+ At Mile High Karate my boy learned the 7 magic words(Please, thank you, yes/no Ma'am, yes/no sir, you're welcome) He is 5 and so sweet now.
+I'm a homebody so when 8year old big sister gives me problems I just lock her OUT of her room..
+When mom goes shopping I get to keep the boy at home so we won't buy him yet "another" toy.. we play all morning until mom, gma and big sister come back from Walmart etc.
*I loved your speaking skills, your video. (clear)
its my experience that parents that don't discipline their kids are attention oriented people that prefer drama over tranquility. And the children that are left with no boundaries hate and disrespect their parents. In the end the parent is left with what they wanted no responsibility, and plenty of attention because their children are just so mean to them.
My daughter was only allowed to play with one toy at a time, and had to put it away before playing with another. And manners were required as well. She's now a Sophomore in College, on a scholarship, and a fantastic young lady.
You can expect them to behave however you make them behave. Otherwise, they lose privileges. If you don't give into tantrums, and use the privileges vs no privileges system, they WILL behave!
i like your video and share your thoughts but you didnt give your definition of discipline. i have found that this word means manny different things to alot of people. If you think corporal punishment is discipline then you just lost me. I am a christian and pastors son , my wife is also a preachers daughter. we have come to the conclusion thru the bible that hitting children is wrong. and has no place in the life of a true beleiver.
You often get stupid adults! I believe it is ignorant to make this generalisation about a persons maturity. Children are alot more intelligent and aware then adults give them credit for. Often the behavior aparent in a child is a repition of the adults.
I know someone that doens't believe saying no to babies. And she's serious about it. So if the little one starts banging your face because she's mad,your not allowed to say no. and guess what? all her kids hit,bite, and kick her.
How old is the "baby"? An infant can't understand yes and no, or the reasons why. I don't know exactly what age would bring that level of maturity. Developmentally, every child is different. I know that between the ages of 2 and 3 there should definitely be some rules. And even before 2 there should be some groundwork being laid.
She's a year and a half, and she does understand no, when I say it. I also watch a child her age, and he diffently knows what no means. I'll say no, and he'll stop whatever he is doing. He will also look to see if I'm doing something he knows he's not allowed to do. So at that age, they do have an understanding. I'm not talking about little babies. Sorry for not making that clear.
I understand. Every child matures at a different age. Unfortunately, most parents don't make their children do anything anymore. This country is bad enough now. It's going to be a nightmare when those selfish, self-entitled brats are the ones running the country.
whoa! I love you! Absolutely one of a kind woman in You Tube! Brilliant! My Goal is to raise up the ultimate child in the world! A child who will follow the ways of my Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you for such great help : ) God Bless you and your FAMILY
Thank you =) My daughter just started college. She chose not to date at all during high school =D She had her first date a few weeks ago, but decided he wasn't the one for her, and she didn't want to lead him on, so she's not going out with him again. Now at college, she thinks she might date a little bit, but doesn't want anything to distract her from her studies. Oh, and she's at a bible college too =D
I'm always barefoot unless clients are around. But real estate agents are independent contractors, not employees. The brokers or managers can try to setup office rules, but they can't do much to enforce them. But I'm rarely in the office anyway =)
I appreciate this video. It makes a lot of sense. I'm having my first child and have a LAUNDRY LIST of "what NOT to do" from watching prople around me. Whenever you see "bad kids", it's mostly really "bad parenting". I'm Portuguese and when a kid acts up they call them "mal criada/ mal criado"... that basically means "badly raised"!
Kids are tough. You have to discipline each one based on their personality and that's really tough if you have a kid who's personality is different than yours =/
you... took the words right out of my mouth i say it best this way childern need boundries... so they can learn to deal with them now and in adult hood with no boundries they learn no responsibilities or standards..i think the gov. and society in todays time really give to much attention to how nice and sweet the child hood sould be but this doesent prepare the child much for the real world ..
Actually, I think even adults today want to keep pushing the boundaries until their are none. They never consider the fact that if there are no boundaries, rules or laws, there will be complete chaos, confusion, riots, etc.
i agree. my parents were strict with me(the oldest child) and i can now function in society as a normal adult. unfortunately, it seems my parents gave up on, or rather, gave into my brother. he genuinely believes that it's "all about him." he can't fend for himself because he isn't willing to put effort into anything worthwhile (ie school, work, etc). this has all come back to negatively effect my mom, who is still picking up the slack for my brother: a net negative for both parent and child.
My parents were similar with me and my brothers, but in this case, my brothers were just out of control. I think my parents just gave up on them. But they needed to apply the "tough love" strategy with them, much sooner than they did. But my bros are doing much better now =)
Hmm. Sounds like a personal problem :p J/K I know what you mean. I can be pretty anti-social. I just stay home when I'm sick of people. But I do like to have nice things, therefore I have to keep honing my people skills. I guess it depends on what you want out of life. My brothers are content with having very little material things. They spend all of their spare time fishing, which also provides some food, and they're happy with jobs that are low stress, but don't pay much.
thats not true. eventually you grow out of that. for a while you think you can get what you want by being a spoiled brat, but you grow out of it because you realize that your peers will just hate you if you act like that. yes, there are some self centered adults but thats just genetics, its not because of how their parents treated them as children. its true that things in your early childhood can affect who you are as an adult, but they have to be big things, not just little mistkaes parents mak
You started your comment with "That's not true". And we're all speaking in general terms here but parents absolutely can be blamed for not disciplining their children. I can speak from first-hand experience of a family I've observed for 2 generations of how the kids were never disciplined, then the grandkids. They're all selfish people. BUT not everything can be blamed on parents. And I briefly touched on every one of these items in the video.
oops=/ sorry, i didnt watch the whole vid through before i commented, bad habit sorry. i guess theres some true-ness in that, perhaps if parents NEVER disciplined their children there could be some end results as how they acted as adults, but i highly doubt that just because a parent isnt too strict with saying no to avoid a tantrum in a supermarket doesn't mean americas in serious trouble, its gotta be more extreme than that. that was the point i was trying to make.
I think the extremes I was trying to fit into a 10 minute video would have to be NO discipline whatsoever; giving children everything they want without ever making them work for or behave in a manner that would justify them earning it. And to be honest, there's a lot more I could say, but I can't/won't because it would require me to discuss things that would embarrass members of my own family, and even discourage the progress they've made.
yeah, i understand that. i suppose if it was the same case scenario as the one you are reffering to the kids could grow up to be self centered jerks. again though, as you already mentioned in the video we cant make generalizations for every child, and i still believe that a spoiled four year old will grow out of being spoiled by their teens. my brother, for instance, was an extremley spoiled child but once he sort of learned that he couldnt act that way around his friends he grew out of it.
Well, unfortunately, I know a woman in her 50s who has yet to learn that 99% of the people who know her, can't stand to be around her. I've chosen to overlook a lot, over the 20+ years that I've known her, but finally had enough. And she has totally screwed up her kids and now has custody of her grandchild, and is continuing the same poor parenting by spoiling, requiring no accountability, and setting a bad example. Again, just one more example.
