this brother broke down how men think perfectly....no if, and, or buts...some of you sistas who can't find "good black men" need to take notes fro this guy lol
BECAUSE we don't want spoiled dirty black women after white man's dicks and non black man plus a lot of us hates white man and we have reason for this! maybe if black women wouldn't be such cheap sellout self-hating white man's whores maybe then we wouldn't have so many problems in black community, black race and black sons/men wouldn't be in sh't!
men shouldnt get married period... the law is against them... if you want to live with a women, make sure you have a good lawyer that will make a contract that will protect you...
@PunjabiSikhRajput1 "men shouldnt get married period... the law is against them... if you want to live with a women, make sure you have a good lawyer that will make a contract that will protect you..."
@douglassmccoy RIGHT! I'd rather have a bus pass with PEACE OF MIND, self-respect, integrity, etc. than a ride home in a BMW that costs me to prostitute myself to being in the accessory position (sometimes you don't even get the respect of the accessory!)
@MyOttoLink " RIGHT! I'd rather have a bus pass with PEACE OF MIND, self-respect, integrity, etc. than a ride home in a BMW that costs me to prostitute myself to being in the accessory position" And you wonder why women don't want to be in that same exact position.... hmmm. Yeah you're right! Women have no good reason to be financially dependent because then their man couldn't act like they own them!
@MyOttoLink I have always agreed that divorce laws are unfair, so I don't know what that has to do with anything. I love how you can't refute any of my claims in all of my posts, so what now? Oh I know! Bring up divorce laws! Can you please pinpoint where I said that women are generally independent? I'm pretty sure I only meant that a few women were independent...
@carminav25 By the way, you never did make a point that I couldn't refute. I noticed that the only thing you could do was to build strawmen, knock them down, gloat as you wring your hands, pretending that you have said something. Typical feminist drivel and Ad Hominem attacks.
@MyOttoLink Haha okay, first off I agree with you that current divorce policies are unfair. Why keep bringing it up? It has nothing to do with my stance that women who are financially independent are no less worthy of being wife material than housewives. I'm getting the impression that you think women cannot value men for any other characteristic (like handsomeness, ambition, humor, etc) other than than financial power.
@carminav25 I dont' care about your impressions. I care about what I've actually said, and what you have actually said--which has nothing to do with what you attributed to me. I brought it up again to back my point that you are wrong when you say "THE SAME CONCEPT" can be applied in reverse. The divorce laws--and the abuse of them makes it clear that that is IMPOSSIBLE. That's why.
@carminav25 "Can you please pinpoint where I said that women are generally independent? I'm pretty sure I only meant that a few women were independent... "
SURE!!!
"Women [you DIDN'T say "a few" have no good reason to be financially dependent because then their man couldn't act like they own them!"
@MyOttoLink Anyways, this is all nonsense and your opinion of successful women reflects on your need to be dominant. I know many men who would prefer that their women are successful, instead of needy and dependent. While you complain about women receiving more money from divorce laws, you're contradicting your preference for women who need your money. Please choose one already, this is getting tiresome. I wish you good luck! Make sure to get yourself a woman that doesn't make you too broke :)
The reason sucessful blk women are single is because they are too controlling & they dont want to compromise. A relationship is about give & take.We give up some things in order to make a partnership last. These blk women have good jobs, homes & cars so they feel they dont need or even want a man's help or advice so they are unwilling to have a middle ground.They are dominant so their mindset is one-sided
@rcrxjlb That is PRECISELY what I've been saying. The common defense is to avoid addressing what you've said, altogether, opting to instead try to "turn it around", saying that men do that, too (suggesting that women do it no more often, no more severely, that they're not ENCOURAGED do do it any more than men are, etc.)...PFFT!!
Who told these successful black women that they are a great catch. So you want your Boaz, but very little about you reflect Ruth. I was engaged and the lady called it off and later told me she wanted me to come after her. Sorry, but if you give me the ring back, don't expect me to run behind you.
HA!! Who wants to even give black women a chance even if she is still single!?!? Hey, fellas, I'm tired of screaming this, so its gonna be the last time. Take it from an old soldier. From the military, to the streets to the corporate boardrooms, black females today are like computer viruses with multiple Trojan horse and worm applications, they are programmed to destroy,
"Why are successful Black women single" Black men cheat like dogs. Black man can't hold a job. Black men are so ugly. What good is a husband in prison? Who wants their home to smell like crack. What good is 10" if the man is a fuken moron?
AMEN! Black women are now the mockery of the world!
She doesn't have a "knight-in-shinning-armor" or "prince charming" because SHE DESERTED THE 1960's BLACK POWER MOVEMENT AND JOINED WOMEN-POWER (aka Feminism!!!) Nor is she supporting our Men's Movement now!!!! She's worse than Eve of the bible who deserted Adam!
There is a very informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that covers this exact subject. Black men were falling and crawling to black women until black women completely lost their minds behind an absolute tsunami of government assistance programs in the mid 70's and early 80's that ranged from free rent and medical care to free on the job training to preferred military recruiting for minority females and since the mid 70's there has been a mass exodus away from black women.
Polygamy is the answer. We must return to our original Black standard of family. Black women have always outnumbered us but prior to slavery this was never an issue. The issue is attempting to attach white standards to black love. So through 400 years of slavery, jim crow, and an overall oppressive society has conditioned the minds of black women to believe that they have to have their man all to themselves. Polygamy would also solve the infidelity issues. Black culture for Black people.
Listen very carefully, and I hope you black men and women take this to heart. When non blacks become successful, the whole world takes notice and pays attention. When blacks become successful, no one cares. Just ask Oprah with all her millions she was still turned away from a store in Europe. That's just the way the world is so it's pointless to argue with the facts.
in this culture marriage is a business contract not a love agreement and for men it is usually a bad deal. we see today how many women celebrate their divorce and how they ruined the man. so my advice to men with things going on for them in life is to think long term and protect themselves. if you are a man and you must marry i suggest you find a Godly woman but still protect yourself.
I totally disagree with the sister saying that Titles like this video villify the WOMEN. I hear it used more often to pressure (manipulate) MEN!! Close behind are the accusations that men are just afraid of a strong, independent woman who has her own mind. The men are weak, and need to "step up" (they say that EVERY time!). this woman is just defensive, and won't listen until she HAS to!
One thing I never hear mentioned in these conversations is this: The men that are really interested in a real marriage are not so stupid as to NOT notice that the women don't want them UNTIL they FIRST build themselves an escape hatch. The mentality is: "make sure you first have your own degree, money, house, car, maybe a couple of children,.....then ADD a man (after letting him know he's not needed), to complete the picture of your plans" The man becomes an accessory! Who needs that??
@MyOttoLink The same concept could be applied vice versa. If men want to put their career first, and THEN get a woman, is that woman also an accessory?
@carminav25 In order for THE SAME concept to be applied vice versa, you would first have to validate the concept (although you will only have it because you were forced); then, you would have to establish that the men have been going for decades talking about how unneccessary women, as a species, are. That they are putting off women that REALLY want them, until they first establish that the only place left for the women is that of an accessory. Your point is weak.
@MyOttoLink I had to read your post several times to understand it. First off, women are not a species. And I believe you are making a claim that women, as a whole sex, have been talking about how unnecessary men are? Why would men be unnecessary if it takes two to start a family? You would have to back up that claim first. Oh, and men never put women that really want them on the side? Please support these claims. Your point is weakest.
@MyOttoLink A woman who puts off relationships so she can be successful is no different than a man who does the same thing. Are you implying that successful women do not deserve a good man? Men generally have a negative attitude towards women who are not financially dependent on them. Yes, forget all other aspects of a wonderful relationship! She's not financially reliant on him so he cannot feel dominant! Oh lord, forget having an equal relationship. That's barbaric!
