Size Acceptance? Am I the exception?

[nubianbigoddess]

BBWs aren't accepted like gays aren't accepted like blacks aren't accepted like atheist aren't accepted catch my drift. We live in a narrow mined society , but we have to love and accept who we are regardless and be confident in who we are what ever we are , because if we don't then we have given in and we let society win. This world isn't uniform and there are different sizes and shades of beauty and we all must represent.

[sosoblessed1]

@nubianbigoddess You are speaking the truth. Thank you for watching and adding such poignant commentary. be blessed

[rosemystic22]

my goal is to be healthy bloodpreassure, cloestoral, diabetes and joint muscle pains i would love to be a size 18 to 14 jeans size just to compliment my bbw curves and be able to move and breath easier so i can celebrate my curves easier lmao

[rosemystic22]

i think they define the people that are not acceptant of bbw or " fat" people is by people that verbally or physically lash out and the "weight lose" industries they should make it clear that when they put supermodels that are super thin that everyones body is different and you can be healthy and a bbw its about healthy from the inside out. i am on a healthy journey yes i am a supersize my fiancee loves that but i want to live longer so i want to get healtheir inside and out. continued

[mabosslady2]

I appreciate your opinon and how you feel, I do know this YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF...only you can DEFINE YOURSELF! LET NO ONE DEFINE WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE...IF ITS NEGATIVE...DISMISS IT! And whether we are accepted has more to do with if you accept yourself and what kind of men you are around as well as peers (period)! This is a SUPERFICIAL NATION! Join me at Becky In Da Back Room (mabosslady2) I am a BBW and proud of it. I have met many BBW lovers as well!

[STARTproductions]

Yeah U are so totally right!!

people should have self esteem, and if they have that self esteem it emits this positive energy that would make people love U.

I myself hate it when another person is all like " ah I'm ugly, ah I'm not beautiful,agg I'm not popular!"

If your gonna have that kind of negative attitude and nit pick at the flaws U think you have, it just opens this door to allow people to make fun of U.

Its all about being confident in URself and allowing positiveness 2 surround U.

[sosoblessed1]

@STARTproductions yes, how we see and treat ourselves, tells others how they are allowed to treat us. We were all fearlfully and wonderfully made, I just wish more of us knew that. thank you for adding such wonderful commentary

[candypoppa]

Three things.

#1-Please move the camera back a bit. It's not pretty.

#2-I don't speak ghetto, so none of what you're saying makes sense.

#3-If you spent as much time exercising as you do making videos justifying your morbid obesity, you would'nt even be concerned about shit like this.

[sosoblessed1]

@candypoppa

I approved this message just to say these three things

1.  thanks for watching

2. God loves you

3. be blessed

[cocoaisbeautiful]

sosoblessed you're nicer then me cause my response woulda been.....

#1-STFU!

#2-STFU!

#3-Don't forget to STFU!

[sosoblessed1]

@cocoaisbeautiful LOL, I don't let miserable people pull my strings. misery love company and I don't oblige ;0 but I do get your drift ;0 thank you

[cocoaisbeautiful]

@sosoblessed1 That's a great attitude to have. I just get sooooooooooo tired of seeing people's negative comments on positive videos. They always feel the need to put people down and the funny thing is you go to click on their page and what do ya see? Nothing! lol They RARELY have pictures of themselves and never anything of substance. Why don't you have anything to share? Why you hiding? lol Anyway, keep up the positive videos girl!

[sosoblessed1]

@cocoaisbeautiful I know EXACTLY what you mean because if you check out my vids, most, if not all, are positive and I receive wonderful feedback, however, I know that when you put yourself on cam and share yourself with the world, you'll get the hateful, miseable cowards who really just admire you and need a hug. So I not only feel sorry for them, I appreciate the admiration they have for the God they see in me LOL. thank you for your positive and encouraging comment :)

[Strawberrypocky911]

Well even if you're beautiful people look XD

[BikinikilI]

People need to stop with this. It's amazing to be feeling beautiful in your skin. the only issue I, and many people have, With larger women is that its a health risk. Its not healthy to be 260 pounds when youre only 16. I find it annoying that im a size 4 and ima "Skinny bitch" because im not obese. Theres a difference between curves and being unhealthy. Kim Kardashians curvy; Moniques fat.