If parents don't start wising up the prisons will be so overcrowded. When my son was 1 I took him to his check-up and handed me a piece of paper that clearly stated that in the state of california you are no allowed to spank your child and I just thought oh my goodness what is this world coming too. If parents don't spank how the heck will the child know when they've done something wrong. Spare the Rod spoil the child!
Be careful with what you say about spanking. You never know who might accuse you of "abusing" your child. And I understand WHY they passed that law.. is it a law?.. since so many people actually beat their children instead of just swatting them. But different children's personalities will respond differently to different types of discipline. When I was young, my parents spanked me and it was VERY effective! lol But my brothers couldn't care less. They were difficult for my parents to handle.
Have you any sources for your claims for the human brain remaining undeveloped until the age of 25? As far as I was aware, connections in the brain are fully formed around the age of ten in most people, although it's usually later for boys. That's not to say that they're emotionally mature. However, someone who is not so long before the age of 25 is abnormal, surely.
Also: regarding 'chores' and 'training children'. It seems to me that you regard childhood as a period of socialisation geared toward the 'world of work'. I don't agree that attempting to institutionalise children in this fashion is a good thing. Discipline originally meant to teach - I'm all for teaching children to cope with and understand the modern world, I'm not for 'training' (indocrinating?) them to accept it and fit into it without question. This sounds like poor parenting to me ;)
Throws a temper until he gets what he wants? Now doesn't that just sound like George Walker Bush? And there isn't a single American with the guts to tell that snot-nosed punk of a public servant that he isn't the decider; he's JUST the servant of the people.
I think the public IS telling him. He'd have to be living under a rock to not know. The media is making it abundantly clear that the public is not happy. And I probably know what you're going to say. He IS living under a rock? LOL
sometimes it's not about cookies, but the children just want attention from their parents. if they yell at their kids or hit them it hurts the kid but that's the only way to get in contact with its parents
that's very sad i think
so if you talk friendly with your children
and ignore their screaming if they want something they are not allowed to have it will be best
If you've watched a lot of my videos, you'll see the relationship I have with my daughter, so a lot of this is moot. I've always taken the time to explain things. But children will not always understand what we're explaining. No matter how much you simplify it, their brains aren't developed enough. That's when the parent has the final word. I agree that tantrums should be ignored... except when they're in a public place. Nobody else wants to hear a screaming child. It's rude.
When my daughter was little, if she pulled that crap, I would march her right out of wherever we were. I was always very sensitive to other people's peace of mind. I also agree with you that some children are just wanting attention. My own mother said I used to do that. And she tried giving me plenty of positive attention, but I did it anyway. She had to lay down the law. Some children have the personality that will always test the boundaries.
As for bad behavior being the fault of the parents, sometimes it's true, sometimes it's not. My brothers and I were brought up the same way, yet they went WAY off track for a long time. The problem was, my parents tried to discipline all of us the same way. But we had different personalities. What worked on me did not work on them. My parents did their best, but they're not psychologists.
Anyway, my daughter and I have a great relationship. We talk about everything and she doesn't follow the pack behavior of other children. She has a lot of wisdom for her age. I was pretty strict on her, most of the time. It's the lack of discipline when they're younger that usually makes then act out, OR they can have parents that are too strict and they rebel (I did that). Communication is key, but age plays a huge factor in the child's ability to understand.
Girl, this video should be played on a daily basis in every Parent's & Guardian's home! The Lack Of Discipline is why the Teens of today are so Screwed Up!
when it comes to things like wanting cookies it's best to say "no we won't buy cookies now, you've had cookies yesterday, let's cook something nice instead" if the child yells again you can say "no we won't buy this" again and when the child continues to scream just IGNORE it
I think it's important to explain why something is "wrong"
if you just say "don't do this" the child will be confused because it is a human itsself it can think for itsself and a part of childhood is to develop your OWN opinion!
I think the key is consistency. Without that your desired result will not be achieved. Children understand consistent discipline as being black and white. They may still rebel but they know where the boundaries are. Inconsistent discipline and morals invite chaos. Kids are smart, they begin to see that your objection to their behavior is dependant on the situation and mood YOU'RE IN and not the behavior it's self. Thus, they believe, their behavior is OK and your reaction is NOT.
Great point! It's human nature to keep pushing, to see how far we can go. Even adults do that. But at least as adults (hopefully) we know there are consequences for our actions. Children are still learning that =)
My daughter doesn't act that way either. But I taught her to be self controlled and self disciplined. That's done through discipline. The video was not about punishment.
I know, I'm the same way. My mother and I talk about absolutely everything and I was never a kid who screamed about nothing. If I wanted something, I'd ask, if she said no then she said no and I'd get on with my life. I know it wasn't about punishment.
That's great the you talk to your mom :) And I'm glad you "got" the video. Most people did. But a few people thought I was saying talking about punishment. Thanks for commenting =)
I think everyone should have good relationships with their parents, they gave birth to you after all. And no problem, I love all your videos. Keep it up :)
I really don't agree with this. I am almost 14 and my mom still tries to manage my life. She thinks I don't understand how to do my homework,chores,etc. myself. When infact I do! I just don't get all A's im not an A+ student and never will be my body just dosen't work that way! She dosen't understand that so she keeps pushing which is just tearing our friendship and relationship apart.
I look at my peers who had to work in high school, who weren't just given everything, who were taught responsibility and I am envious. They're lightyears ahead of where I am. They know this stuff and I'm still learning.
Wow. Are you serious? To be honest, I was a spoiled brat when I was younger. Fortunately, when I was almost 17, my dad cut me off financially. It was the best thing they could have done. They had already bought me a car, paid my insurance, etc. All they wanted me to do was pay for gas. But I wasn't holding up my end of the deal. I would have never thought this at the time, but now I'm really glad my dad stopped the cash wagon!
Yeah? Sometimes I wish my family would do that. But the truth is right now I need their money. Thank God I've learnt to be conservative with my finances (or more conservative, anyway). The most fulfilling time in my life, after all, was when I was on leave and working full time, paying my own bills and getting my own cheque.
YOU ARE SO RIGHT! I'm a 21 year old university student who grew up spoiled rotten, getting his way on everything all the time. It's one of the biggest mistakes my family ever made.
I left home at 18 and went to a school far away from my family. I didn't know how to budget, how to manage my time, how to deal with authority figures who told me no, and how to accept the consequences of my own actions. A lot of that is still true - I'm learning as I go.
I think the result of saying no and not sticking with it has the end result with the child growing up to be a manipulative adult.
I've seen what you describe (kids making demands for expensive toys); the Biblical teaching that comes to mind is "Godliness with contentment is great gain."
