic I was responding to the comment left by Velocity "if he cries when you leave and stops crying when you hold him in your arms, that's a good thing. In my psychology class we learned that that means you have a securely attached child."

I don't think it's possible to tell if the child in this video is securely attached or not. He certainly could be, and most likely is. However, they don't allow enough time for adequate judgement, and they didn't actually complete the experiment.

[kastnmagic]

@velocity246 EXACTLY!!!!

[n0tcreatLve]

Social reference.... you gotta make sure your baby knows its ok to be with them.... when i say that... i mean make happy facial expressions whenever you and your child are around either one of those family members... do this CONSECUTIVELY for atleast 10-20 visits... and after some time... your baby wont cry. : )

[Zeldalover14]

I have this :) It's not fun :(

[schadenfreudelolz22]

That's why there's abortion. :)

[vesinedy]

so powerful to see dads impact

[silliegirl50]

One get rid of the outfit Its a baby not a rocket sciencetist.

Two dont this border on child abuse?

[Lonergoat]

CUTE

[caserock]

i hate when people dress their kids like midgets

[AndrosForever]

HAHAHAHAHAHAH SO true! ROFL

[Timcookie321]

@caserock HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[DurdanKambone]

@caserock LOL Thats funny, never heard it put like that before!

[rosariofan101]

when i was 12 and staying the night at my aunt and uncles house i got sa and threw up cried and for some reason explosive diarriah but the thing is i was going insane

[Cuzcatan]

hahaha, I was reading this and I said...

aunt's house?; check,

sad?; check,

threw up?; check

and then!?

EXPLOSIVE DIAHRREA?; HAHAHA!, NO CHECK!

INSANE?; HAHAHA!

[scoreboardE]

It would be more intense if his parents died. I lost both of my parents when I was a baby.

[dreamer216]

scoreboardE... I'm so sorry to hear you lost your parents so young. I hope you are doing well today...

[kotetsu131]

Yep, Ainsworth is hated by infants everywhere!

[peach1863]

Oh, Man! This is such a big deal! Getting soothed. So, nice that Daddy came back and baby got picked up!

[TheChunk101]

I think Takahashi performed an experiment like this in Japan to see what effect it has in different cultures... i found it amazing, as the infants were so attached to the primary caregiver, that they had to stop in 90% of the trials because of severe distress when they left. Makes you feel sorry for them really.

[Samantha999]

Poor little sweetheart.

[hypatience]

This has become my new favorite. It's so sweet.

[scantysandwiches]

Actually, this child has a secure attachment. Notice how he seems comfortable in the strangers presence whilst dad is around. When the father leaves, he becomes visably upset and cannot be comforted by the woman. When dad returns, he is instantly soothed and content.

[onemanutopia717]

Yeah, this is the normal result of the stage of childhood development where they understand object permanence and that they are a distinct person from their primary caregiver, but have no concept of time, so they don't understand when or if the caregiver is coming back.

[kastnmagic]

@scantysandwiches I agree that this child demonstrates a secure attachment. I'm distressed to see children who could care less if they're parents vacate. People like to "believe" that the child is just "sooo social, friendly and loves everyone", when that truly exhibits the opposite of what is really going on. Reality is that a the child is exhibiting that they don't posses a healthy attachment to their parent. Ugh...

[missmagicgirl13]

@scantysandwiches oh yeah and how the fuck do you know shit i hate when people come on here and act like they know stuff now you know damn well thi the first time you seen this baby so fuck off shit!

[leakeg]

@missmagicgirl13 lolwutoverreaction.

[missmagicgirl13]

@leakeg go shoke in school while eating a cookie and learn english 101 fcktard

[leakeg]

@missmagicgirl13 ironic.

[Jeff2469]

A type C Insecure-Resistant infant. Often exhibit: Over-involvement with the caregiver. Show attachment behaviour during the pre-separation episodes and show little exploration. Extremely distressed when caregiver leaves, but over-involved, so limits scope for being comforted on reunion, suddenly calm after balling. Sometimes show anger or fear towards the stranger, back-arching, or even violence.

[Thebaji]

lol that poor kid!

[xsmileformex]

lots of toddlers go through separation anxiety when seperated from their parents/a parent..they have no concept of time "I'll be back in a minute" means nothing to them, they fear that they've lost your forever..but usually toddlers are easilly distracted if they are left with someone they feel comfortable and safe with while their parents are away.