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  • Does this mean my girlfriend level is over 9,000 since I pay for my food and his?!?!

  • Double E Rule. Exceed Expectations.

  • how old is he??

    

  • well i respect that i do and if a women pays on the first date thats cool but i don't want a nigga thinken that im gonna pay all the time thats my only problem

  • is he 25

  • @Amariphire 24 i think

  • should'nt a man get on a women good side so u can get in the bed u understand whut im saying

  • pride go Ith before our fall think abbout it

  • preach brother preach

  • I don't know, some pay first because they are used to paying for themselves.

  • i do agree

  • hmmmm, guys paying on dates, or guys offering me money or offering to buy me anything at all..........all that shit makes me feel weird as hell, i don't accept it, sometimes they force it so i might accept, but generally, shit makes me feel AWKWARD, sooo i HAVE to pay for half of it or even all if i wanna.......that's just me.........

  • listen.. when u give sum dudes a inch.. they take a damn mile... next thing u kno he gona expect you to pay for all the meals yall have. now going dutch is a different story

  • How about if the women do not pull out the wallet but thank the man and appreciating them for taking you out. hmmm that is an amazing quality aw well... not many Women thanks the man that takes them out and pays..Women thinks it's expected when really its not....

  • I WISH MEMPHIS GIRLS CAN UNDERSTAND DAT

  • so true

  • I WISH DETROIT GIRLS COULD UNDERSTAND THAT

  • i do not ask anyone for anyone to pay for me as well i like to be an independent women too. i like to give to others or help someone else when they do not have if i on a date too.

  • I like to appreciate a dude, but if he likes me then I don't have to get on his "good side" cause if he likes me, then I'm already on his good side. But yeah. I agree with the top poster girl. I don't want any guy paying for me. If he really respects me, he'll respect the independence.

  • okayyyyy... we qet it,,, enouqh tlkinq! lol jk

  • he made this 3 days after my birthday

  • i actually feel weird when a man pays for me so i normally pay half i didnt know niggas liked that lol

  • @MyracleJewel Didnt he say in the beginning of the vid don't let the young face fool u and that he's not that young?? LOL!!

  • the love doctor has spoken

  • I couldnt have said it better. I think a woman should pay on the first date as well as a man....To be so young you are very wise.

  • Well said

  • Chocolate cheese

  • so true, i would rather a guy pay on the first date but i do attempt to pay on the first date.

  • ive always been the one to say girls should never pay on the first date. he has a great point and i agree with him, NICE. love that philosophy.

  • I always paid on the first date!!

  • when women pay its a game on you! it loosens up the mans pockets cause they know money isnt an issue you.

  • on the real some females like some of my friends can find a good man or they not even around thanks SpokenReason

    

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  • I love your videos, your so adorable

  • I agree. But if the woman does pay, it should only be for her meal. Usually the guy is suppose to pay.. But if its the first date then .. Maybe. There's a possibility. (;

  • I don't know about all that... I offer at the beginning before we even go out if he wants to go half or if he has it cuz I'll do it - but doing it all the time then id feel like the dude! my philosophy is - the same way u can reach for urs, i can reach for mine. Hell - we can take turns paying for all I care... but thats just me a i guess....

  • if she aight even try to pay.... BITCH is crazy bitch we aight playin lls

  • no im sorry u gon pay point blank period

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  • @MsVaginaButt the fuck? U all off course men dont 4 u too to pay u gurls that r arguing r talkin fast but listenin slow We do not intend for u to pay but if u atleast show appreciation to the date by attempting to pull out a card to pay we will stp u and we will pay okayyyy get it nowww u to bettyjtanner

  • @bettyjtanner the fuck he just said at the begening of the vid? Let me refresh yo memory he said DONT LET THE.YOUNG FACE FOOL YOU. U shouldnt talk about off puberty ppl kno u need to kno wat kindergartners should kno and LISTEN

  • he serious

    

  • How can this young fresh outta puberty person think he got valid advice

  • I'm never paying for a first date cause I don't even know if I'm ever going2 see this person again plus any date after that is dutch cause I don't want him2 think oh I spent whatever now u owe me whatever

  • true ishh..

  • thats deep

    

  • wow

  • Who uses the name @MsVaginaButt? Lol:)))

  • Basically, if a man sees you attempt to pay for the food, he will know you have some kind of INCOME. Therefore, you will stand out in his mind as the one with money. Also meaning, the one he can eventually use and be slack with. No. Thank. You.

