Real relationships don't occur like that anymore, the jackass that makes the mistakes in the first place is the one to blame, raise your damn fucking idiot children to think rationally and people wont fuck up relationships, peace.
really like wtf its not only guys gesh like yeah guys are the main abusers but u make guys that are actually good boyfriends feel horrible so just say partners or something cuz there is still a large amount of abusive girls
Currently in a relationship like this.I am leaving him in a few days.You forgot the best one they say-No one will want you the way you are.Its funny how the abuser gets more upset when you just dont cry or get upset anymore.Anyone in this predicament needs to run the other way!!! I have been through 3 months of this crap and I am done!Everyone deserves respect.
I had a verbally abusive girlfriend for almost a year. When she told me she wanted to get married it made me wake up and smell the coffee. I dumped that Peruvian cunt like a bad habit and slept like a baby that night. I hope she is eating out of a dumpster right now.
i would like to say I AM A MENTAL ABUSER and this vid is right im seeking help to stop my actions im not phsicly abusive but after my fiancee left me she told me i was a mental abuser i then reasearched it and she is right its horrible the way ive treated her and i WANT to change after thinking about this for a few days ive come to realize its not just her its my family and friends i do it to as well and it makes me feel horrible i am a mental abuser and i want to NO i will change!
@mysteryprince04 I think a lot of abusers become abusive after being abused one way or another. Even if you don't have a memory of something like that happening that doesn't mean it didn't happen. Anyway whatever the reason you must find it and you need professional help to deal with it. My advice talk to your doctor to get referred to a counseling. It's good that you recognize it in yourself. You can change. It's just fear that makes you do this things.
I used to be emotionally abused by my father. He has told me that i am selfish, when i am not. To get him to stop hurting me, i would tell him that i AM selfish and that would get him to leave me alone. If you are being abused, get help. Don't stay silent. You don't deserve to be treated that way.
I am a 20 year old guy. And I just got out of a nearly 2.5 year relationship that turned sour after year 1. She was so insecure, she hated anything in my life that was out of her control, and cheated on me multiple times and blamed me for it each time. The worst part of it was, she had this incredibly sweet side that she used to suck me in. And it worked every time. Once you get out of an abusive relationship, you will see how snowed you truly were when you were in it.
RosewaterElf - you misunderstand me. Able-bodied adults who endure "emotional abuse" are psychologically wounded and unaware of how to set and enforce their boundaries. "Liars" are wounded people who are afraid to tell the truth. See sfhelp.org/relate/abuse.htm
@gercacn Often it's both. They don't know how to set themselves on the right path. At the same time though, I start telling lies. The more they tell them, the more they believe them. I think it's what's called the power of suggestion? Often it starts in childhood with the emotional abuse. They start lying to try to avoid the hurt. Then they're wired to always lie to avoid the hurt. Eventually they might not even realize they're lying because they've said these things so many times.
This unjustly paints "abusers": as "liars" instead of victims of early-childhood trauma themselves. It also disempowers abuse (aggression) "victims" from seeing their own wounds and learning how to protect themselves.
@gercacn Many people are abused in childhood and don't go on to abuse others. Using that as an excuse stops the abuser making lasting change. A victim cannot 'protect' themselves from someone who wants to abuse them, when everything they do will provoke an abuser, be it crying, leaving, agreeing, begging, staying silent etc. Stop enabling abusers and think before you post!
There is no hope, there is nothing left, everyone is like this. I leave the house and everyone hurts me. He makes it seem like it is my fault. He says they will see me a mile away and work against me if I were alone. He makes me feel like without him, I am nothing. I will never make anyone happy. I don't buy people enough things, do the right thing, not pretty enough, not smart enough or emotionally stable enough a job. He isn't the only one that hurts me. It is a daily ritual.
@7777anastasia - i get that daily off my scumbag parents (and their online stalker conspiracy etc) all my life too, impossible to move and escape cause there's no jobs so no money, and no places to live - everythings online and they stop me getting online properly also. they control it all in paranormal ways too to prevent what i actually want and need showing up, it's like astral-kidnap and soul enslavement.
@7777anastasia There is hope! It is the hardest thing to leave someone. I know. I did it. If you have just one person who believes in you, grab hold of them. Don't believe what he tells you because it is not the truth. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!
@verrrr1 - and you abused 4D and time-travel machinery again, just to go back in time and post that (you being same as other scumfucks stalking me etc here), because YESTERDAY i posted elsewhere about how you go around posting sex-abuser comments from male perspectives only, 'note how the perv never posts anything about female organs'.
so you went back to 2 weeks ago just to post that here, then posted to me with another of your channels so i'd come here TODAY and see it.
@verrrr1 - cunt you ruined the whole of spacetime just to basically bully everyone in actual-reality.
you're like a twat that got held back for over 10 years in school, and you're left in the same tard class every year - and the twat tards pretending to be teachers let you bully and abuse all the other kids.
that's what your timebent evil has done / is doing still.
it can't be fixed, you all have to be rolled back so to speak, so it's as if you never existed. but with the memory that you did,
@verrrr1 , cause otherwise they'll just manifest you all over again in the 'next world' if they don't have a lasting reminder of how shit this one is all because of you.
@verrrr1 - i look forward to the day i leave this reality, without you having got from me what you need. that is how things will unfold. whether through death or otherwise isn't relevant, as that is how things will unfold.
i look forward to your realisation of how you misused all the time you have here, to just fuck about and imagine you're brilliant etc cause you think i love you. obviously i couldn't even like someone with such a dispostion of disrespect as that.
@verrrr1 - i also look forward to the time when you realise the horror of having to wait even a second in this evil reality, thinking you can make it so i have to go through here via linear time and i'll somehow just forget all that excruciating torture of having to be in here in this fucking mess of a spiritual prison. then we'll see who laughs at their little stolen freedoms allowing them movement into the future etc, when it's all over.
@verrrr1 - right, i found where you left that timebent comment,
/watch?v=b5uIjKGB3NQ
that's where i pointed out how 'you' don't post perv stuff from a female perspective,
and that made you post a comment to me here later, so that when i came here i'd see that you posted a perv comment from a female perspective BEFORE you'd have been able to do so if you had merely posted it as a response to me.
so how are you time-travelling? is it just remote-viewing astral-highjack or body-travel-also?
@verrrr1 - i need to know what you do when you timebend, because it's the same process that stops me manifesting my reality, and keeps me trapped in the evil manifesations of my scumbag parents etc - what you do when you move ahead, you loop that future back onto the present, which locks everything to unfold into only the reality you went ahead to - which is always the same limited-mind reality with nothing real and no real people in it.
its too bad this follows the myth that men are always the abusers and women are always the victims. Sadly there is an extremely high percentage of male victims but that is where these groups close their eyes, cover their ears and harden their minds and hearts. How about portraying the REALITY of abuse and making it gender neutral.
i hate talking about it. he is really trying. my father is like this.His Father was like this. He also beat my grandma. She wasnt allowed to do anything but cook for him and he punched and kicked everything. she started going crazy, and now shes real sensitive and gave up on everything. and i have to hear shit from literally the hole family.. my dad loves me so much but treated me so much like this up until now and im filled with anger and sadness that he doesnt know. im trying to fix it.
