@203FuckYouPussy203 Crazy inbreed, the only words you know is bitch, rape and motherfucker.Wow, you low life monkeys always complain about how Hollywood Stereotype you inbreed, but Hollywood is right about everything they say about you animals.
@203FuckYouPussy203 Lool, you crazy inbreed, do you actually know first how to write your name? You stupid monkeys think you can resolve everything with violance. Thats why your monkey asses are being locked away in prisons. More then 85% of you animals walk around with criminal records, thats why you idiots are unemployed. The whole world hates you people bec, you lazy, you're an inbreed and you're violant. Will you get help with your post traumatic slave syndrome?
@203FuckYouPussy203 Muahhhahahahahahahah, loool. I gues the chicken and melon has not calmed you down after all. SO much hate, so much hate, tsk tsk tsk. Lol, IP to trace me, we have a stalker here in the making. You prove that everything I said about African Americans was right. What a crazy predator you are, no wonder more than 75% of African American male will see the inside of a prison in their life. Tracing my IP address you say?
@203FuckYouPussy203 Pussy is suffering from post traumatic slavery syndrome, you're mother is the bitch. Clearly something was not right with her when she shit you into this world and you call yourself fuck you pussy,lol. have some melon and chicken, it might calm you down
The hell, I'm there to have a fun night out and don't want to be interrogated as if I'm applying for a job. I'm sure if a man would be approached like that he would think the same. Men and women are not that much different.
Steve Harvey is an idiot, some of his advices are comment sense and others are just stupid. For example as a woman you have to ask a man on first date what his short term and long term goals are. Also asking the man on the same first date if he likes you and what he thinks of you. I'm sorry but if a woman acts like that on first date then she will come across as desperate and clingy and the man will run away. I'm a woman and I don't want to be approached like that by a man.
WHY DON"T SOME OF YOU BITCHES LISTEN TO STEVE HARVEY"S EX WIFE. BEFORE YOU START READING A BOOK WRITTEN BY SOME WHIPPED PUNK ASS AMATEUR THAT WANTS TO THINK LIKE A PUSSY INSTEAD OF THINKING LIKE A "REAL MAN"
@babmousso Yeah, but the funny thing is those feminine men don't get laid. Steve Harvey is merely a business Man. He tells women, especially black women, what they want to here, and they eat it up. If he told them the truth, it would be the end of his career. I find it hilarious that black women, and women in general, are taking advice from a man that's not on his first or second, but his third marriage.
Political correctness only exist at your job, and on TV. In reality, nothing is PC.
@tshelisha we man can be superultra way too loving. But let's face it, women are much better at empathy. If you come to me with a problem, I'd hate not to be able to come up with AT THE VERY LEAST a theoretical solution. I'd also hate and be bored to death of being a shoulder to cry on. You say "I feel sad", the last you'd get from me is "I get your sadness". You'd get something in the lines of "let's do something unsadenning". Sorry. That's what we are.
@lancevancedance His license is from life! and being real! those PHD people are divorce more then any other profession so that degree means shit! thats what is wrong with this world listen to the crap they say. common sense is the key.
@mrwhatever213 Steve Harvey has been divorced twice, so your assertion is immensely flawed. Steve Harvey is retarded and doesn't know ONE thing about relationships and dating.
MJ wasnt telling ppl how to live their lives and what decisions to make. it was for entertainment purposes only. even in his "man in the mirror" song, he said "I'M looking at the man in the mirror" not "YOU should look at the man in the mirror". MJ never gives advice. therefore, you're comparison is useless.
You don't need a degree in psychology to give "relationship advice". When it comes to mental disorders and things of this nature, then yes, a degree is in order. But he is simply giving relationship advice that ANYONE who's ever dated or married can give. All of what he is saying is basically just "common sense"...it's all within our own instinct, that some of us either chose to listen to or not.
The truth is that we all communicate, and recieve "LOVE" in different ways. All men should Provide and Protect. That's the RESPONSIBILITY of a man over his woman. But some men Profess a lot, some Dont. Some men give Gifts, some dont. Some are big on Quality time, some arent. So, one of the first questions in a relationship should be "How do you need to be loved?" That way both parties are giving each other what they need.
I think it's funny how people are in denial, about how men truly are. I don't agree with everything steve is saying. But in essence he is right! Men love differently then women. Don't expect a man to love you the way it's described in some romantic novel. That's not real!!
I do think he is confusing FINDING a relationship with MAINTAINING a relationship.
What I do find suspect is that there is another book with the same title about the same topics by another writer( A woman)
I understand the three P's however, protecting, providing, and professing does not make you a husband or a father. It's not enough to just say that you pay the bills and that's all. Paying the bills does not make you a father.
Steve Harvey is a babbling idiot who loves to hear himself talk and thinks he is right you can tell the man does not have a son because he looks at everything from his daughters perspective. Plus he get's rich out of taking the piss out of black people as if they're all poor and have no money don't know why people laugh at this clown!
@dapman26 I agree with what you stated not to mention this sell out ass nigger dont speak for me. I cant stand when this fool always showing his teeth. Plastic smile. I wonder did he smile when those punk ass cops murder that 7 yr old girl in detroit???? fuck ced too
Ad seriously "does it start vwith the letter S have three letters and end in an x"...WHAT???You all grown ass people(probably married with kids) cant say sex?? WTF is wrong with this nation when we treat sex like its so damn taboo anymore. Its natural and healthy(for most people). there is an entire multi billion dollar industry dedicated to it so clearly most people are doing it or thinking about it or watching someone else do it...or all of the above. Get it over it and grow up.
I read that book. Good advice for guys like Steve(gentlemen of a certain generation who were taught the way he was) but like women, all men are different. He severely limits men to this machismo image that barely exists anymore.
Avoid women at all costs. I'm not saying go for men, I'm straight. But still, avoid the species altogether. Nothing good can come from knowing any of them.
