That's pretty sage advice, actually. I have a pretty low amount of self-esteem, and I never really feel good enough when I compare myself to other women. But the fact is that a lot of the women I'm seeing as better than me suffer the same insecurity that I do. Maybe they don't feel it as strongly, or maybe it's stronger for them. But it's a fair point to argue that I don't actually KNOW that these women feel so much more confident in themselves than I do. What I admire in them they may not see.
Any friends I do have are mean and their hobby is to tease me til I break or cry. I hate how people use me. I don't hang out with the right people but I don't get into anything bad. Emotionally I am destroyed. My self-esteem had gone down into the negatives. My whole my own older sister has done everything she could to make me look ugly so she looks like the better daughter. And now I've changed. I have two people who my best friends. I have a loyal and sweet boyfriend.Its all better now<3
"Communication has the power to solve a lot of problems the world has but because we isolate ourselves, we find ourselves dwelling in a reality that doesn't even exist anywhere outside our own mind".
What if that person has also communication problem? And other people (even the close ones) don't understand that person at all, even when she/he articulates clear? They consider that person as a lunatic. And there is no option of psychiatrist.
What a hard situation. And I totally missed the point here.
Sometimes I always think I have ADHD because I'm always hyper and weird and awkward, but my parents are in denial...Sometimes I think that I'm no purpose in life...Everything I try to do, someone is better. everything I love, someone loves it more. Everything I try to help, someone helps it more...Even the thing I love most of all, drawing, I didn't even win a stupid fucking contest...Even though so many people said mine was better... I hate the world. I hate life. I hate EVERYTHING! -,_,-
do you have some tips how to make your brain shut? because even though when i talk to people (btw. i have low self-esteem) i always assume things in my head about what they´re saying (such things as where are they wrong). i want to stop it, but i have no key to break it. please respond someone
Well , i have low self-esteem, but the thing is, i do talk to people.
Even though, i talked to a couple of friends about how they see myself, it doesn't do anything to help raise my self-esteem.
I think I have to accept myself before I get a high amount of self-esteem, but it's hard. I just feel uncomfortable about myself, and seem to find flaws in everything I say or do .
@aniciainoki ur just like i am i have very same problems and my self-esteem is so low that sometimes i saw why i was born but the key to a higher self estemm is not just accepting yourself is being prout of you accepting urself.
I have a low self esteem.... but i talk to people. Some respect me, some hate me. I do not care, for the opinion of others are nothing but opinions, and i know i can live my life in the way i want, not some stereotype. I want to be special, Most other people at my school like rap and pop, while i prefer hard rock and metal. People make fun of me, people try to step on me to feel better, people bully me. I just wait for their responsibility to kick in so people will not judge others.
Teenagers, we're getting too soft. Just because you're going through problems doesn't mean you should be comforted all the time. You need the truth to make you stronger. (I know because I'm a softie too)
Psychologist... not psychiatrist. Psychiatrists give out medication, psychologists heal with words, wisdom and methods. Lovely people ^^ My favorite person was a psychologist =]
No offense to you, Onision, but I gotta say that the way you put this makes it no better. In fact, it could make the problem worse because you are calling them names and that personally does bring someone's self esteem downward. What you speak is the truth,it's just the truth in a hard, kind of pessimistic manner.
I think Onision's just one of those straight-forward kind of people. That's why a lot of people get offended easily by him. I have the same problems as the person mentioned in this video, but what he said didn't offend me because I know that it's true.
Nicely explained, I think if you submit a question you're not asking for comforting but for his advice... if you want to be wrapped in cotton PUT SOME CLOTHES ON.
The only thing I'm self-conscious about is my mouth. I love my eyes, my hair, my body, everything aside from my mouth. And it's only because of how terrible my teeth are. Which I suppose is good.. Especially considering some people hate EVERYTHING about themselves. I got lucky. :D
i hate what i see, i dont like my body my voice everything, if i have no self a steem how will i get the currage, in school im the happy outgoing girl just so they wont pick on me, at home alone im the lifeles loser with 5 friends tops.
On the bright side i have sarcasm and LOVe laughing at my flaws :] you guys should try it :DD
I probably have something wrong with my head, but I get enjoyment out of pretending to be some one who I am not. Like a school I am all nerdy in class but when we get to talk I'm loud and ditsy. I am not that. I almost always have a good comeback to the things said to me, but I choose not to voice this and say something else to observe the reaction. I'm not an attention whore or anything, but I don't really know if I should stop this or not. I do this because humans interest me. Should I stop?
Dude that's so true its Just the fact humans tend to put themselves into situations where they feel they "need" pity all it is is a small minute bit of misunderstanding
I used to feel a lot like this when I was a teenager. I felt so odd and the popular pretty people treated me like shit and I suffered from social anxiety since.
talking to people isn't easy. And talking to people really did show what the world was really like. It's full of sick, fucked up, selfish assholes who only care about themselves and I hate it.
@Titanic4004 I can understand that if you're a guy, but girls tend to date guys who are taller than they are haha. But I see where you're coming from. Still, maybe try retaliating with tall jokes? "How's the weather up there?" never gets old!
Wow, this video was really good. It doesn't apply that greatly to me personally, but I do think that I have gained some degree of wisdom by watching this. Thank you, Greg.
@Titanic4004 I can relate to that, I'm pretty short myself and I get plenty of short jokes. Not all of them hurt - coming from family members or jokes I've heard one too many times - but a good majority of them just really piss me off. But if it really bothers you, just tell them to lay off. Who cares what they think? You have to defend yourself.
@Gaara613 I'm exactly the same =__= I have bipolar disorder too and I think the problem is that I don't think anyone can understand the phases we go through so we attract the wrong kind people because we think that's all we deserve. I think you need to slowly put some distance between you and this girl. A friend should be someone who makes you feel happy when you're around them, not someone who mocks you.