When it comes to kids you've gotta let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Once you draw a line in the sand, THAT's it! This has forced me several times to grab my two kids by the hand and march us out of whatever fun place we were in. But the next time I draw the same line in the sand : THEY LISTEN! (most of the time)
I have no kids myself, so perhaps I should be careful with what I say. Be patient, love your spouse ALOT, be dedicated completely to your spouse, the power of your example is very strong. Let your Yes be Yes, and NO, NO, communicate with eachother. Educate the children, and in the end, if all fails, some physical action is justified.
Although old shows like "Leave It To Beaver" are thought of as saccharin and unreal, many of the shows on (for kids) feature children disrespectful and antagonistic providing a paradigm of the same. If my children act this way, I remind them we don't live on Nick at Night.
Biblegirl: Do you wear pearls when you cook dinner?
I think the answer to your question is : I should get me a PC Cam hehe :) No idea. But I think, to be direct is important, I am that all the time, I try not to patronize, or well I try to be direct, sometimes I just talk about stuff I really dont know anything about.. like I do now, anyway the Bible has great words for this, and that is how I would try and do it.
Yes, children are very impressionable. A perfect example is in how they dress. They wear what they see their idols wear. And the reality is, it's inappropriate attire in the real world.
It doesn't FINISH developing until 25 (average). It's a medical fact. And the sense of reasoning is what's still developing. That's why as children grow, some will grasp a concept that's being taught, while other won't get it. Then all of the sudden, you understand!
You are in fact the product of an at least a *slightly* evolved society. Due in part to the study of psychology.
No kid I ever went to school would interact in public by attacking a stranger's intelligence level. If they did they would face serious bodily punnishment and be grounded for a month.
Accept your liberties and learn to discipline yourself. Think before you speak.
If some of you are not aware of my channel guidelines, please read my channel description. I had to delete several comments because of name calling and a seeming lack of the ability to "agree to disagree". Everyone is entitle to their own opinion. Just state it politely and if no agreement is reached then let it drop!
ugh i know im still a child and my parents are STRICT!i have this friend.Shes rich.her parents spoil her like crazy!!!She fails like 3 classes and gets a new pair of shoes or a new purse or something.When she gets in trouble she just says ''im sorrryy'' and her parents give her something else...i think her parents should watch this video and give her a spanking of all the times she acted out :)
Ah, continued from my previous comment. Do not punish young adults the same way, the older they get, the more they should have learned. Talk with your children alot, trust them, but let them know there are consequences. It is better that their butt is a bit sore, than the impact with a crossing truck. It is not abuse, abuse is when you do it just to do it.
k..i may be young to sa anything on this topic...but still! i totally agree.i was disciplined as a younger child, and i do believe that it has done me a world of good!
Biblegirl, it would help the readers if you hit the REPLY button to answer posts specifically. Your replies are all out of sequence, so when you say, "Me too", nobody knows who your answering! Just tryin to help.
If some of you are not aware of my channel guidelines, please read my channel description. I had to delete several comments because of name calling and a seeming lack of the ability to "agree to disagree". Everyone is entitle to their own opinion. Just state it politely and if no agreement is reached then let it drop!
i remember going shopping and seeing kids acting out and getting spankins in public and everyone clapped.i miss those days!now the parents are afraid of their children.
there is ALWAYS a non-violent solution to any situation with kids. As I mentioned in a seperate comment, if you have a lot of pent up rage, parenting isn't your calling.
The solution is NOT
the 1950's "beat the child".
The solution is NOT
the 1990 "ignore-enable brat behaior".
It IS taking leadership, being well rested and present, turning off the cell phone, structuring environments, offering predictable consistent gudielines over and over and over...
The solution includes taking parenting classes, asking others for support/ help (and getting it), learning communication tools, taking breaks, figuring out what motivate each individual child and work towards that end.
Honestly, some kids should not be taken into restaurants or malls. We can only ask of them what they are developmentally capable of which is focused attention:
(2x their age in years). A five year old can hold focus for 10 minutes. That's it!
If you take a five year old shopping with you for clothes for an hour YOU are the problem.
Actually, spanking totally worked for me. My parents gave me a few swats on the butt and bingo! They now had a well-behaved child. It was the simplest, fastest, most effective way to keep me in line.
you dont understand spanking is not violence.i dont recall any kids going to school and shooting everyone when we were growing up.life is about a happy medium.i would rather get a rap on the hand than burn myself!
spare the rod and spoil the child does not work.but i agree with everything else you said.a positive environment is very conducive to learning.love your children enough to discipline them.
I am a counselor and teacher. I see a lot of patterns of you taking subtle *pleasure* in others' suffering. I see it a lot in D.V. survivors. it is a projection of pain.
"I miss the good old days of public spanking and crowd cheering..."
This indicates that you have unconsciously internalized the pain from your past to the point that you are not really in your body. Next you *wish* others could experience this. This isn't you speaking from yur HIGHEST self.
Children have LESS rights than adults in every respect. They eat what is served, live in the family they were born to for 18 years- even if it is highly non- functional! They don't vote or drive or have money.
At least allow them the respect they deserve to draw a boundry around their body (if not mind and spirit) and say NO- to being hit.
I would object to anyone hitting you, not because you are an adult, but because you are a person.
Spanking: By definition is a SERIES of hits. Therefore is is violent.
Also Psych 101 states that hitting children actually PROMOTES agression. If you hit a child you may stop the *visible behavior* but the rage increases & stays inside and is released later in life or a school in marriage, etc. Very sad.
No one went to school w/ guns 30 years ago because they were not available....
I got spanked plenty of times. It worked! I stopped causing a scene and my parents were able to continue their shopping. Kids just want attention (usually). My parents never "beat" me. I just got a few swats on the butt, that I barely even felt.
They're just other You Tubers. They're just having some fun. They know I have a strict policy of not allowing anyone to be a bully or cause drama, so I assume they feel welcome here. I met DMurawski over a year ago. And OMFGJohnsTube is 18 or 19. I think it was his sister who started this idea to make their creative videos. They're just having fun :)
lawyers and gov't have handicapped parents when it comes to disciplining our children.children have more rights than adults.i was spanked but never abused.people used to know the difference.
ironic how your given the most responsibility when your least likely to accept it.decisions that will shape the rest of your life (ie school).children must be forced to do the right thing.
it got to the point my parents could give me a look and i knew!some kids will act out even when you raise your voice(stern).thats when i got a whoopin-worked every time.
Okay, back to the topic... Not being a parent ever (let's face it, cats are wonderful but don't really count here), there's a lot I can't address here due to lack of experience. But I look back on my upbringing and am grateful for the times when they were strict with me. I didn't appreciate it then, but I sure do now.
Good vlogging! I've missed coming here to get your POV.
