Nonviolent Communication Part 2 Marshall Rosenberg

[Papa7851]

There is a german psychotherapeut called Eugen Drewermann and a christian philosoph called Erich Fromm,both have made the same experience like Theilhard de Chardin,it is possible to change the old matrix of bad influence into something new,if you can replace the old structures of a wrong view on a problem exists a chance to bring them back to a round table.Empathie is a very powerful tool,but we must have this experience to believe it.All religions seemed to forget:Love your next LIKE YOURSELF.

[TheNightingalerose]

Fantastic video!



[tvswnet]

I love the underlying premise, but I think unless the underlying malady which manifests as violent communication is resolved, NVC might end up being more/less forced roleplay (albeit much better than the alternative). If I say to myself, "how could you be so stupid," who is the one judging and who is being judged? If I say to another, "you're stupid," I should know who "you" is, what "stupid" is, who the judge is, and the criteria of stupidity. Minus that, I'm just engaging ego/illusion.

[RichPurps]

really on the button, the day to day practice may take some effort to get going, but it's just gaining awareness of yourself. great stuff.

[chubbypekingnese]

You can use the question "does it serve my needs?' to justify just about anything. People use that question all of the time to justify shoplifting, autotheft, or any other crimes.

[BytomGirl]

He is such a wonderful, real person. I had a personal workshop with him and it changed my life, I learned not to react, learned to be calm, solve problems peacefuly, understand needs of other people. I even understood he person who was the reason I went to NVC and undrstood why he did it. He didn;t change but that wasn;t my intention, I had to change myself and be a better person and Dr Rosenberg helped to be one, to undarstand people and myslef.

Thank you Dr. Rosenberg.

[chubbypekingnese]

@BytomGirl Wow, he's a REAL PERSON. What does that mean? Real person? Please define "real". id relly like to know.

[BytomGirl]

@chubbypekingnese It means he is not fake, doesn;t pretend to care for the sake of money, it means he does what he does out of heart, it means he really wants to help people and not himslef, it meas he can be trusted, it means he is down to earth and not a snob. And many other things but you get an idea by niw....

[chubbypekingnese]

@BytomGirl You should have ended it by just saying he was a wonderful person. Some people say someone is "keeping it real" when a person is saying something that others construe as rude. So REAL doesnt necessarily mean something good. I was just wondering. People who are genuine arent always kind, just, nice people.

[BytomGirl]

@chubbypekingnese For those who know him I think "real" says a lot, they know exactly what I meant. I met too many fake people in my life, those who play games and lie so real is a biggest complement I can give a person. In this world we don;t know often if the person is telling the truth or making fun behind our backs, playing games to get what they want, sorry, I will still stick to this word with no explanation, to me it means a lot. If someone doesn;t understand, they can always ask. Txs.-)

[netwolff]

It is such an easy message but so hard to do. I love it, I'm working on it, I'm enjoying it - but sometimes I really have to concentrate on speaking "giraffe". My last name is wolff, after all ;)

[rickiis]

By using NVC skills and consciousness, the violent situation I was involved with last week was calmed in 2 minutes by offering the other person empathy and then he was able to hear me. I don't theorize NVC yet really practice it daily. It does work in my life to bring peace and harmony, quickly and with quality. thanks always to Marshall..

[cfcreative1]

cult

[domnote]

@cfcreative1 How?

[topgun101tom]

I have studied this for about 3 months non stop and I am beginning to use it in every day life. It is a very helpful way to focus on hearing people. I never realised that the reason we fall into problems of conflict in communication is because we don't hear each other. But NVC is true, when you hear someones need, you connect to them emotionally and that is a big step towards helping that situation.

[KingofStarfox]

This is ahead of its time. It makes you realize how primitive our social system is. Someday in the future, intelligence and social interaction will be brought together, and it will look something like this. Marshall is a visionary and history will give him the credit for his advancement of human socialization and interaction. I am deeply impressed by his ideas.

[chubbypekingnese]

@KingofStarfox You know what bugs me? What bugs me is when people cant find the word their looking for and just grab any word to fill the void.

"how PRIMITIVE our social system is" ...I dont think primitive was the word you were looking for.

Oue social system isnt primitive. People may always fall for leaders who can pull at their emotional buttons to get them to go along with their ideas but that doesnt speak to social system. it speaks to the weakness of those who succumb to propaganda.

[tvswnet]

@chubbypekingnese And here we see exactly the problem with focusing on language and not what underlies it. His use of "primitive" was right for him, but then it was not for you so there was a policing of language in return. Language is NOT the message, nor is it the messenger. Our strange focus on language as being definitive of anything has really hurt us. Language is a series of symbols representing concepts far deeper than the surface indicators demonstrate. Language cannot be "truth."

[chubbypekingnese]

@tvswnet With that logic words dont mean anything and then cant carry any weight. But they do.

You will attack someone if they say something that offends you. Why? It is because you focus on what the definitions of the words mean.

