Zan Perrion - Body Language 2/3 - Eye Contact Secrets

[merlow01]

If you are brasileiro and see this, dê uma risadinha aheaeuhaueha, thumbs up if you don't understood the message.

[RynoZ]

Videos like these teach you good habits, they don't necessarily say this is what you need to do 100% of the occasion, but they majoritively work. Practice with your friends, girls you have a crush on, hot or non-hot girls you've just met.

Once you have enough success to gain confidence with it, you've earned it and now own it. The good new habit is yours to maintain whenever where ever. Don't think too hard into it like how you think she's going to feel. Approach it and see how she feels then.

[dawsontohof]

dude....you're talking eye contact...I can't even concentrate on this video cuz of that drape of foiled leaves on that shirt...lol

[teknikoo]

You really don't understand do you lol.

[Paradoxolog]

I suppose Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Craig Daniels and Sean Connery are all shy and awkward?

I'm actually a good looking guy but at 20 I'm still a virgin. Strangers will shout sexy at me, grab my bum and stroke my hair. Strangely enough the girls I know don't find me attractive at all. If a friend of a friend says that she finds me attractive my friend's reaction is "REALLY!?".

Even if you are a good looking guy without confidence, forget it.

[RynoZ]

@Paradoxolog wow. That takes a lot of confidence to admit that. I was that guy not long ago. I won't say i'm a changed man and I have eight wives now but after understanding where and what my weaknesses were i've given myself time to fix them. These simple errors were what kept me, a young attractive and sociable man, a virgin for a very long time.

[sir1920]

@RynoZ dude im 20. I am in that position right now! its very annoying. I feel like there a timer and if i dont get laid soon something bad will happen. You know, my life is pretty cool actually. I dont know why im not good with girls yet. I tried alllllot of stuff. And im pretty good looking. I have a hairy back and chest which is not good. its makes me super nervous somtimes taking off my shirt. thats one problem.

Can you give your advice in getting to the next level? WHat were your errors?

[bottomsbaby]

@sir1920 bro try the mirror technique, practice in it and get more comfy in your skin, a full body one is great but a regular one will do it. Just talk to yourself sorta like the actors do And just remember to stay cool because thats the rule, and if you think your cool, she'll think your cool

[MrVeesworld]

@sir1920 First try grooming your back hair with a shaver, front too. Work out more, eat right, wear cologne, buy clothes that complement you and look people in the eyes when you speak and smile. Be the first to suggest things (alpha male). Girls want entertaining guys, so be that. Also know this:

[MrVeesworld]

@sir1920 Your body language speaks volumes!! have an open posture and chest, use your hands and roll up your sleeves when wearing a long sleeved shirt. It makes you look powerful and groomed at the same time. Stand at an angle when talking to girls, head cocked slightly to one side. Think dirty thoughts with a half smile when looking directly into their eyes. I know, I know, but it works wonders. Seriously.

[RynoZ]

@sir1920 Confidence is the MOST IMPORTANT and also the most UNDERRATED tip to give, simply because it seems too simple an answer. It can be elaborated in many ways, but all sum up to how much confidence you can establish within yourself. Learn to love thyself before others can love you! Take time to find out what it is about yourself that you should feel proud of and own it. FUGLY men, have amazing women —solely on confidence. Its crosses all aspects of success in your life once you have it!!!!

[RynoZ]

Confidence does one thing: boost courage! You don't need a secret or expensive guide to seduction to gain confidence. When you have courage you take risks. When you fail at those risks, confidence allows you go out and try again with another approach.

Surely enough that confidence will rub off on someone you're attracted to and work! Subconsciously confidence allows you to fix other errors in your game because there's nothing holding you back mentally. You gain ALPHA characteristics naturally.

[killaxm]

lol u got 7 negatives but i agree with u. but those are pussy boys you are talking about, and manly women.

[senhordasempadas]

if you're talking about yourself... it's true

[thecardmaster01]

What's the song in the background of the beginning?

[MizzFujin]

I found this guy I liked constantly looking at me today, i came here to see what it meant, I have no idea how to read signals 0_0

[bushmusharraf]

OOh !! Fizzy ..that guy was me !!

So u caught me ogling ur eyes ? Ouchh !!

Infact honey , I was watching "whats stopping u from wearing maskarain those shy lookin eyes of urs ?"

[niory]

i dont like a guy that has tooooo much self confident  !!!!!

and i hate a guy that looks right in to my eyes and thinks that he can own me by doing that !!!!

[hoytfan]

This is all good advice, but he never says how to make a girl look at you in that way with "chemistry" I know body language is very important but it also matters what you say.

[topmodelkosova12]

all that matters is how you make a girl feel :)

[RynoZ]

@topmodelkosova12 Yeah man, but that answer is too simple, some people can take that thought to an extreme and overthink how that is accomplished!!!!

People who make money sell short and sweet comments like that, because it's vague enough to send the sweet message across without the details. What else??????!!

[ChrisCool]

no... it doesnt matter what u say. u can say the stupidest things and she will love u for it

[aprimic]

Lol he was basically saying shit about people body language.. which behaviours we do.. but obviously if we do do those behaviours then we know it.. the only true information he gave us was at the end.. but that was shit cos it was only like 20 seconds...

[multikool]

This guy is smooth

[bkltd]

Very Important: American (Men?) tend to focus on THEMSELVES and other Men. Very ODD. The female (ironically) is their tertiary interest! FOCUS on the FEMALE ... boys.

[newbie55555]

you actually like people who throw themseves on you??

