You always have options- adoption, abortion, single parenting, ect.. I don't support forced child-support- I think it should be illegalized unless in the case of RAPE.. If you want to stay in a relationship w/ someone who doesn't want kids, then- hey, don't have kids. Don't expect them to change for you and whine when you get divorced or cheated on when they don't and you cling. Women should treat themselves better. He is not at fault, neither is she- people need to be intelligent about this.
I really don't like the man's advise. "he was honest and you're changing the rules" If he NEVER wanted kids, he should get a vasectomy. Otherwise, keep it in your pants or deal with the consequences! The lady is right though. It's your decision and you have to think about no one but yourself right now. If you do things for other people, you'll live with regrets.
Here's my 2 cents: Don't feel guilty about you being pregnant, you did not "change the rules" like that idiot said.
Also, I can tell you straight off the bat when a guy says "oh, I don't like kids" or "I don't want to have kids"...that actually translates to "I don't want to have kids with you" He does not love you...so I say throw his good for nothing ass away and focus on your little miracle that you will love 100% and that will love you back the same!
He should have had a vasectomy if he knew he never wanted to have kids. He should have protected himself with a snip snip. Although now atleast he shows his true colors. Does this woman really want to be with a guy that would say choose me or a baby. What a prick. This advice should have addressed the issue of him not having had a vasectomy.
She is trying to trap her man for child support. She didn't take her pill. You can't say you don't want kids, and decide to keep it anyway. It takes two to have sex, but sex is not purely reproductive and nobody that takes precautions should be "punished" for it. He was honest with her. Not to mention he's 46. He's not gonna change his mind. Everyone's writing him off as the wrong one, but sex is not something anyone should be punished for. And he was honest. She's the liar.
@nkaywage I'm horrifically sorry my honesty bothers you that badly... badly enough you don't even care to explain what about my comment offended you so desperately.
No he's not going to change his mind. I hate kids but I have one. My feelings didn't change when he was born. Pure and simple truth I'm not a parent, I can take care of my kid but I'm more of his friend than a father figure. I guess I just refuse to grow up, I'm not a man and never want to be. Fuck all that responsibility shit.
Oh my frickin' gosh "You're changing the rules???" The man made a baby with you! It's not her fault and he should man up. "She's" not changing the rules, the pregnancy they BOTH made changes things. Wow. This is ridiculous.
@candicherry1987 I completely agree. Dumb advice. He should have had a vasectomy. My guess is with the attitude he had he thought it wasn't his responsibility to protect himself.
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Im 23 and I never want any kids. Ive had relationships end because I told girls that I dont want kids and they leave me, oh well shit happens and youll find that all women out there do not want kids...
If I were a man I'd take care of the birth control myself - by using at least 3 methods at one time, to be safe. I wouldn't trust a woman with it. They're so careless. I can't understand why.
Um...she didn't change the rules...If he didn't want kids he should have not had sex with her...She didn't trick him into becoming pregnant... Protection doesn't always work...I don't like how he was blaming her....He needs to take some responsibility for the fact that with sex comes the responsibility of the possibility of pregnancy
@SEBwear OMG THANK YOU!! took the words out of my mouth! You two both are being total ass hole laying a blame on the woman like she purposely got pregnant. She said she was FINE with him not wanting kids. She got pregnant obviously because birth control failed! I feel SO sorry for that woman now because she stated clearly that she wanted the baby and seemed to be fine but was hoping he'd come around. Now she's probably feeling guilty and that baby will probably dine now because of u 2!
Hey, if women have all the authority ("my body, my choice"; parental rights, etc..), they must shoulder the responsibility. You can not force a man to be responsible for a situation he has no control over.
They made their bed their bed now they have to sleep in it . if he hated children so much why did he not get a vasectomy ? Why did she choose to date this type of man he was very honest from the begining .
26 46 :O when she was like crawling and pooing in her pants he was having sex xx perverted. iv heard of like 1 to 6 years apart xx but thats jujst wrong. my opinion dont like it dont reply
For the record, the woman in the letter never said that her man did not want to pay child support. He just doesn't want to raise kids, but he might be "man enough" to at least give child support. True, they both should have used protection. But what's done is done. Why he didn't get "fixed," who knows? But, btw, I do know that it's sometimes doctors won't give single, childless men a vasectomy because they "might change their mind."
My dad didn't want me when my mom was pregnant with me, but when i was born, he said he came to the hospital, cried and held me all night. He told me he didn't want to leave me alone, he just wanted me close to him. My mom and grams proved he was right and that's what he really did. It really depends on the man the person is dating. Some men change their minds and eventually realise that being a father could be a great experience or some might just turn their back. Follow your heart.
im 5 1/2 months preggo. and im only 20. i wouldnt have eer got an abortion even if my man didnt want it. i love being pregnant its the most amazing experience in life & i wouldnt change it for the world.
And, btw I don't agree with the advice given to this question. "WHAT IF" they say "he'll end up loving the kid he has with YOU even MORE?" Yeaahhh...welll....what if he DOESN'T? Look like you're up a $#!t creek then, don't it? Of course they never explore that poss. Having a kid based on a HYPOTHETICAL ASSUMPTION?? You CANNOT be serious. There are examples all around us of kids who never inspired that "magical luv moment" out of their dads, the kind dan&jen here are putting their chips on.
brittanyxxx UR a 'tard.That "it takes 2" is largely bullsh!t.Yes it takes to to F*(%, but when it comes to conception,it's largely the FEMALE'S responsibility to do w/what she will with that wad.If she doesn't want semen demons to invade her cervix, there are an endless variety of precautions to take.She didn't indicate2taking any so it'sCLEARwhat she was trying2do.Hate me for saying it,don't care, cuz it's true.Women who pull the "baby trap" on their man & act like "huh?" sickens me to my core.
she came up with some good answers and as for iryna1989..
single parenting isn't sorry.. it happens all the time.. you could be married and happy then all the sudden divorce and whatnot.
I agree if he didn't want children, he should have gotten an operation to prevent it happening.
I'm a single mom and I'm loving it.. my son's father decided it was too hard to raise a kid so he went about being a kid again at almost 20 years old. and I'm almost 21. and ignoring his son. yes it pisses me off
if he knew 100% sure he didnt want kids, he shoud have gotten fixed!! Obviously he wasnt completely sure, because he still ended up getting someone pregnant.
yes i agree if he didn't want any kid's he should of done something about it at the time! now it's too late, shouldn't of suck it up her lil pig lmao... your problem. deal with it and look after your fucking kid mother fucker!!!!!!!!!!
