I hope that by now you have established paternity and is getting the help that you need. This is a sad issue in the black community. Some times even after paternity is established they guy never gives support b/c he has never work. The smartest thing that you can do is to NEVER allow this to happen again. I agree. Do Right and focus on healing.
I'm a father/daddy of a girl. I tell her I love her. I pay child support. I never denied her. Me and her mother are not together but we try raising her well. I want my child to learn what's right and wrong, making wise decisions, and not letting your emotions cloud her judgement. I want her to support herself without needing a man. I want her to pursue gainful education. But most of all I want her to teach her own child like I'm teaching her.
My friend is pregnant but her finance was shot and killed in a robbery at his job 2 months and people still blast her for being a single mom. I know single moms who take care of their kids and the baby daddy isn't in the picture and the kids turned out to be great.
A vast sea of CONTRADICTIONS! (We don't need your money; We're going to make you pay. We don't need your help & can raise our kids alone; We're not going to let you just walk away & not help us out.) I at least respect your HONESTY by *ADMITTING* that getting knocked-up without the benefit of some form of "commitment" was done *BY CHOICE* -- because if women did NOT "want" pregnancy, they would make the OTHER "CHOICE" to use one of a DOZEN different birth control methods available to them!
That is some of the stupidest shit I've ever heard. You dont want/need your babydaddy around, but you want him to not be able to walk away. WTF. You dont have to be a couple to be parents together. It is totally possible for two people to raise a child together without them being in a romantic relationship with each other. Don't dis every dude because yours (& others) weren't doing right. A child deserves both parents, not just a momma who dont want a babydaddy but wants his money.
so you'll rather have money than your child having a damn father in his life what ashame see black women may be book smart but common sense wise they fail aint no man goin to want you with that kid honey your going to be a widow just like the other 70% of sistas aint yall tired of proving that statistic that of a black woman right?? its in bw's dna's to get knocked up by thugs and be single baby mamas
Other communities frown on this shit.Were the only culture of people who accept the negative.And allow BW to place blame solely on BM.For their mistakes,We use words like Hatin' to cover up our bullshit.
black gurls always fuckin with thug ass niggas and rough necks it aint the good black men walking out its the thug ass niggas that black women just love so much i'll catch this chick on the maury show lookin for her right baby daddy AMERICA this is why black people are so fucked up its b/c black women are fuckin with thugs thugs walk out kids becomes thugs b/c daddy was and the girls becomes hoes because mommy was
blaming dude is not being strong it's weak and dishonest. accept responsibilty for your bad choice in men and for TRYING to get pregnant. then you can grow and avoid this pitfall once again. otherwise you will probably be in the same position a few years from now
For ibdatjuicyjuciy08 it not wasting no woman time from having a baby that wont have a father. All no good men will abandon a woman and his child within a second. What you are saying is every woman that go through a pregnancy is stupid and that child has no father. Well you are wrong. Maybe they dont want abortion. Plus abortion is murder. You're killing a human being. Its wrong. So shut the f**k and get a life. She's giving advice to help other women dealing with the same thing
if u were smart then instead of going with the pregnancy u would get an abortion. i mean duh... if a guy is telling u from the jump that hes not ready then dont keep your self in the situation.. and to uy97,, no thats not a good head on her shoulders, if it was then she wouldnt waste time having a child thats not going to have a father....
juss cause the baby daddy doesnt wanna be a part of it shes being smart and dealing with the concequences.. doesnt mean she cant have the baby n not have a head on her sholders i give her props.and im not hating on u or anything juss giving my point of view.
Sista, How long did you know your baby's father before you were intimate with him? I ask because people in the first year of the relationship will show their REAL side (the one that's not very attractive). Is there ever a time when it's the woman's fault also? I have heard of some sistas who would lie to the dude, telling him she's on birth control, when she isn't, she then opts out of him using a condom...and he does also. Why just the blame on the man? It takes two to do .
wit dat said i also feel as women we need 2b more careful n educate. i was was happyily engaged, got preg. but wen the baby came he got possessive. i made da choice 2 leave so my child wouldnt grow up in that environment. he then decides 2 stop bein a father cuz i left. i raised her 3yrs alone, shes ina montessori pre-k 4 gifted kids is happy/healthy wants 4 nuttin, so ladies it can b done. i feel im at fault 2 who u choose 2 hav kids by affects u n ya child 4 life. jus stay strong n do ya best!
ppl who havent been or arent in this situation r quick 2 put sum1 who is down, u cant comment if u dont know. this is sumthin that can happen 2 ANYONE. ur wit sum1 n u think that this persons the one, or youve been wit sum1 for yrs u live 2getha do everythig a married couple does, ur not properly educated about usin birth control, or u as the woman walk away by choice, theres no end 2 the possibilities, this happens 2 women of all ages, not jus teens n young adults. it only takes 1 time
It's about spending TIME with that child. Trust me. Children who have fathers who aren't in the home don't look forward to be taken to the amusement park for quality time, they look forward to hearing that father tell them that they love them and that they're always there for them. Also, how can the sista in the vid say "I'm doing this by myself " but in the same breath talk about taking the man to get child support? At that point, you're not doing anything by yourself.
thats why you wait till your married. A man can't get you knocked up if you dont let him. being mad at the one you chose to give you a baby is only being mad at half the problem
WHY ARE WE COMPLETELY BLAMIN THE FELLAS???? I am a female, so that is not the source of my bias. What women need to do is stop having unprotected sex and/or stop having babies out of wedlock. && then you wouldnt have a BABY DADDY, you`d have a HUSBAND!! I understand shit happens but it has become such a routine occurence that females should have enough brains to start taking the necessarry precautions to exclude themselves from the pandemic!
without a father being in a child's life, a child will become bitter. thus why the crime rate in america is so high and why kids join gangs. it's a shame that fathers don't know how to take care of they kids.
hey Precious whats good ma i see you doing your thang fuck all these hatin ass bitches on here as long as you are takin care of yourself and your son thats all that matters
Precious I understand how you feel as a grown woman I see you are a beautiful young sister, don't lower yourself by arguiing with these boys, they see you are young and instead of constructive criticism they call you names. I hope you have a strong support system because you are going to need it.. hit me if you wanna talk..
"they honestly feel like they can knock us up and walk away".......they are called "condoms" and "pill" sweetie. next time make sure the guy wears one or that you pop one. Don't blame your irresponsibility on men.
Sorry to hear about your ordeal. You're both equally responsible for creating a baby out of wedlock, since neither one ensured use of a condom. By his ditching you & the baby, he's bailing out on his share of the consequences of your joint action. He should be forced to help you support this baby, who is an innocent party & helpless to care for itself. For your sake & that of your future children, please marry a good man who you want to share your life with before having unprotected sex again.
