Social Anxiety & Agoraphobia

[falco4377]

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[xxxxaptiva]

Thanks for sharing yourself. I think you are very pretty, and I love your hair cut! Really cute. I also do appreciate your thoughts. You are very articulate. I can't leave my house on my own. I need my husband or parents to come with me. I do suffer from other mental illness, including schizoaffective disorder, and social phobia. Good thing? I've become a shadow in my own small community. Nobody knows me. Thank God! I've been so hurt. Please respond when you have the time! Naomi

[ed91775]

Thank you for encouraging others with the same problems. I'm going to remember to start making myself do things also. Thanks

[warlockboyburns]

pick an apple from a tree

[warlockboyburns]

you weren't prepared for your boyfriends deployment

[Katatawnic]

@warlockboyburns No, that is not true. Further, his deployment was finished over two years ago. Or am I still not prepared for it?

[warlockboyburns]

@Katatawnic i said you WEREN'T prepared for it

[Katatawnic]

@warlockboyburns I can read.

My point was that if his deployment was finished two years ago and I still have these problems (not to mention these problems started long before his deployment, as was surely mentioned in this video), then one does not demand the other in order to exist.

How about asking someone what one was going through, rather than telling the person what your decision is about that person's condition?

[warlockboyburns]

@Katatawnic well it doesn't matter what i think... you can take it or leave it

[Katatawnic]

@warlockboyburns No, it sure doesn't matter what you think. Anyone who offers something as stupid as "pick an apple from a tree" in response to mental health issues doesn't have much to offer that matters in the first place.

Good day.

[TaintedBeautifully]

Thanks for posting! We need more people to speak out! I know it's hard but it can help out so many people. 

[diskinio]

thank you for your video about your experience and the difference between social anxiety and agoraphobia. just wanted to pass on that you are beautiful too!

[63drawoh]

i really love how you did this - very inspiring and you are helping me just knowing what you experience. you are really brave to post. and BRAVO on the wit and sarcasm - very , very much appreciated - well done !

[63drawoh]

i really love how you did this - very inspiring and you are helping me just knowing what you experience.  you are really brave to post.

[anthonyshock]

I have social anxiety and I've recently finished school. I've had 2 months to myself and I haven't seen most of my friends and I'm starting to get used to spending the day in the house alone. I'm scared that my social anxiety is manifesting into agoraphobia. However, watching this has made me realize I need to challenge my fears and get out of the comfort zone! Thank you EVER so much! :)

[clipjockey]

I live with this everyday, I find the only way is to fight through it I literally have to force myself to get out of the house at times. Sometimes I feel like I'm a moose in Sarah Palin territory, funny haha, but true as well. And I hear you on the isolation bit my life is like that off and on as well. You are and have always been an inspiration, keep it up and never let them take your spirit/soul.

[Leachko]

hey! I am working on my thesis for school and i am interested in designing a product of some sort to help Agoraphobia...this is all conceptual and an idea of mine...would you mind giving me a reaction to you thoughts about this? i can go more in depth with you

thanks

[carmentje009]

I suffer from agoraphobia for about 10 years now....im a very down to earth kind a person so i've learned that its just my mind controling my body. Because my mind wants to do everything but my body is giving me panic attacks.

What i do is just doing those things you want to do..keep in mind that the attacks won't kill you and that other people are not that judgemental as you thing they are! And try to just not give a crap about what they might think. It's your life!!

[tubestick00]

@carmentje009 your mind gives you panic attacks, not your body. i can control mine. i get them when i get haircuts.... everytime. but i manouver through it. and remain calm, and sit through the remainder of the haircut. i can feel it coming and instantly the reaction is to spiral out of control.. you need to think your way through it. if you are of a low i.q and/or ignorant to the way your own body mand mind works, then this is impossible

[MetalMike1184]

I have both it does suck sounds just like what im going threw, i worked hard to be a good guitar player wanted to get into boxing kinda all seems pointless seeing as i never leave my house im...making myself comment right now lol

[KiraTheSaviour]

