Episode:39 Why Can't I Have Sex!?!? (Part II)

[MsPcengineer]

i think you can get special condoms and special lube for hiv? i might be wrong

[TheWootLee]

To be honest if i was diagnosed with HIV i'd find someone with HIV and have alllll the freaky sex with them, that way I keep having sex and no one else will get infected... but seriously, if i met someone I really liked and genuinly wanted to spend the rest of my life with them and they had HIV, i wouldn't care at the end of the day you don't love someone for the sex, and if i caught if off them, well... i guess I better ask them to marry me

[letmeshowuhow2stunt]

You look like a good looking guy should have stuck with the pussy and leave the booty alone. One luv bro keep living your life to the fullest

[lravenhill]

what if condom breaks? cant u be charged with murder for that?

[TheMvibe]

The very best policy is to 1 assume that anyone and every one you have sex with is hiv positive. if that is your mind set and you use a condom every time then you will be less likely to be come + or if you are + making the strain that you have become medication ineffective.but each person is responsible for there own sexual health and that includes if you are under the influence, "you do not even have to have the talk on status cause in thrut that doesn't happen anyway. peace learn grow. enuff!

[gypsykatcher30]

Condoms are simply not safe enough. They regularly come off, or split.

[jsmithco98]

Hey man I'm so glad you made this video man There is not reason why we shouldn't have sex.

[jsmithco98]

@jsmithco98 I mean not we together but HIV positive people THANK YOU

[TheREDLife1]

@jsmithco98 I already knew what you meant Justin lol hahaha!

[jsmithco98]

@TheREDLife1 LMAO :-)

[KhagarBalugrak]

One more thing my friend...

You said the majority of people have STDs. This is true. However, the majority of people do NOT have something that causes a lifelong, terminal disease like AIDS. In fact, HIV is the only STD out there that has the kind of fatality rate that it has (99.9%). Your argument is totally false. Someone with herpes has the right to have sex.  Someone with HIV must limit himself to other HIV-positive people or potentially face criminal charges, and with good reason!

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak Someone with herpes who has sex with someone without disclosing their condition can also be brought up on charges.

Everyone has the right to have sex. Everyone who can potentially harm another should take responsibility when having sex. And, there are many couples that do not share the virus. HIV has become difficult to pass on if a person is on treatment. Woman can now mother children without passing the virus to the child.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, LOL. You absolutely cannot compare the danger of herpes to the danger of HIV/AIDS. Herpes has killed few, if any, people. AIDS has killed millions upon millions of people. Have you no shame? That comparison is as false as can possibly be.

Of course sex can always be harmful, but no STD or pregnancy can in any way compare to the horror that is HIV/AIDS. And if you have HIV, you have a moral obligation not to have sex with HIV-negative people.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, and yes, I do think people who spread herpes should be given a minor fine instead of jail time. HIV positive people who know they are HIV positive and have sex with HIV negative people belong in jail, plain and simple. They are a danger to others, literally capable of killing other people.

"Difficult to pass on" is not the same thing as impossible to pass on. And pregnant HIV positive women always have a chance of passing the virus onto their children.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, in any event, you're far overstating how effective medication is at preventing HIV transmission. It reduces the risk of transmission to 5% of what it had been before, but the risk is still unacceptably high, especially in anal sex, which the man in this video is engaging in, since he happens to be gay. That's a proven scientific fact: HIV is much more easily spread through anal sex.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, so yeah, you don't have the right to have sex if you put people at risk for such a horrible and deadly illness as HIV/AIDS. You're just using false logic and utterly dishonest comparisons (between herpes and HIV for fuck's sake!) because, I'm guessing, you are HIV positive and want to have sex with people. But if you cared about any of the people you're having sex with, you wouldn't have sex with them and put them at risk for HIV/AIDS.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, rights are not absolute. And no, I oppose the Patriot Act and the law Obama recently signed that allows our government to torture and assassinate any American citizen by labeling him an "enemy combatant". But nevertheless, absolute freedom ends in destruction. You don't have the right to rob people and shoot people unless it's self-defense. So too, you don't have the right to have sex if you're putting people in danger of HIV infection.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, if everyone was allowed to do whatever they want, the world would quickly be destroyed. And by putting people in danger of HIV infection, you're doing something horribly evil. If I was HIV positive, I woudl NEVER put anyone in danger of infection, no matter how horny I was.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak Yes, one does have the right to have sex when infected with HIV. I guess you misunderstand because you may not understand the concept of consent. There are people out there who are not infected with HIV who willingly and knowingly have sex with people who do have HIV. And, without the intention of being infected.

