Borderline Personality Disorder - Tools to reduce anger

[BlueStateChronicle]

Buddhism really addresses BPD. It teaches a middle road, acceptance, and a quiet meditative mind. These are all great tools for someone with BPD.

[SocialClubTravels]

..I hope that each person with bpd will think deeply by seeing this video. Do they really want that the people around them need a tutorial to handle them..? Do they realize that finally nobody CAN be able to follow up this 'walking on egghells' behaving for themselves?.. Does the bp doesn't want to be loved? I guess they do want that, even more than others.. So what I advice to each bp is, learn, be open for change, look through the eyes of love to the people near to you - before you loose them

[ckcism]

This video will help my husband and myself alot. I have had BPD probably since early teens. I am a 33 yr old female now being diagnosed this is a wild roller coaster. Seeing youself on screen is hard ro accept. But will help us much. Thank you!

[cactuslog]

I was married to a BPD and now a couple years later am amazed how much better my life is today. I cannot imagine it ever being worth it to be in a relationship with a BPD, and that is not something I will ever endure again. It is just too much angst. Sorry if this offends ...

[rbogdewic]

NowTHAT'S a great video

[ChrisJJonson]

but dont u think BPD first needs to accept that they are BPD and they need help

[chloetheninja123]

I have BPD, but I don't want my family stepping on eggshells whenever they're around me.

xoxo

Chloe`.Criminal

[StarryKid22]

This video is making me really angry.... J/k.... These are actually some great tips. I don't have a significant other at all but still, on their own, even for dealing with personal anger or distress, there are actually really great tips. Thanks!

[joannak912]

This is such a difficult disorder to understand and to deal with. A great video... and the music selection is so appropriate!

[PDQuick1971]

BPD changed my life in a very positive way. It was after a relationship with a disordered person that I began to see why I took the mistreatment, and even carried it myself. If you find yourself answering "yes" to these questions in this video, it may be time to work on yourself as well as the relationship. You cant control anyone but yourself in any relationship. The questions are, do you have control, understanding and acceptance inside of you? If not, work on that. Join the site listed.

[PattyEngUK]

This is a great video. It is very clear and easy to follow and it provides great advice on how best to communicate with a partner or relative with BPD.

[faithinthedesert]

I think the only way for this to work to get the BPD person to change is if after you de-escalate the moment by using the techniques, you take control of the convo, change the subject and once he has some good behavior/input on the unrelated thing, positively reinforce that behavior somehow. Kind of just show him you aren't interested in his tyrades, but reinforce what you are interested in. You have to know when to disengage.

[123casper123]

really good video and advice!

[ditte3]

It's an interesting video.Thank you.Still it seems sometimes that I'm the only one working on our relationship,he with the BPD doesn't care and he's just too egoistic.I takes all my strength.I'm doing it for almost 22 years.I'm tired.Only God can change him,and only if he wants to change.I'll do my best even if I'm tired.But it's hard.

[unexsisting]

Its hard and I can understand you're tired. 22 years..thats a long time. But isnt the fact you're still together proving that he's also trying? Its hard for someone with BPD to commit to someone.But it seems like he did..My relationship ended 3 months agoI still miss it every dayeventough it seemed like everything was my fault,I couldnt do anything right,..think of the good moments and try not to take it personally. It probably will be hard till the end,but believe me, sometimes..it's worth it.

[herstome5656]

'spare him his life from this mon-stros-ity'

[DocRaver]

sounds so simple, but not to me ( i have borderline i think ) i am VERY shy, can't communicate, then what? :|

[PatPro21]

This is simple but demanding upon you when your partner is closed to discussion, this could be the ice breaker needed.

[united4now]

I love the way it explains that to make things better, you have to stop making things worse...

[squireman72]

A great starting point for defusing BPD relationship conflicts.

[marthamusic321]

This video was very good. It gives useful tips on how to improve communications and reduce anger. This will really help to improve a relationship with a BPD partner or close relative.

[tjrider6]

Communications -- being a good listener and speaking the truth with sincerity is a great start to getting a relationship back in control.

[joannak912]

So simple.... It's so easy to get caught up in the blame game.