Married or Single? Are Those Really The Only Choices?

[smedheat]

i hate when divorced people pretend to be single

[Vswimmer2012]

I think that there is nothing wrong with saying your married. The whole "exclusive relationship" makes it sound too unafficial, like that person never ment enoughf to you to "seel the deal".

[sparkledoodle48]

I think devorced and widowed are ok, because some people may want to connect with other people who have simmilar experiences.

[4711Heart]

I agree sparkledoodle48

[Crosswalker]

Perfect option, unless you're on a dating site - None of your damn business.

[Xx8loodyxRosesxX]

For relationship status, it should just have a blank space for you to type in whatever the hell you classify yourself as :P

[FacethemusicinKansas]

Dan, when they ask single or married on a resume they are essentially seeing if you commit. If your single you usually don't or can't, or if your married you have no problem in doing so. OR! flip it and they could be seeing how much you can devote to the company.. If youre single they may like it. Marriage takes presidence :) hope this helps

[alaricio]

what about common lawÉ

[adlozi]

can't u get married in the US just in city hall? Marriage doesn't really have to be done in the church - it's not just for religious people, right?

[TheThreeMusketeers09]

personally if i really like the person im with then i wud want the entire world to know that!

[sojudave]

you guys have this one nailed. I would add that I think it's prescient.

[DAPESKO]

nigga u baldin

[bobbers7]

Don't forget celibate/priest

[robpage1990]

myspace has a "swinger" option.. i like that..

[projekt89130]

@thatnewguy23 It's called "widower"

[thatnewguy23]

@projekt89130 I was a little more sleep deprived than usual but I do actually know that.

[projekt89130]

LOL. I can understand... I'm normally super sleep deprived too...

[Chr1551]

i agree except i would add polyamorous relationships. A few people I've talked too would like to be able to recognize their relationships with more than one person. I was even in a relationship once where my girlfriend had a girlfriend aswell and we talked about how it be nice if facebook & other social networking sites would recognize both relationships.

[down2youu]

I totally agree!

[NikiD40]

1. I am alive and it's nobody's business what my relationship status is.

2. I am deceased and it's nobody's business what my relationship status is.

That is my 2 cents. Blessings.

[mostlyopenminded]

I think you guys are being way too anal about the whole thing. I mean most of those sites have privacy settings or a nice little button entitled "I'd Rather Not Say" that u can click. I honestly don't think it's that hard. And if someone is that nosey that they're just hell-bent on finding out if ur single or not then they're probably interested in u and should send u a message to ask. Problem solved, no more wasted time making utube vids.

[bashmohandes]

What is the problem with Married status, I totally agree that the choice between either Single or Married is not fair, but I find Married different than an exclusive relationship, in some cultures there is no exclusive relationships outside marriage,

What I would recommend

1- Single

2- Engaged \ Married

3- In a relationship

4- It's Complicated

5- Choose not to tell

and we can then add another option "whether Is Looking or not""

[PrincessKLS]

I think facebook has good options and I understand if someone doesn't want to talk about being widowed but what's wrong with saying you're married?

[DanAndJenn]

@PrincessKLS absolutely nothing wrong with saying you're married, that's totally cool.

The problem is offering ONLY these 2 options: "single" and "married". that implies that "married" is the only valid relationship which is simply not true.

[tinka023]

yeah, thats a good point. i do like your options dan & jen :)

[TimminZ93]

I think you were wrong when you said your relationship status isn't who or what you are E.G being widowed does have affects on people and can change who they are. Also i think that it is important to know the relationship status of someone as it can affect what you would say to them, E.G if someone was married you would be alot less likely to ask them out ? However i don't think it should be compulsory to specify your status, as some people are very private...

[CatMommy84]

I hated before I was married that when people would ask if I was single I would say, "No I have a boyfriend/fiance." Their response would be, "Are you married? No? Then you are single." That drove me NUTS. They are NOT the only choices, especially not in this day and age.