You came out of a woman's vagina. You can't escape the fact that you need a woman, and the fact that you needed a woman as your home to develop and grow inside of her womb, and you most likely stayed living with your mother thereafter; you probably live in your mother's basement right now to this day.
Sorry..but he's making all men look like limited robots. I'm sure there's a man out there who loves to cuddle, kiss and hold the girl he loves. When i went to Italy, I met a guy who liked me so much to the point where he would play with my hand, look me in the eye and smile.
@SexyRaww and, miss romantic, where is this italian now a days? did he married you? :P or you where swept out of your feet and forgot to put the fence up... so one day he woke up and just stepped away, not even noticing you are not there anymore?
@lalitamarie lol well I only visited Italy for a few months and I had to fly back home, but it was a great experience. My point is that not all men are the same and women just need to use their common sense. This kind of advice stuff will only get you back to square one. Been there, done that. You should never settle for second best or someone that's not going to love you completely.
i think this is great...most women go to magazines written by other women, about men and take that advice.......but its not good advice. youve got to go to the source,(a man) women can say they know men more than men know themselves....but its not entirely true.
Lastly, if you take advice from someone who basically said men should just order you some chicken soup and his obligation is to watch tv instead of helping take care of you, and just "holla at you if you need somethin" then you don't deserve to be in a real committed relationship. That's not how I am, if I had a girlfriend and she was sick I would give her my undivided attention and take care of her the best way I can. Breakfast in bed, talk, give her a get well card, clean the house SOMETHING
"We will fill the prescription and give you some chicken soup, but we need to get back in here and cut this tv and on holla at me if you need somethin, that's really how we are"
I will not read a book by this moron, my philosophy of love and relationships is 100x better than Steve's. There is a reason he has been married and divorced three times. He is no scientist, psychologist, expert, nuerobiologist, etc.
Steve Harvey is a COMEDIAN, FIRST. The book and the way he delivers his "advice" has a tinge of humor/sarcasm to it. The point of what he said about the "chicken soup" was a COMEDIC attempt at trying to explain the fact that men are not as "lovey-dovey" and "touchy-feely" as women are. Which is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT TRUE for most men. Women are more nurturing by nature than are men. Any jackass knows that. Men express their love differently than women do.
Being a provider/protector is NOT synonymous with being "lovey-dovey" and "touchy feely". You obviously don't know shit about the psychology of different sexes (evolutionary psychology) or interpersonal neurobiology. When one is sick, their HPA Axis propagates glucocorticoids and norepinephrine, in the sympathetic nervous system. Cuddling with a loved one shifts one from the sympathetic nervous system to the parasympathetic nervous system and they
(cont) release oxytocin, the "cuddle chemical". This chemical makes two people bond, trust, love and communicate better. Oxytocin is the same chemical women release during breast feeding that gives two people the mother-child bond. Oxytocin relaxes people, lowers blood pressure as well as boost the immune system, most importantly makes them feel safe. Also, the benefit of cuddling with someone who is sick, is neural script. Subconsciously, she will remember the love of her mother that comforts
(cont) her and love her. Subconsciously her love would grow deeper for him. If a mans "DNA" is too be pushy when their girlfriend is sick, none of this will happen. She can't cuddle with anyone and release oxytocin, only one she already has a deep bond, with dopamine filling the nucelus accumbens. Also, Steve the retard, could have used another "COMEDIC" (even though it wasn't funny) analogy to make his point. You're the only jackass for taking advice from this fucktard
How did this wall of text even address ANYTHING that I stated? Where did I type that "providing/protecting" is synonymous with "lovey-dovey"?
Wow, someone's mad. Don't let your blind rage make you look like a complete and total rambling idiot making paper tigers just to tear them down...oh wait.
You're a bigger idiot than I thought. You obviously can't put two and two together. Protecting someone through a rough time provides SAFETY. As I said oxytocin provides a feeling of SAFETY (protection). So cuddling with a girl who is sick is a form of PROTECTION, but you think it is being "lovey dovey"
"he said about the "chicken soup" was a COMEDIC attempt at trying to explain the fact that men are not as "lovey-dovey"
Providing for a sick love is not being lovey dovey
(cont) no man should neglect their girlfriend to watch tv if she is sick, you don't even have to be a neuroscientist to figure this out, it SHOULD be common sense, but you and Steve Harvey obviously lack common sense. You can watch tv instead of taking care of your girl, but I can guarantee my love life will be 1000x more fulfilling than yours. If you take advice from Steve Harvey, I feel sorry for you. A man shouldn't be seen as being "lovey dovey" for cuddling with their sick girlfriend
@JLuvs0fficial The use of Conditional Type-II implies that you don't have a girlfriend, which means you are either way too young, gay, a woman (which would make your answer really weird) or you simply suck at picking up 'em ladies. When you DO get a girlfriend, let's see how many get well cards and breakfasts in bed you provide before the contradiction burns you from the inside.
@lulospawn Actually, I am great at picking up women, but I don't have a girlfriend at the moment. But I can tell you women LOVE me. This notion that "nice guys" finish last is unfamiliar to me. Being compassionate, genuinely, as well as being empathetic, smart, thoughtful, and creative, really turns women on. I can bet you the quality of my relationships are 100x better than yours. You, as well as Mr. Harvey, don't know the first thing about relationships
@JLuvs0fficial You are probably a beta- or a gamma- male. There are alphas, betas and gammas in both genders. All kinds are needed to make the world.
We respect the way you "care" for a woman, just as you'd appreciate that a lot of us are different. Just as evolution and nature meant us to be. Nothing wrong with differences in the world!
@Imrankniazi Alpha males are providers. Do you know the definition of "provide"? Didn't know neglecting someone is a form of providing.
You are probably an asshole- or insecure- male. There are assholes, insecure, and secure people in both genders. All kinds are needed to make the world. I'm sure your sick girlfriend would appreciate you watching tv and neglecting her, because you're an "alpha" male. Dominance. Just as evolution and nature meant to be, neglectful of sick loved one's.