[sosoblessed1]

@BikinikilI thank you for watching my vid and sharing your opinion. be blessed

[InLoveWithMIYAVI]

What is it you keep saying you are?

[sosoblessed1]

@InLoveWithMIYAVI I'm not quite sure, maybe my screen name, so so blessed. otherwise I'm not quite sure what you're asking

[InLoveWithMIYAVI]

@sosoblessed1 No it sounds like, bbw or bvw something like it.. im sorry i just dont know what it is. x

[sosoblessed1]

@InLoveWithMIYAVI oh, probably BBW, which is a common acronym for Big Beautiful Woman :)

[InLoveWithMIYAVI]

@sosoblessed1 Ah I see. Thanks x

[sosoblessed1]

@InLoveWithMIYAVI you're welcome

[sharonloveschloe]

yeah im fat

people shud accept us xoxo

[Fleshsifter]

yo this is actually the smartest, most articulate black women ive ever listened to, no joke.

[sosoblessed1]

@Fleshsifter thank you, I think :)

[sosoblessed1]

@Fleshsifter thanks...I think

[plglbrth]

you are the one wanting attention, that is why you are on youtube. I just have a problem with fake christians calling themselves blessed when they are not following the bible and what God truly wants for you. He wants you to be healthy, not obese. That is why the bible says Do not defile the body God gave you to house his holy spirit with over indulgence with food like you obviously do.

[sosoblessed1]

@plglbrth I'm overweight but healthy, no meds, well loved, love the Lord and love you as well. I'd say that makes me SO SO BLESSED. whether you agree are not means ZILCH, but I approved your message because I can appreciate various opinions in The Blessed Place. may you continue to be blessed as well

[geminiwoe]

@sosoblessed1 My love, there is no such thing as overweight but healthy. You are either healthy or unhealthily over weight. That's like saying almost pregnant. You either are or you are not. Just a heads up hun.

[plglbrth]

You are not blessed you are cursed. Preachers will not tell you because they want your money. Read (1st corinth) you have defiled the body God gave you to house his holy spirit in while you are on earth with over indugence in food and lack of exercise. Stop being a gluton and follow the bible diet stop the fried chicken sugar soda

[sosoblessed1]

@plglbrth obviously you needed some attention, so I approved your comment so that you could get some. thank y9u for watching and be blessed

[M3rCy5aidY35]

Take a look in a clothing store. Look at the sizes that are carried. Look at the size of a class room chair. Society will never cater to obesity and why should they? Obesity is unhealthy and we are given certain prejudices. I have more to say but too lazy to make a video but I feel ya

[sosoblessed1]

@M3rCy5aidY35 yeah, I understand your point and I don't think society should "cater" too obesity, but definitely be more inclusive. for instance, I'm very healthy, not on meds, but it would be nice if the seat belts in cars and planes were a little longer, theater chairs not so restrictive, etc. To me, ti's even a great business decision to be more inclusive than exclusive. Not cater, but be more thoughtful. thanks for watching and commenting

[SMWhit3out]

man the harpoons

[sosoblessed1]

@starryskies223 you make an EXCELLENT point. I htink that it's so true and I hadn't thought about t like that. as we get older, we celebrate and appreciate individuality and differences. thanks

[ElectricShark]

Well said!

And you are a beautiful BBW!

Keep up the good work!

Don't listen to the haters!