I'm in the same situation as "Autumn", however I talk to a lot of people and they aren't interested in conversations. I'm polite, I'm kind, I've been told I'm funny, but there's just something about me that people just don't like. I have friends, don't get me wrong, but I just wish I wasn't looked down upon, shoved aside, and given shitty looks all the time.
@IndianaJoker I get that feeling an awful lot too. Like, I try to make new friends, I try to be social, but I always get shot down. It doesn't seem worth it anymore.
And then my mom gets down my back on how I "hate everyone" and how I'm so stubborn when it comes to people's personalities, when I'm actually pretty friendly, people just don't acknowledge that.
@missexanimateerika Try to understand people more, get inside their head like the man above me here. I have a bad compilation of mental disorders, so people tend to think I don't like them when I get embarrassed by their touch or words. It's not their fault, but then they retaliate by aggressive behavior because they feel hurt or uncomfortable. It took me a long time to learn why they did this, but it helped me have a better disposition toward people I would have usually avoided.
@Chrome1101 Oh, you mean Asperger's Syndrome. I thought we were naming vegetables beginning with the letter A. No, I do not have that disorder. I have depression, but who doesn't these days, not a big deal. I also share most, if not all of the 'symptoms' associated with Schizoid and Schizotypal disorders. Nothing that needs to be treated. There is a chance that it could evolve into Schizophrenia later in life, but I think that if nothing has developed by now, it won't in the future.
@deadithink Ok lol. yeah i'm schizoid aswell because I like to be in complete isolation and don't wish at all to have friends or a relationship but i'm not depressed.
@didaskaleinphobic I know what you mean, I have a similar problem. When people come up to talk to me, I seem rude to them, which is why It is hard for me to make friends. They think i'm not interested in talking to them. I just don't know how to tell them that it is because I have social anxiety.
I feel like that, and you just said what I think, but sometimes is not that easy.. Sometimes you feel like when you talk to people, when you finally do it.. They dont treat you well, and then you can´t do it any more.. Becouse I´m stupid.. What am I saying, you are right, I shouln´t care about that, That´s why people sometimes is not like I would want them to be, becouse I don´t really want them to be kind or friends with me, either way I´d do something about it.
I believe that every person in the world dislikes something about themselves. I believe also that every person in the world, in some way, is fake about something.
We have to be willing to see that imperfection has its good qualities, and we also must be able to change only what hinders us from being happy for our own sakes and not for the acceptance of others, for they too are imperfect.
I think .. that... if I talk... , people think Im fat... and ugly and stupid...
I have issues with my weight , And I get told Im a normal weight , but I just dont believe them , Ive been bullied ... and I dont think , for me personally communicating is the best advice for me.I also suffer from diabetes ... which brings me down a little....Ive told people about this , and litreally ... its gets thrown back in my face like it isnt a problem..I need help..
A teenager thinking that everyone else is more attractive than themselves? XD Never heard that before...in all seriousness though, I don't mean to sound insensitive, I just do wish that people would be happy with who they are (without taking it overboard). Me, for example, I'm happy with who I am and what I stand for. Some people completely disregard that great things about themselves while others...bah well others need to not think so highly of themselves. Let's just leave it at that
@Gaara613 Same here, I'm bipolar too and one of my friends is like that. I told her to leave me alone and she keeps saying shes sorry even though she never is. She makes fun of me if I tell her to shut up about being emotoinal over her doing stuff like your friend does and she goes around calling me an emo because I'm emotional over stuff even though I'm not emo.
that is so true even i sometimes have that problem. i sometimes dont like what i see in the mirror, and i get shy tlking to the person that i like bc there so cute :) but i an trying to branch out to ppl and to tlk more :)
@jesupek Kind off, i mean loving yourself is wonderful but thinking you're the most handsome person? I dunno, something seems wrong about that but whatever, do whatever you want as long as you don't bring other's selfesteem DOWN. (:
What a stupid advice sir! I'd rather say that if you want to gain self-esteem, you must start loving yourself, no matter what, instead of asking other people's opinions. Self-esteem is based on your OWN perception of yourself.
I also think, that in a girl's case, self esteem relies on their appearance. L:earning to love your own body and be yourself is probably a big key to great self esteem...
i am scared to post my problems to you because whenever i watch your speaks vids it feels like i am a 5 year old who has just been told off for getting covered in mud, it really feels like you not comforting people in a nice way and instead interrogating them like they are stupid, just an opinion
@puppy1051 I think he's just very straight forward and is able to fully speak his mind, which scares people. He's trying to open up peoples' minds to different ideas rather than sugar coat everything, comfort them and or beat around the bush. That's mainly the reason why he's one of my favorite people on youtube. But I get where you're coming from.
@OKashli yeah i see where you are coming from too, but only on some matters, if someone is asking you a personal question about rape and is trying to confide in you what to do about it, be straight forward and tell them what they should do, but he screams at them and makes them feel stupid and inferior when all they want to do is get some nice advice :/
the problem is just that I suffer from Asperger Syndrom. The symdrome means that im having a really hard time understanding people, and just being with people in genral. I can't just "Get in their head and understand them".
if you ask people what there opinions are about you then they're just going to lie and say your a cool person..I know what the kid is talking about...maybe you'll come across some people that actually think you're cool but most likely if your not remotely attractive then no cool kids in school will like you.. onision wake up cause I'm sure you never had that problem in school. sure there were people who didn't like you beacsue you were a little weird but at least they didn't call you ugly..
