ONE WORD: GROSS! SMH! BUT I BET SHE EX PORNO WHORE THAT'S WHY SHE MARRY THIS UGLY OLD NASTY RACIST SLAVE MASTER! BLACK WOMEN ARE STILL SLAVES AND SHAME!
you guys are awesome! God will bless you with more children in the future im sure because you appear to be great parents and many children out here would be lucky to have you...sometimes God just allows unfortunate situations to prepare us for the better that is about to come...God Bless you all! (from a former foster care alumni)...go check out my video on interracial adoption when you have the time!
WOW!!! I applaud your efforts BUT, I COULD NOT & WOULD NOT RISK MY OWN CHILDREN WITH THESE TROUBLED YOUTH IN MY HOME!!! ....SORRY BUT THERE'S THE DOOR!!!...
I went from following you about hair tips to interacial dating and now about adoption. We have a lot in common. I wish your family success in finding the right situation in adopting. My brother is adopted. We didn't get all the background info on him until later and my mother wasn't given any tools on how to handle his problems. That was 30 years ago and we have since made it work but it was rough at first.
i have been following a lot of your videos and to be honest I really admire and envy you....i wish to be in such a relationship where both the husband and wife are doing things together...kee it up u have really encouraged and motivated some of us....
Know your rights as a foster parent, you have many. Advocate for yourself and foster children. Speak with the child law guradian.
11) The right to receive any information through the Division of Family and Children Services regarding the number of times a foster child has been moved and the reasons therefor; and to receive the names and phone numbers of the previous foster parents if the previous foster parents have authorized such release and as allowable under state and federal law;
@eulah22100 Great information...we had it. We may have had a right but we were not given accurate information and the new listing for the boys on the exchange don't even hint that the oldest has any special needs. Case workers need to be held accountable for misleading and "packaging" children for adoption rather than being honest and taking their time to find the perfect sort of parent for the individual child/ren who need placement. They "lost" information on the original therapist too.
@oooop95 And why should we ever question that the case workers would lie.? We know better now but this vid is to inform people of the sorts of things you don't get trained about. We were never trained to believe that that case workers would outright lie or withhold info. Just so you know we were not given all the information, we asked. We know the prior placement never even took them to therapy and lied about it for 3 years without the case workers knowing until we tried to start therapy.
11) The right to receive any information through the Division of Family and Children Services regarding the number of times a foster child has been moved and the reasons therefor; and to receive the names and phone numbers of the previous foster parents if the previous foster parents have authorized such release and as allowable under state and federal law;
Foster children have been through some real stuff.No matter how beautiful your home is, or how many things you buy for your foster child, that will not prevent them from acting out, being sad, afraid, going into crisis etc. To see them blossom and trust the world, you have to stick it out with them.
@eulah22100 ... Perpetration was a deal breaker. You can judge me about that if you like and you could be mad at me for having that stipulation. It is your call to view me and my family in a lumped category of weak people who fail to know what "real" fostering is about. All I can say to that is..."alright then". I feel the tragedy in all of this is why train people to believe that they have a place in foster care if they won't tolerate sexual victimizers...
@eulah22100... If we had been told we either needed to be ok with everything that foster children could bring along as baggage or not apply, then we would not have applied. We were told that asking for non perps was just like asking for only babies, or only white children or single children, or only smart kids ... all things that are routinely asked for.Our only breaking point was with perpetration if that makes us unfit foster parents then put us on the naughty list quick!
@oooop95 BTW we never gave them back, we wanted them! We just wanted the oldest to be placed within the family in an only child household so he could think straight and start to ...if you will.."detox". All the therapist though this was ideal and all r parents wanted to help even with the knowledge. The case workers said "no" and we were told they would both go if they could not live in r home together. Them being "Bad" (your wording) was never an issue. They acted up all the time like kids do.
Yes case workers can give foster parents more support , but foster parents need to stop sending the message that your love and acceptance is contingent on the child obeyng all your rules and being the perfect kid. Foster Child are smart, they know more about the world than most adults do give yourself and the foster child a chance to bond. Ride the waves with them, learn from the first crisis to learn how to deal with them in the future.
