Verbal Abuse, Why?

[silverado0938]

if I looked up emo on wiki it would bring me to this page.

[kimmyfreak200]

dooming comments come from angry people with no communication skills they feed off their own emotions and pain. its a sad evil in humans

[santafekmg2]

theres no kirsten ever got bullyed shes cool with everyone

[gerdienr86]

Well, I feel the other way around because I suffered verbal and emotional abuse as a child and still carry deep scars from that. People telling others to simply get a thicker hide should say that to physically abused children too. Both forms of abuse are terrible and I am sorry you have had to go through abuse as a child.

[gerdienr86]

One reason I don't like the "verbal abuse is still abuse", because it still pretends like verbal abuse is not as bad as physical abuse while in fact, it is much worse.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 How can you say that? I was abused as a child, enduring all forms of abuse (excluding sexual) and I will tell you first hand, I would rather have dealt with verbal and emotional and left the physical out of it. Yeah, verbal is abuse, but it is NO WHERE NEAR AS BAD AS PHYSICAL! A word cannot kill you. A word cannot make the decision to commit suicide. Only YOU can make that decision. By allowing people to treat you like crap, YOU are GIVING THEM that power.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 But carrying the emotional scars are something that you don't have to carry with you. You can make the choice to leave them in the past where they belong. By carrying them with you, you are allowing yourself to remain under the influence of the person who abused you. It is ultimately your choice as to whether or not you allow them to control you even after you are rid of them. With physical scars, it is a painful reminder every time you see them in the mirror of what you endured(cont

[gerdienr86]

@FallenAngelBKR251 With emotional scars, you are reminded every second of every day, because they affect how you handle your own emotions and how you interact with other people. These scars are just as hard to let go. Please take other people's pain as seriously as your own.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 LOL! You seriously think I don't? Listen, go to a battered women's shelter and tell them that you know what they are feeling because your other half called you a loser. Don't get me wrong, I still have alot of problems dealing with people because of the verbal/emotional. Don't tell me about it. Don't whine and cry that you are the victim. Step up and get away from it. Again, it's your choice. Either be the victim or don't be. You can be a victim 50 yrs after its over IF you allow it.

[gerdienr86]

@FallenAngelBKR251 It was not about being called a loser once!!! It is about constantly being forced and constantly having been made feel bad about myself and about the world as a child, ever since I was a baby! I'm not saying physical abuse is not bad, it is terrible! But so is verbal abuse! No, saying one bad thing once is not abuse. But saying things like that 50 times a day to a small child is!

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 I concur. I was told that I was a pussy because I had to use a crutch. I had a bruised shin and was 6! Everytime I picked it up I was then put down for being weak then I was beat for it. This was an every day ordeal for me. So, don't act like I don't know what you are talking about. I do, only to well. However, I have USED the crap I was spoonfed for so long to make myself stronger and a better person. That was my revenge, well, until I broke his nose.

[gerdienr86]

@FallenAngelBKR251 You know, I think we agreed all along but were just misunderstanding what the other person was saying :-) You're awesome for coming out stronger. I think I am coming out stronger as well, I just need a little more time :-)

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 I think you might be right. Just keep in mind that the person dishing out the abuse is the weak one.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 You are the one playing the victim here. Don't assume other people's suffering isn't bad. Don't assume they were said one bad thing to once. Verbal abuse is repeated bad things, over and over and over and over and over again. You don't know what you're talking about if you say it is much simpler to step away from a past of verbal abuse than from a past of physical abuse.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@IngallsFan And you are speaking out of ignorance. I never said that I was worse off or anything of that nature. I am simply stating that in my eyes, verbal and physical abuse are on two different levels. They are both abuse, however, words will never hurt as much as a fist. I know first hand, that simple.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 No I am not speaking out of ignorance. I have experienced both types of abuse, and the verbal abuse was much worse to me. The words my parents and some children at school said to me hurt me far worse than my dad's belt.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@IngallsFan You think getting swatted with a belt is abuse? WTF? How old are you? That is not abuse. That's getting your ass busted because you did something you shouldn't have. ABUSE is being beaten until the blood flows from the marks. Having your nose broken because you can't tie your shoe. Broken ribs because you can't ride a bike without training wheels. Hit repeatedly with a crutch because you're a pussy. THAT is abuse. And letting kids at school get to you is bullcrap. It's part of life