Also Steve's assertions of "how men love" is asinine. First this isn't compartmentalizing (satire). Men should reciprocate the love women give out. Men should be nurturing and communicative. Communication is the biggest role in relationships. The "three p's" is retarded and not in our DNA. Men should hold there partner and study shows just cuddling can release high amounts of oxycotin (aka the "cuddling chemical"
Steve Harvey doesn't even know why men cheat. Men cheat because we are naturally polygamists, not because they just can. Being naturally polygamists isn't justification for cheating though, because we are naturally a lot of things that are bad, doesn't mean we should act upon those actions.
Yes we are. If you look at our testes compared to our relative chimpanzee and orangutan species, the ratio of testes to body height and weight is abnormally large, suggesting our primitive ancestors slept around a lot and natural selection picked up on it. It is natural for men to have urges to sleep with multiple woman. There is virility for men who sleep around, amongst there male friends. Cheating is a choice and doesn't contradict what I said
And women don't cheat ?- over the years women have become more and more unfaithful to men, simply because society is more liberal and we have more opportunity (eg internet). So maybe it's 'natural' for us too, and we have an 'excuse' too.
It is natural for women to want to sleep around as well. Maybe I came wrong, I shouldn't say we are naturally inclined to cheat, but we are naturally inclined to sleep with multiple people. Just so happens those natural urges don't go away when one is in a relationship. They don't go away, but they greatly reduce. During a relationship where romantic love is involved, both men and women release oxytocin and vassopressin which makes a couple want to be monotonous.
(cont). Now why would we have chemicals in our brain (there are more chemicals involved such as phenylethalamine, dehydeoepiandrosterone, estrogen, and testosterone, testerone is another factor why men are more inclined to cheat then women, etc) If we were naturally monotonous, we wouldn't need these chemicals to basically tell us we should be with one person for all our lives. We are sex driven animals and sleeping around played a big role in our evolutionary history, but as I said
(cont) this is not justification to want to cheat. Just because it is natural doesn't mean it is right. A lot of people said, if there were no law enforcement, they would commit crimes all the time, but in fear of going to jail they don't. Why? Because it is natural to want to break the law, doesn't mean people should do it. Same with relationships, just because it is natural to have an urge to sleep around, doesn't mean we should act upon it
This baldheaded white male interviewer (i said white male because Steve Harvey is bald, too) is so insane. I've seen him interviewing so many celebs and there's just somehting grating about him. I don't know. My opinion/observation.
Well he lives in a Hollywood so he has to give a time span that kinda applies. If you read the book you REFUSE to believe that men have this tendencies then your simply in denial and refse to learn. (or your just 14 and have no idea what your talking about)
well in all honesty no one is a real expert. on relationship. i have never seen anyone with a perfect relationship. even if they go to college to give advice one it. when it all boils down to it. there will still be problems between man and woman especially with understanding them. we are two different creature no matter how much we study the opposite sex. we can learn about them but never really understand each other.
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Steve Harvey is not an expert. Not only that, he's an idiot. Steve Harvey doesn't know anything about men. He knows about A man, him. If you're going to get advice from a book, don't get one written by a random semi-celebrity.
I've watched several of his stand up performances. He just isn't very good. In my opinion at least. He is somewhat popular. Hardly a household name. But more to the point: have you heard the advice he gives? It's dime-a-dozen bullshit. The fact that he's a comedian has nothing to do with anything. He's not a relationship expert, he's just a celebrity trying to cash in. Just because someone is on TV doesn't mean they are qualified to give advice. These are real people's lives he's screwing with.
People are real stupid that they look to steve for advice. A man who claim to be christian, yet he promote sex before marriage. LOL
People, when will you understand that. Steve can't possibly tell you what you need to know about men cause all men are different. He could only tell you about him and what he desire.
I feel sad for women cause it's bad enough that most of you are naive and unwise about relationships, but now Steve is going to brainwash you with more crap while getting rich.
because on your OWN personal disliking with steve harvey you are telling people not to get his book, based on lame, untrue, & hypocritical reasons.
Anyone can give advice freely, advice comes from experience. And if he has experience in this area of relationships, why not share it. Also, you don't have the right to judge the heart of a person in their christian faith. We all have areas in our lives that need pruning..
women have left out a key componet in a relationship,a little something called devotion,where this man is devoted to me in speech and in action without me having to allways tell him,this shows he is genuwinlly about me
Often they DECIDE that support is not something that they should offer. What you will recieve is resentment. She then moves onto the next man chasing the same fluffy cycle of all relationship beginings. Most women do not equip themselves will the tools to support any man.
If they in fact do offer their version of support there is often a time frame attached that only they and their friends know about.
I think it's a real wake up call for many women today. This problem has been going on for years and is not getting any better. There is an increasing divide between men and women - in particular, black men and women. So this is an old school approach to relationships. His concepts are not new school. This is how my father showed his love for our family so I understand it.
I could write a book similar to Steve's on how women can keep a man except it would be extremely short. The book would be 3 words long and the 3 words are "Use common sense"
LOL but if common sense was so common there would be no need for any books to be written about relationships at all!! But i understand your point completely.
@JPfromFlint - Common sense isn't common, and the Mars/venus thing makes it so we generally have no clue what the other sex wants from us because we're wired to want and need different things.
Clear, honest, and respectful, but direct communication is the key.
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Yeah Steve's behavior on his radio show and this book which is nothing more than an attempt to capitalize on the millions of desperate bitter women out there, have put him in the "mangina" catagory
Steve Harvey is a genius i can relate to some of the stuff he's talking about from a guys point of view it goes to show the experiance he's had in life
The funniest thing about this clip is hearing the question "what's the cookie?" Cultural thing I guess. OR maybe a gender thing. I did grow up with a lot of guys. Not a new phrase to me. lol
A real man can go beyond the three P's. If your lady needs some comfort and you dont provide... they will get it somewhere else and then badabing badaboom... another chapter is born. Why men cheat. this is just a moneymaker book, nothing else.
