I must say I find more white women accept me for who I am and there has been a small number of black women who accept me for who I am. They are out there, just far and few between. Unfortunately, I've gotten to the point where I nearly avoid black women cause I know there is gonna be some drama. Sad but true. The black women I have befriend have been a blessing and I keep them near and dear. Most of my friends are generally white and Asian. As to why black women hate so much, I wish I knew!
I'm a medium brown black chic and I can relate to everything you have said. I have had some of the worst experiences with black women. My hair has been down to my waist many times and I have no problem cutting it since it grows really fast. Black women act like they hate me for this. Futhermore, I've been told I act and sound white. Ummm.....really? Just because I like rock that makes me too white? WTF! Black women have tormented me since high school and now in the workplace. It's horrible!
I personally have been made fun of more by black girls than white girls. One woman told my older sister she should call us black instead of mulatto because she was "holding us back". How can someone classify you? I wish we could all get over race T_T
She's just being honest about her experiences. I don't think it's wrong or right. there is a cultural difference she is speaking of. I can't believe that people who do not share her experience are telling her how she should feel. Smh
@MrBarnable. Dude...why don't you just shut your racist trap?!! She isn't "so racist" because all she's doing is telling us that some African American women look down on her(or should I say her hair). And sometimes that's true...I'm mixed and women of color are ALWAYS giving me dirty looks.I'm not saying that ALL colored women do it though.And you're clearly just jealous,or else you wouldn't be saying that crap.
@sashirules I try not to be racist. I am mixed as well. I do not understand how a person can be horrified to get a hair cut. Hair grows. She said that she feel uncomfortable in a black salon,just go to another type of salon. She did not say that AAW look down on her or her hair. People always tell me they like my hair (colored and uncolored), but I do not feel that they are giving me dirty looks. Are you jealous? with the crap you are writing?
You seem to be so racist. The setting cannot be all white if you are there.
You do not look white or sound white.
Your hair is African type hair, it is not great. You were horrified to get your hair cut, but you think you are so white. hair grows. May God bless you.
Your videos are disturbing, like you have self hatred. I am so sorry you are not white, but it will be okay, hopefully you can live with yourself. Talk to your mom or dad. Other "Black" people grow in white environments.
Tif, It really seems to me that you are not comfortable in your skin. It seems like you would rather be white, and you wish that you could be seen as white. There are other ways to have your hair straightened, you do not have to go to an African american salon. There are other ways.... I am sorry that you are not white, you never will be, your mom is not white. I completely understand you wanting to embrace being white and maybe black, but your tone sounds hateful to your black side.
So you are "Black" and yet you talk like a White girl and spent most of your life around Whites? Mhm. You are a despicable disgrace to mixed people and the White race, and a waste of valuable White genes. You are yet more proof why black female x white male race crossings result in degenerate children and shouldn't occur in the first place. I should have realized what kind of scum you were from the beginning. It figures.
So you are "Black" and yet you talk like a White girl and spent most of your life around Whites? Mhm. You are a despicable disgrace to mixed people and the White race, and a waste of valuable White genes. You are yet more proof while black female x white male race crossings result in degenerate children and shouldn't occur in the first place. I should have realized what kind of scum you were from the beginning. It figures.
Oh, please get over yourself. I personally don't see where any female, black or whatever, should be envious of you. You don't look that different from any other black female with long hair-and believe it or not, it's not *that* much of a rarity. I know girls who look like you who have two black parents. You sound really dumb-don't you have anything else better to talk about?
When well Biracials understand that it is not that hard being biracial. So what you remember being the only black in a white county. Try being really dark with no trace of whtie in your gene pool. but forget race, try being an unattractive white in a WHITE community. Its sems you are angry of that fact that people are jealous. Are you tired of envy? Are you tired of ppl feeling intimidated by your sex appeal? Biracial ppl dont want 2 b just ppl cuz they always catergorize themselves .
WHy in america every has to be apart of a tribe (parsay). You see a few black people acting up abd your looking at ALL of us like that. Same with whites and other races. Then theres the goddamn subgenres. BLASIANS. BLAXICANS. ANYTHING ELSE. Then some factions are put on a pedestal then conceit grows. I clicked on a video about mean girls and got a video about HOW WONDERFUL YOUR HAIR IS and HOW MEAN BLACK PEOPLE ARE. I know your a little open mided than that. DO U THINK ALL BLACK PPL ARE MEAN?
i think that if you want to completely disconnect from black side.. it is possible. With your personality I think you could completely leave your black side and never look back cause seems like thats what you want , and never look back i think the only person holding back you is you.
With regards to that 'catch out' question they asked you Tiffany, this same thing could also happen to a Mono-Racial black person if they were brought up differently from the way that most real black people are brought up, so I think the real point there is not so much that you were rejected for being Mixed-Race, it was because of your upbringing and the fact that you weren't into their culture, which is a different issue, this can happen to anyone, if your outside of a culture looking in.
I remember when I went to just a normal hair salon (use to dealing with straight hair), lord the poor gay guy was there till closing with me xD. I told him not to wet my hair, but he washed and blow dryed it, then put little bits of tin foil all over it (can you imagine it?) I did get stares. The guy did manage to do it, for him it was the most challenge he ever had. Gave hun huge tip, never went to hair dressers again.
In 7th grade, my Mother (white) moved me and my brother from California to Alabama! Of course, me and Ben were the only mixed kids and I remember the black kids (who were few) being so mean to me. The white kids were slightly less mean. The only kids that were nice were the Indian kids. I felt like we fit in more with them lol. ALso- I am sick of 'white' people assuming that my hair is fake and assuming that I listen to certain kinds of music...ok I'm done :)
The list below has been made on what racial group on average has the most beautiful and sexy looking women. We all understand that there are beautiful women from all racial groups but this list is based on average percentage of attraction.
1. White Girls
2. Latin Girls
3. Bi-racial Girls ( Girls who are biracial, like Alicia Keys or Halle Berry).
Really stupid comments, not all black women want black hair, infact alot of black women look beautiful with short hair.You are the one who feels insecure, if you dont meet white stereotypes of beauty you feel you are not beautiful. Shame, this is why interacial relationships must have depth or you produce self hating children.
She's so full of sh@*! What exactly is she bitching about? Sheda82 you are so right! I've never had this experience in a black salon. This gilr is such a dip! Stop bashing black people! If you love hanging around white people so much then go to their salon and see how you get treated! You idiot! You are insecure and if you act like an outcast, you'll get treated like one!
Maybe you just need to go to a different salon. Obviously the people who work at the salon are unprofessional if they are making comments. and he clients must be equally ignorant if they are saying rude things to you. But its not a reflection of the total "black salon" experince. Probably just some ignorant ass people
just wondering if you get to travel & see diversity? everything seems[ed?] static in your world. To a certain degree everybody is physically mixed- [caucasoid, negroid & mongoloid and combos therein] in fact, from what I can see you've got negroid features w/ less melanin... no biggie... just genes... it gets tricky when we start creating ethnicities and *ACT* differently to make up for what we think we're lacking. Enjoy your life! The more you focus on 'poor me' the more silly it all sounds
You can be all black, with kinky hair and still have negative experiences in black salons. I speak somewhat proper but I don't have long, curly/wavy hair like yours and I no longer go to salons.
this reminds me of the time I tried to get highlights done in Germany and went to a white salon and just walked out on them for the ridiculous comments that they made
Babygirl, just live your life and live it to it's fullest. This world that we live in is so screwed up from the past to the present and future, it ain't funny. Everybody as their opinion based on biases, prejudices, and ignorance. It ain't your fault who u are but at the same time all black people aren't like that its just certain people to associate with. Take care
black ppl dont call every white person racist...wtf r u talkin about trinicheer08!! if u racist than u just racist. don't try to put that bull on all black ppl!!
ur so right for black ppl to say that white ppl are so racist , black ppl have managed to treat us as a mixed race shitty...but i guess they can only see others racism!