@eulah22100 ...To make and informed decision because they shuffled the boys along as if they were one more file to get off their desk. It sounds as if you work in this industry and I am not making an attack against you. I am sure you are a great case worker, inspite of our bad experience we know they exist. However the fact remains we were mislead and the placement was a poor one for it. When we were trained we were told to be honest about what we could and could not deal with and for...
a foster parent is not doing a foster child a favor for keeping them. Foster children want to know and feel that you are for them and are willing to ride the journey with them. Some foster children stay in care all their life, beacuse foster parents kept giving them back. If everyone give them back and no one is willing to teach them then how will they learn?
@eulah22100 If case workers stoped lying about the problems the foster children had more people could make good choices about the children they would be better matched for. I don't blame the boys one bit. I blame shady Case Workers who suffle children along as if they were cattle instead of working hard to make sure they know the foster children well enough to place them properly. These ladies were clueless at best and liars at worst and the boy's were made to suffer for it.
@eulah22100 You make valid points about Foster parents. I'll give you that however in this case we never felt we were doing the boys a favor. We felt blessed by them and miss them still. We should never have been placed with them and we wouldn't have if the Case workers had done their job with as much love and care as you clearly feel Foster parents should give. We have since found out that they knew of the boy's issues and they did not disclose. We were not given the chance ...
(8) The right prior to the placement of a child to be notified of any issues relative to the child that may jeopardize the health and safety of the foster family or the child or alter the manner in which foster care should be administered;
9) The right to discuss information regarding the child prior to placement. The Division of Family and Children Services will provide such information as it becomes available as allowable under state and federal laws
Confidentialy should be respected. Would a foster parent give their biological child back if they broke a rule, then why give a foster child back. It is a great thing to have the love and respect of your foster child, but you have to work for it the same way you would work to get the love and respect from your biological child. Yes foster children come with issues, "Real Issues" Real big big issues, I work with foster children everyday and they all wish for a foster parent who wouldnt give up.
@eulah22100 Perhaps you misunderstood. Perpetration was incompatible with our family from the begining. We always said we were ok with victims but not with perpetrators. If my bio children were perps we would work through it. If the adoption had gone through and then we learned of the victimization we would have worked through it. However we were never willing to enter into an adoptive situation with a known victimizer. If it had just been my husband and I the boys would still be here...
You are liviing proof that no one could ever live with white people. You kill and murder and destroy. Then you say to the people you destroy we should forget. You make monuments to the people that died fighting for your freedom. But you say to us we should forget. Then tear down the Washington monument. Shut down the military channel. Stop teaching American history college. Stop celebrating your founding fathers. White people are disgusting selfish conciousless animals
My heart goes out to these 2 young boys. Sexual molestation needs to be dealt with in an open, empathetic environment. It sounds like the system has failed them in the past and may continue to do so. Both of them need help with controlling their demons so that they don't harm or violate others. I hope they find some kind of healing or sense of wholeness before it's too late.
@sambrosiac, Telling the truth is not "putting folks down", it is called help. Just as it is important for this couple to share their experience to help adoptive families, I too shared what I know to be helpful. Soemtimes the teacher needs educating. The key here is NOT to focus on knowing what to expect from the foster care system but what to potentially expect from kids, and take responsibility for the kids actions and fealings. Maybe, a different adoption decision may have been made.
I think that you are a great family, but you clearly are not capable of being adoptive parents. It is hard enough rearing the children who start out in your house from birth. But essentially, children in foster care are there because of disfunction in their prior families. That dysfunction could be any kind of abuse or neglect, and or just no capable familiy member willing to take them. Hence, the result brings challenges to your family. The kids need parents who can tackle those problems.