Yeah, I had Lemonette on pause :) And I parent my cats too! As for my upbringing, I feel the same way about most of it. But my parents were WAY too strict. Trust me when I tell you being too strict causes a child to rebel. And I couldn't talk to my mom at all. As you can see by our videos, I've corrected that problem with my daughter =)
I agree that children definitely have to have fun. But like in everything in life, there has to be a balance. We're having fun here on You Tube, but we also have responsibilities. With raising children, we increase their responsibilities as they get older. Otherwise, as adults, they don't know how to balance business with play time =)
i totally agree...i hate when i hear kids screaming in some public place and the parents are all like honey you need to be quiet now..that wont teach them anything.
Screaming children drive me absolutely crazy! I never allowed my daughter to act that way. Most of the time, I don't hear the parents tell the kids to even be quiet. They just don't care about anyone else.
i've never screamed like that when i was younger...my brother on the other hand,yells at everything...hes got such a bad temper,my parents dont put up with it though.
Strong-willed child. There are plenty of them out there. Those are the tough ones. You have to find a way to keep them under control, without breaking their wills. My brothers were like that. My parents still don't know what they could have done differently. =/
hehe yea my mom had it easy with me..now with my brother shes kindof confused with what to do and shes always saying...why cant he be like you to me :P
Oh! She needs to be careful with that. My mom used to say similar things to me, about my brothers. Even if they never heard her, I think they picked up on her attitude. And I think it hurt them and caused them to act out even more. I honestly think they have insecurities to this day, as a result. I'm not bashing your mom. It just caught my attention because I still worry about my brothers.
yea i get how you feel..i worry about him a lot cause he was getting into a lot of fights...so now we're all trying to create a "positive" environment for him...like less time playing games and less violent shows...and my parents are being very lovey but still strict if he does something bad..so i think hell be fine..just going through those little boy stages in life.
I SOOO needed a dose of biblegirl7! I was over watching partners making fun of other YouTubers, and needed some good clean thought provoking content....so I came here and got it! One Day, biblegirl7 will rise to replace some of those messes! LOVE YOU! Jolene Sugarbaker The Trailer Park Queen
Good show! I like to see all those responses! That's allot. You need to discipline your daughter now! Because of her, I have left every light on in your house, made all your pictures crooked, opened all your doors and left all the lights on and the toilet seats up! Your husband let me do it, so u might need to discipline him too! ;-)
+ At Mile High Karate my boy learned the 7 magic words(Please, thank you, yes/no Ma'am, yes/no sir, you're welcome) He is 5 and so sweet now.
+I'm a homebody so when 8year old big sister gives me problems I just lock her OUT of her room..
+When mom goes shopping I get to keep the boy at home so we won't buy him yet "another" toy.. we play all morning until mom, gma and big sister come back from Walmart etc.
*I loved your speaking skills, your video. (clear)
danieltheteacher 2 years ago
Well you covered everything. lol. And thanks =)
biblegirl7 2 years ago
its my experience that parents that don't discipline their kids are attention oriented people that prefer drama over tranquility. And the children that are left with no boundaries hate and disrespect their parents. In the end the parent is left with what they wanted no responsibility, and plenty of attention because their children are just so mean to them.
BraveWomanCandy 2 years ago
Wow. That's deep. And a new perspective that I hadn't considered. That is really sad for the children!
biblegirl7 2 years ago
if only it were that simple you cant expect a five year old to behaive like a adult for gods sake there kids
whenevero 2 years ago
My friend has a child that is 4 and when they are at someones house he gets out one toy at a time, say please and thank you.
poppabear42330 2 years ago
My daughter was only allowed to play with one toy at a time, and had to put it away before playing with another. And manners were required as well. She's now a Sophomore in College, on a scholarship, and a fantastic young lady.
biblegirl7 2 years ago
You can expect them to behave however you make them behave. Otherwise, they lose privileges. If you don't give into tantrums, and use the privileges vs no privileges system, they WILL behave!
biblegirl7 2 years ago
i like your video and share your thoughts but you didnt give your definition of discipline. i have found that this word means manny different things to alot of people. If you think corporal punishment is discipline then you just lost me. I am a christian and pastors son , my wife is also a preachers daughter. we have come to the conclusion thru the bible that hitting children is wrong. and has no place in the life of a true beleiver.
guidav123 2 years ago
If you read my channel description you'll know why this is as far as I took the subject.
biblegirl7 2 years ago
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whenevero 2 years ago
I really like your videos!
jadoredashboard 3 years ago
Thanks! =)
biblegirl7 3 years ago
You often get stupid adults! I believe it is ignorant to make this generalisation about a persons maturity. Children are alot more intelligent and aware then adults give them credit for. Often the behavior aparent in a child is a repition of the adults.
123blurkayla 3 years ago
You need to re-watch the video. I addressed all of this.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
1 star
whenevero 2 years ago
I know someone that doens't believe saying no to babies. And she's serious about it. So if the little one starts banging your face because she's mad,your not allowed to say no. and guess what? all her kids hit,bite, and kick her.
setfree2day 3 years ago
How old is the "baby"? An infant can't understand yes and no, or the reasons why. I don't know exactly what age would bring that level of maturity. Developmentally, every child is different. I know that between the ages of 2 and 3 there should definitely be some rules. And even before 2 there should be some groundwork being laid.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
She's a year and a half, and she does understand no, when I say it. I also watch a child her age, and he diffently knows what no means. I'll say no, and he'll stop whatever he is doing. He will also look to see if I'm doing something he knows he's not allowed to do. So at that age, they do have an understanding. I'm not talking about little babies. Sorry for not making that clear.
setfree2day 3 years ago
I understand. Every child matures at a different age. Unfortunately, most parents don't make their children do anything anymore. This country is bad enough now. It's going to be a nightmare when those selfish, self-entitled brats are the ones running the country.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
how do you think you are do some work an stop slackin off
whenevero 2 years ago
I been a bad boy mommy...........
rustycaddy 3 years ago
whoa! I love you! Absolutely one of a kind woman in You Tube! Brilliant! My Goal is to raise up the ultimate child in the world! A child who will follow the ways of my Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you for such great help : ) God Bless you and your FAMILY
Amuroray1969 3 years ago
Thank you =) My daughter just started college. She chose not to date at all during high school =D She had her first date a few weeks ago, but decided he wasn't the one for her, and she didn't want to lead him on, so she's not going out with him again. Now at college, she thinks she might date a little bit, but doesn't want anything to distract her from her studies. Oh, and she's at a bible college too =D
biblegirl7 3 years ago
I really like what you said. Are you barefoot in your office :) I wish I could do that but the boss wont let us. I'm jealous
FSUMD14 3 years ago
I'm always barefoot unless clients are around. But real estate agents are independent contractors, not employees. The brokers or managers can try to setup office rules, but they can't do much to enforce them. But I'm rarely in the office anyway =)
biblegirl7 3 years ago
I appreciate this video. It makes a lot of sense. I'm having my first child and have a LAUNDRY LIST of "what NOT to do" from watching prople around me. Whenever you see "bad kids", it's mostly really "bad parenting". I'm Portuguese and when a kid acts up they call them "mal criada/ mal criado"... that basically means "badly raised"!