@FriedRice2009 so your also being negative thoe in catagriseing people as cool an not cool, *the cool kids* wont want to know you?
does that mean other people arent which is true yess but arent in doing this you limiting yourself, isnt thier someone else you could talk to not sticking to this catagrisation of what is cool an uncool.
@101Gauntlett101 that's the point man. people like me don't want to talk to other people in the same situation. we want to be with the so called cool kids instead. we don't want to be in a group of kids that got rejected too. maybe onision does but not me
@101Gauntlett101 correct so cant you see whats wrong with that mind set *people like you* if you can see whats wrong with it then you can correct it, if everyone thought like that the world would be as your describing.
CONT> All it really takes is meeting just a handful of people who share your troubles and like you for who you are, not what you look like. Also remind yourself that their are 300 million people in the US (I assume you are from the US) Either way, there are A LOT of people in the world, and its tough when you are in school because the world seems small, but it isnt. Only allow people into your life that are a positve influence. Put the negative people on the ignore list! Not worth your time
Great post Onision! To everyone who doubts their personal worth and valure... I know your pain. I too have low self esteem, doubt my value and am turned off by what I see in the mirror. As I get older I realize that there are easily half of all other people who share these problems to some degree or another. I have also found that it is hard to have confidence when you dont have positve reassurances from people around you. Keep your chin up! everyone is special in their own way CONT>
im often extremely sad and unhappy and i get teased for the reason that i am what they call an "emo". i have trouble finding friends too, and since i have never had a boyfriend, and every girl in my class has, it damages my self esteem. when i look in the mirror i cry at what i see because i really hate myself. your amazing at advice onision. honestly.
i should add that after all you shouldn't pay too much attention to what others think of you. if you can then love and accept yourself. but it is indeed helpfull sometimes when some body tells you how great you are !!
low self esteem can fuck you up. When I moved to Australia I had a hard time making friends because of the large differences that the kids over here have and because of that I distanced myself form every one and labelled MYSELF as a social outcast. If only I had talked to people and tried to understand them more then I wouldn't have wasted 2 years of my life crying about it. You have to speak up or not even yourself will be able to hear you.
i wear v-neck shirts and when people assume that im gay and get the urge to share that with their friends and me i just spartan kick them in the mouth.. :D
that's hard one... good advice and not easy for some ppl to take. There are a lot of factors that go into who is popular in school, & looks is just one of them. If she starts talking this insecurity up, it could make things worse for her because bitches will know her weak points. I think she needs to come to auntie tc's for a week! :D Honestly though I feel similar to that girl. I hv struggled with it my whole life.
I recently just found a little self esteem. I don't have much friends and the one "best friend" I had turned into a wanna-be whore. She would make comments about her "skinny" body in front of me. She knew I didn't like my body and that I considered myself over weight. Her doing those things just made me feel worse. I eventually grew the balls to tell her to shut the fuck up. Lets just say we aren't friends anymore.
Exactly (: I'm studying communications in college and most all of my classes bring up "perceived reality", our thoughts happen in one reality which is our mind yet our actions take affect in another. It takes rare people to be able to realize this and even rarer still to act upon it. Most people are content living in their own heads, but it's impossible to truly be happy living in that ignorance.
it's sometimes so weird for me, it's like: when i'm around a close friend i can make other friends so much easier. but say i'm in a class where i dont know anybody i might not even talk to anybody for weeks in that class. that's what happened last year. my boyfriend didnt even know who i was for 4 years of middle school until
my best friend was talking to him on a bus to a feild trip and i felt comfortable with my friend and joined in. now i can talk to my boyfriend about anything, ya know?
i was and still i am i hockey player at our school we are "highest ranked" guys and "we got all the chicks and everyone wants to be friend of ours" .i am probably the opposite of lot of people who are watching this but im telling you that if you talk alone with one of these guys you will see that they act normal and all of them have their problems and imperfections. trust me you can talk to most of them.ok sometimes we make fun of people, but we make fun of us but we talk about our prblms openly
@JessDurden Ah, I remember guys like you in highschool..
The fact that you said "okay, sometimes we make fun of people" makes me feel like you guys make fun of people often, am I right? :P
Just don't be a dick, because you don't know if someone's had a really shitty day, and you don't want to add to that. Some people take it as MORE than a joke, you know? Don't damage people. Like you said, everyone has their imperfections.. everyone is the same, social groups just make it seem different.
@awxish dont worry i hear that i am fat midget all the time (not from friends its just teasing) and i remember one time and cause i had that shitty day we started a fight so i know that its not pleasant but i dont have to go home and cry that i am a midget...i just wanted to say that it depends on you (your mind, your behavior) what place you take in society...not your perfect body, nose, boobs or whatever............well often....its just a little game to get out of boredom :P
Well the problem is that people will give you crap regardless of whether you talk to them or not. Once someone sees you a certain way its hard to change their mind.If they see you as a shy nerd or whatever theyll probably see you as inferior even if you change your ways.And lets face it,if people are dumb enough to treat you bad for superficial reasons theyre probably not even worth talking to.Because theyre dumb.So it much more worthwhile to skip getting in their mind and continue to daydream.
if everyone saw the world for what it really is it would be quite barren, as people would be hiding from the fucked up nature of the world and people. But what do i know "glass half empty" guy right here
i know i'mma a sexy dude.. conceited maybe but whatevs.. that being said i don't.. or at least try not to put others down.. and generally try to be the most awesome person i can be.. too everyone... and to who ever thinks that they themselves not awesome.. i disagree..respectfully..i'm sure you're a beautiful person and i love you
How is it that my really name is Autumn and this is the same problem i have ?...
143codyandsnow 1 month ago
Great man Onision.