@gaisensie That sux. Let me offer heartfelt advice, 2 get yr life on track, as it may be impossible 2 change him. Your responsibilty is to yrself. Life is made of time & yr life is yours. Own it. Understand he did the best he could, which failed U. Leave anger & sadness behind. Figure out what U want 2 do w/ yrself in the next 5 years; Make & follow an education plan. Don't look back. Teach others how to treat U by yr actions. Today is the 1st day of the rest of yr life. Be happy & successful.
lemme see:"its 4 ur own good"you always make me mad""the only thing ur good 4 is in bed"if u love me you will do what i say"ur ugly""u look old""shut up""im not yelling this is my normal voice" and she yelled at me all the time.dont forget that wen they want to b they can b sooo understanding,caring,apoligetic"im sorry i wont do that again'"ill change"i could go on and on.they always have an excuse.dont listen to it and get out wen it 1st starts.
my husband controls all of the money i don' have a job and i don't know how to drive my mom was abused i was abused my my real and step father and my mom is still with him my stepdad i'm afraid to leave cause i don't want to be homeless and i don't want to move back with my parents everyone thinks my husband is the perfect man he works two jobs and goes to school so people think i.m just good for nothing i stay at home with our two kids and he makes me feel bad for everything and blames me
@samanthamarieand me too...my ex gf (son's mom) used 1:12 alot, shit makes me so damn mad. Thankfully my current gf is the total opposite, I mean we can talk calmly, she lifts up my spirits she truly loves me. She actually likes to cuddle and likes to be a real couple (hold hands, kiss) unlike my ex who tried controlling that aspect of the previous relationship. I'm sorry but when you're physically and verbally abusive and you're not showing but a 5% of affection you gotta gtfo.
If you are in, know someone in or think you are in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, Chicken Nachos is a must read! Change the laws to protect the innocent and help protect the victims as they free themselves from the abuse.
My stepmom often criticizes me and does things to piss me off. For example, almost every time I get up on the weekends and get food, when I close the cupboards she goes "Slam! Slam! Slam!" in the most irritating way to make me mad. She also tells my dad things so he will get mad at me. I am never right, and when I start to prove her wrong, she gets mad and storms off. I have no immediate relatives I can go to. I have tried talking to her and my dad and it didn't work. What can I do?
@veson231 My mother is like that. My dad is powerless against her...
Idk. I dont have immediate families to go to also. Thee best thing is prayer. Pray with FAITH that God should touch both our mother's hearts. People say that we should get away from those that abuse us...but what about when they are RELATED to you? Only God can help. If not, then idk what to do...
G-luck with your stepmom. No one should have to go throught the things we go through. ;(
its all so true....all so true, so, just so right. you, my friend, you have made the truth heard, god's love does not happen this way, praise be that he lets someone like you show the truth about manipulative abusers.
Some of you need to 'grow the fuck up' and wakey already. Souls are souls, whether you're in a female or male body is just different if you are going to have kids, since obviously if you're a soul in a female body then you'd be carrying it and giving birth etc.
Differences aside from that - those are all instilled by 'society'. Without that imprinting none of that shit would surface much anywhere. Sure there's hormonal diffs but those exist to prepare the body should you have children.
@randomlarpingman - oh so you do agree with some 'progressive' things then. What's the problem with realising the soul-abuse that all the stupid applications of backward tech cause then?
@randomlarpingman - so do you regularly spend years posting to people who you don't want the attention of? Is there a club I can join, made up of your other victims?
@MarkGubbish - yes you have proved that your golem-like obsession with both me and my 1943 cent is like what transpires in the lord of the rings saga -
you stalking me around the place, you being obsessed with the 'precious',
however at least golem in the film doesn't project his fails onto the hobbits he stalks - unlike you do to me.
kill yourself, look how sick you are - to be posting to a video all about sickos like you, not even caring what a scumbag you are.
@fetishisticrose - as usual, you're another sicko stalker of me channel, from the same scumfuck evil mind-controlling satanist peado-cult member as the paedo markgubbish etc there.
you stalk me obsessively, you don't even know me at all, you can't explain how you decided to begin stalking me and why etc etc etc -
it's about you. read the type of sexually depraved abuser comments you write about me, consider how you have no right to even seek to be in my reality.
@MannySteinerBIeeky yes , I agree ...you should seek psychological help - *note to self -LOL don't feed the troll* LMAO....but I DO love the attention you're giving ME! Thanks!
@fetishisticrose - i told you before scumfuck - whatever your stupid tiny mind thinks is how things are - isn't how anything really is.
i'm not paying you attention, i'm taking you apart. you're too stupid to see that even though i've been blatant about it all along, to all the many peado-cult channels you've stalked me with, including on this video.
@MannySteinerBIeeky LOL.....you are a borderline personality disordered person....I get it...that's what you want us to figure out....you're a borderline sadistic personality .....YES! I get it now! good acting skills! Thanks for sharing!
@fetishisticrose - you are denying you're the same peado - just using a different channel?
when it's obvious you're the same paedo satanist scum that was using a different channel in that thread you replied to there. which means you really are insane, plus you've done that 1000s of times.
and that you imagine i even knew or care about you - much less am playing some guessing game, when i've made clear this is no game and never was - also proves you're evil and stupid and mad.
@MannySteinerBIeeky Dude, seriously ...i don't know what a 'peado' is ...but you're really fun and entertaining. Makes me wish i was a satanist.....maybe you should knock off the sauce....if ya catch my drift
@fetishisticrose - maybe you should stop lying and projecting your same child-molester-cult lies there. as it's more than obvious you = sozlled and are using your tiny evil consciousness to make me think i'm posting to myself elsewhere, where you used your sozlled channel to post the same lies you do here, and with your markgubbish channel etc.
you don't fool anyone evolved, you scum are so thick and evil and you never even see how obvious your mechinations are.
@fetishisticrose - maybe you should stop lying and projecting your same child-molester-cult lies there. as it's more than obvious you = sozlled and are using your tiny evil consciousness to make me think i'm posting to myself elsewhere, where you used your sozlled channel to post the same lies you do here, and with your markgubbish channel etc.
you don't fool anyone evolved, you scum are so thick and evil and you never even see how obvious your mechinations are.
@fetishisticrose - and also - you are a 'satanist' in the sense you are pwned by evil and are a mere tool for carrying out the same lower-chakra lies poisoning reality,
or you wouldn't have posted what you did to me here. or anywhere else. etc. you're markgubbish etc, you're actually that stupid you do this all the time - act like it's not obvious you're the same person when you join in one of your other-channels stalker pervert threads.
@fetishisticrose - more lies from your satanic-frothing possessed idiot mouth again eh.
do you actually imagine that you can make my original responses to you seem unoriginal just by stating so? do you really think no-one but you can see how you're the same freak as markgubbish and all those channels?
you're so dumb you think you holding a sign up saying you aren't doing what you are doing, is enough to fool anyone don't you.
kill yourself, you're a demi-urges succubus at best.
@fetishisticrose = same paedo-faggot satanist as michael deveny of 71 forsyth street in greenock conspiracy.
all the same useless-eater ahrimanics, using the dirty noise-polluting gaia-abusing tech your peado-cult conspiracy brought here, to make everyone evil and stupid like you are - by raping the aethers and all harmonic waveforms with your nature-reduction and noise.
kill yourself, it's you that doesn't matter. realise that, freakshow.