I heard him talk about women needing to raise their standards and keep them high. I hear a lot of Black Women say this also in reference to demanding better from their men and not accepting anything less. However, you have to be WORTH the high standards you set. It doesn't make much sense to have a woman of low worth/value with high standards. There are too many women being allowed to get away with this and it's a big problem. M.O.B-Mind Over Body.
First, the human being, him or herself. It starts within self. You gotta be right within self first before you can be right with someone else. Next, it would be the individual or (s) that that person is associating with (relationship-wise). I have seen many examples of BW with low worth/value who have high standards (the man had to be well-to-do, successful, treat her like a queen, etc etc). Look at blaqueindigo's what should women bring to the table vid. High value.
This just doesnt sound right to me. I must say that the fact that a woman has standards in the first place is ALWAYS a plus. What do you propose, that women with "low self worth" (in your opinion) should not have standards, and let any joker into her life?
We need to let all young and sometimes older women know from the begining that they NEED to have standards.
I never said there was anything wrong with a woman having standards. The problem is, you have a lot of BW who subscribe to higher standards in men, when they themselves are not of that same standard (lower). To turn around what you said, BM need to pay more attention to the jokers who have those high standards because to see them at work is funnier than a Chris Rock and Martin Lawrence HBO special put together.
@203FuckYouPussy203 Crazy inbreed, the only words you know is bitch, rape and motherfucker.Wow, you low life monkeys always complain about how Hollywood Stereotype you inbreed, but Hollywood is right about everything they say about you animals.
MsLatifa26 2 weeks ago
@203FuckYouPussy203 Lool, you crazy inbreed, do you actually know first how to write your name? You stupid monkeys think you can resolve everything with violance. Thats why your monkey asses are being locked away in prisons. More then 85% of you animals walk around with criminal records, thats why you idiots are unemployed. The whole world hates you people bec, you lazy, you're an inbreed and you're violant. Will you get help with your post traumatic slave syndrome?
MsLatifa26 2 weeks ago
@203FuckYouPussy203 Muahhhahahahahahahah, loool. I gues the chicken and melon has not calmed you down after all. SO much hate, so much hate, tsk tsk tsk. Lol, IP to trace me, we have a stalker here in the making. You prove that everything I said about African Americans was right. What a crazy predator you are, no wonder more than 75% of African American male will see the inside of a prison in their life. Tracing my IP address you say?
MsLatifa26 2 weeks ago
@203FuckYouPussy203 Pussy is suffering from post traumatic slavery syndrome, you're mother is the bitch. Clearly something was not right with her when she shit you into this world and you call yourself fuck you pussy,lol. have some melon and chicken, it might calm you down
MsLatifa26 2 weeks ago
The hell, I'm there to have a fun night out and don't want to be interrogated as if I'm applying for a job. I'm sure if a man would be approached like that he would think the same. Men and women are not that much different.
MsLatifa26 1 month ago
Steve Harvey is an idiot, some of his advices are comment sense and others are just stupid. For example as a woman you have to ask a man on first date what his short term and long term goals are. Also asking the man on the same first date if he likes you and what he thinks of you. I'm sorry but if a woman acts like that on first date then she will come across as desperate and clingy and the man will run away. I'm a woman and I don't want to be approached like that by a man.
MsLatifa26 1 month ago
WHY DON"T SOME OF YOU BITCHES LISTEN TO STEVE HARVEY"S EX WIFE. BEFORE YOU START READING A BOOK WRITTEN BY SOME WHIPPED PUNK ASS AMATEUR THAT WANTS TO THINK LIKE A PUSSY INSTEAD OF THINKING LIKE A "REAL MAN"
. FUCK THIS WEAK BIASED ASS NIGGA.
theright1allthetime 6 months ago
can you say HETERO-NORMATIVITY !?
(google it it'll be fun)
PimpMyParadigm 6 months ago
i thought the 3 P's was pearly penile puplets XD
rafalthe1 7 months ago
FUCK STEVE HARVEY! GOLF WANG
supremesoul93 9 months ago
Well, my hubby missed out on the protection ;(
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criseldaprangehkg 10 months ago
@babmousso Yeah, but the funny thing is those feminine men don't get laid. Steve Harvey is merely a business Man. He tells women, especially black women, what they want to here, and they eat it up. If he told them the truth, it would be the end of his career. I find it hilarious that black women, and women in general, are taking advice from a man that's not on his first or second, but his third marriage.
Political correctness only exist at your job, and on TV. In reality, nothing is PC.
Dmacho78 11 months ago 4
@Dmacho78 True, true!
spucy 10 months ago
@Dmacho78 lol you spk the truth
sammy69831 9 months ago
Wow.. Steve Harvey has only "some" points.. He talks as if men are not really as loving as women.. Not True. My experience can can bag that up.
tshelisha 1 year ago
@tshelisha we man can be superultra way too loving. But let's face it, women are much better at empathy. If you come to me with a problem, I'd hate not to be able to come up with AT THE VERY LEAST a theoretical solution. I'd also hate and be bored to death of being a shoulder to cry on. You say "I feel sad", the last you'd get from me is "I get your sadness". You'd get something in the lines of "let's do something unsadenning". Sorry. That's what we are.
lulospawn 8 months ago
This man is such an idiot.
MrJNO123 1 year ago
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What nonsense. Good comedian. Terrible relationship advisor that is giving out nonsense.
zetanupe79 1 year ago
Remember the days when you used to have to be funny to be a comedian?
VenomOXP 1 year ago
This guy, Steve is hilarious but speaks the truth... nice way of conveying how men are to an over feminized culture.
MonkWarrior108 1 year ago
@babmousso Preach it honey.. I think we're all tired of it.. we don't even REALIZE it
XoJackieLuvsRonniexo 1 year ago
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AveolarD 1 year ago
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CREAMENTERTAINMENTTV 1 year ago
Does steve harvey have a degree in psychology? If not, then why listen to him?