  • @MissAmberMonique Why do you assume that once a man sees money its all that matters? If you get a good guy he'll see you try to pay and you'll stand out as the independant girl. That meand you don't NEED HIM. Therefore he'll work harder to impress you. And lets be honest 9 guys out of 10 will stop you from paying anyway.

  • @MsVaginaButt THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!! This is exactly what I try to tell men and they don't wanna listen.

  • I always pay for MY meal, emphasis on MY meal.

  • why cant just 50% of guys and women just attempt to think like you..just a little bit smh

    i will take this into consideration, i never thought of it this way and it makes sense too i like that

  • @ityflashlights sure cuz you know me

  • OMG HE IS SMART AND SEXY AND KNOWS HOW TO TREAT WOMEN...... JB YOUR A KEEPER!! i want 2 meet you!!

  • 47 Women decided to pay for the 1st date and hit the dislike button cause they didnt get a 2nd date...lmao

  • I see what you're saying, but I mostly disagree with this.

  • @MsVaginaButt Great grammar skills, sarcasm intended. And yes, that is how you use a comma.

  • Thanks I think I'm goin to use tht

  • maybe its old school but i feel if a dude really want your time hed at least pay for the first couples dates! i ont believe in being taken care of by any dude but my daddy. But honestly to show the female that yu are &&nd can be that dude yu should pay the first couple dates. if yu must go half dont be an ass hole and "accidently" leave yo money home (had that done to me b4)

  • I believe on goin dutch the 1st couple dates bcuz where i come from bitches are SHADY and will look at u like a sucka if u pay her way for everything bcuz more than likely she got 5 other cats doin the same thing. 1 nigga to feed her, 1 nigga to get her hair done, 1 nigga nails done etc etc...If im really feelin the chic i will pay the 1st couple dates, but if i see she aint tryin contribute, then im done payin for anything! I work to hard to trick of my money like that....

  • In texas if you attempt to pay the guy will let you go ahead and pay because most of the guys where i stay is lames

  • I always attempt to pay my own way when I'm a date because it's shows my independency as a woman

  • im that 10% i dont go on a date unless im paying for atless my food

  • see a girls point of view would say dont pay. nobody is ever right

  • i dont care STILL NOT paying

  • @Riiajanelle gold digga

  • Damn u a comedian and a therapist lol go j.b

  • So True :-)

  • big fan you must be funny cu just started lookn at your videos love all of them we got ta hook up blackly aka erica one love

  • i was the one who just happened to be with a guy who let me pay . smh

  • Fuck the bill JB, I'll pay you to date me ...LOL

    pathetic... I know, but he fine n he talks sense!

  • Your argument sounds contradicting. If a man pays on the first date, then it's done. I don't see why a woman would, or should for that matter, attempt to pay. If she did, then he could view it as her being insulting or questioning his finances. Her not offering shouldn't necessarily be seen as her not appreciating him, or using him. It isn't that at all. She's simply allowing him to be a man and pay.

  • I always offer to pay when I was with my ex fiance we would always alternate, but he didn't like me paying. I wanted to because I felt it was important to treat him every once in a while

  • men have to pay on dates,thats how it go

  • women act like its they the prize and the world revolve around them and they don't have to pay

  • i dont like boys paying for me i like being independant n stuff for myself. but other than that tho dude u got some fine ass lips

  • @MultiPookie14 Lool, so true!!

  • Amen!!!! Say that listen ladies its the truth

  • You are something SERIOUS !

  • Damn he look way better then trey songz & I dnt even like trey songz. Anyway he is right, us women should attempt to pay but if the guy don't say he will for u then leave the nigga

  • am never gonna pay on a date...if u invite me out, u gotta have ur shit together, b a man/gentleman and pay...it aint that big of a deal...some men r jus 2 cheap...we ladies r special and suppose to b treated tht way...men want to much equality....wat nxt r u gonna say, sometimes we must appreciate u by opening the door 4 u.....lolz

  • Some niquhz these days look for girls that pay for all they shyt tho..so you dont wanna be a dumba** and have a niquh use you either...

  • dayumm you look so damn good!!!! Mmmm

  • Well with me I. Don't mind paying a relationship is 50 /50 so you pay then next time he pays it's just the way it should be taken care of each other time he'll treat

  • Damn u look young like you 14 hahaa u age good brah

  • Don't people share the bill in the US ? I swear in Japan they even bring a calculator to split the bill in half on a date.