@trinicheer08 Dont forget that black people who are very dark also face name calling in the black community( heard of the brown paper bag test) It however is a problem especially in the black American community.However if one feels the need to let everyone know they are white when they look obviously black it will create a problem. Celebrate all your bloodlines and be proud but ask yourself one question ,who will accept you easier? You know the answer.
Its great to hear about the experiences that people have throughout their lives. I respect your beliefs but I was just wondering.. have you ever considered that you are treated differently because you do not connect culturally rather than physically. What I get from listening to you is that everyone is jealous because you believe you have "superior" features. Maybe you are pushed away because people sense your "superiority" complex and judge you as a negative person because of it???
I really felt your story and felt the mean "ness" with you when you told your story. Its a shame its like that. You are beautiful, and sweet and nice. Keep doing you.
One thing that I found out about black people is that they r the first people to be racist. and to mean to others. yes take it fro. a man long hair (butt crack hair) is extremly beautiful and sexy. just move ur hair before up poop. Poop in beautiful hair is not beautiful or sexy. just plain nasty.
HOT! I love it...just sitting around thinking about my BIRACIALNESS!!! LOL...i'm married to Dawn from En Vogue and she never understands so I have to say..."It's A Mulatto Thing"...LOL...but anyway...nice diaries love...check my video's! We have a web reality series!
Ok...but before you generalize you should see who the hell I am by clicking on my other videos...lol...my name is Dre Allen. Dawn's husband. Liar? I think not...
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You are a coat tail rider. Dre, you have to mention Dawn just to get attention. Heard you got some other woman pregnant while married to Dawn. Heard you are a user and try to act like you're rich but you're not. Dre you said you have been working on an album for ages. Where is it?
I also wanted to comment that it seems as though you feel trapped having the physical characteristics of black people that you can not escape but probably would...given the opportunity. Just wanted to share my thoughts and observations, which I think is the purpose of your diary.
Hearing the way you speak of fitting in around white people, listening to "white music" or sounding "white" is what makes you proud. And you've had some pretty bad experiences dealing with black people, which I find to be very interesting. I happen to think that black people are THE MOST accepting of people of all ethnicities as I have observed and experienced.
I will definitely continue to watch your videos, maybe I might notice a transition...I don't know. I've observed your analysis of black and white, "opposites", your evaluation of self ("I was pretty and I did commercials.") and I'm just wondering if you thought the black girls were not pretty? Could they have done commercials? There must have been something positive about them, they obviously made it out of the Detroit public school system into the "better" (and mostly white) private school.
But they picked on her for no reason other than she didnt know what "troops" were. They sound like a group of ignorant little girls. I got picked on for not acting black in school. Those girls were prolly jealous bc they figured tiff was rich bc she was mixed or something stupid like that. I mean it wasnt like she shunned them she said she was happy they were there.
Hi..I just happened upon your channel and in what I've watched (knowing that this was a year ago), it seems that you deal with a lot of issues with the "black side" of your ethnicity. Your description of bad experiences with young black girls makes me wonder if you've ever had experiences of being ostracized by white people? From what I've watched, you seem to revel in the "white side" of your ethnicity. I've yet to hear of any bad experiences in that arena. So I guess u were totally accepted??
your the same age as me?? I was in the 7th grade in '88. I know this is irrelevant, but you look really good!!! Keep sayin' NO to Drugs, I guess....lol. BTW, yeah...I grew up in Detroit Public Schools and now teach there as well....nothing has changed. Those girls were jealous, but you can't blame them.
I am about 10 episodes in and I love it I really identify with alot of the things you are going through I must say i am not bi racial but have had some of the same experiences with both worlds the pressure to be one or the other and just wanting to be yourself your are a brave strong woman
@tiffdjones hair is the crown...when you are told every single thing about you is ugly and nasty
then fast forward to what seems like a million years later and its not that your ugly any more its that you dont look like this (white and pretty) and never will...there are people of your race that look better than you while physical apprnce is not everything it plays apart!..insecurity is a ugly ugly thing…to me its the thing that can turn any person into a evil nasty being
My aunt, my grannys older daughter, has longer more finer hair. I think her father, who is not my grandfather, was a latino. My granny used to tell me how she got teased at school by other black girls because she had what black women and others call "better hair". Crazyness!
That good hair shit is really dumb. People of all races can have good or bad hair. Straight or curly hair don't make hair good. Cause there are people who have straight and curly hair that is bad. :)
I, personally, do not use the word "race" when describing myself or anyone else. There is only one race...the Human Race. I feel that when people use the word "race" it gives them a chance to feel superior or put somone else down. If people did not use the word race, as though there is more than one, then we would see eachother much differently than we all do now.
Yes lol, I figured you were a very articulate teenager around fourteen to seventeen years of age, but then again, I hadn't watched many of your videos.
I think you were trying to say that those black women in the salon were jealous because you have long hair. And you're RIGHT. Black women really cherish hair but generally speaking we have shorter hair. So, when they see another black woman with longer hair, their insecurity about their short hair surfaces in the form of meanness towards the black woman with longer hair.
That is what i was trying to say. And not all black women would have that feeling or that reaction to the feeling. When I had so much of my hair cut off, i felt weird. i felt less than i had been before. i was stunned. but i wouldn't have let that insecurity manifest into negative actions/thoughts/words toward someone with longer hair than me. i understand the insecurity because we're led to believe that beauty and joy may lie in long hair. i don't understand being mean. no good comes of it.
Tell you an experience of mine, biracial (hispanic/black) and my mother used to braid my hair in the back like and Indio and it went all the way past my butt, I decided around 6th grade that I wanted to cut it off and the barber just took off my whole braid and all the white woman in the shop were practically crying.
People of all colors love long hair, just look at Crystal Gale.
too funny... my methods were slightly more evil.... I would have known what they were [and they were lame & ugly sneakers] but I would have STILL said what you said just to piss them off >:D for some reason I was entertained by the mean girls & would give them fuel on purpose... while they're having their convulsive laugh I'd skip away & do my thing - not sure how healthy that was, but it's made me resilient as an adult. Bring on the mean girls! lol
I'm lmao. @ almondy, why are you acting so dumb? why is it when a biracial woman speaks out, some stupid person, like you, comment to her saying she;s acting like a pretty light skinned girl??
Hello, I hope you are not mad or dont like black Ladies. Because I m black and I think you and your hair are pretty cool! I like the way you stay cool wnen you talk about it. peace and blessin
Well yea it's hard wishing you had a hair texture you really want. I am biracial, but my native american/indian side dont show on me. Which is the worst part of my life. I have complete african american hair and it really sucks. It doesnt really grow fast any more so now I have short hair so life right now is so crazy.
Hi, I enjoy the video's. I go through the same stuff and I'm not even directly mixed. It's my parents that are mixed. Dad's black,white, indian, and my mom is afro-brazilian. I feel alone because I don't fit in anywhere where I live I think. I'm too ethnic looking for whites and too light for blacks (I'm not even that light..more mocha cofee maybe? lol. Just keep strong you are a beautiful girl with a big heart and things hurt you alot because you want to be kind to everyone. Just pray for them.
