Borderline Personality Disorder - Information for the family

[cinnamongirl52]

This was an EXCELLENT video about BPD. THANK YOU!

[universalstudios13]

Best video ive watched about BPD.

The part that really got me is the one where it explains "end the dysfunctional dance".

I realised my wife has BPD only 3 weeks ago. We have two kids and have been together for 6 yrs. Our kids are both under two years old. She has always been violent, clingy and excessively "hypercondriac" etc. But ever since i discovered what she has and talked to her about it, things have spiralled out of control.

I fear for my children. I feel like im in a prison.

[heleny78]

Being around someone with bpd is like treading on eggshells all the time, having to be careful what you say etc, i used to know someone who had this and it was the most difficult time of my life

[DeeDubStyle619]

Im almost 23, and have been searching for mental illnesses that match with mine for years. It feels good to finally find it, but its also a little embarrassing realizing how obvious it is. I have read The Power of Now, and am finishing up The Sedona Method. I dont quite understand, can this be cured?

[davediddlydoo]

Hey the music is Enya, not Katie Melua. Think it's called Shepherd moons, not sure!

[robsavva]

Thank you. Nix

[PiaLouiseSourvinou]

I currently suffer with a personality disorder and I find I am not much like this particular video describes. There are 257 types however, so perhaps I have another one. I found it a little patronising when it said ''BPD Dramas'' though no hard feelings though, very educational and well put together.

[luvtheheaven3]

This is awesome, very accurate to everything my mom did/does. She definitely has BPD. I just wish she'd admit she has a problem and get diagnosed. Until then I'm not speaking to her at all, it's just much healthier and easier for me this way. Anyway great video!

[rbogdewic]

Nice video. Really Unique. Check out my videos also and tell me what you think.

[swedishorient]

My bf just recently told me that he's a borderline though not properly diagnosed, we're pretty sure almost 100% he has it. I love him so much and have been doing my best to support him but whatever I do or say is never enough, sometimes I end up getting humiliated and scold for no reason. I can't talk him out of things (wishful thinking I know,) some very basic social etiquettes seem so foreign to him and the way he behaves to other can very so offensive he doesnt realize it...dunno what to do..

[DayaTom7]

Great video..

My mother has been sick for more than 20 years,not treated, and has lately practically gone insane.Thing is she has BPD-NPD so it's even worse , and is very violent.

Can't help a person who doesn't wanna hear a half word,and mostly loves his "victim" state he thinks he's in.

I've been called many things,lately Satan and Insane are the most used.Reflecting is really hurtful ...

Waiting for the day I can leave and never come back.

[verman9]

excellent comprehensive video! Well done!

[eroc1234]

i very recently broke off a 3.5 year relationship with a fem. with BPD and all this was true it was infidelity that finally did us in cause she was mad at me. she was a cutter and prescription drug abuser with depression and panic disorder. i gotta say all this was true she was even giving but co-dependent with her friends to the point that people would avoid her. my patience was tested to the limits and i have the patience of Job... i still miss and worry for her safety, i could take no more :(

[naemasufi]

All this is true, but don't forget the upside.

We don't have boring lives, we get to laugh all of out laughter and cry all of our tears. those of us who journey the road less travelled. live intensely not insipidly, quote - would that you were hot or cold. for if you were lukewarm I would spew thee out of my mouth.

[thewebshowmc]

sufferingwith bpd kills me inside and others around me...

this music makes me want to fall on the ground sobbing...

[TashaRichardsonFan1]

I am 24 years old and turning 25 years old in 8 days, but emotionally and psychologically i feel like an emotionally underdeveloped, affection-starved little girl who long to be held, comfort and protected. My therapist said it due to trauma from my childhood.

[LLM120]

@TashaRichardsonFan1 wow I feel exactly the same way..good way to put it

[OneEyedJack1970]

This video is describing my brother's life even as the events unfold around me.

[poo19811]

ive got bpd n thats so me but i know im fighting it and doing ok nothing in life is to be feared its just to be understood only person that can change it is urself others can only be there for you .there is hope but theres living proff some do in fact get over it but with lot hard work and therpy so my love gose out for them that dont see them selfs yet smile and the whole world smiles with you :)

[midz500]

best luck for all those who r suffuring. and best wishes for all who care for them.