If he's in his forties and he doesn't want kids, having the baby won't make him change his mind. I think there's a lot the author of this letter is leaving out, like why they weren't using protection.
Islam is extremely logical in forcing us not to have such relationships before virtuous marriage.
What's the crime of this baby as it will not have its father (if she chooses the baby). And where will the baby go if she chooses the boyfriend? Kill it?
Condoms are useless because ,while having sex, no brain is there (for most of the teenagers).
Nothing is better than having your legal wife or husband and building your responsibility-based life.
he didnt want kids but they were having unprotected sex?????? unles she tricked him and didnt take her birth control or something then he's a dick head
I think that beore the baby is born, the parent (father) will get nervous about having the baby, taking care of it, just doesn't want the baby in his life. But once the baby is born, they become huge lovers :)
yea, you know why? because babies are "cute". what will happen when the child gets say 13, you think he'll always forget what he originally wanted (no kids)?
He's such an idiot. Even if she does choose to have the child, he still is financially responsible for that baby. Unless, she doesn't take child support from him? Which would be kind of stupid. Haha funny how he didn't want a child because he didn't want to be financially responsible. I guess the answer he wanted was her choosing him over the baby.
its great having children, its just that... that man is a child himself! what kinda person can ask between him and the child? thats not gonna end well. some people can be so sick, its scary!
child support!!!. that man just dosent wanna grow up, its not the womens fault, she obviously didnt plan to get pregnant. She takes the responsibility for her actions, and a 46 year old man does not.
here's a question for the man in this relationship. He doesnt want kids, he said so in the beginning, and I respect that, they're not for everybody. It takes a man and a woman to get pregnant, and it is the man and only the man who can get a woman pregnant, not the other way around. That being said, if he did not want a child, why didnt he wear protection, or get a vasectomy? And it is obvious she wouldnt mind pregnant again, otherwise, she would have told him to put his raincoat on.
Who says he didn't? Who says it wasn't an accident? Who says she didn't stop taking her pill to entrap him because SHE wanted another kid despite him making his feelings clear? To all those saying he should 'mature', why didn't she understand that simply wanting something doesn't mean she's entitled to it? I was taught as a kid "I want doesn't get", I'm sure she was too but I've found this is something most women disregard and call what they want "their right". It's BS, I feel sorry for the guy.
Why would you marry a woman if you didn't want children? C'mon, you should know if you marry a woman, she is going to want children 9 times out of 10. But also women should not try to have a baby with a man if they know they don't want one. Then it would be the woman's decision if she wants to stay with him or not. If you take the chance, then you can't break the rules.
a tiny age difference like my girlfriend being 2 months older than me is fine, even like 10 years, but dude that's 20 years? and he's going to die 20 years before she does, it's just weird...
its not that weird,espically if the relationships working out,but for them i guess not.
im 19 turning 20 and my bf's 41,but hes absoultey amazing,weve been together over a year.and just because theirs an age diffrence means nothing.people thinks it odd,but nothing in this world is even normal anymore.
plus my bf being the age he is,i told him, if he ends up getting sick/or passes away before i do,i know i could properly take care of him.
What a stupid bitch. She's 26, unmarried, stuck with two kids now and unless she has rich parents she just fucked up their future because He can bail whenever he wants to. The irresponsibility of some people is just outrageous.
In case you haven't noticed, it takes TWO individuals to conceive [and properly raise and nurture] a child. I personally feel that he's the dumbf*ck--he should have taken the necessary measures to prevent a pregnancy from occurring in the first place. Why is birth control ALWAYS the woman's responsibility? Use your minds, people...seriously, it takes TWO. Obviously he's immature and senseless if he feels the need to date somebody that young in the first place [no offense, but it's true].
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He knew the risks of having sex as much as the woman did. If he wasn't ready to face the consequences of a potential pregnancy then sex should have never happened. How can anyone 'blame' the woman for changing the rules in this situation...she didn't get herself pregnant!!!!
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My mom says you can not get pregnant on acident. If you put your pee pee in a girls pee pee you shud know what will happen. How can that be a acident?
Pregnancy is the accident, not neccessarily the sex. People have sex for non-reproductive motives. They have sex to bond with their partner, to expresse love, to feel pleasure, etc. 95% of the sex people have is not out of the intention to reproduce.
BTW- a vagina isn't a "pee pee", you pee out of your urethra.
@kiwisunshine5233 pregnancy is the main focus of sex is it not? i dont believe its an accident when so many methods are out there hell-bent on preventing it and people STILL get pregnant regardless of contraceptives...this is why u should be married to avoid all these problems. but, no i know...its not realistic u say, people are gonna have sex anyways. its just not logical to have sex out of marriage knowing all the strings attached...alas people do it anyways ;(
well hes not even worth being with if he wants her to choose between him or a baby. if he doesnt have the same views as her and they dont agree on stuff like that then she shouldnt even be with him. and theres nothing wrong with being a single mom. its better to be a single mom than to give your child an asshole father who didnt want you in the first place, in my opinion!
No-he will not change is mind. Just because you have his child that you are pregnant with doesnt mean that he will stay and love the baby.
I am thinking that she (deep down inside) wanted to 'trap' him and since she made that statement (he gets along great with my son so i dont understand why he wouldnt want his own) it sounds like she is trying to have the baby and put it in his face as if to say 'i know this baby is really what you want, deep down inside you want children'.
She got pregnant because she wanted to and wanted to trap him. She's dishonest. I could never do that to a man. (But then, I'm as maternal as a stone!)
he came back after five days and we talked and talked, he was by my side when i gave birth a week late (i think baby was waiting for his daddy to come home)and we are still together now two years on and strong as ever, but we were lucky it could have easily ended in me being on my own and sure i would have got on with it, but if I had known how against it he was, I might have thought twice before falling pregnant and saved alot of heartache, but now i wouldnt change a thing
when I fell pregnant for the second time my partner was far less struck on the idea then me due to money worries , the result was we had a tough spotalot of stress, arguements which ended up with me being walked out on a week prior to my due date,I felt totally abandond and at the time barely ate or slept i cried constanly and blamed myself, i didnt even want to go into labour i could not face it alone
Should have been more careful, both of them. But, yeah, he should be able to man-up if his woman is pregnant. If he really cares for her, he will stay. Otherwise, he's worthless.