MjPringles 2 months ago
That's pretty sage advice, actually. I have a pretty low amount of self-esteem, and I never really feel good enough when I compare myself to other women. But the fact is that a lot of the women I'm seeing as better than me suffer the same insecurity that I do. Maybe they don't feel it as strongly, or maybe it's stronger for them. But it's a fair point to argue that I don't actually KNOW that these women feel so much more confident in themselves than I do. What I admire in them they may not see.
GenuinelyInquisitive 3 months ago 9
You're so smart it's crazy
TheMarissaStevens 3 months ago
Any friends I do have are mean and their hobby is to tease me til I break or cry. I hate how people use me. I don't hang out with the right people but I don't get into anything bad. Emotionally I am destroyed. My self-esteem had gone down into the negatives. My whole my own older sister has done everything she could to make me look ugly so she looks like the better daughter. And now I've changed. I have two people who my best friends. I have a loyal and sweet boyfriend.Its all better now<3
prettypunkprincess1 4 months ago
my story is exactly like autumn's i dont have many friends and i have a no self esteem whatsoever
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you have no education on this kind of shit
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TheStimpyland 3 months ago
I most definitely have no self of esteem
Nellebear89 5 months ago
"Communication has the power to solve a lot of problems the world has but because we isolate ourselves, we find ourselves dwelling in a reality that doesn't even exist anywhere outside our own mind".
wow very deep powerful words... very poetic.
Kir840 6 months ago
I have no self esteem :/
MOMOdoyle 6 months ago
Haha, yeah onision. You really know about good communication. Psychopath.
ToliveAnimations 7 months ago
i actually love his hair cut here :D
nachocomm 7 months ago
What if that person has also communication problem? And other people (even the close ones) don't understand that person at all, even when she/he articulates clear? They consider that person as a lunatic. And there is no option of psychiatrist.
What a hard situation. And I totally missed the point here.
braindamagedorange 8 months ago
can you plz help me i have a giant eego and no self esteem
Massivegamer2010 8 months ago
Sometimes I always think I have ADHD because I'm always hyper and weird and awkward, but my parents are in denial...Sometimes I think that I'm no purpose in life...Everything I try to do, someone is better. everything I love, someone loves it more. Everything I try to help, someone helps it more...Even the thing I love most of all, drawing, I didn't even win a stupid fucking contest...Even though so many people said mine was better... I hate the world. I hate life. I hate EVERYTHING! -,_,-
Tygerlily179 9 months ago
do you have some tips how to make your brain shut? because even though when i talk to people (btw. i have low self-esteem) i always assume things in my head about what they´re saying (such things as where are they wrong). i want to stop it, but i have no key to break it. please respond someone
AyuDomi 9 months ago
damn... onision is deep
crimsonjack3 9 months ago
yeah ill try what he says
rabidgamer219 9 months ago
Or just stalk their facebook. Idiots are pretty open about themselves in there. That's why we call them idiots. :)
92MickeyMouse92 10 months ago
Well , i have low self-esteem, but the thing is, i do talk to people.
Even though, i talked to a couple of friends about how they see myself, it doesn't do anything to help raise my self-esteem.
I think I have to accept myself before I get a high amount of self-esteem, but it's hard. I just feel uncomfortable about myself, and seem to find flaws in everything I say or do .
aniciainoki 10 months ago
@aniciainoki ur just like i am i have very same problems and my self-esteem is so low that sometimes i saw why i was born but the key to a higher self estemm is not just accepting yourself is being prout of you accepting urself.
anichrist666 10 months ago
Great video.
ZERAtul89ita 10 months ago
Your always right
MiaDepRockRionII 10 months ago
Mills???
Sorry, I have a friend who says all this shit too. hahaha
MangaKindaGirl 10 months ago
I have a low self esteem.... but i talk to people. Some respect me, some hate me. I do not care, for the opinion of others are nothing but opinions, and i know i can live my life in the way i want, not some stereotype. I want to be special, Most other people at my school like rap and pop, while i prefer hard rock and metal. People make fun of me, people try to step on me to feel better, people bully me. I just wait for their responsibility to kick in so people will not judge others.
0ggabOgga 10 months ago
AND THAT'S THE PROBLEM NOW!
Teenagers, we're getting too soft. Just because you're going through problems doesn't mean you should be comforted all the time. You need the truth to make you stronger. (I know because I'm a softie too)
BrownEyedStatistic 10 months ago
Psychologist... not psychiatrist. Psychiatrists give out medication, psychologists heal with words, wisdom and methods. Lovely people ^^ My favorite person was a psychologist =]
DaTartanSpartan 10 months ago
No offense to you, Onision, but I gotta say that the way you put this makes it no better. In fact, it could make the problem worse because you are calling them names and that personally does bring someone's self esteem downward. What you speak is the truth,it's just the truth in a hard, kind of pessimistic manner.
greygoblin61 10 months ago
@greygoblin61 Onision never called anyone any names in this video, aside from "Autumn", the person's pseudonym.
Licurius 10 months ago
Im sorry but whoever asked this I think they don't feel better
RizzyMissy 11 months ago
I think Onision's just one of those straight-forward kind of people. That's why a lot of people get offended easily by him. I have the same problems as the person mentioned in this video, but what he said didn't offend me because I know that it's true.
dreamgirlmusic 11 months ago
Nicely explained, I think if you submit a question you're not asking for comforting but for his advice... if you want to be wrapped in cotton PUT SOME CLOTHES ON.
JinxedOut 11 months ago
be nice.. :(
OffTrack7593385 11 months ago
wow well i used to stay up for 22days but thats cuz i was using meth so idk i should try it
vampfrek 11 months ago
Hmm...I'm pretty compelled to say that...Onision is awesome.
Aheroswelcome 11 months ago
I am the quiet type at school and I still make freinds.Somehow...
CheesWhiz60 11 months ago
Is this an online philosophy lesson?
