I would not feel like I need to give a gift to anyone that treats me like shit. If you do feel like you need to give a gift, I would not put income in the equation. Give what you feel good about giving. When my brother graduated from Princeton I gave him $500 and I felt good about it.
I think $400-500 is not being cheap. Since you didn't contribute to college and have that expense you could give more, but it seems like your heart just isn't in it because he does not treat you well.
If someone treated me like shit, I wouldn't give them anything. When I graduated high school (with honors), my mom got me a necklace with my grad year on it, not money. I'm honestly not expecting anything for college graduation (community college or university). personally I think something other than money would be a better gift. Or give them money for a specific purpose, like if they're wanting to get a house, you give them a set amount to go toward the down payment.
We gave our son a 1000 dollars AFTER graduation. BUT We bought him a new car after the 1st semester of college but that was also a wedding gift. They ain't cheap. Hugs girl!
Regardless of you income, I think $500.00 is a wonderful gift. I wouldn't give it a second thought especially if he treats you like sh. Sounds like he needs to mature a little. What is he going to use this money for? Is it to party or to buy something responsible?
Your income is irrelevant. It sounds as if he might just blow the whole thing partying. No one owes anyone a graduation present. Where do these "rules" come from? Your parents also don't have to pay for your wedding, either. How about this - give him 500 bucks to blow. Reserve 2,000 dollars for when he moves out of the house - cause I assure you he'll be asking you for 1st and last month's rent and money for a moving truck. Don't give him the opportunity to throw away such a huge amount.
$2500.00...wow...Ang...that would be a really generous gift....like steve said....he should be thankful for what you've done already. If it weren't for you guys....he'd have to pay rent someplace else while going to college. You do what you think is best. (((hugs)))
I don't know that I would ever give $2500 even if I had the means! Sounds like all the room and board you've provided is an awesome gift. If he can't be thankful with that..I wouldn't spend anymore money. Maybe he will appreciate all you've done for him one day!
This is a very tough question, and it really depends on the people involved. My parents didn't have money to give us, aside from $25-50, and we had to pay our own ways through college, which is why I wasn't able to finish...well, got sidetracked and went a different route.
Now, with my own kids, I may be looking at $500 or helping with a used car.
Get a card that "jokingly" says "Congratulations on your graduation. We are so proud that you have educated yourself so that you can earn a good living and buy your own damned gift!"
Well, if I was treated like shit then it would be hard for me to give gifts at all. I have always told my kids that if they graduate college with honors they would get a car. And they have to pay thier own way. I made theis agreement know that maybe one of them might put foprth the effort to do this and that would make me proud but it is more likely that none of them will and I will be safe with a gift of around $1000.
I think that the best gift you could give a person like you describe is some advice and that advice would be learn how to treat people and don't expect gifts from people that you treat like crap. You owe this person nothing. Gifts should be given out of love not obligation.
If someone treated me like crap then they would get nothing, why should someone get a pressie for getting an education. Ok big grats for doing it but a pressie for something you need if you want to do something with your life is just plain stupid as i see it. Like you i had to work, i got no breaks from anyone and the only thing i got when i left education was a grats card and beer with my dad, he then said "go put that education to some use" hahahahahaha xxxxxxxxxxx
I don't have a clue. Because it's a related child obviously different. You have to wonder about giving him cash now because what will he do with it. My former boss gave his son gradutating from high school a brand new Mercedes which he totaled and drove drunk and injured four in another vehicle with. But I think you and I are from different set of rules nothing was handed to us we worked for it.
I think it depends on your relationship with the person as well as the needs of the person and the decision should be made in conversation with your hubby in this case... Best wishes rhis is not easy!
Its a tricky one... I think a gift to help in his planned career which would help get him motivated and thinking about his next step in his lifes plan and journey and a medium cash gesture. Let us know what you decide and good luck x.
Well I will start by saying if you paid his way through college (ie: taking care of him roof food etc) that is gift enough!
A. $50
B. $500
C. $2500
I have always given $100 for high school grads but a card and a nice gift for college. The reason for this is most college grads can support them selves afterwards.
I have seen people pay the first year of student loans also.
You have some valid points. But do you think he would will truly appreciate this large gift and with that being said, do you think your generous gift would change his attitude towards you in a positive way?
To answer your Question, $500 gift is something I'd give to someone who never asked for much in there life, and always pulled they're own weight
$2,500 gift is for someone who's house burned down and up shit creek
Tell him to get his own place & you will pay for his first months rent lol. But really do what you feel is best esp if he didnt treat you very good. I hope to give my kids 5,000 IF they ever graduate. I think 5,000 would give them a good start into the real world.
