Funny thing is I watched this vidio thinking I would gain insight into my husband and ended up finding myself : ( and as we all know we can't change anyone but ourselves ,then and only then will people react differently to us. Thus changing the whole world for the better : ))
Sadly ,when we only look at the dark side of what might happen we forget to imagine the happy outcome, which is probably the more likely outcome. It's all about fear, fear is mentioned 365 times in the amplified bible, and 138 times it says FEAR NOT ! So with Gods help and your insight I'm commanding the spirit of fear to leave me now ,in the name of Jesus ,Amen : )) thank you God for hearing and answering my prayer.
You won't change if you don't think there is a problem! Thank you again Sam for shining a light on such a dark subject. Way to much of this essay sounds like me ,and your right when you say it's a defense strategy . I have felt that if I could just be alone no one could hurt me. Or so I thought. But the word of God says it is not good for man to be alone,so knowing His word is true I forced myself to join a bible study ( a safe place) and by believing ,received the best gift of all ,true friend
Everyone is judgmental, narcissistic and selfish to some degree, because everyone has an ego. If you weren't narcissistic to some degree, you couldn't survive. In the cases of extreme narcissism I think it's just displaced rage that was never vented at the time it should have been at a crucial point in a person's development. Perhaps the person was bullied and they never confronted the bully. So later they held resentment, stifled their TRUE CONFIDENCE and then took their shit out on others.
I still love him but can't be near him for fear of finishing off whatever remains of the original person. I've moved on but he is stuck and walled off from real life. I find myself still trying to rescue from a distance but I have to let go and hope he gets better.
Rage broke out over the most minor comments and I began to weigh every word before speaking. When I did speak he insisted that I phrase things correctly and this meant restating questions or requests 'just right' before they would be accepted. The acting out took bizarre forms, like a private Kabuki performance to a bound audience. The false self consumed the real person and I watched someone I loved implode in slow motion until he was gone.
I have watched this process take place in my own relationship with a narcissist. As my ability to believe the lies failed, and the fantasy relationship became insupportable, my narcissist responded by acting out with rage, aggression, and increased effort to build the false self. It was a strange and painful wounding to have him insist on having me near him at all times, yet be ever more distant emotionally.
I've watched many of your videos. I'm not sure if i would consider myself a pathological narcissist but I seem to exhibit many of the behaviors and thoughts you mention in connection with Narcissistic personality disorder. What would be the best course of action for someone in my position? Would therapy help?
@LTBL88 I've never felt guilty of anything. I'm not quite sure what 'empathy' really means. Its a word thats used a lot but I've never really heard it defined well.
@FukPhysics Hmm you may be a narcissist then. Empathy in this context means when you see someone suffering, especially becaise of your own actions, you feel their suffering as if it was happening to you yourself
@LTBL88 I've never felt anything akin to that, nor do I know anyone that has. That seems like a remarkably self destructive, pointless feeling to have.
I mean i dont want suffering to happen. I understand that its a bad thing for those going through it.
@FukPhysics Well it's not pointless because it also brings you extreme pleasure and reward, being genuinely in love with someone is an extremely good feeling. Also it's not that you literally experience what the other person is experiencing, it's a dulled version i.e. you wouldn't actually feel like you were dying when you saw someone in a movie being killed, but still quite uncomfortable
what on earth is "fake narcissistic supply"?
cocobogey 17 hours ago in playlist Psychopathic Narcissists in Social Settings
@cocobogey Search my channel for the relevant video.
samvaknin 4 hours ago
Funny thing is I watched this vidio thinking I would gain insight into my husband and ended up finding myself : ( and as we all know we can't change anyone but ourselves ,then and only then will people react differently to us. Thus changing the whole world for the better : ))
Kathydrel 3 weeks ago
Sadly ,when we only look at the dark side of what might happen we forget to imagine the happy outcome, which is probably the more likely outcome. It's all about fear, fear is mentioned 365 times in the amplified bible, and 138 times it says FEAR NOT ! So with Gods help and your insight I'm commanding the spirit of fear to leave me now ,in the name of Jesus ,Amen : )) thank you God for hearing and answering my prayer.