babyyvie 3 years ago
Kids are tough. You have to discipline each one based on their personality and that's really tough if you have a kid who's personality is different than yours =/
biblegirl7 3 years ago
you... took the words right out of my mouth i say it best this way childern need boundries... so they can learn to deal with them now and in adult hood with no boundries they learn no responsibilities or standards..i think the gov. and society in todays time really give to much attention to how nice and sweet the child hood sould be but this doesent prepare the child much for the real world ..
egbdfswswsw 3 years ago
Actually, I think even adults today want to keep pushing the boundaries until their are none. They never consider the fact that if there are no boundaries, rules or laws, there will be complete chaos, confusion, riots, etc.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
i agree. my parents were strict with me(the oldest child) and i can now function in society as a normal adult. unfortunately, it seems my parents gave up on, or rather, gave into my brother. he genuinely believes that it's "all about him." he can't fend for himself because he isn't willing to put effort into anything worthwhile (ie school, work, etc). this has all come back to negatively effect my mom, who is still picking up the slack for my brother: a net negative for both parent and child.
steph8608 3 years ago
My parents were similar with me and my brothers, but in this case, my brothers were just out of control. I think my parents just gave up on them. But they needed to apply the "tough love" strategy with them, much sooner than they did. But my bros are doing much better now =)
biblegirl7 3 years ago
Why should I learn to function in society when I despise social interaction and society itself?
Tidnull 3 years ago
Hmm. Sounds like a personal problem :p J/K I know what you mean. I can be pretty anti-social. I just stay home when I'm sick of people. But I do like to have nice things, therefore I have to keep honing my people skills. I guess it depends on what you want out of life. My brothers are content with having very little material things. They spend all of their spare time fishing, which also provides some food, and they're happy with jobs that are low stress, but don't pay much.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
I think that I am more like your brothers! I like to catch/grow my own food and do not need a lot of material things either.
Tidnull 3 years ago
That's not a bad thing... as long as you pass on the alcohol and drug scene. That's an unfortunate side-track that derailed my brothers for a while.
biblegirl7 3 years ago
Hmm Well my brother is an alcoholic which is destroying him so that's a good enough example for me.
Tidnull 3 years ago
rude B..I..C..T..H
Yummycookies200 4 years ago
thats not true. eventually you grow out of that. for a while you think you can get what you want by being a spoiled brat, but you grow out of it because you realize that your peers will just hate you if you act like that. yes, there are some self centered adults but thats just genetics, its not because of how their parents treated them as children. its true that things in your early childhood can affect who you are as an adult, but they have to be big things, not just little mistkaes parents mak
xlastsunsetx 4 years ago
You started your comment with "That's not true". And we're all speaking in general terms here but parents absolutely can be blamed for not disciplining their children. I can speak from first-hand experience of a family I've observed for 2 generations of how the kids were never disciplined, then the grandkids. They're all selfish people. BUT not everything can be blamed on parents. And I briefly touched on every one of these items in the video.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
oops=/ sorry, i didnt watch the whole vid through before i commented, bad habit sorry. i guess theres some true-ness in that, perhaps if parents NEVER disciplined their children there could be some end results as how they acted as adults, but i highly doubt that just because a parent isnt too strict with saying no to avoid a tantrum in a supermarket doesn't mean americas in serious trouble, its gotta be more extreme than that. that was the point i was trying to make.
xlastsunsetx 4 years ago
I think the extremes I was trying to fit into a 10 minute video would have to be NO discipline whatsoever; giving children everything they want without ever making them work for or behave in a manner that would justify them earning it. And to be honest, there's a lot more I could say, but I can't/won't because it would require me to discuss things that would embarrass members of my own family, and even discourage the progress they've made.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
yeah, i understand that. i suppose if it was the same case scenario as the one you are reffering to the kids could grow up to be self centered jerks. again though, as you already mentioned in the video we cant make generalizations for every child, and i still believe that a spoiled four year old will grow out of being spoiled by their teens. my brother, for instance, was an extremley spoiled child but once he sort of learned that he couldnt act that way around his friends he grew out of it.
xlastsunsetx 4 years ago
Well, unfortunately, I know a woman in her 50s who has yet to learn that 99% of the people who know her, can't stand to be around her. I've chosen to overlook a lot, over the 20+ years that I've known her, but finally had enough. And she has totally screwed up her kids and now has custody of her grandchild, and is continuing the same poor parenting by spoiling, requiring no accountability, and setting a bad example. Again, just one more example.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
If parents don't start wising up the prisons will be so overcrowded. When my son was 1 I took him to his check-up and handed me a piece of paper that clearly stated that in the state of california you are no allowed to spank your child and I just thought oh my goodness what is this world coming too. If parents don't spank how the heck will the child know when they've done something wrong. Spare the Rod spoil the child!
maybejanie 4 years ago
Be careful with what you say about spanking. You never know who might accuse you of "abusing" your child. And I understand WHY they passed that law.. is it a law?.. since so many people actually beat their children instead of just swatting them. But different children's personalities will respond differently to different types of discipline. When I was young, my parents spanked me and it was VERY effective! lol But my brothers couldn't care less. They were difficult for my parents to handle.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
You have a very annoying voice
GreekAnonymous 4 years ago
That is very rude.
mangobanna 4 years ago
I just ignore the haters. Or if they're really obnoxious, I just block and delete. They're not worth my energy ;)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
True, I just thought I would tell them off for ya!
mangobanna 4 years ago
LOL. OK. Thanks!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Have you any sources for your claims for the human brain remaining undeveloped until the age of 25? As far as I was aware, connections in the brain are fully formed around the age of ten in most people, although it's usually later for boys. That's not to say that they're emotionally mature. However, someone who is not so long before the age of 25 is abnormal, surely.
hiswayornoway 4 years ago
Also: regarding 'chores' and 'training children'. It seems to me that you regard childhood as a period of socialisation geared toward the 'world of work'. I don't agree that attempting to institutionalise children in this fashion is a good thing. Discipline originally meant to teach - I'm all for teaching children to cope with and understand the modern world, I'm not for 'training' (indocrinating?) them to accept it and fit into it without question. This sounds like poor parenting to me ;)
hiswayornoway 4 years ago
Throws a temper until he gets what he wants? Now doesn't that just sound like George Walker Bush? And there isn't a single American with the guts to tell that snot-nosed punk of a public servant that he isn't the decider; he's JUST the servant of the people.
LordCerneAbbas 4 years ago
I think the public IS telling him. He'd have to be living under a rock to not know. The media is making it abundantly clear that the public is not happy. And I probably know what you're going to say. He IS living under a rock? LOL
biblegirl7 4 years ago
It was more along the lines of his brain not being fully developed. He's the greatest living proof of devolution of the species.