Some people have sex because they love the person they're having sex with. Not just because they are horny. What are you, a child?

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, just because you have someone's consent doesn't make it right. For instance, there are people who pay others to kill them - assisted suicide. Although the person was killed with his consent, that doesn't make it any less evil.

Another example: a person willingly purchases and uses ecstasy, knowing full well it's going to harm him. The person who sold him the ecstasy is guilty of doing something evil, regardless of the "consent" of his customer.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, so yes, even if the other person is self-destructive enough to consent to having sex with someone infected with HIV, it is still your obligation not to give him what he wants, unless of course he's already HIV positive, since no more harm can be done to him than has already been done. Consent doesn't justify anything in and of itself. Back in the 1990s, the Yugoslavian people consented to Milosevic's dictatorship. Does that mean he had the right to murder 600,000 people?

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak Self destructive? You are playing out your own fears here on youtube. Not everyone is as afraid of people with HIV as you are. There are also many facts that I know about this subject that are not prudent to mention in a public forum such as this, especially to someone with the attitude you have.

You must be young. Still trying to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. This is not your issue, son.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, it's not so much about fear (since I believe in the afterlife) as it is caution and pragmatism. HIV/AIDS is a very painful and prolonged illness requiring extremely expensive medication. You'd have to be crazy not to be worried enough about it that you wouldn't fuck someone who has it. The whole attitude developing among people today that HIV is "no big deal" and "easily treated" is why HIV/AIDS continues to be a problem, and why people continue to get infected.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, it's clear to me that preventing HIV infection is the last of your concerns. Instead, you've joined the chorus of other self-interested HIV-infected people that want the right to do anything they want, even if it puts other people in danger of HIV infection. You and the rest of these people form a special interest group, and no special interest group can claim any moral integrity or purity of purpose.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, perhaps it's not my issue in the sense that I live a very safe style and am not likely to become HIV infected. But that doesn't matter, because it's not just about me. It's about all the people out there who are at risk of HIV infection. It's about preventing them from contracting this horrible illness.

I find it shocking that anyone with such a terrible illness would not do everything in his power not to spread that illness.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak You sound like one of those self righteous Internet preachers. You're probably from one of those countries where the concept of humanitarianism hasn't sunk in yet.

You know what else is a terrible illness? Ignorance. And, you have it my friend.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, tell me something. What is humanitarian about putting someone at risk of HIV infection?

In any case, this particular comment by you stinks of racism and imperialism. Exactly how many countries and cultures do you look down on because they aren't identical to your own?

Ignorance? Nothing I said was factually incorrect. HIV is a horrible illness. Any sane person is afraid of getting it. What is ignorant about any of those statements?

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, if you're going to throw around a term like ignorance, you'd better be able to actually pinpoint something ignorant in the other person's statements. All too often people throw out the word "ignorance" when they have nothing to back up their statements.

In any case, defining HIV as a horrible illness isn't ignorant. Do you enjoy having it? And saying sane people don't want HIV isn't ignorant. What is sane about being comfortable with contracting a deadly illness?

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak You have some issues. Get help.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, you're saying I'm insane for not wanting HIV positive people to put other people in danger of HIV infection?

You're the one that needs help.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak You're the kind of idiot that would have all people with HIV caged, controlled, or killed. You're just another idiot on youtube going around talking about things you haven't a clue about. Go herd some sheep. I'm sure you can handle that.

Or maybe you're just a troll.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, and now you're talking out of your ass. I do not believe in killing or imprisoning people merely for having HIV, and nothing in my comments would even suggest that.

You're an elitist without a conscience. If you think it's acceptable to put other people in danger of getting HIV, then you literally have no conscience.

