narcissistic personality disorder pt 5 victims talks of suicide

[LainOutOnTheFloor]

I HEAR ya!!!!!

[begood4000]

@LainOutOnTheFloor thanks

[auntstacey123]

Actually , the preacher thought it was sweet that her hubby stayed with her despite her abuse.

[begood4000]

@auntstacey123 sorry to hear that. That's sad.

[auntstacey123]

@begood4000 Thanks for your videos. I work with 2 female narcissists which prompted me to seek out information. It is like living in crazyland. The worst part is constantly being scapegoated & blamed for things I haven't done. I swear, N's are like space aliens. Their world is totally based on unreality. Logic doesn't work in trying to figure them out. The worst part is dealing w/the rage I have towards them in a constructive way.

[begood4000]

@auntstacey123 I'm glad you have found my videos helpful. Yes they do seem to be like space aliens made at the same space factory don't they :) They love nothing more than to destroy their victims. They feed on the misery and pain :(

[auntstacey123]

I was at church one night & overheard one of the other church members describe how horribly abusive another fellow church member was to her elderly husband & how she mentally & physically abused him (ie. hitting him w/frying pan). The preacher overheard & laughed thinking it was cute and endearing & a testament to hubby's love & devotion. I don't get why some people would think it "cute" coming from a woman but would be horrified if it was from a man?

[eckleburg22]

Anyway, here is my question: Your vids seem to indicate that all N women eventually begin emotinally abusing behavior. What will happen if my brother keeps shelling out money? Does that ever keep them happy?

[begood4000]

@eckleburg22 nothing ever keeps the N happy. They will always raise the bar, and as suggested below. It's not wise for you or your brother to inform her you have figured her out. Or, for your brother to share his knowledge with her on this subject once he learns it. It will only term her into a worse person and set your brother up for more abuse.

[eckleburg22]

Let me ask your opinion, begood. My younger brother married a N a year ago. She is quiet attractive, and my brother is crazy about her. - She has not started belittling him yet (that I know of). But my brother is spending money on her like crazy. He sends her on trips, buys her kids out of trouble, etc. If I mention concern, he says he does it cause he loves her. But I think he is trying to keep her happy, cause she is bitchy when he doesn't keep her happy.

[begood4000]

@eckleburg22 Well what I would do is provide him this information for him to look over. Also there are tons of books online regarding Narcissism and Borderline Personality disorders. I also would provide him books or other reading material on Codependents, as most people in these situations show codependent qualities and allow the abuse to happen. What all of this info will do is allow him to witness the behavior in his home as he's reading it in a book. Then he can form an opinion.

[gmann1695]

@begood4000 You might want to tell him to hide book, to avoid an argument/manipulation tactic

[begood4000]

@gmann1695 yes, very true. Never let the abuser know you are learning this information. Never let them find your books or online material. Never recite to them what you have learned in hope of coverting them. They will only make their plan against your worse if you do.

[gmann1695]

@begood4000 Like I said before it took me to lose an eye to see

[eckleburg22]

@begood4000 I see that she is already raising the bar, as you say - and my brother is living to make her happy. He is not ready to see the truth, but I know he will draw the line at some point. I really believe that, especially if she begins to be verbally abusive. - In the meantime, she is trying to get pregnant, and I have talked him into waiting on that. At least it's something. - Thanks, begood !

[begood4000]

@eckleburg22 just keep on being a good brother to him as you have been. I do hope things work out and he wakes up soon.

[starfish50]

You forgot to menton the WOMEN who are the victims of a narcissist husband. OK. Everything you disscribe about a narcissist woman is the same for a NARCISSISTIC husband. I know I was married to one for 18 years. 3 attempted suacides, and a bleeding ulcer later, I am FINLEY away from him, and my depression is not even a problem any more.

[starfish50]

This discribes me exactly. I am CONVINCED that my estranged husband of 18 years IS A NARCISSIST. I too attempted suacide ,because of the constant critizisam of me.

[Bronwardie]

thank you

[begood4000]

@Bronwardie yw

[eckleburg22]

@begood4000 I just posted a question on this page. Would you mind taking a moment to asnwer it? Thanks.

[karlbuttler]

Wow dude your video's are spot on, its hard to remember but i think i may have been suicidel, but ido remember times when i thought about killing her,just to escape, in the end i lost everything anyway,the kids,house,credit, loans job,cars,all the friends we built together,even my self respect..but now im armed to the Teeth. i dont know if i will ever find a special replacement for her,but i shure am going to try to be as happy as possable by my self. Thx James

[Hawaiiansky11]

...all my options. 

[Hawaiiansky11]

James - Is there anything more I can do for someone who is in denial? I've given him information from abuse recovery sites, he accepts it graciously, but seems to disregard it, and defends her (middle child, parents divorced, work is 'screwing' her--she works for a huge and well-known national corporation--nobody plays with her on FB farmville, etc. ad nauseum). But he has ALL the signs. Is it too late? They say abusers don't get better. I don't want to give up, but feel I've exhausted...

[imstricken06]

"possibly getting an ulcer" - ya buddy, been there done that. idk how after 2yrs, and working to jobs (60hrs+), i managed to stay afloat. the things said & done- the pain and stress, lets say the extensive training in the Army was a cake walk compared to this.

[begood4000]

@imstricken06 they say the predators that do this to people like us are indeed emotional terrorist, and I too have heard from others state being in the military is easier then dealing with such a person. So your comments are right on my friend.