Geeeez, still trying to find a video for men like me who love their GF, and her ex is abusive and wants to kill me, and asks her out every day, and she says no, but does not want to be mean. And I don't want violence. Guess there is not one video like that here. If you know of one, please let me know! PS, they have a special needs child together, so he uses his own child to make her kind heart feel guilty. ...Abuse just sucks. Period.
the light is not far behind in this life. I am thankful for your post . I do believe that Narcisssism and Emotional Abuse are hand in hand we put two Narcissists together add emotional abuse and we NEVER STOP LEARNING.! We LISTEN when our partner tells us to.. This is all Human Nature
My mother was abused by my dad. At least, that is how I see it at first glance. But when I look deeper, I see that my mother never really gave my father a chance to be a good man. She didn't believe in him. That is no excuse for my father's actions, but nonetheless, is that abuse? Could my mother have abused my father even though it was ALWAYS my father yelling hurtful things or getting physical? I think yes. I think wives abuse their husbands JUST as much as vice versa... it's a two way street.
he liked when I was upset or mad he would laugh and get off on it even though I was nothing but sweet to him and better looking than he was. But I pity him because his childhood is what turned him into a psychopath but I can't save him he has to save himself. I just don't know why he's so sadistic, it's been months and months and he still prank calls my house and makes his friend do the same makes him say stuff to my parents too. The only thing I resent is how he tricked me into falling for him
@glammmetal i just wanna hug you.I had this video saved in my favourites for a long time.i decided to re watch it and saw your comment.Yeah it's hard...and yeah it's been over a year and half since i got out of the relationship i was in..and he still occasionally calls my house..last time to say horrible things to my father that he wouldn't repeat to me.ppl don't understand that it's not as easy to get away from the sick person who is a psychopath..stay strong(even get a restraining order)
@italianzorro yes I agree. I ask myself why tho?. I wonder is it because women want the same things that men have and have no idea how to get it?. Most women are in minimum paid work. I can't help wonder that if women had more of their own resources and didn't have to reply on another person for a standard of living, perhaps things might be different. It's just a thought.........
Utatori, sounds like you might be a submissive, and if so, you can do SO much better than that. and a submissive isn't a doormat. if this is not the case, i appologize and hope you get the help you need. cuz what she did was wrong. roseblaze33@yahoo.com
The best one I got was 'Your lucky I'm so spiritual, cause otherwise I wouldn't be interested in you' meaning your lucky I don't care your overweight and not hot like me.
The best one I got was 'Your lucky I'm so spiritual, cause otherwise I wouldn't be interested in you' meaning your lucky I don't care your overweight and not hot like me.
@italianzorro there are things in the bible about divorce and abuse. but i have not read it in a long time so i do not know for sure. but infidelity and abuse are and probably would be the only exceptions to never divorcing. i will actually try and look up the verse again
@italianzorro ...What if your partner is emotionally abusing you and there is no way they are going to try to change via therapy etc...divorce would be the only way to get away from the abuser. This is where confusion kicks in for me. Divorce is discouraged in everything I have read, but I don't think God wants people to suffer (in my opinion.) What is your opinion on this?
Men are to live wth their wves with undrstnding. womn in rspct and hnor to hsband. Humlity gves God’s grace to do ths. Womns undrstanding of respct and honr may nt be the man’s idea. Man’s undrstanding of being undrstanding is not alwys wht the womn wants. Ths leads to abse.My husbnd is a liar, mst dstructive thng in my life. I lft bcause I flt I ws ging insne, litrally. decsions,he chnges them, qustions, he lies abot his frst answr,cnfront him on needs and issues,fixes thm by hving sx.
Be careful who you label as emotionally abusive, of course all forms of verbal and physical abuse are completely unjustified, but we're all flawed human beings who get angry and say things we shouldn't. It's an unfortunate truth that abusive relationships need both an aggressive and a passive partner, if the passive individual was assertive they would always express themselves when they are upset and nip aggressive behaviour in the bud, or simple leave the relationship altogether.
@korictixor Really? You don't know what you are talking about. I am not passive at all and I am married to someone who is abusive. I've put up with his up and down moods for 20 years and my patience is wearing thin. The reason I have not left yet is because I am loyal and take the marriage relationship seriously. Hopefully my situation will be resolved soon one way or the other because I feel like I am literally wasting my life on this guy.
@TheScriptureAlone - Same here. 20 Years.....I keep hoping that things will turn for the better. We don't sleep together anymore because he can't have ANY noises or disturbances when he sleeps, he hates my family so I rarely feel I can go visit them (but I make sure I do). He doesn't like any of my friends and prefers to stay home day in and day out and on weekends watching movies. There's more but you get the idea. I'm in a downward spiral ... alcohol, and abuse of prescription meds...
Excellent video. However, the line, "Many verbal abusers are delightful charming men in public" disturbed me. It left out abusive women. It should read "Many verbal abusers are delightful men/women in public." And it is true, by the way...the woman who used to verbally abuse me is totally delightful in public.
@chrisman737 i am with you on that, my mother was viewed as a moral, and verrrry charming nice person to everyone else. everyone would think i was crazy if i said otherwise, and i would never hear the end of it if i did say anything. i think ppl should be more aware of the fact that not just boyfriends/girlfriends who abuse. i believe it is MUCH harder to avoid an abusive mother/father, who has told u what is right and wrong since u were born, and the person who uve always trusted.
@chrisman737 Agreed. A woman's words can pierce down to the center of your being. They better be nice. Sure, they can't physically dominate most relationships, but men are not robots. We have feelings and you can't say whatever you want. You have to realize we need you to be kind to us so that we can be kind to you.
@tpstrat14, yes, and thanks for writing. And, in terms of the physical angle, there is a way that women can dominate there as well. For when a woman hits a man it is seen as acceptable -- the assumption is that the man must have done something wrong. Also, the man is told to "take it," otherwise he is not a man. So physical abuse continues. But once the abused man snaps and fights back, even with just one slap of the woman, then instantly he is the villain and dangerous. Double standard.
@chrisman737 4:1 suicide rate for men. I think this issue has a lot to do with it. Whereas society allows women to feel blameless about how they handle their dysfunctional relationship, men are made to feel all the guilt. I don't know if my dad is suicidal, but this is how he looks at his failed, dysfunctional relationship with my mom. She was the angel and he was the demon that defiled her. Only I know the truth about my mom's faults. Society doesn't see it the way I do.
Out of the 21 things that were said, my parents have told me 16. Although I left home, this brought me back to those years where I felt I had no voice. I am still trying to work through those tough times, but there is not a day that goes by where I don't imagine them saying these things to me. Thank you for making this video.
1.29 in the video "Nowhere in scripture does God sanction any kind of abuse"
bullshit...
check out evilbible(dot)com
Ritual Human Sacrifice in the Bible Just a tiny sample:
Genesis, the first book of the Bible, has Abraham preparing to sacrifice his son to God. "Take your son, your only son – yes, Isaac, whom you love so much – and go to the land of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains, which I will point out to you." (Genesis 22:1-18)
Umm, why was the example of "men" used here? I know more female abusers than I do male. Stereotyping based on gender is just wrong. It also denies men being able to reach out for help because they've become so heavily identified as the abuser by virtue of their gender. This story of abuse has played out long enough. I have rarely ever met a couple of combination of partners who aren't both abusing each other, either insidiously or overtly. Rarely is there one "good guy" and one "bad guy"...
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an emotional abuser will often play the victim and make the abused feel like the abuser, alot of women use sex as a weapon of control, they hold it back so you are constantly chasing that intimacy, only to give you small rations, usually when they think they are going to lose you to someone else. this is abuse.
words, munipulation, and lies hurt alot. Abusers are skilled liars, and know how to sap the life out of their victims. men who are abused dottt commmm
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@AndrewFilmsInc -Another saying to add to the list of how abusers manipulate the abused.
A few good times with an abuser are not worth the bad times. Vote with your feet because you will be a lot happier and more successful once you break all ties with them. Remember, they are less of a person than you as they lack humanity. You are not bad for leaving them, in fact you make them question their behavior so that they may change the way they treat others. You would be doing everyone a favour! :)
Studies show that women often instigate partner violence.~Dr.Helen Smith-Psychologist.
Despite their assumptions that men were the abusers,every domestic violence survey of both sexes over 30 years in the United States,Canada,England,New Zealand and Australia found one of two things: Women and men batter each other about equally,or women batter men more ~Dr. Warren Farrell
More Proof? GOOGLE: Dr. Martin S. Fiebert,Dr.Murray Strauss, Media Radar, Fatherlessness in Canada {worldwide research}
As of late, I have been observing women possessing an atitude that says she can do whatever she wants and not be responsible for her actions.