Thank you so much for saying that! Excellent advice :-) I'm so glad you enjoy the videos. I look forward to "talking" with you in the future. And I'm gonna watch your YMCA class too :-)
Boring! And I've heard it a million times before. Tragic and confused mulatto whining about how she's more accepted by white people and how she's been ostracized by black people and how black women are jealous of her because she's a pretty light skinned girl with long and good hair, blah, blah, blah! Black people don't want to hear you bullsh*t stories because we got problem of our own.
oh please you really need to get over yourself with african american women wanting your long beautiful hair. I have had long hair down to middle of my back( all naturally mine) and both of my parents are black. Biracial people and white people arent not the only ones privy to long hair. Maybe your making the blacks you come in contact with uncomfortable with the vibes that your're giving off. Have you thought that maybe it was you and not them?
EXACTLY. And if you listen to some of these other vlogs, it all starts to make total sense. I've found that more often than not Black people involved in IR have internalized racism in ways they themselves cannot articulate. And here we have the manifestations of self hatred in the form of "biracial tiffany". What Black woman tells her child not to trust another Black woman with her hair? Then she STILL seeks a Black salon, but a Black man? It puts the tragic in tragic mulatto.
Don't feel bad about not knowing what "troops" are. I had no clue either and I'm black. Anyway, I'm sorry that your past experience makes you feel like you can be more confortable with whites instead of blacks. There's good and bad people on both sides of the spetrum. I hope you meet some cool black folks to be friends if you haven't already.
I'm actually kind of saddened by this video, because when I watch it I'm become even more certain that I can never support a multiracial movement. You have already admitted that you move better in white circles and aren't used to being in a Black Salon. So you obviously don't know that that particular environment may have a culture that includes freely talking about folks who are there. I've seen that being done to "monoracials"-quite often. Ofcourse you assume it's some sort of ...
Anti-biracial issue. Secondly, even IF you are ostracized for "talking white" or not knowing "black stuff", how do you think monoracial Blacks from environments like yours feel? And when THEY are ostracized they can't say "they're jealous cuz I'm mixed". PLEASE. I am more convinced now than ever before that mulattoism is White supremacy in a new form. Mulattoes tend to be completely oblivious to the things white people say and do, partly because they somehow think it no longer applies to them...
But let a black person do to them what Black people DO TO EACH OTHER, and all of a sudden it's proof that they're "biracialness" has alienated them. God only knows how many things white people have said to you or around you that you ignored or probably even laughed at. But you aren't traumatized by white people. Please... My dear, look in the mirror and say these words "I'm special. But not that special". LMAO. It's really not that serious.
thanks!!! i'm doing my best. thanks to supporters like you it's pretty easy to ignore them. i must've touched a nerve for them to be so upset and to comment even tho they are bored and don't want to hear it :-) i wonder why they want to keep me quiet....
Their reaction to you is no different than "Reverend" Jesse jackson's reaction to Barrack Obama. The Old guard soul patrol has difficulty dealing with any person of color that doesn't view life the way they do or believe what they believe. They think because of our looks that we somehow are the same as them, but they totally disregard that we have a vastly different experience from them and that are parental upbringing is different from there's.
so you talk "white" and you have long [pretty ?!ayisha wtf???]hair. would you like a cookie and blond dye to better assimilate into the white community? regardless of how you define your racial makeup, you are not as unique as you think you are. your bias is inadvertently showing. despite what the media wants us to believe, not all black women secretly long to be biracial. i hope you're able to resolve your issues with the "dark" (pun intended) side one day. best
As you get older, I hope you'll realize that you don't have to be nicer to people than they are to you all the time. Sometimes, if people direct nastiness to you, shock them and just say, F*%$ YOU, OK.
You're right! I just don't think 2 wrongs make a right so to speak. I think every one is basically good and that with patience kindness and compassion we could find common ground. so i try to be nice. but it gets tiring and the payoff is usually non existent. what's a girl to do?
I don't understand how u could feel confused by this. White people see you as black person trust me, u don't look mixed. Just look like a light skinned black girl. Black people come in beautiful shades thanks to slavery and once you get that, you won't have this "woe as me, tragic mulatto feeling"
its just so disappointing to see the whole, "woe is me, tragic mulatto feeling" because society bases race based on physical traits. Black people come is a variety of colors and shades and if you don't want to be considered black then fine, but dont feel bad if someone considers you black, because thats the way you look. Halle Berry and Barack Obama have no problem understanding this, why should YOU be any different.
One, she said that she didn't start this vlog for people to view it as "woe as me" as you say. In addition, I would like to add that Obama and Halle identify as "black" because they are public figure-heads, and that's what the majority (ie- white) of people would consider them based on looks alone. There's no reason, really, that they should have to just identify as one, and if they weren't in the public eye, it might no be that way.
I think you misunderstood my comment. Race is based on perception of skin color. This is the way of the world. The way she described her experiences with black people came as she doesn't want to identfy with the black race. And this is a problem that many biracials feels is a problem. Not long ago, biracial people were considered black and there's nothing wrong with that. Public figures understand the importance of perception. My comment wasn't meant to be offensive in any way.
You hit the nail on it's head. She has a self hatred complex for her "Black" heritage, and she wants so bad for people to think of her as anything but Black. Get over it MixedandConfusedTiff! You're Black so be proud.
lol about the hair salon...it's weird that you have had a lot of the same experiences as me but mine was for "talking proper" and "being smart" which are supposedly "anomalies" in the black community...just last year I swore off salons because I went in for a trim and the lady cut all of my hair off! I was soooo pissed!!!
our similarities are so interesting. i often wonder what the difference (and similarities) between my experience in predominately white areas and that of monoracial af/ams in similar settings. and now you're telling me! I am SO sorry that "lady" cut your hair off!!! I'm pissed just hearing that and it wasn't even my hair. I hope all the people who think my mom was crazy for warning me about "salons" read this comment :-)
lol..we should start a "not black enough" support group...
I don't understand why people can't just let people be themselves and not feel threatened by it! The world would be such a better place if we let that happen!!!
Alot of black women, if not all, can have long hair like to their backs, but because of all the hair processing and weaves and everything they damage their hair and they never see the true potential. There's also that mentality that they also want your hair texture as well *sigh* never gonna happen but it's not that serious its just hair anyway, lol. A lot of black women envy mixed race people, and usually turns to hate and it's just silly.
what are you on about? What in the world is this "good hair"? I don't know the kind of black people you've been meeting, but I couldn't give a flaming toss if my hair looked more European or not.
hey you were the one that was talking about how black people's hair is read the 4th comment on here from you and maybe you can see what i was talking about.
you are soooooooo right, I am mixed and my hair SUCKS!!! Frizzy, tangled, can't do shit with it without a ton of products and 2 hours a day, and people want my hair, wtf? I'd give anything for regular ole black hair. I have given up on this shit, I stick it in a bun or a ponytail and if I am feeling real creative I go and buy one of those fake buns/ponytails to attach to it.
I want to ask a question, if a person, who has classified themselves as 'black' and has two 'black' parents and have always known they were 'black' decides to take a genetic genealogy test and it comes out that they are 50% white and 50% black, in your opinion do you classify them as biracial?
I'm mixed with Black and Mexican But I have always been more at home with black PPL.
I hate to be around too mini Mexican ppl.
I have been with a lot of mixed girls and I know that it harder for them to be around Black PPL. I know how Black women can be Bitchis to light skin girls. I would get that shit from Mexican ppl calling me a nigger and shit like that from the age 5 to 18.
i can remember being of jealous of black girls. and white girls. i just figured i was missing out on something by not being "monoracial". thanks for sharing and taking the time to watch and make comments!
OMG!!!! are you kidding me! i had a accident 2 years ago, 2 days before Christmas with a hoilday candle. I had it lit too close to my hair and the left side of my hair went up in flames! i was rolling on the floor slapping my self! i lost about 4 inches of hair.