How is it that women have several contraceptives options that are over 99% effective but its not her sole responsibility for taking them. How does a man get into this equation? I am really lost on this type of logic. How can women be strong and independent but not responsible enough over their own bodies to make sure they are using contraceptives. They even have contraceptives that will prevent you from being pregnant for nearly 5 YEARS. Can these women not do any research into their options?
Women are to wait til they get married before getting fucked anyway but we dont wait so it's our fault if we go ahead and have his baby with out a ring. Also it's fuck up that us women only have these men baby's because we are in love with them insteed of making sure we are married so that it's a sure thing our baby will have both parents. Babys didn't ask to be here but we bring them here anyway knowing it's father might not be there for it. We shouldn't do that.
you go girl!!!! i commend you for coming on here expressing your feelings and keeping it real!!! YOUR NOT ALONE UR JUST THE ONLY ONE WHO HAD THE BALLS TO PUT IT OUT THERE!!!
How is it that I'm a 21 year old black female who hasn't been knocked up yet? I mean don't you know about birth control? Don't you use condoms? Are you worried about STDs? Apparently not. Most black women make me sad.
Keep blaming it on a black man. Keep your legs closed and you won't get pregnant.
If you would've taken birth control, you wouldn't be in this situation.If you would've insisted that he wear a condom, you wouldn't be in this situation. Stop having kids with men who don't want to be fathers. Why are black women so stupid. You're a single mother by choice ? Then stop complaining and asking for his help. This is what YOU CHOOSE.
dude you acting like im complaining im just putting it out there that men are dogs and thats NEVER going to change im happy im going to have a child im not complaining at all BITCH im just proof that men are stupid animals!!!!!
No disprespect, but how can you say that about all black men being stupid animals when not all of us are like that? As much as I hate to say it, it's your fault for shacking up with a no good man that wasn't going to commit to you in the first place. If you had kept your legs closed and knew your self worth better, you wouldn't be in this situation.
Whoa!I said I meant you no disprespect and you reply back to me calling me a dumbass!I can see you weren't complaining, and why are you lumping all black men into one category when I'm not the stereotypical black male you hate? Unless your video was directed towards those kinds of brothas I can understand, but I'm surprised you didn't acknowledge your fault on your behalf for being in this situation. Rather than bash black men for speaking the truth, learn from them and your mistakes next time.
Haha I see the same enabling black women with white men on their backgrounds, that think this behavior is acceptable. Let's blame the man for this one. Lol. Let me guess he hit it and quit it. Black women have such good taste in men. Next time keep your legs closed.
thank you women act like they have no sense some time getting pregnant buy no good niggas and then complaining bout it a lot of these women are already lost just give up on the good post titomckenzie
no hate... buuuuuuuuut how bout instead of casting blame on the men .... place the blame where it belongs. your self ! you are the one who lay with him. you are the one who allowed him to beat raw. you are the one who was ultimately in charge. you chose a deadbeat loser. I'm quite sure dude was a loser from jump. no one does a 180. there are always signs and you failed to see them. yes it takes two but at the same time women need to be responsible and proactive instead of reactive. my .02
harlem's finest, nobody is perfect sweetie, and i'm from new york originally and I constantly see older men knock up young girls and leave them with the kid and than blame the young lady for getting pregnant?? GTFOH!! like you said it takes 2 both need to be responsible!!
It takes 2 to make a baby. After conception, WHAT CHOICE DOES THE MAN HAVE? This is NOT a 50-50 situation. A woman cannott raise a boy to be a man. 70% of black males in prison was raised in a single parent home headed by a woman. HOW ABOUT GETTING MARRIED BEFORE HAVING CHILDREN! See, that is what is wrong with us black folk nowadays. We have made the unacceptable, acceptable. We need to improve our morals
I agree Dante.. I think alot of young black women suffer when they do not have fathers in their lives but it doesn't start with these women, it goes back much further and its generational!! A cycle that blk men and blk women need to break. Instead of being immature and calling NAMES!!
Precious when and if you have your child, which it is your decision and NOBODY else's, you have say so over your own damn body.. You explain to him that you loved him and wanted him to have a LIFE! His father, loves him also in his own way BUT that you chose the wrong daddy is all!! Give your child LIFE! Don't abort our black babies..
Wait this man already has 2 kids and you're mad that he's not going to help YOU out? You saw the red flags. This is exactly what we talk about. These irresponsible men are getting all the attention (and it's obvious that they're irresponsible) but all the positive brothas have to be linked with these fools (that the woman CHOSE).
Her ignorance doesn't even surprise me anymore. It's typical from BW (especially single mothers). I bet she'll respond to this with something juvenile like "I know you are but what am I?" lol.
Judging from your response it seems like responsible men want nothing to do with you. I can't blame them because you're crazy as hell. That doesn't make them gay. It makes them smart for dodging a bullet and avoid getting themselves in a compromising situation (like the one you put yourself in with your "baby daddy").
That's so NOT true.. You are just looking in the wrong places. No disrespect but it seems like you didn't have a positive male in your life to model your mate after.
Please ensure that your child has a positive male role model..
Ms. Renea, you seem like a young child that is dealing with a situation that you don't understand. There seem to be forces out there and within yourself that confuse you. First, drop the attitude. Nobody in the world cares about your baby daddy rant. Your "sisterhood" will not support you. If they would, you wouldn't need child support. You stated that you will give advice to young women, but you stated nothing about your irresponsibility to not use conceptitives.
This is like the blind leading the blind. You don't have any idea about the responsibilities about raising a child. You know nothing about the world, and you don't know how to take care of yourself. How can you possible get this child ready for the world? What lessons did you learn from this experience? From your emotional diatribe, you have learn little. My advice: Start thinking, don't take any advice from a BW under 50, and find a older BM to guide and mentor you.
Its not the end of story. You, who don't know life from a hole in the ground, will not ready this child for success. You are looking at this child's life as a burden and not a joyous event. How do you think you will treat the child with that attitude? Do you think that attitude will destroy its chances in the world before it is even born? This is why single Black women can not lead in our community. You are already sending this child, if a boy, to jail, or if a girl, to early pregnancy.
I would like to ask a simple, non threatening question..(and any whom feel the need may answer) why let these guys who's authenticity can't be verified (because they have not committed to you) impregnate you in the first place? There's condoms, female condoms, birth control pills, and various other forms of birth control options out there including getting your 69 on or simply not having unprotected intercourse. Based on the character of said men, are you really surprised?