[Tigermoon1950]

I've had BPD since I was very young. I never knew what it was called. I didn't even know I had it until I discovered my "symptoms" lined up completely with the definition. I took a test at a shrink's office and it was conclusive. Great. Now I know why I'm a total asshole and have been since I was a kid. Now I know why people have rejected me, shied away from me. Now I know why I've lost jobs, friends, love, and hope. I no longer care about myself or getting better. I just want to be left alone.

[o0bustedbearings0o]

@Tigermoon1950

I feel you.

[HolyShitsickles]

@Tigermoon1950 i feel you Tiger, much love.

[Ladyphia7]

I will continue praying for my previous client even if he is no longer in my life. I do beleive God can and will heal, but the person has to be willing as well and have faith that God can do it.

[Ladyphia7]

I was a caregiver to a client who has this disorder &it was very draining, the constant reassurance etc. Everything I did didnt help. My heart breaks for this person &I care about them, but this person had a extreme violent episode that I could not tolerate so I had to call the agency to have him removed from my home. It was very frightening. We would pray together, sing praises to God, church, bible study, and this person would still over react.

[TashaRichardsonFan]

Beautiful music.

[MeisnerEffect]

I would like to tell everyone who is out there with BPD that you CAN have love and relationships!! Hold on to your dream. I have BPD and am now happily married with a lovely Wife. It just takes a heck of a lot of reading, learning, therapy (if u can) and practice but you can re-train yourself to react emotionally in the right way. It just takes work, and it is very hard, as your emotional reactions are based so deeply in your psyche and mind. Takes a lot of time and work. Love, Light and PeaceXX

[julyflicker]

@MeisnerEffect

i love to read what you posted here. i have a girlfriend with bpd - and it is hard!! it feels so good to hear that there is hope! i love her and i am ready to learn... thank you!!

[HolyShitsickles]

@julyflicker people like you are a godsend

[3xXlovepainXx3]

I have bpd, and it sucks because there is absolutely no way for anyone who doesnt have bpd to ever understand my pain.

[Ladyphia7]

@3xXlovepainXx3 I'm agree. . . I dont have it but I recently met soneone who does and I researching it now and I can not imagine the torment. be encouraged and know that God understands and he loves you and he will never forsake you or fail you. Ever Ever.

Jesus lives

[SumoViking]

I found this video very imformative. I was recently diagnosed with BPD, I won't lie, I treat it like a death sentance many times. This video is helping me understand exactly what I have. I need to understand exactly what BPD is before I expect others to understand. Hopefully, things will be better. Thank you for this amazing video, and good luck to others :)

[letherit77]

i have bpd,and i just cant bring myself to be in a relationship,or be with friends sometimes.i just feel like a outsider compared to the rest of the world,but you get used to it.

[kimofboise]

Good luck to the people with borderline personality disorder.  Dialectical Behavior Therapy, DBT, has shown great promise. My prayers are with you.

[sinjibear1]

This video has brought me to tears because I have this dreadful disease, and I realize I may never have a relationship that is permanent. It is the most painful illness because we want so much to connect with others and cannot because of our inability to percieve things correctly, we have a faulty brain mechanism. God bless all of us who suffer with this, it is so tragic, and has made my life very difficult.

[jamiesoncoshell]

me too, this video brought me to tears, i found it by chance... it explained everything, I had a feeling I was different...

[mcmodels]

same here....

[teresa6565]

Thank you so much for posting this. It sums up the definition of bpd pretty nicely, and will be extremely helpful to me.

[millyjan]

thanx for posting, at 6.00min is soooo true

[VengefulEgg]

I would say, emotionally over-developed

[ejcraig]

Wow. Thank you so much.

[rbogdewic]

NowTHAT'S a great video

[meme1062]

Thank you, I needed a clear visual on what I am becoming ready to heal. With luck and the love of family, I can recover from BPD.

