Get rid of low self esteem / Love coach Carolin Dahlman

[carolinlovecoach]

@mephatboi Definition of self esteem: being nasty and trying to make others feel bad to expand yourself.

Focus on your own happiness now, it will feel better than putting other people down :)

[mephatboi]

@carolinlovecoach i think u meant that's low self-esteem - ok, maybe u do help a sub-category of people w/ low self-esteem, the ones who have unjustified beliefs about themselves and who just need some1 supportive and motivating to change their thinking... that's where u can come in (albeit for a price!)

that was NOT my intention but i will remove the comment nevertheless... do good work, peace

[surgerryy]

the methods she recommends are terrifying.

she's right. low-self esteem is comfy

[misspinkpiggygirl]

Very positive

[carolinlovecoach]

@TheMrMonkeyable Babe, you create your liefe and if you think you will be scarred for life, you will. YOU are the only one with power to change things. You could keep on making up excuses for being happy - blaming other people - or you could man up and get on with it. You have a fantastic future ahead babe. Watch my videos on body language and stop making excuses - will help you on the way. Bless

[peanutsnoopy11]

I keep thinking that I suck and I'm really not happy with myself, even if my life is "good". I've tried many times to change but I really can't do it. The fact is that as soon as I think "I'm good!" and try to see my positive skills, I think again "No, I suck and want to die". How can I stop thinking bad things as soon as I think good ones?

[RB902050]

I am 36 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I have been on about 10 dates in my life all because I feel like I have to be better than everyone else around me. I have always felt from even my early childhood that I am not good enough.

[Monkalito]

piña colada @ fiji. ok ^^

[prinsesssara]

Thank you for these videos, so much love! Namaste <3

The answer is always simple!

[solbergcam]

send your selfesteem to Fiji! :D

[seimeichan]

i need 2 ask a question: I'll feel happy 1 moment then i feel like screaming and empty its getting annoying bcuz it happens everyday carolin please help ASAP thanks!

[carolinlovecoach]

@seimeichan You are welcome to come to me for coaching. You find prices and information on my website. Thanks.

[MISSMEGGYBOOBOO]

@happypandas9

other than what carolin said think more positively!! Look at your positive features (and never say you don't have any!) stop being so negative and stop comparing! I grew up comparing myself to my twin sister and it got me nowhere! once i realised actually i'm me and fantastic in my own way peopel saw it too!

You gotta look at yourself and think "yer i'd tap that" :P the mirror is your friend, give it a little wink how and again and a cheeky smile, your feel 10 times better :-)

[shardab3]

nice lesson..:)

[johnyzero2000]

This is actually pretty good she doesn't come across as condescending and patronizing. Most self esteem stuff i've heard puts me off and I no longer want to listen to them and I wind up feeling worse. Yes i have the lowest of all self esteem but I still go out and live life as best as I can. I'm plain and poor and my figure is thick but I can draw, paint, sculpt, write, and sing! I'm kind and I care for people and I hope that's what comes across when people meet me. 

[DrRinse]

This is silly, patronising rubbish. I cringed watching this tripe. I hope to God people with real problems don't pay her money for this in the belief it will help them.

[bendlor]

bend over love, just trust me, my low self esteem will get cured in minutes =D

[beatrixtarantino]

thank you for the video. It 's very good advice and vision of low self-esteem.

[hybrisss]

lol in my opinion that never works.

[shartasticful]

Hello Carolin. I have high self esteem and I want to play with you. May I?

[thkro20]

Maybe sometimes the low self esteem is justified? for example being ugly as sin - at least in the common understanding of physical beauty, isn't it better to just accept that fact?

[leico2]

Help me plz! Im 14 years old. in school im getting put down by everyone in my class. i have no or really low self confidence because of everyone putting me down all the time. i have had suicidal thoughts and im reallt sad. what can i do plz HELP ME!! :'(

[carolinlovecoach]

@happypandas9 The more you say "I don´t feel good" or "I feel ugly" the worse you will feel an people simply mirror what you think about yourself, nothing else. Force yourself to re-think, others will not do that for you.

[Wasavirgin112]

Lets say mentally challenged person has low self confidence, sure he could be happy and all with high self confidence.