Fuck you. This has nothing to do with being a man. Your worth is not determined by whether or not you're a parent/baby factory. If she really cares for him, she won't keep it. She knew his lifestyle, its obvious that he is unwilling to parent in the begining. A kid requires an ass load of money; 24 hour care for 18 years; being there in his/her life; love; & sacrifice of your own freedom, happiness, & life goals. Being a parent is a fucking ass load to ask for.
Are you some type of retard? You've obviously never had a kid before. A kid requires an ass load of money, 24 hour care for 18 years, being there in his/her life, & love.
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hi i am alivia age 10 in iowa. my mom says you shud not have sex if you are not maried. you shud give up the babe and go to church. god will forgive you if you dont do it agin.
and god isn't real so your an idiot if you believe so...although it is truly your decicion but i am deadly serious...god does not exist so there is only you to forgive yourself if you abort and kill your child
i am not a scumbag...it's fact...have you seen what an abortion is? do you know how hard it is to give up YOUR child to someone you DO NOT know...someone who could seem wonderful and look to have a great background but you find out years later they killed your kid? this is life...it's reality...not fantasy or whatever.
Think for yourself, kid. Your parents are not always right, especially in this case.
Marriage doesn't make you ready nor willing to have kids, childfree people can & do marry. Not everyone can get married. Gods do not exist & there is nothing to be forgiven of, sex is not a crime nor is it wrong.
Through what? It's her decision. If he didn't give her the option of kid or him, he would just leave her. If she loved him, she wouldn't ruin his life by having a kid. She knows he's childfree.
It takes two to tango, they're both equal in "fault". There is nothing wrong with having sex for things other than *gasp* procreation! How is having to choose "unfair"? At least she can choose!They chouldn't be together either way. Do you think their relationship would survive without ever having sex (they're obviously not asexual)?
When people point fingers (rock) without all facts, then it does matter. She's sending in a question about the fairness of the situation. She knew he didn't want children. If she had this baby on purpose (by not taking birth control, etc) then it's her fault she's in this situation.
I guess what I was getting at is that people think they have the power to change someone else when in reality they don't.
But you're right, she's pregnant and he doesn't want it. Nothing can change that.
Youre just insensitive... And how am I ungreatful? BC I dont have my own children? Thats like me saying you are selfish and ungreatful for not WANTING to have children, and by the way im not saying that, and I wouldnt say that bc I believe thats your choice... On the other hand, my opinion comes in when one is actually pregnant, their excuse is over population or they just dont want a baby right now, and they want an
I'm not just "insensitive" & its bc you have something convenient that I & others don't have, infertility. You can adopt, ppl put too much value on fertility & having genetic kids. Parents should love their children the same reguardless of being genetically theirs or not. It's not an excuss, it's a valid reason. You should only give birth if you want to. Women are not incubators & baby factories for childless people to take when there are hundred thousands of already existing children.
It makes no sense for you to what women to give birth to children they don't want, not doing anyone any good. Children deserve closure of having loving parents that will take care of them. Think of it this way: the unwanted child being born to unready parents would make the child the parents who of have when they're ready non-existant.
And you obviouly have never struggled with infertily or youd never say they things you said about adoption. (Lucky for you you dont want children, bc I would never even want someone like you that has opposite opinions about me like you, or my worst enemy to go through this, thats how horrible it is.) Did I ever say I was closed to that? Not at all. abortion.
My purpose isnt to argue with you, it to get you to understand where im coming from, but we dont really need to name call.
Again, ppl put too much value on fertility & genetic children. Even if I wanted children, which I did at a time, & was infertile, I wouldn't shed a single tear & happily adopt. Obviously having children isn't the problem which I could understand, but it's having genetic children. There is no real reason to cry over not having genetic children. All the reasons to have genetic children are stupid: wanting a sense of immortality, wanting to feel something growing in them, wanting a mini-me, etc.
why is it stupid to want your own child? I look at my son and I can see me aqnd my husband in him I dont think I could feel as close to him if he wasnt "mine"
But if you REALLY dont want to get pregnant/make someone pregnant then you have to be responsible... obviously they werent, that doesnt make them have the right to kill a child just to be not pregnant again. Homosexuality and children is a whole other subject.
They probably were being responsible by using birthcontrol, the childrfree are the ones to be more worried & educated to use it. Birthcontrol can fail, its not 100% efficent. I don't want an abortion debate, but girls have the right of bodily & reproductive freedom & security of person. Fetii aren't children. Abortion is not the case for the couple since she has to either dump the guy or raise the child, she doesn't necessarily have to abort to keep the guy, just give it up for adoption.
BTW... the united states has no problems with over population... (besides the ppl that decided to live in over populated cities... but there is a lot of space in the rest of the us for lots and lots of people.) This lady has no idea what shes talking about. Its almost funny.
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The ONLY reason a woman should have a baby is because she wantes it... that is the most ignorant thing ive ever heard in my life. A woman sholdnt have sex if she doesnt want to be pregnant... same with a man. Ive struggled with infertility for over 2 years and my never have childrent... people would love to be in her suprised shoes. I just dont understand how someone can "choose" baby or no. Disgusting.
It doesn't just take "I wanna baby" to raise one, you also need to think of the potential baby's situation & how responsible you can be as a parent. You're ignorant, sex is not reserved for breeders, asshole. So you think childfree people & homosexual people should never have sex then? I'm childfree, I'd love to be in YOUR ungreatful shoes! Not everyone wants to be a parent & not everyone wants to forever give up their sex life. You can always adopt, it's a better alternative.
You should think of the hundreds of thousands already existing children without parents and not be under self-pity just because you can't make yourself make your belly stretching to the size of a basketball and has your genes. This is an opportunity to not contribute to over population and to make one or more existing orphans happy.
Im not the ignorant one. Youre the on that thinks this world is over populated. Theres plenty of room and I stand by that. I live in Kansas, so dont tell me were running out of room.
And I didnt say you couldnt have sex, but sex is for procreation... thats why you can get pregnant when you have sex... it makes sense.
If you can't understand that the grass is greener & sex is only for 1 thing, you are.I never said the world is overpopulated,I was talking about preventing it.But there are also overpopulated areas like China which people can help by adopting kids out.Sex is for whatever a person wants it to be, it is subjective.5% of the time that people have sex is for procreation.You can also get an STI from sex, that doesn't mean sex is for spreading STIs.Precreation is only one of the many functions of sex
Whoops, actually, I was referring to the original baby daddy (who fathered the 5 year old) and making a general statement. I applaud anyone who makes a willful and responsible decision when it comes to procreation.