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@IngallsFan There will always be some asshat running you down. The sooner you learn that, the better. Life sucks, there will always be trials to overcome. But by saying that you are abused by kids at school is bullcrap. Enlighten me, what is it that your parents and kids at school say that is so bad. Maybe I can give you the tools you need to survive. I've been there, done that. Maybe I can help.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 I'm doing just fine, thanks. I just can't stand it if people say verbal abuse is less bad than physical abuse, because in my experience it is much worse. The abuse was from my parents, the kids at school were just being bullies.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@IngallsFan Then apparently you haven't been physically abused. Trust me. The verbal abuse only hurts if you let it. Parents say all sorts of things that to a young adult may seem like abuse, but in a few years, it will make sense. I will not pretend to know your situation, and it may be a bad one. But to my ears, it sounds as though you have strict parents, hardass' like myself, and you resent it. You only have to deal with it until you are 18 and then you can find out life at home wasn't sobad

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 Indeed you do not know my situation. You do not know about my broken bones, about my constant bruising, about my one eye being blind because of it. I was physically abused as well as verbally, and still the verbal abuse hurt me more than the physical abuse. It's just different for different people.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 You say you will not pretend you know my situation, and yet you do. Parents constantly telling their children they are lowlife scum, they are worth nothing, they will never get anywhere, and parents constantly fighting and neglecting their children, not giving them enough food, never asking how they are doing, causing panic attacks and suicide, that is what has been the case in the family in which I grew up. You have no idea, so don't pretend like you do. Besides, I'm 30.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 and can serve to make you stronger. Same with the emotional scars. Maybe I'm a bit of a hardass, but to me, if you allow "bad words" to control you or to actively effect how you live your life, then you are just as bad as the abuser. Step up, cast aside the torment you are allowing to control you and realize that you are apparently one tough SOB. To me, it's stuff like this, verbal is as bad as physical, that drives kids into killing frenzies because they got called 4-eyes or dork.

[gerdienr86]

@FallenAngelBKR251 That's because you didn't go through it so you don't understand it. It's the same as if I would say to you well, you are just as bad as the people who sexually abused you, because you let them. That would be a terrible thing to say, because you were defenseless. Same counts for emotional abuse. I was defenseless against that as a child. Kids are driven into killing frenzies because what is being SAID to them (you just wrote that yourself!). Anyway, I am sorry you were abused.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@gerdienr86 You apparently misunderstood my comment. By allowing children to think that verbal and emotional are as bad as physical, they think it is apparently OK to shoot thirty kids in PHYSICAL retaliation for verbal abuse. Bullcrap. This whole conversation is pointless because I am losing my temper and I cannot make you see my point. All I can say is I'm sorry you were abused. Good luck in life and I hope you find peace of mind someday.

[gerdienr86]

@FallenAngelBKR251 I am losing my temper too, because you fail to see that people talking about verbal abuse are not talking about a bad thing being said ONCE. Sure, I agree that we should not whine about things too much, but the same counts for physical abuse. Let's not call everything abuse and make things sound worse than they are, and let's not talk kids into feeling victimised. But still, all abuse is terrible.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 The exact same thing counts for you. How would you like it if someone told you well, just let go of it and don't be so weak! Your physical scars are visible, their emotional scars are visible. All those kind of scars are just as terrible. All abuse is abuse.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@IngallsFan Heard that crap my whole life. And guess what? I did let it go. That's my point. USE it to make you stronger. Don't let it beat you into the dirt because then they win. THAT is my point.

[IngallsFan]

@FallenAngelBKR251 Well, then please find a different way to say things, because what you formulated things was that emotional abuse is not abuse at all.

[learninglessons1]

This video is excellent, you have those who do verbal abuse right on the nail, absolutely, thank you!

[vickiana21]

OMG I LOVE IT THANK U VERU MUCH FOR THE VIDEO I CANT STOP CRYING!!!!!!!!

[babygirl5791]

I'm in love with this video!!

[sinbysin666]

Verbal abuse may suck, but I always get pissed of at these videos and similar campaigns. You are not better than anyone else. Everyone has told someone "fuck off, idiot" at some point, in some way.

[KristenCorpse]

@sinbysin666 Who ever said that I was better than anybody else? But the reality is that some people receive it more than others and it actually effects people in a more dramatic way than, "Aw, they don't like me. That sucks." I made this video for those people, the ones that have been HURT by it and had it take over. No one should have to deal with something like this.

[vickiana21]

@sinbysin666 If it happened to you im sure you wouldn't be saying such things Do you even know what you are talking about?

[sinbysin666]

@vickiana21 I'm saying that in most cases, no one is the victim. It's just back and forth. But still these people feel victimized, because they choose to be driven by selfish emotion, rather than objective analysis of the situation.