No matter how wrong the world knows she is, she herself will fight to the death to prove she is right and there is nothing you can do or say about it. such can foster intense frustration that can provoke intense anger. sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. All because "princess" has to have her way.
@Twinhit : Whether the Christian God is abusive or not has a lot to do with religion and little to do with real-world emotional violence. I didn't use the God quote in my video to proselytize viewers, I used it because it provides a wise and valuable reminder for everyone.
I agree there is emotional violence but what I was trying to say is that the warning God gave to Adam is not unlike saying "son, don't play with fire or you'll get burned" - God didn't want Adam to disobey for his own good. Just like a Father would warn his kids.
One of the biggest problems people face is self-honesty. They don't want to admit they are wrong. And until they confront that reality and be honest with themselves and change their attitudes, they will not be able to be acceptable to the people who mean the most to them.
Some learn this lesson sooner others much, much later. Usually the lesson begins in pre-adolescence and puberty only compounds the challenges.
A person who acts solely on emotions can be extremely irrational.
There has to be a balance.
The sooner we learn this, the better.
Rather than wallowing in the emotional hurt induced by the "offender", next time, try to analyze the situation see where you might be wrong and where they might be wrong and where they might be right.
Practicing this, will help people with emotional abuse issues.
The difference is that people who verbally abuse do so to gain power over their victim. "Controllers use verbal abuse to subtly undermine their victim's perceptions, to manipulate them into doing what they want, to foster dependency, to isolate them from truth, from outside contact and even from their own children."
Some people believe that independance is far better than dependancy.
I can tell you that "independance" can be an extremely lonely way to live. I know. I've lived it.
To be depended upon, gives people self-worth. It let's them know they are needed.
When you take that away from someone, you essentially telling that person that they are not needed, nor wanted. Thus you have made them feel unwanted, unneeded, uncared for. Such people may do something rash like suicide.
Yes, being depended upon is normal to an extent. Providing for one's family, for instance, can foster feelings of self-pride. However, abusers depend on their victims so much that the victim becomes their own emotional crutch. Abusers depend on their victims for happiness and self-worth. This is unhealthy and may further lead to codependency.
Well if those mental issues are going to sabotage a person's self-esteem and leave behind emotional scars..the best choice would be to leave the abuser for the sake of victim's emotional stability.
Also..by staying, the victim continues to propagate the unhealthy cycle of abuse. Leaving not only helps the victim but the abuser as well.
what about abusive women? also abusive bosses, friends, etc. this can be both male and female
unciase1 1 week ago
he sees you cry but he doesn't care. well done for showing this video an its true they will these lies for fear of being alone,
the ones that dislike this must be abusers themselves an dont like the truth to be known!
lovelydovey0599 3 weeks ago
Real relationships don't occur like that anymore, the jackass that makes the mistakes in the first place is the one to blame, raise your damn fucking idiot children to think rationally and people wont fuck up relationships, peace.
terraflux16 1 month ago
really like wtf its not only guys gesh like yeah guys are the main abusers but u make guys that are actually good boyfriends feel horrible so just say partners or something cuz there is still a large amount of abusive girls
trust me i have dated a few
Str00niE 1 month ago
Currently in a relationship like this.I am leaving him in a few days.You forgot the best one they say-No one will want you the way you are.Its funny how the abuser gets more upset when you just dont cry or get upset anymore.Anyone in this predicament needs to run the other way!!! I have been through 3 months of this crap and I am done!Everyone deserves respect.
hagriddragonhut 1 month ago
why is it allways men who abuse ? gender hype. but off course what is said here is none the less the truth.
ANTONZANESCO 1 month ago
I had a verbally abusive girlfriend for almost a year. When she told me she wanted to get married it made me wake up and smell the coffee. I dumped that Peruvian cunt like a bad habit and slept like a baby that night. I hope she is eating out of a dumpster right now.
Jefgg 1 month ago
Sticks and stones may break my bones ... but whips and chains excite me.
Jefgg 1 month ago
Wow some of the stuff listed is so true. Thank god i got out of an emotional abusive relationship.
AquaMeow101 2 months ago
what's this MEN shit...
Frickitall 2 months ago
What's the song at the end?
wg1437 3 months ago
i would like to say I AM A MENTAL ABUSER and this vid is right im seeking help to stop my actions im not phsicly abusive but after my fiancee left me she told me i was a mental abuser i then reasearched it and she is right its horrible the way ive treated her and i WANT to change after thinking about this for a few days ive come to realize its not just her its my family and friends i do it to as well and it makes me feel horrible i am a mental abuser and i want to NO i will change!
mysteryprince04 3 months ago 5
@mysteryprince04 I think a lot of abusers become abusive after being abused one way or another. Even if you don't have a memory of something like that happening that doesn't mean it didn't happen. Anyway whatever the reason you must find it and you need professional help to deal with it. My advice talk to your doctor to get referred to a counseling. It's good that you recognize it in yourself. You can change. It's just fear that makes you do this things.
crdf 6 days ago
I used to be emotionally abused by my father. He has told me that i am selfish, when i am not. To get him to stop hurting me, i would tell him that i AM selfish and that would get him to leave me alone. If you are being abused, get help. Don't stay silent. You don't deserve to be treated that way.
CrazySVUFan 3 months ago
I am a 20 year old guy. And I just got out of a nearly 2.5 year relationship that turned sour after year 1. She was so insecure, she hated anything in my life that was out of her control, and cheated on me multiple times and blamed me for it each time. The worst part of it was, she had this incredibly sweet side that she used to suck me in. And it worked every time. Once you get out of an abusive relationship, you will see how snowed you truly were when you were in it.
nym685 3 months ago
This is very accurate as to what an abuser will say to you.
TheCliffordh 4 months ago
RosewaterElf - you misunderstand me. Able-bodied adults who endure "emotional abuse" are psychologically wounded and unaware of how to set and enforce their boundaries. "Liars" are wounded people who are afraid to tell the truth. See sfhelp.org/relate/abuse.htm
gercacn 4 months ago
@gercacn Often it's both. They don't know how to set themselves on the right path. At the same time though, I start telling lies. The more they tell them, the more they believe them. I think it's what's called the power of suggestion? Often it starts in childhood with the emotional abuse. They start lying to try to avoid the hurt. Then they're wired to always lie to avoid the hurt. Eventually they might not even realize they're lying because they've said these things so many times.
Exmoor123 3 months ago
This unjustly paints "abusers": as "liars" instead of victims of early-childhood trauma themselves. It also disempowers abuse (aggression) "victims" from seeing their own wounds and learning how to protect themselves.
gercacn 4 months ago
@gercacn Many people are abused in childhood and don't go on to abuse others. Using that as an excuse stops the abuser making lasting change. A victim cannot 'protect' themselves from someone who wants to abuse them, when everything they do will provoke an abuser, be it crying, leaving, agreeing, begging, staying silent etc. Stop enabling abusers and think before you post!
RosewaterElf 4 months ago
There is no hope, there is nothing left, everyone is like this. I leave the house and everyone hurts me. He makes it seem like it is my fault. He says they will see me a mile away and work against me if I were alone. He makes me feel like without him, I am nothing. I will never make anyone happy. I don't buy people enough things, do the right thing, not pretty enough, not smart enough or emotionally stable enough a job. He isn't the only one that hurts me. It is a daily ritual.