@carminav25 "A woman who puts off relationships so she can be successful is no different than a man who does the same thing."
That's GARBAGE!! HOW MANY women have put off marriage, saying, "I want to be able to wait until I am financially able to support a HUSBAND and kids, so that they won't have to do ANYTHING??? I heard DROVES of men planning that, only to have gold diggers and feminist pieces of dirt take it, and spit in their faces!!
@MyOttoLink See the thing is men (some, not all of them) complain about women taking their money and how society pressures them to spend their money on women, instead of the other way around. But in the event that a woman is financially successful, the same men who complain about gold diggers will complain about this as well... it's amazing how that works.
@carminav25 "But in the event that a woman is financially successful, the same men who complain about gold diggers will complain about this as well... it's "
Show me one example, in this comment thread. I dare you.
@MyOttoLink Oh my I missed you so much. I love how you were so bothered by my earlier posts you wanted to come back. Been in your mind, have I? What examples do you want me to show you? See I forgot what we were talking about and I am not willing to look back to all this nonsense...unlike you. So tell me specifically what you want me to elaborate on?
@MyOttoLink Oops I didn't read your whole post on account that I didn't really care that much. Okay I read the whole thing..what I meant by that quote was that many men complain that women use them for their money, while at the same time many men also complain about women not depending on them for their money. It's quite contradictory and hypocritical. I hope you see my point. Anyways, dare is completed.
@carminav25 dare incomplete and weak--just like your sarcasm. I haven't seen one man in this comment section, saying "Why won't a woman depend upon me??????" You've imposed that on plenty, but I just want ONE example of one that actually SAID IT.
@carminav25 It actually CANNOT be applied vice versa, unless the men have the same GUARANTEE that they can marry, divorce (whether or not you contest it), take ALL of what we saved for ourselves, ADD it to the half of your stuff that we steal in the settlement, and then move to the next victim.
This culture is hard for the family oriented. Many men and women seem to just want as many sex buddies as they can get even well into their 30s, 40s, and 50s. People hear marriage and think of it as a prison and that life with be over.
@MyOttoLink The financial end... That is a valid concern. No one wants to be left poor paying spousal support. I would say prenuptial agreements are the answer but then again I heard those can be challenged in court. People could stay single and just procreate but then even child support laws are said to be unfair. So then what - no marriage or children? I guess things are just complicated these days. Something has to happen to change the current laws.
@ImNotRacistImBias Agreed! I disagree with Tom leykis on several points, but he does have me thinking, when he suggests that men should just boycott marriage (though I certainly disagree with his stance on just getting as much sex as possible, and dumping the girls off)...i find myself leaning that way, actually...
I love how they threw black men under the bus, disregarding the fact that so called good brothas are getting fucked by the system and these ratchet broads that wanna fuck their formidable years away. Let them be alone, they will reflect on their lonely ass life when they are hugging their degrees and kids at night instead of a husband. No one wants those broads.
@LongLoxx82 "Let them be alone, they will reflect on their lonely ass life when they are hugging their degrees and kids at night instead of a husband. No one wants those broads."
I think it's detestable to have children without marriage or at least the agreement to stay together until the child is grown.
But marriage is for those who want it. Men who don't want children probably have no business getting married b/c it's not a love agreement nowadays. It's a damn business contract. If you are foolhardy and want to play "rush and roulette", you'd damn well make sure you have a good lawyer and the "prenup power up"
I dont understand Dr. Tart. Of course many men want to be a bachelor and have a bunch of women, thats what many (not all ) Black men are doing.They actually enjoy the fact that they dont have to commit, as they DO NOT WANT TO. Certain ppl need to understand they they do no make up the majority of Black Men. The majority of Black men today, do not want to settle down! They want as they call it " new pussy" all the time.
@counselorllc that's absolutely false. The majority of black men wants to get married and life the happy ever after, but black women are putting a big block there. specially those who wants the over romatised stuffs.
@counselorllc But most women are. Besides whats the difference between a good relationship and marriage other than putting a ring on your finger and changing the woman's last name? All marriage really is is something for women to brag about to their family and friends
DR. TARTT, MANY BLACK MEN DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED!!! WHEN A WOMAN SPEAKS ABOUT MARRIAGE TO THEM, THEY RUN AWAY!!!! MANY OF THEM WANT TO BE A BACHELOR THEY WANT TO BE SEVERAL WOMEN!!! NOT JUST 1. ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT BARAC OBAMA!!! AND MANY BLACK RUN AWAY FROM WOMEN WHO ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL THAN THEY ARE
@alphaacad1 "AND MANY BLACK RUN AWAY FROM WOMEN WHO ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL THAN THEY ARE"
So many run from the TOTAL disrespect and entrapment that awaits them by such a marriage! It takes a woman of HUMILITY and TRUSTWORTHINESS to make a marriage like that work. Though EVERY woman is going to say that she is that woman, the experiences of EVERY man I know says otherwise.
@alphaacad1 because they tend to be condescending and will file for a divorce at the first argument and you know, even if your asset is a toshiba laptop, they will want it
According to the census, there are more unmarried black men than there are unmarried black women but no one asks why that is.
Second, when did having a high position and a lot of money start making you and you a good person?
What makes these women good women? Is it the fact that they dissed black men for years with no concern for anything but their personal gain? Is there so interest in nothing more than money and status? Someone please inform me of this.
What we as believers are about (and, yes, it involves a process) is enjoying the presence and knowledge of God and wanting to seethe name and person of the Lord Jesus Christ glorified above anything else in this world and the next to come. We do not have to worry about the confused, natural wisdom of this article writer. The word of God says if we seek first the Kingdom God will supply all of our needs & we have an even greater blessing in our obedience
this doctor is in a state of delusion! Yes im sure when obama got elected there were alot of black single men out (naturally the doctor went out and asked everyone their marriage status) Lets look at the realistic statistical data instead of the over optimistic doctor. No one wants to say the truth as a Black Man I will help...black men lack the "programming" to be strong loyal and responsible. NOT ALL But the numbers dont lie. Reality check.
Could black american please stop using the word "black" as generalisation to describe all black people, as an East African we do not have this problem in our society, our women get marry young and stay married. This is a Phenomenon for the black Americans but by using the word black you drag all black people from all corners of the world, this is unique to the black american community, not the Ethiopians, Somalis, Kenyans, or any other African heritage women. I am a man in my 20s and married.
black professional women if she wanted a good man she has to go to church. She needs a god fearing man that will treated her right. If a women will go to the church mostly she will find a good man. Me personally don't believe a women should be looking for a man. It should be the man looking for a good women.
@money1234354 There are very few normal men in the church. The church is 70 percent women. Most of the men who go to churche are homosexuals, losers, old players, etc. There is only a few in church who may be normal.
@PatsBooks well then Mrs books you are not going to the right church. I don't know were your from but If a good man is what you are looking for. Seek God first he will show you your husband. Tell God what you are look for. Most of all wait on god he has somebody out there for you. Do not go looking for him he will find you. Don't lower your standard for nobody. Trust me I'm a successful man and it's hard for me to find a women that likes me for me.
@PatsBooks Homosexuals don't goes to church because being gay is a sin and gay people would feel like they are wasting their time going to church because they know their going to hell. But I do agree with the rest of you statement though.
Geez... these black women love to take a huge dump on black men and classifying them as failures... and than get a mangina like the one here to appease them...
why are we talking about success? this has nothing to do with success,this is about finding a meaningful relationship which would lead to a marriage that would work and what most not all but women need to realise they need to make up their mind about what they want (not just black women but women overall) and thats just for starters..