[aoliver56]

How about "Living in sin and loving it"

LinkedIN really messed up- how closed minded!

[test804]

there should be single and not looking for people who just got out of a relationship and need time so others would know not to hit on them

[P3NGU1N50LD13R]

I'd add one on the end of your (D&J)'s four which would be "not disclosed", because maybe I just don't want the rest of the internet knowing my personal detais. Just a thought, cheers.

[DanAndJenn]

love it!

[xXxJeneanexXx]

Why not list them all? I mean there are people who haven't finalized their divorce, or are just separated, why not put widowed, some people are looking for people like that, you know, kindred spirits sort of thing. I'm not married or even engaged, just in a relationship exclusively with one person. And I agree with Dan, its stupid that some places, persons, sites, and other close minded groups don't acknowledge a person's relationship if its not married.

[Sasuke6606]

i think it hould be...

Single

Married

In a relationship

in an open relationship

[FuturisticTV]

nice

[hellokitty254698]

i think the options should be

single

in a relationship

it's complicated

in an open relationship

married

engaged

[danielyeh]

@hellokitty254698

aka facebook options?

[stargirlme65]

I agree. I can't believe they added a "widowed" option... That's so weird...

[Ana1Hai1]

100% correct on what the choices should be out there. Your list should be used everywhere now. I can be hard for people to decide on such narrow choices. Single =single, you can be looking and nothing looking for some1 and you are not with any1. Exclusive = yes there is some1 you are dating/in love with/not looking for some1 else. Open =yeah I am looking but do have some1 that understands your situation. And Complicated =DON"T ASK. I WON"T ANSWER. lol good job Dan for picking this topic

[civil238]

every option, so differnt people can choose wat they want

[blueshadow84]

I agree with Dan on most of his points in the video except for this one: 1:28

I believe that every past relationship is part of defining who you are. You are who you are because of your experiences, including past relationships. Should a past relationship be the only thing? No, but it is still something that defines who you are today.

[angeloffire76721]

i think that there should be all of them on there bc i think that the more that u got to pick form the better it can b and there should also b like just got out of a relationship so ppl kno that u might not b ready for one or like just got out of a relation ship and i am/not ready to start a new and just other things...its fun when there is more to pick from ^.^

[BigFireDave]

I agree in that the 2 options of married or single is not a good question in most cases. IF you are talking about doing business with or employing someone it is actually a legal question. BUT in social settings like a social web group where some other person could be interested in dating or seeing you on a personal basis then there should be 3 categories single, in a monogamous relationship, in an open relationship. I would want to know these things before dating someone. Its complicated ??????

[comosera]

be free be single

[jdfox1]

No. Good video. :)

[MysteryManoLove]

I see an open relationship as the same as being single. Whats the point? I mean, being exclusive is exclusive, if you aren't, you aren't.

[teresathetessi]

different people express love differently

[MysteryManoLove]

Right but you are exclusive or you aren't weather it's between one partner or multiple. If you are married, by law, you can't be with anyone else, in all 50 states. Say you were to agree with your partner that you wanted someone else to be with, that can either be exclusive for the 3 or if they allow someone else later, it's not. It's either an exclusive relationship or it isn't.

[MysteryManoLove]

Back to my original point, single = open relationship.

[electrodinobot]

fix ur bald spot

[happyare]

ing on my boyfriend. However, I don't think my boss would understand unless half of his workforce admitted to being non-monogamous. I think the best relationship status is nothing at all in the case of work-related social networking sites.

[happyare]

I leave my relationship status completely blank because I don't want my boss on facebook to know what I am really doing. Myspace does not have an option to leave the relationship status blank, and it does not have "in an open relationship," so for Myspace I put "swinger." Luckily, my boss is not on Myspace. It would be great if I could be honest with my boss, though because I am having sex with one of his top staff members, and if he ever found out, I would want him to understand I was not cheat

[keng612]

Dude - Rogaine works wonders.