LordCerneAbbas 4 years ago
just one thing not only about education.
many people say that teens are so terrible theese days.
i don't think it's bad even when you're an adult to critizize the society, to say your oppinion, and it's very important to develop their own opinion
of course it's an important thing to be respectful, friendly and open minded
but i don't think politeness is the most important
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
Teens don't bother me. I can relate to them. It's the little screaming brats that drive me batty O.o
biblegirl7 4 years ago
one example for too much of strictness is another friend of mine, who was never allowed to drink just one drop of alcohol.
she went boozing very often, unlike me.
i had always been allowed to take a sip from my mother's wine, and as it wasn't such a taboo, i didn't neccecairily want to do it secretly
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
thanks for your replies
I'm happy for you and your daughter having a great relationship :)
I agree that both extrems are wrong.
like letting your child do whatever it wants is not good, but it's also wrong to beat and shout at your child all the time
(not talking about you, just in general)
a friend of mine has a very non-strict mother, and she's a very very friendly person, respectful to other people and animals and lively.
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
sometimes it's not about cookies, but the children just want attention from their parents. if they yell at their kids or hit them it hurts the kid but that's the only way to get in contact with its parents
that's very sad i think
so if you talk friendly with your children
and ignore their screaming if they want something they are not allowed to have it will be best
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
If you've watched a lot of my videos, you'll see the relationship I have with my daughter, so a lot of this is moot. I've always taken the time to explain things. But children will not always understand what we're explaining. No matter how much you simplify it, their brains aren't developed enough. That's when the parent has the final word. I agree that tantrums should be ignored... except when they're in a public place. Nobody else wants to hear a screaming child. It's rude.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
When my daughter was little, if she pulled that crap, I would march her right out of wherever we were. I was always very sensitive to other people's peace of mind. I also agree with you that some children are just wanting attention. My own mother said I used to do that. And she tried giving me plenty of positive attention, but I did it anyway. She had to lay down the law. Some children have the personality that will always test the boundaries.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
As for bad behavior being the fault of the parents, sometimes it's true, sometimes it's not. My brothers and I were brought up the same way, yet they went WAY off track for a long time. The problem was, my parents tried to discipline all of us the same way. But we had different personalities. What worked on me did not work on them. My parents did their best, but they're not psychologists.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Anyway, my daughter and I have a great relationship. We talk about everything and she doesn't follow the pack behavior of other children. She has a lot of wisdom for her age. I was pretty strict on her, most of the time. It's the lack of discipline when they're younger that usually makes then act out, OR they can have parents that are too strict and they rebel (I did that). Communication is key, but age plays a huge factor in the child's ability to understand.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Oh! And thank you for your comments =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
It sounds like you are in denial.
jarrod72501 4 years ago
Girl, this video should be played on a daily basis in every Parent's & Guardian's home! The Lack Of Discipline is why the Teens of today are so Screwed Up!
LECLARA 4 years ago
LOL. My sentiments exactly!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
when it comes to things like wanting cookies it's best to say "no we won't buy cookies now, you've had cookies yesterday, let's cook something nice instead" if the child yells again you can say "no we won't buy this" again and when the child continues to scream just IGNORE it
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
to 1:30 minutes:
I think it's important to explain why something is "wrong"
if you just say "don't do this" the child will be confused because it is a human itsself it can think for itsself and a part of childhood is to develop your OWN opinion!
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
if you watch things like supernanny, you see that it's mostly the parent's fault if the children act up.
The biggest problem is, that nowerdays many people don't take their time to talk to their children and also to listen to what they have got to say
EmeraldStrawberry 4 years ago
oh gosh i get so annoyed when that kid is screaming when im shopping. ive almost said something to those parents so many times ahhh
brambleator 4 years ago
I am SO with you on that one!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
man lucky u aint ma mum
PeachKisses101 4 years ago
I think the key is consistency. Without that your desired result will not be achieved. Children understand consistent discipline as being black and white. They may still rebel but they know where the boundaries are. Inconsistent discipline and morals invite chaos. Kids are smart, they begin to see that your objection to their behavior is dependant on the situation and mood YOU'RE IN and not the behavior it's self. Thus, they believe, their behavior is OK and your reaction is NOT.
Tuvoc310 4 years ago
Great point! It's human nature to keep pushing, to see how far we can go. Even adults do that. But at least as adults (hopefully) we know there are consequences for our actions. Children are still learning that =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Not everyone is like this. Not every kid and teen act the same way, and I'm proof of that. Thanks.
Guiltyx23 4 years ago
My daughter doesn't act that way either. But I taught her to be self controlled and self disciplined. That's done through discipline. The video was not about punishment.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I know, I'm the same way. My mother and I talk about absolutely everything and I was never a kid who screamed about nothing. If I wanted something, I'd ask, if she said no then she said no and I'd get on with my life. I know it wasn't about punishment.
Guiltyx23 4 years ago
That's great the you talk to your mom :) And I'm glad you "got" the video. Most people did. But a few people thought I was saying talking about punishment. Thanks for commenting =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I think everyone should have good relationships with their parents, they gave birth to you after all. And no problem, I love all your videos. Keep it up :)
Guiltyx23 4 years ago
Thanks =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Wow, you're really good at this stuff. o.o ...
Props!
Meatwadz 4 years ago
Well thanks. It ain't over yet, but so far, so good ;)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I really don't agree with this. I am almost 14 and my mom still tries to manage my life. She thinks I don't understand how to do my homework,chores,etc. myself. When infact I do! I just don't get all A's im not an A+ student and never will be my body just dosen't work that way! She dosen't understand that so she keeps pushing which is just tearing our friendship and relationship apart.
UmSawyer 4 years ago
(cont)
I look at my peers who had to work in high school, who weren't just given everything, who were taught responsibility and I am envious. They're lightyears ahead of where I am. They know this stuff and I'm still learning.
Good video!
skylarandmoose 4 years ago
Wow. Are you serious? To be honest, I was a spoiled brat when I was younger. Fortunately, when I was almost 17, my dad cut me off financially. It was the best thing they could have done. They had already bought me a car, paid my insurance, etc. All they wanted me to do was pay for gas. But I wasn't holding up my end of the deal. I would have never thought this at the time, but now I'm really glad my dad stopped the cash wagon!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Yeah? Sometimes I wish my family would do that. But the truth is right now I need their money. Thank God I've learnt to be conservative with my finances (or more conservative, anyway). The most fulfilling time in my life, after all, was when I was on leave and working full time, paying my own bills and getting my own cheque.
skylarandmoose 4 years ago
I know what you mean about the fulfillment of providing for yourself. It's a great feeling =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
YOU ARE SO RIGHT! I'm a 21 year old university student who grew up spoiled rotten, getting his way on everything all the time. It's one of the biggest mistakes my family ever made.
I left home at 18 and went to a school far away from my family. I didn't know how to budget, how to manage my time, how to deal with authority figures who told me no, and how to accept the consequences of my own actions. A lot of that is still true - I'm learning as I go.
skylarandmoose 4 years ago
I think the result of saying no and not sticking with it has the end result with the child growing up to be a manipulative adult.