TooJayForyou 11 months ago
The only thing I'm self-conscious about is my mouth. I love my eyes, my hair, my body, everything aside from my mouth. And it's only because of how terrible my teeth are. Which I suppose is good.. Especially considering some people hate EVERYTHING about themselves. I got lucky. :D
angelamaziing 11 months ago
i hate what i see, i dont like my body my voice everything, if i have no self a steem how will i get the currage, in school im the happy outgoing girl just so they wont pick on me, at home alone im the lifeles loser with 5 friends tops.
On the bright side i have sarcasm and LOVe laughing at my flaws :] you guys should try it :DD
sladunkaAa 11 months ago
Remember kids, it's down the road, not across the highway.
Neuroneos 11 months ago
WHERE THE FUCK IS YOU RED HAIR ONISION?
I DO NOT LIKE U ANYMORE :P
asna307 11 months ago
@asna307 omg thats exactly what i was thinking!!
superawesomeman3 11 months ago
great vid
GoznerPeter 11 months ago
U cant rely on any one ppl r out to screw u
Loveangelmusic924 11 months ago
@Loveangelmusic924 You* can't* rely on anyone* ,* people* are* out to screw you* .* *FACEPALM*
RAZINSKI 11 months ago
Alot of ppl r selfish uhave to do it on ur own I like having my own mind
Loveangelmusic924 11 months ago
I probably have something wrong with my head, but I get enjoyment out of pretending to be some one who I am not. Like a school I am all nerdy in class but when we get to talk I'm loud and ditsy. I am not that. I almost always have a good comeback to the things said to me, but I choose not to voice this and say something else to observe the reaction. I'm not an attention whore or anything, but I don't really know if I should stop this or not. I do this because humans interest me. Should I stop?
xXLissaTaylorXx 11 months ago
Dude that's so true its Just the fact humans tend to put themselves into situations where they feel they "need" pity all it is is a small minute bit of misunderstanding
jdrox109 11 months ago
I used to feel a lot like this when I was a teenager. I felt so odd and the popular pretty people treated me like shit and I suffered from social anxiety since.
ALEXWROCKS 11 months ago
talking to people isn't easy. And talking to people really did show what the world was really like. It's full of sick, fucked up, selfish assholes who only care about themselves and I hate it.
CelesteContradiction 11 months ago
"and because we isolate ourselves, we find ourselves dwelling in a reality that doesn't even exist anywhere outside of our own minds"
Dear Onision, you are much more wise than you probably think you are.
sarahaprilshowers 11 months ago
@sarahaprilshowers Ohhhh, maybe he can read the future as well.
deadithink 11 months ago
@Titanic4004 No problem!
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
@Titanic4004 I can understand that if you're a guy, but girls tend to date guys who are taller than they are haha. But I see where you're coming from. Still, maybe try retaliating with tall jokes? "How's the weather up there?" never gets old!
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
Wow, this video was really good. It doesn't apply that greatly to me personally, but I do think that I have gained some degree of wisdom by watching this. Thank you, Greg.
squal3469 11 months ago
@Titanic4004 I can relate to that, I'm pretty short myself and I get plenty of short jokes. Not all of them hurt - coming from family members or jokes I've heard one too many times - but a good majority of them just really piss me off. But if it really bothers you, just tell them to lay off. Who cares what they think? You have to defend yourself.
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
@Gaara613 I'm exactly the same =__= I have bipolar disorder too and I think the problem is that I don't think anyone can understand the phases we go through so we attract the wrong kind people because we think that's all we deserve. I think you need to slowly put some distance between you and this girl. A friend should be someone who makes you feel happy when you're around them, not someone who mocks you.
beepMYbeep 11 months ago
i jost whont to kill my self :( do you know what i men
321korn 11 months ago
I'm in the same situation as "Autumn", however I talk to a lot of people and they aren't interested in conversations. I'm polite, I'm kind, I've been told I'm funny, but there's just something about me that people just don't like. I have friends, don't get me wrong, but I just wish I wasn't looked down upon, shoved aside, and given shitty looks all the time.
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
@missexanimateerika It seems I have a twin.
IndianaJoker 11 months ago
@IndianaJoker Oh really? Haha.
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
@missexanimateerika Yeah! It really bothers me how I get that feeling that people don't like me, and i don't know why.
IndianaJoker 11 months ago
@IndianaJoker I get that feeling an awful lot too. Like, I try to make new friends, I try to be social, but I always get shot down. It doesn't seem worth it anymore.
And then my mom gets down my back on how I "hate everyone" and how I'm so stubborn when it comes to people's personalities, when I'm actually pretty friendly, people just don't acknowledge that.
missexanimateerika 11 months ago
@missexanimateerika Try to understand people more, get inside their head like the man above me here. I have a bad compilation of mental disorders, so people tend to think I don't like them when I get embarrassed by their touch or words. It's not their fault, but then they retaliate by aggressive behavior because they feel hurt or uncomfortable. It took me a long time to learn why they did this, but it helped me have a better disposition toward people I would have usually avoided.
deadithink 11 months ago
@deadithink Aspergus?
Chrome1101 11 months ago
@Chrome1101 Asparagus?
deadithink 11 months ago
@deadithink It's sounds like you have Aspergus syndrome or Autism lol? Just wondering what you have =)
Chrome1101 11 months ago
@Chrome1101 Oh, you mean Asperger's Syndrome. I thought we were naming vegetables beginning with the letter A. No, I do not have that disorder. I have depression, but who doesn't these days, not a big deal. I also share most, if not all of the 'symptoms' associated with Schizoid and Schizotypal disorders. Nothing that needs to be treated. There is a chance that it could evolve into Schizophrenia later in life, but I think that if nothing has developed by now, it won't in the future.
deadithink 11 months ago
@deadithink Lol asparagus syndrome. I just call it assburgers.
juggalojack13 11 months ago
@deadithink Ok lol. yeah i'm schizoid aswell because I like to be in complete isolation and don't wish at all to have friends or a relationship but i'm not depressed.
