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  • I used to be really shy.. the main thing is to just say what comes to your mind. I'm not really that shy anymore.

  • i'm an VERY shy and kind of a loner at school. Take it from someone that knows: it is MUCH harder than it sounds:'( i try to build up the confidence to talk to someone and then it goes away. And it's always so awkward trying to start a conversation because I never know what to say or talk about.

  • @LiVeLoVeVoLlEyBaLl77 I am the same way :(

  • Im shy but alot of girls told me i was cute. And i fucking hate being shy. Im actually growing out of it alittle. But all u people saying u dont know what it feels like. I do im somewhat popular only cause my looks but i wanna show my personality

  • @uxrxaxnoobxx For a start, stop telling yourself that you ARE shy. Makes it difficult to move beyond that state if you always see yourself in those terms.

  • Thank you thank you thank you!!!!!

  • It's harder than it seems!!!!

  • I talked to my mom and our relationship got worse.

  • if this woman knew anything about making friends she wouldnt have time to make worthless videos on youtube

  • How did I make friends...?

  • no i do not have any friends that will hang out or have fun i have been single for twenty years this year with out friends to do that with me and no girl to go out with that is one of the reasons why i am here

  • @rockinsingleguy88 Wow ! I just had to respond to this one. Love yourself, love life, it is beautiful. Happiness is on the inside : )  If you just want to meet a girl quick try one the dating services such as Match.com. You can meet someone on there quick. There's probably not a lot of "HOT" girls on there but i'm just sayin if you want some company. I personally would rather have a "sweet" average girl anyway.

  • @destruct2construct i agree

  • it is not that easy to make friends out there every shy person is waiting for the other person to say something more then hi how are you they want them to say a sentences that is also what a guy is waiting for a girl to do

  • I'm to shy I try to say hi but I just can't idk why its just somthing stoping me I feel scared of rejection : ( I don't want to be bullied anymore.

  • Wow, This is the most bullshit I've heard in a while lol

  • I dont have any friends so i tend to stay home, ive tried to make friends everyway i possibly can but still no luck. im at the point that trying dsnt seem worth it. People just hate me from first sight. some people just cant be helped

  • its easy 4 me

  • i do that every day i still have no friends

  • @rockinsingleguy88 find something you have in commin with somebody else and follow these or find out if you do something that not alot of people do like speak another language or a hidden talent then peole well find you interesting.Hope it helps

  • @rockinsingleguy88 well were friends!!:) yahhhh!!!!!!!!!!!! so happy!!!!

  • @Dora7840 yahh sure

  • @rockinsingleguy88 yahh!!!!!!!!!! were friends...y dont u have friends

  • I find quality more important than quantity, but if meeting and being "friends" with lots of people is your goal, I would suggest getting to know the popular people.

  • @troydeancarpenter But what if my ex is in the popular people "group". Plus the popular people are fucking retarded at my school :|

  • @iTasiaa I think it's common to find all the retarded people in popular groups. That's why I mention preferring quality over quantity. You may have to seek groups that your ex isn't a part of. There's almost always more than one popular group.

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  • @iTasiaa - The first thing to understand is that real friends are not usually going to be found in cliques. Most people in those types of circles are somewhat friendship shallow in my opinion. It's more or less an image thing. You have far more with your small group of 5 friends than you may know.

  • Thanks for the advice. I'm a Junior transfer student at a new college and I don't know anyone. I'm terrified. I will take your advice. Because honestly, what have I got to lose?

  • I've heard alwyas have a smile on ur face, you don't want to look stupid smiling at nothing

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  • @mexillionbabe She doesn't mean literally ALWAYS having a smile on your face, she clearly means have a light hearted manner about yourself, act in a way that seems like you are not entirely hell bent on creating a good first impression, mearly be yourself just less openly shy.

    Essentially what I gather from when she says "always have a smile on your face" is that she means learn to act as though you are relatively happy.

  • I have a friend that used to be my best friend but she's found someone else and I feel left out I don't have a close friend now Wichita makes me really sad all the time

  • thanks

  • that sounds terrifying:/

  • its hard to make friends, my past group are assholes they only want me when it suits them, i just stick to myself but would like some company from time to time. anybody

  • Kinda hard when i went to a 100 kid k-8 school and moving to a city with a school that has 2000+ kids i hate the city i hate my life specialy when i had to leave my girlfriend and barely ever get to see her

  • I hate being shy and I have my own little group of friends who I sit and talk with and sometimes, very occasionally I will end up talking to some other girl in my class. But, everybody knows me as the, not very pretty, quiet person. I can't help that. I wish I was pretty, I wish I wasn't quiet. My life sucks!