You are ignorant of how much childfree people don't want kids. You are too ignorant to see how much people don't desire the slightest bit to have children, how they don't see kids exactly as a "boundle of joy". Having children is a thing to not be taken lightly. No one is obligated to raise children. That wretch expects him to grow paternal feeling once the baby pops out, dumb bitch. She knew how he wanted to live his life, she has no right to stand in his way. I'm a girl too.
I wish I could meet a woman like you! Every time I get into a LTR the woman who starts the relationship with me says they either don't want kids or ar open to the idea of not having them, I'm totally honest from the start and tell them I NEVER want kids, within a year it's always the same - Baby rabies: the illogical and unassailable desire to breed with someone who doesn't want to. Normally they end up cheating or just leaving me because I don't miraculously change just because they did.
uhh to bad ?
bubblzjewelX3 3 weeks ago
id keep the baby you dont need him if he dont want kids and you do.keep the baby forget about him
AllThatAndMore99 2 months ago
keep the baby!!! A man like that doesn't need you!!!!
Thatsamistery 2 months ago
The baby definitley!
StacGeenacker 3 months ago
Child Support.
TaltosGirl 3 months ago
why didnt he get a vasectomy?
swetldy99 3 months ago
The man needs to grow up
Thatsamistery 5 months ago
I just love how stupid girls make that decision immediately and cry their eyes out constantly with the "I thought you'd be happy!" speech.
animeloverryan85 6 months ago
You always have options- adoption, abortion, single parenting, ect.. I don't support forced child-support- I think it should be illegalized unless in the case of RAPE.. If you want to stay in a relationship w/ someone who doesn't want kids, then- hey, don't have kids. Don't expect them to change for you and whine when you get divorced or cheated on when they don't and you cling. Women should treat themselves better. He is not at fault, neither is she- people need to be intelligent about this.
ryddelwearsahat 7 months ago
I really don't like the man's advise. "he was honest and you're changing the rules" If he NEVER wanted kids, he should get a vasectomy. Otherwise, keep it in your pants or deal with the consequences! The lady is right though. It's your decision and you have to think about no one but yourself right now. If you do things for other people, you'll live with regrets.
andrachel 8 months ago
Wow, what piece of crap advice....
Here's my 2 cents: Don't feel guilty about you being pregnant, you did not "change the rules" like that idiot said.
Also, I can tell you straight off the bat when a guy says "oh, I don't like kids" or "I don't want to have kids"...that actually translates to "I don't want to have kids with you" He does not love you...so I say throw his good for nothing ass away and focus on your little miracle that you will love 100% and that will love you back the same!
xSakuranokaorix 8 months ago
what advice is this? ridiculous!
xXazrafaelXx 9 months ago
He should have had a vasectomy if he knew he never wanted to have kids. He should have protected himself with a snip snip. Although now atleast he shows his true colors. Does this woman really want to be with a guy that would say choose me or a baby. What a prick. This advice should have addressed the issue of him not having had a vasectomy.
Ironjawswife 9 months ago
She is trying to trap her man for child support. She didn't take her pill. You can't say you don't want kids, and decide to keep it anyway. It takes two to have sex, but sex is not purely reproductive and nobody that takes precautions should be "punished" for it. He was honest with her. Not to mention he's 46. He's not gonna change his mind. Everyone's writing him off as the wrong one, but sex is not something anyone should be punished for. And he was honest. She's the liar.
Shikara0Nara 9 months ago
@Shikara0Nara Ugg, people like you make me wanna puke.
nkaywage 7 months ago
@nkaywage I'm horrifically sorry my honesty bothers you that badly... badly enough you don't even care to explain what about my comment offended you so desperately.
Shikara0Nara 7 months ago
I WANT AN INDIAN WIFE
ukgreaterlondon 11 months ago
No he's not going to change his mind. I hate kids but I have one. My feelings didn't change when he was born. Pure and simple truth I'm not a parent, I can take care of my kid but I'm more of his friend than a father figure. I guess I just refuse to grow up, I'm not a man and never want to be. Fuck all that responsibility shit.
parsleysprigs 1 year ago
Oh my frickin' gosh "You're changing the rules???" The man made a baby with you! It's not her fault and he should man up. "She's" not changing the rules, the pregnancy they BOTH made changes things. Wow. This is ridiculous.
candicherry1987 1 year ago
@candicherry1987 I completely agree. Dumb advice. He should have had a vasectomy. My guess is with the attitude he had he thought it wasn't his responsibility to protect himself.
Ironjawswife 9 months ago
Baby murdering bastards..
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If I were a man I'd take care of the birth control myself - by using at least 3 methods at one time, to be safe. I wouldn't trust a woman with it. They're so careless. I can't understand why.
LindaDooWop 1 year ago
Um...she didn't change the rules...If he didn't want kids he should have not had sex with her...She didn't trick him into becoming pregnant... Protection doesn't always work...I don't like how he was blaming her....He needs to take some responsibility for the fact that with sex comes the responsibility of the possibility of pregnancy
SEBwear 1 year ago
@SEBwear OMG THANK YOU!! took the words out of my mouth! You two both are being total ass hole laying a blame on the woman like she purposely got pregnant. She said she was FINE with him not wanting kids. She got pregnant obviously because birth control failed! I feel SO sorry for that woman now because she stated clearly that she wanted the baby and seemed to be fine but was hoping he'd come around. Now she's probably feeling guilty and that baby will probably dine now because of u 2!
tpfastback 1 year ago
@tpfastback sorry typo meant "die now"
tpfastback 1 year ago
Hey, if women have all the authority ("my body, my choice"; parental rights, etc..), they must shoulder the responsibility. You can not force a man to be responsible for a situation he has no control over.
MoneyIsSilver 1 year ago
use a fucking condom dumb ass.. no abortion. is it wrong.
thenewkeg10609 1 year ago
ABORT : problem solved
joshuapunks 1 year ago
They made their bed their bed now they have to sleep in it . if he hated children so much why did he not get a vasectomy ? Why did she choose to date this type of man he was very honest from the begining .
misteeq64 1 year ago
abort.
lexighost 1 year ago
26 46 :O when she was like crawling and pooing in her pants he was having sex xx perverted. iv heard of like 1 to 6 years apart xx but thats jujst wrong. my opinion dont like it dont reply
jjjjjjjade 1 year ago
I don't like how the guy was all "he was up front and you're changing the rules"
It's a baby! In the words of one of my best friends "It takes two dumbass"
firexeye 1 year ago 2
For the record, the woman in the letter never said that her man did not want to pay child support. He just doesn't want to raise kids, but he might be "man enough" to at least give child support. True, they both should have used protection. But what's done is done. Why he didn't get "fixed," who knows? But, btw, I do know that it's sometimes doctors won't give single, childless men a vasectomy because they "might change their mind."
cmhllama 1 year ago
Just abort the fucking baby.