Good Luck to all,

[Indi2519]

i have been diagnosed as having bpd... i dont know why i watch the family stuff... i guess just to see another point of view. its unfortunate that we are so hard to get along with... when what we really need is human interaction-  its a catch 22 really... i have started DBT though, so hopefully that will help out.

[mztoia]

VERY informative video!!

[funguysmall]

what is the music in the begining?

[amahan1]

Wow! I have this for sure! It is unfortunate, but knowledge is power, I am going to show this to my spouse.

[PDQuick1971]

The biggest help to a loved one with BPD is understanding, acceptance, proper communication, and patience. These are all tools that we tend to not cultivate in our own lives. My experience with a disorder sufferer was bad within the confines of the relationship, but it taught me in the aftermath how to be the person I longed to be the entire time. I wish i had found this site before my relationship, it may not have helped the outcome, but it would have given me the skills to help me through it.

[PattyEngUK]

This video explains BPD in a clear way and provides great advice to family members of BPD sufferers.

[TheLondonChick29]

well this vid is very accurate but i disagree about the part that says giving with alterior motives only to recieve... I have bpd and im very giving and dont expect anything back so wtf ever

[msheatheroo]

i agree with you london... when i give its bc i care im expressing how i really feel. not to get something in return. i think every borderline is different.

[KamaKinky]

Wow! That was right on. I was on again/off again with my BPD (a therapist - PhD in Psychology - specializing in relationship therapy of all things!) for almost 5 years. Everything mentioned in this video, he exhibited. I am permanently changed from the relationship. He destroyed/sabotaged everything - totally self-defeating. Thank you so much for this excellent video!!

[Jakliks]

Thank you so much! the girl i love has BPD, atleast i feel like i have more of an idea of whats going on and what to do etc! thanks you for this!

[kayjanew]

...i was first diagnosed with manic depression at school then Bi-Polar...now registered disabled with bpd....very confusing...thank you for some comfort and insight xx

[ridjer52]

Did anyone else cry because of this video?

[SpacyStacy32]

Yes.. song doesn't help.

[deathcrayon]

yes

[Vocod3r]

exactly what i have

[LorenaIsa123]

Heh. I've been doing a lot of research on personality disorders because they are extremely interesting. BDP can also be confused with Narcissistic Personality Disorder because people with NPD do also blame their partners on everything and can be very destructive. Either way, great job on this video. I should give this to my friend's girlfriend. Her boyfriend shows signs of BPD.

[ncapers]

Excellent learning tool. Thanks so much for making it.  Especially helpful for family members who're confused by relatives behavior.

[Debbiebookworm]

Excellent presentation and thanks for the hope!

[guillermogg]

I have BPD and one of my most terrible fears is to deal with abandonment. Every relationship I start fails at the end of the 1st month... As your video says it is very difficult for people like me to have a mature relationship w/ people and advance to other stages... does that means I'll be always alone due to my pers. disorder? How will I know that I really found the right guy w/out getting confuse by my disorderly thoughts?

[1whitebutterfly]

An excellent and informative presentation.

It has given me a different perspective in understanding my "ex" boyfriend's behavior.

I knew that he had major anger management issues... I'm now beginning to think that he possibly has BPD.

Thank you and congratulations for this insightful contribution.

[xxMizzSexy08xx]

I have been searching for it seems like forever to understand what was causing my personal relationship to constantly be in turmoil. Only now do I know I have been living with a man with BPD, it provides me with a sense of comfort and hope that maybe he can get with help he so much needs. And maybe I can find more compassion for him after all the pain and damage our relationship has endured over the years.

[tartankeri]

This is a really good video, not so depressing as some others. I might try get my Boyfreind to watch it. I have BPd it does cause problems in our relationship. Thanks for the vid xx

[macdoktor]

okay so this is intended for non bpd's but to be honest with you im bpd. And yet i found this to be the best informative insight in to myself. It explained the definitions very clearly and i understood then better than any search result from google. Well done :D

[marthamusic321]

United, it is good that the video has helped you with any confusion you had about BPD. I used to feel like that too and blame myself. The video has helped me realise that it was not all my fault and how important it is to have a supportive network.