@alecniles This is their first adoption attempt and not every kid will be a perfect fit for every family. It's sad that sometimes kids have to go from house to house, but sometimes that's what it takes to find the right family with the skills/background needed for that particular child. If only those who cld tackle every dysfunction a foster child may have were allowed to adopt, the list of ppl availiable to adopt would be even shorter than it is now. Stop putting others down that seek to help.
caseworkers were aware of the issues surrounding the boys, their previous placements & their social/sexual issues. It would make their job harder in placement , so they choose not 2 disclose everything. The fact that the children had no clear understanding why they were in the foster care system for 3yrs& telling u to lie about the postponement was a big clue . U2 seemed very diligent in ur approach to understanding the boys & being forthright with them ... I commend you for that.
I think you have the right to be open about your experience especially since you were so excited about the adoption and you were so kind to open up your life and home to others. Who seems not to be open were the people who sent such traumatised kids to you without informing you. From what I have seen I can not even remember what the kids looked like and I'm not going to dig into that. I hope everything workes out fine for them in life.
Goodness me, the adoption process definitely wasn't straight forward. You're a strong family as I personally wouldn't be able to deal with half as much as you've been through.
wow! I'm so sorry about everything. I have some many comments and questions, but I will limit it. First question: Did the caseworkers know about the disorders and the sexual abuse that the children had endured? If so, why did they not inform you?! I feel as though you should have been given that information being that you have three girls in the home.
@YaNVme Looking back we feel that they did know. They claimed not to know but were so mad once it came out. They weren't mad for the boys or even interested in details about the 1st placement they were mad like this was a big inconvienence. They said they boys were not molested or acting out sexually. They said they were sexually curious but you could say that about anyone. I don't know how they could be in the system for almost 3yrs and not know anything until our home.
this is sad but telling this story. Isn't this against the confidentiality law that they have? I'm just curious because these videos can actually harm the child if people who know them and you get a hold to this vidoe. In the fact that you went and made 2 videos detailing these children past let us know that you probably talk about their personal business that you suppose to keep sacret with family, friends, and co wokers.
@dothadamnthang I appreciate your concern for the boys, but no privacy act info has been made public. We owe the system nothing. Thiere names & location as well as ours have been protected. All inferences as to who they are would be conjecture. As to those closest to us, they would already know because they would have already asked and been turned down for sleep over and playdate requests once we were aware of the issues (we never went into detail about why when they were with us).
@dothadamnthang The purpose of this video was to give potential foster to adopt parents a glimps of what can happen on this journey especially with bum case workers. No one ever discussed this with anyone at work. Plus we are state mandated 1st reporters we have to tell about abuse known or suspected. This vid protects all names and locations. Again all inferences as to who we are specifically discussing would be conjecture. Hope this helps.
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
@eulah22100 ok would you bring a child in your home who might violate your children or a small child who you love or would you get them help before you put them in a place where they might hurt other ppl
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
No judgement, but I agree with you@ dot. Confidentialy should be respected. if you would give your biological child back if they broke a rule, then why would you give a foster child back. Its a previlegde to have the love and respect of your foster child, but you have to work for it the same way you work to get the love and respect from your biological child. Yes foster children come with issues, "Real Issues" and Foster parents know this.
I think that what you guys attempted to do was very loving, selfless, and generous. I think you should applaud yourselves for what you've done. I pray that the boys will continue to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually,
P.S. I think it's funny the way Tony gets three words out of his mouth and then you interrupt him. I do this to my husband too (he hates it) lol.
I just wanted to let you know that i highly comend you for your adoption process and making that decision and it touches my heart because I am adopted myself and when i look back on my life i truly see how blessed i am. I am so sorry to hear that it did not work out and the troubles that you have experienced. I hope that everything works out and you both have a happy family :)
I'm so sorry you all had to experience this and I truly appreciate you sharing this with us!! love you Imani!! God Bless you & your beautiful family!!
Oh my Word!!! Bless you all, hun!!! Oh my Word!!!! I can tell that you all are really devastated....I am so sorry that you all had to experience this.... I will definitely be praying for you all.