AWESOME90002 1 year ago
My dad didn't want me when my mom was pregnant with me, but when i was born, he said he came to the hospital, cried and held me all night. He told me he didn't want to leave me alone, he just wanted me close to him. My mom and grams proved he was right and that's what he really did. It really depends on the man the person is dating. Some men change their minds and eventually realise that being a father could be a great experience or some might just turn their back. Follow your heart.
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pandadust1 1 year ago
im 5 1/2 months preggo. and im only 20. i wouldnt have eer got an abortion even if my man didnt want it. i love being pregnant its the most amazing experience in life & i wouldnt change it for the world.
exohANNE 1 year ago
if he didnt want kids why didnt he use protection? seriously.......
cocobutter1983 1 year ago 10
that is so true
Yuiko1 1 year ago
she should coat hoaked that kid when she found out...wait till its born and give it to the gypsys
actuary33 1 year ago
dump him or go on a killing spree....
Duckyclub09 1 year ago
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I personally think the bitch should have had an abortion.
p1gta1p 1 year ago
p.s. Every human being is still alive before being born.... The baby deserves to live and not be murdered by his/her mother..... :'(
FuNkEeEMonkeee13 2 years ago
Wow, I hope Emma dumps the guy..
FuNkEeEMonkeee13 2 years ago
And, btw I don't agree with the advice given to this question. "WHAT IF" they say "he'll end up loving the kid he has with YOU even MORE?" Yeaahhh...welll....what if he DOESN'T? Look like you're up a $#!t creek then, don't it? Of course they never explore that poss. Having a kid based on a HYPOTHETICAL ASSUMPTION?? You CANNOT be serious. There are examples all around us of kids who never inspired that "magical luv moment" out of their dads, the kind dan&jen here are putting their chips on.
CactusHeart79 2 years ago
brittanyxxx UR a 'tard.That "it takes 2" is largely bullsh!t.Yes it takes to to F*(%, but when it comes to conception,it's largely the FEMALE'S responsibility to do w/what she will with that wad.If she doesn't want semen demons to invade her cervix, there are an endless variety of precautions to take.She didn't indicate2taking any so it'sCLEARwhat she was trying2do.Hate me for saying it,don't care, cuz it's true.Women who pull the "baby trap" on their man & act like "huh?" sickens me to my core.
CactusHeart79 2 years ago
Too bad so sad. Gonna pay for it one way or the other!
Removes 2 years ago
dump that old bastard and get urself, a guy thats ur age and luvs u and ur children nomatter wat!
TwinkleLT 2 years ago 2
This is why you stupid bastards should be married first!! The world is full of whores and sluts to whom I say fuck you!!
lKnowMyKidsAStar 2 years ago
THE GIRL WHO GOT PREGNANT SCREWD HERSELF.. I feel so bad for her!
Skillet48 2 years ago
As did the moron who impregnated her...can you spell CHILD SUPPORT? He's going to lose the girl, and yet STILL be required to pay up. What a fool.
brittanyxxx 2 years ago 4
If he didn't want kids so bad he should have used a condom. If he doesn't want to deal with that fact then he is a 40 year old child.
saffiewaffey 2 years ago
it only pisses me off that he won't bother to see his own son. that's it.
because he helped make a baby with me, been there the whole time. then decides that.
kittenripmaygo 2 years ago
she came up with some good answers and as for iryna1989..
single parenting isn't sorry.. it happens all the time.. you could be married and happy then all the sudden divorce and whatnot.
I agree if he didn't want children, he should have gotten an operation to prevent it happening.
I'm a single mom and I'm loving it.. my son's father decided it was too hard to raise a kid so he went about being a kid again at almost 20 years old. and I'm almost 21. and ignoring his son. yes it pisses me off
kittenripmaygo 2 years ago
Then why would they have sex in the first place if he didnt want a baby? Obviously sex adds up to pregnancy
OMJxOo 2 years ago
if he knew 100% sure he didnt want kids, he shoud have gotten fixed!! Obviously he wasnt completely sure, because he still ended up getting someone pregnant.
undiscoveredwonder 2 years ago 2
yes i agree if he didn't want any kid's he should of done something about it at the time! now it's too late, shouldn't of suck it up her lil pig lmao... your problem. deal with it and look after your fucking kid mother fucker!!!!!!!!!!
NRGtothemax 2 years ago
yeah but at the same time she could have planned this? remember she said she wants this baby! ummm very suspect.
propjam2 2 years ago
The guy should've been more responsible too. He was involved and made the choice to have sex, so he needs to man up and take responsibility
Comillia 2 years ago 2
If the guy doesn't wanna be with her she'll just need to find a guy that loves kids and doesn't mind that she has a couple.
screwdabrewcrew 2 years ago
Don't want kids??? Keep your fucking pants up!
Kutiekasey2085 2 years ago 44
umm.. how well did that work out for you? LOL.
Shameless1AtL 2 years ago
shitty advice lol
USE PROTECTION is mine ahah
BlondeEyeCandy 2 years ago
agreed...
he was straight up with you?
did she just take his semen and inserted it inside of her?
if he did not want children, than should have gotten that little procedure...
what an asshole...
the age difference is so big... of course he doesn't want children... he is getting ready to retire... single parent it is... so sorry...
iryna1989 2 years ago
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shiniekwaz 2 years ago
If he's in his forties and he doesn't want kids, having the baby won't make him change his mind. I think there's a lot the author of this letter is leaving out, like why they weren't using protection.
themadshangichannel 2 years ago
what an asshole. CHILD SUPPORT.
he can "get out" of the baby's life, but he still has to be financially responsible for it with child support. He really can't get out of this mess.
iluvrhcp1014 2 years ago 3
what a freakin ass. who would do tht?
sellysWeetsk8zr 2 years ago
The answer to that is no he won't change his mind and he will go out while your pregnant and end up knocking some other bitch up.
it happens trust me.
shannynlaine 2 years ago
Wow.. Dan & Jenn you guys really need to work on giving people better advice!!
jennaleeyoung 2 years ago 2
dude.. if u dont wants kids keep the freaking car out of the garage
666smilevictoria 2 years ago
hahaha...
Shehdginger 2 years ago
Islam is extremely logical in forcing us not to have such relationships before virtuous marriage.