[sosoblessed1]

@ElectricShark thank you. I don't even acknowledge the haters except to laugh and occasionally pray for them lol

[AmberFur]

I love your answers! xxx

[sosoblessed1]

thank you

[YoungSteve17]

LOL Men dont love big women . You know why some men "LOVE" big women ?? Its because A. they are desperate B. they are too unattractive to get a better looking women. Its as simple as that. Stop ignoring the facts

[sosoblessed1]

C. thanks for watching

be blessed

[justusinhere]

they wouldn't hire a fat person since they feel they either wont work hard/wont be able to work like a thin person & consider fat people nasty,unclean & unable to control themselves they would never date a fat person & some-family refuse to even have fat friends they feel it reflects negatively on them to be seen with such people. These are my personal experiences with it but every situation person, & environment is different & I'm sure some have never faced discriminated because of their size

[sosoblessed1]

it's so sad that people have gone through that. you expounded on the subject so well and even helped me to understand better what many overweight people have experienced in life. My sisters and I were "big kids" but not considered fat and therefore didn't experience the teasing. Now that we're adults, we know we need to lose weight for health reasons but don't feel the sting or stigma that many suffer because in our family and environment it's acceptable, though unhealthy. thank you

[justusinhere]

This often marks the behavior of both the victim & the abusers-victims learn to distrust and perpetrators develop & maintain lasting opinions about fat people i.e. they are weak emotionally & physically lazy have no character & deserve what ever they get Now as an adult I have only seen systemic sizism peripherally -from family and friends who speak candidly around me as the exception to their fat rules

[justusinhere]

I think sometimes the need for fat acceptance is a carryover from childhood -at least for those of us who have been fat since very early in our lives There is a certain amount of internal scarring that likely occurs from the social isolation that being young and fat can produce-children throw things, band together not to speak with you/sit with you, create new degrading ways of informing everyone else how fat you are-lift your shirt, write fat on you bags/lockers/desk, etc

[OasisRubyBlackmore]

I was just waiting for you to point out that it's mostly in our heads, and you did! You're a wise woman, and I love this video. *subscribed*

~ Oasis

[sosoblessed1]

thank you very much for watching, commenting and subscribing.

be blessed

[5959512]

oh wow your so great and other estrogen filled comments. fuck that, your unhealthy and killing yourself. just because more people are becoming obese doesnt mean thats what humans are supposed to look likethat.Obesity causes several cardiac conditions and cancers. stop trying to justify your unhealthy lifestyle and takes some reasponsibilty to live healthy.

[sosoblessed1]

you're absolutely right. thank your for watching and taking time to comment.

be blessed

[JinxClemintine]

You are freaking awesome! I applaud you for this video. You have a lot of confidence and thats what makes you amzing.

I think it all goes back to how others are raised and what morals are expected. it take a real mature person to look pass the outside of someone and treat them with respect.

[sosoblessed1]

oh wow, I feaking appreciate that compliment :) Yes it all goes back to maturity, morals and family values. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. thank you for watching and complimenting. I hope you get to view more of my vid. be blessed

[topCkurvy]

It is obvious to me that you ARE an "exception" ... your beauty shines from the inside out!! Great video. ~peace~

[sosoblessed1]

aww, now that's just beautiful.  thank you

be blessed

[blkpopeye]

Hi goreous: donot fret because people are hating on you... they are just jelous

[sosoblessed1]

no fretting here. but I sure thank you for the kind words

[Balldez]

You are killing yourself with food. That is not acceptable. Do something about it.

Fat people are bankrupting the health care system.

[sosoblessed1]

my sentiments exactly about killing myself, so I'm doing something about it. but believe me, there are many many thin and average sized people adding to the bankruptcy of the health care system, not to mention greedy CEO's and corrupt politicians. So although you're partly right about killing ourselves, don't blame the healthcare woes on us! but thanks for watching and commenting

[sosoblessed1]

oh yeah, by the way, I pay handsomely into the health care system and have only been in the hospital once (non fat related) and on absolutely 0 meds. it's not ALL of us

[Balldez]

Actually 25% of health care goes for treating the co-morbidities of obesity.