Is he still living with you? If he is and you fall in the higher income bracket I would gift him security deposit and 1 month rent for his own apartment. If that is under $2500 I would add a gift card to IKEA or similar store.B-$1000. A-$500. ( not all grads just in the case of immediate family)
Thank God we don't have that stupid Graduation Gift System in Australia. Then again, this is coming from a Country that does not Tip either. In Australia, the Government takes up the bill for University Education which it recovers through the Income Tax System when the student graduates & gets a job, and then has to repay the Government for their education. I suggest that you take him on a Family Holiday where you pay all his travel expenses. Family Holidays is good bonding time. Regards, VB Ed.
i think 2500 is way to much even if you are a millionaire.. he has never worked.. go down to jiffy lube and buy him a gift certificate for an oil change..
Treated you like shit?i say scratch the money and invest in a lump of coal!! ha no j/k.
Shouldn't matter what you give long as its from the heart. That's all I got! Well ..I got a true story that might help. When Elvis Presley's daughter Lisa Marie lost her first tooth, he put a 100 under her pillow.Pricillia GASP when he told her."That's 2 much!" Without hesitation .. Elvis turned from looking thru papers and said, "Well, what's the tooth fairys going rate nowadays?!"Give what think u should!
If you really feel you have to the $50 is a enough.
justahippyslacker 3 weeks ago
I would not feel like I need to give a gift to anyone that treats me like shit. If you do feel like you need to give a gift, I would not put income in the equation. Give what you feel good about giving. When my brother graduated from Princeton I gave him $500 and I felt good about it.
I think $400-500 is not being cheap. Since you didn't contribute to college and have that expense you could give more, but it seems like your heart just isn't in it because he does not treat you well.
justwant2bhappy 3 weeks ago
He has been living with you.. That is a big gift right there...
Now my own kids..They lived here & I gave we gave em a grad party, dinner out.
Will he be moving out? Really think you do not need to give him anything..
We help our kids out even though they are out of school & married.
I give family & friends 50 dollars.
When you add up 50 X who knows how many people give gifts ..It adds up.
I agree with ashPTERODACTYL
tweetnes 3 weeks ago
If someone treated me like shit, I wouldn't give them anything. When I graduated high school (with honors), my mom got me a necklace with my grad year on it, not money. I'm honestly not expecting anything for college graduation (community college or university). personally I think something other than money would be a better gift. Or give them money for a specific purpose, like if they're wanting to get a house, you give them a set amount to go toward the down payment.
ashPTERODACTYL 3 weeks ago
We gave our son a 1000 dollars AFTER graduation. BUT We bought him a new car after the 1st semester of college but that was also a wedding gift. They ain't cheap. Hugs girl!
imperceptibleme 3 weeks ago
Regardless of you income, I think $500.00 is a wonderful gift. I wouldn't give it a second thought especially if he treats you like sh. Sounds like he needs to mature a little. What is he going to use this money for? Is it to party or to buy something responsible?
DearestBecky 3 weeks ago
Your income is irrelevant. It sounds as if he might just blow the whole thing partying. No one owes anyone a graduation present. Where do these "rules" come from? Your parents also don't have to pay for your wedding, either. How about this - give him 500 bucks to blow. Reserve 2,000 dollars for when he moves out of the house - cause I assure you he'll be asking you for 1st and last month's rent and money for a moving truck. Don't give him the opportunity to throw away such a huge amount.
LisaDeeCanada 3 weeks ago
$2500.00...wow...Ang...that would be a really generous gift....like steve said....he should be thankful for what you've done already. If it weren't for you guys....he'd have to pay rent someplace else while going to college. You do what you think is best. (((hugs)))
BostonChickie 3 weeks ago
you have given him much too much already and any gift would be enough
steviejacko 3 weeks ago
I don't know that I would ever give $2500 even if I had the means! Sounds like all the room and board you've provided is an awesome gift. If he can't be thankful with that..I wouldn't spend anymore money. Maybe he will appreciate all you've done for him one day!
maddiepost1 3 weeks ago
This is a very tough question, and it really depends on the people involved. My parents didn't have money to give us, aside from $25-50, and we had to pay our own ways through college, which is why I wasn't able to finish...well, got sidetracked and went a different route.
Now, with my own kids, I may be looking at $500 or helping with a used car.
maddmaddworld 3 weeks ago
Get a card that "jokingly" says "Congratulations on your graduation. We are so proud that you have educated yourself so that you can earn a good living and buy your own damned gift!"
thereverendwho 3 weeks ago
Well, if I was treated like shit then it would be hard for me to give gifts at all. I have always told my kids that if they graduate college with honors they would get a car. And they have to pay thier own way. I made theis agreement know that maybe one of them might put foprth the effort to do this and that would make me proud but it is more likely that none of them will and I will be safe with a gift of around $1000.
lastcallbeam 3 weeks ago
I think that the best gift you could give a person like you describe is some advice and that advice would be learn how to treat people and don't expect gifts from people that you treat like crap. You owe this person nothing. Gifts should be given out of love not obligation.