Your right there are birth control options but we were together and had a relationship and i was taking pills bvut i guess needed a stronger dose but just cause i got pregnant does not give him the right to walk away therefore i say i dont need him
He didn't have the right to walk away. He had a right to wear a condom and you had the right to not let him have sex with you without one. Hey these things happen sometimes but seriously, what kind of guy was he before the pregnancy? Was he the kind of man who even wanted kids? With you? This is important for young ladies to consider beforehand so maybe they wont wind up in a situation where the guy walks out on them and the baby.
maybe he didnt want kids but that dont matter the kids coming no matter what so the important thing now is my kid not what i did before hand thats already done its all about my child now.
This is the point I am trying to make. Sistas need to realize that if they have sex with a man who don't want kids and there is a pregnancy he will probably NOT do what you expect him to do! Disregarding how you got from point A to point B ensures that 1) you learn nothing from the journey and 2) that others gleam nothing from the lesson here. If the man was not about doing right in the first place then no baby will change that. Hell even orders from a judge can't get some guys to comply.
Notice she didn't say anything about birth control. She wanted to have a child and I'm willing to bet $300 in Paypal money that she didn't discuss this topic with the soon to be father.
Check the level of her selfishness, she don't think it's necessary for the child to be in a 2 parent home. It's all about power with some of these BW's,
The only person that she can have an influence on is her child.. The only person that won't run out on her & provide incentives is the child.
She told us she was strong, independent and don't need no man but if you watch 1.54 to 2.04 she said if she "FEEL LIKE" it she will make him pay child support.
PS. dont' come at me with that "don't judge me" comment because i guarantee that you wouldn't have a problem with the courts judging him on how much child support he should pay and how the child should be raised.
grow up and take responsibility for the bum you picked. stop complaining. your situation in life is your own felt, if you dont change your life things will never change.
first of all im not blaming ANYONE 4 my situation i take all responsibility for my actions but no matter what you or any other simple minded person thinks the bottom line is that i have a child to take care of and the father will pay rather he wants to be in my kids life or not AND I DONT NEED A MAN AS YOU CAN SEE I HAVE A KID THATS MORE IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!
see thats the problem black women have that independent shit. " i dont need a man" we all human man women need each other. only black women have that mentally, and look where it got them. a lot of them end like you alone and raising a child. no man wants to marry you. and all your problems are someone's else's
Firstly "Excuse me but i don't need protection advice from you!" k well, obviously you do!
& when u said about "i don't care what you think about my Independence" etc - Independence is fine, my mom raised me on her own shes an amazing woman. what i meant was, u are being hard! u will scare nice guys away with your head shaking, finger wagging attitude. one day u may want a guy to play as dad in your baby's life. u dont NEED a guy to complete u, but its nice to share this life with someone!
Haha please lady i have a man already that stepped up to take my babys fathers place so step off cause you dont know what the hell your talking about and as for my boobs last time i checked my mother didnt look shit like you!
you know why my comment sounds like a mother? its because mothers (usually!) want the best for their children, what them to be respected and become a nice decent person.
The men or whoever the suckers are stepping up to help take care of your kid are probably desperate guys you turned down in the past and now your giving them a chance because your option are now limit..
Or at least discuss having a child with him, and make sure that he wants children prior to getting pregnant; however, this isn't about that. She had a child with him out of jealousy and spite towards his ex(which may actually be his current GF[ she could lying through her teeth]). They ( the man and his ex) shared something that unless she had a child with him, share could never share.
Many black women are vindictive, spiteful and stupid.
Wow all of you that haven't been in this situation must be soo proud of yourselves to go out and find someone to JUDGE. Why don't you open up and tell me about your experiences so I can judge them and make you feel like crap? Kev2128 Jus an FYI the guy I was seeing has a degree in computers, his own apt with no bad boy additude whatsoever. Now he doesn't want nething to do with the baby. I was w/ him for a year. So even educated "nice guys" can end up being a holes too.
So true i believe everyone is looking at this like im trying to judge men but thats not the case it dont matter if your educated or not Any gut that feels like they dont want to take care of their seed will walk away its sad!
your in danger of becoming a hardened cow if you let this independence take a hold of you. You'll scare potentially nice genuine guys away if you carry on. bring your walls down a little.
oh and i'd like to add........
Condoms: A condom is a device most commonly used during sexual intercourse. Condoms are used to prevent pregnancy and transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
..take a contraceptive pill too, to double your protection against pregnancy.
Excuse me but i dont need protection advice from you! and secondly i dont care what you think about my independence because im going to be that way regardless any woman thats against independence is a shallow cow herself for thinking that they need a man t o complete them or take care of them sorry honey i wasnt raised that way i rather take child support than to bow down to any man Thanks!
No disrespect...but you shouldn't be preaching you can do it alone, then wonder why the men say..um ok..bye!
Some people are going to ask you..why didn't you use protection?
Men don't get how they play a part in making babies these days. They feel as if they have the option to walk or stay. It's that easy! Females need to think about having sex with these men w/o using protection.
We should have the option to walk or stay. Women have the option of aborting the child, giving it up for adoption or raising the child. We deserve the same options as you, sexist.
Look, I don't know you, your baby daddy, or your individual situation, but I do know that a lot of women (epsecially young women) tend to go after losers. You know, the type of guy that you already know ain't gonna stick around and be a baby daddy. Unfortunately, these guys send off every indication that they are no good and women still go 4 them. The writing is on the wall, y'all just wont read it. You are a very attractive woman and could have any guy. Why not treat yourself like it?
Because like you said, they go after losers and then when they get locked up by the bad-boy they expect the good guys to come around and now take care of them and there kids by the losers and treat them with respect.
No its not expected, every womans situation is different I'm just trying to let the females that dont already knw just cuz they baby daddy dont want a relationship anymore that dont mean another man with a heart wont step up and still treat them with respect!!
Correction: Black females situation is different from every other woman in America except maybe Hispanics. Your pathology is just too typical of a black female. Nothing unique about it.
You must know every situation possible for single mothers to be able to stereotype what kind of man a single mother gets pregnant by. I don't expect ANYONE but me to take care of my child. And what defines a loser in your books please explain. A man who has a 40hr week job, a degree, independent, has a 401k, has never had so much as a speeding ticket....is that a loser? or the guy that left me to take care of this baby by myself. Im glad your here to judge all of us single moms.
You get easily offended- u should ask yourself why that is
" And what defines a loser in your books please explain. A man who has a 40hr week job, a degree, independent, has a 401k, has never had so much as a speeding ticket....is that a loser?"
Then if he was so wonderful, why didnt u marry him?