What's the crime of this baby as it will not have its father (if she chooses the baby). And where will the baby go if she chooses the boyfriend? Kill it?
Condoms are useless because ,while having sex, no brain is there (for most of the teenagers).
Nothing is better than having your legal wife or husband and building your responsibility-based life.
spiritualitydesire 2 years ago
he didnt want kids but they were having unprotected sex?????? unles she tricked him and didnt take her birth control or something then he's a dick head
vickywog 2 years ago 4
I think that beore the baby is born, the parent (father) will get nervous about having the baby, taking care of it, just doesn't want the baby in his life. But once the baby is born, they become huge lovers :)
maxieornot 2 years ago
yea, you know why? because babies are "cute". what will happen when the child gets say 13, you think he'll always forget what he originally wanted (no kids)?
artep2122 2 years ago
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03alexp 2 years ago
Wow. "Its me or the baby." Nice thing to say.
-.-
KeverianKid 2 years ago 3
He's such an idiot. Even if she does choose to have the child, he still is financially responsible for that baby. Unless, she doesn't take child support from him? Which would be kind of stupid. Haha funny how he didn't want a child because he didn't want to be financially responsible. I guess the answer he wanted was her choosing him over the baby.
naaomi 2 years ago
how stupid can a man be. hu has no respect for his lover. its so stupid that we have guys like that in the world:(
magnus4656 2 years ago
its great having children, its just that... that man is a child himself! what kinda person can ask between him and the child? thats not gonna end well. some people can be so sick, its scary!
magnus4656 2 years ago
child support!!!. that man just dosent wanna grow up, its not the womens fault, she obviously didnt plan to get pregnant. She takes the responsibility for her actions, and a 46 year old man does not.
flowingover 2 years ago 4
Lady have some self repect move on let us not forget to make sure that daddy will paye child support .
misteeq64 2 years ago 3
oh well watch wat u do for now on and be a man
Flueryfan101 2 years ago
here's a question for the man in this relationship. He doesnt want kids, he said so in the beginning, and I respect that, they're not for everybody. It takes a man and a woman to get pregnant, and it is the man and only the man who can get a woman pregnant, not the other way around. That being said, if he did not want a child, why didnt he wear protection, or get a vasectomy? And it is obvious she wouldnt mind pregnant again, otherwise, she would have told him to put his raincoat on.
LilBabyMuffin 2 years ago 2
if he was so against having kids then he should have worn a rubber so he didn't have one. He is as much to blame as she is.
mammabutterfly75 2 years ago
Who says he didn't? Who says it wasn't an accident? Who says she didn't stop taking her pill to entrap him because SHE wanted another kid despite him making his feelings clear? To all those saying he should 'mature', why didn't she understand that simply wanting something doesn't mean she's entitled to it? I was taught as a kid "I want doesn't get", I'm sure she was too but I've found this is something most women disregard and call what they want "their right". It's BS, I feel sorry for the guy.
pete2778 2 years ago
What an asshole, that dude isn't mature and she needs to develope some self esteem and let him go.
Puregrl05 2 years ago
Why would you marry a woman if you didn't want children? C'mon, you should know if you marry a woman, she is going to want children 9 times out of 10. But also women should not try to have a baby with a man if they know they don't want one. Then it would be the woman's decision if she wants to stay with him or not. If you take the chance, then you can't break the rules.
Grapes428 2 years ago
leave him you can o better
jahamerican88 2 years ago
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catfight0 2 years ago
...Who the hell wants kids?
I think I know what happened, she wanted a kid, so she "forgot" to take the pill.
and Why is a 26 year old dating a 46 year old? that's fucking gross
Jet7445 2 years ago
why is an age diffrence gross?
gothicgirlyxxx 2 years ago
a tiny age difference like my girlfriend being 2 months older than me is fine, even like 10 years, but dude that's 20 years? and he's going to die 20 years before she does, it's just weird...
Jet7445 2 years ago
its not that weird,espically if the relationships working out,but for them i guess not.
im 19 turning 20 and my bf's 41,but hes absoultey amazing,weve been together over a year.and just because theirs an age diffrence means nothing.people thinks it odd,but nothing in this world is even normal anymore.
plus my bf being the age he is,i told him, if he ends up getting sick/or passes away before i do,i know i could properly take care of him.
gothicgirlyxxx 2 years ago
not necessarily. but i do agree with you about the age thing. 20 years is a bit much. well more like 25-30 years.
porksorts 2 years ago
What a stupid bitch. She's 26, unmarried, stuck with two kids now and unless she has rich parents she just fucked up their future because He can bail whenever he wants to. The irresponsibility of some people is just outrageous.
Coribec 3 years ago 3
In case you haven't noticed, it takes TWO individuals to conceive [and properly raise and nurture] a child. I personally feel that he's the dumbf*ck--he should have taken the necessary measures to prevent a pregnancy from occurring in the first place. Why is birth control ALWAYS the woman's responsibility? Use your minds, people...seriously, it takes TWO. Obviously he's immature and senseless if he feels the need to date somebody that young in the first place [no offense, but it's true].
brittanyxxx 2 years ago
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He knew the risks of having sex as much as the woman did. If he wasn't ready to face the consequences of a potential pregnancy then sex should have never happened. How can anyone 'blame' the woman for changing the rules in this situation...she didn't get herself pregnant!!!!
6spillers 3 years ago
he sounds like a dickhead if he made you choose but you knew that he didn't want them
mckennydarryl 3 years ago
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My mom says you can not get pregnant on acident. If you put your pee pee in a girls pee pee you shud know what will happen. How can that be a acident?
lKnowMyKidsAStar 3 years ago
wow.....just wow....
just a random question, are you in third grade?
romancese 2 years ago
Sex =/= pregnancy
Pregnancy is the accident, not neccessarily the sex. People have sex for non-reproductive motives. They have sex to bond with their partner, to expresse love, to feel pleasure, etc. 95% of the sex people have is not out of the intention to reproduce.
BTW- a vagina isn't a "pee pee", you pee out of your urethra.
kiwisunshine5233 2 years ago 23
My mom said you are a pervert.
lKnowMyKidsAStar 2 years ago 2
Your mom sucks ass and you are a douche.
kiwisunshine5233 2 years ago
@kiwisunshine5233 pregnancy is the main focus of sex is it not? i dont believe its an accident when so many methods are out there hell-bent on preventing it and people STILL get pregnant regardless of contraceptives...this is why u should be married to avoid all these problems. but, no i know...its not realistic u say, people are gonna have sex anyways. its just not logical to have sex out of marriage knowing all the strings attached...alas people do it anyways ;(
patriciacarrasco 8 months ago
well hes not even worth being with if he wants her to choose between him or a baby. if he doesnt have the same views as her and they dont agree on stuff like that then she shouldnt even be with him. and theres nothing wrong with being a single mom. its better to be a single mom than to give your child an asshole father who didnt want you in the first place, in my opinion!
ashleypaige1221 3 years ago
No-he will not change is mind. Just because you have his child that you are pregnant with doesnt mean that he will stay and love the baby.