Sometimes the people that come into our lives are not always meant to stay but are meant to be impacted by us for the better. I truly wish a happy ending for your family and those two boys. Be blessed
I pray for these children. The foster child system has it positives and negatives. It really hurts the heart to know innocent children continue to be abused and taken advantage of...also, I don't understand how professionals condone lying. Where did they receive that concept in their training and education? Studies show people tend to do better if they know what to expect.
Mercy..God bless you all for all the patience that you had with them and for everything came out! My prayers go out to those boys. Just a sad situation. Thank you for sharing your story!
I am speechles, but unfortunately, this happens more often than not when children are in foster care. I will keep your family as well as the boys in my thoughts and prayers. my goodness, I hate to think how these boys will turn out without immediate intervention of therapy. May God be with them.
This is why I never fostered and understand why people leave it. You literally have to be an institution for children and that's often hard to do when you open your home (heart). Your family has my prayers.
Oh my Gosh, I am so sorry. I am here crying. This is so sad, I hope they can get help. I have always want to adopt but I know it is hard especially with older ones. I wish you and your family the best in search. Thank you for at least opening your heart, home to the boys may be they can reflect on that one day as they heal.
It is a shame all these problems are happening,looks like you would make good parents.it is also sad that the care process seems to have let them down.what going to happen to them now?
Wow! this is deep, so much has gone on, i feel for you as a family, but most of all i feel for those boys. Sick people (adults) out there are creating vicious cycles for the new generation. Aoooow, this makes me really sad. I have always wanted to adopt, but my hubby is not so kee, because of stuff like this. Can't wait to watch part 2. You are two lovely people!
Oh my word?!? I am so sorry to hear this. I know how much you wanted those boys. God will never give you what you cannot bare. God bless you and your hubby for sharing this with us. You are in our prayers.
God bless you and your family! You guy are awesome!
DRspice1977 1 month ago
God bless you and your family
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ONE WORD: GROSS! SMH! BUT I BET SHE EX PORNO WHORE THAT'S WHY SHE MARRY THIS UGLY OLD NASTY RACIST SLAVE MASTER! BLACK WOMEN ARE STILL SLAVES AND SHAME!
swagboi7 1 month ago
you guys are awesome! God will bless you with more children in the future im sure because you appear to be great parents and many children out here would be lucky to have you...sometimes God just allows unfortunate situations to prepare us for the better that is about to come...God Bless you all! (from a former foster care alumni)...go check out my video on interracial adoption when you have the time!
MrsNessa2013 4 months ago
WOW!!! I applaud your efforts BUT, I COULD NOT & WOULD NOT RISK MY OWN CHILDREN WITH THESE TROUBLED YOUTH IN MY HOME!!! ....SORRY BUT THERE'S THE DOOR!!!...
dweakley1 5 months ago
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leelulove24 7 months ago
I like you guys. Will start to subscribe.
Ncw771 8 months ago
I went from following you about hair tips to interacial dating and now about adoption. We have a lot in common. I wish your family success in finding the right situation in adopting. My brother is adopted. We didn't get all the background info on him until later and my mother wasn't given any tools on how to handle his problems. That was 30 years ago and we have since made it work but it was rough at first.
sweetazzcat 10 months ago
ich liebe diese video!!
liebe grüsse aus Deutschland!!
carabandunga 1 year ago 2
i have been following a lot of your videos and to be honest I really admire and envy you....i wish to be in such a relationship where both the husband and wife are doing things together...kee it up u have really encouraged and motivated some of us....
worldcomingtoanend 1 year ago
Sorry about the new's! hope you get your wish for more kid's.
AmbrosiusVanllin60 1 year ago
Know your rights as a foster parent, you have many. Advocate for yourself and foster children. Speak with the child law guradian.
