The 'Str8 Dude' Disclaimer[NO HoMo] (Loft XVA 27)

[nichirenx]

Xem has some very informative videos.

Taught me a lot about a lifestyle I know nothing about.

Very interesting.

Im my view he's on par with Alexis Tylor.

[StealingUrSoul999]

dude, ur fucking awesome, :) nice vid, some of my female friends say they arent a lesbian when they give me compliments, probably cuz im an out lesbian, and they think ill take it the wrong way and hit on them............i dont hit on every girl i see.......bah....

[LexyAAA]

Gorgeous eyes

[OMFGDESIREE]

you know, i also find it kind of irritating (even though i'm not gay). some women do it too, like someone will comment on a beyonce vid and how beautiful she is and end it with the "no homo" disclaimer it's like SO?? why can't you just say she's gorgeous

[mgsnv2]

I'm a YES-HOMO, hehe.

[prepboi806]

you are soo influential, i love your videos!!!!

[DrunkeyO]

thank you for these videos

[DrunkeyO]

sexy intellegent and a role model i wish i lived in cali I may have to move

[DrunkeyO]

your so sexy

[dellculookin]

THis is completely off topic (forgive me) but what is the name of the audio playing in this video?? it sends me to another place!!! I'm LOVING THIS!

[TasteMe555]

I think that the reason they do it is because Xem is gay, they think that he will naturally assume they are gay if they write to him, he wont, they just assume that he will so they feel the need to re-assure him that they are not gay so that their sexuality isnt being questioned, Which id stupid, because they dont even know Xem personally so why would it matter?

[MusicalProphecy]

this guy is cool he has a very exstensive vocab lol thanks for the vid great watch

[745bmw09]

well i think that one of the main reasons why they say "no homo" or watever is because many of them r dl gay... otherwise they wouldnt feel the need 2 say "no homo" b4 everything they say...

[carlaboho]

well you know in the black community its usually that way my mom and day say if me or any of my brothers were ever gay they would dis own us

[d3lyishere2012]

you hit the nail on the head every time!

[Tomanuel]

dats tru...i go through the same as a dancer

[ero120]

Why won't my comments appear??

[wordjunkiee]

I agree...maybe it's fear of an outside perception or the possibility of having their masculinity tested. But if you're secure with yourself, and you have a broadened way of thinking you shouldn't feel ashamed to speak your mind!

[carrington45]

PREACH my brutha!!!

[tennislover08]

I knew you were from Baltimore..I can hear it all in your voice...And why do straight men do that. I think they do think this, that every gay man wants them...They need to pump the breaks

[redvivid]

I AGREE WITH U MAN

[kaasmere]

Nice video but the intro is waaay too long. Cut it down so you can get to the point!!!

[millionairntrng12]

The African-American community as a collective values MASCULINITY over MANHOOD! As a whole African-American men have held on to the concept that "our" greatest power and control is within the confines of MASCULINITY. Whether people want to believe it or not there is a direct correlation to this mindset and the misguided onslaught of misogyny disguised as artistic expression. In addition sexuality is still largely taboo regardless of sexual preference.

[Eden2Gethsemane]

Whoa...masculinity versus manhood? That's an awesome concept.

[JennNightstar]

homophobia is especially prevalent in black culture (bisexual black males are unheard of--most of them are on the DL) and is crippling our community. This is just another barrier (like light skin vs dark skin) that divides us. Males who aren't gay and are showing support probably feel uncomfortable stepping outside these imaginary lines.

[boyunderworld]

i agree with you 100% but getting in there shoes i think they do it just to avoid any confusion

since "straight community" believes that we all think the same way. idk id you been through this situation b4 when friends and even i have got compliments from straight dudes then we think "ohh i think he likes me"

you know it happens and to avoid mis signals they rather make that clear " no homo"

[JOC2mya]

I agree in most points it is not the masculinity or anything like that its to avoid confusion. If your straight and you comment on something or someone gay in a postive way; it can be confused as being intrested or GAY! So NO HOMO! Is just used to secure that understanding!