  • thank you!

  • there are lots of extroverted ppl lecturing on what it's like to be shy. I think playing sports (any kind of sport or physical activity) or joining a club is a way to ease into the whole "talking to people" thing. (but only if u are actually interested in that activity) Get into activities that hook u up with ppl, or that make you proud. Introversion is a killer, but you don't need to get killed by it, you need to realize that it's also a gift. The world's most confident ppl are introverts.

  • I Love your voice btw..

  • That's right... FLAP THOSE LIPS!!

  • I think saying hi to someone strange is soo weeeeeerd

  • @mrso0ora Better not say, "Hi" to you then. Imagine if no one said, "Hi, my name is Mr. Flapping lips."

  • THANKS! i'll try.

  • I stopped school 2 years ago,i have no job and no friends!!!!!!What can i do?

  • @ArtistWoOoOo

    Neighbors!

  • @MichaelChin1994 all of my neighbors are in ages 20 years older then me or more,and have work when you have free time...

  • @ArtistWoOoOo 20 years is not an issue. I'm only 17 and I have lots of friends that are 30-60! People are still people no matter how old they are. If you talk to a child like an adult, you'd be surprised how much they actually know!

    (The reason why I'm here is because I'm shy around pretty girls :P >_> )

  • @MichaelChin1994 hhm i know i have some "friends" o nthese ages but believe me my neighbors is not a good option,and also i really DO NEED friends in my age,i need to go out with them,to have fun,laugh to not care if i look like a child if i say sth wrong or stuff.I really need friends in my age or around it,plus i kinda look 15 on appearance and i always was able to talk to younger than me always :/

  • its hard to make friends, took me almost a year to make 1 good friend, and it didnt really last that long. i think its just the person, some people could make friends, hang out, talk to people naturally. but others, like a small percentage of society will never make true friends or have any friends at all. its a chemical in our bodies that dont allow us to do normal things like everyone else.

  • Can you make a video on how I can get a girl to like me after I asked her out

  • I'm the kid who sits at the corner of the lunch room but lately I haven't been eating lunch I just go to the bleachers and sit there for the whole lunch hour as of now I haven't talked to any1 for 4 weeks. :'( talking to people doesn't work it just put me as a outcast

  • people expect too much from me, i mean dont always expect me to say hi to them!!! at least say hi first to me, its always like that ugh!

  • @ed391929 naw... I'm not pretty and When I talk to people it almost always turns into a conversation... Even if it's hot guys... No one really cares about your looks if you're interesting or smart or funny.

  • i can keep a conversation going its just  starting the conversation which is hard

  • god bless you

  • I am so going to go out of my way and do this.

  • This is my 2nd day at a high school and im a shy person. I already made 2 new friends from just a small conversation with a total stranger. :D

  • I wanna know if u can help me since I kinda get scared to tlk to people

  • Saying hello will get you laughed at unless you're actually attractive. So I guess I might as well just give up by December if nobody talks to me.

  • @ed391929 screw what people think, just go out there and talk!

  • Hmmm... Taking tips from a 50 yr old woman sounds good ;) jkjk its hilairious lyk i wud even do tht lmffaaaooo :)

    I dnt even knw why im on this i hv frienndss :P

  • yeah so i didnt do BABY steps i did BIG steps im in a grope with 5 girls

  • this was refreshing to see i'm not the only one really shy but still i'm not sure that after two years of being a loner at school and all the time with no friends i will be able to actually make any friends and in two weeks i am going to a new school

  • Thank you Its my first day at college and this made me feel a bit more confident~~

  • OMGosh i did this and realized that this is all true! haha one day there was this person who was COMPLETE STRANGER to me, then when I just said hi and called him best friend, then soon after eveyday I meet that person now is my friend :) *im not saying it'll work for everyone

  • OH GAWD, its to late for me to make freinds im a loser i tried doing your advice before it just made it worse D:

  • my bestfriend is crazy shy! and she go to a different high school as me and said she dnt have any friends... and im like your a fun person you just need to show it. so we looked this up. and i dont think sayin hi to random people is a good idea.