@RuffhouseNC I don't see your problem, I would be pretty happy in your shoes. I just started college and my main goal other than straight A's is to not mess with too many women
Here's a question to Black women, who are NOT AA, "do you have this problem OF getting a MAN?" If yes, why? If not, why not? Let's see who has the courage to be HONEST?
Looking for a mate for a professional women can be a fulltime job; It's not just BW's issue. BWs do not mingle enough and finding a "right" mate is a hard work. If you want to meet a man, go ALONE to social functions that your potential mate materials hang out. Also overweight among BWs are prevalant(educated or not) and it is a REAL issue. I tried to introduce professional BW to BM, BM politely declined due to her weight and he told me that's the big reason he ends up dating other races.
This man seems a little sweet to me to be offering advice to me. Fuck him. His analysis is way off. BW have been telling us for years that we aint shit and now its a ''national problem'' because they can't find a man ? U got what u asked for independence so quite bitching.
"A black man needs a black woman to be a better man." And there you have it folks. Boys pay attention. A clear example of the pussification that has been going on in this country. This man may have a degree but he also has a vagina.
. Having been married for 10 years, I knew early on that that was what I wanted-partnership. Now I am older in my 40's, single and looking forward to living abroad for the 2nd half of my life and I can see not having a wife in that picture as a good thing., Prioritize your wants first, and design your life towards the goal.
Bitch you aint havin my kid then running to the white man to take half my shit and i cant even see my child....i see this shit on a regular and refuse to be a victim of this horrific shit...you might want to get the fuck out of the us if you want to get married.
Marriage is much easier other places/countries.
America is wicked as fuck and dont you ever forget it.
3:15 "I'm not looking to get married tomorrow" so then what's the problem LOL???
could it be that some other single successful black women say the same thing as you? looks like no one is in a hurry but why would they be, I bet unless you're wealthy or really good friends marriage/raising children can suck. She, or he would have to give up some of their lifestyle. careers could go down the drain. Maybe some women/men don't want to give up their single lifestyle just yet like her.
I wanted to to stay for my daughter after the divorce and so do many other BM i know in a similsar situation, but ALL of our ex wives took sole custody with help from the courts to not allow us to do that.
@ankhenaten2 That is not true. I have visited Africa and have met many African black women. None of them were in the least bit turned off by the thought of marrying a black american man. As a matter of fact, I plan to marry a woman from Africa.
...I dont think black women are being pressured into having a relationship. I believe that many women just "want it". The truth of the matter is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Most black males simply do not want WIVES.. why can't we all just keep it 100 and say that ???
The thing is that these black women should learn to choose their priorities very early. If you want to be a mother and have a family, make that a priority. If you want to be an "independent black woman", make that a priority as well.
Here's another thing: There is NO happily married INDEPENDENT woman. There are none. If you want to remain "independent", whatever that means, then marriage is not for you. Marriage is a venture of DEPENDENCE not INDEPENDENCE. These BW need to know that.
Why can't we reduce the discontent: BM who date outside the race is fine if the family is there; people who date out the race for the most part might have well not have left and for the most part is not missing much! I see a lot fo black couples who are happy w/ themselves; the reason that the professional BM and BW can't find nobody is obvious: they set their standards too high and don't know (or don't want to) be laid back, spiritual (in Christ), open-minded, and have a sense of humor!
Women date up and men date down, women who make to much money have almost elimated themselves from the dating pool. Another thing single mothers are more likely to raise garbage men. Most Dads are tough on their sons and raise them to be accountable men and Most single mothers raise their sons to never grow up. Don't blame men for not being in the boys life, remember she had unprotected sex with a man she either didn't know well, he was already a fuck up or she wanted child support.
@nrwilliams015 - There is no ACTUAL proof that Jesus existed. The writings of Josephus Flavius on the subject of Jesus were proven to be forgeries and almost all the bible books that dealt with his words/teachings were written by people who were born 100-200+ years after he died and yet they had quotes from him. >:-/
Yeshua/Joshua/Jesus was a Jewish rabbi, not a Christian. He didn't start a new religion. He was preaching old school Judaism, which is what got him killed - if he ever existed.
@nrwilliams015 - Rather than read the doctrinal and dogmatic brainwashing tool of plagiarized Bronze Age pagan mythologies that is the bible, I invite you to actually research Christianity a a religion; it's origins, the early Christian church and how the bible was put together at the council at Nicea. It'll be a real eye opener for you.
I know it was for me - a former Sunday school teacher, biblical scholar and scriptural lecturer of a non-denominational born again Christian church.
@morpheusxnyc I'm sorry, but I'm NOT a religious person; I'm a realist. I do kno that God sent a human being on this Earth because of man's corrupt state, ie, the religious doctrine, the plagarism and all that.
@nrwilliams015 - Not quite clear on what you mean because of how you phrased it.
Ultimately, I'm just saying that for all the credit it gets for all the wrong reasons, you're more likely to meet someone less intelligent, more superstitious, ignorant, recalcitrant, unreasonable and illogical in church because those qualities are required in order to BE a member of a church and believe in religion.
Belief/faith in imaginary deities and supernatural beings REQUIRES delusion and irrationality.
If A Man's Not Supeman Before He's Married He Wont Be Superman After He's Married. Not Every Man Is Interested In Settling Down With Woman Because He Acknowledges His Freedom. And A Black Man Doesn't Need A Black Woman To Be A Better Man. If You're No Good Before You Meet This Black Woman You Will Be No Good During And After She Leaves.
BLACK MEN: Break the chains of slavery..get the hell away from Black women. They only exist by spreading white supremist propaganda against Black men. They have been crushed by white supremacy and have taken on the persona of racist white supremist. You bamboozled ass BM are dying and are making easier for the racist institution to kill us all. Pull your head from the shit filled nigger toilet that BW are trying to flush you in. Leave these low crawling rape victims..save the Black man !
Here is a little test for BW and BM. You're in school for how many years? study for how many hours? Work at a job or profession for how many years?Hang out, date,Youtube, text, fun for how much time in your life? but how much time spent really discovering your flaws and fixing them? How much time learning to listen? How much time learning to be selfless, caring. If your honest and in america more time is spent at career, school, or whatever then buidling the skills for a successful relationship.
@maven21 You're Provocative*** I especially like what you said about education and prestige does not leadi 'definitely' to a successful union, or a union at all.
just because your "successful" dosent mean you can be in a relationship. In America we are trained for professions but not trained to be balanced people. Its take serious skills to be in a marriage and those skills are not developed in most people. I dont know where this started but just because you have went to school climbed the corporate ladder dosent mean you are marriage material, It means your a good CEO. relationships are not Excel spreadsheets
While it's true that the Women's Lib movement discarded many limiting gender roles that had held women back from pursuing fulfilling lives, it also discarded some of the very ones required in order to make a relationship work.
Black women lost the feminine qualities that made them desirable to Black men and redefined them as being negative. So now that they act like men with breasts, they're shocked that we're not buying what they're selling.
lol this is a great video...finally some good substance! i love it...i feel that if we could get a facebook group or sumthing that unite black men& women...then we may be on to sumthing...that way the single people are on display that way you do not have to guess whos single are not, whithout a question that what you're there for, which is strickly to date and elevate
lets tell the truth people! the majority of black women are not marriage material plain and simple! most black women are slutty, classless, emotionally abusive, malicious, scorned, unattractive, women who blame black men, white women, racism, and everyone else for their problems! they never accept any responsability for their actions and behavior yet expect sucessful black men to tolerate their issues! WHO THE FUCK WANT TO MARRY THOSE WOMEN! ILL CUT MY BALLS OFF BEFORE I MARRY ONE!