[willboywonder]

I think its great because even though they add the disclaimer, they are having some positive dialogue about homosexuality. Among gays and lesbians, we have good talk. But unless we get more heterosexuals engaged, it will be hard to change their views. Straight folk havent always knowingly had good dialogue with homosexuals so its a new phenomenon. So, I say, let them say I am not gay if it will get them to have healthy dialogue with homosexuals. Gotta start some place.

[blacktigerwu]

LOL........

[CoreyLove00]

*Xem*...Awesome vid~ and thanx for awakening the important that being gay does apply standard (NoHomo) and doesnt equate to simple attention/attraction for every male approaches your personal space or vlog!

[xxVeganMuffinxx]

I've really noticed that most people, not just males may say things for example commenting on a photo "ur pretty :) no lez"

I personally don't find sexuality relevant when complementing or giving their opinions on things. Usually the people who disclaim don't have a certain level of maturity to realize that what they are saying could potentially offend or make them look plain stupid.

You make an excellent point and argument and I thoroughly enjoy your videos, keep doing what you do! :)

[selvinor]

I totally agree with you. When I meet straight guys I automatically say "I'm not straight but we can hang. Just don't think somethin' gonna jump off 'cause I don't roll with no dudes that mess around with chicks." It completely catches people off guard and they're like 'eh?'

[77syi]

Yep! I agree.

[melsucceeded]

Speak it brother! Speak it!

[parker0321]

Well said, I feel the same way as you do as you spoke. Love the emotion in the rhetoric spoken. SMILE!!!!!!

[toddifft]

only recently run across one of your vids and became a subscriber...much respect for you and what you're about man....keep it coming

[blaksox1478]

I was wondering why u had that coat onRock on Bmore!!

I think not only is it that they are not confident and comfortable with themselves but it's also about security with oneself. A secure man will compliment anyone, watch anything, go anywhere and not concern himself with how he will be perceived, for that man knows who he is.

[yaboikhay]

Man, Your vids are always onpoint! You are very intelligent in your views

[cassini8250]

This is so true. Most gay gays would never fall in love with straight guys in a realistic sense. I think it's the porn industry that feeeds and perpetuate this stereotype.

[dctruth03]

Amen Sumbody !!!

[gir908922]

You could not have said it any better.

[zoshisama]

I feel the exact same way. I've never understood their logic or in this case ignorance. Keep up the work man! So much more needs to be done.

[SpiritedAquarius]

XEM I AGREE

Personally it is the fathers...like today I sold a diamond ring to this boy and like his straight so I tried to avoid him but had to help him because everyone was busy but...he was respectful , polite , and the NIGGA shook my hand after I ramped in everything and said

" I appreciate everything you did and your time "

IT BLEW ME AWAY AND RIGHT NOW..I AM DOWNING A BOTTLE OF RED WINE..BECAUSE THEY WASN'T NORMAL TO ME.LOL

[rayzaa14]

WELCOME TO B-MORE!!

[scotw2]

Dude, that is sooooo true. Straight guys think that every gay guy wants them and that couldn't be further from the truth. Your video was very well said. No homo! Lol. Just kidding, man. I love all of your videos. Keep up the good work!

[navarronbret15]

now this is the exact reason why i subscribed because you always hav a topic that people hav trouble with....i only know a few people that r str8 that don't act so....idk the word for it but, like u said, most str8 boys do think that gay guys r going to be attracted to them and thats not the case....i <3 ur videos

[thyknis]

U speak so eloquently. I support your views. However, str8 males tend to feel stimatized regarding giving gays any type of support or props for who they may be. Those str8 males feel like it makes them less of a male if he give a gay man a compliment. Be blessed. Keep the given them KNOWLEDGE.

[stopteasinme]

omg i so hate tht...its so damn annoying!