  • It's easier said than done...

  • but im scared at school i want to say hi to people but im scared they might be like UMMMM HI... or not say hi back

  • @123BeautyRush ok you should join a club or somethin or a sport. Im that kinda girl that freinds come to i dont know why .lol i think its because im loud but whatever but ;)in no tyme u will be runnin the school.

  • @MrsPretty15 but i usally dont make the club or good at any sports. but i'll try

  • its not that easy...

  • @rosepixielott1105 Tell me about it.

  • @rosepixielott1105 Tell me about it...

  • I could use these tips for my workplace, but it's just difficult because everyone already has their circle of friends and your expectations are probably different from theirs.

  • i use to be outgoing but in secondarty school girls starting calling me a ugly ogre and guys use to bully me im so scared i cant even talk to people i nearly lost my best friend because she thought i was ignoring her but its just because i was scared to talk to her infront of her popular friends

  • I feel like I always have to make an effort but the person will give about 5% when you give 95%.

  • Omg i love you ! <3

  • u have a professional voice! :D

  • Legitimate friends are not made quickly.

  • its not that easy. making friends at college is about networking, and talking 2 the right people. people have preconceived notions about others which may exempt you from becoming an actual friend; you will most likely be nothing more than an acquaintance. plus u will sound desperate

  • I have to go to a church youth group now, and most of the kids there already have best friends because they went to school together. and I've met them all before, but i want to be included in a group so i don't always have to be the loner who sits by themselves until the last minute, or look around frantically when we have to get into groups or partners.

  • I'm moving to a new school soon, and i hope this works, cause i've been to alot of schools 5 to be specific, and i've made very less friends, and everyday when i go to school i had only 1 friend to sit with everyday, along the way i only made few more friends, really less so i'm gonna try open up a little more and hope it works thanks mariedubuque.

  • u just blew my fucking mind !

  • good tips!!!

  • you should get a better camera

  • im pretty shy i can like only talk to guys in person...

  • It's works, good advice :)

  • Have you actually tried these tips? Or have you just read them in books?

  • and im in 6th grade too like royalzev

    bragirl...

  • i always feel like i have no friends, and i feel very left out and alone, tough i do have some friends, but we never hangout outside of school, and im afraid to ask, and i used to have meny friends but they all kinda faded...

    Aaand im very shy

  • RoyalZebraGirl--You're just not talking to the right people. Find kids who are friendly and nice to everyone. There have to be people like that at your school. Don't give up! Middle school is hard, but you can do it. You will have friends, I know it. Just make a little effort. Really, don't give up.

  • I've been in my school for 7 years K-6th and never got a friend there. All I got was a big empty caferteria table. Alone while everyone else is laughing and talking. I mean I'm the only one in 6th grade whose alone. I try being as nice and funny as I could but everyone thinks I'm annoying and worthless. My life is truthfully pathetic.

  • @RoyalZebraGirl Wait till you get into high school with no friends. It's even more horrible.

  • @14sJakeB190 thanks :)

  • crazyfreak--Talk to someone, anyone at your new dance class. They won't think anything. Just get there a few minutes early and chat with the person next to you. That is really normal.

  • I went to a dance studio and now I'm going to a new one........, I'm being ignored and ppl r giving me dirt looks at my new dance class someone plz help me I'm so lonely........ :"(

  • TheAtomicBox--You are not alone! I think everyone feels like that at some point in their lives. You are just not meeting the right people. Look for kind eyes, and you will find people you can really talk to.

  • i feel like people are repelling me and i feel like the only person on the earth.

  • @TheAtomicBox At least I know I'm not the only one who feels that way.

  • There are nice people out there, you just have to find them and you will! Don't sit by yourself at lunch. Find people with the kindest looks on their faces, even just one person that you know maybe only a little bit. Ask to sit down. No one will turn you down. Try it. That will be a great start.

  • Im going to a new school next year and im not gonna have any friends to start, im probly gonna eat lunch by myself unless I find out how to make new friends. I would always have my old friends there for me and im pretty much losing everything. the only people who seem to get friends are the ones that act all badass, any advice?

  • whenever i smile at someone or say hi, they just think im a weirdo :(

  • ummm... one person a day.....? maybe that will take months.....