[begood4000]

@thejolene100 you are so right 

[suchafool990]

"nightmares your sleep."

yeah I remember this for quite a few years when I was younger... I would scream and yell in my sleep a lot. I guess it was my minds way of trying to cope with the inability to express the rage and frustration I wasnt forbidden to express

[nichrocks]

Accurate on your explanations and what happens to the victims. After leaving my ex 6 times only to be sweet talked back and receive worse abuse I left for good. I can't describe the hell the 10 months leading to divorce was like. He declared war and tried his best to push me to suicide. I developed PTSD and he took everything, unable to defend myself. I was almost on the street which was his goal. You say a strong support system is important. Anyone involved has already been isolated.

[nichrocks]

You are accurate on your explanations and what happens to the victims. After leaving my ex 6 times only to be sweet talked back and receive worse abuse I left for good. I can't describe the hell the 10 months leading to divorce was like. He declared war and tried his best to push me to suicide. I developed PTSD and he took everything, unable to defend myself. I was almost on the street which was his goal. You say a strong support system is important. Anyone involved has already been isolated.

[begood4000]

@nichrocks i'm so sorry you had to experience that. I think that people can at least try to reach out to a free hot line, priest, or even talk to someone on a suppor board like mine. Actually my website has been helpful in getting people to at least think straight so they can take the next step and meeting new people so learning to unisolate themselves. Because you are correct that's what the abuser does. They isolate the victim and turn us into POW's. It's a sad situation.

[suchafool990]

@nichrocks he? HE got everything? what alternate universe are you from?!

[CamillaCalamity]

How come all the negative personality characters are women? I wonder if the maker of the video knows that most people with narcissistic personality disorder are men. In fact most personality dissorders and mental illnesses occur more often in men than women, especially the ones that hurt other people like psycopathy and sociopathy.

But I don't suppose he(?) cares about that because to him women are evil.

[begood4000]

@CamillaCalamity actually that's incorrect. I don't feel that all women are evil. I believe that abuse and personality/mental disorders are evenly spread across men, women, and children. I don't believe that women are more prone to mental illness then men or men then women. Good professionals will tell you that men under report being abused and the new school of thought is it happens to evenly. Abuse is wrong regardless who does it. I hope this answer helps clears up things for you.

[CamillaCalamity]

@begood4000 Well thankyou for clearing that up. I was afraid this was one of those hate videos that I see all to often, that place all the blame on one particular group in society. Perhapse I spoke too hastily.

[Majorbludd817]

@CamillaCalamity In part 1 he says men have NPD more often than women. I think his point is that men are more likely to accept living with the abuse from a woman who has it.

[begood4000]

@Majorbludd817 actually what I meant in part 1 is that it's said that men have it more than women but I don't think that is the case. That's it's even. That men and women have it in the same amount. I believe the problem is 50/50. I hope that clears things up.

[X7ELI7X]

@begood4000 Actually the statistics show than woman are ten times more likely to abuse than men are. Don't believe every agenda you see on T.V, or soft feeling beliefs. There are biological differences.

[revolutiongrl]

yep, these are the brain washing tactics that sex traffickers use on the women and children they traffick but people don't give a shit and fuel the demand for underage sex workers.

[Elaine02424]

Revenge is what the narcissist is all about... at least in my situation. When he knows that I have 'figured out' one of his 'games', that is when I suffer the most from his 'revenge', secretly, cunningly, slick as a whistle, I tell ya...he gets his on me without me even knowing about it for sometimes weeks at a time... I shutter to think what he has done that I 'don't' know about.

[Viinasu91]

wow... i wonder if there's anything narcissists can do to make themselves, you know, not be narcissic? or even, if their partner knows there's something wrong and they go to a doctor and find out they have it, is there anything they can do to make themselves better?  O.o

[begood4000]

@Viinasu91 hello there thanks for your comment. Unfortunately getting someone that is Narcissistic to go to the DR is next to impossible. You have to convince them they have a problem in order for them to go which again is next to impossible. So the success rate is very very low in treating these type of people. This is disorder that needs on going life treatment, and sadly there's no medication for it :( these people are stuck in their own mess so to speak

[chrisman737]

@begood4000, a couple of members of our family have tried to convince my sister to get help -- or even suggest much more pleasant things like getting a therapeutic massage or reading a certain book or visiting a certain spiritual retreat center. All ideas she shoots down immediately and forcefully. As my mom once told me in regards to my sister...``Well, they say you can lead a horse to water but can`t force it to drink.``

[begood4000]

@chrisman737 99% of the time they never ever get help...sometimes they fake like that want it just to get something out of their vicitim but they never end up going....

[begood4000]

@Jaybeegirl you are absolutely right ! I believe this problem is equal and 50-50 on both sides. Men and women both have the same ability of inflicting this type of abuse. Thanks Jaybeegirl for your comments. Women need to run from men that are like this just as much as Men need to run from women that are like this. It's a very serious thing.

[lordblazer]

when I was living in JApan. This was happening to a friend of mine.. Me and my friend Mario let this dude crash at our apartment. I mean she didn't know us, in a city of 30 million people on the other side of where he lives. She wasn't going to follow him. Unless she finds him during rush hour in a train station with 4 million people all trying to commute. In retrospect he got to disappear from her. he was paranoid and always afraid. he moved to fukuoka from tokyo afterwards.