I spent many years sat inside with absolutely nobody thinking it was all "just me", it really sucks and i never want to go back there. eating in public is still the worst for me. social anxiety seems to make me feel like im doing everything wrong "im not holding the fork right" "im eating too fast, people will think im a pig" im learning to challenge it all thoughand its nice to see others succeeding against these things.its an old vid but good job on making it, hope things are better these days

[fathersonnholyspirit]

None of you have to live with this anymore. I know the frustration, embarrassment and fear that is involved. Please go to my site. You dont need to buy anything, I promise you its already been paid for fuentesevangelism-.-c-o-m-

[Katatawnic]

@fathersonnholyspirit Quit spamming my channel.

[arumseed]

"Emotional Freedom Technique"

[86Alterity86]

I know this video is old...this is so me, when i watch videos sometime i have to make myself comment when i have something to say. I don't know why it can be so hard.

[simmy1055]

If this video can help someone else, it's worth watching. Anyone that has a fear that is controlling their life should at least try to see a professional and see if it can help....

[QueenaDenial2]

I've had agoraphobia for 9 years now and I feel better...but only because my husband and daughters simply have gotten used to it. I wonder, is it better for someone with this to have family that pushes you to go out or not?

[Katatawnic]

I'd say it goes both ways, in my opinion from personal experience. Getting a "little shove" from family/friends can help open our eyes to the severity of the situation and want to improve it, but pushing too hard can result in us pulling deeper into our shells. As with everything, moderation is the key. It also, of course, depends on how each individual reacts to any form of stimulus. :)

I'm so glad you're feeling better!

[jemmahixon]

i have agoraphobia and have suffered with it for 8 years now im now 18 over the past 4 years it has become very severe

i can no longer leave my house at all and havnt been able to for the past few years

id love to talk to you at some point x

[happilylil]

Vilift is really the best, i really love how it made me calm, relax. it's really wonderful to know a pill that really helps.

[tski007]

try the linden mathod

[Katatawnic]

Thanks for the suggestion, but I don't trust anyone that claims, "If you feel it isn't working for you, you are doing something incorrectly." Scape goat much? I've been suckered in the past by people who've "cured themselves" of mental illness, give testimonies from "cured" customers, then spam your email umpteen times a day AFTER you've purchased their expensive programs. If there was a cure, we'd ALL know about it. ;)

I'll stick with my method, which has been quite successful. :)

[ScientiaVeritasEtLux]

wow, I didn't know there was a difference between social anxiety and agoraphobia. I think I have severe social anxiety, and agoraphobia (but to a much lesser degree). I don't like going places, and I don't like driving (because of the . . . "untethered" feeling). And also, whenever I meet new people I get really panicky when they talk to me and I'm expected to talk back. Do you know any sites that give advice on how to maybe lessen the severety of the panic feeling?

[MrUnderstanding9]

I have Social Anxiety and I just made a video. I was not really happy with the outcome however I did it anyway. My mother have both Social Anxiety & Agoraphobia. She have not left the house for about two years. Thanks for your video and I agree. I was in the comfort zone for about 10 years. I would go out but not a lot. Now I really feel like a new man.

[mrsmiggins81]

its ruby wax!

[iidjkg]

Katatawnic, good luck on the road to recovery. You have a very beautiful smile at the end of the video.

[leiapeison]

you are very brave and strong for doing this video and for working on your recovery so hard.

[HigherPlanes]

The message that the culture gives us is that we're all marginal. It doesn't matter if you have 100 million dollars. Fortune magazine will inform you that so do ten thousand other people on the North American continent, there's nothing special about you. This is part of the democratic legacy. We're constantly told we're not special. Special isnt special. It's no big surprise that everyone feels alienated.

Katatawnic, there is nothing wrong with you. The society is sick, IMO.

[Katatawnic]

Thank you HigherPlanes, and I agree. However, though society may be stupid and cruel and sick, I still would rather live in it. :)

[HigherPlanes]

I hear you loud and clear, Katatawnic. There's not much of a choice there anyway. Have a peaceful life.