I'm SO sorry. I'm coming up on the two year anniversary of my hair fire too. So traumatic. I sort of blocked it out and didn't deal with it until I finally got the damaged hair cut off a year and a half later. It was so much! Especially for someone who never gets a true hair cut. I'm glad you are ok and your skin wasn't burned too. Thanks for sharing your story.
when I saw this sista I wanted to give you a hug. That's all hate directed at you. Trust me..being on the other end of the spectrum you get it there too. The "paper bag" test is a cruel master inflicted on us. Those of mixed heritage get ridiculed in both communities and struggle for a sense of self. People are cruel...we abuse one another and when there isn't support we can turn it on ourselves. Do you and don't trip off what people think...wise has good advice for you.
not to categorize you..but our people come in all shades of the rainbow. My grandmother was fair with blue eyes..I got teased by my cousins for being "shit-colored" and having nappy hair. I countered by calling them white. It's a cruel game..I'm just glad my Dad had my back and taught us not to perpetuate hatred of our race.
A mulatto is a person with one white parent and one black parent, or, more generally, a person of mixed black and white ancestry.[1] It derives from Spanish (and likely from Portuguese, also) mulato (small mule, person of mixed race, mulatto; from mulo, mule; from Old Spanish; from Latin mūlus), by analogy with the mule, which is the mixed offspring of a horse and a donkey.
i don't call myself that. i named this vlog for reasons i've explained over and over. essentially it's the only word to define my racial make-up that doesn't need further clarification. biracial can mean any two (or more) 'races', as can mixed. i'm talking about what it's like to have a black and a white parent in this country that tries to keep these two groups so separate from each other.
this importance on hair with you is so sad...im mixed myself and have long long "pretty"hair and it means nothing...and your hair is not that "white"neways...to me you look maybe black and native or mixed with spanish not even black and white so its weird that this is that confusing for you...im lighter than you with green eyes and a black mother and this has never been a issue for me
You discovered the meaning of the word "player haters" early on. It's sad you had to experience the jealous new girls at your private school. You do realize that even though they were children, they knew exactly what they were doing--being hateful. You persevered and turned out to be a beautiful, articulate kind young woman. I don't think they met the same fate. Your Mom was wise to educate you where the majority of the students, teachers and parents valued you.
Thanks again for your kind, kind words. They were simply being cruel. I didn't see it as player hating back then tho. I saw it as a clear sign that something was wrong with me. I did however have many wonderful friends who have wonderful families that I have many fond memories of. I will remember to say that in a video because i think it's important.
Tiff, this does not just apply to you as a biracial female, but it applies to women in general who have problems with other women. I am a Black female, not biracial, very long hair (that I would love to wear short, but my head is too big for short hair). If you knew more black women you would find that across the board women are looking at each other and making various judgements. You are not the exception. Some women are even jealous of beautiful dark skin and beautiful short hair.
One comment that i wnat to make from the perspective of a black canadian is that alot of the issues within the biracial experience is not limited to biracial people and that the divisoin within the black communities all over North america affect "pure black" people as well. Whats worse is the accusation that you don't want to be black. I really like your topics and I feel you on alot of the things you talk about.
thank you for watching and commenting! the accusation that you don't want to be black is so awful. it puts all kinds of pressure on a person who just wants to "be", and gets in their way and makes authenticity harder to determine. thanks again for your interest, comments, and for subscribing! i'm glad to hear a canadian perspective.
As a black female I used to be told that I'm not black enough because of the way I spoke and I used to care, but finally came to the point of just being me. What does being "black mean anyway"?
I must say I find more white women accept me for who I am and there has been a small number of black women who accept me for who I am. They are out there, just far and few between. Unfortunately, I've gotten to the point where I nearly avoid black women cause I know there is gonna be some drama. Sad but true. The black women I have befriend have been a blessing and I keep them near and dear. Most of my friends are generally white and Asian. As to why black women hate so much, I wish I knew!
Allhoney33 1 week ago
I'm a medium brown black chic and I can relate to everything you have said. I have had some of the worst experiences with black women. My hair has been down to my waist many times and I have no problem cutting it since it grows really fast. Black women act like they hate me for this. Futhermore, I've been told I act and sound white. Ummm.....really? Just because I like rock that makes me too white? WTF! Black women have tormented me since high school and now in the workplace. It's horrible!
Allhoney33 1 week ago
I personally have been made fun of more by black girls than white girls. One woman told my older sister she should call us black instead of mulatto because she was "holding us back". How can someone classify you? I wish we could all get over race T_T
IAmBeautifulToo 3 months ago
You look like a lightskin black girl.
MsPrettygirlrock24 5 months ago
@MsPrettygirlrock24 "lightskin black" is an oxymoron.
briarts 4 months ago
She's just being honest about her experiences. I don't think it's wrong or right. there is a cultural difference she is speaking of. I can't believe that people who do not share her experience are telling her how she should feel. Smh
inuejo 5 months ago
@MrBarnable. Dude...why don't you just shut your racist trap?!! She isn't "so racist" because all she's doing is telling us that some African American women look down on her(or should I say her hair). And sometimes that's true...I'm mixed and women of color are ALWAYS giving me dirty looks.I'm not saying that ALL colored women do it though.And you're clearly just jealous,or else you wouldn't be saying that crap.
sashirules 6 months ago
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Kasi1123 5 months ago
@sashirules I try not to be racist. I am mixed as well. I do not understand how a person can be horrified to get a hair cut. Hair grows. She said that she feel uncomfortable in a black salon,just go to another type of salon. She did not say that AAW look down on her or her hair. People always tell me they like my hair (colored and uncolored), but I do not feel that they are giving me dirty looks. Are you jealous? with the crap you are writing?
Kasi1123 5 months ago
You seem to be so racist. The setting cannot be all white if you are there.
You do not look white or sound white.
Your hair is African type hair, it is not great. You were horrified to get your hair cut, but you think you are so white. hair grows. May God bless you.
Your videos are disturbing, like you have self hatred. I am so sorry you are not white, but it will be okay, hopefully you can live with yourself. Talk to your mom or dad. Other "Black" people grow in white environments.
MrBarnable 9 months ago
Tif, It really seems to me that you are not comfortable in your skin. It seems like you would rather be white, and you wish that you could be seen as white. There are other ways to have your hair straightened, you do not have to go to an African american salon. There are other ways.... I am sorry that you are not white, you never will be, your mom is not white. I completely understand you wanting to embrace being white and maybe black, but your tone sounds hateful to your black side.
MrBarnable 9 months ago
@MrBarnable errm not evrysingle person in the world wants to be white...gosh
candied88dj 8 months ago
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ummm.....I know that.........gosh
Kasi1123 5 months ago
@candied88dj
Kasi1123 5 months ago
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@candied88dj ummm........I know that...golly
Kasi1123 5 months ago
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So you are "Black" and yet you talk like a White girl and spent most of your life around Whites? Mhm. You are a despicable disgrace to mixed people and the White race, and a waste of valuable White genes. You are yet more proof why black female x white male race crossings result in degenerate children and shouldn't occur in the first place. I should have realized what kind of scum you were from the beginning. It figures.
wphonor 9 months ago
So you are "Black" and yet you talk like a White girl and spent most of your life around Whites? Mhm. You are a despicable disgrace to mixed people and the White race, and a waste of valuable White genes. You are yet more proof while black female x white male race crossings result in degenerate children and shouldn't occur in the first place. I should have realized what kind of scum you were from the beginning. It figures.
wphonor 9 months ago
Oh, please get over yourself. I personally don't see where any female, black or whatever, should be envious of you. You don't look that different from any other black female with long hair-and believe it or not, it's not *that* much of a rarity. I know girls who look like you who have two black parents. You sound really dumb-don't you have anything else better to talk about?