Thanks for the compliment Flex, but i do agree with what your saying but just because who we choose to go after(which is our business) does not mean that the guy can act brand new when a real life situation like a baby comes up. Its just not right!
Who the hell are any of you to judge her? I dated a guy that I thought I could see being with. He had everyone around me and myself included that he was this great guy. Turns out he wants nothing to do with my baby. So stop judging. If you haven't been in the position then don't act high and mighty
Nope not calling her stupid.. I just think its not right for her to come on youtube and start talking about how she don't know need and this and that from the daddy.. And raising a baby alone aint easy.. She picked the knucklehead.. And yes looks like he did lock you up and he is walking away as you mentioned.
well thats your opinion and i also did say it wouldnt be easy raising a baby but just because the father dont want to help me that does not mean he should not pay child support!
he didn't want the baby in the first palce. dna, paternity established will provide child support. but you want him in your life don't. you want to be that queen "B" huh.
using a child to have a man worship you will not work. not all men are dumb all the time.
Well, I believe that some dudes can change after they find out a girl is pregnant like they change into a whole nother person, which isn't whats up. Many girls out there have babies and they don't have a baby daddy Y? Because they are dead BEAT idiots! :)
I hope that by now you have established paternity and is getting the help that you need. This is a sad issue in the black community. Some times even after paternity is established they guy never gives support b/c he has never work. The smartest thing that you can do is to NEVER allow this to happen again. I agree. Do Right and focus on healing.
WonderfullyMade1100 3 months ago
I put it on mute and just looked at her titties!!!
onsomeother 9 months ago
How bout not having sex with someone you're not married to?
negroliscious29 9 months ago 5
I'm a father/daddy of a girl. I tell her I love her. I pay child support. I never denied her. Me and her mother are not together but we try raising her well. I want my child to learn what's right and wrong, making wise decisions, and not letting your emotions cloud her judgement. I want her to support herself without needing a man. I want her to pursue gainful education. But most of all I want her to teach her own child like I'm teaching her.
DenoJoe2Def 1 year ago
My friend is pregnant but her finance was shot and killed in a robbery at his job 2 months and people still blast her for being a single mom. I know single moms who take care of their kids and the baby daddy isn't in the picture and the kids turned out to be great.
xxxWarriorGoddessxxx 1 year ago
@PreciousRenea im also a single mom i know it is hard i like your videos make more
FueraDelPlaneta69 1 year ago
DAM MA U SEXY!
NoLaTvShow 1 year ago
A vast sea of CONTRADICTIONS! (We don't need your money; We're going to make you pay. We don't need your help & can raise our kids alone; We're not going to let you just walk away & not help us out.) I at least respect your HONESTY by *ADMITTING* that getting knocked-up without the benefit of some form of "commitment" was done *BY CHOICE* -- because if women did NOT "want" pregnancy, they would make the OTHER "CHOICE" to use one of a DOZEN different birth control methods available to them!
KidBrotherIsWatching 2 years ago 12
Both of you should have used, talked, thought about BIRTH CONTROL before the clothes come off!
LUVJONZ99 2 years ago 12
That is some of the stupidest shit I've ever heard. You dont want/need your babydaddy around, but you want him to not be able to walk away. WTF. You dont have to be a couple to be parents together. It is totally possible for two people to raise a child together without them being in a romantic relationship with each other. Don't dis every dude because yours (& others) weren't doing right. A child deserves both parents, not just a momma who dont want a babydaddy but wants his money.
dyanivirgostar 2 years ago 29
if he dont want to be around you damn right i dont want him around!!! and you right i want that money and Im getting it!!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
so you'll rather have money than your child having a damn father in his life what ashame see black women may be book smart but common sense wise they fail aint no man goin to want you with that kid honey your going to be a widow just like the other 70% of sistas aint yall tired of proving that statistic that of a black woman right?? its in bw's dna's to get knocked up by thugs and be single baby mamas
Washanen07 2 years ago 15
LOL i have a man already and been had one that accepts me and my child!! so i thank you for your oppioion just be smarter next time!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
but its only so long for that "man" to take care of a child that aint his which i doubt he's doing anyways
Washanen07 2 years ago 6
What? You are lol
There is nothing funny about your situation or what you said in the video.
The4uhoney 2 years ago
@Washanen07 shut up it happens you never know it might just happen to some that is close to you
yderri 1 year ago
If your strong and independent,Why go for child support?Why get section 8,Why use the courts?It's all B.S.!!!
chenderson30 2 years ago 15
If your intelligent and strong.How come BW aren't these things when choosing men???
chenderson30 2 years ago 17
Other communities frown on this shit.Were the only culture of people who accept the negative.And allow BW to place blame solely on BM.For their mistakes,We use words like Hatin' to cover up our bullshit.
chenderson30 2 years ago 15
BW have been doing this for decades,Getting pregnant and always blaming MEN and not taking Ny part of the creation of the child and her body.
chenderson30 2 years ago 13
I hear dat!!!! finally!!! mine walked away too!!!
09jasminejones 2 years ago
black gurls always fuckin with thug ass niggas and rough necks it aint the good black men walking out its the thug ass niggas that black women just love so much i'll catch this chick on the maury show lookin for her right baby daddy AMERICA this is why black people are so fucked up its b/c black women are fuckin with thugs thugs walk out kids becomes thugs b/c daddy was and the girls becomes hoes because mommy was
Washanen07 2 years ago 12
blaming dude is not being strong it's weak and dishonest. accept responsibilty for your bad choice in men and for TRYING to get pregnant. then you can grow and avoid this pitfall once again. otherwise you will probably be in the same position a few years from now
ODOGUIDE 2 years ago 23
u go girl!!! im not a single parent but i really commend you. to all the murderer's out there..." this is a REAL mom"
browngurl9 2 years ago
thanks i appreciate it!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
For ibdatjuicyjuciy08 it not wasting no woman time from having a baby that wont have a father. All no good men will abandon a woman and his child within a second. What you are saying is every woman that go through a pregnancy is stupid and that child has no father. Well you are wrong. Maybe they dont want abortion. Plus abortion is murder. You're killing a human being. Its wrong. So shut the f**k and get a life. She's giving advice to help other women dealing with the same thing
Shontae016 2 years ago
if u were smart then instead of going with the pregnancy u would get an abortion. i mean duh... if a guy is telling u from the jump that hes not ready then dont keep your self in the situation.. and to uy97,, no thats not a good head on her shoulders, if it was then she wouldnt waste time having a child thats not going to have a father....
ibdatjuicyjuicy08 2 years ago
juss cause the baby daddy doesnt wanna be a part of it shes being smart and dealing with the concequences.. doesnt mean she cant have the baby n not have a head on her sholders i give her props.and im not hating on u or anything juss giving my point of view.
moriello3 2 years ago
thankyou!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
well for your info im not a murderer so you can go to hell!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
you should have made a better choice with who you decide to sleep with or be with next time you need to do that.
johnied8509 2 years ago 8
Sista, How long did you know your baby's father before you were intimate with him? I ask because people in the first year of the relationship will show their REAL side (the one that's not very attractive). Is there ever a time when it's the woman's fault also? I have heard of some sistas who would lie to the dude, telling him she's on birth control, when she isn't, she then opts out of him using a condom...and he does also. Why just the blame on the man? It takes two to do .
