It's so true that things usually turn out completely the opposite of what you feared they. One of my friends (who was among the last I came out to) had made transphobic remarks in the past was incredibly mature and supportive about this his response when I asked him if he had any questions was "Should I have questions? You became the person you felt you should be."
Excuse me, miss? Why do you have the exact same personality and humor as one of my friends? You do but I am just kidding. He is a very feminine straight guy (he doesn't come of as gay, but just very feminine not to say that trans are necessarily gay). You even remind me of him by looking at you. You even have the same type voice. It took me a while to figure out why I like you so much.
I pretty much only clicked this link becuase you looked like Falicia Day in the thumb nail. But I'm really glad you have such great advice for transyouth (and some older people too) who are coming out in life.
@candiFLA You have an English degree? Woah, I'd always gotten the impression you were in, like, engineering or something techy. Y'know, one of those fields that are actually employable. ;P
And thanks for the compliment! You, creact, karmatic1110, grishno and Serena4226's videos gave me a much needed outlet to feel a little saner.
Also, holy coincidences Batman! Because I, too, am Batman.
Also also, I liek oo and we should be friends fo' ev-evs, mm'kay?
This was a really good video :) I recently just came out to my partner and thankfully it turned out fine. On the parents front though, I will be taking your advise.
@watermellony Thanks much for saying so. Coming out to GF was very scary, even scarier than coming out to my folks. But much to my eternal surprise and rapture, she loved me for me. I hope things with your partner went well, as I find any amount of good response in coming out beats the hell out of the decades of self-torture that lead up to it.
Good answer. Seriously, I've always thought that the best approach was using common sense coupled with serious thought about what you're going to say - and- how they're likely to react to what you have to tell them. Do be prepared with answers to their questions ... Nobody reacts well with an unprepared response. Ok ... That was my two cents worth ...
@mystriousgrl Good point yourself. I'll agree with what my therapist used to say, too. Don't provide the Qs if you don't have the As. As in, don't start forcing yourself to answer more than you're ready to just to make it easier for other people to understand. Being trans doesn't have to do (greatly) with sexuality or even surgeries, so if a person's undecided they shouldn't be compelled to feed people an answer they're not ready to give.
It's so true that things usually turn out completely the opposite of what you feared they. One of my friends (who was among the last I came out to) had made transphobic remarks in the past was incredibly mature and supportive about this his response when I asked him if he had any questions was "Should I have questions? You became the person you felt you should be."
rvbgeek 4 months ago
Are you ginger princess from tgdating.com?
nichya11 6 months ago
you are very enjoyable to listen to!
freekylovejoy 8 months ago
you are a cute,spunky thing.
cherubicnerd 9 months ago
Excuse me, miss? Why do you have the exact same personality and humor as one of my friends? You do but I am just kidding. He is a very feminine straight guy (he doesn't come of as gay, but just very feminine not to say that trans are necessarily gay). You even remind me of him by looking at you. You even have the same type voice. It took me a while to figure out why I like you so much.
bloodandbones9 1 year ago
I pretty much only clicked this link becuase you looked like Falicia Day in the thumb nail. But I'm really glad you have such great advice for transyouth (and some older people too) who are coming out in life.
picnicfacefan 1 year ago
You are too precious! :)
trevorhoen 1 year ago
Nice to meet another EXTREMELY strange person. :)
Holy shit.. you have an English Degree too. me too!
Good tips and planning for the worst is a very smart move.
Is that a batman box behind you? I'm batman!
candiFLA 1 year ago
@candiFLA You have an English degree? Woah, I'd always gotten the impression you were in, like, engineering or something techy. Y'know, one of those fields that are actually employable. ;P
And thanks for the compliment! You, creact, karmatic1110, grishno and Serena4226's videos gave me a much needed outlet to feel a little saner.
Also, holy coincidences Batman! Because I, too, am Batman.
Also also, I liek oo and we should be friends fo' ev-evs, mm'kay?
translabyrinth 1 year ago
This was a really good video :) I recently just came out to my partner and thankfully it turned out fine. On the parents front though, I will be taking your advise.
watermellony 1 year ago
@watermellony Thanks much for saying so. Coming out to GF was very scary, even scarier than coming out to my folks. But much to my eternal surprise and rapture, she loved me for me. I hope things with your partner went well, as I find any amount of good response in coming out beats the hell out of the decades of self-torture that lead up to it.
translabyrinth 1 year ago
Good answer. Seriously, I've always thought that the best approach was using common sense coupled with serious thought about what you're going to say - and- how they're likely to react to what you have to tell them. Do be prepared with answers to their questions ... Nobody reacts well with an unprepared response. Ok ... That was my two cents worth ...
mystriousgrl 1 year ago
@mystriousgrl Good point yourself. I'll agree with what my therapist used to say, too. Don't provide the Qs if you don't have the As. As in, don't start forcing yourself to answer more than you're ready to just to make it easier for other people to understand. Being trans doesn't have to do (greatly) with sexuality or even surgeries, so if a person's undecided they shouldn't be compelled to feed people an answer they're not ready to give.
translabyrinth 1 year ago