  • @Floralin Thats cuz they use logic over there, but over in U.S the man gotta pay for all the shit for some stupid unexplainable reason.

  • I always pay for myself on a date and I dated one guy that would actually give me a problem about it but when I pull my wallet out he was SILENT. I don't mind paying for myself but it would get under my skin that he would through a fit after the fact.

  • This is like. My favorite video of his so far. I'd never really thought about it before but it actually makes a lot of sense. I love it.

  • Good advice :)

  • @kgranger2292 I feel the exact same way .

  • Truth ben told. Respect! Nygga do all kinds of crazy shyt to stand out. Jus do one thing so we know you interested.

  • when i go out and a man pays i at least tip..i believe wht ur saying is tru!

  • I hate yall little stereotypes lol I'm black and I would definitely pay for my first date all black woman are not like what you say its just how you think you stupid retards especially the comment bellow mines

  • Well fuck that. He can pay for himself and I'll pay for myself. I always pay my way. Momma didn't raise no fool (Lol it's so fucking obvious that I'm a white girl, isn't it? xD)

  • u may be fucked up nigas

  • That wink a the end is sooo sexy!

  • True..i only pay when im interested in them! Other than that, you paying lols

  • Its mostly black chicks that would mostly want a man to pay for meals. I dated a couple white girls and even a couple asian girls and almost half of the white girls wanted to pay for the everything and others wanted to pay for her meal and I pay for my meal, asian girls the same same way. But black chicks wanted me to pay for everything, and spainish girls too.

  • @Jah2070 it basically just depends on how that woman or the women you dated were raised because I know I was raised to pay for my own things and it also depends on who asked who out on the date

  • i went on me and my ex first date and as soon as the waitress put the receipt on the table i picked it up. He wanted to pay, but i insisted. i am a very independent women, so im not used to people doing things for me, or getting things for me. I get things for myself. So we were together for 5-years. He had attitude problems, mood swings....he just had emotional issues. lol .

  • usually i do it to show the guy tht i dont need him cuz i got my own #stunting

  • he's so sexyyyyyy OMG!!! i just wanna suck his lips

  • iBeen Want'dd 2 Hit Yuu Uhp , Buht Yuu Ainn Gimme Yo Number Yet . Wassup .? ;)

  • no lie. The weird thing is that that's what I actully been thinkin even before i seen this vid for the 1st time. :)

  • don't let the young face fool you, just cuz I look young, well I am young, just don't let this shit fool you.

    lol

  • if a bitch attempt to pay for ha meal on da first date with me she gone succeed

  • last thing i need is a lescure -___-

  • Agree with you completley

  • going H.A.M, your smart sweetie

  • You are so SMART.

  • Spokenreasons all I got to say is tht your are totally right and I can't believe tht I stayed up at one thirty in the morning to watch this video

  • I paid for my guy friend and my own taxi fare once and for three weeks I couldn't not hear the end of it! He was livid! He tried to give the driver his money but he wouldn't take it lol .. Some guys have too much pride to be appreciative so with him I just enjoy pissing him off by paying for shit before he could lol.

    But this video is has a dope message though and I agree with what's said.. Ladies should always at least bring a good amount of money with them too (just in case)

  • i feel the same way , girls should pay once in a while . just cause we are girls that doesn't mean we shouldn't treat a men here and there , or instead of them buying flowers and cady , how about some of you switch it up and do that for your man , trust me theres a lot of guys out here who does complain about , the little things count show them that you can treat them just as well

  • I compromise. One of us pays the other drives, or we pay half each. Most agree, but some get intimidated by the fact I don't want to be paid for all the time... like im the one wearing the pants because I can pay for a meal..

  • I'm a girl and I always offer to pay half, even if HE asked me out.

  • Listen, if I'm a LEVEL 3 with him when he asks me out... HAH we don't need another date. thanks for lunch, boo. K bye. ;)

    Anyone that asks someone out, should pay, you took the inititiative, now follow through. Put up or shut up.

  • yo ladies, once in a while treat a man. once in a while

  • may I ask how old are you?

  • Pride? Hell to the no. Men pay of the first date, point blank period.

  • @MayaPapaya94 you're cheap lolz

  • @SlickGoHamBeatz I am not.

  • @MayaPapaya94 thats what she said lolz

  • @SlickGoHamBeatz Oh please, do shut up.

  • @MayaPapaya94 Shwag

  • @SlickGoHamBeatz Like wonton soup WHOOP! But you still suck for not paying...