[tacoma200]

You are doing better than you know!!!!!  Congtatulations

[Katatawnic]

Thank you, tacoma200. I'm still working on it, and improving daily. :)

[Ramakim]

You took the first step, now their are no more excuses.

I can't do this because I don't have that. a syndrome that can be over come by being yourself , however you must ask yourself if this is true" true in the sense of not how you want it to be but what it truly is" May take time to process the information of what is true .

Its easy to make yourself sick much harder to heal.

You must forgive your parents & their parents and so on down the line. Intergrated behavior patterns from hundreds

[Katatawnic]

Ramakim, I discussed overcoming the issues. That was my whole point.

However, this "truly is" a REAL illness for many people, which I'm addressing. And I don't have/make excuses.... there are only reasons (triggers: A.K.A., causes). There are *always* triggers with these illnesses. When we learn to deal with our triggers, the symptoms diminish. :)

I don't know where you got to the "forgiving my parents" thing, but just to affirm: I forgave all who needed forviging, including myself, years ago.

[Ramakim]

Thank you so much , we can really learn a lot from you and each-other.

People come to you for help and you help us..

What do you think may cause Agoraphobia, may not be just

one thing ?? I want to learn how to be a better person!

So that I may help other's as well..

Peace Love & much respect respect to you!!!

Rama

[Yetalia]

Just thought I'd leave you a message to say that you are my inspiration. I'm currently suffering with agoraphobia and I'm finding it very hard.

[Katatawnic]

Thank you, Yetalia, you're very kind. :)

May your journey be worth the destination. <3

[GlossyShoes]

im going though the same thing as you, in fact i couldnt go out today, too stressed. I used to be a social butterfly, a salesperson, the life of the party.

Something traumtic happened to me which i never dealt with, which i know is the cause of the problem.'

Ive been forcing myself to do and go places that scare me, i think its the only way to recover.

[Katatawnic]

GlossyShoes: "Ive been forcing myself to do and go places that scare me, i think its the only way to recover."

Indeed, Glossy.... you drove the nail right into the 2x4 with one hit! I'd told my counselor that that's what I'm doing, and he said that's the *exact* advice he'd have given me.

And he's one of the *good* counselors! ;)

Rock on! I can beat this, and so can you! <3

[webcamupload]

Yeah I get the same way hun.

[itsMEyouYouToober]

Thanks for this vid I learned that isolation is a cause ..that really explains it coz i've been very isolated alot for 10 yrs & i should try to not be isolated & i'll prob improve! Being alone worsens mental illness. I struggle the exact same as you! I think YouTube is a great help & very theraputic for sufferers!

[ssips720]

ure hair is fly..

i have similar

[smokybrick]

Thanks for sharing. I have dealt with agoraphobia for many years. Today is thanksgiving and we had a family get together at my brothers. A long story short is I am nearly housebound anymore and need to get out more. I dont feel like pushing myself, but your speaking on seclusion is so very true. Its not good, and the space will likely get smaller if we dont get out some and enjoy life. Again, Thanks :)

[joske324]

Your video has made me realize I need to do the SAME THING!!! THANKYOU =)

[Katatawnic]

Your welcome, and thank you! :)

[Anastasius37]

why didn't the little bear talk ;[.

[Katatawnic]

The bear rarely speaks; he has social anxiety too. ;)

[i82manyagain]

I'm sure having a spouse deployed in a war zone is more than enough stress for one lifetime. I'd say you're handling that extremely well, and I'd be surprised if anyone got through that ordeal symptom free.

[Katatawnic]

Dealing with deployment is indeed more stress than anyone should have to endure, whether one is deployed or on the homefront.

I appear to handle it much more than I actually do. Part of it is a "front" and part of it is a bit of denial in order to not have another breakdown. (Yep, I've had many of those, including a couple since August when his deployment began.) Denial can be extremely unhealthy, but I do believe that it can be helpful IF kept in moderation.... if that makes sense. lol

[michelle2chat]

Did the YouTube gremlins eat my comment again? Dang it!