Chrome1101 11 months ago
why do you want to go in my brain? are you going to eat it?.... DONT EAT MY BRAIN!
1orcist1 11 months ago
Yeah I think thats good advice : )
missmetalflower 11 months ago
all the problems come from the head, sometimes impossible to cope with them
MeSantaLina 11 months ago
@Gaara613 Possibly, possibly haha.
XxHaileyHomicidexX 11 months ago
@didaskaleinphobic I know what you mean, I have a similar problem. When people come up to talk to me, I seem rude to them, which is why It is hard for me to make friends. They think i'm not interested in talking to them. I just don't know how to tell them that it is because I have social anxiety.
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PengTianPu 11 months ago
@Onisionspeaks this girl sounds clinically depressed. When life beats you down you tend to assume the worst..ie i will fail at this so why try.
stompySharpNpointy 11 months ago
i love this! and you! :)
Lookbubbles17 11 months ago
Your pretty much my psychiatrist Onision. Thank You.
AJWP4 11 months ago 123
@AJWP4 You mean psychologist
PizzaIsGood101 5 months ago 11
@AJWP4 Wow. That's sad.
NewAccJ12 5 months ago
Onision= God
xXHospitalizedXx 11 months ago
@Scifiwriteguy not necessarily. the manifestation of low self esteem varies depending on the person.
maciejayy 11 months ago
I feel confident most of the time but i often question myself
laurenmariebee 11 months ago
"i tend to get inside their head, and figure out how they work" way to sound pretentious ..
extruderofdertrude 11 months ago
I feel like that, and you just said what I think, but sometimes is not that easy.. Sometimes you feel like when you talk to people, when you finally do it.. They dont treat you well, and then you can´t do it any more.. Becouse I´m stupid.. What am I saying, you are right, I shouln´t care about that, That´s why people sometimes is not like I would want them to be, becouse I don´t really want them to be kind or friends with me, either way I´d do something about it.
PamsGoingOnRightNow 11 months ago
No self esteem is a good thing; the problem starts when you have high or low self esteem.
rollsthepaul 11 months ago
I believe that every person in the world dislikes something about themselves. I believe also that every person in the world, in some way, is fake about something.
We have to be willing to see that imperfection has its good qualities, and we also must be able to change only what hinders us from being happy for our own sakes and not for the acceptance of others, for they too are imperfect.
ErikaResponding 11 months ago
thanks
TheKatyLady1 11 months ago
Onisions really a deep emo little wierdo really.
He just does that immature behaviors for views because people would rather watch
that than some annoying guy sitting there talking about life.
JackLiboChannel 11 months ago
I have ... the exact same problem....
I think .. that... if I talk... , people think Im fat... and ugly and stupid...
I have issues with my weight , And I get told Im a normal weight , but I just dont believe them , Ive been bullied ... and I dont think , for me personally communicating is the best advice for me.I also suffer from diabetes ... which brings me down a little....Ive told people about this , and litreally ... its gets thrown back in my face like it isnt a problem..I need help..
FredLovesMe100 11 months ago
You're a cool guy but I hate your main channel because it's just immature humor.
ankl3deep 11 months ago
A teenager thinking that everyone else is more attractive than themselves? XD Never heard that before...in all seriousness though, I don't mean to sound insensitive, I just do wish that people would be happy with who they are (without taking it overboard). Me, for example, I'm happy with who I am and what I stand for. Some people completely disregard that great things about themselves while others...bah well others need to not think so highly of themselves. Let's just leave it at that
NerdboiisAfroMan 11 months ago
Fag
LonleyDeath1423 11 months ago
story of my life :/
clubfreakawesome 11 months ago
@Gaara613 Same here, I'm bipolar too and one of my friends is like that. I told her to leave me alone and she keeps saying shes sorry even though she never is. She makes fun of me if I tell her to shut up about being emotoinal over her doing stuff like your friend does and she goes around calling me an emo because I'm emotional over stuff even though I'm not emo.
XxHaileyHomicidexX 11 months ago
@Mousteache I agree with you, you must love yourself to feel confident, don't care about what other people say about you
EdgarGtzArteche 11 months ago
@Scifiwriteguy
Tell me about it
BlueRivaly 11 months ago
you sound like a scientist. cool
supremeoveralskaters 11 months ago
that is so true even i sometimes have that problem. i sometimes dont like what i see in the mirror, and i get shy tlking to the person that i like bc there so cute :) but i an trying to branch out to ppl and to tlk more :)
funnygalish 11 months ago
My friend called me fat. I agreed. We played games. Problem solved.
Tekkame 11 months ago 36
Whenever I look in the mirror I fall in love with what I see.
For me I am the most handsome person I've ever laid eyes on.
And I don't care about others' opinion. Thinking about me being ugly has never occurred me. Is it wrong that I love myself more than anybody else?
jesupek 11 months ago
@jesupek Kind off, i mean loving yourself is wonderful but thinking you're the most handsome person? I dunno, something seems wrong about that but whatever, do whatever you want as long as you don't bring other's selfesteem DOWN. (:
WritersIdea 11 months ago
That may just lead to having a higher opinion about yourself because you know that everyone else feels like shit.