Sorry. You don't have the right to do things that put other people in danger. It's time for you to grow the fuck up.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, the idea that people don't have the right to put other people in harm's way is the most basic moral concept, but something you are unwilling to understand. Should people be allowed to lace letters with anthrax and send them to people? No, because that puts people in danger, and so does having sex with HIV-negative people if you're HIV-positive.

You need to learn to take responsibility for your actions and for the well-being of others. It's not just all about you.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, instead of being honest with yourself and choosing to consider the rights and the safety of others, you've resorted to ad-hominem attacks against me...merely for telling you not to put other people in danger of getting HIV.

Seriously? You think I have no right to insist you don't put other people in danger of HIV infection? Then you might as well insist on peoples' "right" to kill each other, like the lunatic branch of the anarchist movement.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, let me put it to you in the crudest and most simplistic way: your right to have sex is not greater than other peoples' right to live. And that's why you have no right to have sex with HIV negative people - HIV is a deadly disease and other peoples' right to live takes precedence over your right to have sex.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, how would you like it if somebody decided their right to have sex was more important than YOUR right to live? Suppose somehow (I don't know how, but hypothetically speaking) every time I had sex with someone, you had a 1 out of 1,000 chance that you would die. How would you like that? And then suppose I defended my RIGHT to keep having sex, despite the fact I was risking your death each time. What would you say to me? Take a good hard look at yourself.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak I think you need to take a look at yourself. You are a nazi.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, really? Even though I'm completely anti-war to the point that I vote for the Green Party? Even though I respect and admire other cultures, including those of Asia and the Middle East? (The same ones you look down on as inferior!) No, my deluded friend, you are a conscienceless libertarian who believes it is your right to do whatever the hell you want, regardless of the negative consequences for others.

I bet you're very pro-war too. Nazi.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, what gives you the right to put other people in danger of death for your own sexual gratification? That's sick. If there's a Nazi here, it is you. The Nazis did not follow any established rules that had been developed throughout human history. Instead, they joyfully broke them all. They tortured, they killed, they committed every atrocity imaginable. And when you put someone in danger of HIV infection, even with their consent, you commit an evil act.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, so instead of spouting ad-hominem bullshit, let's get back to the question at hand.

What gives you the right to put other people in danger of HIV infection just so you can have sexual satisfaction?

Answer that question. The reason I insist that you answer it is because you can't. You can't justify that, ever.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak I'm sorry but I'm not insulting you. You follow a philosophy. Whether you realize you're a nazi or not, you are. It's not intended as an insult. You are also paranoid, obsessed and probably spend quite a bit of time alone.

Talking to you in a rational conversation is impossible.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, yes, you are insulting me. Without any cause whatsoever. WHAT MAKES ME A NAZI? The fact that I think you shoulod be abstinent because you have HIV? There is NOTHING fascist about wanting you not to spread HIV. That's called being concerned for the welfare of the general public.

It is YOU that has steadfastly refused to engage in logic.

What's your justification for having sex with HIV negative people? Use logic.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, my philosophy is simply that you should care for others. And this means not doing anything that could give someone HIV. How is that fascist? It's called being your brother's keeper. It's called not putting other people in danger.

How is any of this fascist? Again, USE LOGIC. Don't call me a Nazi. Make a point using logic.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, if you keep shouting at me that I'm a Nazi instead of using logic, then you're refusing to engage in any kind of thinking at all.

Make a point. Use logic. Stop throwing around insults.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak lol now I'm shouting at you? Wow. I guess you're having aural hallucinations as well.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, whatever you're doing, you're not using logic. Tell me WHY insisting on your abstinence to prevent you from spreading HIV makes me a Nazi. Tell me why that is evil. And use logic instead of insults, including veiled insults like "you're having aural hallucinations" which would imply I have some psychological disorder.

All I want to do is prevent other people from coming down with HIV. I would have thought you to be sympathetic to that case, but I guess not

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, so, can you tell me exactly why you think you should be allowed to put other people in danger of HIV infection? Are these other people somehow not worthy of a basic right to live in safety and in good health? Or does your right to sexual satisfaction count more than their right to safety and good health?