Some women don't want to get married. Whats wrong with that?. Women who have babies don't want to get married and thier is nothing wrong with that?. Who said that you have to get married, We as colorful people don't have to follow the laws which the white Society has made up. That another way of getting paper work done on you. You can live with a man or woman without paperwork from the court system. Most married couples don't want to be married and wish they hadn't tied the knot.
The Black man needs the black woman do become a better man.........................WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. This Dr., is sucking up to Black women and it's PATHETIC!!!!. It seems to me any man who is dependent upon a female to become a better man is no MAN. To become a better person begins internally.
Dr. Tartt is talkin' pure nonsense. He admits that the numbers are off, and then go into this song and dance about how to find a man. Helana talks with more sense then the Dr.
The problem: Having a job,and making ur own money does not make you "successful". That's seems to be a saying that some working class women seem to wear as a badge. It's traditional that the man in every race be the bread winner and head of the household and other races show that but us. Black men are purposely shut out of jobs and Black women are hired for less. So now the roles are switched and because of this issue we no longer have the traditional black family today. Sisters,Wake up!
why even get married? marriage doesn't mean anything in America! Fornication makes married invalid. they need to make it by law illegal to divorce! they should make fornication and adultery criminal! as far as the women that proudly boast about being successful, would she sin against God to keep it? (sleep with the boss) don't for get we are in this( boat) together! when there's no job period for our people, what would be said then?
LMAO...this shit is FAKE..lets be honest....women LIE on those sheet things which asks you your relationship status (especially the ones for loans etc)...everyone knows when you tick the SINGLE box, your more likely to get help or more loan money...lets be completely honest. i love the last womans twitter...shes right, they never asked EVERYONE and why all the focus on black women? wow..these guys want available pussy
THESE BLACK BITCH"S DON"T WANT NO GOOD MAN--
DUMB ASS HOES--
theright1allthetime 1 week ago
He just admitted that statistically they Black men aren't out there. So can we have a real solution?
PatsBooks 2 weeks ago
Why do people think having a degree makes you good?
brianbmf 3 weeks ago
this brother broke down how men think perfectly....no if, and, or buts...some of you sistas who can't find "good black men" need to take notes fro this guy lol
ebeledi 3 weeks ago
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BECAUSE we don't want spoiled dirty black women after white man's dicks and non black man plus a lot of us hates white man and we have reason for this! maybe if black women wouldn't be such cheap sellout self-hating white man's whores maybe then we wouldn't have so many problems in black community, black race and black sons/men wouldn't be in sh't!
HIV come from white man!
swagboi7 1 month ago
men shouldnt get married period... the law is against them... if you want to live with a women, make sure you have a good lawyer that will make a contract that will protect you...
PunjabiSikhRajput1 1 month ago
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@PunjabiSikhRajput1 "men shouldnt get married period... the law is against them... if you want to live with a women, make sure you have a good lawyer that will make a contract that will protect you..."
--That contract doesn't exist.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
Meant @e84fresh
peachycalmable 1 month ago
@counselorllc well brothas let white women do it, marry, divorce and take half
peachycalmable 1 month ago
@douglassmccoy RIGHT! I'd rather have a bus pass with PEACE OF MIND, self-respect, integrity, etc. than a ride home in a BMW that costs me to prostitute myself to being in the accessory position (sometimes you don't even get the respect of the accessory!)
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink " RIGHT! I'd rather have a bus pass with PEACE OF MIND, self-respect, integrity, etc. than a ride home in a BMW that costs me to prostitute myself to being in the accessory position" And you wonder why women don't want to be in that same exact position.... hmmm. Yeah you're right! Women have no good reason to be financially dependent because then their man couldn't act like they own them!
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 With the divorce laws the way they are today, women CAN'T be in "that same position."
Women aren't "independent," either. Do a study on how many "independent" women are collecting child support and alimony.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink Good deflection, though.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink I have always agreed that divorce laws are unfair, so I don't know what that has to do with anything. I love how you can't refute any of my claims in all of my posts, so what now? Oh I know! Bring up divorce laws! Can you please pinpoint where I said that women are generally independent? I'm pretty sure I only meant that a few women were independent...
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 By the way, you never did make a point that I couldn't refute. I noticed that the only thing you could do was to build strawmen, knock them down, gloat as you wring your hands, pretending that you have said something. Typical feminist drivel and Ad Hominem attacks.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink Haha okay, first off I agree with you that current divorce policies are unfair. Why keep bringing it up? It has nothing to do with my stance that women who are financially independent are no less worthy of being wife material than housewives. I'm getting the impression that you think women cannot value men for any other characteristic (like handsomeness, ambition, humor, etc) other than than financial power.
carminav25 3 weeks ago
@carminav25 I dont' care about your impressions. I care about what I've actually said, and what you have actually said--which has nothing to do with what you attributed to me. I brought it up again to back my point that you are wrong when you say "THE SAME CONCEPT" can be applied in reverse. The divorce laws--and the abuse of them makes it clear that that is IMPOSSIBLE. That's why.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
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@carminav25 "Can you please pinpoint where I said that women are generally independent? I'm pretty sure I only meant that a few women were independent... "
SURE!!!
"Women [you DIDN'T say "a few" have no good reason to be financially dependent because then their man couldn't act like they own them!"
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink Anyways, this is all nonsense and your opinion of successful women reflects on your need to be dominant. I know many men who would prefer that their women are successful, instead of needy and dependent. While you complain about women receiving more money from divorce laws, you're contradicting your preference for women who need your money. Please choose one already, this is getting tiresome. I wish you good luck! Make sure to get yourself a woman that doesn't make you too broke :)
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 What is my opinion of successful women? Just ONE quote from me would be fine.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
The reason sucessful blk women are single is because they are too controlling & they dont want to compromise. A relationship is about give & take.We give up some things in order to make a partnership last. These blk women have good jobs, homes & cars so they feel they dont need or even want a man's help or advice so they are unwilling to have a middle ground.They are dominant so their mindset is one-sided
rcrxjlb 1 month ago
@rcrxjlb That is PRECISELY what I've been saying. The common defense is to avoid addressing what you've said, altogether, opting to instead try to "turn it around", saying that men do that, too (suggesting that women do it no more often, no more severely, that they're not ENCOURAGED do do it any more than men are, etc.)...PFFT!!
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
Who told these successful black women that they are a great catch. So you want your Boaz, but very little about you reflect Ruth. I was engaged and the lady called it off and later told me she wanted me to come after her. Sorry, but if you give me the ring back, don't expect me to run behind you.
lightbulb3316 1 month ago
It's the woman's fault.
guitarbeast777 1 month ago
HA!! Who wants to even give black women a chance even if she is still single!?!? Hey, fellas, I'm tired of screaming this, so its gonna be the last time. Take it from an old soldier. From the military, to the streets to the corporate boardrooms, black females today are like computer viruses with multiple Trojan horse and worm applications, they are programmed to destroy,
TERRYCRX123 1 month ago
"Why are successful Black women single" Black men cheat like dogs. Black man can't hold a job. Black men are so ugly. What good is a husband in prison? Who wants their home to smell like crack. What good is 10" if the man is a fuken moron?
TheTempleofEthan 1 month ago
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AMEN! Black women are now the mockery of the world!
She doesn't have a "knight-in-shinning-armor" or "prince charming" because SHE DESERTED THE 1960's BLACK POWER MOVEMENT AND JOINED WOMEN-POWER (aka Feminism!!!) Nor is she supporting our Men's Movement now!!!! She's worse than Eve of the bible who deserted Adam!
mayorofblacktown4 1 month ago
Like the theme song from the series "SCRUBS" says, "I'M NO SUPERMAN" for I am only human with issues like everyone else.