[cherilyndria]

i think they put in "widowed" and "divorced" if they have kids or not, if i see a guy who has kids, if hes widowed then it(usually) means he takes care of them himself, but he doesn't have the "ex" drama, if hes divorced, then we wont have the kids all the time, but there is potential drama, and if hes just single, then he may be more irresponsible, or could have been young and dumb, i think the more options is better, but dont have to put divorced or widowed if you dont want to talk about it

[punkkimiko]

been single for my whole 18 years

[Svet69]

Yes, many social networking web sites offer more choices than just married / single.

Like for example "In a relationship but still looking", haha.

Bad joke, I know.

But it is a fact. :)

[Shawndab3]

See, the relationship I'm in right now is mom-monogamous. We're Master and pet and that's how it is. (Useless info? Probably.)

I think you guys are totally right on your statuses. Those should be the only 4.

I don't see a reason for anyone to know if you're widowed or divorced. There's no need.

Seriously.

[NoDropLS]

I been single for 17 years

[SCORCH3DxX]

wow go find sum1 like lol

[mist15806]

me too

[BRONXPEPE]

on facebook i post no relasionship status and if someone is widowed can keep that their still married if they are not willing to be in another relasionship they can keep it blank or just put single but widowed is very old fashion to be listed dosnt sound right on a networking site.

[Dangler21]

married and bored

single and lonely

[redrebel69]

I like how facebook give you the 'it's complicated' option

[prettyinpunk666]

I would personally never use divorced or widowed on a social networking site, just not something I'm inclined to do. The rest listed I think are fine.

HOWEVER I do love the "engaged" option, and kind of hate it at the same time. Seeing that a friend that you may not see often has gotten engaged is a quick catch-up IMO, but it can also be an invitation for nosy people to ask for invitations to the wedding.

[decsilentenigma]

you know people are gonna generalize everyone without the minor details being considered...

[xquietlyxkept]

i think engaged should be one of the options!

[DanAndJenn]

@xquietlyxkept not disagreeing... just curious why you feel that way? And how is that different from "in a committed relationship"? Just trying to understand your perspective...

[DanAndJenn]

Just to clarify, we are not against marriage or any other religious or legal union. What we are against is the need to declare your personal relationship status in a public forum - especially a business forum like LinkedIn.

We also simply can't understand the need to declare past relationship status and whether or not that person is living or dead...

[ART1975CZ]

This is an Excellent Video ! You should do Part 2 wih reader comment feedback. Thank you.

[teresathetessi]

I totally understand that it shouldnt be the only option... but some of us might want to scream the being engaged or being married... you know some of us still really like some of the "old fashioned" bit... I can tell you as soon as i get engaged i'll be screaming it off the roof tops.. so facebook will just be a way of doing it ;)...

[teresathetessi]

I don't think its right to have the only choices being singled or married. cause marriage is not a norm. and people all have different ways to express love.. i think all options should be available and people should be free to express their relationship how they please (and only if they want!!)

[ART1975CZ]

Single : Very Open Relationship with Options Open !

[ART1975CZ]

Marrage just seems to NOT fit the 2010-2020 New Decade Style. Does anyone else feel this way ?

[DanAndJenn]

@ART1975CZ There are definitely situations where 'marriage' simply doesn't fit...

[ART1975CZ]

Thank you. I mean I respect people who love to get married, but I also love that I have family that respect my choice. I know a lot of married friends that are miserable ! I am in Medical, so I work a lot of hours anyway. Thank you for your kind comment !

[NFLFUTURERB]

i agree wen i hear married i invision sirens goin off like a car alarm. back away from this person lol

[TehNickIsNoob]

single,open relationship, 1 on 1 relationship, complicated, other.

[ART1975CZ]

Question : I am 34, Male, Straight, Career Successful, I workout, I LOVE being single ! I believe Marrage does not fit me ! My Parents are married for 40 Years !Marrage to me is an Out Of Date Institution !, Great Video, Thank You.

[test804]

first!!