[taladel]

That's not what was said. bkltd said that instead of men focusing on who's looking at them and how they stack up to other guys, they should focus on the woman they're trying to seduce/chat up.

[Zac6230]

you're kidding right ?we have better things to do then to validate attention whores

[chrisahc]

I have a friend (male) who often looks at my mouth when I'm talking. It annoys me quite a lot because I used to think he had trouble understanding me but after watching this video and finding out that it is a sexual attraction, should I be worried?

[c00lwatter]

You should be totally worried that A guy you have developed a raport with should genually like you enough to be around you AND thinks of you as a sexual being without you having to be worried that he only likes you for superficial reasons.

[SpyWhoLovedHimself]

Lol it annoys you that he fancies you? Wow... Just wow... ...

[generallyanony]

If you meen wow, as in your suprised and think she is weird for being annoyed that somebody fancies her, then you aren't really thinking straight are you? What if the person decides to ask her out? Then what? She has to hurt them to save herself from a relationshiop she doesn't feel confortable in.

[markclark5]

wow, amazing comment, thanks

[generallyanony]

This film is all generalization, it *may* be attraction, but more likely he just finds it difficult to look people in their eyes, some people do, others don't. But it might be beneficial to send some body signals back that are more "closed", if he picks them up, subconciously he might get the message

[NiNm62]

i always want to look at peoples mouths when theyre talking.

but i noticed people i know doing the same, i think its an inconfidence habit of avoiding eye contact, its nothing sexual - in this case.

as i find myself becoming more and more self confident, i start looking into peoples eyes without feeling any awkwardness and thats the moments when i rather looked at the mouth before.

it can be a sexual sign, but also just a bad habit like it was in my case

[skittb89]

maybe he has some form of autism?

[TubeFreakJonas]

All technique is intellectual - remember it's about what's going on on the INSIDE.

You have to be comfortable in your body and emotions, while using your mind in its right place. Technique is secondary - useful yes but over-stressing technique in your mind is a sort of trap.

Notice Zan's ENERGY above all else.

[M14dude]

On a job interview, how can you keep eye contact, going back and forth to each eye without feeling weirded out. I'm not really comfortable with just starring into someones eyes for a long time even if we are both holding a conversation. I just feel weird and have to look away. And on a job interview that shows immaturity, and lack of people skills. Hence, ( NOT ) getting the job= my problem. Can anyone give me some tips on how not to feel weird by keeping eye contact through conversations? Thnx

[generallyanony]

You have to feel confortable that you are of "equal status" to look directly into somebody's eye for a long period of time. You have to be in control. There is a certain point where it becomes unusual or unconfortable (for either person) too keep eye contact. That is when it needs to be broken. Its just finding the "gaps" that might be the trickey part for some people. I don't really know because keeping eye contact is kinda natural for me, instinct, as such.

[fight38club]

in soul gazing they say your right eyes should connect, that confuses me, do they mean my right eye looking into her right eye? or my right eye looing into her left eye (right from my point of view) and is it better to look into left or right? help anyone? thanks

[WarrexX]

You have to look at here left eye (from here point of vieuw) Becausse the main feelings collect more at the left side becausse of the heart. You will also notice that here left eye (from here point of vieuw) is harder to look in then the right eye. This is also what sean messenger explained

[jk41]

is it the sameway witht guys if you start to look more at her mouth and little less on her eyes will she reciprocate and start like more you also.

[tatmik]

i think that is not the way to force smb to love you but to show your interest and your desire.... which can give an idea to notice you... sometimes, we do not notice people until they make us do so...

[FearAcademy]

yea.. seems like you have an interest in her, try to vibe her and find an opening where you can spark interest or curiosity. don;t play needy card, its hard to ignore a cutie, i understand friend

[groovybiatch]

what if a girl gives good eye contact but almost absolutely no verbal interest?

She does all the signs.. such as

give good eye contact

face me directly

initiates conversation

BUT

almost never asks me questions about myself? I know girls that are attracted to me and you can tell that they are without even trying but this certain girl, she does it all except that.

help?

[tatmik]

you have to consider her personality: maybe, she does not ask anybody (that's a part of her education); maybe, she likes you so much that she is afraid to ask the wrong question; what if you talk so much that she does not need to ask. There are so many possibilities! Ask yourself! girls and women like to talk and like attention.

[lucidguru]

She is doing those signs by habit. Give her an F in body language and move on to a hotter girl that actually likes you.

[tatmik]

I cannot agree: some women play a short game, but some like to tease a lot... I think a man should get what he wants; if she does not say "no", she can be owned.

[nustada]

It's normal for guys to lead the conversation, I am supprised that bothers you.

In fact, trying to induce someone into a logical conversation is a surefire way to kill attraction.

If you need to test if she is attracted, do small compliance tests, and see how she reacts. Start small ie "hold this for a sec" then later maybe "let me show you how to massage hands" and so on.

Think reward=one step forward, punish=two steps back.

[jk41]

she is not really intrested at the time she is just being sincere and kind. I talk to a girl like that once and gave me exact same response. she is a really timid and shy girl. as I got better with talking to girls and getting to know them she started showing me she was intrested,like you say you just know. so I started talking to her again.

[anthonyo99]

I have a feeling that this guy is a player

[bones19565]

@anthonyo99 he is. he prides him self on being that guy who boyfriends should be afraid of.

[phil18is9]

I have a theory to maybe take in consideration... What if someone tend to look always at the mouth or the eyes weather he's visual (eyes) or auditive (mouth)

[TRILIUS]

nice