TheKEOKI8 3 weeks ago
If someone treated me like crap then they would get nothing, why should someone get a pressie for getting an education. Ok big grats for doing it but a pressie for something you need if you want to do something with your life is just plain stupid as i see it. Like you i had to work, i got no breaks from anyone and the only thing i got when i left education was a grats card and beer with my dad, he then said "go put that education to some use" hahahahahaha xxxxxxxxxxx
DibbersPage 3 weeks ago
I don't have a clue. Because it's a related child obviously different. You have to wonder about giving him cash now because what will he do with it. My former boss gave his son gradutating from high school a brand new Mercedes which he totaled and drove drunk and injured four in another vehicle with. But I think you and I are from different set of rules nothing was handed to us we worked for it.
cozzyk 3 weeks ago
You can buy me something? :-)
Jc71149 3 weeks ago
I think it depends on your relationship with the person as well as the needs of the person and the decision should be made in conversation with your hubby in this case... Best wishes rhis is not easy!
darbygirl03 3 weeks ago
Its a tricky one... I think a gift to help in his planned career which would help get him motivated and thinking about his next step in his lifes plan and journey and a medium cash gesture. Let us know what you decide and good luck x.
ShakespearesChin 3 weeks ago
What? Money just for graduating? WTF how about a party at Tgi Fridays or something. Or pay for the bullshit student loan.
4q2pab 3 weeks ago
My answer for A and B is the same if he's been a shit. Suitcases and a one way ticket to a naval base.
smilertiler1 3 weeks ago
Well I will start by saying if you paid his way through college (ie: taking care of him roof food etc) that is gift enough!
A. $50
B. $500
C. $2500
I have always given $100 for high school grads but a card and a nice gift for college. The reason for this is most college grads can support them selves afterwards.
I have seen people pay the first year of student loans also.
DeeNeenee 3 weeks ago
I would give no money...I nice breif case or something related to their future employment, but moula...never heard of it...never got nothing myself.
ppaisley 3 weeks ago
I certainly would not be giving him cash...buy him something he needs for adulthood, maybe a deposit on a flat
twish1999 3 weeks ago
i'd give $100, they can get something useful.
but treating u like shit? ... i would give a card with a smiley face drawn in it :)
choppa79 3 weeks ago
You have some valid points. But do you think he would will truly appreciate this large gift and with that being said, do you think your generous gift would change his attitude towards you in a positive way?
To answer your Question, $500 gift is something I'd give to someone who never asked for much in there life, and always pulled they're own weight
$2,500 gift is for someone who's house burned down and up shit creek
ArizonaChris96 3 weeks ago
I suggest the same as I got when I graduated - a job!
MrRandomWritings 3 weeks ago
Tell him to get his own place & you will pay for his first months rent lol. But really do what you feel is best esp if he didnt treat you very good. I hope to give my kids 5,000 IF they ever graduate. I think 5,000 would give them a good start into the real world.
Sexyhexymama 3 weeks ago
Maybe I'm a fuddy dud but I wouldn't give a cash gift. I would buy him something around 500 to 1000.
LupusLife 3 weeks ago
Is he still living with you? If he is and you fall in the higher income bracket I would gift him security deposit and 1 month rent for his own apartment. If that is under $2500 I would add a gift card to IKEA or similar store.B-$1000. A-$500. ( not all grads just in the case of immediate family)
hippygram 3 weeks ago
Thank God we don't have that stupid Graduation Gift System in Australia. Then again, this is coming from a Country that does not Tip either. In Australia, the Government takes up the bill for University Education which it recovers through the Income Tax System when the student graduates & gets a job, and then has to repay the Government for their education. I suggest that you take him on a Family Holiday where you pay all his travel expenses. Family Holidays is good bonding time. Regards, VB Ed.
SuperHorse666 3 weeks ago
I would take him out for a meal and maybe a prepaid gas card for 100$ and a hefty congrats and that's it.
bearchay889 3 weeks ago
i think 2500 is way to much even if you are a millionaire.. he has never worked.. go down to jiffy lube and buy him a gift certificate for an oil change..
MrGolfernky 3 weeks ago
Sorry can't help ya. I do not reward kids for something normal. High school yea u all gave him food and shelter there was his gift.
bellaanditsy 3 weeks ago
Treated you like shit?i say scratch the money and invest in a lump of coal!! ha no j/k.
Shouldn't matter what you give long as its from the heart. That's all I got! Well ..I got a true story that might help. When Elvis Presley's daughter Lisa Marie lost her first tooth, he put a 100 under her pillow.Pricillia GASP when he told her."That's 2 much!" Without hesitation .. Elvis turned from looking thru papers and said, "Well, what's the tooth fairys going rate nowadays?!"Give what think u should!
thenudo 3 weeks ago
If my son graduated from college I would finally let him pick up a check! And welcome him into adulthood.
MaryJaneSlingBacks 3 weeks ago