7777anastasia 4 months ago
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@7777anastasia - i get that daily off my scumbag parents (and their online stalker conspiracy etc) all my life too, impossible to move and escape cause there's no jobs so no money, and no places to live - everythings online and they stop me getting online properly also. they control it all in paranormal ways too to prevent what i actually want and need showing up, it's like astral-kidnap and soul enslavement.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@7777anastasia There is hope! It is the hardest thing to leave someone. I know. I did it. If you have just one person who believes in you, grab hold of them. Don't believe what he tells you because it is not the truth. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!
migrkn 4 months ago
smell my delicious vagina everyone
verrrr1 5 months ago
@verrrr1 - and you abused 4D and time-travel machinery again, just to go back in time and post that (you being same as other scumfucks stalking me etc here), because YESTERDAY i posted elsewhere about how you go around posting sex-abuser comments from male perspectives only, 'note how the perv never posts anything about female organs'.
so you went back to 2 weeks ago just to post that here, then posted to me with another of your channels so i'd come here TODAY and see it.
kill yourself peado.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky eat my coochi and be happy u know you want to, admit it
verrrr1 4 months ago
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@verrrr1 - cunt you ruined the whole of spacetime just to basically bully everyone in actual-reality.
you're like a twat that got held back for over 10 years in school, and you're left in the same tard class every year - and the twat tards pretending to be teachers let you bully and abuse all the other kids.
that's what your timebent evil has done / is doing still.
it can't be fixed, you all have to be rolled back so to speak, so it's as if you never existed. but with the memory that you did,
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
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@verrrr1 , cause otherwise they'll just manifest you all over again in the 'next world' if they don't have a lasting reminder of how shit this one is all because of you.
kill yourself.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
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@verrrr1 - i look forward to the day i leave this reality, without you having got from me what you need. that is how things will unfold. whether through death or otherwise isn't relevant, as that is how things will unfold.
i look forward to your realisation of how you misused all the time you have here, to just fuck about and imagine you're brilliant etc cause you think i love you. obviously i couldn't even like someone with such a dispostion of disrespect as that.
and your death date is?
ky
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@verrrr1 - i also look forward to the time when you realise the horror of having to wait even a second in this evil reality, thinking you can make it so i have to go through here via linear time and i'll somehow just forget all that excruciating torture of having to be in here in this fucking mess of a spiritual prison. then we'll see who laughs at their little stolen freedoms allowing them movement into the future etc, when it's all over.
kill yourself.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
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@verrrr1 - right, i found where you left that timebent comment,
/watch?v=b5uIjKGB3NQ
that's where i pointed out how 'you' don't post perv stuff from a female perspective,
and that made you post a comment to me here later, so that when i came here i'd see that you posted a perv comment from a female perspective BEFORE you'd have been able to do so if you had merely posted it as a response to me.
so how are you time-travelling? is it just remote-viewing astral-highjack or body-travel-also?
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
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@verrrr1 - i need to know what you do when you timebend, because it's the same process that stops me manifesting my reality, and keeps me trapped in the evil manifesations of my scumbag parents etc - what you do when you move ahead, you loop that future back onto the present, which locks everything to unfold into only the reality you went ahead to - which is always the same limited-mind reality with nothing real and no real people in it.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
its too bad this follows the myth that men are always the abusers and women are always the victims. Sadly there is an extremely high percentage of male victims but that is where these groups close their eyes, cover their ears and harden their minds and hearts. How about portraying the REALITY of abuse and making it gender neutral.
MrJpoljacik 6 months ago
i hate talking about it. he is really trying. my father is like this.His Father was like this. He also beat my grandma. She wasnt allowed to do anything but cook for him and he punched and kicked everything. she started going crazy, and now shes real sensitive and gave up on everything. and i have to hear shit from literally the hole family.. my dad loves me so much but treated me so much like this up until now and im filled with anger and sadness that he doesnt know. im trying to fix it.
gaisensie 6 months ago
@gaisensie That sux. Let me offer heartfelt advice, 2 get yr life on track, as it may be impossible 2 change him. Your responsibilty is to yrself. Life is made of time & yr life is yours. Own it. Understand he did the best he could, which failed U. Leave anger & sadness behind. Figure out what U want 2 do w/ yrself in the next 5 years; Make & follow an education plan. Don't look back. Teach others how to treat U by yr actions. Today is the 1st day of the rest of yr life. Be happy & successful.
alphakid42 6 months ago
@michelle1hawks thank you ^^
gaisensie 6 months ago
KILL YOUR ABUSER
pikaluv43 6 months ago
lemme see:"its 4 ur own good"you always make me mad""the only thing ur good 4 is in bed"if u love me you will do what i say"ur ugly""u look old""shut up""im not yelling this is my normal voice" and she yelled at me all the time.dont forget that wen they want to b they can b sooo understanding,caring,apoligetic"im sorry i wont do that again'"ill change"i could go on and on.they always have an excuse.dont listen to it and get out wen it 1st starts.
fallencypress2 6 months ago
This ones for my EX, you did all of this to me... Even hacked my accts. Stay out
dawnellen1967 7 months ago
my husband controls all of the money i don' have a job and i don't know how to drive my mom was abused i was abused my my real and step father and my mom is still with him my stepdad i'm afraid to leave cause i don't want to be homeless and i don't want to move back with my parents everyone thinks my husband is the perfect man he works two jobs and goes to school so people think i.m just good for nothing i stay at home with our two kids and he makes me feel bad for everything and blames me
danae417 8 months ago
I was really supprised that I have heard pretty much all of this..
samanthamarieand 8 months ago
@samanthamarieand me too...my ex gf (son's mom) used 1:12 alot, shit makes me so damn mad. Thankfully my current gf is the total opposite, I mean we can talk calmly, she lifts up my spirits she truly loves me. She actually likes to cuddle and likes to be a real couple (hold hands, kiss) unlike my ex who tried controlling that aspect of the previous relationship. I'm sorry but when you're physically and verbally abusive and you're not showing but a 5% of affection you gotta gtfo.
bedllama 8 months ago in playlist abusive relationships
this is wonderful ...keep up the exposee
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ChickenNachosPG 9 months ago
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Adominae 10 months ago
bddn there, done that.
possibley the best desicion i've ever made was breaking up with my abusive fiance.
littlemiss806 10 months ago
My stepmom often criticizes me and does things to piss me off. For example, almost every time I get up on the weekends and get food, when I close the cupboards she goes "Slam! Slam! Slam!" in the most irritating way to make me mad. She also tells my dad things so he will get mad at me. I am never right, and when I start to prove her wrong, she gets mad and storms off. I have no immediate relatives I can go to. I have tried talking to her and my dad and it didn't work. What can I do?
veson231 11 months ago
@veson231 My mother is like that. My dad is powerless against her...
Idk. I dont have immediate families to go to also. Thee best thing is prayer. Pray with FAITH that God should touch both our mother's hearts. People say that we should get away from those that abuse us...but what about when they are RELATED to you? Only God can help. If not, then idk what to do...
G-luck with your stepmom. No one should have to go throught the things we go through. ;(
QueenRiddler 10 months ago 2
its all so true....all so true, so, just so right. you, my friend, you have made the truth heard, god's love does not happen this way, praise be that he lets someone like you show the truth about manipulative abusers.
rscody 11 months ago
Some of you need to 'grow the fuck up' and wakey already. Souls are souls, whether you're in a female or male body is just different if you are going to have kids, since obviously if you're a soul in a female body then you'd be carrying it and giving birth etc.
Differences aside from that - those are all instilled by 'society'. Without that imprinting none of that shit would surface much anywhere. Sure there's hormonal diffs but those exist to prepare the body should you have children.
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky I agree.
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - oh so you do agree with some 'progressive' things then. What's the problem with realising the soul-abuse that all the stupid applications of backward tech cause then?
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky I agree with all 'progressive' things. I'm actually one of the most 'progressive' beekeepers there is.
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - what, you make decent trance music?
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky Yes.
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - where is it then?
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky I'm not going to tell you because you're probably going to stalk me whenever I perform live. Sorry :(
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - so do you regularly spend years posting to people who you don't want the attention of? Is there a club I can join, made up of your other victims?
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky No. Unnecessary.
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - oh right so you killed them all already.
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky I didn't say that ;)
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - no, you didn't.