[united4now]

This is a fantastic video!!! My boyfriend always blamed me for all of our problems. It helped me understand that things weren't always my fault. I have begun to take care of myself and in the process, he has more respect for me. It explains so much of what I was confused about.

[dawkeye1]

Thank you so much for posting this. It explains what I havn't been able to understand for many years. I will help my loved one through with all the help possible. So relieved that there is help for family members. Deep down you know their pain and against all the advice from others explains why you dont give up on them easily. Many thanks for this info!

[SallyJoLIttle]

This was exactly what I needed to learn. The video was clear and compasionate. I have been dating someone closely for a couple months and was recently very confused by his behavior. This video clarified for me what was going on with him. I care about him and have compasion for him but I am clear now I cannot be involved in an intimate relationship with him. Thank you, thank you thankyou.

[keozki]

Whilst there are a number of posts made by those who suffer there are relatively few that deal with the sufferers family and friends. It is important that such folk are also consider, they to suffer when one they love is in so much pain and there is little they can do. Thank you for posting.

[mariana2062]

Excellent! thanks for sharing :)

[misstiggykins]

I agree with the description of the symptoms, and it's helpful for (e.g.) partners of people with BPD to understand these symptoms, but in many cases symptoms of BPD are created by a dysfunctional family and/or abuse within the family, including physical/sexual abuse. In such cases it is unhelpful if the family who caused the problem blame the victim. BPD is not an inherent brain disease, even though an inherent susceptibility may contribute to it's development in an invalidating environment.

[erinandcompany]

So many women are diagnosed with this, yet I really think men are underdiagnosed. This describes so many stalkers and abusers, which is not to say people with this disorder are destined to become such. One of my best friends has this. She works her recovery and helps other people, which earns my respect!

[WCTAMY]

Well done, simple and clear. For anyone who has had someone like this in their lives it is difficult to explain to others what you are going through.

[CrunkChipmunk]

The music that starts up at 6:22 in the video is incredible. Wonder where you guys got the extended instrumental version from? Great informative BPD vid in anycase.

[joannak912]

I've recommended this video to several people who were wondering if they or a loved one has bpd. It's very clear.

[Fungigi]

I thank God that I was able to find this type of information. I think that i have a family member with bpd and this explained a lot. God bless you sweetsmile1, keep up the good work:)

[MissyParks68]

It is so wonderful to find information like this and to help me understand what nobody can explain to me.

[cchristy12]

This sums up my relationship perfectly. I am so glad to see someone recognize how hard this is for the non. It is hard to love someone who is suffering especially when they behave in such hurtful ways.

[tube4bo]

Awesome video. It captures the essence of the disorder. I hope it helps sufferers to seek help and those in their lives to seek understanding and information.

[PatPro21]

This puts a lot more meaning to walking on eggshells. Very good overview and very complete and I love the music.

[Reuzekabouter]

Ive been in a relationshop with a girl that had BPD, and this is very acurate. All the things stated in this vid i could recognize.

I wish ive seen this vid while i still was in the relationship, could have helped me at the time. Thanks for uploading!

[DeeBarron]

This is scarey and makes me wonder more and more about my bipolar mother if there isn't something more to it.

[joannak912]

Very simple, very complete. Thank you all!

[tjrider6]

This is a excellent video presentation and choreographed with great music! Well done and a five star rating is deserved. This video presents the best overview of BPD I have seen for somebody just finding out about the disorder. Great web site and support group too. Keep up the good work!

[marthamusic321]

This video is very good! It clearly explains how BPD manifests itself and gives sound advice and hope to those who have someone in their lives with this disorder.

[catherinetodd]

Any chance of listing the music in the credits? Very beautiful, and I'm sure the artist would like for us to know.

[spiderlammy]

It's very difficult to live with this disorder... I fight and suffer everyday...

[Eriksaidit]

This is spot on.

Learning to control ones symptoms is very important.

[squireman72]

This is dead on. I am in a relationship with a BPD and there are no easy answers. Remember the the 3 C's - You didn't cause it, you cant control it, and you cant cure it.

[balddaddy3]

very true.. i am borderline and its sad but its true..