But hes still retarded, he still shits his pants, he still needs other people to take care of him even at age 26 and doesnt fit in with normal society. Having self-confidence doesnt do shit.

[acerb45666555]

one road to self-esteem is cultural rediscovery. then you are no longer alone in the world.

[Primordialinsight]

To everyone watching this video = lift weights, cardio, hit the gym. As you begin to feel healthier and look it your self esteem will go up. Self esteem is a weakness you need to get strong and fit and then say goodbye self esteem!!

[chrisbartley88]

im still single and im 22.. tho evryone says im hot, but why no love life?? was in the *seeking aproval* low self esteem thing for years over sum1 but now i think iv moved on.. any advice?

[carolinlovecoach]

@chrisbartley88 Be clear about what you ask for. Perhaps you have other goals and dreams at the moment that distracts you? You are still young, be light and laughing

[ArmoredNarwhal]

im fat and ugly but people say i need a gf. how am i supposed to get one if im ugly

[carolinlovecoach]

@ArmoredNarwhal Because love is connection between hearts and souls, not surfaces. When you present your inner beauty and see the same in a girl, you will find love.

[legend1617]

@carolinlovecoach I don't see how that happens lol not even with my own parents.Status,Lust and most of all money is the most important thing you have to obtain.The day I realized this was the day I stopped playing for the bluedevils football team and Magics basketball in Bartow.I go to church and bust my ass helping people also even though I am scared to death of everyone including most family.Been friendless for three years an never had a girl tbh.I realized it's just my life and accepted it..

[abrambur2]

@ArmoredNarwhal cut your meals in 2 and eat 6 times a day once 3-4 hr.. avoid bad stuff- you know what that is- drink Lots of whater and do some sport, exercise or at least walk for 30 min a day... rase yourself up high. nothing is permanent.

[329kay]

@ArmoredNarwhal thats how i feel bout myself (only imma girl) everyone says im not but i think they r lying....i hate my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[SummerJane01]

it's right but very hard to do in real life))

[carolinlovecoach]

@SummerJane01 It´s harder to have low self esteem than to have confidence...

[Wasavirgin112]

@carolinlovecoach Wrong, sometimes people truly are pathetic and think of themselves realisticly AKA having low self esteem. There not going to turn into some cocky arrogant moron who overexaggerates his abilities just so he feels good inside.

[Agnesstation]

Hej är du svensk eller? :)

[carolinlovecoach]

@Agnesstation jajemen, från Åmål :) Men jag bor i Sydney

[FlowerRFabulous]

easy for pretty people like you tu sey :(

[erialton]

maybe i'm hurting people, but i believe i'm telling the truth. I don't want to argue with you. I believe you mean well. Try to read some classics and stop watching Oprah. That's good advice.

[carolinlovecoach]

@erialton :)

[erialton]

I really doubt any of those thoughts are yours. Just a bunch of clichés... This is just sad. I tried to find something meaningful and i had to listen to baloney. I know you mean well, but this stuff is way out of your league. Just block me. The truth may hurt your feelings.

Nothing personal. You just don't have it. But today, that hardly counts. You can make some bucks. There's a lot of stupid people with money. Go get 'em

Have a nice life. Be happy.

Ps.: you are nice woman. Congrats.

[carolinlovecoach]

@erialton Open up for the good energies my friend. I won´t block you. I believe in what I do and I help a lot of people - for free - so my feelings are not hurt. I judt feel sad when you try to make others feel bad. It´s not good for you, it´s toxic. I can see on your page you are hurting others and I dont respect that. I´m strong but others are not. Please be nice :)

[houstondodgeball]

What professional or academic qualifications do you have? I'm genuinely curious. Your English is good. This may help as well:

1) Think back to when you did something new for the first time.

2) Do something you have been putting off.

3) Do something you are good at.

4) Stop thinking about yourself!

5) Get seriously relaxed.

6) Remember all the things you have achieved.

7) Remember that you could be wrong!

[carolinlovecoach]

@houstondodgeball That´s great. Thank you

[carolinlovecoach]

@houstondodgeball Btw I am a trained life coach specialising in love and relationships. I also have a bach degree in political science, sociology and one in journalism. Plus a degree in business and marketing. I´m 37 years old and have published 10 books.