11) The right to receive any information through the Division of Family and Children Services regarding the number of times a foster child has been moved and the reasons therefor; and to receive the names and phone numbers of the previous foster parents if the previous foster parents have authorized such release and as allowable under state and federal law;
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 Great information...we had it. We may have had a right but we were not given accurate information and the new listing for the boys on the exchange don't even hint that the oldest has any special needs. Case workers need to be held accountable for misleading and "packaging" children for adoption rather than being honest and taking their time to find the perfect sort of parent for the individual child/ren who need placement. They "lost" information on the original therapist too.
oooop95 1 year ago
@oooop95 And why should we ever question that the case workers would lie.? We know better now but this vid is to inform people of the sorts of things you don't get trained about. We were never trained to believe that that case workers would outright lie or withhold info. Just so you know we were not given all the information, we asked. We know the prior placement never even took them to therapy and lied about it for 3 years without the case workers knowing until we tried to start therapy.
oooop95 1 year ago
foster parents bill of rights
11) The right to receive any information through the Division of Family and Children Services regarding the number of times a foster child has been moved and the reasons therefor; and to receive the names and phone numbers of the previous foster parents if the previous foster parents have authorized such release and as allowable under state and federal law;
eulah22100 1 year ago
Foster children have been through some real stuff.No matter how beautiful your home is, or how many things you buy for your foster child, that will not prevent them from acting out, being sad, afraid, going into crisis etc. To see them blossom and trust the world, you have to stick it out with them.
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 ... Perpetration was a deal breaker. You can judge me about that if you like and you could be mad at me for having that stipulation. It is your call to view me and my family in a lumped category of weak people who fail to know what "real" fostering is about. All I can say to that is..."alright then". I feel the tragedy in all of this is why train people to believe that they have a place in foster care if they won't tolerate sexual victimizers...
oooop95 1 year ago
@eulah22100... If we had been told we either needed to be ok with everything that foster children could bring along as baggage or not apply, then we would not have applied. We were told that asking for non perps was just like asking for only babies, or only white children or single children, or only smart kids ... all things that are routinely asked for.Our only breaking point was with perpetration if that makes us unfit foster parents then put us on the naughty list quick!
oooop95 1 year ago
@oooop95 BTW we never gave them back, we wanted them! We just wanted the oldest to be placed within the family in an only child household so he could think straight and start to ...if you will.."detox". All the therapist though this was ideal and all r parents wanted to help even with the knowledge. The case workers said "no" and we were told they would both go if they could not live in r home together. Them being "Bad" (your wording) was never an issue. They acted up all the time like kids do.
oooop95 1 year ago
Yes case workers can give foster parents more support , but foster parents need to stop sending the message that your love and acceptance is contingent on the child obeyng all your rules and being the perfect kid. Foster Child are smart, they know more about the world than most adults do give yourself and the foster child a chance to bond. Ride the waves with them, learn from the first crisis to learn how to deal with them in the future.
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 ...To make and informed decision because they shuffled the boys along as if they were one more file to get off their desk. It sounds as if you work in this industry and I am not making an attack against you. I am sure you are a great case worker, inspite of our bad experience we know they exist. However the fact remains we were mislead and the placement was a poor one for it. When we were trained we were told to be honest about what we could and could not deal with and for...
oooop95 1 year ago
a foster parent is not doing a foster child a favor for keeping them. Foster children want to know and feel that you are for them and are willing to ride the journey with them. Some foster children stay in care all their life, beacuse foster parents kept giving them back. If everyone give them back and no one is willing to teach them then how will they learn?
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 If case workers stoped lying about the problems the foster children had more people could make good choices about the children they would be better matched for. I don't blame the boys one bit. I blame shady Case Workers who suffle children along as if they were cattle instead of working hard to make sure they know the foster children well enough to place them properly. These ladies were clueless at best and liars at worst and the boy's were made to suffer for it.
oooop95 1 year ago
@eulah22100 You make valid points about Foster parents. I'll give you that however in this case we never felt we were doing the boys a favor. We felt blessed by them and miss them still. We should never have been placed with them and we wouldn't have if the Case workers had done their job with as much love and care as you clearly feel Foster parents should give. We have since found out that they knew of the boy's issues and they did not disclose. We were not given the chance ...
oooop95 1 year ago
Foster care bill of rights.