See how annoying posts like that are? When I say nothing but re-confirm what you already just wrote.
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySteinerBleeky I love posts like that.
randomlarpingman 11 months ago
@randomlarpingman - you would.
Yay, another one.
MannySteinerBleeky 11 months ago
@MannySkipperMassa How much time did you pend prostrated before the phallic symbol today?
MarkGubbish 6 months ago
@MarkGubbish - still none, whackjob. kill yourself fagass.
MannySteinerBleeky 6 months ago
@MIckeyElasticMassa Spank and then eat my massa
MarkGubbish 6 months ago
@MarkGubbish - sicko, take your lower-chakra mentality and shove it up your ass.
kill yourself.
MannySteinerBleeky 5 months ago
@MickeyGollumMassa I have your precious you little dwarf
MarkGubbish 5 months ago
@MarkGubbish - yes you have proved that your golem-like obsession with both me and my 1943 cent is like what transpires in the lord of the rings saga -
you stalking me around the place, you being obsessed with the 'precious',
however at least golem in the film doesn't project his fails onto the hobbits he stalks - unlike you do to me.
kill yourself, look how sick you are - to be posting to a video all about sickos like you, not even caring what a scumbag you are.
MannySteinerBleeky 5 months ago
@RandomNightMassa Eat my massa and then I will let you kiss and stroke the precious
MarkGubbish 5 months ago
@MarkGubbish - faggot, kill yourself.
MannySteinerBIeeky 5 months ago
@RandomNightMassa I swallowed a pubic hair and had to call emergency services
MarkGubbish 5 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky YOU are what this video is about...seek help
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - as usual, you're another sicko stalker of me channel, from the same scumfuck evil mind-controlling satanist peado-cult member as the paedo markgubbish etc there.
you stalk me obsessively, you don't even know me at all, you can't explain how you decided to begin stalking me and why etc etc etc -
it's about you. read the type of sexually depraved abuser comments you write about me, consider how you have no right to even seek to be in my reality.
kill yourself scumfuck.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky yes , I agree ...you should seek psychological help - *note to self -LOL don't feed the troll* LMAO....but I DO love the attention you're giving ME! Thanks!
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - i told you before scumfuck - whatever your stupid tiny mind thinks is how things are - isn't how anything really is.
i'm not paying you attention, i'm taking you apart. you're too stupid to see that even though i've been blatant about it all along, to all the many peado-cult channels you've stalked me with, including on this video.
kill yourself scum.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky LOL.....you are a borderline personality disordered person....I get it...that's what you want us to figure out....you're a borderline sadistic personality .....YES! I get it now! good acting skills! Thanks for sharing!
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - you are denying you're the same peado - just using a different channel?
when it's obvious you're the same paedo satanist scum that was using a different channel in that thread you replied to there. which means you really are insane, plus you've done that 1000s of times.
and that you imagine i even knew or care about you - much less am playing some guessing game, when i've made clear this is no game and never was - also proves you're evil and stupid and mad.
kill yourself.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky Dude, seriously ...i don't know what a 'peado' is ...but you're really fun and entertaining. Makes me wish i was a satanist.....maybe you should knock off the sauce....if ya catch my drift
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - maybe you should stop lying and projecting your same child-molester-cult lies there. as it's more than obvious you = sozlled and are using your tiny evil consciousness to make me think i'm posting to myself elsewhere, where you used your sozlled channel to post the same lies you do here, and with your markgubbish channel etc.
you don't fool anyone evolved, you scum are so thick and evil and you never even see how obvious your mechinations are.
kill yourself idiot.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
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@fetishisticrose - maybe you should stop lying and projecting your same child-molester-cult lies there. as it's more than obvious you = sozlled and are using your tiny evil consciousness to make me think i'm posting to myself elsewhere, where you used your sozlled channel to post the same lies you do here, and with your markgubbish channel etc.
you don't fool anyone evolved, you scum are so thick and evil and you never even see how obvious your mechinations are.
kill yourself idiot.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - and also - you are a 'satanist' in the sense you are pwned by evil and are a mere tool for carrying out the same lower-chakra lies poisoning reality,
or you wouldn't have posted what you did to me here. or anywhere else. etc. you're markgubbish etc, you're actually that stupid you do this all the time - act like it's not obvious you're the same person when you join in one of your other-channels stalker pervert threads.
nobody else would side with that bar you.
kill yourself
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky LMAO really I'm rolling on the floor , because you have ZERO original response to anything I say....LOL
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose - more lies from your satanic-frothing possessed idiot mouth again eh.
do you actually imagine that you can make my original responses to you seem unoriginal just by stating so? do you really think no-one but you can see how you're the same freak as markgubbish and all those channels?
you're so dumb you think you holding a sign up saying you aren't doing what you are doing, is enough to fool anyone don't you.
kill yourself, you're a demi-urges succubus at best.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
@MannySteinerBIeeky ZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzz....oh a reply! wow ....*loves attention*, sorry, I don't care what anyone thinks on here.
fetishisticrose 4 months ago
@fetishisticrose = same paedo-faggot satanist as michael deveny of 71 forsyth street in greenock conspiracy.
all the same useless-eater ahrimanics, using the dirty noise-polluting gaia-abusing tech your peado-cult conspiracy brought here, to make everyone evil and stupid like you are - by raping the aethers and all harmonic waveforms with your nature-reduction and noise.
kill yourself, it's you that doesn't matter. realise that, freakshow.
MannySteinerBIeeky 4 months ago
Geeeez, still trying to find a video for men like me who love their GF, and her ex is abusive and wants to kill me, and asks her out every day, and she says no, but does not want to be mean. And I don't want violence. Guess there is not one video like that here. If you know of one, please let me know! PS, they have a special needs child together, so he uses his own child to make her kind heart feel guilty. ...Abuse just sucks. Period.
unclearless 11 months ago
the light is not far behind in this life. I am thankful for your post . I do believe that Narcisssism and Emotional Abuse are hand in hand we put two Narcissists together add emotional abuse and we NEVER STOP LEARNING.! We LISTEN when our partner tells us to.. This is all Human Nature
lilsweeti13 11 months ago
My mother was abused by my dad. At least, that is how I see it at first glance. But when I look deeper, I see that my mother never really gave my father a chance to be a good man. She didn't believe in him. That is no excuse for my father's actions, but nonetheless, is that abuse? Could my mother have abused my father even though it was ALWAYS my father yelling hurtful things or getting physical? I think yes. I think wives abuse their husbands JUST as much as vice versa... it's a two way street.
tpstrat14 1 year ago
he liked when I was upset or mad he would laugh and get off on it even though I was nothing but sweet to him and better looking than he was. But I pity him because his childhood is what turned him into a psychopath but I can't save him he has to save himself. I just don't know why he's so sadistic, it's been months and months and he still prank calls my house and makes his friend do the same makes him say stuff to my parents too. The only thing I resent is how he tricked me into falling for him
glammmetal 1 year ago
@glammmetal i just wanna hug you.I had this video saved in my favourites for a long time.i decided to re watch it and saw your comment.Yeah it's hard...and yeah it's been over a year and half since i got out of the relationship i was in..and he still occasionally calls my house..last time to say horrible things to my father that he wouldn't repeat to me.ppl don't understand that it's not as easy to get away from the sick person who is a psychopath..stay strong(even get a restraining order)
Heatherbtime 1 year ago
my problem with this video is the fact that you said "men" as if women never abuse their partners...
xxxTrippSkinnysxxx 1 year ago 2
@xxxTrippSkinnysxxx I agree completely. Abusers can be women as well as men.
soraiyan 4 months ago
Whats the song?!
maiz304secondtry 1 year ago
This almost made me cry.