[houstondodgeball]

@carolinlovecoach That's very impressive. It really is. Bravo. But no degree in psychology? The whole "love and light" theme references that you make are very new age. Is that part of the life coach training that you received? Your degrees are business related, but at some point you decided to be a life coach? What made you decide that? It's very interesting how you found yourself. I guess my question is, what is your code of ethics by which you practice? Your basis for "light and love?"

[carolinlovecoach]

@houstondodgeball Why do you ask? If you are interested in my services, feel free to email me.

[PreppyPoser1]

@houstondodgeball haha services..

[erialton]

This was so superficial and phony...Why don't you just shut the fuck up?

[carolinlovecoach]

@erialton People who don´t feel good enough usually take their anger out on others. Anyone who puts others down or bully are deep down really insecure. I feel for you. Can I help?

[Lecxaamee22]

i wish i can be more confident but i dont know how to :((.. i dont wnt to be miserable all my life and i just wnt to change my ways of thinking but i need extra help in order for me to be like that :// i dont know wat to do...

[mrfreshboystatus]

i have very low self esteem im worried about looking like others im scared to go outside and play basketball with the guys 1 dude always tells me i suck ass then other guys tell me im garbage i dont even want to go out people tell me im ugly or they dont like me it makes me want to cry

[carolinlovecoach]

@mrfreshboystatus Dear, we are many who had it tough in school, but who flourished later on, when out of the bully zone. Focus your energy on what you love to do, and don´t let their bad energy get you. They are the once who should feel bad, not you.

[mrfreshboystatus]

@carolinlovecoach THANK YOU for the inspiring advice i will try to focus on what i love to do thank you so much

[hollybee43]

you're right... low self esteem is "comfy"! never thought about that before.....

[vanouche31]

i really really ADMIRE your attitude and love your way of thinking. i have some personal questions i would like to ask you..do you have an email adress where we could communicate in private,,?

[carolinlovecoach]

@vanouche31 You can book sessions and pay for email coaching on my website thelovecoach.info :)

[VENNY046]

you look bangable , are a communist convert

[CoachTreasure]

I am so for this! Being a self worth coach, I want all to increase their self-worth. Time to say bye bye to it!

[altruism111]

Hey love coach are you married? ;-) Keep up the cool videos.

[CantWeedThis]

Only fools have high self esteem. What the hell are you so confident about? You aint shit, and you certainly dont know shit.

[veronica2010user]

Very good and helpful video, for 3 steps on improving self esteem i suggest reading the articles at improveyourlifes, it helped me

[Artemis458]

she looks awesome in this vid, I dont know why she doesnt do this look all the time, and nice vid it helps.

[carolinlovecoach]

@Artemis458 haha thanks, but its not how I look that counts :)

[raisedfist80]

Shut up bitch!! Even you don't believe the shit you say.

[jfmamjjasond123]

watch her other videos don't assume things so fast

[fandetulunar]

Im greeeat! !thank you:)

[the23piya]

Thanks..for that Carolin

[fishwink311]

Great little video. My self-esteem has been crashing lately and that was a helpful boost. You got a nice way. Thanks Carolin.

[fishwink311]

Great little video. My self-esteem has been crashing lately and that was a helpful boost. You got a nice way. Thanks Carolin.

[carlwal01]

you give my penis self esteem

[mya0005]

Love you Carolin! Thank you for all your advice! Keep up the wonderful work.

[StPierreGSP]

Carolin you are lovely

[keltecdan]

you have to have somthing about you that gives you alot of self-esteem and confidence like really good looks,personality or tons of money. usually when you have money it also increases your personality. if your a ugly guy whos shy and not outgoing making 25k a year dont expect to get very many women at all even the fat nast slobbish women. all you have to do is get in the gym look good make a ton of money and start acting like a cocky arrogant prick trust me it works if you wanna get laid

[carolinlovecoach]

@keltecdan Getting laid? Is that the meaning of life?

[nickallah]

@carolinlovecoach ultimately, getting laid IS the meaning of life, love, relationships, whats it all for? getting laid, giving birth.. everything must be in its perfect place before getting laid, cuz its for reproduction. love is to nurture life, and getting laid is to start it up. getting laid is the last step. the ultimate goal, but first, all other things must be well prepared.