[gerdienr86]

@sinbysin666 That is not the point. This is about structural emotional and verbal abuse, which can leave deeper scars than physical abuse.

[alohasarahgirl]

@sinbysin666 You don't understand the tactics of verbal abuse. You are taking it too literally.

[AnimalBlackmatism]

You know what works is hating other people it's easy you should try it. It helps if you know that they suck and that you are smarter than them, and that they are just walking talking human crap holders who can't think for themselves. And if you don't believe that people don't think for themselves, just remind yourself who's president.

[HyperChan101]

you are brave and beatifull and i realy like this video becaus it speaks the truth !

[FlutePlayer777]

thank you!

[hottychik010123]

my boyfriend treats me like total shit! he tells me im stupid every single day and that im useless, but i just recently got excepted into nursing school ( he was pissed)

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@hottychik010123 Ummmm.. easy solution. DUMP HIS ASS! You have the power to make a change. And only you. If there is something about your life that you don't like, CHANGE IT! Jesus, I see crap like this over and over and over, and NO ONE realizes that the reason you are suffereing is BECAUSE YOU LET IT HAPPEN! I was beaten as a child, to the point I was hospitalized, so to hear that words hurt as much as a fist really pisses me off. I CHANGED my life. And, I broke my dad's nose...

[vickiana21]

@FallenAngelBKR251 some people are so weak n brainwashed they can't fight for themselves. You are strong but understand not everybody is as strong as you are.

[FallenAngelBKR251]

@vickiana21 I understand that. But, what you must realize is that I was abused as a child, enduring physical, emotional and verbal abuse. We ALL have a choice, even I had a choice as a five year old boy. But I was too afraid to make it. A great man once said, "All we have to fear is fear itself." And no one is ever brainwashed to the point that they cannot realize that the situation their in SUCKS!

[Sikletrynet]

@hottychik010123 dont be with him then you fucking idiot!!! Most guys are nice too their girlfriends.

[mimi4786]

Thank you. Very informative and true!

You are beautiful!

[JMort95]

who gives a fuck, humans are fucking idiots

[KositaQ]

Your video is very inspiring, and so true at the same time.  I've got this on my BB 'cause it will get me thru the everyday hell I go thru and gives me the strength to overcome the evils of verbal abuse..... Thank you, you rock!! ;D

God bless you

[bubblysodapop]

same thing happens too me with ppl too i understand yer pain)):

[hustl3hard2live]

Thank you so much....

[klamse25]

I love your videos.. I take everything to heart that you say and agree. Keep making more deep videos because they truly do inspire! ;)

[powerchorde1968]

I would just like to say I am a 42 year old man who was SEVERELY verbally and emotionally abused by my parents. this has resulted in me being an abuser and nearly cost me my marriage to the most wonderful woman. I am lucky, she forgave me and i am recovering. snide comments, and depricating humour hurts. I hope that people take this seriously. ive been dealing with this for a lifetime. my advise, THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. God bless you young lady for making this video. I hope it wakes people up.

[jcramir2]

"i hope you know that nobody likes you." That kind of crap hurts your feelings?Seriously? Grow some balls!

[KristenCorpse]

@jcramir2 I'm a female so I'd rather not "grow some balls". But yeah, things like that can hurt a person in certain situations if it's said to them by people who can have enough of an emotional impact on them.

[Sikletrynet]

@KristenCorpse Ignore them!!!! dont care about them, WORDS DO NOT HURT UNLESS YOU WANT THEM TOO!!!!!

[iolair1973]

@jcramir2 If someone says it once, it's easy to brush it off. When you hear it and hear it and hear it, day in, day out ... with most people it will start to sink in, even without them noticing. Eventually you start to hear those ideas in your head even when they haven't been spoken, and you start to believe them about yourself.

[TheTravelfool]

@jcramir2 My neighbour loves to tell me that, she also told my best friend she was happy that I was raped AS A CHILD.

[jcramir2]

@TheTravelfool then your neighbor is obviously a bitch. Don't talk to them. Problem solved. Man, this is so easy- I should be a psychologist.

[TheTravelfool]

@jcramir2 I tried ignoring them since March. It's hard to ignore someone when they leave comments at your door, call your house, knock on your windows at 4am, discover your new email and write you harassing things through a fake account. and more.