Proudmommi2011 1 year ago
@italianzorro yes I agree. I ask myself why tho?. I wonder is it because women want the same things that men have and have no idea how to get it?. Most women are in minimum paid work. I can't help wonder that if women had more of their own resources and didn't have to reply on another person for a standard of living, perhaps things might be different. It's just a thought.........
starquant 1 year ago
I can relate great vid here,blessings,xo
Denalynnnful 1 year ago
Utatori, sounds like you might be a submissive, and if so, you can do SO much better than that. and a submissive isn't a doormat. if this is not the case, i appologize and hope you get the help you need. cuz what she did was wrong. roseblaze33@yahoo.com
ladyrose403 1 year ago
just now my girlfriend left me
she said she can find a better doormat
and that she only cared about me when i was "avidly trying to please her"
Utatori 1 year ago
The best one I got was 'Your lucky I'm so spiritual, cause otherwise I wouldn't be interested in you' meaning your lucky I don't care your overweight and not hot like me.
jane1halsall 1 year ago
The best one I got was 'Your lucky I'm so spiritual, cause otherwise I wouldn't be interested in you' meaning your lucky I don't care your overweight and not hot like me.
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remaxdfdfsdf 1 year ago
Those people should die. I'd gladly murder them all one by one and torture them so, so slowly.
mickaelx99 1 year ago
@italianzorro there are things in the bible about divorce and abuse. but i have not read it in a long time so i do not know for sure. but infidelity and abuse are and probably would be the only exceptions to never divorcing. i will actually try and look up the verse again
ilmhbpd 1 year ago
@italianzorro ...What if your partner is emotionally abusing you and there is no way they are going to try to change via therapy etc...divorce would be the only way to get away from the abuser. This is where confusion kicks in for me. Divorce is discouraged in everything I have read, but I don't think God wants people to suffer (in my opinion.) What is your opinion on this?
AC6773 1 year ago
Men are to live wth their wves with undrstnding. womn in rspct and hnor to hsband. Humlity gves God’s grace to do ths. Womns undrstanding of respct and honr may nt be the man’s idea. Man’s undrstanding of being undrstanding is not alwys wht the womn wants. Ths leads to abse.My husbnd is a liar, mst dstructive thng in my life. I lft bcause I flt I ws ging insne, litrally. decsions,he chnges them, qustions, he lies abot his frst answr,cnfront him on needs and issues,fixes thm by hving sx.
A2CJ4VR 1 year ago
Be careful who you label as emotionally abusive, of course all forms of verbal and physical abuse are completely unjustified, but we're all flawed human beings who get angry and say things we shouldn't. It's an unfortunate truth that abusive relationships need both an aggressive and a passive partner, if the passive individual was assertive they would always express themselves when they are upset and nip aggressive behaviour in the bud, or simple leave the relationship altogether.
korictixor 1 year ago
@korictixor Really? You don't know what you are talking about. I am not passive at all and I am married to someone who is abusive. I've put up with his up and down moods for 20 years and my patience is wearing thin. The reason I have not left yet is because I am loyal and take the marriage relationship seriously. Hopefully my situation will be resolved soon one way or the other because I feel like I am literally wasting my life on this guy.
Maybe you need to experience it yourself first!
TheScriptureAlone 1 year ago
@TheScriptureAlone - Same here. 20 Years.....I keep hoping that things will turn for the better. We don't sleep together anymore because he can't have ANY noises or disturbances when he sleeps, he hates my family so I rarely feel I can go visit them (but I make sure I do). He doesn't like any of my friends and prefers to stay home day in and day out and on weekends watching movies. There's more but you get the idea. I'm in a downward spiral ... alcohol, and abuse of prescription meds...
MsSeeker43 1 year ago
Excellent video. However, the line, "Many verbal abusers are delightful charming men in public" disturbed me. It left out abusive women. It should read "Many verbal abusers are delightful men/women in public." And it is true, by the way...the woman who used to verbally abuse me is totally delightful in public.
chrisman737 1 year ago
@chrisman737 i am with you on that, my mother was viewed as a moral, and verrrry charming nice person to everyone else. everyone would think i was crazy if i said otherwise, and i would never hear the end of it if i did say anything. i think ppl should be more aware of the fact that not just boyfriends/girlfriends who abuse. i believe it is MUCH harder to avoid an abusive mother/father, who has told u what is right and wrong since u were born, and the person who uve always trusted.
ilmhbpd 1 year ago
@chrisman737 Agreed. A woman's words can pierce down to the center of your being. They better be nice. Sure, they can't physically dominate most relationships, but men are not robots. We have feelings and you can't say whatever you want. You have to realize we need you to be kind to us so that we can be kind to you.
tpstrat14 1 year ago
@tpstrat14, yes, and thanks for writing. And, in terms of the physical angle, there is a way that women can dominate there as well. For when a woman hits a man it is seen as acceptable -- the assumption is that the man must have done something wrong. Also, the man is told to "take it," otherwise he is not a man. So physical abuse continues. But once the abused man snaps and fights back, even with just one slap of the woman, then instantly he is the villain and dangerous. Double standard.
chrisman737 11 months ago
@chrisman737 4:1 suicide rate for men. I think this issue has a lot to do with it. Whereas society allows women to feel blameless about how they handle their dysfunctional relationship, men are made to feel all the guilt. I don't know if my dad is suicidal, but this is how he looks at his failed, dysfunctional relationship with my mom. She was the angel and he was the demon that defiled her. Only I know the truth about my mom's faults. Society doesn't see it the way I do.
tpstrat14 11 months ago
Another practitioner of misandry, may you actually be healed of your hateful bigoted position.
imshippyupup 1 year ago
Out of the 21 things that were said, my parents have told me 16. Although I left home, this brought me back to those years where I felt I had no voice. I am still trying to work through those tough times, but there is not a day that goes by where I don't imagine them saying these things to me. Thank you for making this video.
cottoncandi31 1 year ago
and this is just the g-rated stuff that Mel Gibson says on a daily basis
professorintellect 1 year ago
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lynnemccarthysa 1 year ago
women abuse too
cowboyx1970 1 year ago
Wow.....
that was me..
WAS
jwow00 1 year ago
what about abusive parents?
Liza332 1 year ago
1.29 in the video "Nowhere in scripture does God sanction any kind of abuse"
bullshit...
check out evilbible(dot)com
Ritual Human Sacrifice in the Bible Just a tiny sample:
Genesis, the first book of the Bible, has Abraham preparing to sacrifice his son to God. "Take your son, your only son – yes, Isaac, whom you love so much – and go to the land of Moriah. Sacrifice him there as a burnt offering on one of the mountains, which I will point out to you." (Genesis 22:1-18)
bananabeam 1 year ago
Umm, why was the example of "men" used here? I know more female abusers than I do male. Stereotyping based on gender is just wrong. It also denies men being able to reach out for help because they've become so heavily identified as the abuser by virtue of their gender. This story of abuse has played out long enough. I have rarely ever met a couple of combination of partners who aren't both abusing each other, either insidiously or overtly. Rarely is there one "good guy" and one "bad guy"...
blastkist 1 year ago
i will post abuse video please watch it on somy biz chanel you are so wrong....
Somybiz 1 year ago
this is A GOOD ONE.... lies LIES AND MORE LIES THIS IS WHAT EMOTIONAL ABUSIVE MEN OR WOMEN THIS IS WHAT THEY DO.... learn it LOVE IT AND KNOW IT..
cameoconnection 1 year ago
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ilresqunow 1 year ago
my mother came from an abused childhood and she wind up with no better
lunareclipse7696 1 year ago
Many true facts in here, though this can also be done towards you by family members and not only partners. Is equally close and painful.
SylviaPenguin 1 year ago
Emotional Abuse does not have any Gender Preference.
Your video is quite informative, and should contain an attribute to both the male and female genders when giving examples of emotional abuse.
Best of Regards,
JKoulouris
JKoulouris 1 year ago
Yes and Women too.