MegaFELIPE48 1 month ago
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There is a very informative book called "The Black Girl Curse" that covers this exact subject. Black men were falling and crawling to black women until black women completely lost their minds behind an absolute tsunami of government assistance programs in the mid 70's and early 80's that ranged from free rent and medical care to free on the job training to preferred military recruiting for minority females and since the mid 70's there has been a mass exodus away from black women.
pc0p1mp 1 month ago
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Polygamy is the answer. We must return to our original Black standard of family. Black women have always outnumbered us but prior to slavery this was never an issue. The issue is attempting to attach white standards to black love. So through 400 years of slavery, jim crow, and an overall oppressive society has conditioned the minds of black women to believe that they have to have their man all to themselves. Polygamy would also solve the infidelity issues. Black culture for Black people.
TheLectureKing 2 months ago
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Listen very carefully, and I hope you black men and women take this to heart. When non blacks become successful, the whole world takes notice and pays attention. When blacks become successful, no one cares. Just ask Oprah with all her millions she was still turned away from a store in Europe. That's just the way the world is so it's pointless to argue with the facts.
airbrush70 2 months ago
Black women still playing the victim I see. If you are single, that is your fault. Stop using excuses to justify your singleness.
GoodBlackMusic 2 months ago
in this culture marriage is a business contract not a love agreement and for men it is usually a bad deal. we see today how many women celebrate their divorce and how they ruined the man. so my advice to men with things going on for them in life is to think long term and protect themselves. if you are a man and you must marry i suggest you find a Godly woman but still protect yourself.
emmanuel43 2 months ago
@emmanuel43 so true. Men are just scare these days. everything you worked for, will be vanished
jacobson00 2 months ago
why do they have to discuss their personal issues on national tv?
emmanuel43 2 months ago
I HAVE A VIDEO ON MY YOUTUBE CHANNEL THAT SHOWS YOU WHY BLACK WOMEN ARE SINGLE. IT'S CALLED "BLACK WOMEN CAN'T STOP SPREADING STDs"
it's a shocking video and makes you not want to date black women or men.
poopyskidmark 2 months ago
I totally disagree with the sister saying that Titles like this video villify the WOMEN. I hear it used more often to pressure (manipulate) MEN!! Close behind are the accusations that men are just afraid of a strong, independent woman who has her own mind. The men are weak, and need to "step up" (they say that EVERY time!). this woman is just defensive, and won't listen until she HAS to!
MyOttoLink 2 months ago
One thing I never hear mentioned in these conversations is this: The men that are really interested in a real marriage are not so stupid as to NOT notice that the women don't want them UNTIL they FIRST build themselves an escape hatch. The mentality is: "make sure you first have your own degree, money, house, car, maybe a couple of children,.....then ADD a man (after letting him know he's not needed), to complete the picture of your plans" The man becomes an accessory! Who needs that??
MyOttoLink 2 months ago 9
@MyOttoLink The same concept could be applied vice versa. If men want to put their career first, and THEN get a woman, is that woman also an accessory?
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 In order for THE SAME concept to be applied vice versa, you would first have to validate the concept (although you will only have it because you were forced); then, you would have to establish that the men have been going for decades talking about how unneccessary women, as a species, are. That they are putting off women that REALLY want them, until they first establish that the only place left for the women is that of an accessory. Your point is weak.
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink Your lack clarity in your post. Please state it in a different way.
carminav25 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink I had to read your post several times to understand it. First off, women are not a species. And I believe you are making a claim that women, as a whole sex, have been talking about how unnecessary men are? Why would men be unnecessary if it takes two to start a family? You would have to back up that claim first. Oh, and men never put women that really want them on the side? Please support these claims. Your point is weakest.
carminav25 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink A woman who puts off relationships so she can be successful is no different than a man who does the same thing. Are you implying that successful women do not deserve a good man? Men generally have a negative attitude towards women who are not financially dependent on them. Yes, forget all other aspects of a wonderful relationship! She's not financially reliant on him so he cannot feel dominant! Oh lord, forget having an equal relationship. That's barbaric!
carminav25 1 month ago
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@carminav25 "A woman who puts off relationships so she can be successful is no different than a man who does the same thing."
That's GARBAGE!! HOW MANY women have put off marriage, saying, "I want to be able to wait until I am financially able to support a HUSBAND and kids, so that they won't have to do ANYTHING??? I heard DROVES of men planning that, only to have gold diggers and feminist pieces of dirt take it, and spit in their faces!!
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink See the thing is men (some, not all of them) complain about women taking their money and how society pressures them to spend their money on women, instead of the other way around. But in the event that a woman is financially successful, the same men who complain about gold diggers will complain about this as well... it's amazing how that works.
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 Sounds like you already know everything. You've got it all figured out--GOOD LUCK!!!
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink Thanks! Glad you learned something!
carminav25 1 month ago
@carminav25 "But in the event that a woman is financially successful, the same men who complain about gold diggers will complain about this as well... it's "
Show me one example, in this comment thread. I dare you.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink Oh my I missed you so much. I love how you were so bothered by my earlier posts you wanted to come back. Been in your mind, have I? What examples do you want me to show you? See I forgot what we were talking about and I am not willing to look back to all this nonsense...unlike you. So tell me specifically what you want me to elaborate on?
carminav25 3 weeks ago
@MyOttoLink Oops I didn't read your whole post on account that I didn't really care that much. Okay I read the whole thing..what I meant by that quote was that many men complain that women use them for their money, while at the same time many men also complain about women not depending on them for their money. It's quite contradictory and hypocritical. I hope you see my point. Anyways, dare is completed.
carminav25 3 weeks ago
@carminav25 dare incomplete and weak--just like your sarcasm. I haven't seen one man in this comment section, saying "Why won't a woman depend upon me??????" You've imposed that on plenty, but I just want ONE example of one that actually SAID IT.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
@carminav25 It actually CANNOT be applied vice versa, unless the men have the same GUARANTEE that they can marry, divorce (whether or not you contest it), take ALL of what we saved for ourselves, ADD it to the half of your stuff that we steal in the settlement, and then move to the next victim.
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
This culture is hard for the family oriented. Many men and women seem to just want as many sex buddies as they can get even well into their 30s, 40s, and 50s. People hear marriage and think of it as a prison and that life with be over.
ImNotRacistImBias 3 months ago
@ImNotRacistImBias Men, in particular, have GREAT reason to believe that marriage will be the end for them!! One look at the laws tells you that!
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
@MyOttoLink The financial end... That is a valid concern. No one wants to be left poor paying spousal support. I would say prenuptial agreements are the answer but then again I heard those can be challenged in court. People could stay single and just procreate but then even child support laws are said to be unfair. So then what - no marriage or children? I guess things are just complicated these days. Something has to happen to change the current laws.
ImNotRacistImBias 1 month ago
@ImNotRacistImBias Agreed! I disagree with Tom leykis on several points, but he does have me thinking, when he suggests that men should just boycott marriage (though I certainly disagree with his stance on just getting as much sex as possible, and dumping the girls off)...i find myself leaning that way, actually...
MyOttoLink 1 month ago
I love how they threw black men under the bus, disregarding the fact that so called good brothas are getting fucked by the system and these ratchet broads that wanna fuck their formidable years away. Let them be alone, they will reflect on their lonely ass life when they are hugging their degrees and kids at night instead of a husband. No one wants those broads.
LongLoxx82 3 months ago
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@LongLoxx82 "Let them be alone, they will reflect on their lonely ass life when they are hugging their degrees and kids at night instead of a husband. No one wants those broads."
Certainly not me....
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
Dr. Tart is trying to get brownie points lol.