(8) The right prior to the placement of a child to be notified of any issues relative to the child that may jeopardize the health and safety of the foster family or the child or alter the manner in which foster care should be administered;
9) The right to discuss information regarding the child prior to placement. The Division of Family and Children Services will provide such information as it becomes available as allowable under state and federal laws
eulah22100 1 year ago
Confidentialy should be respected. Would a foster parent give their biological child back if they broke a rule, then why give a foster child back. It is a great thing to have the love and respect of your foster child, but you have to work for it the same way you would work to get the love and respect from your biological child. Yes foster children come with issues, "Real Issues" Real big big issues, I work with foster children everyday and they all wish for a foster parent who wouldnt give up.
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 Perhaps you misunderstood. Perpetration was incompatible with our family from the begining. We always said we were ok with victims but not with perpetrators. If my bio children were perps we would work through it. If the adoption had gone through and then we learned of the victimization we would have worked through it. However we were never willing to enter into an adoptive situation with a known victimizer. If it had just been my husband and I the boys would still be here...
oooop95 1 year ago
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You are liviing proof that no one could ever live with white people. You kill and murder and destroy. Then you say to the people you destroy we should forget. You make monuments to the people that died fighting for your freedom. But you say to us we should forget. Then tear down the Washington monument. Shut down the military channel. Stop teaching American history college. Stop celebrating your founding fathers. White people are disgusting selfish conciousless animals
shaparnapash 1 year ago
My heart goes out to these 2 young boys. Sexual molestation needs to be dealt with in an open, empathetic environment. It sounds like the system has failed them in the past and may continue to do so. Both of them need help with controlling their demons so that they don't harm or violate others. I hope they find some kind of healing or sense of wholeness before it's too late.
cantsingalick 1 year ago 8
who's moving in the background at 5:42
kenidrak 1 year ago
@kenidrak Our Lab, Onyx :)
oooop95 1 year ago
@sambrosiac, Telling the truth is not "putting folks down", it is called help. Just as it is important for this couple to share their experience to help adoptive families, I too shared what I know to be helpful. Soemtimes the teacher needs educating. The key here is NOT to focus on knowing what to expect from the foster care system but what to potentially expect from kids, and take responsibility for the kids actions and fealings. Maybe, a different adoption decision may have been made.
alecniles 1 year ago
I think that you are a great family, but you clearly are not capable of being adoptive parents. It is hard enough rearing the children who start out in your house from birth. But essentially, children in foster care are there because of disfunction in their prior families. That dysfunction could be any kind of abuse or neglect, and or just no capable familiy member willing to take them. Hence, the result brings challenges to your family. The kids need parents who can tackle those problems.
alecniles 1 year ago
@alecniles This is their first adoption attempt and not every kid will be a perfect fit for every family. It's sad that sometimes kids have to go from house to house, but sometimes that's what it takes to find the right family with the skills/background needed for that particular child. If only those who cld tackle every dysfunction a foster child may have were allowed to adopt, the list of ppl availiable to adopt would be even shorter than it is now. Stop putting others down that seek to help.
sambrosiac 1 year ago
caseworkers were aware of the issues surrounding the boys, their previous placements & their social/sexual issues. It would make their job harder in placement , so they choose not 2 disclose everything. The fact that the children had no clear understanding why they were in the foster care system for 3yrs& telling u to lie about the postponement was a big clue . U2 seemed very diligent in ur approach to understanding the boys & being forthright with them ... I commend you for that.
CurlyQueueT 1 year ago
I think you have the right to be open about your experience especially since you were so excited about the adoption and you were so kind to open up your life and home to others. Who seems not to be open were the people who sent such traumatised kids to you without informing you. From what I have seen I can not even remember what the kids looked like and I'm not going to dig into that. I hope everything workes out fine for them in life.
adesania 1 year ago
Goodness me, the adoption process definitely wasn't straight forward. You're a strong family as I personally wouldn't be able to deal with half as much as you've been through.
fatimama7 1 year ago
Imagin what would have happened had you lied to the boys. It is possible that the abuse would not have come out when it did.