[smertgopam]

@carolinlovecoach ha-ha, well said :)

[jfmamjjasond123]

thats not fair

[jambrandon531]

@keltecdan how do u become a positive person because i am a very negative guy especially when it comes to women

[theboombody]

I like low self esteem though.

[PeaveDarter]

It all comes down to battling your ego, and getting rid of ALL self love. It may sound backwards, but in reality, a wounded spirit hinders life. A broken spirit sets you free.

Go with God. Jesus is Lord.

[pierneus]

Carolin, thanks for your reply. I've been trying hard and made a lot of progresses, still there are some limitation in the way I feel about myself. As a child you are defenseless, and as you move into the adult life you inevitably bring with you all the negativity from the past. It's hard to break this chain, trust me, it takes more than simple will power. People who come from dysfunctional family like me, know what I'm saying.

[pierneus]

Carolin, thanks for uploading this nice video, but your approach is way too simplistic. If you had had bad parents who constantly criticized you, you wouldn't have any self esteem now. It takes much more than that, we must acknowledge and come to terms with our past first, then we (artificially) build up our sense of self worth. And remember guys, it'll always be artificial. Unfortunately, childhood is too important!

[carolinlovecoach]

@pierneus You see yourself as a victim but what happened in the past is in the past. it is not happening now and by seeing that you can set yourself free to live the life you want today. You live in an identity that is comfortable for you and that releases you from responsibility. But also from power, hope and happiness. Come to terms with your past NOW, by making the active decision to set yourself free. xo

[SelfHelpCollective]

@carolinlovecoach

Interesting reply.

I think it's very difficult to talk about low self esteem to people with low self esteem (and I am in that club, too!) as part of the 'low self esteem' can often find reasons why what you're saying is just plain wrong. Low self esteem is quite happy with its existence and it really doesn't want to be challenged by anybody!

I think it's great that Carolin is brave enough to dare try get us to change.

Bad starts can always be improved upon - I believe

[slowwind9]

@carolinlovecoach

oh Carolin to me you are so right!!! you have a TRUE self-esteem

because self-esteem also means taking responsability for MY OWN life

choosing the thoughts that **I** want to think, guiding MY mind to the things that make me feel good and make me FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF

yes, childhood is really important but it is not definitive...we are ADULTS now!

we can acknowledge the messages that dont benefit us and just let them go in peace and love...and little by little

[slowwind9]

@slowwind9

starting looking for things that we appreciate in us and all around...its is a real journey!! a powerful happy journey

much love to carolin, pierneus , myself and all ;-)

[LalithaSr]

@pierneus i agree on the first part, it will be extremely difficult to build, but if you work hard at it, it can be geniune. It will have to mostly come from yourself, but is extrmely helpful if you have someone else who is nice and can help build your confidence.

[yztekman]

are you stupid?I've had low self esteem for years now.. i've tried what you've been talking about.. and for real, if i ever will enjoy this world.. The new world order must be braught down.. I Hate all of you people who has good self esteem and live in a fantasy world where all is sooo fucking perfect and the biggest problem you have is...your hair is getting too long? _who cares_ Im really sorry for beeing this way, but seriously.. open your eyes.Search for "Alex Jones"

[carolinlovecoach]

@yztekman I love you

[yztekman]

@carolinlovecoach Good for you girl

[OminousLatinUsername]

@yztekman It's a good thing people are so gullible, otherwise Alex Jones would have to get a real job.

[moneejo]

@yztekman So funny you mention Alex Jones, me and my brother used to listent to Alex Jones to a point that it was almost addictive, but you know? As much as we may know about what is going on in the world, I realized that peace starts with ourselves, maybe we wont stop all the masons or whatever, but we do can give a smile or hug another person, hugs always work, I am not going trough the best time of my life right now, and I am feeling a bit down, but I can tell you, by experience that...

[moneejo]

@yztekman it may be ok to know what is going on in the world, but then comes our responsability to do something about it, and not feel low about it, do the best with what you have, if you have knowledge, share it, but dont let it affect your inner spirit, it is an area of opportunity to spread it and do something about it,,,, I dont know if this will help you,,, but,,, hopefully it will a little bit.

[divertiti]

Your low self esteem get a vacation to Fiji???? Can I be your low self esteem?