  • a majority of the time i pull out my purse ready to pay, and not because i wanna see if he will let me pay, but because i actually have the intentions of paying. or it might be a thing were i'll pay for my self. not that the guys ever let me but yeah.

    one date we went for ice-cream and he paid for it, then we went to a bar after and he was gunna pay for the drinks but i said i got this and paid. he was very appreciative, so i get what jb is saying.

  • There should be no question of a man paying. a man should should pay for everything, it should come natural.

  • I also heard in a study that a man would point out 3 things about a woman; eyes, personality, and smile. Whereas a woman would make a list about a man's fault. All I'm saying is that be respectful and do not expect everything given to you

  • From how I was raised and taught my mother is for a man to open the door, help your woman or date into her chair, and pay the bill. It wouldn't hurt if a woman just leave a tip or if they are the fourth date or so offer to pay for her own because some men do want a woman who can handle her own, not have the man do all the work with little respect.

  • I think if the man is trying his best to impress and make the women feel wanted, but some of these women get rude or passive when they date men. A man offer to pay as he should but the women could leave a small tip. I am a man who doesnt want a lot from a woman, except for respect. If I have to pay for the bill, which i will always do, and the tip I that is wrong. I love a woman who offer to pay for her portion because it shows how independent she is.

  • haha....."respect gains for you"

  • i always have money to pay not all guys have good intentions

  • i always the one who always pay wit most my dates there was one guy that paid fo me

  • datts my bae

  • Thats why i just take them to Mcdonals

  • I never had a $4 meal with two ppl

  • I go dutch (I pay mine, he pays his). It's good to leave a tip (both of us). If he wants to pay sometimes, i pay sometimes...then fine...no biggie

  • does 41 people are woman and that one gay guy

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  • jb as what

  • uh. it should be 100/100 not 50/50.i dont like half assed efforts

  • @mrsdulaney236 I would of married you too. I wish the girls I go out with chose Krystal over an expensive restaraunt.

  • 50/50 , everyones happy.

  • I don't think there's anything wrong with a female paying for a meal, gender roles are a bitch aren't they.........Even if the man does pay, it would be nice for the lady to leave a tip or something lol

  • I went out on a date with a guy and he wanted to take me to a high dollar restaurant. I was flattered, but I was not in the mood for chicken primivera or red snapper. When he asked me where I wanted to go, I told him Krystal. He looked at me like I was stupid, but I was telling the truth. I wanted a two double cheese Krystals, a large fry, a medium drink, and an apple turnover. He was so amazed and here it is, 9 years later, I am his wife with three kids. Thank you, Krystal. LMFAO

  • @mrsdulaney236 Well i think you should give yourself credit not Krystal, afterall you proved that you were chill with just a burger you're not into all the hype. Kudos :)

  • @mrsdulaney236 wow your one in a million lucky guy

  • I have tried to pay for my meal before while out on a date, but I feel weird asking because I almost feel like when I pull out my card that I am questioning that guys' financials or questioning his independence, which kinda makes me feel like a beotch...

  • @kgranger2292 if thats the case, just offer the tip then. it wont offend him, yet it will show that you are willing to contribute something :) im a man who has been in the same situation. i wanna pay for our date but if she pays for our tip, it shows that she cares about both the date and the service. there is a medium yall :)

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  • I like that "drop the tip"... anyone who is clocking who's paying shouldn't be dating... they should skip the formalities and let each other know they're there for fun (and what that includes). Dating should lead to some form of serious relationship. Not tit for tat cat and mouse type play relation-shits.

  • That's the truth.. Real Talk.

  • Preacher

  • real talk

  • amen

    

  • If women want men to not stick stereotypes on her e.g. she belongs in the kitchen, then women shouldnt be tryna stick stereotypes on men by expecting them to pay. I always take my purse with money and always take my purse out to pay for myself on every date. Because I work hard for my money just like the guy works hard for his money so Im not gunna EXPECT him to pay for my shit!

  • JB you got a point there great video =)

  • its not only attempting to pay,but every now and then i treat the guy i'm dating. ill take him to the movies and dinner,,, just to switch it up.  guys like that spontaneous approach sometimes. besides its only fair if he's always paying. They shouldn't always have to make up the agenda of the date and pay the tab. be different and surprise him. its okay to treat in my opinion..

  • On my first date with my ex, I didn't assume he would pay, I pulled out my card and he just let me pay. Yeah I paid for myself but I was very disappointed in him for not offering to pay for me. It was only a movie ticket for