CinnCity78 1 year ago
When well Biracials understand that it is not that hard being biracial. So what you remember being the only black in a white county. Try being really dark with no trace of whtie in your gene pool. but forget race, try being an unattractive white in a WHITE community. Its sems you are angry of that fact that people are jealous. Are you tired of envy? Are you tired of ppl feeling intimidated by your sex appeal? Biracial ppl dont want 2 b just ppl cuz they always catergorize themselves .
kevantewhite 1 year ago
WHy in america every has to be apart of a tribe (parsay). You see a few black people acting up abd your looking at ALL of us like that. Same with whites and other races. Then theres the goddamn subgenres. BLASIANS. BLAXICANS. ANYTHING ELSE. Then some factions are put on a pedestal then conceit grows. I clicked on a video about mean girls and got a video about HOW WONDERFUL YOUR HAIR IS and HOW MEAN BLACK PEOPLE ARE. I know your a little open mided than that. DO U THINK ALL BLACK PPL ARE MEAN?
kevantewhite 1 year ago
i think that if you want to completely disconnect from black side.. it is possible. With your personality I think you could completely leave your black side and never look back cause seems like thats what you want , and never look back i think the only person holding back you is you.
evileyez504 1 year ago
wow, what a cutie...
jesse1957arizona 1 year ago
I am proud to be Biracial.
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heavenlyrko 1 year ago
With regards to that 'catch out' question they asked you Tiffany, this same thing could also happen to a Mono-Racial black person if they were brought up differently from the way that most real black people are brought up, so I think the real point there is not so much that you were rejected for being Mixed-Race, it was because of your upbringing and the fact that you weren't into their culture, which is a different issue, this can happen to anyone, if your outside of a culture looking in.
proff180 1 year ago
I remember when I went to just a normal hair salon (use to dealing with straight hair), lord the poor gay guy was there till closing with me xD. I told him not to wet my hair, but he washed and blow dryed it, then put little bits of tin foil all over it (can you imagine it?) I did get stares. The guy did manage to do it, for him it was the most challenge he ever had. Gave hun huge tip, never went to hair dressers again.
FayeChan01 1 year ago
In 7th grade, my Mother (white) moved me and my brother from California to Alabama! Of course, me and Ben were the only mixed kids and I remember the black kids (who were few) being so mean to me. The white kids were slightly less mean. The only kids that were nice were the Indian kids. I felt like we fit in more with them lol. ALso- I am sick of 'white' people assuming that my hair is fake and assuming that I listen to certain kinds of music...ok I'm done :)
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Sinnerswing 1 year ago
Really stupid comments, not all black women want black hair, infact alot of black women look beautiful with short hair.You are the one who feels insecure, if you dont meet white stereotypes of beauty you feel you are not beautiful. Shame, this is why interacial relationships must have depth or you produce self hating children.
EgbesuJuju2010 1 year ago 2
@EgbesuJuju2010 I meant long hair.
EgbesuJuju2010 1 year ago
She's so full of sh@*! What exactly is she bitching about? Sheda82 you are so right! I've never had this experience in a black salon. This gilr is such a dip! Stop bashing black people! If you love hanging around white people so much then go to their salon and see how you get treated! You idiot! You are insecure and if you act like an outcast, you'll get treated like one!
Sugarsherry 2 years ago 5
you are beautiful!!! will u run away with me???
hicstudios 2 years ago
Maybe you just need to go to a different salon. Obviously the people who work at the salon are unprofessional if they are making comments. and he clients must be equally ignorant if they are saying rude things to you. But its not a reflection of the total "black salon" experince. Probably just some ignorant ass people
sheda82 2 years ago 5
just wondering if you get to travel & see diversity? everything seems[ed?] static in your world. To a certain degree everybody is physically mixed- [caucasoid, negroid & mongoloid and combos therein] in fact, from what I can see you've got negroid features w/ less melanin... no biggie... just genes... it gets tricky when we start creating ethnicities and *ACT* differently to make up for what we think we're lacking. Enjoy your life! The more you focus on 'poor me' the more silly it all sounds
gigimc 2 years ago 3
hey just want tosay i think you are SOOO cute!!! keep up the good work!!
obama4manknd 2 years ago
you so sweeet!!, you look soooo beautiful!!! we mulatto's rock!!
smithyboytv 2 years ago
You can be all black, with kinky hair and still have negative experiences in black salons. I speak somewhat proper but I don't have long, curly/wavy hair like yours and I no longer go to salons.
LaReginaPatrizia 2 years ago 4
chris rock has a new movie coming out called good hair watch it its about the black woman and how she views her fire
missygurl12345 2 years ago
this reminds me of the time I tried to get highlights done in Germany and went to a white salon and just walked out on them for the ridiculous comments that they made
sfino01 2 years ago
Babygirl, just live your life and live it to it's fullest. This world that we live in is so screwed up from the past to the present and future, it ain't funny. Everybody as their opinion based on biases, prejudices, and ignorance. It ain't your fault who u are but at the same time all black people aren't like that its just certain people to associate with. Take care
Mademan281 2 years ago
They are just joking. I am sure, when I was relaxed if I waited to long bewteen relaxers. I would hear comments. But it's just beauty shop joking.
4ULordSDG 2 years ago
black ppl dont call every white person racist...wtf r u talkin about trinicheer08!! if u racist than u just racist. don't try to put that bull on all black ppl!!
tiggyemo 2 years ago
ur so right for black ppl to say that white ppl are so racist , black ppl have managed to treat us as a mixed race shitty...but i guess they can only see others racism!
trinicheer08 2 years ago
@trinicheer08 Dont forget that black people who are very dark also face name calling in the black community( heard of the brown paper bag test) It however is a problem especially in the black American community.However if one feels the need to let everyone know they are white when they look obviously black it will create a problem. Celebrate all your bloodlines and be proud but ask yourself one question ,who will accept you easier? You know the answer.
EgbesuJuju2010 1 year ago
When people ask me "are you black or white?" I simply answer "yes", it gets them everytime. It's a response that still leaves everything in the air!
SuchAPrettyMess 2 years ago 3
Its great to hear about the experiences that people have throughout their lives. I respect your beliefs but I was just wondering.. have you ever considered that you are treated differently because you do not connect culturally rather than physically. What I get from listening to you is that everyone is jealous because you believe you have "superior" features. Maybe you are pushed away because people sense your "superiority" complex and judge you as a negative person because of it???
Rellepooh165 2 years ago 11
i sure as hell wouldnt of thought of shoes over soldiers....they were just airheads. a smart person wouldnt of think of sum damn shoes.
JSkelentonKey 2 years ago
dont u mean so thick that u cant hear them??? long hair aint shit if its not full right.
JSkelentonKey 2 years ago 2
I really felt your story and felt the mean "ness" with you when you told your story. Its a shame its like that. You are beautiful, and sweet and nice. Keep doing you.
ToyaTiyV 2 years ago 3
One thing that I found out about black people is that they r the first people to be racist. and to mean to others. yes take it fro. a man long hair (butt crack hair) is extremly beautiful and sexy. just move ur hair before up poop. Poop in beautiful hair is not beautiful or sexy. just plain nasty.
tommy2chips 2 years ago
HOT! I love it...just sitting around thinking about my BIRACIALNESS!!! LOL...i'm married to Dawn from En Vogue and she never understands so I have to say..."It's A Mulatto Thing"...LOL...but anyway...nice diaries love...check my video's! We have a web reality series!