ArkenWest174 1 year ago
wow! I'm so sorry about everything. I have some many comments and questions, but I will limit it. First question: Did the caseworkers know about the disorders and the sexual abuse that the children had endured? If so, why did they not inform you?! I feel as though you should have been given that information being that you have three girls in the home.
YaNVme 1 year ago
@YaNVme Looking back we feel that they did know. They claimed not to know but were so mad once it came out. They weren't mad for the boys or even interested in details about the 1st placement they were mad like this was a big inconvienence. They said they boys were not molested or acting out sexually. They said they were sexually curious but you could say that about anyone. I don't know how they could be in the system for almost 3yrs and not know anything until our home.
oooop95 1 year ago
@oooop95 i have to shake my head in shame for this one....sexual molestation is a huge deal they shouldn't have said that at all...
coronaqueen221 1 year ago
this is sad but telling this story. Isn't this against the confidentiality law that they have? I'm just curious because these videos can actually harm the child if people who know them and you get a hold to this vidoe. In the fact that you went and made 2 videos detailing these children past let us know that you probably talk about their personal business that you suppose to keep sacret with family, friends, and co wokers.
dothadamnthang 1 year ago
@dothadamnthang I appreciate your concern for the boys, but no privacy act info has been made public. We owe the system nothing. Thiere names & location as well as ours have been protected. All inferences as to who they are would be conjecture. As to those closest to us, they would already know because they would have already asked and been turned down for sleep over and playdate requests once we were aware of the issues (we never went into detail about why when they were with us).
oooop95 1 year ago
@dothadamnthang The purpose of this video was to give potential foster to adopt parents a glimps of what can happen on this journey especially with bum case workers. No one ever discussed this with anyone at work. Plus we are state mandated 1st reporters we have to tell about abuse known or suspected. This vid protects all names and locations. Again all inferences as to who we are specifically discussing would be conjecture. Hope this helps.
oooop95 1 year ago
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
eulah22100 1 year ago
@eulah22100 ok would you bring a child in your home who might violate your children or a small child who you love or would you get them help before you put them in a place where they might hurt other ppl
nyanzablue 10 months ago
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
eulah22100 1 year ago
First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
2. threatening the child to send them
eulah22100 1 year ago
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First let me say that I am not here to judge. I agree with you@dot, confidentiality is important when caring for foster children. I work with foster children everyday, ages 5-21 and I see foster parents make the following mistakes by saying and doing the following.
1." We will never send you back unless you, break our biggest rules". My question to foster parents is, would you give your biological child away? then why would you give your foster child away.
eulah22100 1 year ago
No judgement, but I agree with you@ dot. Confidentialy should be respected. if you would give your biological child back if they broke a rule, then why would you give a foster child back. Its a previlegde to have the love and respect of your foster child, but you have to work for it the same way you work to get the love and respect from your biological child. Yes foster children come with issues, "Real Issues" and Foster parents know this.
eulah22100 1 year ago
I think that what you guys attempted to do was very loving, selfless, and generous. I think you should applaud yourselves for what you've done. I pray that the boys will continue to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually,
P.S. I think it's funny the way Tony gets three words out of his mouth and then you interrupt him. I do this to my husband too (he hates it) lol.
anointed44 1 year ago
I so pray for you guys. Your heart was in the right place to help thoes boys. I pray that they get the help that need. God bless you all.
moniquewhit 1 year ago
so sad to hear about this abuse.
mizztcasa1 1 year ago
I just wanted to let you know that i highly comend you for your adoption process and making that decision and it touches my heart because I am adopted myself and when i look back on my life i truly see how blessed i am. I am so sorry to hear that it did not work out and the troubles that you have experienced. I hope that everything works out and you both have a happy family :)
CurlyGirlJess 1 year ago
This is so touching. I need to know what happened... were's part 2
nataliefils 1 year ago
I'm so sorry you all had to experience this and I truly appreciate you sharing this with us!! love you Imani!! God Bless you & your beautiful family!!