[sosoblessed1]

hmmm, I wonder where the other 75% goes? EXACTLY! thanks for proving my point. but you're preaching to the choir that I need to lose weight. that one's no ancient chinese secret

[daisygirrl1234]

...and stupid dumb ass people like you give our country a nasty name. No wonder EVERYONE hates the United States

[Dawn0564]

so are drug addicts, alcoholics, anorexics, and drunk drivers. people who are overweight arent the only ones who live an unhealthy lifestyle and in fact the average american lifestyle is not healthy whether youre overweight or not. and for the record i am not overweight, but it is wrong to put down people just because of the way they look.

[sosoblessed1]

Amen!

[Dawn0564]

thanks. i just cant stand to see people being put down, especially wen they already are going thru so much. i have people in my family who have struggled with weight issues so it affects me 2 that they have to deal with their own battle and then battle other ignorant people.

[sosoblessed1]

exactly! thank you for being so caring and wise.

[cthorste]

i'm not saying this out of self-pity, but as a fact that my brother, sister, mother, and most of all my father ridiculed me for being overweight as a kid. even as young as six years old. (yes, my father really did make fun of me when i was a child) they would openly criticize my weight at home and in front of neighbors and family friends. such as scolding me for having chubby fingers. nobody told them to stop, so in our community, it was considered okay to publically shame overweight people.

[sosoblessed1]

that is so sad and I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that, and I'm sure many other kids have gone/are going through the same. that is cruel and it causes people to become insecure adults. I hope you're able to come out of that with healthy self esteem and your own acceptance. thanks for watching and commenting

[cthorste]

as an adult, I'm definitely doing much better, thank you :). and their attitudes have improved over time, which is impressive given that most people don't change that much.

[sosoblessed1]

that's wonderful. thank you for answering back

[dsquaredproductions]

I'm not a BBW, I'm a big man, and the acceptance that I'm looking for is employment acceptance. I was working secruity at a nursing home and lost my job when they hired a new department director. The new director told me that I should start working out, that he wanted security guards who could run up to the 10th floor of the building and he wasn't confident that I could do so. I challenged him to a race up the steps, he never accepted. about a month after I was terminated.

[sosoblessed1]

wow, I sure understand where you're coming from there. If you can do the job, it shouldn't matter what size you are. I do know that the discrimination is out there, but my point was who cares if "they" accept me or not. However, I do understand what you mean about employment because to me, that's discrimination and not acceptance. sorry that happened to you. keep up the good fight. be blessed

[dsquaredproductions]

Thank you and God bless you.

[sosoblessed1]

you're welcome

[falloutpunk]

I think you're absolutely right, if we don't accept and love ourselves first we can never expect to get the same from other people. The only limitations are the ones that we place on ourselves. Self esteem and pride are the most powerful things you can project to people. The people that are not acceptant to us are the ones that prey on weak people that already hate themselves. It's much easier for someone to ridicule you when you already feel the same way. I'm glad you've had good experiences :)

[sosoblessed1]

you are exactly right and make some excellent points. haters prey on people who already feel bad about themselves. what we think and say about ourselves gives others permission to say and treat us the same way. thanks for watching and responding.

[HarDxCXrEDorKx]

amen girl.

thanks for speaking out!

=)

[sosoblessed1]

you're welcome. thanks for watching

[betsuny]

I think "size acceptance" means acceptance of one's own size.

I applaud anybody who can accept their size, because I'm always told that I'm too thin, but I'm still extremely self conscious.

[sosoblessed1]

yep, so it's not so much about size, but if you're happy enough to accept yourself even if you want to make improvements

[deeronz]

Dr. Phil said it best, "You teach people how to treat you."