TheSickHumanBeing 11 months ago
@Yuffie3982 really am I'm the only one who notices he's just assuming she doesn't talk to any one?
kyleriehl 11 months ago
I notice your scar now that you've mentioned it :/
I don't have many friends but I'm happy with my few close friends even though atm they are all arguing I suppose I love them all anyways :)
PsychoGirlHere 11 months ago
your 100% right O.o
XxXRoffeXxX 11 months ago
Hmm. But having low self esteem means she would not want to communitcate with antyone
MrJCPokemon 11 months ago
What a stupid advice sir! I'd rather say that if you want to gain self-esteem, you must start loving yourself, no matter what, instead of asking other people's opinions. Self-esteem is based on your OWN perception of yourself.
Mousteache 11 months ago
When I hear that "Thanks for watching," My heart smiles. c:
DeathByGameBoy 11 months ago
I agree with Onision.
I also think, that in a girl's case, self esteem relies on their appearance. L:earning to love your own body and be yourself is probably a big key to great self esteem...
DreamWriter99 11 months ago 2
i am scared to post my problems to you because whenever i watch your speaks vids it feels like i am a 5 year old who has just been told off for getting covered in mud, it really feels like you not comforting people in a nice way and instead interrogating them like they are stupid, just an opinion
puppy1051 11 months ago 84
@puppy1051 Tbh most people don't listen if you're nice and comfort them.
dXLucyXb 11 months ago
@puppy1051 He's being blunt, and correct. Why should he say it gently? All he says is what we've heard a hundred times, and ignored
superchristian102 11 months ago
@puppy1051 yes but you realize his videos are just an opinion?
mhesss337258 11 months ago
@puppy1051 im scared to, for people who cut themself ok, but its harsh :/ eeh.What do ya gotta do, be happy he is being himself :]
sladunkaAa 11 months ago
@puppy1051 I think he's just very straight forward and is able to fully speak his mind, which scares people. He's trying to open up peoples' minds to different ideas rather than sugar coat everything, comfort them and or beat around the bush. That's mainly the reason why he's one of my favorite people on youtube. But I get where you're coming from.
OKashli 11 months ago
@OKashli yeah i see where you are coming from too, but only on some matters, if someone is asking you a personal question about rape and is trying to confide in you what to do about it, be straight forward and tell them what they should do, but he screams at them and makes them feel stupid and inferior when all they want to do is get some nice advice :/
puppy1051 9 months ago
the problem is just that I suffer from Asperger Syndrom. The symdrome means that im having a really hard time understanding people, and just being with people in genral. I can't just "Get in their head and understand them".
finipigenmovies 11 months ago
Onision looks like 2-D for the gorillaz, you cant see his eyes lol
Meroroko 11 months ago
if you ask people what there opinions are about you then they're just going to lie and say your a cool person..I know what the kid is talking about...maybe you'll come across some people that actually think you're cool but most likely if your not remotely attractive then no cool kids in school will like you.. onision wake up cause I'm sure you never had that problem in school. sure there were people who didn't like you beacsue you were a little weird but at least they didn't call you ugly..
FriedRice2009 11 months ago
@FriedRice2009 so your also being negative thoe in catagriseing people as cool an not cool, *the cool kids* wont want to know you?
does that mean other people arent which is true yess but arent in doing this you limiting yourself, isnt thier someone else you could talk to not sticking to this catagrisation of what is cool an uncool.
101Gauntlett101 11 months ago
@101Gauntlett101 that's the point man. people like me don't want to talk to other people in the same situation. we want to be with the so called cool kids instead. we don't want to be in a group of kids that got rejected too. maybe onision does but not me
FriedRice2009 11 months ago
@101Gauntlett101 correct so cant you see whats wrong with that mind set *people like you* if you can see whats wrong with it then you can correct it, if everyone thought like that the world would be as your describing.
101Gauntlett101 11 months ago
Reality is rather boring though. I watch it everyday while peering through the blinds in my darth vader costume.
quirkjerks 11 months ago 37
@quirkjerks hell yea lol.
ohshitmanda 11 months ago
CONT> All it really takes is meeting just a handful of people who share your troubles and like you for who you are, not what you look like. Also remind yourself that their are 300 million people in the US (I assume you are from the US) Either way, there are A LOT of people in the world, and its tough when you are in school because the world seems small, but it isnt. Only allow people into your life that are a positve influence. Put the negative people on the ignore list! Not worth your time
joetheagent 11 months ago
Great post Onision! To everyone who doubts their personal worth and valure... I know your pain. I too have low self esteem, doubt my value and am turned off by what I see in the mirror. As I get older I realize that there are easily half of all other people who share these problems to some degree or another. I have also found that it is hard to have confidence when you dont have positve reassurances from people around you. Keep your chin up! everyone is special in their own way CONT>
joetheagent 11 months ago
@joetheagent oOO its a great insight , a nice argument i´d learned how to live with those probs. thx.
TheYJULE 11 months ago
you get a lot of esteem...:D
TheYJULE 11 months ago
my motto is: live life and get on with it!
marxipanlol453 11 months ago
im often extremely sad and unhappy and i get teased for the reason that i am what they call an "emo". i have trouble finding friends too, and since i have never had a boyfriend, and every girl in my class has, it damages my self esteem. when i look in the mirror i cry at what i see because i really hate myself. your amazing at advice onision. honestly.
libbyisafailure 11 months ago
i should add that after all you shouldn't pay too much attention to what others think of you. if you can then love and accept yourself. but it is indeed helpfull sometimes when some body tells you how great you are !!
TheBastianNo 11 months ago
@Scifiwriteguy everyone finds it hard at first, you have to push through it and feel scared to death a few times but after that itll be easy!
TheRealReasonForDP 11 months ago
I'm selling my self esteem at ebay, anyone?
hjaldemort 11 months ago
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suicidalquiff 11 months ago
Preech on Brotha.
moorebounce 11 months ago
<--hybrid
AntiBieberMilitia 11 months ago
Truer words were never spoken - nice job Greg!