Dkjames5 1 year ago
This is some serious stuff and I hope you and your family by the grace of God will find healing as you try to get through this.
splinta24 1 year ago
Saying a Prayer for your entire family.... You all and the boys have been through alot!!!
wamj68 1 year ago
So sad! Prayers for peace for you and healing for the children. wow. :<
Laboheme5 1 year ago
This mind blowing. I feel so sad for the children, they have been abused and now they're biologically reacting to that abuse.
AveIvy 1 year ago
Wow! I am praying for your and your family. I am also praying for those boys. You really had my attention in this video.
Phenomenalwon 1 year ago
Oh my Word!!! Bless you all, hun!!! Oh my Word!!!! I can tell that you all are really devastated....I am so sorry that you all had to experience this.... I will definitely be praying for you all.
drroberson4 1 year ago
This is heartbreaking. My prayers go out to those boys and all children in foster care.
. ....Sweetie, I wish we could have heard what your husband was trying to say...but he kept getting broken off...
WhereYaBoss 1 year ago
Sometimes the people that come into our lives are not always meant to stay but are meant to be impacted by us for the better. I truly wish a happy ending for your family and those two boys. Be blessed
kahotstuff01 1 year ago
I pray for these children. The foster child system has it positives and negatives. It really hurts the heart to know innocent children continue to be abused and taken advantage of...also, I don't understand how professionals condone lying. Where did they receive that concept in their training and education? Studies show people tend to do better if they know what to expect.
curlygloo 1 year ago
praying for you and those children.
sldeyo 1 year ago
Oh my God...
kweencessX 1 year ago
I dont even know what to say ... I am so moved. I wish you both the best . You have my prayers.
JusticeLoveandPeace 1 year ago
wow! just can't believe this madness is happening to kids. Thanks for sharing the story
Kinkycurlycoil 1 year ago
Have you read the book a child called "it"
takeitorleaveit304 1 year ago
@takeitorleaveit304
I have read that. In fact, all 3. Probably the hardest material I have ever had to read.
kweencessX 1 year ago
Mercy..God bless you all for all the patience that you had with them and for everything came out! My prayers go out to those boys. Just a sad situation. Thank you for sharing your story!
Jadison03 1 year ago
I am speechles, but unfortunately, this happens more often than not when children are in foster care. I will keep your family as well as the boys in my thoughts and prayers. my goodness, I hate to think how these boys will turn out without immediate intervention of therapy. May God be with them.
nanibrook 1 year ago
I am praying for your family. May God's grace and peace be with you all. I do hope that the boys can get effective treatment right away.
caracara011 1 year ago
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TheWeighIn 1 year ago
So sad. I'm sending prayers up for you guys. I can't even watch the second part.
GooGoo32 1 year ago
This is why I never fostered and understand why people leave it. You literally have to be an institution for children and that's often hard to do when you open your home (heart). Your family has my prayers.
SParkApCider 1 year ago
Oh my Gosh, I am so sorry. I am here crying. This is so sad, I hope they can get help. I have always want to adopt but I know it is hard especially with older ones. I wish you and your family the best in search. Thank you for at least opening your heart, home to the boys may be they can reflect on that one day as they heal.
20009b 1 year ago
It is a shame all these problems are happening,looks like you would make good parents.it is also sad that the care process seems to have let them down.what going to happen to them now?
joyabbott 1 year ago
Oh my goodness. I pray that God keeps you guys and heals everyone involved.
nocturne1980 1 year ago
Wow! this is deep, so much has gone on, i feel for you as a family, but most of all i feel for those boys. Sick people (adults) out there are creating vicious cycles for the new generation. Aoooow, this makes me really sad. I have always wanted to adopt, but my hubby is not so kee, because of stuff like this. Can't wait to watch part 2. You are two lovely people!
louloumatou 1 year ago
Oh my word?!? I am so sorry to hear this. I know how much you wanted those boys. God will never give you what you cannot bare. God bless you and your hubby for sharing this with us. You are in our prayers.
naturalbornqueen 1 year ago
Wow that is troubling
poo0115104 1 year ago