I've seen what you describe (kids making demands for expensive toys); the Biblical teaching that comes to mind is "Godliness with contentment is great gain."
thrufaithalone 4 years ago
Totally agree on the manipulative part! I've seen a lot of that. Great scripture too ;)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
much to long and rambly
TehGabe 4 years ago
When it comes to kids you've gotta let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Once you draw a line in the sand, THAT's it! This has forced me several times to grab my two kids by the hand and march us out of whatever fun place we were in. But the next time I draw the same line in the sand : THEY LISTEN! (most of the time)
Larryk12308 4 years ago
Gotta have that "most of the time". Kids will still be kids! =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I have no kids myself, so perhaps I should be careful with what I say. Be patient, love your spouse ALOT, be dedicated completely to your spouse, the power of your example is very strong. Let your Yes be Yes, and NO, NO, communicate with eachother. Educate the children, and in the end, if all fails, some physical action is justified.
Mekelsior 4 years ago
children are being brainwashed by television and the parents let them watch the mezmerizing tube to turn them into real un-aware to the world zombies
teemu1381 4 years ago
Although old shows like "Leave It To Beaver" are thought of as saccharin and unreal, many of the shows on (for kids) feature children disrespectful and antagonistic providing a paradigm of the same. If my children act this way, I remind them we don't live on Nick at Night.
Biblegirl: Do you wear pearls when you cook dinner?
napaoldblue 4 years ago
I don't cook.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
but do you love?
tdejmed 4 years ago
???
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I think the answer to your question is : I should get me a PC Cam hehe :) No idea. But I think, to be direct is important, I am that all the time, I try not to patronize, or well I try to be direct, sometimes I just talk about stuff I really dont know anything about.. like I do now, anyway the Bible has great words for this, and that is how I would try and do it.
Peace be with you.
Mekelsior 4 years ago
Yes, children are very impressionable. A perfect example is in how they dress. They wear what they see their idols wear. And the reality is, it's inappropriate attire in the real world.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i was never like that as a child. i swear. i never tested my parents or anything cuz my mom scared the shit out of me lol
dmurawskirocks 4 years ago
I was scared to death of my grandmother!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
ur brain doesnt develop till ur 25? wow. thats a scary thought
dmurawskirocks 4 years ago
It doesn't FINISH developing until 25 (average). It's a medical fact. And the sense of reasoning is what's still developing. That's why as children grow, some will grasp a concept that's being taught, while other won't get it. Then all of the sudden, you understand!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
aarong8
However, those of us who grew up in the city
(LA for me ) truly did not have access to guns. They were not imported and distributed in mass quantities like today.
Technology in the gun industry was obviously not as high.
The only family who had guns I that I ever met was in fact mine! (my dad had been rasied on a farm). Slow opperating SINGLE BULLET rifles.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
aarong8
You are in fact the product of an at least a *slightly* evolved society. Due in part to the study of psychology.
No kid I ever went to school would interact in public by attacking a stranger's intelligence level. If they did they would face serious bodily punnishment and be grounded for a month.
Accept your liberties and learn to discipline yourself. Think before you speak.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
If some of you are not aware of my channel guidelines, please read my channel description. I had to delete several comments because of name calling and a seeming lack of the ability to "agree to disagree". Everyone is entitle to their own opinion. Just state it politely and if no agreement is reached then let it drop!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
ugh i know im still a child and my parents are STRICT!i have this friend.Shes rich.her parents spoil her like crazy!!!She fails like 3 classes and gets a new pair of shoes or a new purse or something.When she gets in trouble she just says ''im sorrryy'' and her parents give her something else...i think her parents should watch this video and give her a spanking of all the times she acted out :)
Justakid12 4 years ago
And I don't detect the least bit of jealousy from you! :P
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i am not jelous! :P....i wouldnt want to get that spoiled since im not the person that wishes to be a millionaire :|....
Justakid12 4 years ago
Most people who have a lot of money and never had to work for it, have no appreciation for it anyway.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Ah, continued from my previous comment. Do not punish young adults the same way, the older they get, the more they should have learned. Talk with your children alot, trust them, but let them know there are consequences. It is better that their butt is a bit sore, than the impact with a crossing truck. It is not abuse, abuse is when you do it just to do it.
Mekelsior 4 years ago
Agreed on all points <:o)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Not every child that is not "disciplined" end up like what you just said.
But hey, I'm a "child", I guess I don't have a say in any of this.
Silvara 4 years ago 2
Most of the kids here have agreed. BTW, did you watch all their video responses? lol
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Brave topic girl!
3 points.
Raising a child IS a parenting class.
Seems experts emerge with each generation and we spend the next generation undoing the damage.
As I got older, I always preferred spanking over grounding. Driving privileges: advantage parents.
Oh yeah, time-out threats are good until a child is about 5; past that and they're parenting you.
Am I being relevant? Shame on me.
napaoldblue 4 years ago
Shame on you for being relevant! :P
biblegirl7 4 years ago
k..i may be young to sa anything on this topic...but still! i totally agree.i was disciplined as a younger child, and i do believe that it has done me a world of good!
steve6676 4 years ago 2
Me too :)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Biblegirl, it would help the readers if you hit the REPLY button to answer posts specifically. Your replies are all out of sequence, so when you say, "Me too", nobody knows who your answering! Just tryin to help.
aaron2gr8 4 years ago
That is how I'm answering. You Tube has glitches.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
If some of you are not aware of my channel guidelines, please read my channel description. I had to delete several comments because of name calling and a seeming lack of the ability to "agree to disagree". Everyone is entitle to their own opinion. Just state it politely and if no agreement is reached then let it drop!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i remember going shopping and seeing kids acting out and getting spankins in public and everyone clapped.i miss those days!now the parents are afraid of their children.
anigma007 4 years ago
there is ALWAYS a non-violent solution to any situation with kids. As I mentioned in a seperate comment, if you have a lot of pent up rage, parenting isn't your calling.
The solution is NOT
the 1950's "beat the child".
The solution is NOT
the 1990 "ignore-enable brat behaior".
It IS taking leadership, being well rested and present, turning off the cell phone, structuring environments, offering predictable consistent gudielines over and over and over...
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
The solution includes taking parenting classes, asking others for support/ help (and getting it), learning communication tools, taking breaks, figuring out what motivate each individual child and work towards that end.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
Honestly, some kids should not be taken into restaurants or malls. We can only ask of them what they are developmentally capable of which is focused attention:
(2x their age in years). A five year old can hold focus for 10 minutes. That's it!