AfreeQueen 2 years ago 13
wit dat said i also feel as women we need 2b more careful n educate. i was was happyily engaged, got preg. but wen the baby came he got possessive. i made da choice 2 leave so my child wouldnt grow up in that environment. he then decides 2 stop bein a father cuz i left. i raised her 3yrs alone, shes ina montessori pre-k 4 gifted kids is happy/healthy wants 4 nuttin, so ladies it can b done. i feel im at fault 2 who u choose 2 hav kids by affects u n ya child 4 life. jus stay strong n do ya best!
prettyladya87 2 years ago
ppl who havent been or arent in this situation r quick 2 put sum1 who is down, u cant comment if u dont know. this is sumthin that can happen 2 ANYONE. ur wit sum1 n u think that this persons the one, or youve been wit sum1 for yrs u live 2getha do everythig a married couple does, ur not properly educated about usin birth control, or u as the woman walk away by choice, theres no end 2 the possibilities, this happens 2 women of all ages, not jus teens n young adults. it only takes 1 time
prettyladya87 2 years ago
It's about spending TIME with that child. Trust me. Children who have fathers who aren't in the home don't look forward to be taken to the amusement park for quality time, they look forward to hearing that father tell them that they love them and that they're always there for them. Also, how can the sista in the vid say "I'm doing this by myself " but in the same breath talk about taking the man to get child support? At that point, you're not doing anything by yourself.
AfreeQueen 2 years ago 13
thats why you wait till your married. A man can't get you knocked up if you dont let him. being mad at the one you chose to give you a baby is only being mad at half the problem
TheGoldenPhantom 2 years ago 10
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Crissy325 2 years ago
WHY ARE WE COMPLETELY BLAMIN THE FELLAS???? I am a female, so that is not the source of my bias. What women need to do is stop having unprotected sex and/or stop having babies out of wedlock. && then you wouldnt have a BABY DADDY, you`d have a HUSBAND!! I understand shit happens but it has become such a routine occurence that females should have enough brains to start taking the necessarry precautions to exclude themselves from the pandemic!
Crissy325 2 years ago 34
@Crissy325 THIS WAS WHAT I WAS TALKING BOUT YOU SMART AND HAVE A GOOD HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDERS
uy97 2 years ago
hmmm
chromethoughtprocess 2 years ago
without a father being in a child's life, a child will become bitter. thus why the crime rate in america is so high and why kids join gangs. it's a shame that fathers don't know how to take care of they kids.
Inspirmentalist 2 years ago
hey Precious whats good ma i see you doing your thang fuck all these hatin ass bitches on here as long as you are takin care of yourself and your son thats all that matters
MzBooKoo 2 years ago
Precious I understand how you feel as a grown woman I see you are a beautiful young sister, don't lower yourself by arguiing with these boys, they see you are young and instead of constructive criticism they call you names. I hope you have a strong support system because you are going to need it.. hit me if you wanna talk..
msrbsinger 2 years ago
thanks very much for your kind words
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
You go girl!!!!!!!
feministsstink 2 years ago
I was in the same boat with my bf but.. he came around and said he was scared. And so far everything good and he excited about having a child.
ALB4EVER05 2 years ago
"they honestly feel like they can knock us up and walk away".......they are called "condoms" and "pill" sweetie. next time make sure the guy wears one or that you pop one. Don't blame your irresponsibility on men.
Rooseveltdunn 2 years ago 6
Sorry to hear about your ordeal. You're both equally responsible for creating a baby out of wedlock, since neither one ensured use of a condom. By his ditching you & the baby, he's bailing out on his share of the consequences of your joint action. He should be forced to help you support this baby, who is an innocent party & helpless to care for itself. For your sake & that of your future children, please marry a good man who you want to share your life with before having unprotected sex again.
SexyVelour 2 years ago 6
How is it that women have several contraceptives options that are over 99% effective but its not her sole responsibility for taking them. How does a man get into this equation? I am really lost on this type of logic. How can women be strong and independent but not responsible enough over their own bodies to make sure they are using contraceptives. They even have contraceptives that will prevent you from being pregnant for nearly 5 YEARS. Can these women not do any research into their options?
thewise80 2 years ago 6
Us women creat baby dadyz
Women are to wait til they get married before getting fucked anyway but we dont wait so it's our fault if we go ahead and have his baby with out a ring. Also it's fuck up that us women only have these men baby's because we are in love with them insteed of making sure we are married so that it's a sure thing our baby will have both parents. Babys didn't ask to be here but we bring them here anyway knowing it's father might not be there for it. We shouldn't do that.
tempress100 2 years ago
you go girl!!!! i commend you for coming on here expressing your feelings and keeping it real!!! YOUR NOT ALONE UR JUST THE ONLY ONE WHO HAD THE BALLS TO PUT IT OUT THERE!!!
buttacupsify 2 years ago
How is it that I'm a 21 year old black female who hasn't been knocked up yet? I mean don't you know about birth control? Don't you use condoms? Are you worried about STDs? Apparently not. Most black women make me sad.
Keep blaming it on a black man. Keep your legs closed and you won't get pregnant.
TinkerBebe 2 years ago 5
If you would've taken birth control, you wouldn't be in this situation.If you would've insisted that he wear a condom, you wouldn't be in this situation. Stop having kids with men who don't want to be fathers. Why are black women so stupid. You're a single mother by choice ? Then stop complaining and asking for his help. This is what YOU CHOOSE.
TitoMckenzie 2 years ago 4
dude you acting like im complaining im just putting it out there that men are dogs and thats NEVER going to change im happy im going to have a child im not complaining at all BITCH im just proof that men are stupid animals!!!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
No disprespect, but how can you say that about all black men being stupid animals when not all of us are like that? As much as I hate to say it, it's your fault for shacking up with a no good man that wasn't going to commit to you in the first place. If you had kept your legs closed and knew your self worth better, you wouldn't be in this situation.