[sosoblessed1]

You are soooo right. good to hear from you. be blessed

[shopperoo99]

this video is the reason I subscribed to your videos. I often ponder this question myself as to "who" is not accepting plus sized. I speak both for men and women plus size. Statistically most states have over 30% obese rate according to CDC and rapidly climbing everyday. It seems like the minority are the skinny and majority are fat. You would think minority experience more non-acceptance than majority fat. That's where I see your point about our own reflection of ourselves.

[sosoblessed1]

good insight and you're right, we're the majority even though tv and media would make you think that we're not.

thanks for being a subscriber

[ChihiroOh]

what is bbw?

(srry if its a dumb question)

[sosoblessed1]

not dumb, you're just not familiar. bbw is an acronym for Big Beautiful Women (woman)

thanks for watching.

[antigone414]

I think it depends a lot on where you live and who is around you. Many people are not concerned with weight at all. But I have had plenty of idiots screaming hateful things out of car windows when I take walks, nasty looks, etc. I've also been passed over for job promotions, despite being told I was "the best". My boss had monthly reports showing I was the most productive employee in the department. But his fat hating boss only promoted thin people. I am self employed now & they miss me. :)

[sosoblessed1]

I hear you. I couldn't see the non-acceptance, but many of you have opened my eyes by sharing your experiences. Like you said, it's much about who you surround yourself with and how you feel about yourself. That's said that your employers did you like that.  thanks for sharing

[vagabondesque]

Seeing an image so repeated in your life and world that excludes you can really make you feel not very accepted... along with using large size as an insult in itself... not being accepted doesn't mean that you don't like yourself or appreciate yourself but it doesn't foster self acceptance.

[sosoblessed1]

very good points.  thanks for watching and commenting

[Silverlenses4]

It's not about the size. I know a friend whose a supersize BBW too, and is well-liked by everyone for her jolly nature!

I think it's because 'fat' people tend to be self conscious, sensitive and low self esteemed. So they don't socialize too much. Not because people are not 'accepting' them.

Ok maybe i don't make sense. haha

[sosoblessed1]

no, you make plenty sense. that's why I ask if I and my sisters are the exception. If you watch my sisters dhille and luv2talkdeb, we are bbw's who have not experienced the non acceptance because we love ourselves and others and are very social. luv2talkdeb is supersized bbw and people (especially men) love her. how we think of and treat ourselves tells people how they should feel, think and treat us. If you project low self esteem and self loathing, that's how others treat you.

[antipodkayne]

Yes, the world of entertainment - movies, TV, books etc - use weight as an excuse to filth of weight bigotry and slurs. Weight bigots, famous or not, are from the place where the sun does not shine.

[sosoblessed1]

I hear you. thanks for commenting.

[steluta]

my opinion is that as long as it does not affect one's lifestyle or health, a person should not care much about their weight only because others have a distorted image of what a woman should look like and how much she should weigh. "if you don't like it, don't look at it"

[sosoblessed1]

I like that outlook. thanks for commenting

[defiantapple]

I'm pretty sure "they" is our media. Movies, television, fashion and other forms of entertainment almost always promote thinness. Those in the spotlight become heroes or idols of sorts to American youth, and when all of them are impossibly thin it creates a dissatisfaction with self amongst our youth. This creates two problems: a surge of eating disorders and an unspoken message that overweight people are unattractive. Both of these issues are very serious and very detrimental to the population.

[sosoblessed1]

very well said and I appreciate your comments

[SuperSizedSexy]

Weight discrimination is a very real thing, and "projecting that you love yourself" doesn't always make it go away. And even if it did does that mean the people who don't have self confidence are deserving of the kind of treatment big people get on a daily basis? I'm honestly shocked that you haven't experienced weight bigotry, but like a couple of people pointed out here in the comments it might be a race thing as well. Bigger girls are a lot more accepted in the black community.