Will you let an unlicensed man build your new house? Think about that before you listen to this man.
Some things he says are true but some are false.
lancevancedance 1 year ago
@lancevancedance His license is from life! and being real! those PHD people are divorce more then any other profession so that degree means shit! thats what is wrong with this world listen to the crap they say. common sense is the key.
mrwhatever213 1 year ago
@mrwhatever213 where'd you get that statistic? if you just made it up then be honest about it.
lancevancedance 1 year ago
@mrwhatever213 Steve Harvey has been divorced twice, so your assertion is immensely flawed. Steve Harvey is retarded and doesn't know ONE thing about relationships and dating.
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
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AveolarD 1 year ago
MJ wasnt telling ppl how to live their lives and what decisions to make. it was for entertainment purposes only. even in his "man in the mirror" song, he said "I'M looking at the man in the mirror" not "YOU should look at the man in the mirror". MJ never gives advice. therefore, you're comparison is useless.
lancevancedance 1 year ago
@lancevancedance
You don't need a degree in psychology to give "relationship advice". When it comes to mental disorders and things of this nature, then yes, a degree is in order. But he is simply giving relationship advice that ANYONE who's ever dated or married can give. All of what he is saying is basically just "common sense"...it's all within our own instinct, that some of us either chose to listen to or not.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
I am currently reading that book....and it is going great love it....
akl000 1 year ago
The truth is that we all communicate, and recieve "LOVE" in different ways. All men should Provide and Protect. That's the RESPONSIBILITY of a man over his woman. But some men Profess a lot, some Dont. Some men give Gifts, some dont. Some are big on Quality time, some arent. So, one of the first questions in a relationship should be "How do you need to be loved?" That way both parties are giving each other what they need.
TWN321 1 year ago 2
I think it's funny how people are in denial, about how men truly are. I don't agree with everything steve is saying. But in essence he is right! Men love differently then women. Don't expect a man to love you the way it's described in some romantic novel. That's not real!!
I do think he is confusing FINDING a relationship with MAINTAINING a relationship.
What I do find suspect is that there is another book with the same title about the same topics by another writer( A woman)
bolletrie 1 year ago
I understand the three P's however, protecting, providing, and professing does not make you a husband or a father. It's not enough to just say that you pay the bills and that's all. Paying the bills does not make you a father.
1105196 1 year ago
@1105196 Then that means that a L needs to be added to the three P's - and the needed word is Love.
619Terbz 1 year ago
@619Terbz The point was that that's how men SHOW their love - by professing, providing, and protecting. You can't show you love by loving.
ChortortleC 1 year ago
Steve Harvey is a babbling idiot who loves to hear himself talk and thinks he is right you can tell the man does not have a son because he looks at everything from his daughters perspective. Plus he get's rich out of taking the piss out of black people as if they're all poor and have no money don't know why people laugh at this clown!
dapman26 1 year ago
@dapman26 I agree with what you stated not to mention this sell out ass nigger dont speak for me. I cant stand when this fool always showing his teeth. Plastic smile. I wonder did he smile when those punk ass cops murder that 7 yr old girl in detroit???? fuck ced too
nappyg1 1 year ago
@dapman26
Steve Harvey has THREE SONS, and four daughters. Do your fucking research.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
Ad seriously "does it start vwith the letter S have three letters and end in an x"...WHAT???You all grown ass people(probably married with kids) cant say sex?? WTF is wrong with this nation when we treat sex like its so damn taboo anymore. Its natural and healthy(for most people). there is an entire multi billion dollar industry dedicated to it so clearly most people are doing it or thinking about it or watching someone else do it...or all of the above. Get it over it and grow up.
ninetiesbaby10 1 year ago
Please,
I read that book. Good advice for guys like Steve(gentlemen of a certain generation who were taught the way he was) but like women, all men are different. He severely limits men to this machismo image that barely exists anymore.
ninetiesbaby10 1 year ago
steve harvey doesnt know shit
aniger818 1 year ago
Avoid women at all costs. I'm not saying go for men, I'm straight. But still, avoid the species altogether. Nothing good can come from knowing any of them.
bobshouse123 1 year ago
@bobshouse123
You came out of a woman's vagina. You can't escape the fact that you need a woman, and the fact that you needed a woman as your home to develop and grow inside of her womb, and you most likely stayed living with your mother thereafter; you probably live in your mother's basement right now to this day.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@blahblahblahman
Ah, sorry, I don't remember posting this, could've been anyone here. Ty for the reply though.
bobshouse123 1 year ago
Haha, this white guy feels Steve and is doing his very best to act appropriately whilst flanked by two women.
bobshouse123 1 year ago
Steve Harvey is a traitor and a fag.
JaiCourvoisier 1 year ago
Sorry..but he's making all men look like limited robots. I'm sure there's a man out there who loves to cuddle, kiss and hold the girl he loves. When i went to Italy, I met a guy who liked me so much to the point where he would play with my hand, look me in the eye and smile.
SexyRaww 1 year ago
@SexyRaww and, miss romantic, where is this italian now a days? did he married you? :P or you where swept out of your feet and forgot to put the fence up... so one day he woke up and just stepped away, not even noticing you are not there anymore?
lalitamarie 1 year ago
@lalitamarie lol well I only visited Italy for a few months and I had to fly back home, but it was a great experience. My point is that not all men are the same and women just need to use their common sense. This kind of advice stuff will only get you back to square one. Been there, done that. You should never settle for second best or someone that's not going to love you completely.
SexyRaww 1 year ago
i think this is great...most women go to magazines written by other women, about men and take that advice.......but its not good advice. youve got to go to the source,(a man) women can say they know men more than men know themselves....but its not entirely true.
BelizeansRpretty 1 year ago
Since when did this muthafukka become an expert on relationships!! I guess witht those fucked-up goofy ass pimp suits he wears he probably right!