MarkTheGreat555666 2 years ago 5
like i said dumbass!!!! im not complaining im proving a flipping point about you dog ass men
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Whoa!I said I meant you no disprespect and you reply back to me calling me a dumbass!I can see you weren't complaining, and why are you lumping all black men into one category when I'm not the stereotypical black male you hate? Unless your video was directed towards those kinds of brothas I can understand, but I'm surprised you didn't acknowledge your fault on your behalf for being in this situation. Rather than bash black men for speaking the truth, learn from them and your mistakes next time.
MarkTheGreat555666 2 years ago
aww. thats so sad. So did he leave once he found out? Next time wait until you in a good relationship and married. aww :(
BugottiGirl 2 years ago 3
Haha I see the same enabling black women with white men on their backgrounds, that think this behavior is acceptable. Let's blame the man for this one. Lol. Let me guess he hit it and quit it. Black women have such good taste in men. Next time keep your legs closed.
lorenzo8500 2 years ago
thank you women act like they have no sense some time getting pregnant buy no good niggas and then complaining bout it a lot of these women are already lost just give up on the good post titomckenzie
uy97 2 years ago
Yeal well thanks for your input
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
and i feel sorry for you get of my channel!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Shut the fuck up stupid BITCH!!!! go fuck your mom cunt!!!!!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
more ignorance...
wayne21100 2 years ago
And the scary thing is that she's a mother.
professorhawk21 2 years ago 7
no hate... buuuuuuuuut how bout instead of casting blame on the men .... place the blame where it belongs. your self ! you are the one who lay with him. you are the one who allowed him to beat raw. you are the one who was ultimately in charge. you chose a deadbeat loser. I'm quite sure dude was a loser from jump. no one does a 180. there are always signs and you failed to see them. yes it takes two but at the same time women need to be responsible and proactive instead of reactive. my .02
harlemsfinest1975 2 years ago 9
harlem's finest, nobody is perfect sweetie, and i'm from new york originally and I constantly see older men knock up young girls and leave them with the kid and than blame the young lady for getting pregnant?? GTFOH!! like you said it takes 2 both need to be responsible!!
msrbsinger 2 years ago
another single mother yaaaaaaaaay
MrUndestructable07 2 years ago
This whole thread and video is PURE FAIL!!!
TheDahakanReturns 2 years ago 3
Damn, black women are getting exponentially dumber by the minute!!!
raptor8154 2 years ago 7
Just like men Bitch!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
It takes 2 to make a baby. After conception, WHAT CHOICE DOES THE MAN HAVE? This is NOT a 50-50 situation. A woman cannott raise a boy to be a man. 70% of black males in prison was raised in a single parent home headed by a woman. HOW ABOUT GETTING MARRIED BEFORE HAVING CHILDREN! See, that is what is wrong with us black folk nowadays. We have made the unacceptable, acceptable. We need to improve our morals
dantej32 2 years ago 7
I agree Dante.. I think alot of young black women suffer when they do not have fathers in their lives but it doesn't start with these women, it goes back much further and its generational!! A cycle that blk men and blk women need to break. Instead of being immature and calling NAMES!!
msrbsinger 2 years ago
And here's another thing
You cant raise a boy to be a man
Black women have tried for 40 yrs, and created nothing but half-a-gays, simps, sissies and so on
If you was more selective about the mate, you would not be in this predicament
I mean, you contradict yourself, you dont need his money, but will take him to court for child support
And the neck twisting, you display the worst stereotypes of black women
The only advice you need to give is not be you, thats it
GenLaughingMan 2 years ago
and its not that i dont need his money i dont need the guy around!!!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Then you've failed
Why have his kid when you dont want him around
How selfish is that to deny your son his father, and deny him a proper father when you knew the man didnt take care of his other baby mommas
Whatever happens to that boy negatively will be your fault, you damaged that kid even before he sees this earth
Its females with logic like yours that plays a huge part in the fuck up of the black community
GenLaughingMan 2 years ago 4
Precious when and if you have your child, which it is your decision and NOBODY else's, you have say so over your own damn body.. You explain to him that you loved him and wanted him to have a LIFE! His father, loves him also in his own way BUT that you chose the wrong daddy is all!! Give your child LIFE! Don't abort our black babies..
msrbsinger 2 years ago
Wait this man already has 2 kids and you're mad that he's not going to help YOU out? You saw the red flags. This is exactly what we talk about. These irresponsible men are getting all the attention (and it's obvious that they're irresponsible) but all the positive brothas have to be linked with these fools (that the woman CHOSE).
professorhawk21 2 years ago 12
That assuming they want to use logic and reason, or have the intelligence to use it to begin with
Again, personal responsibility
If you knew and saw the man wasnt shit, why lay with him unprotected, there are 10,000 ways for you not to have a kid
Women who dont want to get pregnant, dont get pregnant
And no amount of deflection will make it otherwise
You chose this man, you seeded with him, deal with the consequences for your faulty actions
GenLaughingMan 2 years ago 3
All the responsible brothers are GAY or on the DOWN LOW
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
god your ignorance amazes me...
wayne21100 2 years ago 5
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professorhawk21 2 years ago
Her ignorance doesn't even surprise me anymore. It's typical from BW (especially single mothers). I bet she'll respond to this with something juvenile like "I know you are but what am I?" lol.
professorhawk21 2 years ago 11
And the fact that you dont have shit else to do but comment and watch my vids over and over amazes me keep it up you making me famous!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Judging from your response it seems like responsible men want nothing to do with you. I can't blame them because you're crazy as hell. That doesn't make them gay. It makes them smart for dodging a bullet and avoid getting themselves in a compromising situation (like the one you put yourself in with your "baby daddy").
professorhawk21 2 years ago 10
well thanks for your opinon
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Wow are you being serious or sarcastic?
MrUndestructable07 2 years ago
That's so NOT true.. You are just looking in the wrong places. No disrespect but it seems like you didn't have a positive male in your life to model your mate after.