[Katatawnic]

Looks like! lol

I hate when that happens! ;p

Hugs & Spoons! <3

[ladysidi]

Thank you for posting about your issues with this Kat. I too, deal with these issues because I'm confined to my house alot to (no ramp in my house) and I very rarely see RL friends. I am one of the "lucky ones" with physical (primary being Cerebral Palsy) issues and mentally (Bipolar, Depression, MPD and OCD) issues - so watching your videos helps me feel not so alone, and helps me learn how to help my issues too. :)

Thank you

[saltyeggs71]

I'm exhausted but wanted you to know I watched the video. You spoke of what I go through.Tkx :)

[Metsada007]

I know how you feel Katatawnic. I'm sorry to hear that you're suffering so much, but at least you have a partner. I'm a 32 year old male and have never had a girlfriend, and I really don't think I will ever have a partner.

It has nothing to do with my looks, I'm simply mentally ill. I have resigned to my fate. I will probably die as a sad and lonely man. Anyhow, I wish you all the best.

[Metsada007]

you are beautiful

[ghdcanada]

Kat

I hope you feel better soon and thanks for shedding some light on this issue.

You are a dear brave person.

LA

[maximotion]

I understand what it took to make this video. I have those issues or else I would have responded to this video as soon as I saw it... Making videos is hard and so is commenting sometimes. People take things the wrong way etc. Anyway, I just wanted to say I understand.

[Katatawnic]

No matter the subject, it would have been just as difficult for me to turn on my camera and start talking, which is why I figured I might as well just talk about the issue at hand. Those who live with this will understand completely, and many who don't live with it can gain deeper understanding of people in their lives who do by hearing what it's like. I certainly don't feel comfy in front of the camera yet, but it was still a step in the direction of coping and healing all the same. :)

[lapislazuline]

so there you are! i thought you,d moved to

Alaska or somewhere...you,re looking good

biggest smile on u-tube! :)

[Katatawnic]

Yep, here I are! Not Alaska, but the way Tom is loving Wisconsin, ya never know where we could be moving when his deployment is done. ;)

[Bestrong4]

Great video, Social Anxiety, Bipolar they all are one tough cookie

[CitizenWorm]

Hey it's good to see you. You really do seem like you're doing well even if you don't always think you're up to what you want to do. You have more strength than you know.

[Katatawnic]

Thanks hon, it can be difficult to see our own strengths sometimes. That's why I did a video on this subject.... it can feel like it's something that can't be fought, but facing it is certainly a step, and if I can do it then others can too. <3

[dospook]

It's good to hear you again. I like your word videos as much as your music vids, actually. Your a very down to earth personality.

It's also really nice that you are engaging your social dramas with bravery & apparently a (re)heightened awareness of your reactions to them.

[Katatawnic]

Thank you!

Awareness is the only way to conquer some things. :)

[TiradeFaction]

Hey, your short hair is nice I think ;).

[Katatawnic]

I like my hair short, just not at this particular length cause of all the cowlicks. ;p

[debswildhoney]

take air...

:O)

[Katatawnic]

Even on broken wings, we can sometimes fly. :)

[debswildhoney]

Poetic and beautifully said. The "Take Air" I originally meant was to BREATH - this helps me to breath deeply and slowly, it helps in managing both pain & anxiety/depression. Good to hear you are stretching, we all have our cycles and I will get there too. :O)

[Katatawnic]

Oh yes, the BREATHING thing! I've not been as good at that as I've been for many years, and that goes right back to the panic.... it's hard to remember to breathe through something when there is sheer panic going on. However, I've been focusing on reminding myself of doing this more often and effectively again. As I concentrate on it, I'll have a habit of just doing it again. ;)

Now for the FMS pain, I do remember to breathe. But there's no panic involved then, so it's easier to remember.

[TiradeFaction]

Welcome back!

I didn't miss this video ;).