[sosoblessed1]

I can appreciate your comments, but I am also of the opinion that the way you see yourself and project to others, is the way others realize they can treat you. Also, in the black community, being thin is looked at more negatively than being big. Now, that's not always good either because of the health related problems in the Black community. If I have been discrimminated against I sure didn't know or realize it...

[sosoblessed1]

I never said nor infer (or at least that wasn't my intention) that weight discrimmination was not real. I was simply asking the question or pointing out the fact, "Who is the 'they' that are not accepting of us?" and "Why do we care to be accepted by the 'they'?" Those are real questions, not meant to infer that over- weight people don't deal with "real issues". thanks for watching/commenting. be blessed

[krissy4nik]

Looking at someone who is tall or small isnt a problem it comes in when you start to attach stereotypes to those things.Fat people are seen as lazy they are often portrayed as ugly and there are fat slurs just like racial slurs.There is self-hatred but where do we learn it? The media DOES impact how people feel about various things including ourselves but to recognize it is to change it.

[sosoblessed1]

very true. thanks for watching and commenting

[StephFL07]

the fashion industry is against "plus sized" women, and basically "fat bashing" is the last socially acceptable form of discrimination. Its sad.

[sosoblessed1]

that is sad. thanks for watching and commenting

[arr0w420]

If you are fat and do not have a choice medical or thyroid condition then ok. Other then that all of the other discrimination is something that can not be controlled. skin color, ethnicity, religion, (to some exstint) disability exc exc.... These are thing that just simply are but size outside of medical is looked at as your fault.

[sosoblessed1]

I don't disagree.

thanks for watching

[krissy4nik]

So if i make a choice to dye my hair a certain color am i deserving of discrimination or attacks both verbal and physical.

[sosoblessed1]

definitely not!

[chickydoda]

I agree that its natural to stare at someone who is different whether they are disabled, tall, short or obese. The thing that usually strikes me is someone who is ridiculously thin. I've seen big people but never as big as some of the Americans on tv.

[sosoblessed1]

true, I've often said, where are these big people that I've seen on documentaries. but then I realize the don't or can't leave their homes. thanks for watching and commenting.

[chickydoda]

No problem!

[bobthesmasher]

You arent accepted becuase you give yourself a disability that costs every taxpayer.

why would anyone respect someone as weak and pathetic as that

[sosoblessed1]

like Visa, I'm accepted everywhere I go. but I am sorry your mom didn't give you the love, attention and hugs that you desired.

[NerdDanceProductions]

"like Visa, I'm accepted everywhere I go"

Oh Wow. That's awesome. Nice. -high five-

[sosoblessed1]

lol, thanks!

[orangebum123]

What I meant was, they feel inadequate because society puts pressure on them to be perfect. They may be happy with their size, their big nose, their height,etc. But they have been brain washed into thinking these things are negative.

[sosoblessed1]

you are so right. thanks for the clarification

[orangebum123]

Any person who doesnt fit into what is seen as "perfect" feels inadequate.

They might hav a big nose, too tall,too skinny, 5 pounds overweight, 500 pounds overweight, average weight but cause they're not skinny they still don't think they are "good" enough.

Instead of the government worrying about obesity issues, they should be looking at the bigger picture of why people don't feel they measure up to the standards that we are "meant" to be.

[sosoblessed1]

very good points. but I don't believe that any person that doesn't fit into what is seen as perfect feels inadequate. many people know they don't measure up to perfection but feel quite adequate. but I do get your point. thanks for watchig and commenting.

[Unonimus1994]

im 13 years old & im a size 14 i get made fun of all the time & latley iv been starvng myself tryin 2 loose weight but after watchin this video i feel dumb cuz i shoulnt try 2 change for other ppl i always liked my body alright but i dunno yeah & also if ppl wanna make fun of u then even if i lost weight they would fnd somthing else so when ppl blaim not living life cuz they think ppl r gunna call them fat thats dumb.