I am thinking that she (deep down inside) wanted to 'trap' him and since she made that statement (he gets along great with my son so i dont understand why he wouldnt want his own) it sounds like she is trying to have the baby and put it in his face as if to say 'i know this baby is really what you want, deep down inside you want children'.
herewatchingutube 3 years ago 4
She got pregnant because she wanted to and wanted to trap him. She's dishonest. I could never do that to a man. (But then, I'm as maternal as a stone!)
AmusedChild 3 years ago 3
She got pregnant because she's a whore. They're desperate breeding whores.
p1gta1p 3 years ago
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If we weren't breeding then you would not be here you stupid dumbass!
xoxoannie7 2 years ago
If we weren't breeding, there would also be one less pissy natalist breeder.
There is such a thing as too much of a "good" thing, hence over crowded adoption centers.
kiwisunshine5233 2 years ago
Oh really? And you know this for a fact?
brittanyxxx 2 years ago
Yep.
AmusedChild 2 years ago
I hate women who want children. I hate those desperate skanks! I hate kids too.
p1gta1p 3 years ago
Same here!
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
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More power to ya.
p1gta1p 3 years ago
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Then you hate like ALL women you stupid SOB! Your just mad because no1 wants 2 fuck ur ugly ass!
xoxoannie7 2 years ago
he came back after five days and we talked and talked, he was by my side when i gave birth a week late (i think baby was waiting for his daddy to come home)and we are still together now two years on and strong as ever, but we were lucky it could have easily ended in me being on my own and sure i would have got on with it, but if I had known how against it he was, I might have thought twice before falling pregnant and saved alot of heartache, but now i wouldnt change a thing
starscreen80 3 years ago
when I fell pregnant for the second time my partner was far less struck on the idea then me due to money worries , the result was we had a tough spotalot of stress, arguements which ended up with me being walked out on a week prior to my due date,I felt totally abandond and at the time barely ate or slept i cried constanly and blamed myself, i didnt even want to go into labour i could not face it alone
starscreen80 3 years ago
Should have been more careful, both of them. But, yeah, he should be able to man-up if his woman is pregnant. If he really cares for her, he will stay. Otherwise, he's worthless.
CorpseBride777 3 years ago
Fuck you. This has nothing to do with being a man. Your worth is not determined by whether or not you're a parent/baby factory. If she really cares for him, she won't keep it. She knew his lifestyle, its obvious that he is unwilling to parent in the begining. A kid requires an ass load of money; 24 hour care for 18 years; being there in his/her life; love; & sacrifice of your own freedom, happiness, & life goals. Being a parent is a fucking ass load to ask for.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 4
to fucking had for him. hes a man enough to have sex so he can be man enough to have a kid.
joden02 3 years ago
Are you some type of retard? You've obviously never had a kid before. A kid requires an ass load of money, 24 hour care for 18 years, being there in his/her life, & love.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
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hi i am alivia age 10 in iowa. my mom says you shud not have sex if you are not maried. you shud give up the babe and go to church. god will forgive you if you dont do it agin.
lKnowMyKidsAStar 3 years ago
and god isn't real so your an idiot if you believe so...although it is truly your decicion but i am deadly serious...god does not exist so there is only you to forgive yourself if you abort and kill your child
LexiJane1990 3 years ago
Fuck is wrong with you? Why would you talk to a 10 year old like that? You fucking scumbag.
SinistaPlot 2 years ago
i am not a scumbag...it's fact...have you seen what an abortion is? do you know how hard it is to give up YOUR child to someone you DO NOT know...someone who could seem wonderful and look to have a great background but you find out years later they killed your kid? this is life...it's reality...not fantasy or whatever.
LexiJane1990 2 years ago
if you are really 10 ... why are you watching this?
steelarcher5 3 years ago
Think for yourself, kid. Your parents are not always right, especially in this case.
Marriage doesn't make you ready nor willing to have kids, childfree people can & do marry. Not everyone can get married. Gods do not exist & there is nothing to be forgiven of, sex is not a crime nor is it wrong.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
the baby is the best choice
azaxYyYyY 3 years ago
i ment baby
GodLight88 3 years ago
I mean choose the aby later for him there is pently of fish in the sea still lady .
GodLight88 3 years ago
but he said perfectly he doesnt want kids...well it's really hard :/
meepster08 3 years ago
if he really loved her he wouldnt put her through that my own opinion :/
meepster08 3 years ago
Through what? It's her decision. If he didn't give her the option of kid or him, he would just leave her. If she loved him, she wouldn't ruin his life by having a kid. She knows he's childfree.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 3
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To just put it bluntly, it's his own fault. He didn't want kids yet he took the chance of having sex. It's unfair to her that she has to choose.
roCKtheARTs93 3 years ago
It takes two to tango, they're both equal in "fault". There is nothing wrong with having sex for things other than *gasp* procreation! How is having to choose "unfair"? At least she can choose!They chouldn't be together either way. Do you think their relationship would survive without ever having sex (they're obviously not asexual)?
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 3
Yeah, but it's unclear how this pregnancy happened. Was he wearing a condom? Was she on birth control? Did she get pregnant on purpose?
But in this case, choosing isn't unfair. He was honest with her. Getting pregnant doesn't automatically change things!
lavinder11 3 years ago 4
It could matter less how or why it happened in the 1st place, its not going to change the stituation. She's pregnant & he doesn't want it.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
When people point fingers (rock) without all facts, then it does matter. She's sending in a question about the fairness of the situation. She knew he didn't want children. If she had this baby on purpose (by not taking birth control, etc) then it's her fault she's in this situation.
I guess what I was getting at is that people think they have the power to change someone else when in reality they don't.