[jcramir2]

@TheTravelfool Report them to the police, then the next time they knock on your windows, shoot them and say they were trying to break into your house. You will have police reports to back up your harassment claims, so you won't get in any trouble, and then you won't have to listen to their dumb shit anymore. Problem solved- Texas style. You're welcome.

[TheTravelfool]

@jcramir2 thanks for the idea, but twice I've gone to the cops and they told me ignore her. She threatened my life twice, including tonight. Yes, I am looking into buying a gun but first I want to know how to operate one properly. Which should I buy?

[TheTravelfool]

@jcramir2 I am trying to keep my cell phone on to record them, b/c the last 2 times well it's no use explaining. I do have some cops here in Canada trying to help. PS. My best friend is from Texas, she already told my neighbour "When I come to Toronto, you better be praying to God!" I can't wait. She's gonna be shaking like a leaf!

We need a lil Texan up here ;)

[HyperChan101]

@jcramir2 words do hurt. if you say to someone that they are ugly once they dont mind but if its said over and over and over again it will hurt and hurt alot !

[Sikletrynet]

@HyperChan101 Simple solution: tell that person that they can go fuck themselves and ignore them.

[CeeCeeBonita]

wow, love this. Thank you <3

[krissygooo]

Haha. But what if the verbal abuse is from your mom?

[KristenCorpse]

@krissygooo You have to try to deal with it to the best of your ability and keep her as content as possible so you can avoid any conflicts until you're able to be out on your own. Certain solutions could be not telling her things that could get her angry or upset, helping out around the house a bit more to keep her a little more satisfied, and other things like that.

[nyxong24]

@krissygooo I know exactly what you are going through, it is harder when its family that are emotionally abusing you. It hits harder than if it were a boyfriend or kids at school. I had dealt with this too and i am still healing from it. It is a long road but it is worth it in the end, you gain so much I promise you. You need to learn how to get out on your own, and go as soon as you are old enough, even to a shelter just get out of it. They can teach and help you start your life, keep me posted

[jimmybeam368]

This is powerful...

[JDaddyChicka]

i love verbal abuse =].. haha soooo what. live with it...

[KristenCorpse]

@JDaddyChicka Not cool. Just "living with it" doesn't get anybody anywhere, it just helps society continue to crumble. So many things are falling apart because people decide to just live with it instead of attempting to do something positive for themselves and for everyone else.

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

this twitter channel is about abuse & self improvement:

twitter . com / EmotionalAbuseC

[rufflesworld]

PHOEBE PRINCE

REST IN PEACE.

[Bak3dB3an]

I'm not actually scared for me. I'm scared for the person who's doing the verbal abusing towards me...

He is not physically abusive but he pokes and touches me and it annoys me. I'm a fairly calm rational person but when someone pushes my buttons I'm scared I'll do something stupid and end up in jail.

How do I let him know he needs to stop for his own health and mine?

[KristenCorpse]

@Bak3dB3an Sorry for the late reply. Maybe simply tell him what's on your mind about it, tell him "I don't want to hurt you, so please stop doing these things do me, it's for the health of the BOTH of us." And if not, tell someone about it who can get through to him.

[clairegirl25]

story of my life. not verbally abused my peers...but my parents.

[strangeling354]

thank you for posting this video :) it's nice to see some people know fthat there's a basic level of respect that should be given to fellow human beings, rather than this horrible abuse.

[randy0987]

you failure freak weirdo disappointing disgusting slut wannabe hideous flat-chested fat pig reject.

i hope you know nobody likes you.

please kill yourself, korpse-biatch.

[randy0987]

just kidding ;-)

[professorfoxtrot]

faggot!!

[mUsicXemoXcraZ]

this ved was AMAZINGGGG. but my case is worse then what was comming up on the screen.

[magnoliagoddess108]

Please don't buy the bamboo flutes from Das on her, he verbally and emotionally abused me for two years.

[KennyWrites]

Excellent video! It would be great if everyone on YouTube watched this. Maybe the level of commenting would be a little more civil. People should think before they comment on others. Great job, 5 stars!

[Imscaredofelevators]

Wow! Your amazing. Thank you so much for making this video. Words hurt so much. Thank you so much. This taught me I need to be strong. Your amazing. Thank you.

[rufflesworld]

this is a really cool video.

keep up the good work.

we need more people like you!

[deengew]

Hey KristenKorpse, I gotta new idea for your next video! You tape a hot dog to a wall and rub your naked ass all over it!