Dre
dreallen1 2 years ago
Married to an EnVogue-er? you liar
jrmetmoi 2 years ago
Ok...but before you generalize you should see who the hell I am by clicking on my other videos...lol...my name is Dre Allen. Dawn's husband. Liar? I think not...
dreallen1 2 years ago 2
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You are a coat tail rider. Dre, you have to mention Dawn just to get attention. Heard you got some other woman pregnant while married to Dawn. Heard you are a user and try to act like you're rich but you're not. Dre you said you have been working on an album for ages. Where is it?
imhotep1 2 years ago
I also wanted to comment that it seems as though you feel trapped having the physical characteristics of black people that you can not escape but probably would...given the opportunity. Just wanted to share my thoughts and observations, which I think is the purpose of your diary.
anniegracie101 2 years ago 2
Hearing the way you speak of fitting in around white people, listening to "white music" or sounding "white" is what makes you proud. And you've had some pretty bad experiences dealing with black people, which I find to be very interesting. I happen to think that black people are THE MOST accepting of people of all ethnicities as I have observed and experienced.
anniegracie101 2 years ago 4
I will definitely continue to watch your videos, maybe I might notice a transition...I don't know. I've observed your analysis of black and white, "opposites", your evaluation of self ("I was pretty and I did commercials.") and I'm just wondering if you thought the black girls were not pretty? Could they have done commercials? There must have been something positive about them, they obviously made it out of the Detroit public school system into the "better" (and mostly white) private school.
anniegracie101 2 years ago 3
But they picked on her for no reason other than she didnt know what "troops" were. They sound like a group of ignorant little girls. I got picked on for not acting black in school. Those girls were prolly jealous bc they figured tiff was rich bc she was mixed or something stupid like that. I mean it wasnt like she shunned them she said she was happy they were there.
TwinkletOes24 2 years ago
Hi..I just happened upon your channel and in what I've watched (knowing that this was a year ago), it seems that you deal with a lot of issues with the "black side" of your ethnicity. Your description of bad experiences with young black girls makes me wonder if you've ever had experiences of being ostracized by white people? From what I've watched, you seem to revel in the "white side" of your ethnicity. I've yet to hear of any bad experiences in that arena. So I guess u were totally accepted??
anniegracie101 2 years ago 3
people are so stupid
TwinkletOes24 3 years ago
that is SOO sad that you had to cut off so much of your hair. :( i'm sad for you. that would have been super scary.
dcdorsey08 3 years ago
your the same age as me?? I was in the 7th grade in '88. I know this is irrelevant, but you look really good!!! Keep sayin' NO to Drugs, I guess....lol. BTW, yeah...I grew up in Detroit Public Schools and now teach there as well....nothing has changed. Those girls were jealous, but you can't blame them.
blackcherryblitz 3 years ago
i hear you.
i hear you i hear you i hear you. i can't say that enough. and you have given me an idea for another vlog.
i have stories for you, girlie.
silverh34rt 3 years ago
I am about 10 episodes in and I love it I really identify with alot of the things you are going through I must say i am not bi racial but have had some of the same experiences with both worlds the pressure to be one or the other and just wanting to be yourself your are a brave strong woman
dallasoldskool 3 years ago
Thank you SO much! It just speaks to the universality of the human experience :)
tiffdjones 3 years ago
@tiffdjones hair is the crown...when you are told every single thing about you is ugly and nasty
then fast forward to what seems like a million years later and its not that your ugly any more its that you dont look like this (white and pretty) and never will...there are people of your race that look better than you while physical apprnce is not everything it plays apart!..insecurity is a ugly ugly thing…to me its the thing that can turn any person into a evil nasty being
TheHollyweirdFiles 8 months ago
I love this I am a little addicted to it
dallasoldskool 3 years ago
It's nothing but jealousy... & it's really sad.
I'd do your hair for you lol. I had the pleasure of seeing it in person and it's absolutely gorgeous! =)
LaBellax29 3 years ago
thank you so much! that's really nice of you!
tiffdjones 3 years ago
wonder where those girls are today? Wonder if they feel bad about how they acted?
TwinkletOes24 3 years ago
My aunt, my grannys older daughter, has longer more finer hair. I think her father, who is not my grandfather, was a latino. My granny used to tell me how she got teased at school by other black girls because she had what black women and others call "better hair". Crazyness!
chicagomarchingbands 3 years ago
That good hair shit is really dumb. People of all races can have good or bad hair. Straight or curly hair don't make hair good. Cause there are people who have straight and curly hair that is bad. :)
Qabalist 3 years ago 9
My hair went on fire b4 as well! That shit is scarry as hell
bahiyyah19 3 years ago
it is so scary! sorry it happened to you too.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
I, personally, do not use the word "race" when describing myself or anyone else. There is only one race...the Human Race. I feel that when people use the word "race" it gives them a chance to feel superior or put somone else down. If people did not use the word race, as though there is more than one, then we would see eachother much differently than we all do now.
UNICORNBLUE2008 3 years ago
Many black women are very jealous of other women who have what they want so bad that they will pay hundreds of dollars to get it
1newmanalive 3 years ago
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ashantilongislant 3 years ago
WOW...that is rude and ignorant
gracieg86 3 years ago
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ashantilongislant 3 years ago
ashantilongislant: I think you r childish and ignorant
1newmanalive 3 years ago
1988-1989?! I'm eighteen and here I thought you were younger than me!
Marllon 3 years ago
lol! you did?! thanks:-D
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Yes lol, I figured you were a very articulate teenager around fourteen to seventeen years of age, but then again, I hadn't watched many of your videos.
Marllon 3 years ago
I think you were trying to say that those black women in the salon were jealous because you have long hair. And you're RIGHT. Black women really cherish hair but generally speaking we have shorter hair. So, when they see another black woman with longer hair, their insecurity about their short hair surfaces in the form of meanness towards the black woman with longer hair.
EmpressDivineRiri 3 years ago
That is what i was trying to say. And not all black women would have that feeling or that reaction to the feeling. When I had so much of my hair cut off, i felt weird. i felt less than i had been before. i was stunned. but i wouldn't have let that insecurity manifest into negative actions/thoughts/words toward someone with longer hair than me. i understand the insecurity because we're led to believe that beauty and joy may lie in long hair. i don't understand being mean. no good comes of it.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Tell you an experience of mine, biracial (hispanic/black) and my mother used to braid my hair in the back like and Indio and it went all the way past my butt, I decided around 6th grade that I wanted to cut it off and the barber just took off my whole braid and all the white woman in the shop were practically crying.
People of all colors love long hair, just look at Crystal Gale.
GenXintrovert73 3 years ago
Troops?
I never even heard of them in till now and im black too lol.
myjrpics 3 years ago 3
LOL... i don't think they lasted very long....
tiffdjones 3 years ago
too funny... my methods were slightly more evil.... I would have known what they were [and they were lame & ugly sneakers] but I would have STILL said what you said just to piss them off >:D for some reason I was entertained by the mean girls & would give them fuel on purpose... while they're having their convulsive laugh I'd skip away & do my thing - not sure how healthy that was, but it's made me resilient as an adult. Bring on the mean girls! lol
gigimc 2 years ago
oh, eh... i mean, i don't feel the hair part, just the things you say. i'm going to check the other #'s :-)
3kokro 3 years ago
@ Tiffany, i feel you; not just because you're pretty!
3kokro 3 years ago
thank you so much for your compliments and your support! they are greatly appreciated :-D
tiffdjones 3 years ago
I'm lmao. @ almondy, why are you acting so dumb? why is it when a biracial woman speaks out, some stupid person, like you, comment to her saying she;s acting like a pretty light skinned girl??
i'm a hundred percent sure you're not!
ahahaha racist..
sincerly yours, pretty light skinned guy
3kokro 3 years ago 4
Hello, I hope you are not mad or dont like black Ladies. Because I m black and I think you and your hair are pretty cool! I like the way you stay cool wnen you talk about it. peace and blessin
pdenises 3 years ago
Hello Tiffany,
Well yea it's hard wishing you had a hair texture you really want. I am biracial, but my native american/indian side dont show on me. Which is the worst part of my life. I have complete african american hair and it really sucks. It doesnt really grow fast any more so now I have short hair so life right now is so crazy.