Forceofg 1 year ago
Uh, and women to, yes? Devalue-Disgard.
Forceofg 1 year ago
an emotional abuser will often play the victim and make the abused feel like the abuser, alot of women use sex as a weapon of control, they hold it back so you are constantly chasing that intimacy, only to give you small rations, usually when they think they are going to lose you to someone else. this is abuse.
pradawillie 1 year ago
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TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
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TheEmotionalAbuse 1 year ago
u described my mother to a T...ugh
patriciacarrasco 1 year ago
This is a great video... more awareness needs to happen for this problem. men who are abused dotttt commmmm
begood4000 1 year ago
words, munipulation, and lies hurt alot. Abusers are skilled liars, and know how to sap the life out of their victims. men who are abused dottt commmm
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RUInternational 1 year ago
if you take verbal abuse, your generally a pussy. fight back
AndrewFilmsInc 1 year ago
@AndrewFilmsInc -Another saying to add to the list of how abusers manipulate the abused.
A few good times with an abuser are not worth the bad times. Vote with your feet because you will be a lot happier and more successful once you break all ties with them. Remember, they are less of a person than you as they lack humanity. You are not bad for leaving them, in fact you make them question their behavior so that they may change the way they treat others. You would be doing everyone a favour! :)
chocorobochan 1 year ago
indeed. i miswrote my comment. This is what was said to me for years...
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corbyworld5 1 year ago
Sometimes the cheese willl fall off the cracker. other times, the cracker will fall off the cheese.
It all depends on the perspective the observer.
One thing's for sure, the floor is messy.
;>)
Twinhit 2 years ago
As of late, I have been observing women possessing an atitude that says she can do whatever she wants and not be responsible for her actions.
No matter how wrong the world knows she is, she herself will fight to the death to prove she is right and there is nothing you can do or say about it. such can foster intense frustration that can provoke intense anger. sooner or later someone is going to get hurt. All because "princess" has to have her way.
No one likes a drama queen's company.
Twinhit 2 years ago
Listen, if you don't want a drama queen's company then the simple solution is to leave.
Nuse17 2 years ago
@Nuse17
BINGO! There's your answer to your problem.
But are you listening to what you just said?
I already told ya, nobody like's a drama queen's company.
If you don't like being abused, you should part ways with the abuser you been talking about.
As others have said, forgive and forget.
Twinhit 2 years ago
Excuse me, but there appears to be a misunderstanding or perhaps partial understanding in certain places.
The Bible is quoted here so I feel the need to point out something that challenges some aspects of the thinking behind this video:
God told Adam not to eat of the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil or he would surely die.
IMHO that was the very first commandment God gave man
Obey or else! How does that differ with some of the "lies" in the list?
Twinhit 2 years ago
@Twinhit : Whether the Christian God is abusive or not has a lot to do with religion and little to do with real-world emotional violence. I didn't use the God quote in my video to proselytize viewers, I used it because it provides a wise and valuable reminder for everyone.
Nuse17 2 years ago
@Nuse17
pt 1
I agree there is emotional violence but what I was trying to say is that the warning God gave to Adam is not unlike saying "son, don't play with fire or you'll get burned" - God didn't want Adam to disobey for his own good. Just like a Father would warn his kids.
Twinhit 2 years ago
pt 2
Some of those quotes can be said in the same spirit. There are other quotes that can be viewed as violent.
For example, "you'd be a lot nicer if you weren't such a bitch" -
While that statement is a harsh way of putting it, it is logical.
The recipient may well have been behaving in such a way to earn that remark.
Sometimes, people are not easy to deal with. No matter how hard you try. - they cannot see past themselves.
Twinhit 2 years ago
part 3
cont.
Those people have to be shaken from their abusive behavior.
The "bitch", as it were, would be the original abuser. Not the one protesting the abuse with the quoted remark.
Do you see what I am saying?
We have to ask ourselves "why was I insulted? but the key here is a second self-question "How do I treat others?"
and be honest with ourselves.
If I cannot be honest with myself, I cannot be honest with others.
Twinhit 2 years ago
Another example is
"You are a slut"
Be honest with yourself - do you flirt? dress in provocative clothing? Talk "trashy"? etc..
IF the answer is yes, and that person doesn't want to be thought of as a "slut" then that person shouldn't behave as such.
If the answer is no, then the person who said this, is in the wrong.
They are the ones with the problem.
Either way, the comment may reflect harsh reality. But for whom and do either person geniunely care about the other or themselves?
Twinhit 2 years ago
One of the biggest problems people face is self-honesty. They don't want to admit they are wrong. And until they confront that reality and be honest with themselves and change their attitudes, they will not be able to be acceptable to the people who mean the most to them.
Some learn this lesson sooner others much, much later. Usually the lesson begins in pre-adolescence and puberty only compounds the challenges.
There is a difference between the
"emotional" and the "rational".
Twinhit 2 years ago
A person who acts solely on emotions can be extremely irrational.
There has to be a balance.
The sooner we learn this, the better.
Rather than wallowing in the emotional hurt induced by the "offender", next time, try to analyze the situation see where you might be wrong and where they might be wrong and where they might be right.
Practicing this, will help people with emotional abuse issues.
Remember, the only person you can control is you.
Twinhit 2 years ago
The difference is that people who verbally abuse do so to gain power over their victim. "Controllers use verbal abuse to subtly undermine their victim's perceptions, to manipulate them into doing what they want, to foster dependency, to isolate them from truth, from outside contact and even from their own children."
Nuse17 2 years ago
@Nuse17
Some people believe that independance is far better than dependancy.
I can tell you that "independance" can be an extremely lonely way to live. I know. I've lived it.
To be depended upon, gives people self-worth. It let's them know they are needed.
When you take that away from someone, you essentially telling that person that they are not needed, nor wanted. Thus you have made them feel unwanted, unneeded, uncared for. Such people may do something rash like suicide.
Twinhit 2 years ago
@Twinhit
A friend of mine did just that when his son kicked him out of his home.
I watched that man's world come crashing down before my very eyes.
He blew his brains out.
His son told me he was a mean man.
Apparently he wasn't mean enough to drive his family to suicide.
Twinhit 2 years ago
Yes, being depended upon is normal to an extent. Providing for one's family, for instance, can foster feelings of self-pride. However, abusers depend on their victims so much that the victim becomes their own emotional crutch. Abusers depend on their victims for happiness and self-worth. This is unhealthy and may further lead to codependency.
Nuse17 2 years ago
@Nuse17
Now I think it would be fair to point out that you are giving your side to a story.
How about the other side?
IF we could hear from both the "abuser" and the "victim", the picture would be much easier to see.
Otherwise, you are not telling us anything that we don't already know & understand.
yes abuse is wrong, but when it happens, it happens for a reason.
To find the reason you must be honest.
Once found, correct it. Otherwise, a dog is just chasing it's tail for amusment.
Twinhit 2 years ago
Actually, I'm just laying out the facts for you. You can accept them or not. Abuse happens because the abuser has mental issues. End of story.
Nuse17 2 years ago
@Nuse17
If the abuser has mental issues, then you are going to have to accept those mental issues as being an unfortunate thorn in your abuser's side.
If you cannot accept those "mental issues" then perhaps the abuser needs someone other than you who is more mature and understanding.
You haven't come out and said
World, I am involved with a nut.
I've should've known better, but I chose against my better judgement. My mistake. Would be helpful to hear BOTH sides of the story.
Twinhit 2 years ago
@Twinhit
Well if those mental issues are going to sabotage a person's self-esteem and leave behind emotional scars..the best choice would be to leave the abuser for the sake of victim's emotional stability.
Also..by staying, the victim continues to propagate the unhealthy cycle of abuse. Leaving not only helps the victim but the abuser as well.
Nuse17 2 years ago 2