DG3744 1 year ago 2
Steve Harvey has been married three times WTF
how is he going to give advice, Dumb azz
MaiPearl10 2 years ago 2
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"Steve Harvey has been married three times WTF
how is he going to give advice"
First of all the women were the cause of that.....
kmcl11 1 year ago
@MaiPearl10 - ha, ha.
kah66866 1 year ago
Jluvs0fficial are u a doctor or something?
blackty89 2 years ago
Lastly, if you take advice from someone who basically said men should just order you some chicken soup and his obligation is to watch tv instead of helping take care of you, and just "holla at you if you need somethin" then you don't deserve to be in a real committed relationship. That's not how I am, if I had a girlfriend and she was sick I would give her my undivided attention and take care of her the best way I can. Breakfast in bed, talk, give her a get well card, clean the house SOMETHING
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago 8
"if you take advice from someone who basically said men should just order you some chicken soup "
He never said that. Try reading the whole book instead of cherry picking.
kmcl11 1 year ago
@kmcl11
Are you deaf? Did you listen around 1:35?
"We will fill the prescription and give you some chicken soup, but we need to get back in here and cut this tv and on holla at me if you need somethin, that's really how we are"
I will not read a book by this moron, my philosophy of love and relationships is 100x better than Steve's. There is a reason he has been married and divorced three times. He is no scientist, psychologist, expert, nuerobiologist, etc.
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
@JLuvs0fficial
Are you retarded?
Steve Harvey is a COMEDIAN, FIRST. The book and the way he delivers his "advice" has a tinge of humor/sarcasm to it. The point of what he said about the "chicken soup" was a COMEDIC attempt at trying to explain the fact that men are not as "lovey-dovey" and "touchy-feely" as women are. Which is ONE HUNDRED PERCENT TRUE for most men. Women are more nurturing by nature than are men. Any jackass knows that. Men express their love differently than women do.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@blahblahblahman
You are a fucking imbecile
Being a provider/protector is NOT synonymous with being "lovey-dovey" and "touchy feely". You obviously don't know shit about the psychology of different sexes (evolutionary psychology) or interpersonal neurobiology. When one is sick, their HPA Axis propagates glucocorticoids and norepinephrine, in the sympathetic nervous system. Cuddling with a loved one shifts one from the sympathetic nervous system to the parasympathetic nervous system and they
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
(cont) release oxytocin, the "cuddle chemical". This chemical makes two people bond, trust, love and communicate better. Oxytocin is the same chemical women release during breast feeding that gives two people the mother-child bond. Oxytocin relaxes people, lowers blood pressure as well as boost the immune system, most importantly makes them feel safe. Also, the benefit of cuddling with someone who is sick, is neural script. Subconsciously, she will remember the love of her mother that comforts
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
(cont) her and love her. Subconsciously her love would grow deeper for him. If a mans "DNA" is too be pushy when their girlfriend is sick, none of this will happen. She can't cuddle with anyone and release oxytocin, only one she already has a deep bond, with dopamine filling the nucelus accumbens. Also, Steve the retard, could have used another "COMEDIC" (even though it wasn't funny) analogy to make his point. You're the only jackass for taking advice from this fucktard
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
@JLuvs0fficial
How did this wall of text even address ANYTHING that I stated? Where did I type that "providing/protecting" is synonymous with "lovey-dovey"?
Wow, someone's mad. Don't let your blind rage make you look like a complete and total rambling idiot making paper tigers just to tear them down...oh wait.
blahblahblahman 1 year ago
@blahblahblahman
You're a bigger idiot than I thought. You obviously can't put two and two together. Protecting someone through a rough time provides SAFETY. As I said oxytocin provides a feeling of SAFETY (protection). So cuddling with a girl who is sick is a form of PROTECTION, but you think it is being "lovey dovey"
"he said about the "chicken soup" was a COMEDIC attempt at trying to explain the fact that men are not as "lovey-dovey"
Providing for a sick love is not being lovey dovey
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago
(cont) no man should neglect their girlfriend to watch tv if she is sick, you don't even have to be a neuroscientist to figure this out, it SHOULD be common sense, but you and Steve Harvey obviously lack common sense. You can watch tv instead of taking care of your girl, but I can guarantee my love life will be 1000x more fulfilling than yours. If you take advice from Steve Harvey, I feel sorry for you. A man shouldn't be seen as being "lovey dovey" for cuddling with their sick girlfriend
JLuvs0fficial 1 year ago 2
I totally agree
tshelisha 1 year ago
@JLuvs0fficial The use of Conditional Type-II implies that you don't have a girlfriend, which means you are either way too young, gay, a woman (which would make your answer really weird) or you simply suck at picking up 'em ladies. When you DO get a girlfriend, let's see how many get well cards and breakfasts in bed you provide before the contradiction burns you from the inside.
lulospawn 8 months ago
@lulospawn Actually, I am great at picking up women, but I don't have a girlfriend at the moment. But I can tell you women LOVE me. This notion that "nice guys" finish last is unfamiliar to me. Being compassionate, genuinely, as well as being empathetic, smart, thoughtful, and creative, really turns women on. I can bet you the quality of my relationships are 100x better than yours. You, as well as Mr. Harvey, don't know the first thing about relationships
JLuvs0fficial 1 month ago
@JLuvs0fficial real man. one love.
ErykahMoniqueDotCom 6 months ago
@JLuvs0fficial You are probably a beta- or a gamma- male. There are alphas, betas and gammas in both genders. All kinds are needed to make the world.
We respect the way you "care" for a woman, just as you'd appreciate that a lot of us are different. Just as evolution and nature meant us to be. Nothing wrong with differences in the world!
Imrankniazi 1 month ago
@Imrankniazi Alpha males are providers. Do you know the definition of "provide"? Didn't know neglecting someone is a form of providing.
You are probably an asshole- or insecure- male. There are assholes, insecure, and secure people in both genders. All kinds are needed to make the world. I'm sure your sick girlfriend would appreciate you watching tv and neglecting her, because you're an "alpha" male. Dominance. Just as evolution and nature meant to be, neglectful of sick loved one's.