9gje9 11 months ago
Well said Onision.
We may be delusional without even knowing it.
GunShard 11 months ago
Oni, you're always doing videos that I believe I'd like advice on. It's weird, in a way. But you really help me a lot, thank you.
xCandyAppleXx 11 months ago
i've asked this before but..why do you ''like'' your own vids?? it'not bad ore something..it just seem odd to me..
Co0kieDealerr 11 months ago
@Co0kieDealerr because he can
RogueVlogs 11 months ago
Thanks.
TiMo3mtb1 11 months ago
low self esteem can fuck you up. When I moved to Australia I had a hard time making friends because of the large differences that the kids over here have and because of that I distanced myself form every one and labelled MYSELF as a social outcast. If only I had talked to people and tried to understand them more then I wouldn't have wasted 2 years of my life crying about it. You have to speak up or not even yourself will be able to hear you.
ImJogginWithScissors 11 months ago 2
I hate to say this, but I was incredibly shy from all of high school (In Australia Yr 8-12) until mid yr 11, when i lost my Virginity. :\
Kinda odd how stuff like that works, the strange things that happen that build up confidence...
B1ushMoe 11 months ago
Very good video. Take notes people.
bddblade 11 months ago
i wear v-neck shirts and when people assume that im gay and get the urge to share that with their friends and me i just spartan kick them in the mouth.. :D
Idontsharethings 11 months ago
that's hard one... good advice and not easy for some ppl to take. There are a lot of factors that go into who is popular in school, & looks is just one of them. If she starts talking this insecurity up, it could make things worse for her because bitches will know her weak points. I think she needs to come to auntie tc's for a week! :D Honestly though I feel similar to that girl. I hv struggled with it my whole life.
realitytc 11 months ago
I recently just found a little self esteem. I don't have much friends and the one "best friend" I had turned into a wanna-be whore. She would make comments about her "skinny" body in front of me. She knew I didn't like my body and that I considered myself over weight. Her doing those things just made me feel worse. I eventually grew the balls to tell her to shut the fuck up. Lets just say we aren't friends anymore.
XxDumbleDorexX 11 months ago
thanks onision
LitrexPk 11 months ago
ok
PRCR3VV 11 months ago
It's such a weird coincidence that whenever Onision makes a video, most of his topics are something that I just discussed with someone.
mikerules999 11 months ago
Exactly (: I'm studying communications in college and most all of my classes bring up "perceived reality", our thoughts happen in one reality which is our mind yet our actions take affect in another. It takes rare people to be able to realize this and even rarer still to act upon it. Most people are content living in their own heads, but it's impossible to truly be happy living in that ignorance.
MissKatastrophe321 11 months ago
you know what i do if someone trying to make fun of me (simple) i fucking kick hes ass that what i do!
6rockthehellout6 11 months ago
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6rockthehellout6 11 months ago
it's sometimes so weird for me, it's like: when i'm around a close friend i can make other friends so much easier. but say i'm in a class where i dont know anybody i might not even talk to anybody for weeks in that class. that's what happened last year. my boyfriend didnt even know who i was for 4 years of middle school until
my best friend was talking to him on a bus to a feild trip and i felt comfortable with my friend and joined in. now i can talk to my boyfriend about anything, ya know?
Katiecatkitty 11 months ago 3
i was and still i am i hockey player at our school we are "highest ranked" guys and "we got all the chicks and everyone wants to be friend of ours" .i am probably the opposite of lot of people who are watching this but im telling you that if you talk alone with one of these guys you will see that they act normal and all of them have their problems and imperfections. trust me you can talk to most of them.ok sometimes we make fun of people, but we make fun of us but we talk about our prblms openly
JessDurden 11 months ago
@JessDurden Ah, I remember guys like you in highschool..
The fact that you said "okay, sometimes we make fun of people" makes me feel like you guys make fun of people often, am I right? :P
Just don't be a dick, because you don't know if someone's had a really shitty day, and you don't want to add to that. Some people take it as MORE than a joke, you know? Don't damage people. Like you said, everyone has their imperfections.. everyone is the same, social groups just make it seem different.
awxish 11 months ago
@awxish dont worry i hear that i am fat midget all the time (not from friends its just teasing) and i remember one time and cause i had that shitty day we started a fight so i know that its not pleasant but i dont have to go home and cry that i am a midget...i just wanted to say that it depends on you (your mind, your behavior) what place you take in society...not your perfect body, nose, boobs or whatever............well often....its just a little game to get out of boredom :P
JessDurden 11 months ago
Well the problem is that people will give you crap regardless of whether you talk to them or not. Once someone sees you a certain way its hard to change their mind.If they see you as a shy nerd or whatever theyll probably see you as inferior even if you change your ways.And lets face it,if people are dumb enough to treat you bad for superficial reasons theyre probably not even worth talking to.Because theyre dumb.So it much more worthwhile to skip getting in their mind and continue to daydream.
BenderBurgers 11 months ago
if everyone saw the world for what it really is it would be quite barren, as people would be hiding from the fucked up nature of the world and people. But what do i know "glass half empty" guy right here
KineticFetus 11 months ago
I want to have long deep conversations with you Greg.
PinkKissedLips 11 months ago
Thank you for this video... it was exactly what I needed to hear right now..as I am the same way as the person who asked the question..
warpedsmurfette 11 months ago
i know i'mma a sexy dude.. conceited maybe but whatevs.. that being said i don't.. or at least try not to put others down.. and generally try to be the most awesome person i can be.. too everyone... and to who ever thinks that they themselves not awesome.. i disagree..respectfully..i'm sure you're a beautiful person and i love you
nivlemsurik91 11 months ago