I think it's detestable to have children without marriage or at least the agreement to stay together until the child is grown.
But marriage is for those who want it. Men who don't want children probably have no business getting married b/c it's not a love agreement nowadays. It's a damn business contract. If you are foolhardy and want to play "rush and roulette", you'd damn well make sure you have a good lawyer and the "prenup power up"
RBG02005 3 months ago
I dont understand Dr. Tart. Of course many men want to be a bachelor and have a bunch of women, thats what many (not all ) Black men are doing.They actually enjoy the fact that they dont have to commit, as they DO NOT WANT TO. Certain ppl need to understand they they do no make up the majority of Black Men. The majority of Black men today, do not want to settle down! They want as they call it " new pussy" all the time.
counselorllc 3 months ago 3
@counselorllc that's absolutely false. The majority of black men wants to get married and life the happy ever after, but black women are putting a big block there. specially those who wants the over romatised stuffs.
jacobson00 2 months ago
@counselorllc Why settle down ? So these women can have kids get married and divorce us later to take half our shit that we worked hard for ?
e84fresh 1 month ago
@e84fresh I understand. But all Black women are not like that.
counselorllc 3 weeks ago
@counselorllc But most women are. Besides whats the difference between a good relationship and marriage other than putting a ring on your finger and changing the woman's last name? All marriage really is is something for women to brag about to their family and friends
e84fresh 3 weeks ago
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@counselorllc "But all Black women are not like that. "
So what? It's no longer worth the risk or the hassle!!!
MyOttoLink 3 weeks ago
DR. TARTT, MANY BLACK MEN DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED!!! WHEN A WOMAN SPEAKS ABOUT MARRIAGE TO THEM, THEY RUN AWAY!!!! MANY OF THEM WANT TO BE A BACHELOR THEY WANT TO BE SEVERAL WOMEN!!! NOT JUST 1. ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT BARAC OBAMA!!! AND MANY BLACK RUN AWAY FROM WOMEN WHO ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL THAN THEY ARE
alphaacad1 3 months ago
@alphaacad1 "AND MANY BLACK RUN AWAY FROM WOMEN WHO ARE MORE SUCCESSFUL THAN THEY ARE"
So many run from the TOTAL disrespect and entrapment that awaits them by such a marriage! It takes a woman of HUMILITY and TRUSTWORTHINESS to make a marriage like that work. Though EVERY woman is going to say that she is that woman, the experiences of EVERY man I know says otherwise.
MyOttoLink 2 months ago
@alphaacad1 because they tend to be condescending and will file for a divorce at the first argument and you know, even if your asset is a toshiba laptop, they will want it
jacobson00 2 months ago
Forgot to add by percentage to the married and unmarried thing
krizzex 4 months ago
According to the census, there are more unmarried black men than there are unmarried black women but no one asks why that is.
Second, when did having a high position and a lot of money start making you and you a good person?
What makes these women good women? Is it the fact that they dissed black men for years with no concern for anything but their personal gain? Is there so interest in nothing more than money and status? Someone please inform me of this.
krizzex 4 months ago
@krizzex Someone needs to inform on why your comment isn't the top comment. Everything you said was true.
watchalotovids 1 month ago
Having a degree and a job doesn't equal a successful relationship.
Black women are delusional if they think that.
lawani2k 4 months ago
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What we as believers are about (and, yes, it involves a process) is enjoying the presence and knowledge of God and wanting to seethe name and person of the Lord Jesus Christ glorified above anything else in this world and the next to come. We do not have to worry about the confused, natural wisdom of this article writer. The word of God says if we seek first the Kingdom God will supply all of our needs & we have an even greater blessing in our obedience
shieldsff 4 months ago
this doctor is in a state of delusion! Yes im sure when obama got elected there were alot of black single men out (naturally the doctor went out and asked everyone their marriage status) Lets look at the realistic statistical data instead of the over optimistic doctor. No one wants to say the truth as a Black Man I will help...black men lack the "programming" to be strong loyal and responsible. NOT ALL But the numbers dont lie. Reality check.
nexttvmarketing 4 months ago
black women treat black men badly
saintile 5 months ago
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Could black american please stop using the word "black" as generalisation to describe all black people, as an East African we do not have this problem in our society, our women get marry young and stay married. This is a Phenomenon for the black Americans but by using the word black you drag all black people from all corners of the world, this is unique to the black american community, not the Ethiopians, Somalis, Kenyans, or any other African heritage women. I am a man in my 20s and married.
YEELKEED 5 months ago
black professional women if she wanted a good man she has to go to church. She needs a god fearing man that will treated her right. If a women will go to the church mostly she will find a good man. Me personally don't believe a women should be looking for a man. It should be the man looking for a good women.
money1234354 5 months ago
@money1234354 There are very few normal men in the church. The church is 70 percent women. Most of the men who go to churche are homosexuals, losers, old players, etc. There is only a few in church who may be normal.
PatsBooks 4 months ago
@PatsBooks well then Mrs books you are not going to the right church. I don't know were your from but If a good man is what you are looking for. Seek God first he will show you your husband. Tell God what you are look for. Most of all wait on god he has somebody out there for you. Do not go looking for him he will find you. Don't lower your standard for nobody. Trust me I'm a successful man and it's hard for me to find a women that likes me for me.
money1234354 4 months ago
@PatsBooks Homosexuals don't goes to church because being gay is a sin and gay people would feel like they are wasting their time going to church because they know their going to hell. But I do agree with the rest of you statement though.
mjdc2505 3 months ago
Geez... these black women love to take a huge dump on black men and classifying them as failures... and than get a mangina like the one here to appease them...
PunjabiSikhRajput1 5 months ago
People will try to make you feel unconfident about yourself (sometimes they are unaware that they are doing it), ignore them.
Applebaum 5 months ago
integration ruined black people in america. blacks in america don't know whether they're coming or going.
abobjenkins 6 months ago
It is all BS !!! Women do NOT want husbands !!! They want Benefactors !!
mba2ceo 6 months ago
why are we talking about success? this has nothing to do with success,this is about finding a meaningful relationship which would lead to a marriage that would work and what most not all but women need to realise they need to make up their mind about what they want (not just black women but women overall) and thats just for starters..
ruddiato 6 months ago
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Black women just love thugs with big dicks
JimmyCasserole 6 months ago
@RuffhouseNC I don't see your problem, I would be pretty happy in your shoes. I just started college and my main goal other than straight A's is to not mess with too many women
Odakufilms 6 months ago
I am a black man, single, no kids, business owner and attractive. I am having a tough time finding a black lady.
RuffhouseNC 6 months ago
@RuffhouseNC
I don't believe that for a minute. There has to be something really wrong with you. Fess up!
PatsBooks 4 months ago
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Why do so many black women have babies by these sorry ass no good unemployed low life bombs? Please comment.
Twoodssax1234567 7 months ago
Not Sure Why This Is an Issue, What About all the Single Educated White and Latina Girls? Why Not Ask Them?
urdynamix1 7 months ago
Black women want men that don't exist.
whitebitchnigga 7 months ago
Here's a question to Black women, who are NOT AA, "do you have this problem OF getting a MAN?" If yes, why? If not, why not? Let's see who has the courage to be HONEST?
vaurnj39 7 months ago
Looking for a mate for a professional women can be a fulltime job; It's not just BW's issue. BWs do not mingle enough and finding a "right" mate is a hard work. If you want to meet a man, go ALONE to social functions that your potential mate materials hang out. Also overweight among BWs are prevalant(educated or not) and it is a REAL issue. I tried to introduce professional BW to BM, BM politely declined due to her weight and he told me that's the big reason he ends up dating other races.
classicpiano123 8 months ago
I like him, and I agree stop vilifying us, some of us do not mind being single.
sdacrowe 8 months ago
This man seems a little sweet to me to be offering advice to me. Fuck him. His analysis is way off. BW have been telling us for years that we aint shit and now its a ''national problem'' because they can't find a man ? U got what u asked for independence so quite bitching.