[Katatawnic]

Ah, you still didn't miss much.... you were one of MAYBE five people that already knew what's been going on, and that's including family. LOL

[noliketoregister]

Good video, thanks for the spoon. :::::)

[Katatawnic]

Spoons are always a great thing to have, eh? :)

[FoxyNewfieBack]

Awsome video ! i can totaly relate to this, ive been on disability for 2 yr because of my Bipolar but mostly because of my Social Anxiety, it is soo hard to explane to people why you won't leave your house. sometimes ( if i can get someone to do things for me)leave my Apt for months@ a time *HUGS*

Melissa

[Katatawnic]

It's extremely hard to explain to others why you won't/can't leave your house - too many people just don't comprehend it.

If I could leave my house for months at a time, I'd be in heaven.... the grass sure looks greener on that side, anyhow. ;)

[FoxyNewfieBack]

I ment to say don't leave my Apt for months,sorry but i love the replay

[Katatawnic]

Ah, gotcha! OK, so the grass is the same shade, after all. LOL

[FoxyNewfieBack]

lol, were in the same boat my friend!

[bubonicnate]

Glad you are back!

[Katatawnic]

Thanks, it's good to be back! :)

[HumanTruth0000]

Good to see you again. Thanks for the vid u sent. Take care. Spoons as u say.

(Not Gary, as you know)

[Katatawnic]

Gary, is that you??? LOL!

[HumanTruth0000]

LMAO-Please don't even joke about that. Had it thrown at me for a crazy month as distracting tactical operations. So don't u start it anew now! LOL.

Spoons.

[Katatawnic]

I know, I saw a bit of the comment frenzy a couple days ago. Sorry, I couldn't resist, but I'll not let it go further. LMAO (I highly doubt Gary or any of his buddies will be viewing my videos, anyhow.)

Spoons! :)

[HumanTruth0000]

Thanks. Still laughing. And appreciate it.

[DoktorTakashiro]

I would never let you to be isolated. Listen baby if you fell lonely I am here to help you and make you happy!

[Katatawnic]

Such a sweetheart! You've given me more smiles than you could possibly know.

[DoktorTakashiro]

You are a big kat you deserve the best treatment!

Be cool darling.

[DoktorTakashiro]

you look great on short round hair down to the neck.

[pixelatedxdeath]

Kat, don't be so hard on yourself! LOL! I know it's hard I'm bad about doing it as well. You're a beautiful strong woman, whom I admire a lot. Just take it step by step, and if you fall down pick yourself back up. It's not about how many times you fall, but that you reach your destination. So keep your head up, and your spirits high. You know I'm here for you! <3 *hugs*

[Katatawnic]

I wasn't being hard on myself -- I was taking a step, as you said. ;) Now you know why I've been MIA for so long.... I looked for you when I showed up at Stickam the other night, but you weren't online. (Did you get my "reply" PM?) The admiration is quite mutual, my dear! *spoons* <333

[pixelatedxdeath]

No I didn't get your reply :-(. Nah, I was talking about the beginning of the video you were talking about the excuses, just messing with you on that. Yeah, I've been a bit anti social as well, mainly cause of these impacted wisdom teeth make me angry easy. So, I've not had much patience. *spoons* <3333

[Katatawnic]

Yeah,I figured out that's probably what you'd meant AFTER I replied to your initial comment. I make more excuses to myself in one week than I probably have EVER made to other people in my entire life. lol

And it figures! That's two PMs I wrote in as many days that didn't get sent to the recipients.... I guess YT couldn't go without glitches for too long, eh? ;p

[pixelatedxdeath]

Yeah it does figure! Oi! I wish they would leave it alone and fix the problems instead of adding more glitchy new stuff. Glad to hear from you though!

[Bestrong4]

Great Video I feel your pain. Hopefully one day we will overcome this illness, Hang in there and Bestrong!

[Katatawnic]

Whether or not there is ever a cure, we shall overcome all the same! :)

[eternalundylnglove]

welcome back sweetie!

thanks for sharing your feelings with us

we'll try to make your YT experience a comfortable one

[Katatawnic]

What a heartfelt welcome from such a heartless troll.... according to a few videos I've seen! ;)

Now that I'm back, I think it's time for my T3H cindy fix. ;p