[ChocolateSmooth]

Im glad you were able to spend turkey day with your family. You know, idk how you found me on youtube or added me has a friend, but i'm glad you did. Your videos just touch base for me

[mjk0386]

Nice seeing you again. LOL this topic i was going to do from both men and women, stay tuned . . .

[mrkyon]

I totally agree with you on this you have no idea.

[masterdoa]

that is so true, and i that dude from dipset yhat use to where all that pink made it really popular where i come from a few years ago. and most of the time they are.

[prettyflynik]

Perfectly said Xem..especially the part where you said "they think just because your gay your automatically attracted to them"

[najhae666]

xem, you are very well spoken...love your vids...and there are more gays than you think...all these "str8" boys arent really str8 as they claim themselves to be...just a cover up..they arent comfortable with themselves

[artistNexile]

Well put. I really agree with the part about all hetero males thinking that all gay men want them or are looking at them sexually. Its not likely because not everyone is attracted to everyone they see.

[zeeartfuldodger]

i agree with the notion that some str8 men really feel that they must disclose their own sexuality on command when addressing a gay man because they think we'll try to make a play for them.

idunno about u, but i don't roll up on every man i meet in hopes of getting the "goods" - it's just not that serious.

on the flipside of this topic - i don't usually befriend or for that matter associate myself with str8 men.

[GOLDENDIIVA]

GOOD VID,it's a shame,and it happens even when they only suspect your that way,but most times it's only them covering up there own curiosity not at all times,but I'll say most times keep your head up peace and keep doing your thang!!!!

[Bety3ny]

I loved it Xem and can't wait for your documentary to be posted.

[parrishrturner]

I don't think it's a racial thing at all. I think it's a male thing. Men are not taught to show anykind of emotion's or emotional weakness. I even have been guilty of this myself. I was told never to cry in public and I passed that down to my nephews but I tried to correct that by showing love & support to all the males in my family. I also think it takes an emotionally strong straight male to support a gay male or gay issues. Great Video as always

[THEJLG]

That confuses me as well.

Being 14 I seem to experience that much more from black people. It's like as soon as they know you're gay you fancy every guy on earth and like raping little boys -_-.

I also HATE when the really ugly guys be like "ooo don't look at me gay" and I'm like "why would I want to look at your ugly face in the first place!" LOL.

Thanks for this vid.

[JCWATL]

Good job, Xem.

[videosbyXQ]

These are lessons NOT taught. IF children are not brought up to grow show to those around them being men/women they will NOT do it as adult. It's that simple really. That's why there's so much hate and envy on each other and of course, disclaimers to death in any opinion given.

[cnorthrop11]

Great Video Xem, as always. Growing up it was always hard to find straight male friends. Other boys thought if they were cool with me they would be seen as gay. Even now, I have straight friends who say "No Homo", or "I don't get down like that but.." The phrases come from internal insecurity, and I am comfortable in my own skin, so I try not to get mad, but it could be damaging to someone who is questioning their sexuality because it places am unfair, negative connotation on being homosexual.

[sarkazzII]

awesome as always!

[sfcalvinaz]

I really like how you described your thoughts on this. Awesome. You definitely have a way with words. I appreciate you. I think all of that "no homo" stuff is taught from males to other males within their camaraderie, within the fraternity of being straight. I love it: "No disclaimer necessary." Much love.

Calvin

Phoenix AZ

[blackgriot]

as new subscriber, love your freshness - can i suggest one thing? 1 min, 40 sec is a long intro of montage shots -

but all good

[makezmuzic]

excellent vid

[makezmuzic]

Homophobia is the only form of oppression in which people just wondering if your GLBT can get you targeted.

[DRArtist88]

You spoke nothing but the truth like always. Also I used to hear strait guys that befriended or were at least acquaintances with gays say,"He's gay but he's okay. But naw, we don't chill like that." As if they are actually ashamed to admit to others that they are open minded.