[meetRenado]

kristen, do you ever get verbal abuse? in person i mean....its very common and shit load easier on the internet

[KristenCorpse]

Yes I do. Of course it happens more on the internet (since most people don't have the guts) but it happens to me in person once & a while. The most common are when I get called homophobic slurs from ignorant girls in my school; that's happened to me in both grade school and high school. And there's also a bunch of people who talk behind my back but I end up hearing them anyway, if that counts. The "insults" put into this video are all things that I've heard from people before.

[kusaitsuru]

Excellent Video <3

[masshousse]

it just might be some form of paranoia i mean u georgeous and firm too seems to me.

you`ll kick ass one day no doubt

[cozmo1223]

great vid :)

[CynBin20]

This was really well done! It's nice to see a video with purpose on here!

-Cyn

[DjSandmanPRO]

nice video 5 *z

[patd09]

LOVE YOU GIRL<3

[xxanonymusiusxx]

great video  5*

[DanielAvilaAGT]

They can say anything they want to say, but they can't bring you down, you will rise!"

Mariah Carey "Can't take that away"

[BrianxParade]

Kristen, its brian. Okay to tell you honestly my dear I have been knowing you for quite awhile now and really you approve a message to the world and really it's a strong and a postive message. No one in this world wants to be put down and that is unfair for anyone else. And when that does happen that can cause many psychological problems and many stress disorders for people that does. So anyway Kristen, you are best at what you do and really, you make my life different with you <3

[Nogan]

In all honesty, I find this both insulting and insincere. Firstly, you don't need to be brave to attack someone physically, either. Secondly, yes, emotional pain is often worse than actual physical pain - does that surprise you?

And third... while someone might find this encouraging or even helpful, I find it in bad taste and completely unnessecary, made only to bolster your belief that you are a 'good person'.

And those of you who actually get angry, please send a private message.

[KristenCorpse]

I appreciate your honesty, but I don't get where you're getting the whole "bolstering my belief" thing... I'm just a person. The general inspiration I get to make videos is from real experiences, so I take them and I make something that might possibly help or make someone feel less alone. I love watching other people's videos that I can relate to because it does just that, so I don't see how this is insulting or anything since it is a similar situation.

[Rachelroo3]

Amazing and well spoken! Absolutely inspirational, Thank you for making this!!

<3

[xChrisLambertx]

Very well done.

[salenallane]

5stars

ilovethisvideo

youknowwhy

iloveyoubtw

no,ignorantlurkers,idonthaveas­pacebar

[emergencyromanticxx]

This is a very good video Kristen.

I know it will help a lot of people with their problems. <3

[MikeDaSlob]

I love it. Such a serious side. Words shouldnt hurt us but they do. Shame people dont think before they say things.

[famouslastbreathh]

Holycrap. This made my heart beat!

You're really amazing. :)

Inspirational !

5 stars.

[ataglance20079]

thank you

[robbyam]

lol @ the beginning sounding like a late 80's porno movie.

anyways, very good video Kristen.

But now I must go into the darkness and stalk your comments on VC videos.

[PyroblastXXSoulFire]

ASSHOLE NUGGETS.

[dontbeafraidtolove]

this is so trueee. i love you kristen. you always know what to say.

[funnyshows6]

KristenCorpse i <3 you ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥

[funnyshows6]

wow you are a real true inspiration. this is something that i am going through and thanks for bring this up cuz i would have moved on thinking less about who i am and more of wat people say about me

and yeah really thanks

[thespianandlovinit]

you are a true inspiration. thanks so much for your courage.

love you, KC

[louistorre]

love ya kristenn ahah

[AsianGlow]

I <3 u kristen! youre making this world a better place 1 video at a time! 5/5!

[KillahChase1]

Well said Kristen. Great video. <3

[Natashakiable18]

So true,it hurts me when I hear news about girls committing suicide or guys all because the person they used to date myspaced them saying "I only dated you because I was felt sorry,you're actually ugly." I wish we could all just help those who get picked on and stop those who bully! :] Great video keep up the good work <3

[usherkat47]

You're an inspiration<3

[Harlan0Chase]

Thanks kristen for making this video<4

[MusicxIsxForxLunch]

this is so powerful <3

thank you.

[endisnear13]

sup, cutie!

ruffles says hey

[demenz613]

you are beautiful.

[rufflesworld]

words can really hurt.

or help.

nice video.

[ThatSyerraGirl]

i hate verbal abuse

[WasteTimeWithAdam]

Great video. This is a good message your sending. Rock on!

[MiWAxZOiD]

Thank you, Kristen. ;3

I love you.<3

[cjfrzyTV]

Iloveyoukristen<3 first comment.