[Matlify2]

@divertiti I agree

[seimeichan]

GOOD BYE LOW SELF-ESTEEM!!!

[jambrandon531]

alcohol gives me high self esteem

[Serenity202143]

Simply put... Thank you!;-)

[carolinlovecoach]

No thank YOU for taking things in, learning to love.

[TheVickie411]

caroline let me tell u some thing!all my life guys have been makin fun of me and 3 days ago i just looked back at this guy and he just staed callin me ugly then the next day some guys in a corner said that i ws a negative2! thats like sayin i look like a piece of@#$! i just couldn't stop cryin, will u pease help me to love myself ineed personal advice

[carolinlovecoach]

Dear, There are a lot of assholes out there in the world - people who feel like shit too. Who take their frustration out on others. You own your reactions of what they say and can learn to keep it outside of you!!! (this is my job so I will charge for more personal advice, sorry, need to eat :)

[garybenclark]

bang bang bang

[zXJulianXz]

i second that motion ;)

[cheerhotty5912]

low self esteem turns people off but some people have that hopefully this video helps but for girls be confident you dont have to be perfect have good posture and good higene, guys have manners treat a girl with respect and as well be urself and be confident but the most important thing in life is to be happy -xlizzyx6 hope i helped

[EsotericFantasy]

bye bye low self-esteem!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iStylix]

i have really low self esteem and no or minimal self confidence

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i see people with such confidence who are so happy and i wish i could be more like that

[paulrng]

Try medatation.Try sitting down on the floor with your eyes closed breeth in and out like you normally do and put all your focus on you breathing in and out.Working out will help as well.

[CoachTreasure]

@iStylix You can have that and more. I remember when I used to get depressed and down on myself all the time. I needed validation and thought that I wasn't good enough. Thank goodness for change. It is possible.

[iStylix]

@CoachTreasure i hope so .. i'm so sick of being like this .. i feel i am just watching life pass me by and i know i will regret it .. like not making the most of anything but sometimes i just hate myself so bad .. and it's more or less a chre waking up in the mornings .. i want to have that zest and be happy and content with myself .. got a long way to go ... how did you do it?

[carolinlovecoach]

I am sorry but I can not help. I am not a trained psychologist and as a coach I only deal with attitude issues. If you are depressed I suggest you go and see a professional. Sorry!

[chiquitaxbaybee]

helpful..thank you very much :]

[ErikaVirgo4]

thank u for ur video, it helps me a lot

thanks =D

[BeHereNow21]

Needing to "esteem" yourself at all is kind of a sickness.

It should be self evident that you are of high value. Because a person is always of high value to themselves.

It´s only when you start living by a socially constructed identity that you start thinking you are as valuable as OTHERS think - and that will turn you into a Low self-esteem person.

No need for esteeming.

Read Albert Ellis.

[RevisionDevision]

its not just women for me :( its almost every part of my life

[carolinlovecoach]

darling, that's most time the fact. It's because your inner core is not in balance. How can you cleanse yourself? Come up with 5 ways now...

[jambrandon531]

i cant get no women im a loser

[carolinlovecoach]

we get what we expect to get

[independanttoaT]

sure its a choice but how do u make the choice ??? i mean , some times simple things dont work and u have to like ahh i dont know

[carolinlovecoach]

Darling. Life is not always simple. If you want the simple way you end up giving control to others instead of having it yourself.

[knocky009]

OMG... all your videos are very helpful for me.

thanks a lot for sharing and can you give me your msn addy? he he....

[Eddiespice509]

I've always dealt with low self esteem. It's part of me that doesn't want to leave me. It's one of my inner demons I always struggle with. Watching this video made me think, I'll try and kick it out of my system. Thanks Doll. :)

[carolinlovecoach]

Thank you! You will kick it out, it won't go away by itself... You can do it!!

[goddessgold12]

your attitude towards things is really great, thats a great feature! is ur accent Australian??

[carolinlovecoach]

Thank you, it's a great attitude to choose. You can do it too! :)

I'm Swedish but I live in Australia.

[papiyaray]

everything u say applies to me, i'm taking all ur advice on board :)

[papiyaray]

U ruleeeee like totally! :)

[carolinlovecoach]

Haha, thanks sweetie