YoungnRomantic 8 months ago
"A black man needs a black woman to be a better man." And there you have it folks. Boys pay attention. A clear example of the pussification that has been going on in this country. This man may have a degree but he also has a vagina.
cracer112 9 months ago 2
@cracer112 - LOL!
americanpatriot00 9 months ago
. Having been married for 10 years, I knew early on that that was what I wanted-partnership. Now I am older in my 40's, single and looking forward to living abroad for the 2nd half of my life and I can see not having a wife in that picture as a good thing., Prioritize your wants first, and design your life towards the goal.
MrVeesworld 9 months ago
Bitch you aint havin my kid then running to the white man to take half my shit and i cant even see my child....i see this shit on a regular and refuse to be a victim of this horrific shit...you might want to get the fuck out of the us if you want to get married.
Marriage is much easier other places/countries.
America is wicked as fuck and dont you ever forget it.
Love African American Style is rough on a nigga.
Date and wear condoms or you WILL get burned.
If ur a broke nigga u are safe.
DoomCity202 9 months ago
The main thing is Niggas @ this point know bitches are out to get them
Now u can gamble if u want but dont be mad when u crap out.
She wont lose....its a win win for her if u are a winner...She gains if
it falls apart and u lose. Im scared as hell of these women cause
there are way too many pretty snakes out here that will tear your ass
up with a smile. Like sexy wolves lurking in the bushes to devour a
nigga....with help from that white judge.
They're tearing niggas up out here!
No love
DoomCity202 9 months ago 3
All my single ladies!!!!
All my single ladies!!!!
All my single ladies!!!!
All my single ladies!!!!
Put your hands up....celebrate!!!!!
What other race of women celebrates being single!
"I can have another you in a minute" gets old quick past age 30, your body
gets all run down from different men, u get baggage & kids & start 2 look
beat up. Everyone gets what they deserve in this life. Its like musical chairs
if u bullshit when that music stops u will be standing solo looking stupid.
DoomCity202 9 months ago 3
3:15 "I'm not looking to get married tomorrow" so then what's the problem LOL???
could it be that some other single successful black women say the same thing as you? looks like no one is in a hurry but why would they be, I bet unless you're wealthy or really good friends marriage/raising children can suck. She, or he would have to give up some of their lifestyle. careers could go down the drain. Maybe some women/men don't want to give up their single lifestyle just yet like her.
Natsukashii3 9 months ago
I wanted to to stay for my daughter after the divorce and so do many other BM i know in a similsar situation, but ALL of our ex wives took sole custody with help from the courts to not allow us to do that.
dantej32 10 months ago
black men are done with black women and will move on to white women its simple as that fuck your degree!
ankhenaten2 10 months ago
@ankhenaten2 Please shut up and stop putting white women over black women.
fmcneillii 10 months ago
@ankhenaten2 why does a white woman always have to be the alternative?
abobjenkins 6 months ago
@abobjenkins because white women are generally not racist towards black men , all other races are
ankhenaten2 6 months ago
@ankhenaten2 how about an AFRICAN black woman? quit thinking you've just got to have a white woman.
abobjenkins 6 months ago
@abobjenkins because african woman are even more racist towards AFRICAN AMERICANS THAN NON BLACK WOMEN
ITS LIKE TRYING TO DATE ANOTHER COLORED PERSON LIKE LETS SAY A DARK SKINNED INDIAN FROM INDIA......IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN! CUZ THEY HATE AA'S
ankhenaten2 6 months ago
@ankhenaten2 That is not true. I have visited Africa and have met many African black women. None of them were in the least bit turned off by the thought of marrying a black american man. As a matter of fact, I plan to marry a woman from Africa.
abobjenkins 6 months ago
@ankhenaten2 I think you just want a white woman.
abobjenkins 6 months ago
That guy is a simp or on the DL. If a black man is rushing toward marriage, he must be out of his goddamn mind.
bilal3700 10 months ago
@bilal3700 Um maybe he just his own man. Some brothers actually want kids and a beautiful wife.
fmcneillii 10 months ago
the black woman needs to get her shit together bro
chefchaney1012 11 months ago
...I dont think black women are being pressured into having a relationship. I believe that many women just "want it". The truth of the matter is, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Most black males simply do not want WIVES.. why can't we all just keep it 100 and say that ???
Rainy5062002 11 months ago
The thing is that these black women should learn to choose their priorities very early. If you want to be a mother and have a family, make that a priority. If you want to be an "independent black woman", make that a priority as well.
Here's another thing: There is NO happily married INDEPENDENT woman. There are none. If you want to remain "independent", whatever that means, then marriage is not for you. Marriage is a venture of DEPENDENCE not INDEPENDENCE. These BW need to know that.
leston4life 11 months ago 2
Why can't we reduce the discontent: BM who date outside the race is fine if the family is there; people who date out the race for the most part might have well not have left and for the most part is not missing much! I see a lot fo black couples who are happy w/ themselves; the reason that the professional BM and BW can't find nobody is obvious: they set their standards too high and don't know (or don't want to) be laid back, spiritual (in Christ), open-minded, and have a sense of humor!
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
i agree with black hitler
Pimptacular69 11 months ago
@Pimptacular69 Speaking of which, Women (especially BW) make Hitler and the KKK look like Malcolm X w/ their belligerence, ya kno?
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
Women date up and men date down, women who make to much money have almost elimated themselves from the dating pool. Another thing single mothers are more likely to raise garbage men. Most Dads are tough on their sons and raise them to be accountable men and Most single mothers raise their sons to never grow up. Don't blame men for not being in the boys life, remember she had unprotected sex with a man she either didn't know well, he was already a fuck up or she wanted child support.
CrazyBrah21 1 year ago
@CrazyBrah21 CHURCH, CHURCH!!! Preach it! Real Talk!
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
What about CHURCH?
nrwilliams015 1 year ago
@nrwilliams015 - Church: a bastion of ignorance, conservatism, close mindedness and prudishness.
Fish for a flexible, intelligent, reasonable and agreeable mate there? Good luck.
morpheusxnyc 11 months ago
@morpheusxnyc Jesus Himself was against most of the motives of the Church. Jesus told it like it is! Church, there!
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
@nrwilliams015 - There is no ACTUAL proof that Jesus existed. The writings of Josephus Flavius on the subject of Jesus were proven to be forgeries and almost all the bible books that dealt with his words/teachings were written by people who were born 100-200+ years after he died and yet they had quotes from him. >:-/
Yeshua/Joshua/Jesus was a Jewish rabbi, not a Christian. He didn't start a new religion. He was preaching old school Judaism, which is what got him killed - if he ever existed.
morpheusxnyc 11 months ago
@nrwilliams015 - Rather than read the doctrinal and dogmatic brainwashing tool of plagiarized Bronze Age pagan mythologies that is the bible, I invite you to actually research Christianity a a religion; it's origins, the early Christian church and how the bible was put together at the council at Nicea. It'll be a real eye opener for you.
I know it was for me - a former Sunday school teacher, biblical scholar and scriptural lecturer of a non-denominational born again Christian church.
morpheusxnyc 11 months ago
@morpheusxnyc I'm sorry, but I'm NOT a religious person; I'm a realist. I do kno that God sent a human being on this Earth because of man's corrupt state, ie, the religious doctrine, the plagarism and all that.
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
@nrwilliams015 - Not quite clear on what you mean because of how you phrased it.