[sosoblessed1]

oh, sweetie I appreciate you watching and commenting. you are absolutely right, if it wasn't your weight, they'd find something else. I got picked on (just a lttle only because I was big and tall and the kids were scared to bully me, lol) about my big lips, big nose and size 13 feet. but I shook them haters off cuz I loved myself and was great at basketball. be blessed, keep watching and shake those haters off, then ignore them :-)

[TsarObezyanka]

Sweetie don't starve yourself. If you do then it sets your body into storing mode. Storing the fat thats already been accumlated.

[sosoblessed1]

very true. thanks for commenting.

[TsarObezyanka]

Your welcome I also Subscribed :D I like your videos :)

[sosoblessed1]

thanks for subscribing

[nightytheminarchist]

The medical community gives larger people hell for their size and will often deny them critical services and/or not provide the necessary care that they need. Larger people are also often the targets of negative media and or/propaganda ex. , the weight loss industry.

[sosoblessed1]

I hear ya and I really appreciate you watching and commenting. I also appreciate the activist who advocate for us!

[nightytheminarchist]

Im an "average sized(whatever that means, Im a 4-5)" size acceptance activist

who is not being accepted? Well, people who are not "thin" or "average" are often subject healthcare and employment discrimination as well as hurtful and dehumanizing harassment.

[sosoblessed1]

thanks for answering that. I guess I've just never seen it among my circle (and believe me all of us are over sized 14); but I do believe that it exist. thanks for further explaining it. also thanks for watching and commenting.

[sabrinaoregon]

Good question. I suppose it's a matter of the politics being big. Some people are rude. For example, I was recently criticized for dancing in a video...so I made a vid with me dancing...IN A SWIMSUIT lol. That'll teach 'em :)

[sosoblessed1]

lol, I must watch that. yes, celebrate that healthy body and love yourself to the fullest

[msphatgrll]

Very very good points you brought up about how we see ourselves beings reflected back to us.

I am wondering if size is more accepted in the black community? I haven't thought of it til now but I would be interested to know if maybe they are just more accepting of others compared to tight ass whites? Lol Maybe that is why you don't have acceptance issues? I dated a black guy for a while and he always thought I was too worried about what other people thought... He was right!

[sosoblessed1]

thanks for commenting. you pose a very good question/point. I can't speak for the white community, but bbws are definitely more accepted, and often even preferred, in the black community. not saying that's always a good thing(health wise), but most of us (black bbw's) sure could care less about what others think. even when we want to lose, we want to remaain bbw or thick. lol

[msphatgrll]

That's it I'm moving! I have watched the movie Phatgirlz like a million times and ever since the first time I saw it I've been entertaining the idea of packing up an moving to Nigeria so I can find a Jimmy Jean~Louis of my own! LMAO

[sosoblessed1]

Lord have mercy, that man is FINE! but girl you ain't got to move, just be confident in all of your voluptuousness and the men will come. confidence, good hygiene and sense of humor are key. stay tuned for my vid on that...

[Quelz617]

It's all about preference when it comes to a mate. Everything isn't for everyone so I can't be worried about who accepts me or not.

Good video. *5*

[sosoblessed1]

thank you for commenting and rating. great point

[sosoblessed1]

1actingangel,thank you so much for responding and expressing yourself so nicely and sincerely. so I guess a few of us are looking for the same answer. hopefully we can keep the dialogue going. thanks again

[dhille]

I liked the end especially... because I was sitting here thinking... "who cares?" if they don't accept us. good vid

[dhille]

I think it is all in the way you present yourself to the world. If you act apologetic to the world for your size.. then they will expect an apology. Being a BBW...I NEVER have a problem with acceptance. I know some people are not but I think its because of how they feel about themselves and it projects to others.

[sosoblessed1]

my sentiments exactly. but I do appreciate the advocates working on behalf of those who are not being accepted for whatever reason that escapes us

[1actingangel]

BLAH!!! I did not mean to post the second video as a response. lol. I don't know what I was doing, sry.