I was focusing on the phrase "how primitive our social system is". I was refering to the use of the word PRIMITIVE.

I still think that PRIMITIVE wasnt the word the person was looking for. If so I believe it wa used incorrectly.

Words mean something.

[tvswnet]

@chubbypekingnese No, I won't attack anyone because they say something to me...I would've in the past, but definitely not now. "Words mean something" resonates with me if you're speaking a little more figuratively. Btw, I have an MA in Linguistics and was working on my PhD. It was when this unresolvable disconnect between linguistic expression and unspoken intent became so evident that I switched directions a bit. How can you believe his use of a word was "incorrect" without direct access?

[chubbypekingnese]

@tvswnet How big of you to not 'attack someone because they say something to" you.

Since you have a MA in linguistics you should agree that there is nothing "primitive" about our social system or our way of comminicating with each other. Im pretty sure there were some anthropology classes in there somewhere and in those classes you've learned that we've managed to advance enough to not be considered primitive.

[tvswnet]

@chubbypekingnese No, I don't agree...and I can see that annoys you...but I don't agree. The beauty is, we don't have to agree :-) You do not know me or my background or experience or anything else--just a tiny impersonal snapshot here on a YouTube thread. You've mistaken (IMO) a few sentences as being representative of a person's total experience leading to that opinion/word choice. And we ARE very primitive in many ways--seeing that allows us to change it--why is that so awful to admit?

[chubbypekingnese]

@tvswnet How are we primitive? In comparison to what? What plateau would we have to pass before we are not considered primitive?

[tvswnet]

@chubbypekingnese Well, I guess I'm going to do that annoying thing and answer a question with a question: How are we NOT primitive?

[chubbypekingnese]

@tvswnet You can only answer the question with a question because you don't have an answer to how we are primitive or what you compare us to to make such a statement.

Im sure you are aware that primitive is a term and you cannot find any example of how we are primitive.

It was you who said "It makes you realize how primitive our social system is." and you cant even back that statement up with an example of how it is primitive and compared to what.

[tvswnet]

@chubbypekingnese I didn't say that, but thanks anyway--it was another poster who said that. In any case, you clearly find my not agreeing with you irritating, so let's just leave it. Good luck!

[dietermaas]

To some people, what Marshall teaches, sounds "touchy feely", but actually, without Marshall, I wouldn't have been able to research all the alternative political and other information. Huge contribution to my "deprogramming". To be able to discern between judgement and fact/information is essential agianst the "matrix". Thanks a lot Marshall!!!

[hazlitt1]

If people think nicey, nicey language will assuage the likes of Stalin, Hitler, Pol pot etc, you are living in a state of naive, false euphoria. Mr. Rosenberg, try for example negotiating with your fellow jews to respect palestinian human rights, and international laws which prohibit settlements and see how far you get!

[longbluefingers]

brilliant....

that makes SO MUCH sense!

[MohammadAhsan]

Sublimation is one that made Love pop-up as example with which help to others to achieve that kind of love let us to follow up our outcome-decision need of it, too; we are enhancing the natural way of living by just expressing them both (I repeated, sublimation interacting in juxtaposition with love) and tis a better way and more natural to bring the same result as people compete for expressing love or empathy by the need for safety against enemy images.Walter Wink, author of The Powers That Be

[MohammadAhsan]

is known for his work on power structures, with a progressive Christian view on current political and cultural matters. He coined the phrase "the myth of redemptive violence", and has contributed to discourse on homosexuality and religion, pacifism, psychology & Biblical Studies, and Jesus as a historical figure. So, redemption from violence is a way to learn in the nature how we can use sublimation over the others need for love.

[rspawn]

this is one of the most important things i ever came across on the internet

[OpineTime]

Thank you Marshall Rosenberg!

[Tressco]

"You can't lead a sane life in an insane society. Function is going to clash with dysfunction. There can be no "successful conclusion" to a therapy that ignores this."

- Michael Ventura (''We've Had a Hundred Years of Psychotherapy--And the World's Getting Worse'')

[zgreenland]

neurological?

[claudelebel55]

good stuff

[jasminangel]

marshall for pres!

[runelarat]

I love his work. I´m studying this since nearly a year and it changed my live to be more free, responsible and generous in giving good live feelings. It´s just the way to paradise again because this teaches the love what we need to reconnect with the ones who could be important for us in any way.

[bwhahrhr]

this is a wonderfull video. thank you so much for uploading it

[NVCTV]

One day I am going to totally master this skill

[dunlevyd]

Cool stuff. But he just keeps rambling....

[paulagloria]

When I did a video that expressed a lot of anger and frustration when I was at the mic with a supposed "ex" CIA agent at a hacker's conference, I felt glad I was able to express my thoughts to my viewers (I am a public access TV producer in Manhattan) however I felt I could create "New Realities" by doing three commentaries critiquing my behavior at the mic vs if I had used Nonviolent Communication (ie "I feel scared that I won't get the full knowledge about 9/11 Truth.."

[hurenscheisse]

marshall is the man!!!