Use logic. Stop using insults. I very much encourage you to think instead of falling back on ad-hominem attacks.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, I will argue one point using logic: everyone has the right to live in safety and in good health, which includes the right to not be in danger of HIV infection. Anyone who disagrees with these basic human rights is, quite literally, a fascist. Am I calling you a fascist? Only if you do not think all people have the right to safety and good health, so this is not an ad-hominem attack. Only totalitarian societies do not extend these rights to their citizens.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, and since everyone, regardless of ethnicity, creed, gender or any other factor, has the basic right to safety and good health, putting someone in danger of HIV infection is a gross violation of their rights. Whether they consent or not is not at issue, because putting someone in danger of HIV infection could potentially cause great harm, even death, due to the deadly nature of HIV/AIDS.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, I stated my case in a totally logical manner by pointing out everyone's right to safety and good health.

Now, if you're going to say you have the right to violate others' right to safety on a routine basis by having sex with them (and thus putting them in danger of HIV infection), you'd better come up with a very excellent reason for claiming this "right" for yourself.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, in the end, you cannot justify violating other peoples' right to good health and safety unless, perhaps, someone was holding a gun to your head or some other extreme circumstance existed. I agree, if someone kidnaps your whole family and calls you on a cell phone and tells you that you either have to have sex or he's going to kill your entire family, then yes, you should have sex.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, being sexually frustrated or horny is not a good enough reason to put other people in danger of HIV infection. As I said before, it takes a hell of alot to justify violating other peoples' right to good health and safety.

[therealadvocate]

@KhagarBalugrak

Have you read the comments section on your page lately?

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, in any case, if you're a real advocate as your name suggests, you have to advocate for everyone, not just yourself and the special interest groups to which you belong.

You have to behave responsibly toward others. In your case, along with all the responsibilities everyone has, you also have to do everything in your power to avoid spreading HIV. Why? Because putting other people in danger of a deadly illness is wrong, because every person is valuable.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@therealadvocate, I understand you have the desire to continue having sex, even though you have HIV. Obviously, sexual desire is something almost everyone has.

Why don't you post your profile on HIV positive dating sites? Why are you so determined to have sex with HIV negative people? I don't understand. There's already a solution for this moral dilemma, and you have chosen not to opt for it.

[84stellita]

The fact is, under controlled conditions that can be done. With the therapy the viral load can be brought to very low levels that, even though is still present in the sperm, is not enough to infect. Let alone when people use a condom. So I don't understand why it's such a big deal. use a condom and stop having fear :)

[84stellita]

Hi there :) I have been following ur video since April last year and I follow them because i really like the way you talk. I am a medical researcher although not in HIV. I decided to write because I think that a lot of people here just don't understand that even HIV + can have sex. Actually there are a lot of cases of people with HIV+ whose partner is not HIV +. Believe it or not, they have sex, the partner doesn't get infected and they have perfectly healthy babies.

[KhagarBalugrak]

Actually, it's flat out evil for HIV positive people to have sex with HIV negative people. If you do that, you're putting other people in danger of getting infected. Of course, if you have sex with another HIV positive person, you aren't causing any harm, since the other person is already infect and you can't do any damage to them that hasn't already been done.

[Equality4ya]

@KhagarBalugrak Actually an HIV positive person sleeping with an HIV positive person with out protection can lead to a more deadlier strand that the medication will not be able to fight that is proscribed to a positve patient resulting in a fatal strand. Every one regardless just needs to be safe and tell the truth and inform their potential partner about their status before any activity. I think ANYONE can talk about sex its human Nature to desire it.

[KhagarBalugrak]

@Equality4ya, in that case, HIV positive people should simply not have sex. It puts other people in danger no matter how you look at it. Informing someone of your HIV-positive status isn't good enough. It's like the "Surgeon General's Warning" bullshit on cigarettes. It's still wrong to sell cigarettes, which have no medical use and kill 400,000 Americans each year, despite the fact that customers are "informed" about the risk.

[KhagarBalugrak]

It's not ok for HIV positive people to have sex. However, I think HIV positive people should feel free to TALK about sex.

How could you endanger other people by having sex? It's not right.

