From OBOROGIN "Japanese Social Character" 03/23/2009

[wellbeing9]

Isn't everybody like that? Being totally honest with your feelings with no censorship, can be disastrous. (Like in a job interview, lol or answering does my bum look big in this?)

[oborogin]

That is right ma~n...

People tend to be like that..haha

But, wee need to be careful not to be rude so much:))

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[FadedHonesty1]

hey oborogin sensei since i live probably 20 minutes away from the Bronx, maybe one day i can go partying with you and meet some of your many girlfriends eh? haha

[oborogin]

Wow thanks buddy!

After when I get to there...let's hang out ma~n:))

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[adakkochan]

確かに顔で笑って、心で泣いてたり怒ってたりするわ～。I don't like that . I want to be honest with my feeling always!

[oborogin]

Yeah!

I totally agree with you buddy!

I also try to be honest as much as I can.

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[FirenicChaos]

Yeah, sometimes you can hear things that you shouldn't have heard! :o

Great vid man, take care!^^

[oborogin]

Thanks my friend!

I am gonna try not to listen weird things...haha

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[TrailBlazersInc]

agree .. when im out i'll here ppl speaking portuguese and spanish .. and they think ppl cant understand then because there not portuguese or spanish .. i just listen to them and laugh cause i can understand what there saying but they dont know i can =)

[oborogin]

Interesting ma~n..:))

I hope people will not say anything bad thing to you...hehe

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[Hikosaemon]

Hehe, I LOVE it when Japanese presume that gaijins don't understand them =D

You know though, I think when I go on vacation with my wife, especially where there are no Japanese people around, I talk with my wife in Japanese about things that I might think but never actually say in English. I think people suddenly feel like they are invisible and can talk say what they think, as if by telepathy, which is fun, but it makes things pretty awkward when people understand you.

Peace

[oborogin]

"Telepathy"...That is right ma~n!

Human being  sometimes show interesting aspect..hehe

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[acromel]

That's a pretty typical English thing as well!

The stereotypical English stiff upper lip is probably the same as 建前 I think.

We (English) have a tendency to hide behind manners - I guess because of the class differences in our history. So, it's common for us to say one thing but to mean something completely different.

But still, it's always funny to see someone get caught out like that. :o)

[oborogin]

Yeah, thanks for the great comment and info!

I feel Japanese culture and English culture are historically similar. In a way, it might be said that lip service "Tatemae" works for avoiding troubles socially...

But, keeping balance of the way for using "Tatemae" is important.

Have a good weekend buddy!!

[yukihiroTkyo]

nice)

[oborogin]

Thanks buddy!!

Have a good weekend!