  • well i have watched couple of video's of how to make friends and they all dont help much , i guess i will block out every one and get a job and live in my own house and be on the internet and watch tv who need's friends when i got the internet :)

  • hi,thank you for uploading this video.ive been in college for more than a year but still cant make a friend. :( i feel extremely lonely and miserable everyday and i just dont know what to do because im very shy.i really hope this will work for me.thanx.

  • I have like three friends and the only reason is because they only make fun of you, but when they need something they want to start talking to you like normal..... Fuck! those (friends)

  • What if you aren't in college and live in your mom's basement hanging around on the internet all day?

  • LEAAAAVE BRITNEYYYY ALONE!!!

  • thought this was for youtube lol

  • get better quality

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  • Its like this: (dick) hey dumb bitch your fat and stupid so fuck you but ooohhh I DO get to fuck you. (me) hey Im old fashioned, I want to take you to a classic dinner and a movie date and I will bring you a beautiful rose because your beautiful and maybe a box of chocolates too. (her) EEWWW NO your a stupid pussy and you should feel like a total failure reject for even asking!! somebody beat him up!! (me) ouch! fuck! ... I FUCKING HATE THAT BULLSHIT!!! I dont look bad I just have no confidence

  • @e1kie well just be real to yourself, if your not confident than thats who you are, and except it....theres nothing wrong that, we all have flaws and i would rather be with someone who is humble and less confident than someone who is overly confident and just acts like the world should kiss his ass. i hope this helps. smile.

  • No one wants to open up to me even though I know Im a GREAT friend. (all theory no practice) And if I open up Im labeled as the weirdo and no one can ever be just a decent friendly person. Animals can be a very fun distraction but lemme put it this way: you cant fuck a dog. I would listen to anyones problems and can be very friendly but in this society it sucks.

  • People think I'm a loner becasue I have no friends in my homeroom :( But I dont care I made so many friends after wards

  • animals are better than ppl ^^ u don't have to talk at all! just scratched behind there ears and they'll love you forever ^^ <3

  • ...i hate this kind of advice

    honestly if i were friendly to somebody i would get a awkward stare and they would laugh

    so i ignore people so they cant do it too me

  • @nucca35 Exact same thing happens to me.

    I just don't talk to anyone anymore because they just look at you and laugh or they just say hello and walk away.

  • @IakFox Totally agree, it might've been different in her generation, but nowadays people are very rude. When you try to be be friendly to people, you either get get a "Hi, wth do you want look", they laugh in your face, or if they are kind enough to acknowledge you they're usually really brief and avoid you next class

  • @Symbolism07 Indeed.

    It is very strange don't you think?

  • @IakFox Yes, yes it is

  • @Symbolism07 Everytime a shy guy like me tries to say hello to anyone its always like some big fucking deal like they always act like I have to have some big specific fucking reason to say hi and when I dont, THEY judge ME. The only friends Ive ever had arent true friends. Theyre siblings friends that come over every now and then but I never get to go an hang out with them at their house. I never found any one true "tell anything to friend" and it literally makes me want to assassinate myself.

  • @e1kie I thought I was the only one, or a rare breed. I've never had a "true" friend either; just people that have passed through my life for a brief time but didn't stick. And most of them were mean to me, backstabbers, bimbos, etc. I don't want to assassinate myself though, but it makes me feel like never looking at a person again because they will judge me. Screw 'em, I am what I am, and if they don't like it they can fuck off.

  • @nucca35 I feel ya

  • if u said hello to anybody at the school i go to u'd just get beaten up

  • I don't have friends at my high school and I don't know why!!

  • i only have a few friends in real life but i have no friends on youtube but maybe its cuz i just joined

  • I'm looking for a place (website or forum) just for shy people, so i can share my experiences with others. Any suggestions? ANYONE!

  • @stianbirkholz same here my friends sister shes about 12 she goes to high skl or secoundry skl she know people there shes got friends when its lunch time and break but in classes she feels lonly like she knows people but ppl dont seem to like her shes just lonly when it come to classes shes very lonly and i hav had the sama experient

  • weirdoify---Take one step at a time. Try to find a nice, kind person and talk to him/her..Just one is all it takes. If you can't make eye contact, try looking at people's foreheads. Then as you get more comfortable with someone, you can look them in the eye. Remember, one person at a time, baby steps. Soon you will see a difference. You will make friends and actually become social. Also, see a licensed therapist if you can.