Please ensure that your child has a positive male role model..
programr101 2 years ago
Ms. Renea, you seem like a young child that is dealing with a situation that you don't understand. There seem to be forces out there and within yourself that confuse you. First, drop the attitude. Nobody in the world cares about your baby daddy rant. Your "sisterhood" will not support you. If they would, you wouldn't need child support. You stated that you will give advice to young women, but you stated nothing about your irresponsibility to not use conceptitives.
thewise80 2 years ago 4
This is like the blind leading the blind. You don't have any idea about the responsibilities about raising a child. You know nothing about the world, and you don't know how to take care of yourself. How can you possible get this child ready for the world? What lessons did you learn from this experience? From your emotional diatribe, you have learn little. My advice: Start thinking, don't take any advice from a BW under 50, and find a older BM to guide and mentor you.
thewise80 2 years ago 3
which was my choice and now im paying for it so now he will pay too end of the story
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Its not the end of story. You, who don't know life from a hole in the ground, will not ready this child for success. You are looking at this child's life as a burden and not a joyous event. How do you think you will treat the child with that attitude? Do you think that attitude will destroy its chances in the world before it is even born? This is why single Black women can not lead in our community. You are already sending this child, if a boy, to jail, or if a girl, to early pregnancy.
thewise80 2 years ago 6
thewise80, I totally agree with you. Its a cycle that becomes harder to break every generation.
LuvLady22 2 years ago 2
I would like to ask a simple, non threatening question..(and any whom feel the need may answer) why let these guys who's authenticity can't be verified (because they have not committed to you) impregnate you in the first place? There's condoms, female condoms, birth control pills, and various other forms of birth control options out there including getting your 69 on or simply not having unprotected intercourse. Based on the character of said men, are you really surprised?
dealmaker007 2 years ago
Your right there are birth control options but we were together and had a relationship and i was taking pills bvut i guess needed a stronger dose but just cause i got pregnant does not give him the right to walk away therefore i say i dont need him
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
He didn't have the right to walk away. He had a right to wear a condom and you had the right to not let him have sex with you without one. Hey these things happen sometimes but seriously, what kind of guy was he before the pregnancy? Was he the kind of man who even wanted kids? With you? This is important for young ladies to consider beforehand so maybe they wont wind up in a situation where the guy walks out on them and the baby.
dealmaker007 2 years ago
maybe he didnt want kids but that dont matter the kids coming no matter what so the important thing now is my kid not what i did before hand thats already done its all about my child now.
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
This is the point I am trying to make. Sistas need to realize that if they have sex with a man who don't want kids and there is a pregnancy he will probably NOT do what you expect him to do! Disregarding how you got from point A to point B ensures that 1) you learn nothing from the journey and 2) that others gleam nothing from the lesson here. If the man was not about doing right in the first place then no baby will change that. Hell even orders from a judge can't get some guys to comply.
dealmaker007 2 years ago 2
What was more important to you, having a family, or having babies?
dealmaker007 2 years ago
actually neither but it happened so now i have to do the right thing and take care of my responsibilities
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
You haven't taken any responsibility.
GoldenDynamo 2 years ago
neither have you
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
What kind of comeback is that? lol.
mrkennedy8810 2 years ago
LOL
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
iBrQueen wrote "guys are dicks....fuck them"
PreciousRenea "Hell Ya girl... We dont need em"
you can tell that she resent men.
"i dont care what you think about my independence because im going to be that way regardless"
Most Out Of Wedlock child having BW don't tell you that they seek help from their mothers, sisters and aunts
while they are at school, or work
Pt1.
BlackNRA 2 years ago 5
Notice she didn't say anything about birth control. She wanted to have a child and I'm willing to bet $300 in Paypal money that she didn't discuss this topic with the soon to be father.
Pt2
BlackNRA 2 years ago 7
Check the level of her selfishness, she don't think it's necessary for the child to be in a 2 parent home. It's all about power with some of these BW's,
The only person that she can have an influence on is her child.. The only person that won't run out on her & provide incentives is the child.
She told us she was strong, independent and don't need no man but if you watch 1.54 to 2.04 she said if she "FEEL LIKE" it she will make him pay child support.
Strong & independent.. Hmmmmm
Pt3
BlackNRA 2 years ago 7
PS. dont' come at me with that "don't judge me" comment because i guarantee that you wouldn't have a problem with the courts judging him on how much child support he should pay and how the child should be raised.
BlackNRA 2 years ago 8
you dont know me like that HATER but i enjoy you making my views go up keep posting!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
with your kind attitude a descent man would not want a baby momma like you
jmidwest 2 years ago 2
well thats just the way i am and if you dont like it you know what you could do!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
grow up and take responsibility for the bum you picked. stop complaining. your situation in life is your own felt, if you dont change your life things will never change.
jmidwest 2 years ago 2
first of all im not blaming ANYONE 4 my situation i take all responsibility for my actions but no matter what you or any other simple minded person thinks the bottom line is that i have a child to take care of and the father will pay rather he wants to be in my kids life or not AND I DONT NEED A MAN AS YOU CAN SEE I HAVE A KID THATS MORE IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
see thats the problem black women have that independent shit. " i dont need a man" we all human man women need each other. only black women have that mentally, and look where it got them. a lot of them end like you alone and raising a child. no man wants to marry you. and all your problems are someone's else's
jmidwest 2 years ago
Don't listen to these idiots.
FreshCoolYoungLou 2 years ago
is that your real name? its pretty
88948895611499 2 years ago
Yeah its my real name thanks!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
i disagree with your approach
but i really like u
so i may make a video response to this cause the subject really touched me
chanelheaven 2 years ago
thanks i appreciate it
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Firstly "Excuse me but i don't need protection advice from you!" k well, obviously you do!
& when u said about "i don't care what you think about my Independence" etc - Independence is fine, my mom raised me on her own shes an amazing woman. what i meant was, u are being hard! u will scare nice guys away with your head shaking, finger wagging attitude. one day u may want a guy to play as dad in your baby's life. u dont NEED a guy to complete u, but its nice to share this life with someone!
JenJenJen09 2 years ago
Haha please lady i have a man already that stepped up to take my babys fathers place so step off cause you dont know what the hell your talking about and as for my boobs last time i checked my mother didnt look shit like you!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
you know why my comment sounds like a mother? its because mothers (usually!) want the best for their children, what them to be respected and become a nice decent person.
JenJenJen09 2 years ago
The men or whoever the suckers are stepping up to help take care of your kid are probably desperate guys you turned down in the past and now your giving them a chance because your option are now limit..
kev2128 2 years ago 5
Lol no your mistaking me with your girl
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
this cannot be said enough...
ContraBond 2 years ago
Here's a crazy idea: how about you have children AFTER you get married? You know. The old fashioned way that worked? Just saying....
kobra8600 2 years ago 16
Why dont you cause last time i checked you dont look shit like my father!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
That didn't really answer my question but then again I didn't expect you to actually give a real answer....
kobra8600 2 years ago
LOL You are a hater i love all my haters though god bless you!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Why not, though?
Just wanna know what you think...
ContraBond 2 years ago
about what?