Ultimately, I'm just saying that for all the credit it gets for all the wrong reasons, you're more likely to meet someone less intelligent, more superstitious, ignorant, recalcitrant, unreasonable and illogical in church because those qualities are required in order to BE a member of a church and believe in religion.
Belief/faith in imaginary deities and supernatural beings REQUIRES delusion and irrationality.
morpheusxnyc 11 months ago
That guy is cute though!!!!
phantomsuccour 1 year ago
If A Man's Not Supeman Before He's Married He Wont Be Superman After He's Married. Not Every Man Is Interested In Settling Down With Woman Because He Acknowledges His Freedom. And A Black Man Doesn't Need A Black Woman To Be A Better Man. If You're No Good Before You Meet This Black Woman You Will Be No Good During And After She Leaves.
slake2k7 1 year ago
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BLACK MEN: Break the chains of slavery..get the hell away from Black women. They only exist by spreading white supremist propaganda against Black men. They have been crushed by white supremacy and have taken on the persona of racist white supremist. You bamboozled ass BM are dying and are making easier for the racist institution to kill us all. Pull your head from the shit filled nigger toilet that BW are trying to flush you in. Leave these low crawling rape victims..save the Black man !
JohantoZulu1 1 year ago
Here is a little test for BW and BM. You're in school for how many years? study for how many hours? Work at a job or profession for how many years?Hang out, date,Youtube, text, fun for how much time in your life? but how much time spent really discovering your flaws and fixing them? How much time learning to listen? How much time learning to be selfless, caring. If your honest and in america more time is spent at career, school, or whatever then buidling the skills for a successful relationship.
maven21 1 year ago 2
@maven21 You're Provocative*** I especially like what you said about education and prestige does not leadi 'definitely' to a successful union, or a union at all.
NewWorldRob 1 year ago
just because your "successful" dosent mean you can be in a relationship. In America we are trained for professions but not trained to be balanced people. Its take serious skills to be in a marriage and those skills are not developed in most people. I dont know where this started but just because you have went to school climbed the corporate ladder dosent mean you are marriage material, It means your a good CEO. relationships are not Excel spreadsheets
maven21 1 year ago 15
@maven21 - Whoah... Words of wisdom, indeed!
While it's true that the Women's Lib movement discarded many limiting gender roles that had held women back from pursuing fulfilling lives, it also discarded some of the very ones required in order to make a relationship work.
Black women lost the feminine qualities that made them desirable to Black men and redefined them as being negative. So now that they act like men with breasts, they're shocked that we're not buying what they're selling.
morpheusxnyc 11 months ago
@maven21 Boom! Preach.
beachbody03 5 months ago
lol this is a great video...finally some good substance! i love it...i feel that if we could get a facebook group or sumthing that unite black men& women...then we may be on to sumthing...that way the single people are on display that way you do not have to guess whos single are not, whithout a question that what you're there for, which is strickly to date and elevate
FemaleMogul86 1 year ago
@FemaleMogul86 ( ; nice comments!
NewWorldRob 1 year ago
lets tell the truth people! the majority of black women are not marriage material plain and simple! most black women are slutty, classless, emotionally abusive, malicious, scorned, unattractive, women who blame black men, white women, racism, and everyone else for their problems! they never accept any responsability for their actions and behavior yet expect sucessful black men to tolerate their issues! WHO THE FUCK WANT TO MARRY THOSE WOMEN! ILL CUT MY BALLS OFF BEFORE I MARRY ONE!
mrcharles007 1 year ago
Some women don't want to get married. Whats wrong with that?. Women who have babies don't want to get married and thier is nothing wrong with that?. Who said that you have to get married, We as colorful people don't have to follow the laws which the white Society has made up. That another way of getting paper work done on you. You can live with a man or woman without paperwork from the court system. Most married couples don't want to be married and wish they hadn't tied the knot.
Zari7000 1 year ago
Mr Romeo here looking for my juliet black princess,
BLACKWARRIORKING82 1 year ago
As I read the comments, can I assume most are black? If so, no wonder there are problems.
Efferts 1 year ago
The Black man needs the black woman do become a better man.........................WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. This Dr., is sucking up to Black women and it's PATHETIC!!!!. It seems to me any man who is dependent upon a female to become a better man is no MAN. To become a better person begins internally.
vaurnj39 1 year ago 7
black men should know how to court a black woman.
what is it with this "black woman have to make black men feel like superman?"
you need to pull yourself up by the boot strap just like i had to.
internationallily 1 year ago
Dr. Tartt is talkin' pure nonsense. He admits that the numbers are off, and then go into this song and dance about how to find a man. Helana talks with more sense then the Dr.
PatsBooks 1 year ago
The man on this video is really lame and inarticulate..
He paints an incredibly rosy picture of black men.
How many Superman references did he make?
hermanglimsher 1 year ago
the dark skin girl is very pretty and articulate!
zappy158 1 year ago
@zappy158 Speak for yourself! She's somewhat cute, in a way!
nrwilliams015 11 months ago
@zappy158 You should see her on a different angle! HOOTY HOOO!!!
WizzoPro9476 11 months ago
Go to where the men are. Wow! What a concept. =)
OneSearchingForTruth 1 year ago
The problem: Having a job,and making ur own money does not make you "successful". That's seems to be a saying that some working class women seem to wear as a badge. It's traditional that the man in every race be the bread winner and head of the household and other races show that but us. Black men are purposely shut out of jobs and Black women are hired for less. So now the roles are switched and because of this issue we no longer have the traditional black family today. Sisters,Wake up!
bigreef2007 1 year ago 2
I love the fact that they have an intelligent bm speaking on behalf of bm for a change.
DONTA9231 1 year ago
Bw have been brainwashed to think bm arent ish by the white media.
Go figure.
DONTA9231 1 year ago
@DONTA9231 i dont think that my daddy is a good man.
wendyjeanlouis 1 year ago
@DONTA9231
BW have been brainwashed to think BM aren't s#@^T by THEIR MOTHERS !!!!!!!
There is a whole blk female culture that has a disrespectful disposition towards black men.
Don't blame the media, most of the problems black people have are homegrown.
MrShaneVicious 1 year ago
@MrShaneVicious you are 100% correct they just dont respect black men so a lot of brothers hop the fence for respect and dont look back
juseph29 1 year ago
The Black community is a Matriarchy
Black men are not raised to be "MEN" they are raised to be a woman's "Life style Assistant."
SorenK1987 1 year ago
@SorenK1987 that statement is very true and thats because the black woman is raising these boys without a man.its a vicous cycle
juseph29 1 year ago
@SorenK1987 Because they're being raised by single mothers to act like pussies when there grown.
thestrongsafety42 1 year ago
why even get married? marriage doesn't mean anything in America! Fornication makes married invalid. they need to make it by law illegal to divorce! they should make fornication and adultery criminal! as far as the women that proudly boast about being successful, would she sin against God to keep it? (sleep with the boss) don't for get we are in this( boat) together! when there's no job period for our people, what would be said then?
jamjr1972 1 year ago
LMAO...this shit is FAKE..lets be honest....women LIE on those sheet things which asks you your relationship status (especially the ones for loans etc)...everyone knows when you tick the SINGLE box, your more likely to get help or more loan money...lets be completely honest. i love the last womans twitter...shes right, they never asked EVERYONE and why all the focus on black women? wow..these guys want available pussy
caramelprincessxxx41 1 year ago
Where is her prove. She says 42%. First it was 70%, now it is 45%. And she said she had a man right. But she wants to sell a book I assume.
nmr20067 1 year ago
First time a have seen a all black cast talking on this subject.
BrotherOftheStruggl1 1 year ago