Yes, there are other STDs, but you can get tested for all of them at once. People who have STDs that can be fatal should not have sex. Herpes is one thing, but HIV is a different story.

[NOMELEMBE]

CAN YOU CATCH HIV BY ORAL SEX, BY SUCKIN HER VAGINA

[Equality4ya]

@NOMELEMBE YES, If she is positive and you have a cut in your mouth or sometimes just exchange of fluids you are at risk. They have make protection for oral sex, will people use it is the issue though unfortunetly u_u

[alinalove777]

Big fan of your videos! I have a few questions. If you don't have insurance how can you afford HIV medication or doc visits? Another question is do your parents know you're hiv+? Please dont stop making videos

[ANOTHERHOLEINYOHEAD]

If you have to ask the question: 'why hiv positive individuals cant have sex' you must be really dumb. The answer is so obvious.

[widgetfun]

Just remember though Chris, some one's documentation can say "negative" one day and they can seroconvert the next day, week or month. That's why it's always prudent to be safe a all times, regardless.

[JdMoney82]

and furthermore we should not segregate people. If you have an open conversation and actually read up on what HIV is and educate yourself then maybe people wouldn't be so ignorant in the world. Why block your blessing...your soulmate might be someone who is positive and because your being an ass you'll be single and lonely forever.

[JdMoney82]

Wow I can't believe all the ignorant comments involving this. I am a gay HIV- person and I have had protected sex with a couple of HIV+ people and guess what...I'm still negative. The problem is everyone is basing there sexual life on if someone is poz or not when really nobody knows who is positive or not because people lie. I don't date or have sex with someone off of there status, I have sex with them off of my true feelings, we are all people and deserve love.

[poeticsoul2608]

I noticed in one of your first videos that you said you had just broken up with your ex girlfriend when you thought you had HIV. So since you obviously infected your GF, why did uyou 2 not stay together? Also I notice as your videos progress you start to sound more feminine. Then you state that you have always "been gay". If you knew you always knew you were gay, then why did you date a female and destroy her life? I have a serious problem with confused men such as yourself!

[TheREDLife1]

@poeticsoul2608 first off....where did you EVER gear me mention a GF????? In my very FIRST video I stated that I was indeed gay. I was in the middle of a break up with a male at the time of infection, and he happens to be NEG. Secondly I really think you should have listened more carefully to the contents of my video's rather than to comment and slander me, when your information was completely OFF!!!! I believe you are the one who is confused!!!!! THANKYOU.

[jsmithco98]

@TheREDLife1 that above comment from poeticsoul2608 is almost like a "Shut Up Meg" moment. If you watch Family Guy you know what I mean LMAO

[adebisilives1]

@TheREDLife1 Dude seriously. Stop taking the pills and you will live forever. Magic Johnson never takes pills that's why he is fine. HIV is not a real virus.

[adebisilives1]

@TheREDLife1 Did you get offended by that family guy episode where Quagmire cures himself of AIDS with a Nyquil Cold, Flu, and AIDS? I thought it was pretty funny because it's true. It's not a real disease. They are mocking it on public television! OPEN YOUR EYES MAN! DON'T LET THE DOCTORS KILL YOU!

[james93664]

HIV or Not u still fine ass hell.....lol... do u have a facebook?

[miriamj1000]

Greetings from Norway, I like you man!

[FearlezzPharaoh]

Hi I have some questions that I would really like to ask you could you please email me at Nicebboi3@yahoo.com thank you.

[ThePoeticflava]

Still speaking truth

[BinacaAlwayz]

Hey I liked your vid I respect you because you tell it like it is.

[memi250]

Is your name Anthony

[MrLeoboy84]

Good video. This is one of the issues that is not talked about and should be. Just because you contract whatever disease, virus or "other" that doesn't mean its going to kill the natural urge you have to be intimate or sexual. You just change the rules of how you play and let people know your status and they can decide from there.

[SickSwagg90]

you are so freaking handsome!

[Driles18]

Great video bro!!!

[preskoangbiopresko]

please email me or can i have your email? juanblack1234@yahoo.com

i really need to ask some questions. please help me. thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!