But you're right, she's pregnant and he doesn't want it. Nothing can change that.
lavinder11 3 years ago
read my comments from the bottom up, I ran out of room and had to split them up like that.
selenarene 3 years ago
Youre just insensitive... And how am I ungreatful? BC I dont have my own children? Thats like me saying you are selfish and ungreatful for not WANTING to have children, and by the way im not saying that, and I wouldnt say that bc I believe thats your choice... On the other hand, my opinion comes in when one is actually pregnant, their excuse is over population or they just dont want a baby right now, and they want an
selenarene 3 years ago
I'm not just "insensitive" & its bc you have something convenient that I & others don't have, infertility. You can adopt, ppl put too much value on fertility & having genetic kids. Parents should love their children the same reguardless of being genetically theirs or not. It's not an excuss, it's a valid reason. You should only give birth if you want to. Women are not incubators & baby factories for childless people to take when there are hundred thousands of already existing children.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
It makes no sense for you to what women to give birth to children they don't want, not doing anyone any good. Children deserve closure of having loving parents that will take care of them. Think of it this way: the unwanted child being born to unready parents would make the child the parents who of have when they're ready non-existant.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
And you obviouly have never struggled with infertily or youd never say they things you said about adoption. (Lucky for you you dont want children, bc I would never even want someone like you that has opposite opinions about me like you, or my worst enemy to go through this, thats how horrible it is.) Did I ever say I was closed to that? Not at all. abortion.
My purpose isnt to argue with you, it to get you to understand where im coming from, but we dont really need to name call.
selenarene 3 years ago
Again, ppl put too much value on fertility & genetic children. Even if I wanted children, which I did at a time, & was infertile, I wouldn't shed a single tear & happily adopt. Obviously having children isn't the problem which I could understand, but it's having genetic children. There is no real reason to cry over not having genetic children. All the reasons to have genetic children are stupid: wanting a sense of immortality, wanting to feel something growing in them, wanting a mini-me, etc.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 3
why is it stupid to want your own child? I look at my son and I can see me aqnd my husband in him I dont think I could feel as close to him if he wasnt "mine"
pjoker 3 years ago
Because the reasons for it are stupid & shallow. A real parent would love their child just as much if it was not genetic, it's unconditional love.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 6
But if you REALLY dont want to get pregnant/make someone pregnant then you have to be responsible... obviously they werent, that doesnt make them have the right to kill a child just to be not pregnant again. Homosexuality and children is a whole other subject.
selenarene 3 years ago
They probably were being responsible by using birthcontrol, the childrfree are the ones to be more worried & educated to use it. Birthcontrol can fail, its not 100% efficent. I don't want an abortion debate, but girls have the right of bodily & reproductive freedom & security of person. Fetii aren't children. Abortion is not the case for the couple since she has to either dump the guy or raise the child, she doesn't necessarily have to abort to keep the guy, just give it up for adoption.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
BTW... the united states has no problems with over population... (besides the ppl that decided to live in over populated cities... but there is a lot of space in the rest of the us for lots and lots of people.) This lady has no idea what shes talking about. Its almost funny.
selenarene 3 years ago
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The ONLY reason a woman should have a baby is because she wantes it... that is the most ignorant thing ive ever heard in my life. A woman sholdnt have sex if she doesnt want to be pregnant... same with a man. Ive struggled with infertility for over 2 years and my never have childrent... people would love to be in her suprised shoes. I just dont understand how someone can "choose" baby or no. Disgusting.
selenarene 3 years ago
It doesn't just take "I wanna baby" to raise one, you also need to think of the potential baby's situation & how responsible you can be as a parent. You're ignorant, sex is not reserved for breeders, asshole. So you think childfree people & homosexual people should never have sex then? I'm childfree, I'd love to be in YOUR ungreatful shoes! Not everyone wants to be a parent & not everyone wants to forever give up their sex life. You can always adopt, it's a better alternative.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago 3
You should think of the hundreds of thousands already existing children without parents and not be under self-pity just because you can't make yourself make your belly stretching to the size of a basketball and has your genes. This is an opportunity to not contribute to over population and to make one or more existing orphans happy.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
Im not the ignorant one. Youre the on that thinks this world is over populated. Theres plenty of room and I stand by that. I live in Kansas, so dont tell me were running out of room.
And I didnt say you couldnt have sex, but sex is for procreation... thats why you can get pregnant when you have sex... it makes sense.
selenarene 3 years ago
If you can't understand that the grass is greener & sex is only for 1 thing, you are.I never said the world is overpopulated,I was talking about preventing it.But there are also overpopulated areas like China which people can help by adopting kids out.Sex is for whatever a person wants it to be, it is subjective.5% of the time that people have sex is for procreation.You can also get an STI from sex, that doesn't mean sex is for spreading STIs.Precreation is only one of the many functions of sex
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
Correction, I mean "sex is NOT only for one thing" in the first sentance.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
Agreed 100%, although I'd say 'beachball' instead of 'basketball'!
pete2778 2 years ago
"A woman shouldn't have sex if she doesn't want to be pregnant." Ladies, this is your brain (and probably your figure) on mommyness. Any questions?
AmusedChild 3 years ago 4
This woman is deluded if she thinks that by having a baby, her partner will suddenly "see the light" and love her/the child.
Of course, judging by her previous "oops" (now in the form of a 5 year old), I doubt she carries the best judgment to begin with.
Seriously ladies, stop having babies with LOSERS. Do the world a favor.
practicaldreamyr 3 years ago
Just because a person doesn't want kids doesn't mean they're losers. In fact, childfree people are generally better off than parents.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
That was not my implication AT ALL. I'm saying this guy's a loser, childfree or not. And btw, I'm childfree, and for good reason.
practicaldreamyr 3 years ago
Whoops, actually, I was referring to the original baby daddy (who fathered the 5 year old) and making a general statement. I applaud anyone who makes a willful and responsible decision when it comes to procreation.
practicaldreamyr 3 years ago
the guy in the question sounds like a whiny little bitch...sack up and be a man
and Im a guy too
Revbone450 3 years ago
You are ignorant of how much childfree people don't want kids. You are too ignorant to see how much people don't desire the slightest bit to have children, how they don't see kids exactly as a "boundle of joy". Having children is a thing to not be taken lightly. No one is obligated to raise children. That wretch expects him to grow paternal feeling once the baby pops out, dumb bitch. She knew how he wanted to live his life, she has no right to stand in his way. I'm a girl too.
kiwisunshine5233 3 years ago
I wish I could meet a woman like you! Every time I get into a LTR the woman who starts the relationship with me says they either don't want kids or ar open to the idea of not having them, I'm totally honest from the start and tell them I NEVER want kids, within a year it's always the same - Baby rabies: the illogical and unassailable desire to breed with someone who doesn't want to. Normally they end up cheating or just leaving me because I don't miraculously change just because they did.
pete2778 2 years ago