If you take a five year old shopping with you for clothes for an hour YOU are the problem.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
Actually, spanking totally worked for me. My parents gave me a few swats on the butt and bingo! They now had a well-behaved child. It was the simplest, fastest, most effective way to keep me in line.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Did you ever have to use spanking as a parent? If so, was it effective?
mmitymouse 4 years ago
poppyflower66
I feel sorry for adults if they couldnt learn from their parents and expound on that information.most of us turned out o.k.
anigma007 4 years ago
poppyflower66
you dont understand spanking is not violence.i dont recall any kids going to school and shooting everyone when we were growing up.life is about a happy medium.i would rather get a rap on the hand than burn myself!
anigma007 4 years ago
spare the rod and spoil the child does not work.but i agree with everything else you said.a positive environment is very conducive to learning.love your children enough to discipline them.
anigma007 4 years ago
anigma007
I am a counselor and teacher. I see a lot of patterns of you taking subtle *pleasure* in others' suffering. I see it a lot in D.V. survivors. it is a projection of pain.
"I miss the good old days of public spanking and crowd cheering..."
This indicates that you have unconsciously internalized the pain from your past to the point that you are not really in your body. Next you *wish* others could experience this. This isn't you speaking from yur HIGHEST self.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
Children have LESS rights than adults in every respect. They eat what is served, live in the family they were born to for 18 years- even if it is highly non- functional! They don't vote or drive or have money.
At least allow them the respect they deserve to draw a boundry around their body (if not mind and spirit) and say NO- to being hit.
I would object to anyone hitting you, not because you are an adult, but because you are a person.
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
anigma007:
re:"you dont understand spanking is not violence"
Hitting: is violence.
Spanking: By definition is a SERIES of hits. Therefore is is violent.
Also Psych 101 states that hitting children actually PROMOTES agression. If you hit a child you may stop the *visible behavior* but the rage increases & stays inside and is released later in life or a school in marriage, etc. Very sad.
No one went to school w/ guns 30 years ago because they were not available....
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
I got spanked plenty of times. It worked! I stopped causing a scene and my parents were able to continue their shopping. Kids just want attention (usually). My parents never "beat" me. I just got a few swats on the butt, that I barely even felt.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Are all of the shower responses your daughter's real friends, or just e- friends?
Either way this is very creative and adult funny. So I can say congrats to their parents!
Poppyflower66 4 years ago
They're just other You Tubers. They're just having some fun. They know I have a strict policy of not allowing anyone to be a bully or cause drama, so I assume they feel welcome here. I met DMurawski over a year ago. And OMFGJohnsTube is 18 or 19. I think it was his sister who started this idea to make their creative videos. They're just having fun :)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i actually aggree completly!!!!!!! lucky for me my parents are strict and dont give into tantrums....yeah lucky....
breakdancingmonkeys 4 years ago
Lucky you! :P
biblegirl7 4 years ago
lawyers and gov't have handicapped parents when it comes to disciplining our children.children have more rights than adults.i was spanked but never abused.people used to know the difference.
anigma007 4 years ago
Agreed!
biblegirl7 4 years ago
ironic how your given the most responsibility when your least likely to accept it.decisions that will shape the rest of your life (ie school).children must be forced to do the right thing.
anigma007 4 years ago
it got to the point my parents could give me a look and i knew!some kids will act out even when you raise your voice(stern).thats when i got a whoopin-worked every time.
anigma007 4 years ago
I got LOTS of whoopins! :P They were quite effective.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
You were watching Lemonette. Awesome!
Okay, back to the topic... Not being a parent ever (let's face it, cats are wonderful but don't really count here), there's a lot I can't address here due to lack of experience. But I look back on my upbringing and am grateful for the times when they were strict with me. I didn't appreciate it then, but I sure do now.
Good vlogging! I've missed coming here to get your POV.
OhCurt 4 years ago
Yeah, I had Lemonette on pause :) And I parent my cats too! As for my upbringing, I feel the same way about most of it. But my parents were WAY too strict. Trust me when I tell you being too strict causes a child to rebel. And I couldn't talk to my mom at all. As you can see by our videos, I've corrected that problem with my daughter =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Child hood IMO is not for training.....ITS FOR FUN!!!
Gabbylala145 4 years ago
I agree that children definitely have to have fun. But like in everything in life, there has to be a balance. We're having fun here on You Tube, but we also have responsibilities. With raising children, we increase their responsibilities as they get older. Otherwise, as adults, they don't know how to balance business with play time =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Sending you a worthless video response made before I could ingest caffeine or ... hit the head, as it were.
Gimmeaflakeman 4 years ago
I like it! I left you some looonnng comments =)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Why is everybody responding to your videos in the shower?
carabelle101 4 years ago
I have no idea. The teenagers came up with that one. LOL. Let them have their fun.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i totally agree...i hate when i hear kids screaming in some public place and the parents are all like honey you need to be quiet now..that wont teach them anything.
DazIsMe 4 years ago
Screaming children drive me absolutely crazy! I never allowed my daughter to act that way. Most of the time, I don't hear the parents tell the kids to even be quiet. They just don't care about anyone else.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
i've never screamed like that when i was younger...my brother on the other hand,yells at everything...hes got such a bad temper,my parents dont put up with it though.
DazIsMe 4 years ago
Strong-willed child. There are plenty of them out there. Those are the tough ones. You have to find a way to keep them under control, without breaking their wills. My brothers were like that. My parents still don't know what they could have done differently. =/
biblegirl7 4 years ago
hehe yea my mom had it easy with me..now with my brother shes kindof confused with what to do and shes always saying...why cant he be like you to me :P
DazIsMe 4 years ago
Oh! She needs to be careful with that. My mom used to say similar things to me, about my brothers. Even if they never heard her, I think they picked up on her attitude. And I think it hurt them and caused them to act out even more. I honestly think they have insecurities to this day, as a result. I'm not bashing your mom. It just caught my attention because I still worry about my brothers.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
yea i get how you feel..i worry about him a lot cause he was getting into a lot of fights...so now we're all trying to create a "positive" environment for him...like less time playing games and less violent shows...and my parents are being very lovey but still strict if he does something bad..so i think hell be fine..just going through those little boy stages in life.
DazIsMe 4 years ago
Too bad child-rearing isn't easier. I really got lucky (or blessed) with my daughter. She's such a great kid.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
oh btw..why are they all doing responses in showers? lol
DazIsMe 4 years ago
I have no idea. The kids decided to have some fun with this one. It's harmless. No biggie :)
biblegirl7 4 years ago
I SOOO needed a dose of biblegirl7! I was over watching partners making fun of other YouTubers, and needed some good clean thought provoking content....so I came here and got it! One Day, biblegirl7 will rise to replace some of those messes! LOVE YOU! Jolene Sugarbaker The Trailer Park Queen
JoleneSugarbaker 4 years ago
LOL. Thanks Jolene.
biblegirl7 4 years ago
Good show! I like to see all those responses! That's allot. You need to discipline your daughter now! Because of her, I have left every light on in your house, made all your pictures crooked, opened all your doors and left all the lights on and the toilet seats up! Your husband let me do it, so u might need to discipline him too! ;-)
Doublebug3 4 years ago