JLuvs0fficial 1 month ago
@JLuvs0fficial You should write a book. I'm dead serious- no sarcasm or anything. Glad I subbed you a while back
SickSchizophrenic 1 month ago
Also Steve's assertions of "how men love" is asinine. First this isn't compartmentalizing (satire). Men should reciprocate the love women give out. Men should be nurturing and communicative. Communication is the biggest role in relationships. The "three p's" is retarded and not in our DNA. Men should hold there partner and study shows just cuddling can release high amounts of oxycotin (aka the "cuddling chemical"
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago
Steve Harvey doesn't even know why men cheat. Men cheat because we are naturally polygamists, not because they just can. Being naturally polygamists isn't justification for cheating though, because we are naturally a lot of things that are bad, doesn't mean we should act upon those actions.
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago
no one is a natural polygamist. that doesnt even make sense. Cheating is a choice everyone (men and women) have the choice to cheat.
isawb2k 2 years ago 3
Yes we are. If you look at our testes compared to our relative chimpanzee and orangutan species, the ratio of testes to body height and weight is abnormally large, suggesting our primitive ancestors slept around a lot and natural selection picked up on it. It is natural for men to have urges to sleep with multiple woman. There is virility for men who sleep around, amongst there male friends. Cheating is a choice and doesn't contradict what I said
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago
And women don't cheat ?- over the years women have become more and more unfaithful to men, simply because society is more liberal and we have more opportunity (eg internet). So maybe it's 'natural' for us too, and we have an 'excuse' too.
julia393n 2 years ago
@julia393n
It is natural for women to want to sleep around as well. Maybe I came wrong, I shouldn't say we are naturally inclined to cheat, but we are naturally inclined to sleep with multiple people. Just so happens those natural urges don't go away when one is in a relationship. They don't go away, but they greatly reduce. During a relationship where romantic love is involved, both men and women release oxytocin and vassopressin which makes a couple want to be monotonous.
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago 3
(cont). Now why would we have chemicals in our brain (there are more chemicals involved such as phenylethalamine, dehydeoepiandrosterone, estrogen, and testosterone, testerone is another factor why men are more inclined to cheat then women, etc) If we were naturally monotonous, we wouldn't need these chemicals to basically tell us we should be with one person for all our lives. We are sex driven animals and sleeping around played a big role in our evolutionary history, but as I said
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago 2
(cont) this is not justification to want to cheat. Just because it is natural doesn't mean it is right. A lot of people said, if there were no law enforcement, they would commit crimes all the time, but in fear of going to jail they don't. Why? Because it is natural to want to break the law, doesn't mean people should do it. Same with relationships, just because it is natural to have an urge to sleep around, doesn't mean we should act upon it
JLuvs0fficial 2 years ago
@JLuvs0fficial do you mean "monogamous" when you say "monotonous"...monotnous doesnt make sense in that context.
ninetiesbaby10 1 year ago
This baldheaded white male interviewer (i said white male because Steve Harvey is bald, too) is so insane. I've seen him interviewing so many celebs and there's just somehting grating about him. I don't know. My opinion/observation.
808Lana 2 years ago
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Harvey is a comedian? I always thought he was just a dumb nigger.
HardforJesus 2 years ago
you dont supposed ot know stop trying to figure us out and be women...all you gotta do is cook,clean,kick it,nn no drama
meneedmoney 2 years ago
Well he lives in a Hollywood so he has to give a time span that kinda applies. If you read the book you REFUSE to believe that men have this tendencies then your simply in denial and refse to learn. (or your just 14 and have no idea what your talking about)
FruitsP 2 years ago
@liyish That's because men don't think in one way.
Samtheheretic666 2 years ago
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Steve Harvey is a subhuman, I literally hope he dies, SHINYVAGINAFUCK.
Samtheheretic666 2 years ago
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Steve Harvey is a dumbass
TheFunnybone 2 years ago
well in all honesty no one is a real expert. on relationship. i have never seen anyone with a perfect relationship. even if they go to college to give advice one it. when it all boils down to it. there will still be problems between man and woman especially with understanding them. we are two different creature no matter how much we study the opposite sex. we can learn about them but never really understand each other.
bluestar6986 2 years ago 2
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Steve Harvey is not an expert. Not only that, he's an idiot. Steve Harvey doesn't know anything about men. He knows about A man, him. If you're going to get advice from a book, don't get one written by a random semi-celebrity.
SumerianSentinel 2 years ago
semi-celebrity? hes one the kings of comedy you idiot! i think its more accurate to say not to take any advice from you!
andrecousins 2 years ago 5
I've watched several of his stand up performances. He just isn't very good. In my opinion at least. He is somewhat popular. Hardly a household name. But more to the point: have you heard the advice he gives? It's dime-a-dozen bullshit. The fact that he's a comedian has nothing to do with anything. He's not a relationship expert, he's just a celebrity trying to cash in. Just because someone is on TV doesn't mean they are qualified to give advice. These are real people's lives he's screwing with.
SumerianSentinel 2 years ago
Let's all look to mushmouthed comedians for relationship advice. What a great idea.
Alfredkickedcock 2 years ago
People are real stupid that they look to steve for advice. A man who claim to be christian, yet he promote sex before marriage. LOL
People, when will you understand that. Steve can't possibly tell you what you need to know about men cause all men are different. He could only tell you about him and what he desire.
I feel sad for women cause it's bad enough that most of you are naive and unwise about relationships, but now Steve is going to brainwash you with more crap while getting rich.
RINGO4LIFE 2 years ago
YOU need to go get some fresh air!
Stop being a pharisee.
because on your OWN personal disliking with steve harvey you are telling people not to get his book, based on lame, untrue, & hypocritical reasons.
