Relationships and Disability

[kazakhstanmkj]

i met someone with cerebral palsy.He is handsome cute charming. He gets older women.

[SupportAlexJones]

I'm disabled and I want to date a girl who is disabled its hard to do that and find a girl

[ubermensch826]

@SupportAlexJones wait, are you not attracted to non disabled girls?

[812edward]

Yes, we people with disabilities, do make love and / or have sex.

[SpinergyDude]

Showing people as people this is WHAT I am all about. We are not FREAKS. We are not JOKES. We are human beings. Welcome to the largest effort of its type ever to grow a grassNews NetWork into a MainStream one.

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[madvids44]

As such the notion is that actual "normal" sexual feelings, the "pulls" of attraction and fantasies are not a part of a physically and mentally disabled persons' life experience. The cognitively disabled are viewed as eternal children and PD individuals relationships are put up on a pedestal because it's "normal" (in the TAB world at least) to view PWD's and sex as either impossible or "dirty" like the elderly. If you want to see a movie relating to this topic watch "the other sister"

[madvids44]

it is a movie about two young adults with Down Syndrome who are in a romantic relationship and they thrive despite the "attitude barriers" of their families. Great movie to really conceptualize this topic. FYI: I'm a man and haven't dated so I don't like the generalization that this problem of perceived asexuality and actual relational inexperience with PWD's is solely a female one based on what the female wheelchair user viewed as a question about a disability difference in this area.

[madvids44]

I guess it was a poorly worded question to begin with because although more males are shown in the movies there's no real gender difference in real life if you have a disability at birth like myself or someone acquires it really young- say in the age range 10-13. Disabled kids of both genders have to deal with the same general issues of relational inexperience and ignorance about "dating rituals."

[madvids44]

Here! Here! from a PDSB Disabiled Sexual Being. I'm 21 year old who hasn't been dating yet because amoung other things I've lived in a closed rural community. I think part of the perception of asexuality with regard to PWD's has to do with religion and people like me who are seen as little (what I call) "circumstantial saints" who are viewed as "closer to God" only because of disability and who bravely carry the Cross of the Lord blah blah blah. (cont)