8violin8 3 years ago
Hi, I enjoy the video's. I go through the same stuff and I'm not even directly mixed. It's my parents that are mixed. Dad's black,white, indian, and my mom is afro-brazilian. I feel alone because I don't fit in anywhere where I live I think. I'm too ethnic looking for whites and too light for blacks (I'm not even that light..more mocha cofee maybe? lol. Just keep strong you are a beautiful girl with a big heart and things hurt you alot because you want to be kind to everyone. Just pray for them.
ZumbaFitPrincess 3 years ago 2
Thank you so much for saying that! Excellent advice :-) I'm so glad you enjoy the videos. I look forward to "talking" with you in the future. And I'm gonna watch your YMCA class too :-)
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Boring! And I've heard it a million times before. Tragic and confused mulatto whining about how she's more accepted by white people and how she's been ostracized by black people and how black women are jealous of her because she's a pretty light skinned girl with long and good hair, blah, blah, blah! Black people don't want to hear you bullsh*t stories because we got problem of our own.
almondy1963 3 years ago
so you take the time to watch and comment because? don't wanna hear it? don't watch!
tiffdjones 3 years ago
boring same sh!t different toilet the whole "i talk white" comment got me because it just shows your level of thought.
koifish5 3 years ago
so why take the time to watch and comment?
tiffdjones 3 years ago
oh please you really need to get over yourself with african american women wanting your long beautiful hair. I have had long hair down to middle of my back( all naturally mine) and both of my parents are black. Biracial people and white people arent not the only ones privy to long hair. Maybe your making the blacks you come in contact with uncomfortable with the vibes that your're giving off. Have you thought that maybe it was you and not them?
sweetnsheek 3 years ago 5
EXACTLY. And if you listen to some of these other vlogs, it all starts to make total sense. I've found that more often than not Black people involved in IR have internalized racism in ways they themselves cannot articulate. And here we have the manifestations of self hatred in the form of "biracial tiffany". What Black woman tells her child not to trust another Black woman with her hair? Then she STILL seeks a Black salon, but a Black man? It puts the tragic in tragic mulatto.
mermaids998 3 years ago 2
good bye
tiffdjones 3 years ago
good for you. and indeed i have.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Don't feel bad about not knowing what "troops" are. I had no clue either and I'm black. Anyway, I'm sorry that your past experience makes you feel like you can be more confortable with whites instead of blacks. There's good and bad people on both sides of the spetrum. I hope you meet some cool black folks to be friends if you haven't already.
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tiffdjones 3 years ago
I'm actually kind of saddened by this video, because when I watch it I'm become even more certain that I can never support a multiracial movement. You have already admitted that you move better in white circles and aren't used to being in a Black Salon. So you obviously don't know that that particular environment may have a culture that includes freely talking about folks who are there. I've seen that being done to "monoracials"-quite often. Ofcourse you assume it's some sort of ...
mermaids998 3 years ago 3
Anti-biracial issue. Secondly, even IF you are ostracized for "talking white" or not knowing "black stuff", how do you think monoracial Blacks from environments like yours feel? And when THEY are ostracized they can't say "they're jealous cuz I'm mixed". PLEASE. I am more convinced now than ever before that mulattoism is White supremacy in a new form. Mulattoes tend to be completely oblivious to the things white people say and do, partly because they somehow think it no longer applies to them...
mermaids998 3 years ago 2
But let a black person do to them what Black people DO TO EACH OTHER, and all of a sudden it's proof that they're "biracialness" has alienated them. God only knows how many things white people have said to you or around you that you ignored or probably even laughed at. But you aren't traumatized by white people. Please... My dear, look in the mirror and say these words "I'm special. But not that special". LMAO. It's really not that serious.
mermaids998 3 years ago 3
MULATTO POWER!!!
shake off all the haters babe
xxShannonGreenxx 3 years ago
thanks!!! i'm doing my best. thanks to supporters like you it's pretty easy to ignore them. i must've touched a nerve for them to be so upset and to comment even tho they are bored and don't want to hear it :-) i wonder why they want to keep me quiet....
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Their reaction to you is no different than "Reverend" Jesse jackson's reaction to Barrack Obama. The Old guard soul patrol has difficulty dealing with any person of color that doesn't view life the way they do or believe what they believe. They think because of our looks that we somehow are the same as them, but they totally disregard that we have a vastly different experience from them and that are parental upbringing is different from there's.
xxShannonGreenxx 3 years ago 2
so you talk "white" and you have long [pretty ?!ayisha wtf???]hair. would you like a cookie and blond dye to better assimilate into the white community? regardless of how you define your racial makeup, you are not as unique as you think you are. your bias is inadvertently showing. despite what the media wants us to believe, not all black women secretly long to be biracial. i hope you're able to resolve your issues with the "dark" (pun intended) side one day. best
agentgrlx 3 years ago
As you get older, I hope you'll realize that you don't have to be nicer to people than they are to you all the time. Sometimes, if people direct nastiness to you, shock them and just say, F*%$ YOU, OK.
robinson62 3 years ago 3
You're right! I just don't think 2 wrongs make a right so to speak. I think every one is basically good and that with patience kindness and compassion we could find common ground. so i try to be nice. but it gets tiring and the payoff is usually non existent. what's a girl to do?
tiffdjones 3 years ago
in*
nyoung20 3 years ago
I don't understand how u could feel confused by this. White people see you as black person trust me, u don't look mixed. Just look like a light skinned black girl. Black people come in beautiful shades thanks to slavery and once you get that, you won't have this "woe as me, tragic mulatto feeling"
nyoung20 3 years ago
i don't know what you're talking about. woe is who?
tiffdjones 3 years ago
its just so disappointing to see the whole, "woe is me, tragic mulatto feeling" because society bases race based on physical traits. Black people come is a variety of colors and shades and if you don't want to be considered black then fine, but dont feel bad if someone considers you black, because thats the way you look. Halle Berry and Barack Obama have no problem understanding this, why should YOU be any different.
nyoung20 3 years ago
One, she said that she didn't start this vlog for people to view it as "woe as me" as you say. In addition, I would like to add that Obama and Halle identify as "black" because they are public figure-heads, and that's what the majority (ie- white) of people would consider them based on looks alone. There's no reason, really, that they should have to just identify as one, and if they weren't in the public eye, it might no be that way.
Alavda 3 years ago
I think you misunderstood my comment. Race is based on perception of skin color. This is the way of the world. The way she described her experiences with black people came as she doesn't want to identfy with the black race. And this is a problem that many biracials feels is a problem. Not long ago, biracial people were considered black and there's nothing wrong with that. Public figures understand the importance of perception. My comment wasn't meant to be offensive in any way.
nyoung20 3 years ago
You hit the nail on it's head. She has a self hatred complex for her "Black" heritage, and she wants so bad for people to think of her as anything but Black. Get over it MixedandConfusedTiff! You're Black so be proud.
imhotep1 2 years ago
lol about the hair salon...it's weird that you have had a lot of the same experiences as me but mine was for "talking proper" and "being smart" which are supposedly "anomalies" in the black community...just last year I swore off salons because I went in for a trim and the lady cut all of my hair off! I was soooo pissed!!!