Anyone can give advice freely, advice comes from experience. And if he has experience in this area of relationships, why not share it. Also, you don't have the right to judge the heart of a person in their christian faith. We all have areas in our lives that need pruning..
IwasBorn2Win 2 years ago
i need some of dat COOKIE :p
STLFOOLISH 2 years ago
I'm gonna have to check this book out!.. Seems quite interesting...=D
destined4mo 2 years ago 2
I loves cookies.
tallassb 2 years ago 2
women have left out a key componet in a relationship,a little something called devotion,where this man is devoted to me in speech and in action without me having to allways tell him,this shows he is genuwinlly about me
TDH4UALL 2 years ago
WOMEN USUALLY LEAVE OUT SUPPORT.
Often they DECIDE that support is not something that they should offer. What you will recieve is resentment. She then moves onto the next man chasing the same fluffy cycle of all relationship beginings. Most women do not equip themselves will the tools to support any man.
If they in fact do offer their version of support there is often a time frame attached that only they and their friends know about.
Family breakdown is all around us globally.
waitingformusic 2 years ago 2
Support? most don't but you as a man have to teach them that.
stoldgar 2 years ago 4
ok sista
meneedmoney 2 years ago
Haven't read the book, but I like the audio intro.
MrESYKES 2 years ago 2
I read the book and it is a great read. I promise you will not want to put the book down. Steve is very intelligent and funny. Go get the book!
secretoceans 2 years ago 4
I see Steve in a new light. His mangina card is revoked.
cisjay 2 years ago 6
I stole the cookie from the cookie jar! :D
b1346 2 years ago
this bk sounds really interesting I want to get it, for the love of me can anyone tell me where I can get it in Taiwan!!
lexaneli 2 years ago
I read this book. Its great! A must have!!!
loco140 2 years ago 7
I think it's a real wake up call for many women today. This problem has been going on for years and is not getting any better. There is an increasing divide between men and women - in particular, black men and women. So this is an old school approach to relationships. His concepts are not new school. This is how my father showed his love for our family so I understand it.
esntrk1 2 years ago
very interesting...
vjmc418 2 years ago
I could write a book similar to Steve's on how women can keep a man except it would be extremely short. The book would be 3 words long and the 3 words are "Use common sense"
JPfromFlint 2 years ago 25
LOL but if common sense was so common there would be no need for any books to be written about relationships at all!! But i understand your point completely.
DEVOSIMO 2 years ago 2
man u r right dude...steve brought out a few good points,but u hit it .
anthmi2 2 years ago 3
@JPfromFlint - Common sense isn't common, and the Mars/venus thing makes it so we generally have no clue what the other sex wants from us because we're wired to want and need different things.
Clear, honest, and respectful, but direct communication is the key.
morpheusxnyc 1 year ago
im going to buy this book for my gf
mark01318 2 years ago 4
Mr. Stevie "Manvagina" Harvey
lilrog0909 2 years ago 2
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Yeah Steve's behavior on his radio show and this book which is nothing more than an attempt to capitalize on the millions of desperate bitter women out there, have put him in the "mangina" catagory
JPfromFlint 2 years ago
He aint attemptin shit... he makin money hand over fist
djbattman 2 years ago 2
where can i get a copy of oprah and steve's first interview about his book? it would be great if someone could post that interview. it was good.
thanks
runsheeprun 2 years ago
its on youtube in 3 parts. Search Oprahsteveharvey
ladiva12 2 years ago
Steve Harvey is a genius i can relate to some of the stuff he's talking about from a guys point of view it goes to show the experiance he's had in life
faithfulmonkey 2 years ago
The funniest thing about this clip is hearing the question "what's the cookie?" Cultural thing I guess. OR maybe a gender thing. I did grow up with a lot of guys. Not a new phrase to me. lol
JayneMariefromDet 3 years ago
i just started reading the book. so far, he's right. thanks for the advice, steve.
biminibleu 3 years ago
one of the greatest books i have read in my 30 yrs
ppeach40 3 years ago
A real man can go beyond the three P's. If your lady needs some comfort and you dont provide... they will get it somewhere else and then badabing badaboom... another chapter is born. Why men cheat. this is just a moneymaker book, nothing else.
elbigjim 3 years ago 3
Most men is not every man.. this is the same for women, this is the root of most problems in relationships...
djbattman 2 years ago 3
I heard him talk about women needing to raise their standards and keep them high. I hear a lot of Black Women say this also in reference to demanding better from their men and not accepting anything less. However, you have to be WORTH the high standards you set. It doesn't make much sense to have a woman of low worth/value with high standards. There are too many women being allowed to get away with this and it's a big problem. M.O.B-Mind Over Body.
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mrflightrisk 3 years ago 4
I have a question regarding your statement:
"It doesn't make much sense to have a woman of low worth/value with high standards."
Who or what determines if another human being is of low worth?
zoragirl4 3 years ago 3
First, the human being, him or herself. It starts within self. You gotta be right within self first before you can be right with someone else. Next, it would be the individual or (s) that that person is associating with (relationship-wise). I have seen many examples of BW with low worth/value who have high standards (the man had to be well-to-do, successful, treat her like a queen, etc etc). Look at blaqueindigo's what should women bring to the table vid. High value.
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mrflightrisk 3 years ago
This just doesnt sound right to me. I must say that the fact that a woman has standards in the first place is ALWAYS a plus. What do you propose, that women with "low self worth" (in your opinion) should not have standards, and let any joker into her life?
We need to let all young and sometimes older women know from the begining that they NEED to have standards.
Gdfirst 3 years ago 3
I never said there was anything wrong with a woman having standards. The problem is, you have a lot of BW who subscribe to higher standards in men, when they themselves are not of that same standard (lower). To turn around what you said, BM need to pay more attention to the jokers who have those high standards because to see them at work is funnier than a Chris Rock and Martin Lawrence HBO special put together.
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mrflightrisk 3 years ago 5
i like cookies....
get your audio preview to say that.. made me laugh ^__^
603296 3 years ago