  • =S do you think you can help me? I am erm EMO-Ish- freaky,, i am different from everyone.. i cant look ppl in the eye.. and i dont really fit it.. ppl pick on me V_V and i am always left out.. and I am so depressed!!! HELP D:

  • @weirdoify lol same heree well my friends sister shes 12 shes got friends at lunch and break but not friends to popular ppl so shes lnly shes not a emo but she feels left out she cant look ppl in the eye when she speaks she get picked on because she has thick eyebrows i tell not to worry but she doesnt know wat to do lol

  • @lollipop1234ize  wow why would someone make fun of another persons eyebrows, thats just pathetic

  • I really wished I moved away and made friends that are new and in the same situation as me. I'm going to do that next either at drama school or uni. Dont care what people think. Think your the best and you will be, thats what I'm doing.

  • you and you feel uncomtable being around them and working with them because you just want to punch them in the face and this is coimg from a girl who doesnt usually judge people. I'm not liking the course anyway its putting me down and it feels like Im not getting the support I need.

  • being there made me feel a whole lot worse about myself

    there arent many people in the class and most of them are the type of people you wouldnt trust and act like a bunch of false immature retards who think they better then

  • I'm a young attractive girl and I dont have that many decent friends because of the situations I've been in . I joined a uni course which I looked forward to for ages

    and I dont like the course,

  • I've only have one friends, I found that a lot of people can be manipulative.

  • @DaftG343 lo y does life have to be hard without friends

  • I do talk to one person a day...then they don't talk to me anymore, and I'm really being myself around them. So now they have to talk to me if they really cared or want to get to know me. :)

  • loganandalydia--There is really nothing you can do, except learn from it. I know it's hard. But if you figure out what went wrong, you can either change your ways, or if it's something she did, never pick a friend like that again. It could also be that it's no one's fault. People change, and friends change over the years. You can't make someone contact you, But maybe in about six months send her a text saying "miss you, thinking of you." And maybe she'll respond. If not it's ok!

  • i need ur help  wil u pleSE tel me what i should do when ur best friend and u have been together our whole lives and she just stops textin u and calling u talkin to u

  • Just looked over my neighbors fence and his grass really is greener...bit of poison should do the trick. Thanks

  • dairymarie--Thse people could be correcting you just to bring you down and elevate themselves, to some how feel superior They are looking for a reaction, so don't give them one. Instead of getting embarrassed, simply go on with what you were saying, like "Anyway____" Don't let these people undermine your self confidence. Say what you want to say proudly! And you might want to look for new friends.

  • I really appreciate these videos, they have some helpful techniques and encouragement.

    My only couple problems now are that I come off as a really clutzy spaz case sometimes because more often then not I'm stressed about school or exhausted from studying. I also come off as unintelligent and I feel unintelligent when things come from my mouth and people correct them. How do I overcome this fear of sounding inferior or overworry when someone corrects a fact or statement I make?

  • Hey, I wonder if yu are a student counsler, because ALL yur videos are very helpful to me. Thank you =}

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  • @22creepy aww ill be urrr besstt frienndd:)

  • Thanks alot Ma'am U saved my life :)

    im in High school And I have no friends Bcause Im Too shy

    But thanks Alot im Going to do what you said On Here :)

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  • I do this all the time XD And now everybody... well maybe 50% of the people at my school know me, so I walk around, and just hear 'Hey Eddie' Its pretty awesome.

  • my life suck... i have no friends at all

  • @22creepy Oh you poor thing :((((

  • @22creepy i will be your friend?lol i dont have friends neither.....-______-

  • @22creepy

    I wonder if it has anything to do with your username?... hmm....

  • @22creepy Same here. :(

  • @22creepy  same :(

  • @22creepy ill be ur friend(:

  • Benaminto00--Maybe on the web you are more yourself and less nervous. I know it's hard, but try being that way in school too. What do you have to lose? Just be yourself, and don't worry so much about what other people think. You might be surprised.

  • I dun Noe y...I can meet really nice people on the web but in school...it seems to be really hard to find any...I only had one friend I could trust but now that I'm switching to a school in Swiss... I dunno wut to do

  • Very good tip!