Kathydrel 3 weeks ago
You won't change if you don't think there is a problem! Thank you again Sam for shining a light on such a dark subject. Way to much of this essay sounds like me ,and your right when you say it's a defense strategy . I have felt that if I could just be alone no one could hurt me. Or so I thought. But the word of God says it is not good for man to be alone,so knowing His word is true I forced myself to join a bible study ( a safe place) and by believing ,received the best gift of all ,true friend
Kathydrel 3 weeks ago
Everyone is judgmental, narcissistic and selfish to some degree, because everyone has an ego. If you weren't narcissistic to some degree, you couldn't survive. In the cases of extreme narcissism I think it's just displaced rage that was never vented at the time it should have been at a crucial point in a person's development. Perhaps the person was bullied and they never confronted the bully. So later they held resentment, stifled their TRUE CONFIDENCE and then took their shit out on others.
SkankExpose 2 months ago
so so so glad you're still making these videos. Excellent work.
goddessfindings 4 months ago
I still love him but can't be near him for fear of finishing off whatever remains of the original person. I've moved on but he is stuck and walled off from real life. I find myself still trying to rescue from a distance but I have to let go and hope he gets better.
tgillihan 5 months ago
Rage broke out over the most minor comments and I began to weigh every word before speaking. When I did speak he insisted that I phrase things correctly and this meant restating questions or requests 'just right' before they would be accepted. The acting out took bizarre forms, like a private Kabuki performance to a bound audience. The false self consumed the real person and I watched someone I loved implode in slow motion until he was gone.
tgillihan 5 months ago
I have watched this process take place in my own relationship with a narcissist. As my ability to believe the lies failed, and the fantasy relationship became insupportable, my narcissist responded by acting out with rage, aggression, and increased effort to build the false self. It was a strange and painful wounding to have him insist on having me near him at all times, yet be ever more distant emotionally.
tgillihan 5 months ago
Wow... again I really did have she didn't know what she caused or what was wrong...
jockme1 5 months ago
Mr. Vankin , thanks again for your insight.
deepmind50 5 months ago 11
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I am a super nacissist and I'm proud if it.
SomeTrespassing 5 months ago
@SomeTrespassing That's nothing rare, everyone is narcissistic these days. It's very hard to find a genuinely nice person.
puluc8 5 months ago
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Isnt this ALL people?
DrZuli 5 months ago
I've watched many of your videos. I'm not sure if i would consider myself a pathological narcissist but I seem to exhibit many of the behaviors and thoughts you mention in connection with Narcissistic personality disorder. What would be the best course of action for someone in my position? Would therapy help?
FukPhysics 5 months ago 3
@FukPhysics Do you ever feel genuine moral guilt or empathy? Even if rarely, that would mean you arent
LTBL88 5 months ago
@LTBL88 I've never felt guilty of anything. I'm not quite sure what 'empathy' really means. Its a word thats used a lot but I've never really heard it defined well.
FukPhysics 5 months ago
@FukPhysics Hmm you may be a narcissist then. Empathy in this context means when you see someone suffering, especially becaise of your own actions, you feel their suffering as if it was happening to you yourself
LTBL88 5 months ago 3
@LTBL88 I've never felt anything akin to that, nor do I know anyone that has. That seems like a remarkably self destructive, pointless feeling to have.
I mean i dont want suffering to happen. I understand that its a bad thing for those going through it.
FukPhysics 5 months ago
@FukPhysics Well it's not pointless because it also brings you extreme pleasure and reward, being genuinely in love with someone is an extremely good feeling. Also it's not that you literally experience what the other person is experiencing, it's a dulled version i.e. you wouldn't actually feel like you were dying when you saw someone in a movie being killed, but still quite uncomfortable
LTBL88 5 months ago 6
@FukPhysics If you were a pathological narcissist, you would be abusive to those nearest to you.
puluc8 5 months ago
@FukPhysics the fact that you are worried about your behavior being destructive to you or your surroundings is already a sign that you don not have it
many people show some of the thoughts and behavoirs of narcissism
but if you feel there is something about yourself you would like to change for the better go for it
gaining insight in yourself is always a good thing
a true narcissist would feel he/she is already perfect and everyone else needs help
THEOZZYFUL 5 months ago 6
@THEOZZYFUL Strange, the maker of this video (Mr Vankin) rebukes your claims in a different video: Narcissism Myths: Suicide, Types, Crises.
He starts talking about the self-awareness at about 2:40
hitlerscow 1 week ago