GoingGREEN1 3 years ago
our similarities are so interesting. i often wonder what the difference (and similarities) between my experience in predominately white areas and that of monoracial af/ams in similar settings. and now you're telling me! I am SO sorry that "lady" cut your hair off!!! I'm pissed just hearing that and it wasn't even my hair. I hope all the people who think my mom was crazy for warning me about "salons" read this comment :-)
tiffdjones 3 years ago
lol..we should start a "not black enough" support group...
I don't understand why people can't just let people be themselves and not feel threatened by it! The world would be such a better place if we let that happen!!!
GoingGREEN1 3 years ago
Alot of black women, if not all, can have long hair like to their backs, but because of all the hair processing and weaves and everything they damage their hair and they never see the true potential. There's also that mentality that they also want your hair texture as well *sigh* never gonna happen but it's not that serious its just hair anyway, lol. A lot of black women envy mixed race people, and usually turns to hate and it's just silly.
your hair's nice though : )
Sorrytodisappointyou 3 years ago 3
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you are an idiot
black people wish they had good hair
galethio 3 years ago
what are you on about? What in the world is this "good hair"? I don't know the kind of black people you've been meeting, but I couldn't give a flaming toss if my hair looked more European or not.
Sorrytodisappointyou 3 years ago 4
hey you were the one that was talking about how black people's hair is read the 4th comment on here from you and maybe you can see what i was talking about.
galethio 3 years ago
you are soooooooo right, I am mixed and my hair SUCKS!!! Frizzy, tangled, can't do shit with it without a ton of products and 2 hours a day, and people want my hair, wtf? I'd give anything for regular ole black hair. I have given up on this shit, I stick it in a bun or a ponytail and if I am feeling real creative I go and buy one of those fake buns/ponytails to attach to it.
GenXintrovert73 3 years ago
black hair is kinky and impossible to tame. u mean u dont want alot of the kinky crap.
JSkelentonKey 2 years ago
I want to ask a question, if a person, who has classified themselves as 'black' and has two 'black' parents and have always known they were 'black' decides to take a genetic genealogy test and it comes out that they are 50% white and 50% black, in your opinion do you classify them as biracial?
Sorrytodisappointyou 3 years ago
It's hard for Mixed Folks I know how it in.
I'm mixed with Black and Mexican But I have always been more at home with black PPL.
I hate to be around too mini Mexican ppl.
I have been with a lot of mixed girls and I know that it harder for them to be around Black PPL. I know how Black women can be Bitchis to light skin girls. I would get that shit from Mexican ppl calling me a nigger and shit like that from the age 5 to 18.
PS.......You are hot mama lol
GILakaGP3 3 years ago
Thanks ;-) It's a crazy world! And it is hard for us. But it has it's perks to, don't you think? Thanks for watching and sharing!
tiffdjones 3 years ago
i can remember being of jealous of black girls. and white girls. i just figured i was missing out on something by not being "monoracial". thanks for sharing and taking the time to watch and make comments!
tiffdjones 3 years ago
damn girl....u wanna get with a black scholar wit a jump shot? ;).....hit me up.
chicagodogrow 3 years ago
OMG!!!! are you kidding me! i had a accident 2 years ago, 2 days before Christmas with a hoilday candle. I had it lit too close to my hair and the left side of my hair went up in flames! i was rolling on the floor slapping my self! i lost about 4 inches of hair.
lycanos13 3 years ago
I'm SO sorry. I'm coming up on the two year anniversary of my hair fire too. So traumatic. I sort of blocked it out and didn't deal with it until I finally got the damaged hair cut off a year and a half later. It was so much! Especially for someone who never gets a true hair cut. I'm glad you are ok and your skin wasn't burned too. Thanks for sharing your story.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
when I saw this sista I wanted to give you a hug. That's all hate directed at you. Trust me..being on the other end of the spectrum you get it there too. The "paper bag" test is a cruel master inflicted on us. Those of mixed heritage get ridiculed in both communities and struggle for a sense of self. People are cruel...we abuse one another and when there isn't support we can turn it on ourselves. Do you and don't trip off what people think...wise has good advice for you.
bigjayboogie 3 years ago
not to categorize you..but our people come in all shades of the rainbow. My grandmother was fair with blue eyes..I got teased by my cousins for being "shit-colored" and having nappy hair. I countered by calling them white. It's a cruel game..I'm just glad my Dad had my back and taught us not to perpetuate hatred of our race.
bigjayboogie 3 years ago
wow people can be so mean and jealous,dont tale it so hard though,they have been told they are ugly so much that they believe it.
jalil124 3 years ago 2
A mulatto is a person with one white parent and one black parent, or, more generally, a person of mixed black and white ancestry.[1] It derives from Spanish (and likely from Portuguese, also) mulato (small mule, person of mixed race, mulatto; from mulo, mule; from Old Spanish; from Latin mūlus), by analogy with the mule, which is the mixed offspring of a horse and a donkey.
WISENUBIAN 3 years ago
do you really want to call yourself that?
WISENUBIAN 3 years ago
i don't call myself that. i named this vlog for reasons i've explained over and over. essentially it's the only word to define my racial make-up that doesn't need further clarification. biracial can mean any two (or more) 'races', as can mixed. i'm talking about what it's like to have a black and a white parent in this country that tries to keep these two groups so separate from each other.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
sterile offspring, i think. i find that part most offensive for some reason.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
dude....we have the same lives...omg. how wierd. i love you lol
AndreasChoice 3 years ago 2
this importance on hair with you is so sad...im mixed myself and have long long "pretty"hair and it means nothing...and your hair is not that "white"neways...to me you look maybe black and native or mixed with spanish not even black and white so its weird that this is that confusing for you...im lighter than you with green eyes and a black mother and this has never been a issue for me
ayieshastewart 3 years ago
Well,
You discovered the meaning of the word "player haters" early on. It's sad you had to experience the jealous new girls at your private school. You do realize that even though they were children, they knew exactly what they were doing--being hateful. You persevered and turned out to be a beautiful, articulate kind young woman. I don't think they met the same fate. Your Mom was wise to educate you where the majority of the students, teachers and parents valued you.
dizzydi9 3 years ago
Thanks again for your kind, kind words. They were simply being cruel. I didn't see it as player hating back then tho. I saw it as a clear sign that something was wrong with me. I did however have many wonderful friends who have wonderful families that I have many fond memories of. I will remember to say that in a video because i think it's important.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
Tara Banks had a show about this same subject and she was treated the same way and look at her now.
lburianek 3 years ago
Tiff, this does not just apply to you as a biracial female, but it applies to women in general who have problems with other women. I am a Black female, not biracial, very long hair (that I would love to wear short, but my head is too big for short hair). If you knew more black women you would find that across the board women are looking at each other and making various judgements. You are not the exception. Some women are even jealous of beautiful dark skin and beautiful short hair.
chcltsxygrl 3 years ago 2
Excellent point! Thank you!
tiffdjones 3 years ago
you have a very pretty smile
bmatt820 3 years ago
Thanks! :-D
tiffdjones 3 years ago
One comment that i wnat to make from the perspective of a black canadian is that alot of the issues within the biracial experience is not limited to biracial people and that the divisoin within the black communities all over North america affect "pure black" people as well. Whats worse is the accusation that you don't want to be black. I really like your topics and I feel you on alot of the things you talk about.
sheshe069 3 years ago
thank you for watching and commenting! the accusation that you don't want to be black is so awful. it puts all kinds of pressure on a person who just wants to "be", and gets in their way and makes authenticity harder to determine. thanks again for your interest, comments, and for subscribing! i'm glad to hear a canadian perspective.
tiffdjones 3 years ago
As a black female I used to be told that I'm not black enough because of the way I spoke and I used to care, but finally came to the point of just being me. What does being "black mean anyway"?
Kittykat1374 3 years ago 2
Amen!
GoingGREEN1 3 years ago