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Or at least discuss having a child with him, and make sure that he wants children prior to getting pregnant; however, this isn't about that. She had a child with him out of jealousy and spite towards his ex(which may actually be his current GF[ she could lying through her teeth]). They ( the man and his ex) shared something that unless she had a child with him, share could never share.
Many black women are vindictive, spiteful and stupid.
TitoMckenzie 2 years ago
Wow all of you that haven't been in this situation must be soo proud of yourselves to go out and find someone to JUDGE. Why don't you open up and tell me about your experiences so I can judge them and make you feel like crap? Kev2128 Jus an FYI the guy I was seeing has a degree in computers, his own apt with no bad boy additude whatsoever. Now he doesn't want nething to do with the baby. I was w/ him for a year. So even educated "nice guys" can end up being a holes too.
afink88 2 years ago
So true i believe everyone is looking at this like im trying to judge men but thats not the case it dont matter if your educated or not Any gut that feels like they dont want to take care of their seed will walk away its sad!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
your in danger of becoming a hardened cow if you let this independence take a hold of you. You'll scare potentially nice genuine guys away if you carry on. bring your walls down a little.
oh and i'd like to add........
Condoms: A condom is a device most commonly used during sexual intercourse. Condoms are used to prevent pregnancy and transmission of sexually transmitted diseases.
..take a contraceptive pill too, to double your protection against pregnancy.
*sigh*
JenJenJen09 2 years ago 2
Excuse me but i dont need protection advice from you! and secondly i dont care what you think about my independence because im going to be that way regardless any woman thats against independence is a shallow cow herself for thinking that they need a man t o complete them or take care of them sorry honey i wasnt raised that way i rather take child support than to bow down to any man Thanks!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
No disrespect...but you shouldn't be preaching you can do it alone, then wonder why the men say..um ok..bye!
Some people are going to ask you..why didn't you use protection?
Men don't get how they play a part in making babies these days. They feel as if they have the option to walk or stay. It's that easy! Females need to think about having sex with these men w/o using protection.
raising that child ALONE is not easy...trust.
Sahbisun 2 years ago
thanks i do understand what you mean and i will be responding to all questions and comments!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
We should have the option to walk or stay. Women have the option of aborting the child, giving it up for adoption or raising the child. We deserve the same options as you, sexist.
TitoMckenzie 2 years ago
guys are dicks....fuck them!!!
iBrQueen 2 years ago
Hell Ya girl... We dont need em!!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Look, I don't know you, your baby daddy, or your individual situation, but I do know that a lot of women (epsecially young women) tend to go after losers. You know, the type of guy that you already know ain't gonna stick around and be a baby daddy. Unfortunately, these guys send off every indication that they are no good and women still go 4 them. The writing is on the wall, y'all just wont read it. You are a very attractive woman and could have any guy. Why not treat yourself like it?
D1andonlyFlex 2 years ago 17
u say tru. i've seen it too many times with close freinds of mine...
iganinjaartist2 2 years ago
Thanks im just trying to be honest!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Because like you said, they go after losers and then when they get locked up by the bad-boy they expect the good guys to come around and now take care of them and there kids by the losers and treat them with respect.
kev2128 2 years ago 3
No its not expected, every womans situation is different I'm just trying to let the females that dont already knw just cuz they baby daddy dont want a relationship anymore that dont mean another man with a heart wont step up and still treat them with respect!!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Correction: Black females situation is different from every other woman in America except maybe Hispanics. Your pathology is just too typical of a black female. Nothing unique about it.
UKGully 2 years ago
You must know every situation possible for single mothers to be able to stereotype what kind of man a single mother gets pregnant by. I don't expect ANYONE but me to take care of my child. And what defines a loser in your books please explain. A man who has a 40hr week job, a degree, independent, has a 401k, has never had so much as a speeding ticket....is that a loser? or the guy that left me to take care of this baby by myself. Im glad your here to judge all of us single moms.
afink88 2 years ago
You get easily offended- u should ask yourself why that is
" And what defines a loser in your books please explain. A man who has a 40hr week job, a degree, independent, has a 401k, has never had so much as a speeding ticket....is that a loser?"
Then if he was so wonderful, why didnt u marry him?
Did u guys live together?
onyxxx101 2 years ago 4
Thanks for the compliment Flex, but i do agree with what your saying but just because who we choose to go after(which is our business) does not mean that the guy can act brand new when a real life situation like a baby comes up. Its just not right!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Anoustly you seem a little sexist.
11Gabe26 2 years ago
How do i seem sexist? just because i dont have sympathy for guys that dont take care of their kids?
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
maybe it isent his and you said what is with these guys(guys with kids) and it's not only his fault if it is his...
he souldn't pay child support either unless he thinks it's his... get a DNA check
11Gabe26 2 years ago
True, well for now lets just wish for a healthy baby boy/girl being brought into the world then you can figure out the rest hopefully..
kev2128 2 years ago
I say let the deadbeat go. He was sorry b4 sorry now and gone be sorry save urself the stress of him n focus positive energy n love to ur child.
ocho01 2 years ago
Thanks very much for your insight i look forward to you viewing my next vid!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
Who the hell are any of you to judge her? I dated a guy that I thought I could see being with. He had everyone around me and myself included that he was this great guy. Turns out he wants nothing to do with my baby. So stop judging. If you haven't been in the position then don't act high and mighty
afink88 2 years ago
Thanks for viewing and your kind words its nice to see someone sees the realness in what I'm trying to say:)
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
I'm not acting high and mighty. I'm just not stupid enough to put myself in that situation that's all..
kev2128 2 years ago 2
So you callin her stupid?
latoyaforever 2 years ago
Nope not calling her stupid.. I just think its not right for her to come on youtube and start talking about how she don't know need and this and that from the daddy.. And raising a baby alone aint easy.. She picked the knucklehead.. And yes looks like he did lock you up and he is walking away as you mentioned.
kev2128 2 years ago 3
well thats your opinion and i also did say it wouldnt be easy raising a baby but just because the father dont want to help me that does not mean he should not pay child support!
PreciousRenea 2 years ago
he didn't want the baby in the first palce. dna, paternity established will provide child support. but you want him in your life don't. you want to be that queen "B" huh.
using a child to have a man worship you will not work. not all men are dumb all the time.
staffonsgirl 2 years ago 6
JERRRY JERRRY JERRRRY!
Well, I believe that some dudes can change after they find out a girl is pregnant like they change into a whole nother person, which isn't whats up. Many girls out there have babies and they don't have a baby daddy Y? Because they are dead BEAT idiots! :)
latoyaforever 2 years ago
He probably dont think its his.
tryfedawg 2 years ago
No he knows its his he just scared of child support he dont want to go to jail
PreciousRenea 2 years ago